WEBVTT - The Good Fight with Busy Philipps 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:09.639 Find Out and podcast. All Right, so we're obviously very excited. 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:12.640 For those of you who follow My Beautiful wife on Instagram, 0:00:12.760 --> 0:00:16.040 you realize that we just made a huge announcement last 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:20.400 Friday in celebration of our new book, The Good Fight. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:25.159 So excited. It's available for pre order now. Um. It 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.520 comes out in September. We're still doing some minor edits 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:29.440 to it right now, but we really wanted to release 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:34.040 it um now, and especially on our five year wedding anniversary, 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:39.000 because you know, when an anniversary comes around, I just 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.600 feel like this it's just like the perfect time. It 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:43.880 was like the perfect time to post about it. Yeah, 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.480 it was. And the fact that you know, we're able 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:50.000 to share it on our anniversary when this book is 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:54.880 about the last five years, as recent as this past January, like, 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:57.800 I mean it is, it is recent, even more recent 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:03.279 because we talked about Quarantine too, You're right, yeah, so yeah, exactly. So, 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.160 I mean, you know, it's it's been the last few 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:09.200 edits have been very recent, so it's been literally almost 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.640 the last five years to date. You know, of our relationship, 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:17.240 of our life, our past growing up relationships that we 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:20.200 had in the beginning, How why we are the way 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:23.160 that we are who we were when we started dating 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:26.280 each other and not knowing some of the skeletons in 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:32.520 our closet, and um, it's it's exciting because for me, 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:35.600 this is the book that I needed five little not 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:38.399 five years ago, but four years ago. And the fact 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:43.360 that we wrote a book that hopefully can show people 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.679 that if you're willing to work together, um, you can 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:49.240 not only be a better person, but also a better partner. 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:51.640 And I think to like, it's not just a relationship book. 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:55.880 So if you're single, if you're divorced, if you're like whatever, 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.040 whatever you are, if you're a guy, if you're a girl. 0:01:58.160 --> 0:01:59.720 I mean, this book is written from both of our 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:01.920 spective so you get the guy perspective, you get the 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:04.960 girl perspective, and it's really just about things that we've 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:07.760 learned along the way to be a better person too. 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:12.200 So it's like how to talk to a friend or yeah, absolutely, 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:14.400 I mean, it's it's about all kinds of relationships that 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:16.560 you have in your life. And that's what you know. 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.360 One of our things is that we want people to 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:20.560 know when when we promote and talk about this book 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.200 is you don't have to be in a relationship. You 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.640 don't have to be dating or or any fact that, 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:26.639 like Jenna was saying, you can be single. You can 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.360 be it doesn't matter what gender, race, creed, color, like, 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:33.880 marital status, relationship status, it doesn't matter, even if it's 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:37.520 it's complicated on Facebook. Whatever. It is, like, there's something 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:39.079 in this book that you can relate to and probably 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:42.040 learn to take into your next relationship, whether it's with 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:46.120 a loving relationship, a parent, a friend, anybody. Yeah. I 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:49.560 also love how each chapter starts with a fight, not 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:52.000 a fight, but it's some not all of them start 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.160 with the fight, but it's then we go into like 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.280 how we could have communicated better, or how we could 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.280 have done it differently, or and then really introspectively looking 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:02.240 at it. No, it's cool though, because it's it kind 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.560 of gets you excited about each chapter where it's not 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:07.520 just we just start off telling you all the answers 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:09.720 or because we don't have because we don't have them. 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.160 It's you know, we take you through these arguments and 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:14.320 these fights. You know that Jan and I had a 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:17.160 lot of fun really kind of reminiscing on and bringing 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:20.639 back up on how we remember that fight and that argument, 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:24.320 um and you know, we go through how we resolved 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:27.280 it then how we would now, and you know we 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.760 laugh at ourselves that how we handle it in the past. 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:32.920 I also love how in the book we say a 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:35.480 lot we are not experts. Clearly, I don't want to 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:37.400 listen to this podcast can know that we are not 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:40.200 experts at anything. But we've done a lot of therapy 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:43.080 and we've learned so many tools that we just want 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:46.000 to be able to say, hey, this is what has helped, 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:48.040 and this is also tools that we need to keep 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:51.240 working on. You know, we need to keep working on 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:55.440 as individuals and also as you know, each other's lovers. 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:58.560 But I just you know, even like when we've been 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:00.120 reading it in the edits, it's like, wow, we need 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:01.960 to do better at this. Yeah, I mean we call 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:04.280 ourselves out, you know when like Jana was just saying, 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:06.480 when we go back and read those edits or even 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.560 throughout the book, we call ourselves out. And you guys 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:11.400 are gonna read things that we haven't shared before. I mean, 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.440 you guys think we're vulnerable on this podcast, Like we 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.000 share things that you all haven't heard, that we haven't 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:19.000 talked about um up into this book, and it was 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:23.000 really important for us that we this book comes directly 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.520 from our mouth. Like we didn't get a ghostwriter, we 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:27.719 didn't get anyone to help us. It came from Janna 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.919 and I. It took a lot of work almost we 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:35.479 saw amazing editor Sydney, who helped us, no question, to 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:37.800 make him professional and make them go and go together. 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.640 Because I write an exclamation points. So like when I 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:44.600 was writing my section, like I would write like okay, 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:48.279 so dot dot dot and Mike's like, okay. He every 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.520 time he'd read my section, he'd be like I love you, 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:51.960 and I'm like, why are you laughing at me? He's like, 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:56.120 because you literally write how you talk. And we kept it. 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:59.040 We didn't because the ghostwriter would have taken my voice 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.440 and just like it would have been so cold. And 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:05.000 nothing against ghostwriters anything that, but they just it's so 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:08.000 important that people are able to, you know, read this 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:10.360 for this kind of book, that read this like we 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.600 are talking to them and we literally are. So when 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:15.880 you see Jana's portions like okay, so this is what happened, 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:20.200 and it's it's amazing. But we're so proud of this. 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:23.120 I mean, we've worked really, really hard. This has been 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:24.880 our baby for the last almost a year to date 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:28.240 when we signed with HarperCollins, and we just really really 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.240 hope y'all are willing to buy it and spend the 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.279 time reading it. We promise you won't be let down. 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:35.440 We're so excited, and maybe we can share a few 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:40.080 tidbits along the way and teases, because there's some good 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:41.839 teases in there. Maybe you know what we should do 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:46.080 is is reenact some the dialogue of the of an argument. 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:48.719 That would be really fun to do. Now, yeah, we 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.520 should definitely teach some of it just until official on sale, 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:54.480 but for right now, you can preorder it. You can 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:56.719 go to Jana and Mike dot com and pre order 0:05:56.880 --> 0:05:59.440 the book. Um, the Good Fight, And we're so excited. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.520 Take a break, and then let's recap our five year 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:17.960 wedding anniversary. All right, So well, first of all, we 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:21.200 have a great guest on today, Busy Phillips. Fantastically so 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:24.360 excited to talk to her. She's awesome, love how she's 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.559 just everything she stands for him. I'm just really pumped 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:29.240 to talk to her. But did you have fun in 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:32.080 our five year I did, honey, you know, and it's funny. 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.840 The morning didn't start out great, right, you know, because 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:37.320 we had some emotions around things in the past obviously 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.080 and we got through them. But which is understandable in 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:44.040 our situation. Mark would say, what emotions? Yeah, yeah, sorry, Mark, 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.880 you're not here to keep digging. And also you were 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.760 bumped because you've kind of planned this anniversary because we 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.760 kind of trade off. And granted this was supposed to 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:53.920 supposed to be a together one that we're going to 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.719 go to Italy four, but those plans got kind of acts. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.279 But the morning, you know, you wanted to go do 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:02.360 kayaking and everything like that, and you had this all, 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:04.960 you know, this outdoor day plan, but it was raining 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:07.880 all day. But how good was it? Just making the 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:09.440 most of it and just spend a time together and 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.200 that's all it's about. Yeah, it was awesome. Um, and 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:18.160 you know, emotions of five years, it's it's it's sometimes 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:23.000 hard to look back on, right, yeah and go like wow, 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.360 like there's a we We we managed to get a 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:30.320 lot in the first five years. Yeah, But I feel 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:33.600 like in a in a way, it's a really cool 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:35.440 And that's why I love like that we announced the 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:37.800 book to on the five year anniversary, because it was 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:41.320 it's such a silver lining, you know, like, yeah, we've 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.640 been through stuff, but like we've really worked our butts 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:46.320 off to get to where we're at today. Yeah, there's 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.280 no question. And you know I told this to you 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:53.040 on on our anniversary, but the first five years have 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.760 not been what I promised. You have not been what 0:07:55.800 --> 0:08:01.800 we wanted, um because of me ultimately, And I just 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:04.240 want you to know that I appreciate your strength and 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:08.280 everything in the past five years, and I'm gonna do 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.119 and we'll be doing everything in my power every single 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:14.880 day to make sure that the next five years or 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.160 so great that you that the first five are just 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:20.440 a blur to you, a distant memory. So I love 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.040 you so much and I appreciate you for sticking this 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:26.400 out with me. Well again and thank you. It's very 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:30.160 like terio, um, thank you. You know, it's it's both 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.440 of us. Though at the end of the day, you 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.439 know you you thought just as hard as I did, 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:37.400 because there's days where I'm you know, there's so many 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.840 days where I was just battling you and just being angry, 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:44.120 and I just you know you you stuck it out too, 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.880 and every day is you know, we're we're doing this together. 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:49.800 And I think we're going to have our good and 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.559 bad days. And again just like the book where it's 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:58.400 just end of the day though, like, um, but yeah, 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:01.640 no it was. It was great and I loved I 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.520 hope you enjoyed the dinner I made you. I did. 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:09.840 It was an amazing It's all about effort, it is, 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:12.360 you know, It's all about effort, it really is. But 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.960 I'm excited for the next five and honestly, I wouldn't 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:19.480 I wouldn't change the last five either, because we have 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.920 two beautiful children out of it, and we've learned a lot, 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:26.000 and I'm glad that hopefully all that stuff is out 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:28.960 of the way so that five we can be like, 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:37.200 oh that was you know, breeze. Yeah. Um, speaking of 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:40.880 we got chickens, We did get chickens. I don't know 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.440 what's speaking of meant, but we did get chickens because 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.360 we want to lay some eggs, yea. And before that, well, 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:50.000 we got the chickens because originally Janna wanted house mouse 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:53.040 because we started seeing some mice around our house and 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:55.439 like in the grill and you know, in the backyard, 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:58.160 and Janna was like, can we get a house mouse? Like, 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:01.120 can we domesticate one. I didn't saying why we couldn't though, 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:04.280 because people have hamsters. But then we started to do 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:09.480 some research and people say that mouse, mice, mouseeces, but 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:13.480 nieces are really like dirty and they carry diseases. Yeah, 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:15.360 they're the worst. We'll have to look it up. Like 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.480 they're so cute, Yeah, they're They're one I saw. I 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:20.560 told you I saw in the backyard. Literally looked like 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:24.000 Mickey Mouse, Like these cute little eyes, giant ears, little head. 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:26.600 It was adorable, like I imagine Cinderella, Like I want 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.800 the house mouse that like I want us. Jason is 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:33.120 our guest. But I just thought like maybe we could 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.920 like potty train it because they're just so cute, Like 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:38.599 I wanted to sleep on our little bed, have a 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:41.760 little bed for it. And because we couldn't do that, 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.240 we decided to get chickens instead. But now we have 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:46.960 to get rid of them. We'll not get rid of them. 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:49.240 We have to take them to our friend's farm. Yeah, 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:53.520 so the h o A. We actually though I talked 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:56.120 to the builder. I don't want to get it on 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:59.480 that conversation with the molds and everything else, but anyways, 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.560 we talked to the building and he's like, we'll just 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:04.720 hide the chicken coop, and I'm like, we bought really 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:07.640 cute chicken coop. But long story short, we have some 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.040 really good friends that live about a half a mile 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:11.800 down the road. They have a beautiful farm with lots 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.880 of other chickens. So we're gonna we're gonna keep the 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.360 chickens here until we can, and then we're going to 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:20.400 take them there. And every day Joey is going to 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:21.960 go and take care of him, and she's been doing 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.200 such a good job. She's just like she loves her. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:29.959 Majesty we named him Majesty is hers cars Jason's of course, 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:34.040 and then Shadows mine and then I have Hazel Sweet. 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.560 They're sweet. There are a lot of fun though. We 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:37.839 wish we could keep them here. Eventually we're going to 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:39.920 build on land and then we're going to take our 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:43.400 chickens back, take them back, but until then, we're gonna 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:46.520 store them at our friends, and then we're going to 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.719 collect the eggs absolutely because that's why we got them, 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:53.600 because we eat so many eggs. Anyways, I really want 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.240 a house mouth, so I'm gonna work on that. But um, 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:13.880 get busy, all right, Hey, busy Hey, it's Janna and 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.120 Mike from the Line Down crew. How are you what? 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:21.480 I'm good? How are you guys? How's how's homeschool? You 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:27.800 know what? We stopped because she's yeah. It was our 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:30.880 daughter's four, our daughters four, and then our sons eighteen 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.040 months old. So like we were trying to do what 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.360 they were teaching us in preschool. We're like, okay, you 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.719 know ABC all like the alphabet stuff. But then she 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:41.680 was just getting She just kept saying the wrong letters, 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:43.240 and I was like, but you just said it right 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:45.720 two seconds ago, Like so I was losing my mind. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.360 I was like, you know what, you're four, You're fine, 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:51.120 You're gonna be fine. Like it fine, Everyone's gonna be fine. 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.880 That's the realization I also came to. I was like, 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:56.640 I'm pretty sure everything's gonna be fine. I do feel 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:59.720 for people who have like very young kids, like you guys, 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:02.520 like it is sad is a lot. It is, but 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:04.959 it's also like it doesn't really change that much though, 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:06.520 do you know what I mean? Like it's kind of 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.600 like my son has no idea. Yes, I was gonna 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.520 ask you busy because your kids are eleven and like 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:16.200 six O awesome so with those ages and then being older, 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:19.440 especially the eleven year old, like Jane was saying, I 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:21.720 feel like we've talked about amongst ourselves, we feel like 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:25.000 that's actually even more pressure having someone who is conscious 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:27.240 of what's going on, who is a little bit more active. 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:30.600 And yeah, yeah, but I have to say, like my daughter, 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:32.920 my eleven year old, has been look, this is a 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:37.520 very interesting time to even be having kids this last decade, 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:39.679 you know what I mean. And and my daughter has 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:45.199 been aware of so many things for so long, like, um, 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:47.760 I mean, this is like so dark, but I mean, honestly, 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:54.080 like Newton, the school shooting happened when she was old 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.640 enough to know what that you know, know what it was, 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:03.360 So like she's been aware of the intensity and what 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:07.439 like the and how scary the world is her entire 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:12.240 really her entire school age life. Um, And so she 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:15.439 has a real understanding of this in a way that 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.360 she also just as like, yeah, the world is kind 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.080 of terrible, like you know what I mean, I mean, 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:23.560 not in a just in a very like yeah, things 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:27.560 are bad, things are bad. Cricket, the little one, it 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.480 has loves the names Bertie and Cricket. It's so cute. 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.240 I love it. She's definitely been the one where like 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:37.120 this is the first time something has happened where she's 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:40.880 been examining the world and seeing it in a different 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.640 way and trying to wrap her head around what it means. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:48.160 And um, so you know, we have had more conversations 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:52.240 with her. She asked me like like one or two 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.720 weeks in, we were sitting in the kitchen before I 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.200 started her home school for the day, and um, and 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:01.480 she was like, Mom, I have a question. I was like, 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:04.520 of course, babe, what what's up? And she's like, are 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:09.400 things bad? And I was like are things bad? What 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:13.360 do you mean? And she's like like, uh, with the virus, 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:18.160 I feel like things are bad. Are things bad? Like 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:22.920 in the world. And I was like yes, okay, So 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:26.360 there's where we have to talk. Um, we're very lucky, 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:30.560 we're very privileged. Um, you know, we're And she's like, right, 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:35.000 because you're an actress and the author and host and 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:40.000 everything else. Yeah, not exactly. I'm like, we're healthy. You know, 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:43.640 we have jobs right now, your dad and we're able 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.800 to provide for you guys, and so like, you know, 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:50.880 for all of those reasons, we're you know, very lucky 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.080 and privileged right now. But yeah, like for a lot 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.120 of people it can. This is a really tough time 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:59.560 and you know, we need to just be really aware 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.520 and year out ways to give back. And so this 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:06.600 time we've really spent a lot of just you know, 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:10.280 our time talking about how we give back and in 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:13.960 what ways. And the girls we went through their books 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:18.280 and we donated to a local charity that was distributing 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.880 books to l a USD kids and kids and underserved 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.520 communities here. You know, I think it was interesting for 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:29.320 my daughters to conceptualize that a lot of kids don't 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:33.080 have books in their home, and when they're taking out 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:36.680 of school and they're taken and the libraries are all closed, 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:40.800 they don't have anything to read for fun, you know, 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:44.800 so they don't they those girls, like, we donated boxes 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:47.880 and boxes of books, and you know, I'm so excited 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:50.760 to partner with Walgreens to get the word out about 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.360 Red Nose Day, which also raises so much money for 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.840 kids in need. Yeah, and Jolie had fun last year too. 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:59.880 She got to pick up the noses, Like we went 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:01.920 to Walgreens and you know, she got to see which 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:03.480 one it was, so like she had a lot of 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:06.080 fun doing it too, which is like because remember we 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:07.639 did that last year with her think and it was 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.159 just like it was so nice to be able to 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:11.399 be like and then we're also giving back, you know, 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:14.040 like she's having fun but also giving back. And I 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:17.640 think that people, especially now kind of they do look 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:20.399 for you know, almost like a two for one like 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.120 it's and for me with Red Nose Day. The last 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:25.800 several years, I've used it with my girls as well 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.960 because it is a fun way for them to be 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.640 participatory in giving back and you can like kind of 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:36.280 start those conversations with them because I do think that 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:42.280 there's something especially in this time that's empowering for everyone, 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:46.440 but especially for kids to know that like even though 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:51.879 things can feel scary, that um, they're aware, they know that, 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:55.320 like things are bad, there are ways that we can 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.399 help make things a little bit better for other people. 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.320 Because hopefully that I da would be that if you 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:05.480 were ever in that situation, somebody would do the same 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:10.120 for us. And so like that's the that's the part 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:13.919 where Cricket, like the little light bulb finally turned on 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.239 for her. She's six now in first grade, and like 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:18.680 you know, for Bertie, it's been a part of her. 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:22.600 She's gosh. I mean, she did a backpack drive in 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:26.440 first grade for baby to baby like she's she's been 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:28.440 very aware. She did this year, she did a huge 0:18:28.480 --> 0:18:34.400 thing collecting um like unopened brand new makeup and hair 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:39.199 products and beauty products for the LGBTQ Center here in 0:18:39.359 --> 0:18:43.040 l A for the trans youth, the homeless, trans kids, 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:49.600 um And she collected so much stuff from influencers, actresses 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:53.480 and hair and makeup artists. I mean, that's amazing. But 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:56.320 also Bertie's got year back too, though, because that letter 0:18:56.359 --> 0:18:59.320 that she wrote to eat Like was probably and I 0:18:59.400 --> 0:19:02.399 just have to say, like I remember it was seeing 0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:05.240 that and being like, oh my gosh, like how strong 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:07.800 her daughter is and also like what you've instilled in her. 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:09.640 I just want to say, like, even when I saw that, 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.720 I had I gave you so much, like so many 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.919 kudos for that, because there's so many times when I 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:17.880 wish I could have said that, but I held back 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.399 because I'm like the wind side of me and I 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:21.720 you told me I got the part, and that it's 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:23.919 like so it's but I you know, you do you 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:25.720 play your little pretty part and you go back in 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:27.560 your little box and then you put the bow on it, 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:29.119 and you know, you do for the but it's like, 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:31.919 I just was like, I had so much respect for 0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:35.480 you when that happened and how you responded, and then 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:37.200 what Birdie did on top of it with the letter. 0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:40.159 I was just like, they're just powerful girls, but in 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:44.320 a classy way, and I just really respected that look, 0:19:44.480 --> 0:19:47.560 even if sometimes you're not classy about it, like, but 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:50.479 it was though in a in a classy way. It was. 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:52.960 I think that part of what I what I hoped 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:56.159 to instill in my in my daughter, and and what 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:58.720 I think that I've come to realize even in this 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:03.440 industry and as as women, I think that for too long, 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:06.960 too many of us were sort of fed this idea 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:10.000 that if you're just like quiet and you stay in 0:20:10.040 --> 0:20:13.600 your lane, that then you can like continue to exist. 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:19.480 And the truth is that's not the truth. Um. I mean, 0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:23.160 that's what a lot of people would like for women 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:28.000 and girls to do. But uh, you can make noise 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:32.280 and you can be heard and um and you cannot 0:20:32.400 --> 0:20:39.920 be uh penalized for it. Um because you know, especially now, 0:20:40.280 --> 0:20:44.639 I think with everyone having access to all the information 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:48.240 and social media and being able to share things. Um, 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:52.280 you know, there's a lot of support out there, so 0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:55.119 you know, I think it's really empowering to know that 0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:59.520 that there are places that previously, like you know, in 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:01.560 the enterty in the industry. I don't I don't know 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:05.560 if if I would have felt as comfortable being vocal 0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:09.960 ten years ago, but I just know because of you know, 0:21:10.000 --> 0:21:12.960 my fan base and my immediacy of being able to 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:16.119 get feedback from so you know, social media and the 0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:19.200 people that follow me and support me, and the brands 0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:21.520 that I've worked with, and the relationships that I have 0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:24.840 with with even that side, because that commercial side is 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:28.359 like so important in terms of driving the business, you know, 0:21:28.440 --> 0:21:31.639 especially television, And I was like, there's no point for 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:34.600 me to be quiet about what I view as kind 0:21:34.600 --> 0:21:37.800 of an injustice and something that you know, was really 0:21:37.880 --> 0:21:40.520 unexpected for me. And it was I mean, it wasn't 0:21:40.560 --> 0:21:43.800 like there was no fallout from it other than you know, 0:21:44.680 --> 0:21:48.800