1 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEFARVEFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know, 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: it could be yours, lady and gentlemen. Thank you, Steve 8 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: subject my own daughter put me on blast. Dear Stephen Shirley, 9 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: I'm a fifty two year old married woman, but my 10 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: husband and I have been at odds for a few 11 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 1: years because he is a cheater. I never caught him, 12 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:47,599 Speaker 1: but all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being intimate. 13 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 1: The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to 14 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: him altogether and focus more on my kids and my 15 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: promotion at work. I fill the boid in my marriage 16 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: with the side piece that happens to work at a 17 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: car dealership, and he is as fine as frog here. 18 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 1: He was flirting heavily with me when I bought a 19 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: new sub from him. He suggested that we break in 20 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: the third row of my new truck, so we did. 21 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: For weeks after that I would drive to his job 22 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: and we got busy in the third row of my truck. 23 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 1: I'm sure his coworkers knew we were having sex, so 24 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 1: I was taking a big risk because one of them 25 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: goes to my church. I didn't care. The sex was 26 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 1: too good and it was so much fun. But after 27 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: a month of great sex, it all came to a 28 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: screeching halt. On the day of my eight year old 29 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: daughter's birthday, I picked up four of her friends for 30 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: the party at the skating rink. My daughter got on 31 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: the third row of the suv and her friends piled in. 32 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: My husband drove his car, and when we got to 33 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,919 Speaker 1: the skating rink, my daughter gave her dad a cufflink. 34 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: My husband said it wasn't his cufflink, and he looked 35 00:01:56,440 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: directly at me. I walked on. I walked on into 36 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: the skating rink and got the girl situated in the 37 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 1: party room. My husband got all up in my face 38 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: and asked what I had been doing in my suv 39 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: and where the cufflink came from. I ignored him. My 40 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: daughter put me on blast. But I don't feel like 41 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: I owe him an explanation, or do I should I 42 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 1: come clean? With him. This letter. This letter got me upset, 43 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: It really did, because what you're not gonna do, mom, 44 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: is blame the baby for you're cheating. You're just not 45 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: going to do that. You were messing around in your 46 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: truck with a car salesman and you got busted. Period. 47 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:43,800 Speaker 1: The child was absolutely justified in giving the cufflink to 48 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: her dad. Of course she thought it was her dad's. 49 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: I mean, this is an eight year old daughter, your 50 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: eight year old daughter. She doesn't know anything about all 51 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: of this. I just think you're wrong, Mom. You didn't 52 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: check behind yourself. Your salesman didn't realize he left the cufflink, 53 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: and you you just got caught, both of you guys. 54 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: You know, basically, that's it, that's all, and it's on you, 55 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: no one else but choose. That's proof of your cheating. 56 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 1: You said you never caught your husband. It was just 57 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 1: the fact that his mannerisms change and he cuts you off. 58 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: But still no evidence. You know, there was no earring, 59 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 1: lying around, no hair, no underwear, etc. But you, my dear, 60 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 1: left evidence. It was still it's still double standard in 61 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: this world concerning men and women, meaning you can't do 62 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: what I do, and that's just the way men think. 63 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: That's why he was all up in your face about 64 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: the cufflink. And you still have no proof. He doesn't 65 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: want you cheating on him though, So no, you don't 66 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 1: owe him an explanation. And please know that if you 67 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: tell him the truth, your marriage is more than likely over. 68 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: Men don't usually stick around when they're women when their 69 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 1: wives and women cheat on them. I really don't see 70 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: how this marriage is going to survive the cufflink. And again, 71 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: you have no evidence. Ste Well, well, Sirley, did I 72 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: just hear you say to a woman what that she 73 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: doesn't owe her husband an explanation for cheating? Now, I 74 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: just want to double check that out here you heard. Thanks, 75 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: thank you a little bit of validation. Thank you so much. 76 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 1: My own dough put me on blast. Fifty two year 77 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: old married woman, but your husband didn't hear her? Have 78 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: been at odds for some years. Here is the opening line, 79 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: because he is a cheater. She said that in the 80 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: first opening statement. They have been at odds because he 81 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: is a cheater. Next statement right after that, I never 82 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: called him. Oh oh oh. We have a loophole in 83 00:04:56,040 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: the contract. We have a get out of jail, a 84 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: free card. M we have grounds for dismissal. Wow, we 85 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: have unsubstantiated statements. We have all of this that I 86 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: would be using right after you said I never called him. 87 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: Then he comes to proof she thinks she has, but 88 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being into. 89 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: You didn't mention that any of your mannerisms might have changed, 90 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: and you didn't mention that maybe you stopped initiating sex. 91 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: You just dumped it all on him in this letter. 92 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:53,799 Speaker 1: The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to him. 93 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: Now y'all aren't even talking all together, and focus all 94 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 1: my kids and my promotion at work. Then you said, 95 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 1: I feel avoid in my marriage with a side piece 96 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: that happens to work at a car dealership. And he 97 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: is the finest frog. Heil our, heil you the cheetah 98 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: in the letter. And you know what we what proof 99 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 1: we have and ad mission of guilt. You said this. 100 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: You ain't card heal, but you said this. So now 101 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: this letter has turned. When we come back the results 102 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: of the leather turney from the Chief Love Office. All right, 103 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 1: hang on, Chief Love Officer, we'll have part two of 104 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: your response, Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after 105 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:48,720 Speaker 1: subject of today's Strawberry letter, my own daughter put me 106 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,599 Speaker 1: on blast. We'll get back into it right after this. 107 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 1: You're listening to String Show, all right, Come on, Steve, 108 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my daughter my 109 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: own daughter put me on blast. Yeah, this ain't the 110 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: problem though. No, it's this fifty year old married woman 111 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: that are with her husband because she says her husband's 112 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: a Cheatah. Then she turns around and says, I never called. 113 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: Then she turned around and said, but all his mannerisms 114 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: changed and we stopped being intimate. So now ain't neither 115 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: one of y'all initiating sex at the house. You all him, 116 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: and the arguments got so bad that I stopped talking 117 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: to him all together. So now she ain't even speaking 118 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: to her man at the house, and he ain't speaking 119 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: to her. Everybody cool with this. You know why everybody 120 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 1: cool with this because everybody doing what they want to do. 121 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: I could assure you that because ain't no man coming 122 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: in the house, you ain't talking to him and sleeping 123 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: with him, and then he ain't going somewhere and talking 124 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: and sleeping. Ain't no man walking in no house with 125 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: no woman that ain't talking to him or sleeping when 126 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: him and he ain't going somewhere else talking and sleeping. 127 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: But who you know? Who? You know? Nothing to do that. 128 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: I do not let you move on. But then, since 129 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 1: the argument's got so bad, need to stop talking. She 130 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 1: focused on her kids and her promotion at work. Oh no, 131 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: you didn't, you said right after that. I feel the 132 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: board in my marriage with a side piece that happens 133 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: to work at a car dealership, and and he's as 134 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: fine as frog hare and he was flirting heavy with 135 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: me when I bought a new SUV from it. Oh so, 136 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: now the real cheetah in this letter with proof is you, 137 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: and the proof is you admitted. I don't know why 138 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: you told us this, this stupidity me, but we need 139 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: people like you. Don't keep these letters inlive So yeah, 140 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: this segment would have been over if it wasn't for stupidity. 141 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,319 Speaker 1: He suggested that we break in the third row of 142 00:08:56,440 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: my new truck, so we did for weeks. After that, 143 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: I would drive to his job and we got busy 144 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: in the third row in my truck. I'm sure his 145 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: co workers knew we were having sex. So I was 146 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:11,440 Speaker 1: taking a big risk because one of them go to 147 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 1: my church. So all it too was for somebody to say, 148 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: let's break in your third row, so we did. I'll 149 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: be damned. I've been taking people at dinning, sending flowers 150 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 1: and notes and boxes with gifts in it, being romantic. 151 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:45,719 Speaker 1: I give me a back row on truck and one 152 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: of them go to my church. And I didn't care. 153 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: She didn't care. Sex was too good and it was 154 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:54,680 Speaker 1: so much fun. But after month of great sex, it 155 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: all came to a speeching hall. On the date my 156 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: eight year old daughter's birthday party, I picked up for 157 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: her friends for the party at skate and rink. My 158 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,679 Speaker 1: daughter got in the third row the suv and her 159 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: friends piled in. My husband drove his car. When we 160 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 1: got to the skate and rink, my daughter gave her 161 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 1: dad a cuffley. My husband said it wasn't his comfley, 162 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: and he looked directly at me. Well, now why would 163 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 1: he look directly at you? Come on, well, let y'all 164 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: ain't talking. Y'all ain't having sex, so y'all ain't doing nothing. 165 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: So now he didn't find your baby to found the 166 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: couflant in the car, So now now he won't talk 167 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: now or now, you won't have a conversation after damn 168 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 1: skating rink, right. I walked into the skate and rink 169 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:54,080 Speaker 1: and got the girls situated in the party room. My 170 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: husband got all up in my face and asked me 171 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 1: what I had been doing in my suv and what 172 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: a cuffle came from. I ignored him as you shoot 173 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: my daughter put me on blast. Well, your daughter didn't 174 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 1: really put your in little blast. Your daughter found the 175 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: comflet and know the comflicts is normally she's seen her 176 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: daddy with a coufley and go and brought her daddy. 177 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: You go your comfley. Because the baby don't know y'all 178 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: having mail to issues. She knows something ain't right. But 179 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: y'all acting a little strange with each other. Wonder how 180 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:30,839 Speaker 1: come my mom and daddy don't never talk like your 181 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,680 Speaker 1: mom with daddy. Yeah, but we already know why because 182 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: y'all out there screw and the other people. So y'all 183 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 1: ain't got to talk. You've been on that back row, 184 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 1: that damn truck, just messing it all up. It's losing value. 185 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: Your truck is losing value. And even if you take 186 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 1: that same book, same damn truck back to that car 187 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: dealership with that same salesman you bought it for. He 188 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: ain't he gonna he know that the third seat is damaged. 189 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: So now you ain't even gonna get true Blue Book 190 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: value for your game because he already No. I'm telling 191 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: you this salesman know what's been happening back the Yeah, 192 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: should I come clean with him? It's over come clean, 193 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: hell Na? What's wrong with you? Stupid? For the first time, 194 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 1: Shirley said. And this is why I'm using this. Shirley, 195 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 1: who adamante always promotes the truth, Shirley who always adam 196 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: adamantly promotes being true to the other person. Shirley who 197 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 1: always wants to know why me and lie to set 198 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 1: up here, told this woman not to say nothing. That 199 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 1: is a form of a lie, and I support that. 200 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:52,559 Speaker 1: You should now, hell Na, you don't owe him no explanation, 201 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: quite comfleet. You ain't never been on the third row, 202 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:58,840 Speaker 1: and you don't know whooping back there. Some service man 203 00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 1: been back there something, and it is a service man 204 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: because he was servicing you. We gotta go post your 205 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 1: comments on the Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on 206 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:12,200 Speaker 1: Instagram and Facebook. Check out The Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 207 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 1: Coming up, more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right 208 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 1: after this, you're listening to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.