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Speaker 1: merry Christmases. I hope you had a fantastic New Year.

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Speaker 1: We're just going into it, Jess. How was your New Year?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 3: It was good.

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Speaker 2: Kyle and I were to bed by eight thirty.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even make it into the New Year.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean I made it into the new year

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Speaker 2: the next morning. I said Happy twenty twenty two the

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Speaker 2: next morning. But that's about it.

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Speaker 1: How is yours? Because I saw it? You went out.

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Speaker 1: We did well out. I mean we went to Jackson Britney's.

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Speaker 1: We arrived at five so that the babies could play

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Speaker 1: more like sex, so the babies could play. Hartford is

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Speaker 1: like fully mobile, walking all over the place. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: It was so cute though, because it was like Brittany

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Speaker 1: was going to get ready and she was like, who's

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Speaker 1: It's just like really really cute and fun. And we

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Speaker 1: Ocean was dead a sleep by eight o'clock, but I

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Speaker 2: She did, so you made it to midnight here at

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Speaker 1: Yes, I was like walking up the stairs to put

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Speaker 2: That's so exciting.

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Speaker 1: We looked at hers and I said, Happy New Year.

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Speaker 2: My love, that's so cute.

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Speaker 2: Do the babies because I saw a video on your

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Speaker 1: you know, like Cruise ripped Ocean's head. That's what I saw,

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Speaker 1: telling you what, Cruise is the chillest baby in the world.

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Speaker 1: Like when we were leaving at like eleven thirty, Cruise

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, like still awake hadn't napped, was just

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Speaker 1: bloody murder right right. She has no patience, no tolerance.

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Speaker 1: When it's time for bed, she lets you know. But

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Speaker 2: Same, same, same my reaction to me too.

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Speaker 1: So it was just like I had a fantastic holiday

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Speaker 1: and I slid in to a man's DM for the

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Speaker 2: Stop it, Yes, I did.

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Speaker 1: Hold on?

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Speaker 2: How did that feel?

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Speaker 3: How did that feel?

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Speaker 1: You know? It felt strange because I don't slide in

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure you do. How much can you

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Speaker 1: So the great thing about it is I'm obviously just

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Speaker 1: cherry and just talking to a man. Yeah, who's not

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Speaker 2: So you got a response?

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Speaker 1: I got a response?

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Speaker 3: Huge.

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Speaker 1: I'll be honest, jess what my first DM, the initial

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Speaker 2: That's funny, That's how do you respond to that? Do

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: He did? He responded, We like sparked a conversation. But

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Speaker 1: Who the fuck knows.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's huge. I that's how Kyle and I.

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Speaker 2: It was on Facebook. So that's embarrassing because it was

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Speaker 2: Right, It wasn't before Instagram, but it was when Facebook.

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Speaker 2: So I think Facebook is like more ancient, Like like

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Speaker 2: because that's just like, what are you eighty years old?

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Speaker 1: Is that messenger?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so I actually just discovered that that existed and

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Speaker 1: I downloaded. I was like what is this? And I

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Speaker 4: Even?

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Speaker 1: Like what I don't I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm thirty one and I act like I'm ninety as

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Speaker 1: what is all this that's changed? It's like, while I

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Speaker 2: Well congrats, because this this is a story that we

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Speaker 2: will we will check in on.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: It has less to do with the dude and more

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Speaker 1: to do with the fact that I repopped my DM

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Speaker 1: cherry and I think that is something to celebrate. I'm

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Speaker 1: about to pop some Starla non alcoholic wine after this podcast.

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Speaker 1: Tell yes, maybe during Lisa, why don't you get on that. Mom,

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Speaker 1: I'm being serious, I get off your ass. I'm just kidding,

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Speaker 1: but really, Okay, So before we get this pop in,

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Speaker 1: I want to remind everybody that my soon to be empire,

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Speaker 1: Give Them Lala is going on tour. That's what's up.

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Speaker 1: Give them Lalla. The brand new tour. Tickets are available now.

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Speaker 1: Just slide onto my Instagram page, click the link, or

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Speaker 1: your tickets. We are kicking off the tour in Irvine, California.

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Speaker 1: We're then going to Fort Lauderdale, Clearwater, Orlando, Atlanta. I

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Speaker 1: call it Hotlanta. Yes, yes, baby, Nashville, New Orleans, Houston, Austin,

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Speaker 1: I can't wait, Like, let me know what you would

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Speaker 1: we're vibing, this is like a hangout, so it's about y'all. Really,

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Speaker 1: I agree that where we go. I agree. Did you

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Speaker 1: Listen to me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I was joking there, but I actually do think

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: What type of person is Like, I'm going to get

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Speaker 2: And I saw it, I need it, and like, to

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Speaker 2: I still let me. Let me, let me set this straight.

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Speaker 2: I don't disagree with anything I said. Everything I said

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Speaker 1: jess And Jessica does disagree with me. The only difference

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Speaker 5: Hi, La La. This is Bet me from a small

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Speaker 1: how I feel when I talk to Chris Medina. It's

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Speaker 1: like I trust in him, Yeah, because I just think

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Speaker 1: he's one of those souls that is extremely gifted in

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Speaker 1: a universe that we can't even comprehend.

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Speaker 2: I agree, all right, Last, but not least.

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Speaker 9: Hey, l La, this is Aaron from Alberta, Canada.

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Speaker 7: I just got two palettes from Give them All a Beauty,

447
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Speaker 7: the Baby Palette and the Pretty Palette and your mass

448
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Speaker 7: Scara in the mail yesterday and I.

449
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Speaker 9: Am so impressed with the product. Oh my god, the mascara.

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Speaker 9: I just spent like eighty five dollars on a mascara

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Speaker 9: at Sephora from Alidglass. I think, and your mascara, I

452
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Speaker 9: am not just making this up or exaggerating works better.

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Speaker 9: I love it. And I'm a clout owner of.

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Speaker 6: Many gifferent Lala products across all your companies. So my

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Speaker 6: question today is what would be like three dudes and

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Speaker 6: three don'ts that you would give to any woman who's

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Speaker 6: looking to start thrown company or business or a little

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Speaker 6: side project online or anything like that. What's your best

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Speaker 6: advice to women.

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Speaker 7: Looking to get into business with something they love.

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Speaker 9: Sending love to you an.

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Speaker 7: Ocean and hot happy holiday season, and.

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Speaker 9: I wish you an absolutely blessed new year.

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Speaker 4: Love you Laala.

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Speaker 1: Thanks ooh Aaron. First of all, thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for supporting the give them Lalla brand. I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: that you enjoy my products. I try my best to

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Speaker 1: create things that I love that other people are going

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Speaker 1: to love just as much, and also respecting how hard

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Speaker 1: people work, so I'm not trying to put something out

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Speaker 1: that's eighty four dollars in a last scare. Then I'm

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Speaker 1: going to take off at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: like are you out of your mind? Like we work

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Speaker 1: hard and I'm trying to have a good product.

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Speaker 2: With a healthy cost, right, healthy cost, healthy cost. You know,

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Speaker 2: I love a healthy cost.

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Speaker 1: Love a healthy cost, which is like forty two bucks

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Speaker 1: for a pallet that's going to last you forever. Nine

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Speaker 1: shades just saying you can shop my brand and give

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Speaker 1: them la la dot com. But I think that my

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Speaker 1: three dues and three don'ts. I definitely don't think anyone

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Speaker 1: should ever over extend themselves financially. Be smart with that.

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Speaker 1: When you're thinking of creating your brand, even just a

484
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Speaker 1: side hustle, come up with figures that make sense that

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Speaker 1: let's just say your your company doesn't do what you

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Speaker 1: thought it was going to do. That you don't sit

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Speaker 1: there and go, oh my gosh, I dumped my life's

488
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Speaker 1: savings into this thinking that it was going to work.

489
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Speaker 1: I also think that your brand should feed itself. Come

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Speaker 1: up with your initial investment. I think the business should

491
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Speaker 1: should pay for itself, you know, to sit here and

492
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Speaker 1: keep dumping your own money to try and get it

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Speaker 1: off the ground. I think taking a pause and saying,

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Speaker 1: what are we doing that is making us not be

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Speaker 1: able to number one recoup our investment and number two

496
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Speaker 1: make a profit. Is it something that just isn't working.

497
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Speaker 1: Maybe the market's oversaturated. Maybe you need to come up

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Speaker 1: with something that is a little bit more original, which

499
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Speaker 1: is very hard these days. I mean there's a million

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Speaker 1: and one beauty brands. What is going to make your special?

501
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Speaker 1: So don't overextend yourself financially. The second, let your business

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Speaker 1: feed itself. And three, sit down and really think about

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Speaker 1: what is going to separate your business from everyone else's.

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Speaker 1: Do the research, Does the product already exist? If it does,

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Speaker 1: what makes yours special? So those are kind of three

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Speaker 1: do's and don'ts, But those would be my top Those

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Speaker 1: are great. Yeah Lisa agrees, so well, if Lisa agrees,

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Speaker 1: then we're good. I love those voicemails. Remember please call

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Speaker 1: me to leave all of your comments and questions at

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Speaker 1: one Eat sixty six. La La Pod my guest coming up,

511
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Speaker 1: is not only stunning, she is inspiring. She's a business

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Speaker 1: woman and I cannot wait to deep dive into her

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Speaker 1: life and who she is and how she came to

514
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Speaker 1: be this incredible woman, mother, wife, just everything under the sun.

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Speaker 1: So when we come back, we have Telly Swift. We

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Speaker 1: are back, and I am so excited because we have

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Speaker 1: Telly Swift and I'm a fan of yours. Hi, Telly, Hi,

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Speaker 1: how are you? We're good? Thank you for joining us

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Speaker 1: on today's podcast.

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Speaker 3: It's my pleasure.

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Speaker 1: You're amazing. So I first have to ask you, where

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Speaker 1: did you get the nickname Kelly, because obviously my name

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Speaker 1: is not really La La, and people are always like,

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Speaker 1: what is this nickname that you've created for yourself? How

525
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Speaker 1: did you get this nickname Kelly?

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Speaker 10: So it was back, I guess in like the seventh grade.

527
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Speaker 10: I went to school in Japan. I went to high

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Speaker 10: school and middle school in Japan, so I guess playing basketball.

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Speaker 3: It just it's stuck.

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Speaker 10: They called me Telly, and it just it's stuck with

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Speaker 10: me since seventh or eighth grade, I want to say.

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Speaker 10: So it's been Telly every ever since. And the only

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Speaker 10: people that really call me by my.

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Speaker 3: Government name, which is Chintel, is like my man, my dad,

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Speaker 3: my brother, and my mom, and that's it. Everyone else

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Speaker 3: calls me Telly.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I mean my mom, I always know people call me

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Speaker 1: Lauren instead of Lauren. So my mama is the only

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Speaker 1: one that calls me by my government name as well,

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Speaker 1: and everyone gets so confused, They're like, who is this

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Speaker 1: Lauren that you're talking about? So love the nickname, love

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Speaker 1: the backstory you. Why did you move to Japan? I

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Speaker 1: know you're from the Philippines.

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Speaker 10: Yes, I was born in the Philippines. My father was military,

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Speaker 10: so we moved like every three years, and then my

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Speaker 10: ex husband was stationed in Japan too, so I was

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Speaker 10: there a little bit longer than I probably should have been.

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Speaker 3: But I love Japan. It's a beautiful country.

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Speaker 1: I love that story. My mother lived in Japan as

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Speaker 1: well because her father was in the army, and she

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Speaker 1: absolutely loved it as well. So you you were married

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Speaker 1: once before. And by the way, you and your man

555
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Speaker 1: are so cute, and I love how right or die

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Speaker 1: you are for each other.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. Yeah, that's my baby. He is he's amazing,

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Speaker 3: he's well.

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Speaker 10: In total, we have eight kids, so wow, there's yeah,

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Speaker 10: we have a household of children. So now that I'm

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Speaker 10: in my room in like my alone time space, I'm like, yes,

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Speaker 10: alone time.

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Speaker 1: I love that. So you're married. For those who live

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Speaker 1: under a rock and don't know who you are, which

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Speaker 1: I know most of my listeners do know who you are.

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Speaker 1: You are married to Deontay Wilder and how did you

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Speaker 1: two come to be? And this power couple.

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Speaker 10: So we actually met at Lax Airport, so crazy I

569
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Speaker 10: was coming from. I had like an infection in my

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Speaker 10: leg and so I was in the hospital for like

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Speaker 10: two weeks on like rotating antibiotics and medicine. And the

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Speaker 10: reason why I say that backstory is because when we

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Speaker 10: met at the airport, I saw one of my girlfriends

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Speaker 10: and I was like, hey girl, I'm alive, you know,

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Speaker 10: and I just completely stopped talking to him, so like

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Speaker 10: I was thinking he was gonna wait, and he left,

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Speaker 10: So I was like, wait, where did he go? We

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Speaker 10: were having such a good conversation and leave it to Instagram,

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Speaker 10: you know, on the Explorer page. One of his his managers'

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Speaker 10: sons I knew, and I guess that's how he came

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Speaker 10: on my Explorer page. And then we were dming each

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Speaker 10: other and then coming to find out he's from Alabama

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Speaker 10: and my dad's from Alabama. So that's kind of how

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Speaker 10: I ended up going to Alabama earlier because I had

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Speaker 10: a family reunion and the rest was history. And we've

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Speaker 10: been together there going on seven years now.

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Speaker 1: Wow, seven years, that is a very long time. And

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Speaker 1: I have to say, Okay, so you met each other

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Speaker 1: at LAX did so you slid in his DM?

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Speaker 3: Yes? So what happened was he was on my Explore

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Speaker 3: page and I was like, wait, that's the guy from Alabama.

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Speaker 3: And the conversation that we had at the airport was

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Speaker 3: so short, and I kind of felt bad that I

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Speaker 3: like just left and was talking to my friend. And

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Speaker 3: he always tells people I was so rude, but I

596
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Speaker 3: was like, but you didn't know that.

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Speaker 10: I was like coming from the hospital, you know. I

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Speaker 10: was just in the airport and he didn't know who

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Speaker 10: I was, and I didn't know who he was. So

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Speaker 10: our encounter was so quick, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 10: we were having such a good conversation about like Alabama

602
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Speaker 10: and my father being from Alabama, and I just completely left.

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Speaker 10: But I was so excited to see my friend and

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Speaker 10: so excited to still have my leg I was like, girl,

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Speaker 10: I'm alive. I'm here kicking now.

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Speaker 1: Probably that made I'm sure you more intriguing to him

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Speaker 1: because he's an athlete, and I'm sure you know, girls

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Speaker 1: sit there and would blow off their their girlfriend to

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Speaker 1: talk to this dude. And he was probably like, this

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Speaker 1: girl didn't give me the time of day. There's intrigue there.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 10: I wouldn't know if I called it intrigue. He probably

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Speaker 10: was like, she's a bitch.

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Speaker 3: Can I curse?

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Speaker 10: He's probably like, she's a bitch. She just left, you know,

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Speaker 10: And I was like, I didn't. Every time we have

618
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Speaker 10: this conversation, I'm like, I did not mean to just leave.

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Speaker 10: I was just so excited to like see my girl

620
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Speaker 10: and still have my leg and not have one leg right, like, girl,

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Speaker 10: I am kicking with two leggs.

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Speaker 3: I'm good, you know.

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Speaker 10: And he was gone, so I'm like, okay, I get it.

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Speaker 10: He had to catch his flight. I had to catch

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Speaker 10: my flight too.

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Speaker 1: It was meant to be. You guys were meant to

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Speaker 1: be together. The fact that he popped up on an

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Speaker 1: Explore page where there's like millions upon millions.

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Speaker 3: Crazy, and the fact that his.

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Speaker 10: Manager's son I knew from La and it just it

631
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Speaker 10: was just like two and two together. It was crazy

632
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Speaker 10: and like we got matching tattoos. Day two of being together.

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Speaker 10: It was it's intense, Like our relationship was just so quick,

634
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Speaker 10: so fast, that I was like, Okay, you know when

635
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Speaker 10: you have quick relationships, you don't think they're gonna last

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Speaker 10: because they're so quick fast.

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Speaker 3: And here we are seven years later.

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Speaker 10: Eight kids in, so we're definitely on the move to

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Speaker 10: up and up.

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Speaker 1: Y'all were written in the stars. I have to ask you.

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Speaker 1: So I'm newly single right and sliding in the DM.

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Speaker 1: I'm new to you know, I don't know if I

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Speaker 1: have game anymore? Who knows? That's still up in the air.

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Speaker 1: What did you say to him? What was like the

645
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Speaker 1: game move? I mean, already you had an authentic encounter already,

646
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Speaker 1: so maybe that switched the way you would have slid

647
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Speaker 1: in the DM? But what did you say? Give me

648
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Speaker 1: some pointers?

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Speaker 3: Girl?

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Speaker 10: I actually was like, I'm I'm really funny, or I

651
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Speaker 10: think I am. I guess I try to be at least,

652
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Speaker 10: and I just said, hey, Bama. Like we never finished

653
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Speaker 10: our conversation because I didn't we never exchange names.

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Speaker 3: It was like, hey, where are you going? Where are

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Speaker 3: you from?

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Speaker 10: And then he was like I'm going to Alabama and

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Speaker 10: where are you going? And I was like, well, I'm

658
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Speaker 10: going back to Jersey at the time, I lived in Jersey,

659
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 10: so our conversation was so like short, and I like,

660
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,760
Speaker 10: I said, I saw my girl. And when I slid

661
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 10: in his DMS, I was like, you know, his name

662
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 10: on Instagram was Bronze Bomber, So I was like, hey, Bama, like,

663
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 10: I know.

664
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 3: Your name is not Bronze Bomber.

665
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:34,799
Speaker 10: So you know, like it was just a short, a

666
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 10: short conversation in person that I was like, I didn't

667
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 10: know how to approach him, you know, in the DMS

668
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 10: because it was just so short of.

669
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 3: Our conversation and he was just like, oh my gosh,

670
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 3: Like I was thinking about.

671
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 10: You on the plane and I sent my assistant to

672
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 10: go look for you, but you were gone. So like

673
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 10: the same feeling that I guess I had, he had

674
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 10: as well too. So it was I'm glad that it

675
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 10: ended up working out that way. And then two weeks

676
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,279
Speaker 10: later I went to Alabama and I just came a

677
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 10: little bit earlier than my then our family reunion and

678
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:08,920
Speaker 10: we just chilled.

679
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: Then and it was it was on and popping.

680
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,439
Speaker 10: After that, Yeah, like maybe like three months or four

681
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 10: months after that, he had asked me to move to

682
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 10: Alabama from Jersey. And I waited until like at the time,

683
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 10: I was in a condo, I waited for that lease

684
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 10: to be done, and then I moved to Alabama. So

685
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 10: it was it was, like I said, our relationship was

686
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 10: so quick that I was like.

687
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, like is this true? Like can this

688
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 3: happen this fast?

689
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 10: And I was just like you know, in your head,

690
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,280
Speaker 10: you're just you think that when a relationship goes fast,

691
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 10: like it's not gonna last because everything intense, intense, intense, intense.

692
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 10: Like I moved there maybe like I don't know, maybe

693
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 10: six months into our relationship, and yeah, because I was

694
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 10: I was nursing at the time, and I was.

695
00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: So you had a young you had a young baby

696
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,240
Speaker 1: then when you first met him, Yes.

697
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 3: I had.

698
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:06,479
Speaker 10: He was I want to say, like seven or eight.

699
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 10: Now he's fifteen, so he was young. Yeah, he was

700
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 10: young at the time. And then he had kids as

701
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 10: well too when I met him. And then it wasn't

702
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 10: until I moved over there that like I started meeting

703
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 10: the kids and you know, realizing how many kids he

704
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 10: had because I only thought he had three kids, but

705
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 10: it ended up being much more than three. So yeah,

706
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 10: I mean, like it was it was definitely different moving

707
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,280
Speaker 10: in with him than it was, like, you know, having

708
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 10: a long distance relationship. And the long distance to me

709
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 10: was was hard because I was working, like I said,

710
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 10: as a nurse, and I was doing twelve hour shifts

711
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,160
Speaker 10: and then like I was working three or four days

712
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 10: a week twelve hour shifts, and then I would go

713
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 10: visit him for the weekend or whatever the case is.

714
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 10: So I was like with him and work and him

715
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 10: and work, and then I had a kid too, so

716
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 10: I was like exhausted. I was like, we got to

717
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 10: figure this out. Either you know, we can't see each

718
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 10: other so much, or we see each other once a

719
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 10: month instead of every other weekend, or whatever the key is.

720
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 3: But we got to figure it out. And he's like, well,

721
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 3: why don't you just come here? And I was like wait,

722
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 3: what like.

723
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 10: For that, and he's like no, you're good, Like we're

724
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 10: in mind you this is date, like I said, day two.

725
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:27,919
Speaker 10: He was like, you're gonna be my wife. I'm gonna

726
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 10: be with you for the rest of my life. I'm

727
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 10: like okay, no, like how you know, and he's like

728
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 10: we're getting matching tattoos and I was like okay, and

729
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 10: he went first, so I was like, Okay, now I

730
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 10: have to go because like, no, you had to do it.

731
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 10: After that, I was like, I have to go now.

732
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 10: So we have matching tattoos that says love when we

733
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 10: hold hands. So I have the O OE and he

734
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 10: has the LV.

735
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: That is beyond amazing and adorable. And I'm anytime I

736
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: hear about couples that just have such a romantic, organic

737
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: love connection and you know, they they merge these families

738
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 1: together and they make it work. It's a beautiful thing.

739
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: And so you you were married before. How old were

740
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:09,959
Speaker 1: you when you met Deontae?

741
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 10: I was, I'm thirty four now I turned thirty five

742
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 10: January twenty fourth.

743
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 3: I'm like, when is my birthday?

744
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 10: But I was I want to say twenty five twenty six.

745
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 1: So that's young. Yeah, that's young. And you were coming

746
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: you you had been married before. Were you ever afraid

747
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: of meeting someone new? I don't know if your previous

748
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 1: marriage was ugly, if you guys parted ways and it

749
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:47,320
Speaker 1: was amicable, but were you afraid of getting into another relationship?

750
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 1: Like were you Did you have any battle wounds from

751
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: your previous marriage?

752
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 5: Yeah?

753
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 10: I think like all women, you know, we're strong, we're resilient.

754
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 10: And I feel like when it comes to moving on

755
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 10: and starting like a new relationship with someone else, I'm

756
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 10: gonna speak for women because I'm a woman.

757
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 3: I feel like it's like we don't let.

758
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 10: In so quickly, you know, hard for us to trust

759
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 10: coming from a relationship that didn't work or failed, and

760
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 10: you know, my relationship to my ex husband and did

761
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 10: in a sense where I feel like I was at

762
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 10: peace and okay with like us not being together anymore

763
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 10: because he was my high school sweetheart, So like I

764
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 10: was like at peace.

765
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, you know it's time. We're ready.

766
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 10: We're both ready to like grow and you know, have

767
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:43,800
Speaker 10: separate lives. And my son was two at the time,

768
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 10: and so like he really didn't know any better because

769
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:54,280
Speaker 10: so young. So like it was to me that divorce

770
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 10: was more of like a clearing and like a peaceful moment.

771
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 10: And I didn't wait, Like I'm not I didn't wait.

772
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 10: I waited a long time before I like committed to

773
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 10: someone and introduced them to my son. And you know,

774
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 10: I waited a while, so it wasn't like I was

775
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,399
Speaker 10: just in another relationship. As soon as I got out

776
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 10: of my marriage. It did take time for like me

777
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 10: to heal and like, you know, do I want to

778
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 10: do this relationship thing again now? Like dating, yes, like

779
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 10: I definitely dated, but like a serious, committed relationship. It

780
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 10: wasn't until I got with Deionte that I was like, Okay,

781
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 10: here's my son, you know, like, this is you know

782
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,959
Speaker 10: who I come with. This is my you know, bonus.

783
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,240
Speaker 10: And I have my brother as well too, So my brother.

784
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 10: I was like, all right, if I moved there, like,

785
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 10: I have my son and my brother, so I come

786
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 10: in a package deal.

787
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 1: The package deal totally.

788
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 10: So I was like, I'm not leaving my brother to

789
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:55,800
Speaker 10: stay Jersey, so my brother's still with us.

790
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:59,400
Speaker 1: That is really amazing because I feel, you know, I

791
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 1: come in the package deal now as well. I come

792
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 1: with some brothers, I come with my beautiful daughter. I

793
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 1: come with my mama. And if the person that I'm

794
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,359
Speaker 1: with next can't accept that, then you can get to

795
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 1: move in because it's it's all of us or it's

796
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 1: none of us, right, And I've always wondered because I'm

797
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: I'm obviously very newly single. My daughter is only nine

798
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 1: months old. When do you know that it's the right

799
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: time to introduce your baby to someone like I feel

800
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:33,800
Speaker 1: like she's such she's like a luxury to be around.

801
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 1: You know, you don't just get to meet her, even

802
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: though she's nine months, you won't remember who you are.

803
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 10: That's how I feel, too, Like you totally are like

804
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 10: my treasures. I'm a lioness when it comes to my

805
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 10: kids and if you don't get along with my kids.

806
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 3: And he's the same way too. Of course about the

807
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 3: kids how to swim.

808
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:52,760
Speaker 10: During COVID, when COVID first started, and all the kids,

809
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 10: so all the kids down to the baby knows how

810
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:58,720
Speaker 10: to swim. So it's it's just to me like kids,

811
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:01,720
Speaker 10: Like you said, it's like a luxury, it's a bonus,

812
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 10: it's a treasure. And if I think there's like deal breakers,

813
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 10: right like I feel like if you can include me

814
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,279
Speaker 10: and my family, deal breaker if you can if you

815
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:15,879
Speaker 10: don't see your like my kid as your kid, or

816
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 10: like as you would treat them equally compared to your kids,

817
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 10: or if you don't have kids.

818
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 3: You know, that is a deal breaker to me too,

819
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 3: And he was.

820
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 10: That's kind of the reason why, or one of the

821
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 10: reasons why I fell in love with him is when

822
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 10: we came back from our family reunion. I ended up

823
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 10: coming back early, so there's no direct flights from where

824
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 10: my family is from Alabama, and it's closer to where

825
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 10: Deontay lived, So I ended up coming to Deonte's house

826
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 10: and I was like, Okay, the catch is I have my.

827
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 3: Brother and my son with me, you know. And this

828
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 3: is after like.

829
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 10: Meeting him for I don't know, maybe like a weekend

830
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 10: or something.

831
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 3: And I'm like, okay, well, I have X, Y and

832
00:42:58,640 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 3: Z here with me.

833
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,839
Speaker 10: But I was already talking to him for like two

834
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 10: weeks on the phone, like you know that no you

835
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 10: hang up, you hang up type of situation. I was like, Okay,

836
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 10: he's cool enough to like, if he's cool enough to

837
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 10: have my brother and my son here, then you know

838
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 10: he's good in my book. So and this is like

839
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 10: literally just spending a weekend with him, which was a

840
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 10: great weekend, which we got matching tattoos. I'm like, all right,

841
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 10: you're with me, Like this is it? Like you know,

842
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 10: we have tattoos. Now you can't go anywhere. So I

843
00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:31,280
Speaker 10: brought him, I brought my He was like, yeah, no problem.

844
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 10: So I brought my son and my brother and my

845
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 10: son woke up in like literally the middle of the

846
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 10: night and he was like, mom, like looking for me

847
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 10: in the house and he was like, mom, where are you?

848
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 10: So he finally finds me and he was like he

849
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 10: could sleep in the bed with us. And I was

850
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 10: just like, oh, he's like you could sleep in I

851
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 10: was like, okay.

852
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: You win, you win the whole game.

853
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was that was it. That was it for me.

854
00:43:56,160 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 10: But yeah, he's one like an exceptional, like amazing father.

855
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 10: So that's that's like my number one thing, Like you

856
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 10: have to love my kids.

857
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:06,759
Speaker 3: You know.

858
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 10: He's all about kids, and like he wants four more

859
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 10: kids and we already have eight. And I'm like, it's

860
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 10: not cheaper by the dozen, so't it's not coming up

861
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 10: with these numbers, sir.

862
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 1: I think that's really sweet though. You guys have two

863
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: kids together, No, we have one. You have one kid together.

864
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 3: Mine was before him and then his is before me

865
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 3: as well too.

866
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 1: And you're is it a boy?

867
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 3: We have a girl?

868
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 1: You have a little girl. And how old is she?

869
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 3: He's three?

870
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:37,280
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, what a fun age.

871
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, so much fun and so much personality,

872
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 3: like oh yeah, oh my, she's in charge literally of

873
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 3: all the other kids, and she's like the baby and

874
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 3: she's like, no, guys, we're doing this. Everyone come over here.

875
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: I love it.

876
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, so much fun, so much fun.

877
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: So you you meet Deontaey and my my big thing

878
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 1: right now because of my breakup and just you know,

879
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:04,240
Speaker 1: I got involved with my ex when I was twenty six,

880
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 1: which depending on where you where you're from, you know,

881
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 1: twenty six could be a grown ass woman. For me,

882
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,720
Speaker 1: I was still trying to, you know, find my footing.

883
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 1: I'm thirty one now and just my eyes are open

884
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: to the world and what I want out of life.

885
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 1: You have built a lot for yourself. There are many

886
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 1: women that I find kind of fall into these relationships

887
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 1: and then at a certain point they look around and go,

888
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: I've been living my partner's dreams and none of my own.

889
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:38,320
Speaker 10: Absolutely, you know what I feel like, a lot of women,

890
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 10: like you said, fall into that. And I did as

891
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 10: well too, you know, because I left where I was

892
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 10: from and came to where he was from, where I

893
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 10: knew nobody. My family in Alabama lives four hours away

894
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 10: from Deonte's house in Alabama at the time, so I

895
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 10: didn't know anyone where we lived. I didn't have any

896
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 10: friends and you know in Cali, he dressed differently than

897
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 10: they dress in Alabama. So it's just different, completely different.

898
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 10: You know, the accents different, the hospitality is different. So

899
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:14,399
Speaker 10: it was just completely different for me and nursing out there.

900
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 10: The pay cut was like I don't know, like I

901
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 10: think it was like thirteen or fourteen dollars less an

902
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 10: hour than I was normally. I was like, there's no

903
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 10: way I'm going back into the medical field over here

904
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 10: because I'm not making any money and then I'm going

905
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 10: to be working twelve hour shifts and not feeling like

906
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 10: I'm getting paid what I deserve to get paid or

907
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 10: what I'm used to getting paid. So for years, it

908
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 10: wasn't until after I got pregnant with my daughter actually

909
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 10: that I like decided I wanted to focus back on

910
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 10: like my own path, you know, because that like he

911
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 10: was his career when I met him, his career was

912
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 10: like on the rise, you know, he he just became

913
00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 10: a champion in his career was on the rise, like

914
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,439
Speaker 10: you know, the entire your time that I've been with him.

915
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 10: So it wasn't until I got pregnant with my daughter

916
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,760
Speaker 10: and I was like I can't just like sit here

917
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 10: and do nothing. So I got back into modeling. I

918
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 10: was modeling since I was three years old, and I

919
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 10: got back into modeling, and then I was like, you know,

920
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 10: if I'm not nursing anymore, I need to like open

921
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 10: up or start my own business. So I started making

922
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 10: jackets like custom vintage to one of one jackets. Then

923
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 10: I made masks at our name and Marcus. Then I

924
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 10: was like, okay, I want to give back now that

925
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 10: I'm in a position to be able to give back.

926
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 10: So I went to this academy for women for wags

927
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 10: and there was an association for the women of the

928
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:44,359
Speaker 10: NFL and the of the NBA, and I was like, well,

929
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 10: where's one for boxing? So I created one for the

930
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 10: women of boxing. And then we've just done charity events,

931
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 10: you know, moving forward for whatever month is you know

932
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 10: is going on, whether it's breast cancer, autism, We've done

933
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 10: spina bifida because it's eldest daughter was born with spina bifida,

934
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 10: so for all his fights, I always do spin and biffida.

935
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 10: So it just like you know, continued on and for

936
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:15,479
Speaker 10: four years I was talking about this fragrance, like making

937
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 10: a unisex fragrance and Deontae was like always pushing it back,

938
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 10: go well, wait till we have more kids, or wait

939
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 10: till after next fight. And I'm like, all right, sir,

940
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:27,319
Speaker 10: it's been four years. What are we doing here?

941
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 3: Right?

942
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:29,879
Speaker 10: He was like, okay, well, if you want to do it,

943
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 10: just go ahead and do it and just you know,

944
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 10: let me know when it's done.

945
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 3: So I was like, okay, So I did it.

946
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 10: And by the time, like I picked out the fonts,

947
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 10: I sent him the fonts and the name, and he

948
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 10: was just like, okay, what's this four And I was

949
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 10: like the fragrance. He's like, okay, when are we going

950
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,759
Speaker 10: to like go test some smells out? And he was

951
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 10: I was like, it's done, you know.

952
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 1: And You're like you just told me to go take

953
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:51,360
Speaker 1: the reins and do it and it's done already.

954
00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

955
00:48:51,680 --> 00:48:53,439
Speaker 10: But it took like it took a while. It took

956
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,439
Speaker 10: like over a little bit over like almost a year

957
00:48:56,640 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 10: to produce. So he just like completely like thought, I

958
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 10: just stopped talking about it. And then when I brought

959
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 10: up the name, because the name is Dtelly. And when

960
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 10: I brought the name and I sent him the fonts,

961
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 10: I was like, which font do you like best? And

962
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 10: he like circled the one that he liked, which is

963
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 10: the same one that I liked, and he was like,

964
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 10: what's this for? And I was like the fragrance and

965
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 10: he was like ready to, like, you know, explore and

966
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 10: smell all the notes.

967
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: Did he love it though? Did he love it when

968
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 1: you presented the scent?

969
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, he loves it.

970
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 10: He I put into because I knew, like, I know

971
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 10: what he likes it, I know what I like, So

972
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:32,960
Speaker 10: I put into consideration both like what he wanted, what

973
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,319
Speaker 10: I felt he would want in a fragrance, and what

974
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 10: I wanted in a fragrance. The bottle is've I gotta

975
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 10: send you one. The bottle is gold and red, and

976
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 10: his favorite color is like burgundy and gold. So I

977
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 10: was like, I put that into consideration. And then I

978
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:52,880
Speaker 10: was like, I knew I wanted it to be unisex,

979
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 10: so I didn't want it to be too masculine or

980
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 10: too feminine. Right, smells completely different on a man than

981
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:00,879
Speaker 10: on a woman. It smells more feminine on a woman.

982
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 10: And it took like forever to get down to the

983
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 10: scent that I was like, I like how that smells

984
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 10: on a man, and I like how it.

985
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:10,799
Speaker 3: Smells on a woman. So it's it's I'm excited about it.

986
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:14,440
Speaker 1: You are beyond inspiring because I think a lot of

987
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 1: a lot of women. Again, I'm very passionate about this

988
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:20,959
Speaker 1: topic right now, and women having things that are their own,

989
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 1: and you know, having a job or a career or

990
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 1: something to give them funds for a rainy day. Your

991
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:32,879
Speaker 1: rainy day may look very different from mine. You may

992
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:34,920
Speaker 1: never have to use it. It could just be saved

993
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: money for one day you want to go buy a

994
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 1: Birken bag, you know, whatever it may be. But the

995
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 1: fact that you are in a relationship that you know

996
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: you were nursing before, so you've all you've always been

997
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 1: a hustler with a beautiful heart. It sounds like, and

998
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 1: you're also a mother, Like how do you balance? We

999
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: can all sit here and talk about you know, there's

1000
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:58,960
Speaker 1: not enough time in one day for you to be

1001
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,879
Speaker 1: a mom, go to the create a business, do all

1002
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: of these things. How do you make it happen?

1003
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,720
Speaker 10: You know what I tell people all the time, like's

1004
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 10: it takes a village. You know, I do have help.

1005
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 10: I have a nanny that helps me with my daughter,

1006
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 10: but I also have an amazing team of you know,

1007
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 10: a manager and assistant publicist, like an amazing team that

1008
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,720
Speaker 10: helps me manage everything, because if it wasn't for them,

1009
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 10: like my little notes in my phone, I'd be like,

1010
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 10: oh my gosh, I forgot to do.

1011
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 3: This, I forgot to do that.

1012
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 10: So I have an amazing team of people that help me.

1013
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 10: But outside of my team, when I'm by myself because

1014
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 10: obviously you can't. You know, the job doesn't get done

1015
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 10: unless you do it anyway, right, So I feel like

1016
00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:49,960
Speaker 10: it's just just like Nike, you just do it, you know,

1017
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 10: you just I mean, one day you have a kid,

1018
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:54,760
Speaker 10: and then you know you've never had a kid before,

1019
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 10: you just learn how to be a mom, you know,

1020
00:51:56,760 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 10: on the job. Feel like that's been my life. I've

1021
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:02,799
Speaker 10: always been like a fast learner and I've always been

1022
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 10: a hustler and a go getter. So I had my

1023
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 10: son at I was nineteen turning twenty when I had

1024
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 10: my son, So I was still a baby and I

1025
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 10: had a baby, and I just learned literally on the job,

1026
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 10: you know, like breastfeeding was not really my cup of tea.

1027
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 10: Like I felt like with like I don't know teeth,

1028
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 10: I feel like because he was like biting my nipple

1029
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,720
Speaker 10: completely off. I was like, I can't do this similar,

1030
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 10: you know, but no, like I said, you learn on

1031
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 10: the job as far as like diapers and you know,

1032
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:35,080
Speaker 10: making sure the baby sleeps and like burping and all

1033
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:37,839
Speaker 10: that stuff. Like it was like a I was so

1034
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:42,439
Speaker 10: young and married and I was just like, all right,

1035
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 10: I just have to learn to do this. And I

1036
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 10: was the eldest of all my siblings. There's five of us.

1037
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 10: I'm like, hold on, I said, five of us.

1038
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:51,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, count on the fingers.

1039
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:52,880
Speaker 3: I'm the eldest.

1040
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 10: Then my brother he's twenty seven, and then I have

1041
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 10: twin sisters that are eighteen, and then I have a

1042
00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:02,399
Speaker 10: brother that six yeah.

1043
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 3: Six. Wow, there's a lot of us.

1044
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 10: So yeah, I'm the eldest, so I'm I had to

1045
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 10: be the responsible one and you know, take care of others.

1046
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,720
Speaker 10: So for me, like having a kid was like watching

1047
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 10: my siblings. But it's it's more of a like a

1048
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:22,040
Speaker 10: closer connection in bond, you know, you know as a

1049
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 10: mother that you have when you have your child.

1050
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 3: You know, it's like a.

1051
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 10: Unconditional, innocent, pure love that it's so hard to explain

1052
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 10: because you just it just happens, like literally, you know

1053
00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:39,200
Speaker 10: as soon as you're pregnant and you feel like the

1054
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 10: first kick and.

1055
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 3: You're like, oh my gosh, I just love her or

1056
00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 3: him or.

1057
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: You know, yes, I do know.

1058
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 10: It's like undescribable. I can't even describe how it is

1059
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,479
Speaker 10: to have a kid. That's why I feel like kids

1060
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 10: are blessings. And I'm good with the eighth that we have, though.

1061
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 1: You're like, I'm good, I don't need four more, Deonta,

1062
00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 1: so we're rap it up. I one hundred percent. That's

1063
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 1: a lot.

1064
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:05,240
Speaker 3: I mean a lot.

1065
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,279
Speaker 1: That's a lot like you guys. I mean I'm all

1066
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:11,480
Speaker 1: about like practicing to make the kid. That's always fun.

1067
00:54:11,520 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 1: I encourage you and Deontay to continue doing that, but

1068
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 1: we want to see everything else that you start coming

1069
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 1: out with. So I want to take a quick break

1070
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 1: and then I want to come back and talk to

1071
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: you about a few more things. If that's okay, Absolutely,

1072
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:29,760
Speaker 1: we'll be right back with Telly Swift. We are back

1073
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 1: with Telly Swift. So I definitely agree with you and

1074
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: the kids being such a gift. And I feel like

1075
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:40,000
Speaker 1: if if you can be a mom, when you become

1076
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: a mom, you become a superhero because they are the

1077
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 1: whole reason for why you do what you do every

1078
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 1: single day, every decision you make, every you know, business

1079
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 1: venture that you go into. You know, I'm sure you

1080
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 1: think about what you want to do, but ultimately it's like,

1081
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 1: how do I set my kid up for years to come?

1082
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 1: So I know that you were also on a reality

1083
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: TV show? I do reality TV. It's very weird. It's

1084
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: very strange. You sit there and you have to watch

1085
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:16,439
Speaker 1: things back and you're like, I remember that differently when

1086
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: you did right you, I hold up, this looks a

1087
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 1: little different from what I remember. Was there a reason

1088
00:55:23,080 --> 00:55:25,320
Speaker 1: why you were like, yeah, this sounds fun, Like let's

1089
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:28,400
Speaker 1: do Wags Atlanta and you know, see what it's all about?

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00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 3: Like what was your experience like reality TV?

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00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:33,439
Speaker 10: Like I said, I've been modeling since I was three

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00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 10: years old, and reality TV living in LA always came

1093
00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 10: to like my attention or always came on my table

1094
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 10: of like, hey, do you want to do basketball?

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00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 3: Wise? Do you want to do love and hip hop?

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00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:50,360
Speaker 10: I'm like, one, I'm not dating someone that was in basketball,

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00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:52,640
Speaker 10: so basketball wives for me wouldn't have.

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00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:54,240
Speaker 1: Work, right, that doesn't make sense.

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00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 10: I'm not like a performer. I don't do music. Or

1100
00:55:58,680 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 10: I can't even dance, so I'm like, that doesn't work.

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00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:04,680
Speaker 10: And then when Wags hit me up, I was already

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00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:09,759
Speaker 10: with Deontae and I wanted more so outside of myself.

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00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 10: I wanted people to see him outside of his job,

1104
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 10: which is a boxer, Like you know, people need to

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00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:21,800
Speaker 10: see him outside of you know, being aggressive and beating

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00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 10: asked for a living. So I was just like, this

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00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 10: would be good for you and us as a couple,

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00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:30,879
Speaker 10: you know, and so people could see like how much

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00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:33,720
Speaker 10: of a father you are and what like you're funny

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00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:36,919
Speaker 10: or goofy because people just see him like talking shit

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00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:39,839
Speaker 10: and getting asked and I'm like, right, all of who

1112
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 10: you are, you know. So I wanted people to see

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00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 10: like us as a couple, like our foundation, and him

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00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:51,360
Speaker 10: more so like as an individual and not like a boxer.

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00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 1: Did you feel like you got that from the show?

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00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know it's crazy.

1117
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 10: He actually proposed to me on the show like that

1118
00:56:57,800 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 10: was the finale of the show, and I ended up

1119
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:03,799
Speaker 10: getting press on the show. So like my whole storyline

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Speaker 10: from the beginning of like when the show aired initially,

1121
00:57:07,320 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 10: like I had I wouldn't even call it beef, but

1122
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 10: I had like I guess a misunderstanding with one of

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00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 10: the girls on the show, and that was completely gone.

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00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 10: That was completely gone, and my whole story was getting

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00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 10: the ring because I got pregnant before I wanted to

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00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:27,600
Speaker 10: get pregnant, and that was the whole show. So it

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00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 10: was like completely when I got pregnant, and it was

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Speaker 10: crazy because he told them and I lost a baby

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00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 10: a year before that, Like, we lost the baby a

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00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:35,680
Speaker 10: year before that.

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Speaker 1: So sorry, Taly, I'm so sorry.

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00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 10: Got a blessing in return, so I'm I'm happy with

1133
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 10: my daughter now. But when we lost the baby, I

1134
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 10: didn't want and I lost the baby like I want

1135
00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:49,480
Speaker 10: to say, like three or four days before I found

1136
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 10: out the sex, so it was like four I was

1137
00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:54,600
Speaker 10: like almost I want to say, like a little over

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00:57:54,680 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 10: four months or just getting to four months.

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Speaker 3: So I was already like showing visibly pregnant, and so

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00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 3: I didn't want to tell.

1141
00:58:02,960 --> 00:58:05,520
Speaker 10: Like the producers, because you know, once you tell them something,

1142
00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 10: they're making a story out.

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00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 3: Of it, right.

1144
00:58:07,720 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 10: I was like, I don't want to tell them yet,

1145
00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 10: because like what if something happens and then I have

1146
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:14,480
Speaker 10: to deal with all the people that's going to know that.

1147
00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 10: I was pregnant and then I lost another baby, and

1148
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 10: I didn't want that to be like something that I

1149
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 10: had to be traumatized and lived with again, you know.

1150
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 10: And he was just so excited that I was pregnant

1151
00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 10: again that he just told the producers and I'm like,

1152
00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:32,400
Speaker 10: oh my gosh, all right, like now I can't stress.

1153
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 10: And you know, reality TV is stressful, Like they've been

1154
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:39,200
Speaker 10: inituations that you don't necessarily want to be in or

1155
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 10: don't want to necessarily like face, I guess. And I

1156
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 10: was just in situations that I really didn't care to

1157
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 10: be in, you know, because I was pregnant, and I'm like,

1158
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 10: I don't want to stress and lose this baby for

1159
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 10: this conversation with a girl that I can care less about,

1160
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 10: you know, yeah, I do. I just that part of

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00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,320
Speaker 10: the reality I didn't care too much about because like

1162
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 10: they pretty much have control over your likeliness, and like

1163
00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 10: who you are as a person or what you portray

1164
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:11,160
Speaker 10: on TV is not really who you are in real life.

1165
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 10: Like reality TV is what they the producers, the you know,

1166
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 10: the showrunners or whatever, what they want to what they

1167
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 10: want to produce. So it's kind of like you don't

1168
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 10: really have control over that so that's the hard part

1169
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:28,880
Speaker 10: about reality TV in a sense where you don't have control. Luckily,

1170
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 10: with my situation, it was a little bit different because

1171
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 10: I got pregnant, So yeah, my storyline was more so

1172
00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 10: like Okay, now that you're pregnant, you can't like just

1173
00:59:39,200 --> 00:59:42,320
Speaker 10: be a girlfriend all your life, you know. So that

1174
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 10: was kind of like, all right, well, what do you

1175
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 10: want him to do? And I'm like, okay, here he

1176
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 10: is like trying to buy me a bigger car SUV

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00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 10: and I'm like, okay, but when are we getting married? Like,

1178
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 10: you know, I have a car, Like we have cars,

1179
00:59:55,080 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 10: Like what are we doing car shopping? Like we don't

1180
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 10: need cars, you know. So then that became my story

1181
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:06,040
Speaker 10: of like here we are going crib shopping, but where's

1182
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 10: my ring? Like right here we are going, you know,

1183
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 10: bracelet shopping, but where's my ring?

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01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 3: So everything was like okay, but my ring? Okay, but

1185
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:14,919
Speaker 3: my ring.

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01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 10: But in reality, like in real life, we were already

1187
01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:22,120
Speaker 10: talking about marriage way before I even got pregnant, So

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01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:24,160
Speaker 10: the show kind of made it look like I was

1189
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:27,960
Speaker 10: just nagging about this ring that we already discussed years

1190
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 10: before I even got pregnant. But it was kind of

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01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 10: like what they wanted to push.

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01:00:33,160 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: Of course, because reality TV, what will be the most

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01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:39,440
Speaker 1: entertaining and what will give the audience a strong opinion

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01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 1: and reaction to this at the end of the day,

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01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:46,120
Speaker 1: even though it's quote unquote real things that are happening.

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01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 1: You know, you're filming I don't know how long Wags

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01:00:49,560 --> 01:00:52,240
Speaker 1: filmed for vander Pump Rules. Films for like four months,

1198
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:56,800
Speaker 1: every single day, eight hours a day sometimes, and then

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01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 1: you chop that down to an hour episode for however

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01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:05,360
Speaker 1: many you see very little and that's that's hard. I'm

1201
01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:07,560
Speaker 1: sure it was hard for you too. You're watching this

1202
01:01:07,640 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 1: show and you're like, this is entertaining as fuck, Like

1203
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:12,680
Speaker 1: I dig it, but then people talking about you, you're like,

1204
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: I don't even recognize the person that they're talking about, and.

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01:01:15,560 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 10: It's me right now, one hundred and ten percent completely

1206
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:21,960
Speaker 10: get it. And like I said, when we started filming,

1207
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 10: it was like the person that I was filming with

1208
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,400
Speaker 10: I didn't really care to film with, and they knew.

1209
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 1: Oh, so they had you two together all the time.

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01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 10: Then right, like, well, the person that like I was

1211
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:37,240
Speaker 10: cool with on the show, we were cool, so it

1212
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:39,760
Speaker 10: was kind of like me and her, But then you know,

1213
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 10: the other girl that I wasn't cool with, she kind

1214
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:44,880
Speaker 10: of teamed up with someone and it was kind of

1215
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:47,520
Speaker 10: like a one of the girls came to like a

1216
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:50,520
Speaker 10: married man's house in like lingerie, and I was like, oh.

1217
01:01:50,320 --> 01:01:51,120
Speaker 3: I didn't get the memo.

1218
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 10: I didn't know this is what we're doing, you know,

1219
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 10: and there's married men in here, there's men in relationships

1220
01:01:57,120 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 10: in here, Like why are you coming with your titties out?

1221
01:01:59,360 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 3: Girl? Like this not cute or classy or do this?

1222
01:02:03,480 --> 01:02:03,680
Speaker 3: You know?

1223
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:08,200
Speaker 10: So that started drama, and like all that was on

1224
01:02:08,840 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 10: like the beginning, you know, episodes and stuff like that,

1225
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:14,439
Speaker 10: so it kind of like that kind of faded out,

1226
01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 10: and you know, then it became the story of like

1227
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:20,560
Speaker 10: what are you guys going to do with your relationship?

1228
01:02:20,760 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 3: Are you guys going to be.

1229
01:02:21,920 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 10: Together, you know, or are you guys just gonna have

1230
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:26,800
Speaker 10: a baby and you know be together.

1231
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 1: Did you feel pressured from producers or did Deonta feel

1232
01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:31,240
Speaker 1: any pressure?

1233
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 10: I honestly feel like there was a lot of pressure

1234
01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:38,320
Speaker 10: going on, but like Deonte and me are both people

1235
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 10: that like aren't going to let people tell us what

1236
01:02:41,680 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 10: to do. So it was kind of you know, there's

1237
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 10: certain certain scenes in the episodes where, for example, like

1238
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:51,480
Speaker 10: they wanted me to take a pregnancy test, so I

1239
01:02:51,520 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 10: was like, okay, cool, and they were like, all right,

1240
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:55,920
Speaker 10: this is how you know, you're going to present it

1241
01:02:55,920 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 10: to him. I'm like, okay, what do I look like

1242
01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 10: just presenting him a stick in like our row, you

1243
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 10: know what I'm saying in.

1244
01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:02,080
Speaker 3: The house, like you know.

1245
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 10: So I'm like, this isn't what I would typically do,

1246
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,440
Speaker 10: but it's kind of like, all right, well, We're going

1247
01:03:06,480 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 10: to have to show that I'm pregnant somehow, some way.

1248
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 4: You know.

1249
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:11,240
Speaker 3: It was kind of like the way.

1250
01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 10: And even though we already knew I was pregnant, like

1251
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 10: we had to kind of act surprised, you know, like,

1252
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 10: oh my god, right, you're pregnant. We're pregnant, And you know,

1253
01:03:20,160 --> 01:03:22,320
Speaker 10: he was more surprised than I was, because I was like,

1254
01:03:22,880 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 10: I know, I'm pregnant, you know what, I'm sorry. So

1255
01:03:25,800 --> 01:03:28,440
Speaker 10: it was it's like that type of stuff. Or like

1256
01:03:28,800 --> 01:03:31,439
Speaker 10: for example, like the girl that I didn't get along with,

1257
01:03:32,480 --> 01:03:33,360
Speaker 10: you know, they'd be like.

1258
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 3: Oh, you have a lunch date with someone, and I'm like,

1259
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:38,040
Speaker 3: who is it?

1260
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 10: Because you guys know, I don't want to film with

1261
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:42,120
Speaker 10: who I don't want to film with and then and

1262
01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:44,160
Speaker 10: I'm like, okay, well, I'm just letting you know that

1263
01:03:44,200 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 10: this is how I'm coming because I'm not about to

1264
01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 10: stress out because I'm pregnant, you know. Like there's certain

1265
01:03:49,600 --> 01:03:51,280
Speaker 10: times that I was like, Okay, well, if you guys

1266
01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 10: are going to have a group filming situation and she's

1267
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:55,960
Speaker 10: going to be there, like, I don't want to argue today,

1268
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:57,480
Speaker 10: so I'd rather just not go.

1269
01:03:57,600 --> 01:03:59,480
Speaker 1: So would you ever do it again? Would you ever

1270
01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:01,200
Speaker 1: if if if someone came to you and said, we

1271
01:04:01,200 --> 01:04:02,760
Speaker 1: want you on a reality show or do you think

1272
01:04:02,800 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 1: you've had enough?

1273
01:04:03,640 --> 01:04:08,200
Speaker 10: I would do it if I had control over like

1274
01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 10: I guess producing like uh producers on the show, where

1275
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 10: I have control over what goes out, I would do that.

1276
01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 10: But as far as just like being a talent on

1277
01:04:19,360 --> 01:04:22,520
Speaker 10: the show, I probably wouldn't do it again because it's

1278
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:26,320
Speaker 10: just unless it's like a positive like woman empowerment show,

1279
01:04:26,920 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 10: then I would do that. Like I get that there

1280
01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:31,800
Speaker 10: has to be some type of drama, but not drama

1281
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 10: to the point where it breaks up families or like, yeah,

1282
01:04:34,960 --> 01:04:36,000
Speaker 10: that type of drama.

1283
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:39,440
Speaker 1: It becomes a very a very negative space. If you

1284
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 1: can't compartmentalize real life from real life. I guess you know,

1285
01:04:45,640 --> 01:04:49,160
Speaker 1: unless you're you're filming, you put that hat on, you

1286
01:04:49,200 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 1: know what the drill is, and then when you go

1287
01:04:50,960 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 1: home you can separate the two. It can become a

1288
01:04:53,600 --> 01:04:56,640
Speaker 1: very toxic environment. So I get it. And when you're

1289
01:04:56,640 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 1: going toes with women all day and you know we're

1290
01:04:59,800 --> 01:05:01,760
Speaker 1: all sitting here talking about how we're supposed to lift

1291
01:05:01,800 --> 01:05:03,400
Speaker 1: each other up, but then I'm supposed to drag this

1292
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 1: bitch right, it's kind of a mind fuck. And yeah,

1293
01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:12,320
Speaker 1: you you have a term that I've never heard before, fempowerist,

1294
01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 1: Like what does that mean for for listeners who have

1295
01:05:16,320 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 1: never heard that before.

1296
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 10: Initially, when I trademarked the word fem power is, I

1297
01:05:21,160 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 10: wanted to create like an app for women to empower

1298
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 10: women to just be like, you know, great and mentally

1299
01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:33,200
Speaker 10: be great too. It's not just physically, because it had like,

1300
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Speaker 10: well what I initially got it for, Like I wanted

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Speaker 10: to do fitness, fitness tips, dating tips, motivational daily quotes

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Speaker 10: just like every dud's and don'ts, and relationships or when

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Speaker 10: it like like you said, when is it okay to

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Speaker 10: present your kid? Or one is it okay to burb

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01:05:55,920 --> 01:05:57,880
Speaker 10: or fart in front of a man or just you know,

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Speaker 10: like little I I would want, you know, coming out

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Speaker 10: of a marriage or a relationship or just being single,

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Speaker 10: you know, like things that you I feel like women

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Speaker 10: need to know coming into relationships or just being a woman.

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Speaker 10: Like you know, there's a lot of women that don't

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Speaker 10: know how to be lady like or don't have you know, etiquette,

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Speaker 10: and so it was kind of like one of those

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Speaker 10: type of situations. But the app developer that I had

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Speaker 10: it didn't work out, so that I have yet to do.

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Speaker 10: So I trademark the word, and you know, now I'm

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Speaker 10: kind of like, do I want to get into that

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Speaker 10: field of apps or more so because I love clothes

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Speaker 10: and fashion so much that I kind of want to

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Speaker 10: turn the fem powers brand into like an ath leisure

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Speaker 10: like where for women that extenuates like your curves and oh.

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Speaker 1: I love that, but I have a flat ass. Can

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Speaker 1: you do something that accentuates my flat ass too?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? The lifers and everything, girl, don't worry.

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. I love the word fempowerist,

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Speaker 1: and I think it's amazing too. The app ideas obviously genius,

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Speaker 1: but to turn it into an as leisure line because

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Speaker 1: we're all out here wanting to like look like we

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Speaker 1: worked out or we really did work out and then

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Speaker 1: put it on with some heels and like go to

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Speaker 1: work at the clurb.

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Speaker 3: Well right exactly.

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Speaker 10: And I kind of wanted to be like, you know,

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Speaker 10: Tom would Tom Brown, Like it's like they have like sweats,

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Speaker 10: but you could still wear it out the club, or

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Speaker 10: you could still wear it to the airport and be

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Speaker 10: fashionable but still be comfy.

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Speaker 3: And that's kind of what I want.

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Speaker 10: But more so instead of fashion and comfy, I want

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Speaker 10: to add, like, you know, like a woman. So I

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Speaker 10: want to insinuate like you know, underboob or like butt

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Speaker 10: lift or like curbs, like you know, to where the

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Speaker 10: stitching like makes.

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Speaker 3: You look more curvy than you naturally are.

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Speaker 10: Or just like just to extenuate like just being a

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Speaker 10: woman and being powerful. And I kind of wanted to

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Speaker 10: go towards that as opposed to the app because I

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Speaker 10: feel like, you know, there's people that have apps, and

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Speaker 10: there's people that have athletes or where too, but like

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Speaker 10: I wanted to solely focus on like womenism and just

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Speaker 10: like being a strong, powerful woman.

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Speaker 1: I love that I love everything about what you just said,

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Speaker 1: and I think that you are incredibly inspiring from your

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Speaker 1: work ethic. Of course, I think it's important when a

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Speaker 1: woman is doing something great that we let them know

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Speaker 1: they're doing great. So I want you to tell our

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Speaker 1: listeners and me how we can get involved in your

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Speaker 1: Boxing Wags Association.

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Speaker 10: Yes, so Boxing Wags we have the women of boxing.

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Speaker 10: Like like I said, we do like all types of

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Speaker 10: different events. The last event I did, I collaborated with Cookies.

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01:08:50,080 --> 01:08:53,439
Speaker 10: Cookies is a cannabis company and we had a toy

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Speaker 10: drive for the children and we donated toys to children

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Speaker 10: that were in need, so I collaborated with them. Before that,

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Speaker 10: I had an event in Vegas with Versace and Balenciaga,

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01:09:06,560 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 10: so where we shop and the proceeds go to charity

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Speaker 10: of their choice. So we just collaborate with different walks

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Speaker 10: of people or different whatever is going on at the month.

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Speaker 10: Next event I probably because I have the Fragrance going

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Speaker 10: on right now, so it's like twenty million things twenty

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Speaker 10: million times.

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Speaker 3: But the next event will probably be I want to

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Speaker 3: I want fingers crossed to probably be around like March,

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Speaker 3: okay March or something like that.

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Speaker 10: But all all the events and information you can find

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Speaker 10: at Boxing Wags Association on Instagram and our website is

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Speaker 10: Boxingwagsassociation dot org. Everything that we do or have going

1377
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Speaker 10: on is on both of those pages.

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Speaker 1: Amazing, dude, thank you so much for joining me on

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Speaker 1: Give Them Laala today. I'm sure you've inspired all of

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Speaker 1: my listeners as well. You look absolutely I'm gonna go

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Speaker 1: try and get my get up like how you have yours.

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Speaker 3: Helpful girl, You're beautiful, You are amazing.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, my love, and we'll keep in touch. And

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to try this fragrance. Where can people buy this?

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Speaker 10: Yes, so you can buy it at D Teley D

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Speaker 10: T E L l I Fragrances dot com and we

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Speaker 10: are going to be in store soon.

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited.

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Speaker 10: We're going to be in Norstrums and Bloomingdale's in the

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Speaker 10: following month, so I'm super.

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Speaker 3: Excited for that. Girl.

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Speaker 1: I'm so proud of everything you have going on. It's

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Speaker 1: so grateful to have you. So go enjoy your day

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Speaker 1: and I hope to talk to you soon.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.