Speaker 1: Episode four forty three Frugal Beauty and Fashion Tips at
Speaker 1: Any Age with Dominique Sasa.
Speaker 2: Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast, where you'll learn to
Speaker 2: save money, embrace simplicity, and liver your life. Here your
Speaker 2: hosts Jen and Jill.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast. My name is Jen,
Speaker 1: my name is Jill, and today we are excited to
Speaker 1: share with you a conversation we had with the host
Speaker 1: of the Over fifty and Flourishing podcast, Dominique Sasa, about
Speaker 1: beauty and fashion not just as we age, but really
Speaker 1: at any age. It's things like we as thirty five
Speaker 1: year olds, can take right now to make this process
Speaker 1: of evolving in beauty and style involved more.
Speaker 3: Gracefully embracing aging while also giving ourselves permission to enjoy
Speaker 3: a nice aesthetic and take care of ourselves well and
Speaker 3: look as good as we want to look.
Speaker 4: At any age.
Speaker 3: And Dominique also just shares some really amazing off script
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Speaker 1: Yes, all right, So, in celebration or in the theme
Speaker 1: of Dominique's podcast, Over fifty and Flourishing, we asked you
Speaker 1: in the friend letter, what do you think is most
Speaker 1: important financially during your forties and fifties, And so we said,
Speaker 1: we asked being confident about many decisions, being on track
Speaker 1: to retire, feeling secure in a job or other, and
Speaker 1: so many people in their fifties and sixties answered the question.
Speaker 1: And we're really excited for this episode to get the
Speaker 1: wisdom of Dominique, who's about twenty years older than us,
Speaker 1: and from listeners and viewers like you who are a
Speaker 1: little older than us, so that we can be inspired
Speaker 1: to take the wisdom that you're giving to us. And
Speaker 1: without even being close. The thing that you guys said
Speaker 1: is being on track to retire that is the most
Speaker 1: important thing, or should be the most important thing during
Speaker 1: your forties and fifties. We had a lot of people
Speaker 1: responding saying like, I'm in my mid fifties and like
Speaker 1: I wish that I had paid attention to the sooner
Speaker 1: someone in their sixties who didn't plan well or says
Speaker 1: they didn't plan well and wishes they had. So these
Speaker 1: are just some of the things. And so this episode
Speaker 1: isn't specifically on how to focus on retirement so that
Speaker 1: you don't worry about it in your forties and fifties,
Speaker 1: but something that happens to so many of us as
Speaker 1: we as we evolve, And I think that's how I'm
Speaker 1: going to refer to it, because that feels like a
Speaker 1: good word. As we evolve, we start we start paying
Speaker 1: attention to some things and stop paying attention to others,
Speaker 1: And so I think it can become really like we
Speaker 1: pay so much attention in our thirties to maybe our
Speaker 1: young children or our relationships and stuff like that, and
Speaker 1: we're investing there, which is important. And then maybe think
Speaker 1: we're behind, and so what's the point in focusing in
Speaker 1: the forties because I didn't in my thirties, So I'm
Speaker 1: just already behind. And to hear from people like you
Speaker 1: in their fifties and sixties saying no, like I wish
Speaker 1: I'd had twenty years to think about this, reiterating that
Speaker 1: it's never you're never too late. You're never late to
Speaker 1: start thinking about these things. And we think the same
Speaker 1: in beauty and fashion and just looking and feeling good.
Speaker 1: There's never a wrong time to want to feel good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you don't have to spend a ton of money.
Speaker 3: You can apply apply similar wisdom that we apply to
Speaker 3: our finances to the way that we approach the way
Speaker 3: that we care for our physical bodies as well. So
Speaker 3: I'm excited to get Dominique on here and talk about
Speaker 3: some of those external things but that are very intricately
Speaker 3: tied to internal things and our acceptance and care of ourselves.
Speaker 4: So yeah.
Speaker 1: So Dominique is an Emmy winning journalist, television anchor, and author.
Speaker 1: She has over twenty five years of experience in broadcast
Speaker 1: journalism and is the host of the national morning show
Speaker 1: Morning on Merritt Street on Doctor Phil's network. She also
Speaker 1: hosts Like I Said, the podcast over fifty and Flourishing,
Speaker 1: where she discusses life, health and personal growth for women
Speaker 1: over fifty. But everything she's sharing is applicable for all
Speaker 1: of us, and we're excited to introduce to her. Let's
Speaker 1: do it, Dominique. Welcome to Frugal Friends. We're so so
Speaker 1: excited to have you here.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, you too. I am honored to be here.
Speaker 5: I love all things frugal, So this should be a
Speaker 5: fruitful conversation.
Speaker 3: This is such a lovely topic for us to explore,
Speaker 3: especially for Jen and I. This year we entered halfway
Speaker 3: through well really halfway through life, I think is where
Speaker 3: we're a we are midlife.
Speaker 4: I don't at this.
Speaker 1: Okay, so we've entered the start of it.
Speaker 4: I turned thirty five.
Speaker 5: We are possible.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know when you play dying,
Speaker 1: but I don't think I'm halfway through.
Speaker 3: Well I hope not, you know, hope for a little
Speaker 3: be surprised by a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it has begun this realization that some of
Speaker 1: the things that worked for us in our twenties and
Speaker 1: early thirties are we're evolving out of it. And so
Speaker 1: I love your show and your perspective on like really thriving,
Speaker 1: you know, in what I believe to be like more
Speaker 1: mid midlife. So we're so excited and just all of
Speaker 1: the tips you have as a super successful woman, I'm
Speaker 1: just like evolving style and beauty and yeah, so well
Speaker 1: we'll kind of kick it off there. As like a
Speaker 1: super successful YouTuber. You do a lot of budget friendly
Speaker 1: like makeup and restyling clothes you already own. And as
Speaker 1: somebody who's been on YouTube knowing that a lot of
Speaker 1: what goes on viral on there is like really extreme things.
Speaker 1: So but you have stayed true to your nature. So like,
Speaker 1: how did you come to embrace this lifestyle instead of
Speaker 1: the ultraspendy one we usually see on YouTube.
Speaker 5: It's always been my nature. It's such a good question, Jen,
Speaker 5: And you know when I had you on my podcast,
Speaker 5: I kind of alluded to my nana and I would
Speaker 5: go visit her in Hallandale, Florida, Florida, every summer. And
Speaker 5: my nana was Jewish and she would take me to
Speaker 5: a place called It was in Howdale, was called shmata row.
Speaker 5: Now shmata is a nice Yiddish word for frock. So
Speaker 5: it was a place where people in the community would
Speaker 5: sell their wares and it was shmatas. It was like
Speaker 5: house robes and shirts and dresses and things. And I
Speaker 5: would watch my nana, And my nana was really really
Speaker 5: good managing her money. You know, she never overspent. She
Speaker 5: was always within her budget. Whatever she had left over,
Speaker 5: she would hunt and bargain and she loved the thrill
Speaker 5: of a bargain. So she would take me with her
Speaker 5: and I would watch this little four foot ten woman
Speaker 5: in action, bartering and bantering with these other women's, you know,
Speaker 5: haggling for a price no I won't pay, you know, twenty,
Speaker 5: what about fifteen? You know, going back and forth, you know,
Speaker 5: with little things and finally getting to kill. And it
Speaker 5: was such a rush for me, and it also made
Speaker 5: me realize that, you know, you have a voice in
Speaker 5: retail in some cases, in some cases now not everything
Speaker 5: is an outdoor shmata row kind of a place where
Speaker 5: you can haggle and barter and try to, you know,
Speaker 5: get your best price. But these days, there are so
Speaker 5: many apps and opportunities and ways to look for deep
Speaker 5: discounts and smart shopping opportunities. You know, we just have
Speaker 5: to get and be mindful and be very careful of
Speaker 5: not falling into the trap and saying, oh, well, you know,
Speaker 5: it's Amazon Prime Days, or it's this you know, Black Friday,
Speaker 5: or it's Labor Day specials. You know, I ought to
Speaker 5: shop now. You know, sometimes we tend to force a
Speaker 5: purchase where we don't necessarily need a purchase, so that
Speaker 5: can be a little bait and switch as well. But
Speaker 5: if you're frugally minded, you can use those as opportunities
Speaker 5: to wait for bigger ticket items and save. You know,
Speaker 5: I've always shopped resale. That's another thing that I talk
Speaker 5: about on my platform. I am not ashamed to say
Speaker 5: that I love gently loved and worn clothing. I have
Speaker 5: absolutely no problem with it. In fact, most of my nice,
Speaker 5: higher end pieces have come from resale shops. Because I
Speaker 5: absolutely struggle with paying thousands of dollars for a handbag
Speaker 5: or a pair of shoes. I just I cannot wrap
Speaker 5: my head around it. It's illogical to me, no matter
Speaker 5: how much money I make or I don't make. My
Speaker 5: mindset is still the same around that I would rather
Speaker 5: look for a good deal, and so it's always been
Speaker 5: who I am, and I figure I'm not going to
Speaker 5: change it just because I'm quote unquote successful or seen
Speaker 5: as someone who is successful in a certain industry. I
Speaker 5: still want to be respectful of the income that I'm earning.
Speaker 5: It doesn't mean it will always be there. You gals know,
Speaker 5: as entrepreneurs and being in this space, some months can
Speaker 5: be better than others, and you've got to be You've
Speaker 5: got to be wise in how you handle that money
Speaker 5: and plan and prepare for the future and not just
Speaker 5: live in today. So that's a little bit more my
Speaker 5: mindset and where I come from.
Speaker 3: It's so cool to link that back to kind of
Speaker 3: how you grew up and seeing the ways that other
Speaker 3: women kind of prepared the path for you in your
Speaker 3: understanding of money and how you want to take that
Speaker 3: and implement it into your own life. It's a really
Speaker 3: beautiful store. So thanks for talking about your grandmother. But
Speaker 3: kind of along those lines, of course, a lot of
Speaker 3: our listeners are frually minded, budget friendly, but also wanting
Speaker 3: to enjoy life.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 3: I think that's one of the things that kind of
Speaker 3: sets you apart, this whole flourishing lifestyle and how we
Speaker 3: move through life gracefully. What are some of your beauty
Speaker 3: tips that you might have for someone to embrace, like
Speaker 3: kind of a luxurious and effective beauty routine, but without
Speaker 3: necessarily being overly spendee.
Speaker 5: Sure you know know where to spend your money, do
Speaker 5: your research. You don't need. And this is one thing
Speaker 5: that I learned. There were so many skin creams out
Speaker 5: there that claim to do all these miraculous wonderful things,
Speaker 5: you know, reduced wrinkles and hyperpigmentation in this and that,
Speaker 5: And I've tried them all and some work better than others.
Speaker 5: And the price range will vary from drugstore prices, you know,
Speaker 5: ten twelve, fifteen dollars price point, all the way up
Speaker 5: the high end of a couple one hundred. Here's what
Speaker 5: my dermatologist told me. Get yourself a tube of retine,
Speaker 5: which can be run through prescription. Get yourself some glycolic acid,
Speaker 5: which if you purchase through a dermatologist, won't cost an
Speaker 5: arm and a leg. And then you can use any
Speaker 5: over the counter cream that you want as a moisturizing
Speaker 5: cream to kind of bond it all together, and it's
Speaker 5: those two products where you spend your money where you're
Speaker 5: going to have the most bang for your buck because
Speaker 5: there is nothing that you can buy online in a
Speaker 5: store that's going to supersede the strength, the consistency, and
Speaker 5: the quality of prescription grade pharmaceuticals when it comes to
Speaker 5: things to help with wrinkles and exfoliation and hyperpigmentation. So
Speaker 5: I just learned that that's what I'm going to do.
Speaker 5: I'm not going to waste my money with the millions
Speaker 5: of products that are out there. I'm going to go
Speaker 5: through my dermatologists get what I need, and then I
Speaker 5: use I mean, I go through a variety of different
Speaker 5: face moisturizers, but one that I love is by a
Speaker 5: company called Honey Skin. I found them on Amazon. Why
Speaker 5: did I like them because I researched They have Manuka honey.
Speaker 5: Manuka honey has great healing properties for the skin. They
Speaker 5: also have alo different vitamins and nutrients. It's organic, so
Speaker 5: when you use products like a glycolic acid and a retine,
Speaker 5: those can be irritants for the skin. I wanted to
Speaker 5: combine it with a product that had cooling agents agents
Speaker 5: to help calm the skin. So it's known for exemas zoriasis,
Speaker 5: you know, burns, things like that. So I figure, Okay,
Speaker 5: that makes total sense. So that's where I save money.
Speaker 5: But it's time and it's research and knowing where where
Speaker 5: to spend your money doesn't mean that you don't. It
Speaker 5: just means that you're smart and where you do.
Speaker 3: The beauty industry is so massive, and it does it
Speaker 3: overwhelms me to think through. Yeah, research is great, but
Speaker 3: there's so many voices out there. I love what you're saying,
Speaker 3: and I talked with my dermatologists. Sounds like you trust
Speaker 3: your dermatologists. But any other tips on where to even
Speaker 3: start with three? How to trust that the information we're
Speaker 3: receiving is going to be helpful versus just a marketing POI.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would think specifically with makeup because that is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: is there anywhere we shouldn't like or anything to like
Speaker 1: avoid or something because it's just an endless like void.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it is endless, you know. I would say, first
Speaker 5: of all, I'm overwhelmed and mesmerized by the percentage of
Speaker 5: the younger population it's really getting into skincare. I mean,
Speaker 5: they are spending the bulk of the money. We're talking
Speaker 5: about teenagers and kids in their twenties who are just
Speaker 5: full on, you know, they want good skincare. They want
Speaker 5: the glassy, glowy skin. Now, the upside is that they're
Speaker 5: wiser than my generation was. Okay, my generation was baking
Speaker 5: out in the sun with baby oil, iodine and the
Speaker 5: reflector going on. So now we're the ones paying the
Speaker 5: price for all of that intense sun damage that we did.
Speaker 5: The younger generation is a little bit more savvy about
Speaker 5: all of this. They're using the SPF, using all these
Speaker 5: you know, creams and oils and whatnot. I would argue,
Speaker 5: and even a dermatologist would say, you don't need all
Speaker 5: that stuff. They would tell you. The most effective preventive
Speaker 5: thing that you can use is a mineral based SPF.
Speaker 5: Now you can get those anywhere. You can get those
Speaker 5: from the drug store these days, all the way up
Speaker 5: to your dermatologist. But it's the preventative where we're seeing
Speaker 5: the most progress. So that's the best place to invest.
Speaker 5: And when it comes to cosmetics, you know, here's the
Speaker 5: other thing that I've seen too. You've got you've got
Speaker 5: one company that will own you know, lung coome and loreel.
Speaker 5: You can find so many great lower end and when
Speaker 5: I say lower end, I mean drug store, so more affordable.
Speaker 5: You can find affordable products these days that really do
Speaker 5: a remarkable job. It just depends on what you're going for.
Speaker 5: Do you sometimes want to splurge on a high end foundation, Sure,
Speaker 5: sometimes I want to try. I love Charlotte Tilbury's you know,
Speaker 5: airbrush flawless finish foundation. To me, that's like the holy grail.
Speaker 5: I can't break away. I keep trying, I can't break away. Okay,
Speaker 5: So that's where I'm going to spend my money. Or
Speaker 5: it may be on Laura Mercia's translucent loose powder. I
Speaker 5: love that. But I use Nick's lift and snatch eyebrow
Speaker 5: pen I use you know, drug store sometimes contour. I
Speaker 5: use Elf contour and highlight. I use Elf blushes. I
Speaker 5: use Nicks lift pencils. So again, it's playing around and
Speaker 5: figuring out, and you will find that in many, many cases,
Speaker 5: there are a lot of drug store products that operate
Speaker 5: and play just like the higher end ones do. So say,
Speaker 5: learn where to save money and learn where to spend,
Speaker 5: and that's a little bit of trial and error, and
Speaker 5: it's a lot of research and that's why content creators
Speaker 5: like myself and many others are out there to show
Speaker 5: you and tell you, hey, this one works great. You
Speaker 5: don't need to spend more than.
Speaker 3: That, Yeah, finding the people that you can trust, because
Speaker 3: that's what's striking me as well, is how much it
Speaker 3: could cost to go through the trial and error piece.
Speaker 3: I think that's a big barrier for me too. Of
Speaker 3: I don't want to have to pay one hundred and
Speaker 3: ten dollars for this thing. I only need to discover
Speaker 3: that it's not for me. So being able to find
Speaker 3: the people who kind of have the aesthetic that you
Speaker 3: might be going for, might be a similar skin type,
Speaker 3: similar age. It sounds like that's where influencers can be
Speaker 3: so helpful in helping us make the smart wise spending
Speaker 3: and purchasing decisions.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I think that's why there are so many
Speaker 5: people out there in that space. And I'm grateful. You know,
Speaker 5: you gals are much younger than me. I'm mean, I'm
Speaker 5: fifty seven, and I'm happy to be somebody in that
Speaker 5: space for women in midlife who maybe have a different
Speaker 5: set of issues than you gals. Do you know maybe
Speaker 5: you're battling more skin changes or based on hormone fluctuations
Speaker 5: and acne and things like that. You know, for my generation,
Speaker 5: it could be more dryness related to a loss of
Speaker 5: estrogen and creping. So you know, at least there are
Speaker 5: people in every lane these days. And that's what I
Speaker 5: love so much is that there's no shortage of content.
Speaker 5: There's no shortage of places for you to find people
Speaker 5: who are out there giving authentic reviews based on what
Speaker 5: they use and what they try, and they want to
Speaker 5: tell you, hey, this is great. You got to look
Speaker 5: at it, and hey, this one not so much for me,
Speaker 5: but that doesn't mean it won't work for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I wish, I wish, I kind of almost
Speaker 1: want to use video because Dominique, your face is flawless.
Speaker 3: I am a little bit shot and a guest that
Speaker 3: you just shared your age and it is nowhere near
Speaker 3: what I would have guessed.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so definitely take your advice.
Speaker 5: All of this retin a.
Speaker 1: All right, So let's talk a little bit about fashion,
Speaker 1: because I love your your take on restyling and just
Speaker 1: kind of like, yeah, I find that I am in
Speaker 1: this struggle where I'm kind of like I want to
Speaker 1: mature in my style, but I'm having like a hard time.
Speaker 1: I don't know, piecing close close, They're hard, and I
Speaker 1: find that just gets harder and harder the older I get. So, like,
Speaker 1: what are your tips for evolving your style as you
Speaker 1: mature with maybe like not buying one hundred percent new wardrobe?
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know what I love. I'm a huge fan
Speaker 5: of Pinterest. I get so many ideas just from watching
Speaker 5: sometimes capsule wardrobes or seeing other people. I have found
Speaker 5: that I have gone my taste has gone a little
Speaker 5: bit more to a classic route, a little more of
Speaker 5: a mix and match. Not to say I don't like
Speaker 5: trends and I don't shop trends, but I won't spend
Speaker 5: a lot of money on trends because I know they're seasonal.
Speaker 5: I know they may last a year and then next
Speaker 5: year maybe not so much. But also I won't just
Speaker 5: shop a trend for a trend. A trend also has
Speaker 5: to fit. It has to look good, it has to
Speaker 5: fit my body, tight, my aesthetic, my my inner style.
Speaker 5: So not everything gets purchased, but I will find that
Speaker 5: I have gone to a little bit more of a classic.
Speaker 5: So what's a classic? Well, everybody needs like a white tank,
Speaker 5: a black tank, a white button down, a black button down,
Speaker 5: you know, some pops of color. Good good slacks, a
Speaker 5: good pants suit, a good skirt, you know good, a
Speaker 5: good pair of heels, a good pair of flats. I
Speaker 5: mean what I love about fall twenty twenty four fashion.
Speaker 5: I find a lot of it to be so wearable.
Speaker 5: There is this push toward a little bit more classic
Speaker 5: elegance and sophistication. Sort of reminds me a little of
Speaker 5: the Jackie O era, with you know, very straight pencil
Speaker 5: skirts and classic dresses and coats and things with high collars,
Speaker 5: and it's just beautiful, beautiful, classic clothing that these are
Speaker 5: the pieces that you probably held onto from way back
Speaker 5: when because you knew they were good and they wouldn't
Speaker 5: go out of style, and sure enough they've come back.
Speaker 5: So I love that sort of resurrection of good you know,
Speaker 5: what's good, what's quality, what is sort of deemed as
Speaker 5: sort of timeless elegance. But then they're also having fun.
Speaker 5: I mean, Western is having a big, you know, resurgence again,
Speaker 5: and so we're seeing lots of cowboy boots and you know,
Speaker 5: flowers and prints and long floral skirts and whatnot. So
Speaker 5: it's like, figure out what's you, you know, do any
Speaker 5: of these resonate with you? Are you more of a
Speaker 5: simple type? Do you just kind of like a clean aesthetic.
Speaker 5: Do you like to be able to yank something from
Speaker 5: your closet and say, you know what, this is safe,
Speaker 5: this is comfortable. I know if I put it on,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna feel good in it. The rest of you,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna stare at you and you looked really really
Speaker 5: good in the catalog, or you look good online and
Speaker 5: now I'm looking at you in my closet and I
Speaker 5: don't know what to do with you. If you find
Speaker 5: yourself in that situation, then shop fewer trends, because not
Speaker 5: everybody's meant to be a stylist in their own closet.
Speaker 5: And that's okay, you know. I always think, look at
Speaker 5: the French. You know, the French have the most amazing esthetic,
Speaker 5: and they are so simple and elegant in how they
Speaker 5: style themselves. And it's usually just one pop of something
Speaker 5: that's the differentiating factor, like a pop a red lipstick
Speaker 5: or a pair of red pumps or and everything else
Speaker 5: is classic, you know, it's it could be a white
Speaker 5: buttoned down, a pair of jeens, a pair of flats,
Speaker 5: but there's that special something. So that's kind of what
Speaker 5: I have gone to. And I have really whittled down
Speaker 5: and gotten rid of a lot of kind of trendy
Speaker 5: things or things that maybe don't flatter me as much
Speaker 5: and just got real with it. And then the rest
Speaker 5: of it off. It goes to charity and it gets donated,
Speaker 5: and that's it. And I just and I'm about ready
Speaker 5: to go through that again. And I keep doing that
Speaker 5: yearly because I think it's really important. And the more
Speaker 5: that that shrinks, actually, the happier I feel.
Speaker 1: And where do you go when you're looking for these
Speaker 1: like really good quality classic pieces, Because I know a
Speaker 1: lot of the times now that when I'm in the
Speaker 1: thrift store it's it's just like fast fashion, like recycled.
Speaker 1: And I still love a good thrift store, but like,
Speaker 1: where do you go when you're looking for like really affordable, classic,
Speaker 1: well made pieces.
Speaker 5: Sure, you know I love resale places like the real,
Speaker 5: real far fetch. You know, I will go to those
Speaker 5: places if I'm really wanting. Let's say, and I've bought
Speaker 5: a Herby trench coat that was probably one thousand dollars
Speaker 5: at one point that I think I got for two
Speaker 5: hundred and fifty three hundred dollars, you know, phenomenal, that's
Speaker 5: like a piece that will last forever. So places like
Speaker 5: that I will definitely go to. I will shop. I
Speaker 5: love Neeman's Last Call. I love off Fifth Avenue. You know,
Speaker 5: their outlets are wonderful places to find some good quality
Speaker 5: pieces that are marked down. So those are kind of
Speaker 5: my go tos. So equality retailers, but I like to
Speaker 5: shop them where you know, they've over purchased, they have
Speaker 5: too much inventory, and off they go to the outlet.
Speaker 5: That's that's kind of my jam. It always has been,
Speaker 5: you know, the the outlets of the nice stores is
Speaker 5: where I find myself. But I also find myself in
Speaker 5: secondhand stores and thrift stores. And I'll tell you what.
Speaker 5: I did a thrift store video a couple of years ago,
Speaker 5: and I found the most exquisite designer dress that was
Speaker 5: about six hundred and ninety eight dollars that I got
Speaker 5: for under one hundred dollars. It was ridiculous. It was
Speaker 5: so beautiful and so stunning. So you can, I mean,
Speaker 5: you can sometimes find those quality pieces. I found a
Speaker 5: vintage Ralph Lauren leather pair of pants. Classic, beautiful, but
Speaker 5: you just have to spend time. And you also have
Speaker 5: to know not all resale stores are created equal. Some
Speaker 5: are in maybe higher end areas, some carry a different
Speaker 5: type of clothing, so you kind of have to look
Speaker 5: for those. But I have found treasures in places like that,
Speaker 5: and again, it just kind of hooks me back to
Speaker 5: my time with my Nana and that hunt and being
Speaker 5: able to find some really good pieces. And I've also
Speaker 5: been able to haggle and get some wiggle room and
Speaker 5: prices in places like that too.
Speaker 4: I'm with you on the hunt.
Speaker 3: I do enjoy that I have to watch that as
Speaker 3: an activity or just something to do. It can the
Speaker 3: thrill of the hunt can play into the ways that
Speaker 3: we impulse spend, but it can also really benefit us
Speaker 3: in being patient for the thing that we're looking for
Speaker 3: and allowing ourselves the space to look for the item
Speaker 3: and find just the right item. I'm curious, as you're
Speaker 3: talking about a lot of these timeless pieces, have you
Speaker 3: noticed your style change over the decades, Like from your
Speaker 3: thirties to your forties to your fifties, have you had
Speaker 3: to kind of redefine what your style is even though
Speaker 3: you've kind of gone towards some timeless pieces.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's, you know, such an interesting question. I find
Speaker 5: that there's there's a common thread in there in that
Speaker 5: I love experimentation and I'm not afraid to try things.
Speaker 5: So I like that I'm kind of an outside the
Speaker 5: box thinker when it comes to fashion, and I can't
Speaker 5: really say I'm pigeonholed into a certain type of a look.
Speaker 5: But as I've gotten older, I also figure out it's like,
Speaker 5: you know, when you go in your closet, what continues
Speaker 5: to hang and what are you wearing on repeat over
Speaker 5: and over and over. And I just find that I like,
Speaker 5: I guess, if I were to describe it, I've morphed
Speaker 5: into a little bit more of a Ralph Lauren style overall.
Speaker 5: I like that sort of all American classic elegance. I
Speaker 5: love denim, I love straight fitting pieces. I'm not an
Speaker 5: overly ruffled, you know, frilly kind kind of a person,
Speaker 5: but I will still play around, so, you know, maybe
Speaker 5: seventy percent of my wardrobe will have a certain esthetic
Speaker 5: and then the other thirty percent will play with a
Speaker 5: little bit of trend in something that's different. But I
Speaker 5: just I find that straighter pieces, pieces that are a
Speaker 5: little more form fitting to my physique tend to flatter
Speaker 5: me better than clothes where I get lost, so I
Speaker 5: just have to be careful of that.
Speaker 3: I think that's one of the beautiful aspects of aging,
Speaker 3: if we can choose to embrace it, is having our
Speaker 3: mind about us a little bit more, feeling really established
Speaker 3: in who we are, what we like, what looks good
Speaker 3: on us, what we feel confident in, and being able
Speaker 3: to really lean into that rather than I don't know
Speaker 3: what should I wear? Who am I with?
Speaker 1: Hopeless a lot of the times pining for top like
Speaker 1: younger times like that feel.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: In hindsight, you think you had it maybe more figured out,
Speaker 1: or it was easy, but like when you were living
Speaker 1: in it, it was not so Like I don't know
Speaker 1: what this thing in our heads is is where we
Speaker 1: like romanticize other parts of our lives even though they
Speaker 1: had just as many like struggles.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I think for you guys too, here is such
Speaker 5: a neat opportunity is that you're at this point where
Speaker 5: you can say, all right, you know, I'm going to
Speaker 5: start to do it differently. I'm going to figure out
Speaker 5: what my look is or I'm going to play around
Speaker 5: with this and I'm really going to try to dial
Speaker 5: it in. And there's no better way, by the way,
Speaker 5: than taking photos of yourself. Because it's one thing to
Speaker 5: look at yourself in a mirror. It's a whole other
Speaker 5: thing to photograph yourself and see. It's odd what that does,
Speaker 5: but I'm telling you it's so powerful seeing yourself in
Speaker 5: a photograph. So you can even start taking pictures of
Speaker 5: yourself in clothes that you have and see what really
Speaker 5: looks great, get rid of what doesn't, and then figure out, okay, well,
Speaker 5: this kind of a look works for me. How can
Speaker 5: I kind of branch that off, maybe do different colors,
Speaker 5: maybe instead of the genes, put in a pencil skirt,
Speaker 5: you know, to start making it a little bit wider,
Speaker 5: but still having an aesthetic that is always on point
Speaker 5: for you. And it's a great thing to do. And
Speaker 5: then it's like, Okay, what's going to be my wow moment?
Speaker 5: What am I going to do? Am I going to
Speaker 5: pop a fun you know, bright colored purse with this,
Speaker 5: or I'm going to change up my hair or you know,
Speaker 5: little things can make such a big difference. They can
Speaker 5: make you feel so confident. They can also completely separate
Speaker 5: you from the pack, and that's one thing I've always enjoyed.
Speaker 5: That's one thing I've always encouraged women to do is
Speaker 5: branch out. Don't don't feel like you got to be
Speaker 5: like everybody else or look like everybody else. You know,
Speaker 5: you do you in the moment, and that is the
Speaker 5: coolest look there is, not what's on, you know, the runway,
Speaker 5: it's it's you looking exactly like you think you should.
Speaker 4: Good word.
Speaker 3: Yeah, speaking of aging gracefully and kind of embracing this
Speaker 3: process as we're moving life. I'm curious to hear your
Speaker 3: wisdom and insight on maybe any perspective shifts you've experienced
Speaker 3: around shopping or consumption that maybe is different now than
Speaker 3: it was in your maybe twenties or thirties.
Speaker 5: Oh, it's huge. That's probably the best question you could
Speaker 5: have asked me, because I would say when I was younger,
Speaker 5: I was definitely more of an emotional shopper. You know,
Speaker 5: shopping fixed my problems. Retail therapy. It's no joke. I mean,
Speaker 5: there's a reason why that phrase is you so frequently.
Speaker 5: It was my happy place, it was my solace, it
Speaker 5: was my comfort, it was my way to fix problems
Speaker 5: in life. And you know, we all know it doesn't
Speaker 5: it's it's immediate, But then there's that instant guilt why
Speaker 5: did I do that? Or you know, the returns, or
Speaker 5: just the frustration of you know, that was just a
Speaker 5: bad purchase from a bad time and moment. And so
Speaker 5: I just started to really pay attention to that and
Speaker 5: realize that retail isn't going to fix relationships. It's not
Speaker 5: going to fix frustration with you know, maybe a job
Speaker 5: not moving along as fast as I thought it should have,
Speaker 5: or who knows what I mean. There are a million
Speaker 5: excuses of why we use retail to feel better in
Speaker 5: the moment. So I got real with that and started
Speaker 5: to find other ways to feel better in the moment,
Speaker 5: you know, to practice different healthy habits, you know, meditate
Speaker 5: on something, pray about something, work on something, be patient,
Speaker 5: you know, grant myself grace, let it go. Stop feeling
Speaker 5: like I needed a pacifier in the moment. And that's
Speaker 5: that's what shopping can do. It's a pacifier for us adults.
Speaker 5: And you know the other thing too, is, you know,
Speaker 5: I wanted a plan. I wanted a plan for my future.
Speaker 5: I wanted my financial future to look a certain way,
Speaker 5: and I knew that if I continued on that trajectory
Speaker 5: of overspending, I wasn't going to get where I needed
Speaker 5: to go. So there was a big hyper correction that
Speaker 5: took place for me in my in my I would
Speaker 5: really say late forties or fifties, where there was a
Speaker 5: big shift in my mindset about money spending and what
Speaker 5: really brings happiness. And I think you know, and you
Speaker 5: guys will find this out too, there's something really really
Speaker 5: beautiful about your fifties where your priorities just start to
Speaker 5: shift because of where you are in your life. You know,
Speaker 5: we've got kids that are growing up and going off
Speaker 5: to school. We have parents who are aging and may
Speaker 5: need our care. We're realizing that the quality of relationships
Speaker 5: and friendships matter more than the latest Gucci bag, and
Speaker 5: you know, things that we we gave priority to. So
Speaker 5: we get real with life. We get real with ourselves,
Speaker 5: We get real with our bodies and our minds and
Speaker 5: our direction and our purpose and our passion, and suddenly
Speaker 5: all that stuff just stops mattering. And that's such a
Speaker 5: good thing. So I have found this incredible purging and reprioritizing,
Speaker 5: which has been very freeing, And I love that you
Speaker 5: guys are doing this podcast. I love that you're having
Speaker 5: these conversations now, and I love that you're kind of
Speaker 5: helping people in your age and demographic nip it in
Speaker 5: the bud and nip it early so that you can
Speaker 5: really set yourself up and to yourself up for tremendous success,
Speaker 5: probably far sooner and earlier than I did, which I
Speaker 5: think is amazing.
Speaker 3: Similar to all the teenagers who are out here with
Speaker 3: their anti wrinkle green, we're out here with our purging
Speaker 3: in our thirties.
Speaker 1: Yes, we're not buying useless products so that we have
Speaker 1: more money for our Irish Exactly exactly.
Speaker 3: Do you Dominique while we have you here? This is
Speaker 3: a bit of a curveball question, but I think something
Speaker 3: that at least Jen and I have been interested in.
Speaker 3: I believe our listeners too, as we kind of look
Speaker 3: to people who are steps ahead of us kind of
Speaker 3: helpful mindsets. And I think I'm hearing from you in
Speaker 3: particular that you have really embraced moving through your forties
Speaker 3: and fifties, where I see so much of society pushing
Speaker 3: against that grasping for youth. Not that we can't look good, right,
Speaker 3: We're talking about how to care for our skin and
Speaker 3: how to dress well. But it also sounds like embracing
Speaker 3: each season of life. And I'm curious if you have
Speaker 3: any kind of overarching thoughts or insight on how we
Speaker 3: can do that. How can we enter our forties, enter
Speaker 3: our fifties in a way that is I mean, maybe yeah,
Speaker 3: openness to it rather than kind of railing against it.
Speaker 5: Sure, I mean, you can't fight the inevitable. It's going
Speaker 5: to happen, right, It's going to happen. Does it mean
Speaker 5: that we stop caring? No, And that's where I that's
Speaker 5: where I draw the line. It's like, I'm going to
Speaker 5: care in that I'm going to take care of myself.
Speaker 5: Why Because I want to live for as long as
Speaker 5: I can, as healthy as I can. I'd like to
Speaker 5: look great during the process, have fun with that. The
Speaker 5: expression of that is joy, by the way, And if
Speaker 5: it comes from a place of it's for me and
Speaker 5: not for society, not for my spouse, not for my friends.
Speaker 5: I do this for me because it brings me internal joy,
Speaker 5: then that's that's from a good, healthy place. But at
Speaker 5: the same time, while we do all these things, you know,
Speaker 5: we do our retine and we try to prevent sun exposure,
Speaker 5: and we you know, eat healthy diets and make good
Speaker 5: choices and get more rest and embrace and more frugal
Speaker 5: mindset so that we actually have a future that we
Speaker 5: can enjoy and we're not forced to work well into
Speaker 5: our seventies and eighties because social Security just isn't enough
Speaker 5: to cover the bills. And that's my generation. Lord only
Speaker 5: knows if you gals are even going to get social Security.
Speaker 5: So you know, these things are important. But what comes
Speaker 5: with all of that, in my mindset is there's got
Speaker 5: to be grace. There has to be acceptance for what
Speaker 5: it is that we can't change, right, because otherwise you're
Speaker 5: going to go through this stage of your life. And
Speaker 5: I really you know, people say, well, I'm in my
Speaker 5: second half of life. Well, no, not really, It's I'm
Speaker 5: really in my last third of life, you know, just
Speaker 5: because I'm in my fifties, we call it midlife. But
Speaker 5: do most of us live to one hundred? No, you know,
Speaker 5: we live to a lot of people in their seventies eighties,
Speaker 5: some who are very fortunate in nineties. But if I'm
Speaker 5: fifty seven and I'm doing the math, that's the last
Speaker 5: third of my life. So how do I want to
Speaker 5: look at this last third of my life? Well, I
Speaker 5: want to I want to do it with excellence, but
Speaker 5: at the same time, I want to do it in
Speaker 5: a way where I honor and I understand that some
Speaker 5: things may not work in my favor, or no matter
Speaker 5: what I do, my skin's going to crape, or I
Speaker 5: may have you know, the crinkling on the arms and
Speaker 5: the crinkling above the knees and this or that, or
Speaker 5: you know, my hips may hurt or whatever. And to me,
Speaker 5: that's where acceptance comes in, and that's where faith comes in,
Speaker 5: and that's where just acknowledging that I can do what
Speaker 5: I can do and the rest I have to put
Speaker 5: it up to him. And I think there's a huge
Speaker 5: relief and lease in that process, and it allows you
Speaker 5: to get through this next chapter humbly and joyfully and
Speaker 5: you know, hopefully for as long and as many healthy
Speaker 5: years as we possibly can have.
Speaker 3: Thanks for taking us to church and that little cab
Speaker 3: dog I knew that we threw you a different one
Speaker 3: went a little bit off script, but it was soup
Speaker 3: for the soul certainly, and super helpful. I think, very
Speaker 3: in line with even aspects of what we talk about
Speaker 3: with money and how we embrace our season and work
Speaker 3: within the parameters in which we've been given and.
Speaker 4: Be grateful through it in a way.
Speaker 3: To kind of practice contentment without becoming complacent in it either. So, yeah,
Speaker 3: I appreciate your perspective on that. Do you know what
Speaker 3: I also appreciate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's bring it back. Let's bring it back around
Speaker 1: to the regular scheduled content.
Speaker 4: Of the week.
Speaker 6: That's right, it's time for the best minute of your
Speaker 6: entire week. Maybe a baby was born and his name
Speaker 6: is Williams. Maybe you've paid off your mortgage, Maybe your
Speaker 6: car died and you're happy to not have to pay
Speaker 6: that bill anymore. That's bills, Buffalo Bills, Bill Clinton. This
Speaker 6: is the bill of the.
Speaker 1: Week, Dominique. We said we would yell at you, and
Speaker 1: this is the time where we invite all of our
Speaker 1: guests and listeners to share with us your favorite bill
Speaker 1: for the week.
Speaker 5: Anybody is there such a thing that's a favorite bill?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 1: I mean we've been doing this is episode? What episode
Speaker 1: is this four hundred and fifty two and there have
Speaker 1: been four hundred and fifty one bills?
Speaker 5: Wow? Okay, so does this mean, I pick pick a
Speaker 5: bill that I like to pay, or pick a bill
Speaker 5: that I've paid, or.
Speaker 4: Anything, or if you know a person named Bill, those
Speaker 4: are our favorite.
Speaker 1: People named Bill. Or pets named Bill are our general favorites.
Speaker 1: But we'll take the money side as well.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, two favorite Bills. So my former co anchor
Speaker 5: in Houston, his name was Bill Bisa, So name wise,
Speaker 5: he's my favorite Bill for sure because he's such a
Speaker 5: dear friend and I adore him. My other favorite Bill. Funny,
Speaker 5: it still related to the TV news business. There was
Speaker 5: some bet in the control room. I anchor the co
Speaker 5: host the news for morning on Merit on Doctor Phil's
Speaker 5: network here in the Dallas area, and my executive producer.
Speaker 5: There was some bet between the EP and the director
Speaker 5: that I would say something, and Andrew placed a bet
Speaker 5: that she's going to say it, and sure enough I
Speaker 5: said it, and so he got the bill and I'm like,
Speaker 5: what was all of this about? And they told me,
Speaker 5: and I forgot what it was. Well I'm like, I
Speaker 5: want it. So now I've got that bill and it
Speaker 5: sits in my makeup room because they won the bet
Speaker 5: over something that I said. So at least unpredictable.
Speaker 4: You said it, you get it. I said, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: that's awesome.
Speaker 5: I know. So they are my two favorite bills.
Speaker 4: Those are great.
Speaker 1: Those are those are samples the bills like Bills on
Speaker 1: the Wall and Bill People. I think those are some
Speaker 1: of the tops.
Speaker 4: So yeah, thanks for sharing that with us.
Speaker 3: If you all listening have a bill that you want
Speaker 3: to share, if it has to do with winning a
Speaker 3: bill that was bet on you or your favorite person
Speaker 3: named Bill, or your name is Bill, Frugal Friends podcast
Speaker 3: dot com slash Bill, leave it for us.
Speaker 4: We cannot wait. And now it's time for.
Speaker 1: Around, all right, So for this week's Lightning Round, we
Speaker 1: will all answer this question that Dominique will have you
Speaker 1: go first. What's your favorite timeless piece that's in your
Speaker 1: closet right now?
Speaker 5: My favorite timeless piece I have. Wow, I've got a
Speaker 5: black Victor Rolf jacket that when I tell you, the
Speaker 5: construction of this jacket is solid. I mean this jacket
Speaker 5: and I think it was made late seventies early eighties
Speaker 5: again vintage resale. This sucker is indestructible and it is
Speaker 5: probably one of my favorite black jackets because it's almost
Speaker 5: like a long jacket short coat type thing, so I
Speaker 5: can style this in so many ways. I've had this
Speaker 5: jacket if I were to guess anywhere from fifteen to
Speaker 5: twenty years, and it looks impeccable, like I just bought it.
Speaker 4: I love it.
Speaker 1: How do you how do you clean something like that?
Speaker 1: Do you send it for dry cleaning?
Speaker 5: Do you okay, definitely send it for dry cleaning?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 1: Do you ever get I'm sorry, I smitch. Do you
Speaker 1: ever get your like, find something you love but it's
Speaker 1: not like quite the right size? Do you ever like
Speaker 1: get something tailored?
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I'm so glad you guys brought that up.
Speaker 3: I have.
Speaker 5: Some of the dresses that I wear on air I
Speaker 5: got on Amazon for thirty eight bucks because I just
Speaker 5: I don't want to. You know, when I was in
Speaker 5: news before, I would spend a lot of money for
Speaker 5: on air clothing, and I just, you know, at this
Speaker 5: space and stage of my life, I'm not feeling it.
Speaker 5: I mean, I have some pieces that I got from
Speaker 5: let's say Newman's Last Call or Office Avenue, but I
Speaker 5: have found some great pieces on Amazon that have just
Speaker 5: needed a little bit of tailoring and alteration to make
Speaker 5: them look like they came from those other two places
Speaker 5: I mentioned, And I kid you not these outfits that
Speaker 5: I've worn people, So where'd you get that? Where'd you
Speaker 5: get that? And I just jokingly laugh. I'm like Amazon
Speaker 5: and my tailor, and that's it. A well tailored piece
Speaker 5: of clothing. You can find something vintage resale, take it
Speaker 5: to your tailor, get it fitted perfectly to you. It
Speaker 5: will look like you spent a million bucks. That to
Speaker 5: me is one of the best secrets around that people
Speaker 5: I don't think utilize enough of. Is a good tailor.
Speaker 5: It's a game changer for how your clothes look and fit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because clothes are such a difficult thing, especially if
Speaker 1: you're shopping them second hand, and just a little bit
Speaker 1: of tailoring can make it make you feel it can
Speaker 1: change like the way you feel in it, too, which
Speaker 1: is half the battle.
Speaker 5: It feels like a custom made item. Why because it
Speaker 5: is a custom made item. And so you were able
Speaker 5: to save on one end, all right, so you spent
Speaker 5: a little bit on the other. But I can guarantee
Speaker 5: you that items going to fit you even better than
Speaker 5: something that you may have found from a higher end
Speaker 5: store that still wasn't tailored for you. I've seen that
Speaker 5: happen time and time again. Tailoring, to me, is the
Speaker 5: edge that makes all the difference.
Speaker 3: I am just shocked that you had to come up
Speaker 3: with your own on air clothing. I would have thought
Speaker 3: that there was dressing assistants whatever they call them.
Speaker 5: Yeah, wardrobe, wardrobe. It's funny. You know, my previous job,
Speaker 5: we did all of our wardrobe, hair and makeup, and
Speaker 5: then at this new job, they have makeup artists there.
Speaker 5: But I have just grown so accustomed to doing my
Speaker 5: own makeup, and since I have a YouTube channel, to me,
Speaker 5: it feels really weird passing the baton to something, you
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. I mean, it's almost counterintuitive. So
Speaker 5: I do my own makeup. We still pick, you know,
Speaker 5: our own clothes, and yeah, I mean it's there's there's
Speaker 5: no wardrobe. It would be neat, you know. But here's
Speaker 5: then here in lies the problem. Let's say they picked
Speaker 5: a department store to provide wardrobe. Well, okay, now you're
Speaker 5: having to deal with what's right off of the rack,
Speaker 5: and it's not altered, it's not tailored, it may not
Speaker 5: look just right. So you know, there's there's a plus.
Speaker 3: Mine's right right, you have autonomy in it, but we
Speaker 3: also have responsibility.
Speaker 5: Yeah, correct, and there's that, But I'm also just trying
Speaker 5: not to overspend there too. I rotate more I wear,
Speaker 5: and I'll mix and match a little bit more. I
Speaker 5: just don't care as much. Maybe again there's that over
Speaker 5: fifty thing. I just don't care. I don't need to
Speaker 5: have a ton of pieces of clothing to make me
Speaker 5: an effective, you know, morning show host.
Speaker 4: I just don't agreed.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh okay, my closet. I I have a coat
Speaker 1: that I got from a thrist store, but I don't
Speaker 1: want to double down on the coat because also it's
Speaker 1: Florida and.
Speaker 5: Actually I wear it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I would say, my, okay.
Speaker 3: So support your local library T shirt? Is it what
Speaker 3: I see you in most often?
Speaker 1: That is, I just got a new T shirt that
Speaker 1: says support your local library because I've decided like that's
Speaker 1: my I'm officially a one issue voter and that's like
Speaker 1: my issue is the support of local libraries. So right,
Speaker 1: But no, I was actually going to say the the
Speaker 1: it's called a jumpsuit, but it's just like a comfortable romper.
Speaker 5: From pack, like a boiler suit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, pact, it's a sustainable clothing company that's pretty affordable,
Speaker 1: and they just have this cotton jumpsuit that I have
Speaker 1: been living in.
Speaker 4: I just love it. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've gotten so minimalist with my wardrobe that I
Speaker 3: could practically say I can't part with any of it.
Speaker 4: It's all here to stay.
Speaker 5: It's all necessary.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But if I were to pick, I'm given the
Speaker 3: climate in which we live, one of my summer dresses.
Speaker 4: If you made me pick, I think I probably could.
Speaker 3: But I practically live in summer dresses three quarters of
Speaker 3: the year, and I feel like they're the ones that
Speaker 3: I have are perfect for even going out into the
Speaker 3: garden and watering my plants, to being able to cook,
Speaker 3: to work, to go on a quick walk, to just
Speaker 3: lounge around because they're so comfy, and yet I wouldn't
Speaker 3: mind taking like a last minute meeting in it because
Speaker 3: I'm already dressed up. It feels but it's comfy, It's true.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Do you like accessorizing those? Do I like taking them up?
Speaker 4: Not a ton?
Speaker 3: No, I'm pretty simple. I've got my glove down and
Speaker 3: catching me in a dress is okay. Maybe yes to
Speaker 3: lipstick that feels similarly to you, how you're talking about
Speaker 3: your grandmother. For my grandmother, it was always lipstick. You
Speaker 3: had to put on the lipstick. Even now she's she
Speaker 3: has Alzheimer's, she's in her nineties, but catch her without
Speaker 3: her lipstick not happening.
Speaker 4: And I think it.
Speaker 3: As I've gotten older, I've realized the benefit of that.
Speaker 3: You could nearly do nothing else with your makeup and
Speaker 3: just a perfectly matched lipstick. Yeah, that I will do
Speaker 3: to elevate it. Yeah, I love that. I love that
Speaker 3: about you.
Speaker 4: Thank you job. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I also I just when you were when you were thinking,
Speaker 1: I was thinking the rust colored like work pants that
Speaker 1: I have. Oh my gosh, I don't. I haven't worn
Speaker 1: them because it's been too hot to wear pants, but
Speaker 1: they are a staple for me. I'm in those every week.
Speaker 1: They're just this beautiful rust color. I actually got them
Speaker 1: from Amazon. But they're like a it's a work pant,
Speaker 1: but it's feels a little more casual, it feels a
Speaker 1: little bit more breathable, not maybe not breatheable, but flowy, flowy.
Speaker 1: I just love those pants.
Speaker 4: I goods. Yeah, salivating over our wardrobes.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much, Dominique for being with us
Speaker 1: today and inspiring us to look better and afford it
Speaker 1: more feel better about it. If people want more from you,
Speaker 1: where can they go?
Speaker 5: Oh Jen, where can't they go? It seems like I'm everywhere.
Speaker 5: I'm everywhere just like you guys. You can find me
Speaker 5: on social at Dominique Soaksa. My YouTube channel is Dominique
Speaker 5: soaks A TV, so you can find me there. But
Speaker 5: I'm on Instagram and Facebook and TikTok and yeah, all
Speaker 5: the places, all the things I put out content. Let's see,
Speaker 5: I've got my own podcast also, over fifty and Flourishing
Speaker 5: that comes out Mondays, and I do record that in
Speaker 5: video format as you know, so I like to put
Speaker 5: that on my YouTube platform as well. And then you
Speaker 5: can listen on Apple, Spotify, wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Speaker 5: And then the content that we've been talking about, whether
Speaker 5: it's fashion, hair, makeup, beauty, lifestyle, all of that is
Speaker 5: on Thursdays on YouTube. Everything comes out at one o'clock.
Speaker 5: And I would love to have some of your younger
Speaker 5: ladies who are listening to you come and join me.
Speaker 5: You know, it's an opportunity to kind of get a
Speaker 5: leg up and maybe learn something from the older generation
Speaker 5: or get pearls of wisdom a little sooner that you
Speaker 5: get to apply. So it'd you really neat to have you.
Speaker 5: I've got such a broad audience from some twenties and
Speaker 5: thirties all the way up to eighties, and it just
Speaker 5: floors me every time when I see the women who
Speaker 5: were there, So it really feels my heart and I
Speaker 5: appreciate it and I'm so glad I was with you
Speaker 5: guys today.
Speaker 4: Lovely Donique, thank you so much for your time.
Speaker 5: Thank you.
Speaker 1: I loved the conversation, like where it went. It wasn't
Speaker 1: just about like we've had these episodes right on, like
Speaker 1: minimalist skincare routine and saving money on makeup, and this
Speaker 1: was I feel like a refinement of those episodes, even
Speaker 1: our capsule wardrobe episode. I feel like this was a
Speaker 1: distillation of those episodes with some wisdom from like an
Speaker 1: aunt or like a big sister.
Speaker 3: I feel like we owe it to ourselves and our
Speaker 3: listeners to not let someone like Dominique just fly under
Speaker 3: the radar with some of the deeper wisdom and knowledge
Speaker 3: that she was willing to give to us right not
Speaker 3: just talking about what are the specific creams I should
Speaker 3: be putting under my eyes. But what's the mindset that
Speaker 3: I can be moving through life with that's going to
Speaker 3: be beneficial to me in all aspects.
Speaker 4: And I'm so thrilled that she was willing to do that.
Speaker 1: And she's been on YouTube for ten years and she
Speaker 1: has been steadfast in her content and her like. She's
Speaker 1: not anti consumption. She is pro conscious consumption and intentional consumption.
Speaker 1: And she has been steadfast in that. Even over the
Speaker 1: last ten years. The YouTube algorithm has changed to only
Speaker 1: like only like super viral and extreme things go viral
Speaker 1: even on YouTube. We see it on social media. It's
Speaker 1: the same with YouTube. So so many creators alter what
Speaker 1: they put out to appease the algorithm and grow, And
Speaker 1: Dominique has just been steadfast in who she is and
Speaker 1: that is a piece of wisdom I think that we
Speaker 1: can take as content creators, is you know, to be
Speaker 1: continue to be like steadfast in that.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and continuing to provide depth to it too, right,
Speaker 3: Like not just here's one off tip, but how can
Speaker 3: we go deeper? How can we apply these principles to
Speaker 3: all aspects of our lives? How can this be beneficial
Speaker 3: as a whole person?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Can really be like responsible and authentic with the platform.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how do we change how we think about these
Speaker 1: things and what internally motivates us so that we can
Speaker 1: continue to execute these tips that help control our consumption
Speaker 1: and stuff? And so I just appreciate it so much,
Speaker 1: and I am so glad that you guys got to
Speaker 1: hear from her, And thank you so much for listening
Speaker 1: to Frugal Friends. We love reading your kind reviews. We
Speaker 1: especially loved this one from Meredith Mereth. Mary the Dragon
Speaker 1: and Fly says, my friends are tired of hearing me
Speaker 1: talk about this podcast.
Speaker 4: So allright, a reviewer, I love that title. I love it.
Speaker 1: This is a long one, but why I won't go
Speaker 1: through the word for word, but I'll go through the
Speaker 1: important parts. As cringey as it is to say, this
Speaker 1: podcast has actually been life changing. It's useful for women
Speaker 1: in their teens, twenties, thirties, forties, fifties for men. I've
Speaker 1: been on a binge for seven months now and have
Speaker 1: only found two episodes that I didn't find something applicable
Speaker 1: to me, although I often pause the podcast to share
Speaker 1: my own relevant stories and opinions to the empty car. Yes,
Speaker 1: I've learned about personal finance, but I have truly learned
Speaker 1: so much about myself. I learned that I tend to
Speaker 1: make a decision about buying a thing, spending money on it,
Speaker 1: but not to actually own the item, figuring out where
Speaker 1: it would go in my life or in my space.
Speaker 1: Having this one little distinction has really helped me cut
Speaker 1: back on impulse purchases. The emphasis on simplicity caused me
Speaker 1: to actually see what's in my space, which lets you
Speaker 1: an accidental no spend challenge. Three months without getting groceries
Speaker 1: and I only went back to the store because I
Speaker 1: ran out of better I learned what's actually important to
Speaker 1: me in my life and was able to make big
Speaker 1: life changes by making relatively small financial changes. And probably
Speaker 1: the biggest thing I have learned, however, is from Jill.
Speaker 1: If you do an awkward thing enough times, it becomes
Speaker 1: a thing. The first time it will be awkward. The
Speaker 1: twentieth time, you'll be singing along to the Bill of
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Speaker 4: The Dragonfly, I know we could not.
Speaker 3: That is just so beautiful and timely for this episode,
Speaker 3: which is probably thanks to Goldie matching us up with
Speaker 3: this one.
Speaker 4: We love the.
Speaker 3: Timeless advice and we're so glad that you're receiving that. Certainly,
Speaker 3: not every episode is going to be for every person,
Speaker 3: but it is so rewarding to see that what we
Speaker 3: are putting out there is being consumed by people of
Speaker 3: a variety of age ranges, living in a variety of
Speaker 3: different places, and really finding relevance to yourself. And I
Speaker 3: think that's a testament to just I mean, not some
Speaker 3: of the advice, but I think even how we can
Speaker 3: move through life, that we can find kind of what
Speaker 3: works for us and then apply it differently as we
Speaker 3: age and grow. So anyways, Marry the Dragonfly. That was
Speaker 3: so beautiful, and we really appreciate all the time that
Speaker 3: you put into leaving that review. If anyone else listening
Speaker 3: feels as though they've got something to say that might
Speaker 3: be encouraging the price, or others have.
Speaker 1: Called you annoying because you only talk about frugal friends,
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Speaker 1: All right, so maybe let's talk about I wish Travis
Speaker 1: had responded to this text message because as soon as
Speaker 1: we wrapped up this interview, Travis Smith, my beloved husband,
Speaker 1: sent me pictures of a dog and he said, want
Speaker 1: a puppy, miniature puddle. And clearly we talk about dogs
Speaker 1: so little that it auto corrected poodle to puddle because
Speaker 1: we never mentioned do We never talk about dogs. And
Speaker 1: it is a cute dog, but like, it's not I
Speaker 1: don't need that dog. And so I just responded, I
Speaker 1: was like, whose dog is that? And he hasn't told me?
Speaker 4: Who's Like, it's yours?
Speaker 1: Now I got it for you.
Speaker 4: What do you want to name it?
Speaker 1: So he can't bring a dog home today because he's
Speaker 1: going to a concert right after work, so he could
Speaker 1: legostically even do this.
Speaker 4: Sorry, I can't have a puppy. I'm going to a
Speaker 4: concert tonight.
Speaker 1: It's so true. He's not coming home after work, He's
Speaker 1: going straight to Tampa, so he how would he get
Speaker 1: a He can't bring the puppy to the Coheed show?
Speaker 3: Is the puppy on a skateboard in one of the pictures.
Speaker 4: Yes, the puppy.
Speaker 1: If they should have explained the puppies pictures he's in
Speaker 1: or she. I don't know if this dog is on
Speaker 1: a skateboard right here, and then on a person's.
Speaker 3: Lap inside in a car in a car, so the
Speaker 3: puppy is coming with them somewhere.
Speaker 1: I don't know where. Can I can't say I recognize
Speaker 1: these bracelets or this car side door, I can't say
Speaker 1: I recognize it.
Speaker 3: It's the person Travis is carpooling with to the show
Speaker 3: that they're bringing the puppy to that he's bringing the
Speaker 3: puppy afterwards.
Speaker 1: I know who he's going to that show with. And
Speaker 1: I don't believe that they would just give Travis a dog.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm gonna stay tuned.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm interested to see whose dog. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: probably one of his students got a dog and they're,
Speaker 1: you know, kids, so they can't like dogs are work.
Speaker 1: Dogs are like children, and they didn't realize they weren't
Speaker 1: ready to be parents.
Speaker 4: So your guests, we're gonna have to stay tuned.
Speaker 7: You might be a dog mom. I'm absolutely not a
Speaker 7: dog mom. I'm already you're already a mom, so might
Speaker 7: as well, and definitely not to a miniature puddle. No
Speaker 7: offense to miniature puddles.
Speaker 4: You can't jump in those puddles very well.
Speaker 1: TBD.
Speaker 4: Wow