1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:09,639 Speaker 1: Find Out and podcast. All Right, so we're obviously very excited. 2 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:12,640 Speaker 1: For those of you who follow My Beautiful wife on Instagram, 3 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: you realize that we just made a huge announcement last 4 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: Friday in celebration of our new book, The Good Fight. 5 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:25,159 Speaker 1: So excited. It's available for pre order now. Um. It 6 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: comes out in September. We're still doing some minor edits 7 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 1: to it right now, but we really wanted to release 8 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: it um now, and especially on our five year wedding anniversary, 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: because you know, when an anniversary comes around, I just 10 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: feel like this it's just like the perfect time. It 11 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:43,880 Speaker 1: was like the perfect time to post about it. Yeah, 12 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:47,480 Speaker 1: it was. And the fact that you know, we're able 13 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 1: to share it on our anniversary when this book is 14 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: about the last five years, as recent as this past January, like, 15 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: I mean it is, it is recent, even more recent 16 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:03,279 Speaker 1: because we talked about Quarantine too, You're right, yeah, so yeah, exactly. So, 17 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, it's it's been the last few 18 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: edits have been very recent, so it's been literally almost 19 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: the last five years to date. You know, of our relationship, 20 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: of our life, our past growing up relationships that we 21 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 1: had in the beginning, How why we are the way 22 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: that we are who we were when we started dating 23 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: each other and not knowing some of the skeletons in 24 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: our closet, and um, it's it's exciting because for me, 25 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: this is the book that I needed five little not 26 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,399 Speaker 1: five years ago, but four years ago. And the fact 27 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: that we wrote a book that hopefully can show people 28 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: that if you're willing to work together, um, you can 29 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: not only be a better person, but also a better partner. 30 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: And I think to like, it's not just a relationship book. 31 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: So if you're single, if you're divorced, if you're like whatever, 32 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: whatever you are, if you're a guy, if you're a girl. 33 00:01:58,160 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: I mean, this book is written from both of our 34 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: spective so you get the guy perspective, you get the 35 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: girl perspective, and it's really just about things that we've 36 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: learned along the way to be a better person too. 37 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 1: So it's like how to talk to a friend or yeah, absolutely, 38 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's about all kinds of relationships that 39 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: you have in your life. And that's what you know. 40 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 1: One of our things is that we want people to 41 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: know when when we promote and talk about this book 42 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: is you don't have to be in a relationship. You 43 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: don't have to be dating or or any fact that, 44 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: like Jenna was saying, you can be single. You can 45 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: be it doesn't matter what gender, race, creed, color, like, 46 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: marital status, relationship status, it doesn't matter, even if it's 47 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: it's complicated on Facebook. Whatever. It is, like, there's something 48 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: in this book that you can relate to and probably 49 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: learn to take into your next relationship, whether it's with 50 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: a loving relationship, a parent, a friend, anybody. Yeah. I 51 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: also love how each chapter starts with a fight, not 52 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: a fight, but it's some not all of them start 53 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: with the fight, but it's then we go into like 54 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: how we could have communicated better, or how we could 55 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: have done it differently, or and then really introspectively looking 56 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: at it. No, it's cool though, because it's it kind 57 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: of gets you excited about each chapter where it's not 58 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: just we just start off telling you all the answers 59 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: or because we don't have because we don't have them. 60 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 1: It's you know, we take you through these arguments and 61 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: these fights. You know that Jan and I had a 62 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: lot of fun really kind of reminiscing on and bringing 63 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 1: back up on how we remember that fight and that argument, 64 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: um and you know, we go through how we resolved 65 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: it then how we would now, and you know we 66 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: laugh at ourselves that how we handle it in the past. 67 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 1: I also love how in the book we say a 68 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: lot we are not experts. Clearly, I don't want to 69 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: listen to this podcast can know that we are not 70 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: experts at anything. But we've done a lot of therapy 71 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: and we've learned so many tools that we just want 72 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: to be able to say, hey, this is what has helped, 73 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: and this is also tools that we need to keep 74 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: working on. You know, we need to keep working on 75 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: as individuals and also as you know, each other's lovers. 76 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: But I just you know, even like when we've been 77 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 1: reading it in the edits, it's like, wow, we need 78 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: to do better at this. Yeah, I mean we call 79 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: ourselves out, you know when like Jana was just saying, 80 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: when we go back and read those edits or even 81 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: throughout the book, we call ourselves out. And you guys 82 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: are gonna read things that we haven't shared before. I mean, 83 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: you guys think we're vulnerable on this podcast, Like we 84 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: share things that you all haven't heard, that we haven't 85 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: talked about um up into this book, and it was 86 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: really important for us that we this book comes directly 87 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: from our mouth. Like we didn't get a ghostwriter, we 88 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: didn't get anyone to help us. It came from Janna 89 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: and I. It took a lot of work almost we 90 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:35,479 Speaker 1: saw amazing editor Sydney, who helped us, no question, to 91 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: make him professional and make them go and go together. 92 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: Because I write an exclamation points. So like when I 93 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,600 Speaker 1: was writing my section, like I would write like okay, 94 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: so dot dot dot and Mike's like, okay. He every 95 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: time he'd read my section, he'd be like I love you, 96 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: and I'm like, why are you laughing at me? He's like, 97 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: because you literally write how you talk. And we kept it. 98 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 1: We didn't because the ghostwriter would have taken my voice 99 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: and just like it would have been so cold. And 100 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: nothing against ghostwriters anything that, but they just it's so 101 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: important that people are able to, you know, read this 102 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: for this kind of book, that read this like we 103 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 1: are talking to them and we literally are. So when 104 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: you see Jana's portions like okay, so this is what happened, 105 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: and it's it's amazing. But we're so proud of this. 106 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: I mean, we've worked really, really hard. This has been 107 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: our baby for the last almost a year to date 108 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: when we signed with HarperCollins, and we just really really 109 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,240 Speaker 1: hope y'all are willing to buy it and spend the 110 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 1: time reading it. We promise you won't be let down. 111 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: We're so excited, and maybe we can share a few 112 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: tidbits along the way and teases, because there's some good 113 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:41,839 Speaker 1: teases in there. Maybe you know what we should do 114 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: is is reenact some the dialogue of the of an argument. 115 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: That would be really fun to do. Now, yeah, we 116 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: should definitely teach some of it just until official on sale, 117 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 1: but for right now, you can preorder it. You can 118 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,719 Speaker 1: go to Jana and Mike dot com and pre order 119 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: the book. Um, the Good Fight, And we're so excited. 120 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: Take a break, and then let's recap our five year 121 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 1: wedding anniversary. All right, So well, first of all, we 122 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: have a great guest on today, Busy Phillips. Fantastically so 123 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: excited to talk to her. She's awesome, love how she's 124 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,559 Speaker 1: just everything she stands for him. I'm just really pumped 125 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: to talk to her. But did you have fun in 126 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 1: our five year I did, honey, you know, and it's funny. 127 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: The morning didn't start out great, right, you know, because 128 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: we had some emotions around things in the past obviously 129 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: and we got through them. But which is understandable in 130 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 1: our situation. Mark would say, what emotions? Yeah, yeah, sorry, Mark, 131 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: you're not here to keep digging. And also you were 132 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: bumped because you've kind of planned this anniversary because we 133 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 1: kind of trade off. And granted this was supposed to 134 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: supposed to be a together one that we're going to 135 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 1: go to Italy four, but those plans got kind of acts. 136 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:00,279 Speaker 1: But the morning, you know, you wanted to go do 137 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 1: kayaking and everything like that, and you had this all, 138 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: you know, this outdoor day plan, but it was raining 139 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: all day. But how good was it? Just making the 140 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: most of it and just spend a time together and 141 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: that's all it's about. Yeah, it was awesome. Um, and 142 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: you know, emotions of five years, it's it's it's sometimes 143 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: hard to look back on, right, yeah and go like wow, 144 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: like there's a we We we managed to get a 145 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 1: lot in the first five years. Yeah, But I feel 146 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: like in a in a way, it's a really cool 147 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: And that's why I love like that we announced the 148 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: book to on the five year anniversary, because it was 149 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: it's such a silver lining, you know, like, yeah, we've 150 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: been through stuff, but like we've really worked our butts 151 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: off to get to where we're at today. Yeah, there's 152 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: no question. And you know I told this to you 153 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: on on our anniversary, but the first five years have 154 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: not been what I promised. You have not been what 155 00:07:55,800 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: we wanted, um because of me ultimately, And I just 156 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 1: want you to know that I appreciate your strength and 157 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: everything in the past five years, and I'm gonna do 158 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,119 Speaker 1: and we'll be doing everything in my power every single 159 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: day to make sure that the next five years or 160 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: so great that you that the first five are just 161 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: a blur to you, a distant memory. So I love 162 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: you so much and I appreciate you for sticking this 163 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 1: out with me. Well again and thank you. It's very 164 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 1: like terio, um, thank you. You know, it's it's both 165 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: of us. Though at the end of the day, you 166 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 1: know you you thought just as hard as I did, 167 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: because there's days where I'm you know, there's so many 168 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: days where I was just battling you and just being angry, 169 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: and I just you know you you stuck it out too, 170 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: and every day is you know, we're we're doing this together. 171 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: And I think we're going to have our good and 172 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: bad days. And again just like the book where it's 173 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: just end of the day though, like, um, but yeah, 174 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: no it was. It was great and I loved I 175 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 1: hope you enjoyed the dinner I made you. I did. 176 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: It was an amazing It's all about effort, it is, 177 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: you know, It's all about effort, it really is. But 178 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 1: I'm excited for the next five and honestly, I wouldn't 179 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: I wouldn't change the last five either, because we have 180 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: two beautiful children out of it, and we've learned a lot, 181 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: and I'm glad that hopefully all that stuff is out 182 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: of the way so that five we can be like, 183 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: oh that was you know, breeze. Yeah. Um, speaking of 184 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: we got chickens, We did get chickens. I don't know 185 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 1: what's speaking of meant, but we did get chickens because 186 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: we want to lay some eggs, yea. And before that, well, 187 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: we got the chickens because originally Janna wanted house mouse 188 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: because we started seeing some mice around our house and 189 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,439 Speaker 1: like in the grill and you know, in the backyard, 190 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: and Janna was like, can we get a house mouse? Like, 191 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: can we domesticate one. I didn't saying why we couldn't though, 192 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: because people have hamsters. But then we started to do 193 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: some research and people say that mouse, mice, mouseeces, but 194 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: nieces are really like dirty and they carry diseases. Yeah, 195 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: they're the worst. We'll have to look it up. Like 196 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: they're so cute, Yeah, they're They're one I saw. I 197 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 1: told you I saw in the backyard. Literally looked like 198 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse, Like these cute little eyes, giant ears, little head. 199 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: It was adorable, like I imagine Cinderella, Like I want 200 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 1: the house mouse that like I want us. Jason is 201 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: our guest. But I just thought like maybe we could 202 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: like potty train it because they're just so cute, Like 203 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:38,599 Speaker 1: I wanted to sleep on our little bed, have a 204 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 1: little bed for it. And because we couldn't do that, 205 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: we decided to get chickens instead. But now we have 206 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,960 Speaker 1: to get rid of them. We'll not get rid of them. 207 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: We have to take them to our friend's farm. Yeah, 208 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: so the h o A. We actually though I talked 209 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: to the builder. I don't want to get it on 210 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: that conversation with the molds and everything else, but anyways, 211 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 1: we talked to the building and he's like, we'll just 212 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: hide the chicken coop, and I'm like, we bought really 213 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:07,640 Speaker 1: cute chicken coop. But long story short, we have some 214 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: really good friends that live about a half a mile 215 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: down the road. They have a beautiful farm with lots 216 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: of other chickens. So we're gonna we're gonna keep the 217 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: chickens here until we can, and then we're going to 218 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: take them there. And every day Joey is going to 219 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 1: go and take care of him, and she's been doing 220 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,200 Speaker 1: such a good job. She's just like she loves her. 221 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 1: Majesty we named him Majesty is hers cars Jason's of course, 222 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: and then Shadows mine and then I have Hazel Sweet. 223 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: They're sweet. There are a lot of fun though. We 224 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:37,839 Speaker 1: wish we could keep them here. Eventually we're going to 225 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: build on land and then we're going to take our 226 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: chickens back, take them back, but until then, we're gonna 227 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: store them at our friends, and then we're going to 228 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,719 Speaker 1: collect the eggs absolutely because that's why we got them, 229 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: because we eat so many eggs. Anyways, I really want 230 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 1: a house mouth, so I'm gonna work on that. But um, 231 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: get busy, all right, Hey, busy Hey, it's Janna and 232 00:12:13,920 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: Mike from the Line Down crew. How are you what? 233 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: I'm good? How are you guys? How's how's homeschool? You 234 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: know what? We stopped because she's yeah. It was our 235 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: daughter's four, our daughters four, and then our sons eighteen 236 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: months old. So like we were trying to do what 237 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: they were teaching us in preschool. We're like, okay, you 238 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,719 Speaker 1: know ABC all like the alphabet stuff. But then she 239 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: was just getting She just kept saying the wrong letters, 240 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: and I was like, but you just said it right 241 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: two seconds ago, Like so I was losing my mind. 242 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, you're four, You're fine, 243 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: You're gonna be fine. Like it fine, Everyone's gonna be fine. 244 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: That's the realization I also came to. I was like, 245 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure everything's gonna be fine. I do feel 246 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: for people who have like very young kids, like you guys, 247 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: like it is sad is a lot. It is, but 248 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:04,959 Speaker 1: it's also like it doesn't really change that much though, 249 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like it's kind of 250 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:09,600 Speaker 1: like my son has no idea. Yes, I was gonna 251 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 1: ask you busy because your kids are eleven and like 252 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 1: six O awesome so with those ages and then being older, 253 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: especially the eleven year old, like Jane was saying, I 254 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: feel like we've talked about amongst ourselves, we feel like 255 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: that's actually even more pressure having someone who is conscious 256 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: of what's going on, who is a little bit more active. 257 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: And yeah, yeah, but I have to say, like my daughter, 258 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:32,920 Speaker 1: my eleven year old, has been look, this is a 259 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: very interesting time to even be having kids this last decade, 260 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And and my daughter has 261 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 1: been aware of so many things for so long, like, um, 262 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: I mean, this is like so dark, but I mean, honestly, 263 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 1: like Newton, the school shooting happened when she was old 264 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 1: enough to know what that you know, know what it was, 265 00:13:56,720 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: So like she's been aware of the intensity and what 266 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:07,439 Speaker 1: like the and how scary the world is her entire 267 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: really her entire school age life. Um, And so she 268 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 1: has a real understanding of this in a way that 269 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 1: she also just as like, yeah, the world is kind 270 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: of terrible, like you know what I mean, I mean, 271 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:23,560 Speaker 1: not in a just in a very like yeah, things 272 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 1: are bad, things are bad. Cricket, the little one, it 273 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: has loves the names Bertie and Cricket. It's so cute. 274 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: I love it. She's definitely been the one where like 275 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: this is the first time something has happened where she's 276 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 1: been examining the world and seeing it in a different 277 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: way and trying to wrap her head around what it means. 278 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 1: And um, so you know, we have had more conversations 279 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:52,240 Speaker 1: with her. She asked me like like one or two 280 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: weeks in, we were sitting in the kitchen before I 281 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 1: started her home school for the day, and um, and 282 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 1: she was like, Mom, I have a question. I was like, 283 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 1: of course, babe, what what's up? And she's like, are 284 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: things bad? And I was like are things bad? What 285 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: do you mean? And she's like like, uh, with the virus, 286 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:18,160 Speaker 1: I feel like things are bad. Are things bad? Like 287 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: in the world. And I was like yes, okay, So 288 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 1: there's where we have to talk. Um, we're very lucky, 289 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: we're very privileged. Um, you know, we're And she's like, right, 290 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: because you're an actress and the author and host and 291 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: everything else. Yeah, not exactly. I'm like, we're healthy. You know, 292 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: we have jobs right now, your dad and we're able 293 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: to provide for you guys, and so like, you know, 294 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:50,880 Speaker 1: for all of those reasons, we're you know, very lucky 295 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 1: and privileged right now. But yeah, like for a lot 296 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 1: of people it can. This is a really tough time 297 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 1: and you know, we need to just be really aware 298 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: and year out ways to give back. And so this 299 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: time we've really spent a lot of just you know, 300 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 1: our time talking about how we give back and in 301 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: what ways. And the girls we went through their books 302 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 1: and we donated to a local charity that was distributing 303 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: books to l a USD kids and kids and underserved 304 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:25,520 Speaker 1: communities here. You know, I think it was interesting for 305 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: my daughters to conceptualize that a lot of kids don't 306 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 1: have books in their home, and when they're taking out 307 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: of school and they're taken and the libraries are all closed, 308 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: they don't have anything to read for fun, you know, 309 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 1: so they don't they those girls, like, we donated boxes 310 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 1: and boxes of books, and you know, I'm so excited 311 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: to partner with Walgreens to get the word out about 312 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:54,360 Speaker 1: Red Nose Day, which also raises so much money for 313 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: kids in need. Yeah, and Jolie had fun last year too. 314 00:16:57,920 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: She got to pick up the noses, Like we went 315 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 1: to Walgreens and you know, she got to see which 316 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: one it was, so like she had a lot of 317 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 1: fun doing it too, which is like because remember we 318 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 1: did that last year with her think and it was 319 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:09,159 Speaker 1: just like it was so nice to be able to 320 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: be like and then we're also giving back, you know, 321 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 1: like she's having fun but also giving back. And I 322 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 1: think that people, especially now kind of they do look 323 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 1: for you know, almost like a two for one like 324 00:17:20,600 --> 00:17:23,120 Speaker 1: it's and for me with Red Nose Day. The last 325 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: several years, I've used it with my girls as well 326 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 1: because it is a fun way for them to be 327 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 1: participatory in giving back and you can like kind of 328 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 1: start those conversations with them because I do think that 329 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 1: there's something especially in this time that's empowering for everyone, 330 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 1: but especially for kids to know that like even though 331 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 1: things can feel scary, that um, they're aware, they know that, 332 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: like things are bad, there are ways that we can 333 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:58,399 Speaker 1: help make things a little bit better for other people. 334 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 1: Because hopefully that I da would be that if you 335 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 1: were ever in that situation, somebody would do the same 336 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:10,120 Speaker 1: for us. And so like that's the that's the part 337 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:13,919 Speaker 1: where Cricket, like the little light bulb finally turned on 338 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:16,239 Speaker 1: for her. She's six now in first grade, and like 339 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 1: you know, for Bertie, it's been a part of her. 340 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: She's gosh. I mean, she did a backpack drive in 341 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:26,440 Speaker 1: first grade for baby to baby like she's she's been 342 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:28,440 Speaker 1: very aware. She did this year, she did a huge 343 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:34,400 Speaker 1: thing collecting um like unopened brand new makeup and hair 344 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:39,199 Speaker 1: products and beauty products for the LGBTQ Center here in 345 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: l A for the trans youth, the homeless, trans kids, 346 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: um And she collected so much stuff from influencers, actresses 347 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: and hair and makeup artists. I mean, that's amazing. But 348 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: also Bertie's got year back too, though, because that letter 349 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: that she wrote to eat Like was probably and I 350 00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 1: just have to say, like I remember it was seeing 351 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:05,240 Speaker 1: that and being like, oh my gosh, like how strong 352 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: her daughter is and also like what you've instilled in her. 353 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 1: I just want to say, like, even when I saw that, 354 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: I had I gave you so much, like so many 355 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,919 Speaker 1: kudos for that, because there's so many times when I 356 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 1: wish I could have said that, but I held back 357 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: because I'm like the wind side of me and I 358 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: you told me I got the part, and that it's 359 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:23,919 Speaker 1: like so it's but I you know, you do you 360 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 1: play your little pretty part and you go back in 361 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 1: your little box and then you put the bow on it, 362 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:29,119 Speaker 1: and you know, you do for the but it's like, 363 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: I just was like, I had so much respect for 364 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 1: you when that happened and how you responded, and then 365 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 1: what Birdie did on top of it with the letter. 366 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: I was just like, they're just powerful girls, but in 367 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: a classy way, and I just really respected that look, 368 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 1: even if sometimes you're not classy about it, like, but 369 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:50,479 Speaker 1: it was though in a in a classy way. It was. 370 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 1: I think that part of what I what I hoped 371 00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 1: to instill in my in my daughter, and and what 372 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: I think that I've come to realize even in this 373 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 1: industry and as as women, I think that for too long, 374 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,960 Speaker 1: too many of us were sort of fed this idea 375 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: that if you're just like quiet and you stay in 376 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: your lane, that then you can like continue to exist. 377 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:19,480 Speaker 1: And the truth is that's not the truth. Um. I mean, 378 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 1: that's what a lot of people would like for women 379 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: and girls to do. But uh, you can make noise 380 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 1: and you can be heard and um and you cannot 381 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 1: be uh penalized for it. Um because you know, especially now, 382 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 1: I think with everyone having access to all the information 383 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:48,240 Speaker 1: and social media and being able to share things. Um, 384 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 1: you know, there's a lot of support out there, so 385 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:55,119 Speaker 1: you know, I think it's really empowering to know that 386 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 1: that there are places that previously, like you know, in 387 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: the enterty in the industry. I don't I don't know 388 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: if if I would have felt as comfortable being vocal 389 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,960 Speaker 1: ten years ago, but I just know because of you know, 390 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: my fan base and my immediacy of being able to 391 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:16,119 Speaker 1: get feedback from so you know, social media and the 392 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: people that follow me and support me, and the brands 393 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 1: that I've worked with, and the relationships that I have 394 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: with with even that side, because that commercial side is 395 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 1: like so important in terms of driving the business, you know, 396 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,639 Speaker 1: especially television, And I was like, there's no point for 397 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: me to be quiet about what I view as kind 398 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 1: of an injustice and something that you know, was really 399 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 1: unexpected for me. And it was I mean, it wasn't 400 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:43,800 Speaker 1: like there was no fallout from it other than you know, 401 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: they all got fired. I mean busy. Is that something 402 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: by the way they all got fired? But I mean 403 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 1: I didn't that I didn't have anything do it? Is 404 00:21:56,320 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 1: that something? You know? Is that something? Uh you know again, 405 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,199 Speaker 1: because our our kids are younger, for and under with 406 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,719 Speaker 1: your eleven year old with Bertie, is that something that 407 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 1: you're like making a point to verbally say to her 408 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 1: and teach her, or is that something like to speak 409 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 1: your mind and kind of be true to yourself. Or 410 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:16,679 Speaker 1: is that something she's experiencing more by watching you or 411 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:19,159 Speaker 1: is it a mix of both. So that's it's such 412 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: a great question because I really feel like the the 413 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 1: actions speak so much louder than the words. And um, 414 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,000 Speaker 1: you know, and I see this. You know I have 415 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: I have girls, and I have a lot of friends 416 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: who have girls. Um. Obviously, because I'm my daughter's friends 417 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,400 Speaker 1: and whatever, I'm a lot, I'm around a lot of 418 00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,239 Speaker 1: mothers and daughters. So let me just say that, UM, 419 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 1: I see this most frequently put into play about body image. UM. 420 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,880 Speaker 1: And because it's just the most specific thing I can 421 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 1: point to write like and and like the most obvious one, UM, 422 00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:01,680 Speaker 1: where moms will be telling their daughters like, you're beautiful, 423 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: I mean, you're gorgeous, You're beautiful, And then you're at 424 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 1: the birthday pool party and the mom is like, oh, 425 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,119 Speaker 1: I don't wear bikinis. Are you kidding me? My body 426 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,680 Speaker 1: is gross? So it's like okay, So these little girls 427 00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:19,120 Speaker 1: are looking at the woman that they think is the 428 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:23,919 Speaker 1: most beautiful person in the world, and she's saying she 429 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 1: won't even get out of her cover up because her 430 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 1: body's gross. Well, my body must be gross too. That 431 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:34,680 Speaker 1: body is gross, and you know. So that's like where 432 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: I that clicked for me very very early on, like 433 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 1: when Bertie was a baby baby, and I started to 434 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 1: notice that with the moms. And it became because I'm 435 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,960 Speaker 1: like any woman of my generation, I have my own 436 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:52,439 Speaker 1: issues with um, you know, body image ideas that have 437 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: been perpetrated on me from you know, culturally and pop 438 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: culture and you know, the patriarchy whatever. But I it 439 00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:07,239 Speaker 1: just became very aware that I had to even if 440 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 1: I didn't feel it, I had to start to live 441 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:16,919 Speaker 1: as though I loved this body. This body is amazing. 442 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 1: I'm wearing a bikini like I'm in the pool. I 443 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 1: don't even It's not a thing I even talk about, Like, 444 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: I don't talk about it. It's like it's it is. 445 00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: You know, my husband doesn't talk about his body, you 446 00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So I have these girls that like, 447 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: don't I feel like they don't really put too much 448 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 1: value on their their bodies. As objects or whatever. But 449 00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,240 Speaker 1: I do see, especially starting now with you know, these 450 00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 1: preteens that have been around, there are some of these 451 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:54,119 Speaker 1: kids that are like very focused on what they're eating 452 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 1: and like, no, I can't eat cheese. Uh, you know 453 00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: it's too fattening. Like I've heard little girls say that, 454 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: Like you know, they're not they're not reading that on 455 00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:05,679 Speaker 1: Jolly would not see that because all I do is 456 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,440 Speaker 1: shove my face with cheese and wine. So if anything, 457 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 1: so she's like, I love cheese. I know, she's like 458 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 1: the love it, give me the pizza and the cheese. 459 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: But we know we have to let you go. Where 460 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:20,360 Speaker 1: can our listeners, Um, I know Walgreens And then um 461 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 1: with with Red Nose Day. Yeah, so this is so incredible. 462 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,360 Speaker 1: So I mean, with you know, everything being the way 463 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: that it is right now, everyone's making adjustments. Walgreens is 464 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 1: no exception with Red Nose Day, but we still want 465 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: people to participate and to donate, and so if you 466 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,919 Speaker 1: go to walgreens dot com slash Red Nose Day, you 467 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 1: can make a donation to the charity. Um and then 468 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 1: you get this filter, a digital red nose that you 469 00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 1: can use and post on social media and Honestly, my 470 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,600 Speaker 1: kids are having just as much fun with this filter 471 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 1: as they had with the actual red nose. Yeah, because 472 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,399 Speaker 1: the nose always would fall off anyway, so it's like 473 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:05,200 Speaker 1: it can't so this morning we got her. Yeah no, wait, 474 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 1: how old your little one? Anyone? Oh, eighteen months? You 475 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 1: can't get a notice to stay on the eighteen month 476 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: old anyway, So this is like actually a better version 477 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 1: of it for you. You can get that picture exactly, buzzy. 478 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I love you. I love everything 479 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:22,159 Speaker 1: you stand for, and you're just the friend that I 480 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:40,680 Speaker 1: always wanted, So love you you. Um. She was awesome. 481 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 1: I love her and it was super ballsy to what 482 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:45,119 Speaker 1: she did, just to recap people that don't know with E. 483 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: E kind of blindsided her with canceling her show and 484 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: she had just talked to the creator or not the creator, 485 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,280 Speaker 1: like the head of E and she was like, yeah, 486 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,720 Speaker 1: everything's fine, and then they just completely blindsided her. And 487 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: it's just and I just have so much respect for 488 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,119 Speaker 1: that because there's been so many times where you know, 489 00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:02,640 Speaker 1: you think you're safe and then all of a sudden 490 00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: they're like killing off your character. You're like, wait, what, 491 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 1: like like a heads up? Would have been nice, and so, 492 00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 1: you know, to me, I thought it was. Even though 493 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 1: she said it was a ballsy move, I think, you know, 494 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,640 Speaker 1: she had her right to. In my opinion, I think 495 00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,399 Speaker 1: it was. It was super ballsy. But and she did it, 496 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: I think in a classy way. With the letter that 497 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: Bertie wrote just saying you know, hey, that wasn't very 498 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,919 Speaker 1: nice to my mommy. And so I just, you know, 499 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 1: that's something I'm like, Oh, I wonder if Joey would 500 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,679 Speaker 1: write a letter for me. I think it's you know, 501 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,880 Speaker 1: sometimes you need to challenge the you know, challenge big 502 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 1: brother a little bit, and so you gotta call people 503 00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:42,439 Speaker 1: out sometimes when when stuff, especially in that kind of business, 504 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 1: has been handled that way for so long, you know 505 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: for sure. And she's just yeah, she just I don't know, 506 00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 1: I just love her. And then she's friends with Michelle 507 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,199 Speaker 1: Williams to and I just adore Michelle Williams. She just 508 00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: seems like she's a great friend, like she's got your back. Hey. 509 00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:58,919 Speaker 1: But so before we do emails, um, Tori, did you 510 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:03,000 Speaker 1: find something out about a house mouse? So there's not 511 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,199 Speaker 1: really anything about a house mouse, but there is an 512 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 1: article saying if you are thinking about getting a pet mice. 513 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:12,439 Speaker 1: Here some things to think about. Um, they have a 514 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,159 Speaker 1: relatively short lifespans, so you have to explain that to 515 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: the kids, which could be a little different. How many 516 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:22,040 Speaker 1: years do they live, Oh, it's months, that's where he went, 517 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:28,280 Speaker 1: he died. They spread more germs than you know. They 518 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:33,280 Speaker 1: carry hanta virus, in salmonella, and up to two human pathogens. 519 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 1: That's also my start potty trained. So if they aren't 520 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 1: the house trained, then they are not. I know, you 521 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:47,640 Speaker 1: really want they're just so cute. Okay, well that's disgusting. 522 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 1: Then that's about all right. Well and we can see 523 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:56,600 Speaker 1: them from afar. Yeah, they're blowing outside, all right. Let 524 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 1: my father's addiction from Sarah. My father had a sex 525 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 1: addiction my whole life, but it was not disclosed to 526 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,440 Speaker 1: me until I was twenty years old. There was a 527 00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:09,240 Speaker 1: lot of times when I was growing up where my 528 00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 1: father's addiction affected my life, but I didn't know why. 529 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: I feel like if my parents would have been open 530 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: and honest with us about my father's addiction, then I 531 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't have gone through so much heartache and drama as teenager. 532 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 1: When do you all plan on disclosing to your children 533 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 1: about Mike sex addiction. You know, Jane and I have 534 00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:31,480 Speaker 1: talked about that a little bit. Granted, fortunately we're still 535 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:35,360 Speaker 1: some years away from having to worry about it, um, 536 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,640 Speaker 1: but it would definitely be before you know, the kids 537 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 1: are twenty years old, especially nowadays with the Internet and 538 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 1: kids being able to navigate that so much sooner than 539 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,760 Speaker 1: we even give them credit for. You know, who knows 540 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:50,280 Speaker 1: how old Joli will be before she googles. She realized 541 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,480 Speaker 1: that she can google mom and dad, um, she can 542 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: also google her name. Found that out the other night. 543 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 1: I was just like laying in bed and I was 544 00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 1: saw an article about like from from Mother's Day and 545 00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: it had my name in it and and also had her name, 546 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 1: and so I was just like, oh, that's weird, Like 547 00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 1: her name is highlighted because usually it's it's not. And 548 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,120 Speaker 1: I click on it and it's like Julie Raycasson aged 549 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: four years old, like she has like her own little 550 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:15,560 Speaker 1: Wikipedia page, and I was just like, uh yeah, I 551 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,040 Speaker 1: was like, I don't like this. I don't like this, 552 00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 1: and then obviously had like links to like our stuff. 553 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:23,200 Speaker 1: So I mean it's but then some of it's cute 554 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 1: because she's you know when she was on the carpet 555 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:27,920 Speaker 1: with me and for the runway things. So some of 556 00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: those things are cute because it's good memories, but then 557 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 1: also it's like, oh crap, like she could easily click 558 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:36,520 Speaker 1: on this link to go there. So I mean I 559 00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,120 Speaker 1: would like to her to find out before a friend 560 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 1: tells her. Yeah, I think, Um, the age I'm thinking 561 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:52,040 Speaker 1: is maybe ten ish to twelve. Yeah, I was thinking 562 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 1: like twelve. My only reason I would like to I 563 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 1: mean prolong even later, not twenty, but even later. I 564 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,040 Speaker 1: don't want to make it a huge sit down on 565 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: the do you know what I mean? Like who knows 566 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 1: where we'll be in twelve years too or when whatever? 567 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 1: In many years, like we could be because it could 568 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 1: be like no, no, not yes, but like also like 569 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 1: you know what it happens if we're not together, and 570 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,520 Speaker 1: it's like, well, obviously she knew mom and daddy had issues, 571 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,960 Speaker 1: you know, if like we're divorced, so it just becomes 572 00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 1: one of those things like where it's not this big thing, 573 00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:28,000 Speaker 1: you know, but if we still stay together, it's still 574 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:29,959 Speaker 1: that not this big thing. Like we've been married and 575 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,320 Speaker 1: like we're great, you know, So it's just this is 576 00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:36,959 Speaker 1: just something that Daddy went through, and you know, and 577 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,760 Speaker 1: then it can be like and this is how great 578 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 1: we've been able to handle it, or now we're divorced 579 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,200 Speaker 1: and this is why Daddy and I may be separated. Right. 580 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,520 Speaker 1: I think it's just as soon as they're at the 581 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,120 Speaker 1: age of really being able to read and comprehend things, 582 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,960 Speaker 1: and their friends are doing the same. So around that 583 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:57,440 Speaker 1: six seven grade age range, Um, when you know that's 584 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 1: what kids are doing and gossiping this and that, I 585 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 1: think it's just like you said, we don't have to 586 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:05,800 Speaker 1: make it taboo or this big thing around it. But hey, 587 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:07,600 Speaker 1: you know, baby, as as you get older, you might 588 00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 1: read things about mommy and daddy and especially Daddy, and 589 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,960 Speaker 1: you know, Daddy's had a sickness that he's dealt with 590 00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: his whole life, and I do things to prevent from 591 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: going down that path. I mean, I don't know what 592 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,440 Speaker 1: the words, what words I'm going to find to say 593 00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 1: in that moment, but um, it's definitely gonna be sooner 594 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:30,120 Speaker 1: rather than later. Like from Bruck, my husband has changed. 595 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 1: I am twenty eight and have been married to my 596 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,880 Speaker 1: husband for four years and we have three beautiful children. 597 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,880 Speaker 1: I love my husband. I really do. But since he 598 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 1: started his new job, he has changed so much. He 599 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,320 Speaker 1: works with all single guys that sit at home every 600 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,760 Speaker 1: night and play video games and drink. My husband has 601 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,240 Speaker 1: developed a serious drinking problem. And I take care of everything. 602 00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,920 Speaker 1: The kids will drop off, the cleaning bills, etcetera. I 603 00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:51,520 Speaker 1: finally got to the point where I had to get 604 00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,600 Speaker 1: a separate bank account just from my paycheck to go 605 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,520 Speaker 1: solely towards bills because he was blowing all of our money. 606 00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,080 Speaker 1: We talked and I told him I would pay all 607 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,320 Speaker 1: the bills except for his car payment and the electric. 608 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 1: But I was woken up at three m last week 609 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 1: to a tow truck repossessing his car. Once we finally 610 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,280 Speaker 1: got that all straightened out and picked his car up, 611 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,200 Speaker 1: we got home and had a notice that our electric 612 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:13,960 Speaker 1: was going to be shut off. I don't know what 613 00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 1: to do. Please help, dang. I mean, it seems like 614 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 1: Brooks doing what she can and trying to talk to 615 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:32,800 Speaker 1: him about it. I mean, you know, one of these situations, 616 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:36,160 Speaker 1: it's almost like, you know, men in general, people in general, 617 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 1: but men especially can be so prideful at times where 618 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: hearing something that that they're doing wrong. It's hard to 619 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: face that when hearing it from the people closest to you, 620 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 1: sometimes you need a third party that's removed from the 621 00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 1: situation to kind of keep you know, get real with you. 622 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: So I mean, I mean again, we're big advocates for therapy, 623 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 1: So any kind of couples therapy around this or I 624 00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:05,720 Speaker 1: don't know, maybe a list of consequences. I think it's 625 00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,920 Speaker 1: hard to because the guy is a hanging out with 626 00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,320 Speaker 1: a bunch of single people, and I think it's easier 627 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 1: for guys to kind of morph into that world. Um 628 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:21,040 Speaker 1: if that's who they're hanging out with, you know, like 629 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,840 Speaker 1: they'll start to like, for example, one of our neighbors 630 00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:25,440 Speaker 1: is hanging out with like a bunch of younger dudes 631 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 1: and the wife is like, what are you doing? You know, 632 00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,520 Speaker 1: like why are you writing skateboards? Like this isn't who 633 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,560 Speaker 1: you are, But it's because that's the people that he's 634 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 1: like hanging around. So they start to become something that 635 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:40,440 Speaker 1: there maybe not And maybe because I mean, y'all did 636 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,479 Speaker 1: get married quite young. You know, you may get married 637 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,720 Speaker 1: at twenty four, so maybe he feels like he hasn't 638 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:51,120 Speaker 1: lived his you know, like what these other guys are living, 639 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,520 Speaker 1: right now doesn't make any of an excuse for sure, 640 00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:56,439 Speaker 1: But I would just you know, have a sit down 641 00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,239 Speaker 1: and say, like I try to do therapy would be 642 00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,440 Speaker 1: the first step, because you know you do love them 643 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:03,200 Speaker 1: and you know you want it to work for your 644 00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,640 Speaker 1: kids and for you guys. But I think just over 645 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 1: communicating and sitting down with someone that can professionally be like, Okay, 646 00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,000 Speaker 1: you know some things have to change in order for 647 00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,680 Speaker 1: you to feel safe. And you know, if you're doing 648 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,239 Speaker 1: everything like, you need that extra support and you need 649 00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: that person that you need your husband to help. And 650 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,840 Speaker 1: that's not crazy for you to ask, That's not crazy 651 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 1: for you to think, that's not crazy for you to need. 652 00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,760 Speaker 1: So just and I think she took a great step 653 00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:31,919 Speaker 1: with separating the bank accounts and that way she can 654 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,600 Speaker 1: manage that. And you know the fact that he had 655 00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:36,680 Speaker 1: to do with the consequence of his car being repode 656 00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,759 Speaker 1: and see there's my here's my debate to that though, 657 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,839 Speaker 1: because you know, in our relationship, you've always said it's 658 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,360 Speaker 1: our money, it's our like, we shouldn't have separate accounts. 659 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: So I guess, like, where do you then draw the 660 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:54,160 Speaker 1: line with this, because she's essentially saying your car, you 661 00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,479 Speaker 1: have to pay for the electric, you have to pay 662 00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 1: She's just doing it because, you know, the it's been 663 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,640 Speaker 1: a problem with the money and stuff, where she's just 664 00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:10,040 Speaker 1: kind of protecting, you know, her ability to keep things 665 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:12,480 Speaker 1: on for the kids, the bills and all of that 666 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:15,800 Speaker 1: because he was spending so much money on drinking and 667 00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:18,960 Speaker 1: whatever else he was doing that she's not trying to 668 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,040 Speaker 1: She didn't want to separate it. She had to out 669 00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 1: of a consequence because he was blowing that kind of 670 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:27,919 Speaker 1: money that could significantly damage you know, what they're trying 671 00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:33,239 Speaker 1: to build. Yeah, for sure, go to therapy. It would 672 00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:37,680 Speaker 1: be the biggest advice that I would probably say. But um, 673 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:42,160 Speaker 1: all right, guys, good show, busy was great. Um, and 674 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,319 Speaker 1: I'm excited to wind down with you guys next week. 675 00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:46,279 Speaker 1: See you next week.