Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: We have been through every detail of both of our weddings,
Speaker 1: the dual weddings, the one in Napa and obviously the
Speaker 1: one that we held here in Austin, Texas. But Elsie,
Speaker 1: we have still gotten so many questions, and so I thought,
Speaker 1: let's jump back into this and let's take wait, let's
Speaker 1: get married again, Let's have one more. I think the
Speaker 1: third time is aim I have this ring on, I'm
Speaker 1: not taking it off.
Speaker 2: Or let's plan another one wed again.
Speaker 1: This one doing the look doing Austin in our hometown,
Speaker 1: which involved our home, and there were people in our
Speaker 1: home obviously filled it with family, the kids. It was
Speaker 1: a lot. The silence of this week is very welcome.
Speaker 1: I'll just say that.
Speaker 3: I also, after we'd finished these podcast episodes, I'm going
Speaker 3: to literally have a break of silence and rest my voice.
Speaker 3: So I'm sorry I sound like this, but we're so
Speaker 3: excited to answer your questions and thank you all so
Speaker 3: much for caring about our wedding. Thank you for your
Speaker 3: wonderful comments and kind words and compliments.
Speaker 2: It means the world.
Speaker 3: So Kendall, our producer, is with us and I think
Speaker 3: Kendall's gonna give her voice to some of the questions
Speaker 3: from you all.
Speaker 4: Okay, our first question is from Bruce. He's asking how
Speaker 4: did you guys decide who to invite from Bachelor Nation?
Speaker 3: So our basic guideline there was who do we talk
Speaker 3: to fairly regularly? Who do we still feel close with?
Speaker 3: I mean, I covered the show for five six years.
Speaker 3: You yeah, so you've got a lot. I mean, gosh,
Speaker 3: when you do the numbers on thirty people per season,
Speaker 3: that's a.
Speaker 1: Lot of people, over a thousand people.
Speaker 3: So obviously Chris can't keep in touch with everybody, and
Speaker 3: I you know you and I. I also think we're maybe
Speaker 3: a little bit closer with some people because of age,
Speaker 3: Like I know, you're really close with Andrew Firestone and
Speaker 3: Bob Guiney because they you were the same age as
Speaker 3: them when they were on the show. So we were
Speaker 3: just going by who are we still pretty close with,
Speaker 3: Who do we talk to regularly? Who do we have
Speaker 3: that history with and keep in touch with regularly. It
Speaker 3: doesn't mean if if we didn't invite people, it doesn't
Speaker 3: mean we have animosity towards them.
Speaker 2: It just might be that we even talked to them
Speaker 2: in a long.
Speaker 1: Time and to me. And this is how I kind
Speaker 1: of tried to separate it, because again I could have
Speaker 1: gone on and on and on, and I started going
Speaker 1: down this rabbit hole, and I think Lauren noticed it
Speaker 1: was really weighing on me.
Speaker 2: We were afraid of missing someone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't want to hurt anybody. You don't and
Speaker 1: I didn't want to leave anybody out. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, I wanted it to be very special. And
Speaker 1: so I think where I started to draw the line,
Speaker 1: and you helped me with this is who has a
Speaker 1: connection with both of us? Who has a connection with us,
Speaker 1: not me with us? Because again I can go back
Speaker 1: and yeah, there's Andrew Firestone, but Andrew and Ivanna are
Speaker 1: dear friends of ours. Very same thing with Bob Guiney.
Speaker 1: Bob Guiney has now come into your life. We went
Speaker 1: to the Kentucky Derby with him, and so there are
Speaker 1: people that aren't just special to me. I wanted it
Speaker 1: to be an us thing. They're at our wedding and
Speaker 1: share in our love, and so I think that really
Speaker 1: helped us.
Speaker 2: We were really trying.
Speaker 3: We'd heard actually from Wells Adams's brother and his wife,
Speaker 3: his brother Brett.
Speaker 2: They had a rule at their.
Speaker 3: Wedding that they didn't want to meet anyone for the
Speaker 3: first time at their wedding, And in Napa, of course
Speaker 3: we had our very closest friends. But Austin that was
Speaker 3: a risk and ultimately some people did you know, people
Speaker 3: get plus ones, We get it. So there were a
Speaker 3: few people we met for the first time, but you know,
Speaker 3: we had that spirit in mind if we wanted it
Speaker 3: to be people we were connected with. And I did
Speaker 3: say this in Austin as we stood up on the
Speaker 3: little stage to do our vows, I said, we look
Speaker 3: around this room and we recognize everyone, and we feel
Speaker 3: close with everyone, and so we wanted to have that feeling.
Speaker 2: I also will admit that.
Speaker 3: Because you had so many over a thousand people on
Speaker 3: the show over the years, when we were doing the
Speaker 3: guest list, we did pull up Wikipedia the Bachelor page
Speaker 3: and we went through all of the leads and then
Speaker 3: kind of glanced to do his their season, because I said, Babe,
Speaker 3: it's just what if you forget.
Speaker 1: Someone, and inevitably Banks Wikipedia two people that I kind
Speaker 1: of forgot.
Speaker 2: Too that Oh okay, let's ad minute.
Speaker 1: No Brad Womack, we invited and because he's from Austin
Speaker 1: here and he lives here and you've got to know him.
Speaker 1: We've gone to dinner that was.
Speaker 3: Going to come and ultimately couldn't make it. We forgot
Speaker 3: to mention him in the other podcast episode. He was
Speaker 3: invited to yes.
Speaker 1: Because he's he's always been a very good friend of
Speaker 1: mine and so and former ESPN Sports Center host Sage
Speaker 1: Steele was here as well, a good friend of ours.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of whether they were part of the
Speaker 1: bats or outside like Courtney and justin a you know,
Speaker 1: baseball player, it's because they're friends of ours, and that's
Speaker 1: it's kind of moving to Austin. The reason we're here
Speaker 1: is it's something Lauren and I built together, and I
Speaker 1: wanted our wedding to be about everything together.
Speaker 3: And I guess we could segue that into something we
Speaker 3: haven't talked about yet, which is how we chose Wells
Speaker 3: and Ben to make a toast for us. Yeah, we
Speaker 3: really we wanted the toast to be fun. We've been
Speaker 3: to weddings before where the toasts on and on, or
Speaker 3: there's too many people giving toasts, or I hate to
Speaker 3: say it, but not everybody's a performer I think sometimes
Speaker 3: people pick the people they're close to. But Chris and
Speaker 3: I we have producers minds. As much as our wedding
Speaker 3: wasn't was our wedding and it was real, we can't
Speaker 3: help but think this has got to be fun and
Speaker 3: have a good run of show. And so you want
Speaker 3: to pick people who you know are going to perform
Speaker 3: and be both emotional and funny.
Speaker 1: And are beloved by all. Yes, you know it's neither
Speaker 1: one of them you're gonna choose and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: he chose him instead of me?
Speaker 3: You know, No, we and I think everybody knows we're
Speaker 3: all so most importantly we're close with Wells and Ben Well,
Speaker 3: like Chris said, we wanted people know us both.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So Ben was the very first Bachelor and I ever did.
Speaker 3: I had started at ET and actually I've said this before,
Speaker 3: but I had never watched The Bachelor. I was a
Speaker 3: Housewives still am a Bravo Housewives fan, and I started
Speaker 3: doing The Bachelor just because no one was doing it.
Speaker 3: So I've known Ben for a long time. Wells was
Speaker 3: one of the first interviews I did so and they
Speaker 3: crushed it.
Speaker 2: Their toasts were amazing.
Speaker 1: All right, Kendall, what else you got.
Speaker 4: Speaking of Ben Higgins, people are wondering what Ben and
Speaker 4: Jojo were like around each other.
Speaker 1: Again from the same season this had. This was the dynamic.
Speaker 1: That's so funny when you do this. And I did
Speaker 1: not at all consider whose season was coming and who
Speaker 1: was on whose season. I think we forget a lot
Speaker 1: and who's dated because you can drive yourself crazy. But
Speaker 1: the dynamic with him is awesome. They are jovial, laugh
Speaker 1: make fun of each other about you know, and I
Speaker 1: think Ben even said about you know, Jojo not picking him,
Speaker 1: and I said, great choice, Jojo, good, you know, bullet dodged,
Speaker 1: and everybody got.
Speaker 2: Alongst that joke.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Ben and Wells has some good Bachelor jokes in
Speaker 3: their toes.
Speaker 2: They did call you out.
Speaker 3: I think Wells said Chris Harrison. I'm paarphrasing his joke,
Speaker 3: but he basically said, Chris Harrison is a matchmaker. But
Speaker 3: as I look around this room, he really only made
Speaker 3: one or two successful matches. So I think he joked
Speaker 3: that it turned out the Bachelor was a long count.
Speaker 1: No Will said, he goes, you're a Matchmaker's like you
Speaker 1: are terrible at your job, and so he went around
Speaker 1: the room and he goes, isn't that right, Ben, isn't
Speaker 1: that right? Jojo is you know? He just kept going
Speaker 1: around the room and like everybody who's you know, relationships
Speaker 1: had failed. And then he got to Caitlin and Jason
Speaker 1: and said right, guys, and Caitlyn raised two fingers because
Speaker 1: obviously the show didn't go well, and then Jason Tartick
Speaker 1: didn't go well. So everyone had a great sense of
Speaker 1: humor and really took it all in.
Speaker 3: Wells accused you of using the show as a long
Speaker 3: con to find love for yourself.
Speaker 1: He did, yeah, that he because I obviously found love
Speaker 1: through the show as well and meeting Lauren.
Speaker 3: Now, I will say with Ben and Jojo because when
Speaker 3: I was again I'm interviewing them, like they did have
Speaker 3: a tough period there, Like they had some awkwardness when
Speaker 3: Jojo was with Jordan, and I don't think they were
Speaker 3: always you know, because like Ben was with Lauren for
Speaker 3: a while.
Speaker 1: And when I think that was a real breakup. You know,
Speaker 1: there was a real emotional with Ben and Jojo. Two
Speaker 1: of the biggest hearts you're going to find hearts were
Speaker 1: broken and so they.
Speaker 3: Needed he What made me really happy was seeing them
Speaker 3: at our house Friday night, Jojo is chatting with Ben
Speaker 3: and with his wife Jess, who's wonderful, and it looked
Speaker 3: like such a happy, chill, catch up, great conversation.
Speaker 4: Hollie is asking, will you guys go on a honeymoon.
Speaker 2: We are not going on a honeymoon.
Speaker 3: I really felt like we were being decadent enough by
Speaker 3: having two weddings. We were going to be doing so
Speaker 3: much celebrating, and Napa kind of feels like a honeymoon
Speaker 3: destination anyway. But as Chris pointed out, well, we really
Speaker 3: couldn't go on honeymoon because we had to come back
Speaker 3: into our other wedding in Austin.
Speaker 1: Also, yeah, I'm not gonna lie. And then Dad's weekend
Speaker 1: at TCU is coming, you know, So we have things,
Speaker 1: we have things coming up. When we're running into the holidays.
Speaker 1: We'll get there. I think we'll breathe it all in.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll take Lauren to a quiet resort where where
Speaker 1: we're not allowed to talk.
Speaker 2: But we did.
Speaker 1: We did have one night at this beautiful place in
Speaker 1: Napa called the Poetry In and it's a place that's
Speaker 1: special to us because after we got engaged in Napa
Speaker 1: at brand. We were staying that night at the Poetry
Speaker 1: and it's this place. It's a house turned into a
Speaker 1: hotel that only has five rooms. They're all themed after poets.
Speaker 1: We love the Emily Dickinson Suite. It's kind of a
Speaker 1: special thing for us. The outdoor shower, I can't recommend
Speaker 1: it enough.
Speaker 3: In the morning, he means that because you're looking over
Speaker 3: the vineyards. So wasn't you weren't being dirty there?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Oh whatever? Okay, Like in the morning, you know, because
Speaker 1: you're looking over stags leap in the valley and the
Speaker 1: hot air balloons are coming across, and it's just so quaint,
Speaker 1: so romantic. So we had a honeymoon night, special night
Speaker 1: that we left the Archer Hotel where we stayed for
Speaker 1: the wedding, which I can't recommend enough in downtown Napa.
Speaker 1: Thank you to the folks at the Archer who just
Speaker 1: treated us like royalty and took such good care. But
Speaker 1: then we moved over and stayed at the Poetry in
Speaker 1: for one night.
Speaker 3: It was special to go back to the place where
Speaker 3: we were when we got.
Speaker 1: Engaged, same room, same everything, and you know, we had
Speaker 1: a nice quiet breakfast next morning before we flew back
Speaker 1: home and it was just it was lovely.
Speaker 4: A lot of people have this question, did either of
Speaker 4: you invite your ex?
Speaker 1: Laura and I have both been married before and much
Speaker 1: talked about the answer. Simple answer to that is, I
Speaker 1: think is no.
Speaker 3: No, no, I no exes, no ex boyfriends or girlfriends
Speaker 3: of any kind.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no exes of any kind from either of us. Yes,
Speaker 1: that I know about, but no. And by the way,
Speaker 1: my my ex wife, lovely great mother, she did not
Speaker 1: invite me to her wedding either. I did not go
Speaker 1: to that.
Speaker 3: It's always funny and I used to have to ask
Speaker 3: this question sometimes on ET. They'd want me to ask that,
Speaker 3: and I think, unfortunately that question immediately it makes it
Speaker 3: sound like there's something amiss, like, oh, you don't have
Speaker 3: a good real relationship. No, I think the best friendliest
Speaker 3: exes in the world. You're getting married again. Do you
Speaker 3: want your ex? And does your ex.
Speaker 2: Want to be at your wedding?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 2: Uh, your ex wife sent us a lovely congratulations.
Speaker 1: I was going to give her give her props on that.
Speaker 1: She texted both of us and said, thinking about you
Speaker 1: on your wedding day. I hope y'all have a wonderful
Speaker 1: weekend and send us her love.
Speaker 3: And I will say that I had for my former
Speaker 3: sister in law was at our party in Austin. I'm
Speaker 3: still very close with her. I love her dearly. So
Speaker 3: there is no bad blood of any kind. It's just
Speaker 3: I have. I don't think anybody needs to have exes
Speaker 3: of any kind of a wedding unless it's unless you
Speaker 3: want drama. And I will just unless it's Jason with Caitlin.
Speaker 3: He meant it your own, I know, I'm just kidding,
Speaker 3: totally kidding. Yeah, So that definitely no exes. And I,
Speaker 3: by the way, I recommend don't don't bring an X.
Speaker 1: And by the way, even if the significant other doesn't
Speaker 1: even know who that person was or if you've ever
Speaker 1: been with him, it's just just for spectful in my mind.
Speaker 4: And I wants to know if you considered getting married
Speaker 4: on television.
Speaker 1: That was been that was brought up to us, and
Speaker 1: that was offered and nothing got crazy official and we
Speaker 1: never got down that road. For me anyway, It's something
Speaker 1: I wasn't against, you know, we never even really discussed it,
Speaker 1: but it's something I didn't really want. It wasn't I
Speaker 1: wasn't looking to monetize this. I didn't need to, and so.
Speaker 3: Well, and I don't know that everybody gets on television
Speaker 3: mare and on television needs to monetize.
Speaker 2: I just I agree.
Speaker 3: It wasn't something I would have been against, but in
Speaker 3: the past, in the planning for NAPA and Austin, that
Speaker 3: was never part of the discussion for these And I
Speaker 3: loved everything about the way we did it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but some people that had had talked to Lauren
Speaker 1: and I early on about maybe if we did a show,
Speaker 1: we could kind of roll it into that show and
Speaker 1: we would launch it with a wedding, and we were like, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: we just want to get married. We just want to
Speaker 1: love each other.
Speaker 4: Maddie is asking who was the drunkest from Bachelor Nation
Speaker 4: at your party in Austin, Bobby, Lauren and I. No.
Speaker 3: People kept bringing us tequila shots. They bring the bride
Speaker 3: and groom tequila shots, which I support.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't know about you, but I ended up
Speaker 1: at the bar with the guys. So I was over
Speaker 1: there with tartic Wells, Bob Guiney, who's never shy at
Speaker 1: the bar, and we cracked a bottle of Ceemprey tequila
Speaker 1: and shot and then more people kept walking up. That
Speaker 1: was the thing is people saw us over there, We're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I want in, I wan in, and next thing you knew,
Speaker 1: you're three or four shots deep.
Speaker 2: No, I didn't know this.
Speaker 3: I'm glad we're doing this podcast because I need to
Speaker 3: know what you were doing in our wedding. That was
Speaker 3: the thing about Austin. We had two hundred and twenty
Speaker 3: five people, and Chris and I had a divide and
Speaker 3: conquer to make sure we saw everybody in dance with
Speaker 3: everybody and said hi to everybody, and so I didn't
Speaker 3: really see you much of the night. Again, the reason
Speaker 3: I'm glad we had two weddings and had NAPA. How
Speaker 3: many shots did you take at the bar? I like
Speaker 3: how You're like, I don't know if you did it. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I was all over at the bar doing shots with
Speaker 3: Bob getting well.
Speaker 1: My boys were there and we were just having a
Speaker 1: good time. So I mean four or five probably by
Speaker 1: the end of the night. And I look, here's the
Speaker 1: good news. In all seriousness, no one got belligerent, no
Speaker 1: one made a fool of themselves, nobody was crazy silly
Speaker 1: in a bad way. We did run out of tequila
Speaker 1: we did run out of tequila, and I was it
Speaker 1: wasn't early. It was later in the night because the
Speaker 1: party went later than it was supposed to. And I
Speaker 1: said to Chris, like, oh no, we're out of tequila,
Speaker 1: and he said, maybe that's a good thing. It probably was.
Speaker 1: It was like, as I said to Justin Turner, who's
Speaker 1: a professional baseball player with the Red Sox, I said,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like baseball at the seventh inning, they
Speaker 1: cut everybody off so you can kind of sober up
Speaker 1: before the ninth inning. That's how this was. I think
Speaker 1: we cut everybody off at the seventh inning and everybody
Speaker 1: could just dance it out. If I'm going to out anybody,
Speaker 1: Wells definitely maybe enjoyed the most.
Speaker 2: The bartender per took in the bar.
Speaker 1: Yes, you know, Oh here's what's funny. And I'll just
Speaker 1: throw a well story out there. When we got to
Speaker 1: our event at our house here Friday night and Wells
Speaker 1: got here, Ben needed a drink and I look over
Speaker 1: and Wells is making Ben a drink and he's handing
Speaker 1: drinks out and I said, I went up to I said, Wells,
Speaker 1: you don't have to be the bartender tonight. Man just relax,
Speaker 1: enjoy the night.
Speaker 3: Oh it's not a working night. Wells, we have air conditioning.
Speaker 1: You're not in a but he and he enjoyed on
Speaker 1: Saturday for sure, as we all did.
Speaker 4: Lauren, this question is for you. We actually had a
Speaker 4: soon to be bride reach out who is currently planning
Speaker 4: her wedding and her dad passed away ten years ago
Speaker 4: and she wants to know your advice on what she
Speaker 4: can do to honor her dad at her wedding.
Speaker 2: Well, all my love to her. What a wonderful question.
Speaker 3: I have seen a Well, I will say that I
Speaker 3: think you should say something about your parents or your
Speaker 3: loved one who's lost, if you want to. I actually,
Speaker 3: in the past had a wedding coordinator at my first
Speaker 3: wedding said I don't think you should say anything. I
Speaker 3: think it'll bring the mood down. And that was like, what, Like,
Speaker 3: you need to honor your that's the biggest thing. Honor
Speaker 3: your person, because you don't want to look back at
Speaker 3: that moment and wish you'd said or done something. Honor them,
Speaker 3: most importantly in a way that's meaningful to you. I
Speaker 3: don't care if it's what other people don't do. Be
Speaker 3: specific to you. At my first wedding, I stood up
Speaker 3: and just gave a little speech about my dad.
Speaker 2: I did cry during it.
Speaker 3: We had a couple pictures of my dad framed out
Speaker 3: at my first wedding, which I loved. My little sister
Speaker 3: did that at hers too, and then at our wedding
Speaker 3: in Austin. Well, I guess and Napa, we honor my
Speaker 3: dad at both. Do you want to talk about that?
Speaker 1: Well, I would just say, as the person on the
Speaker 1: other side of this, if your significant other is not
Speaker 1: into this and not willing to honor your father, that's
Speaker 1: a red flag to me. It was important to me. Well,
Speaker 1: family's everything to me, first of all, and so it
Speaker 1: was really important to me to honor your father. I
Speaker 1: think of him often. I think of him watching out
Speaker 1: on me and watching us, and I wanted to honor him,
Speaker 1: not not because you wanted it, because of us, and
Speaker 1: because he's important. And he left an amazing you know,
Speaker 1: as I said this in my vows, he left an
Speaker 1: amazing family. Not just a daughter that I love, but
Speaker 1: a family your mom who I adore, and your your
Speaker 1: sister and your brother. Like he did the work, and
Speaker 1: he left this amazing family that I'm not now a
Speaker 1: part of So I'm grateful and I wanted to honor that.
Speaker 1: And it was important to Mike, our officiant, our good friend.
Speaker 1: He knew that too. So your dad Gary was a
Speaker 1: part of the whole, the or the entire ceremony. He
Speaker 1: was a part of my vows. So we all wanted
Speaker 1: to do that. It wasn't just because Lauren asked for
Speaker 1: it by any means. We just knew it was important.
Speaker 3: It should come from a place of honoring, respecting, not
Speaker 3: something obligatory. And I agree, look for that red flag
Speaker 3: if it doesn't feel that way, but do whatever makes
Speaker 3: sense to you. In Austin, we danced our first day
Speaker 3: chants to my dad and nice favorite song, you know,
Speaker 3: because I never had that father daughter dance moment. I also,
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, there were lots of little ways. I
Speaker 3: had my little brother walk me halfway down the aisle,
Speaker 3: but then I walked to the rest of the way myself,
Speaker 3: because I feel like my dad raised me to be
Speaker 3: an independent person, so that was a little nod to
Speaker 3: him as well. So those little nods, however, and how
Speaker 3: many you want to do, will make the day more
Speaker 3: special and will make you feel good. Emotion is great
Speaker 3: on a wedding day. Everybody wants it and everybody wants
Speaker 3: to feel part of it. Don't let anybody feel like
Speaker 3: you shouldn't do it.
Speaker 4: Others asking how did you manage to keep the October
Speaker 4: wedding from being leaked to the media?
Speaker 3: Great question, and actually had did I ever tell you this?
Speaker 3: I didn't want to make you nervous? No, I had
Speaker 3: a couple people I don't always look at like on Instagram,
Speaker 3: it's your messages from people you know, and then it's
Speaker 3: messages from people who like you don't follow, and I
Speaker 3: don't look at it a lot. But after I was
Speaker 3: a little nervous, like kind of scrolled through to be like,
Speaker 3: is anything popping up?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: I was worried it was going to come out because
Speaker 3: we did want to keep it secret, because we didn't
Speaker 3: want anybody in Austin to feel like they were getting like,
Speaker 3: I don't know, some kind of second.
Speaker 2: I think we wanted everybody in.
Speaker 3: A yeah, like we wanted it to feel like a
Speaker 3: big deal and not like, oh, they already got married
Speaker 3: to us.
Speaker 1: It was equal, yes, just different equal.
Speaker 2: Just different.
Speaker 3: So I was nervous and I did go and look
Speaker 3: and someone DMed me and said, Lauren, I heard you
Speaker 3: got married in Napa last weekend, but a random person.
Speaker 3: I don't know how or why and so, but they
Speaker 3: never that random I didn't respond, and that random person
Speaker 3: did not call TMZ or something. So thank you to
Speaker 3: that random person for just being cool again.
Speaker 1: I think one of the bonuses is, yeah, we got
Speaker 1: married up in Napa, but we weren't in La.
Speaker 3: If you go file for a marriage license at a
Speaker 3: courthouse in La or divorce or divorce, that tends to
Speaker 3: get it to TMZ.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think it's called the circle of trust. Right,
Speaker 1: So we created the Napa a HELLI, you know group.
Speaker 1: These are the people we trust and love the most,
Speaker 1: and so oh I wanted to protect us.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was never worried about our forty guests in Napa.
Speaker 3: You do start to get a little worried because, well, you're.
Speaker 1: At a hotel, you're around Napa, and we had dinners.
Speaker 3: We did a couple of things we did like in Napa.
Speaker 3: When we were coming in and out of our events,
Speaker 3: Chris and I would enter and exit the hotel separately.
Speaker 3: I mean I was wearing white, I would throw a
Speaker 3: coat on over my dress a big coat. But you know,
Speaker 3: I mean we are not really the type. We didn't
Speaker 3: have like the hotel sign NDAs and we didn't ask
Speaker 3: for stuff like that, so you know, someone who worked
Speaker 3: at the hotel could have called and given the news
Speaker 3: to any outlets. So I really appreciate that everybody respected
Speaker 3: the day and didn't do that. And I do also
Speaker 3: think it helps that our venues in Napa Lakoya where
Speaker 3: we had our Friday night welcome wine party, and roy
Speaker 3: where we had our Saturday wedding dinner, they are both
Speaker 3: run by people we know, friends of ours, and so
Speaker 3: I think they conveyed to their wonderful staff how serious
Speaker 3: it was.
Speaker 2: And I appreciated that.
Speaker 1: And by the way, kudos to the Archer Hotel because
Speaker 1: we know some people there, but not all. And there,
Speaker 1: you know, we ran into a lot of people who
Speaker 1: could have easily said something. And at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, here's the other thing. Lauren and I both said,
Speaker 1: let's not stress about it. We're not going to be
Speaker 1: psychotic about it. We would love for it to remain
Speaker 1: a secret just for everybody's experience, including our own, but
Speaker 1: if it gets out, it gets out. And the fact
Speaker 1: that we're married and we're in love gets out. That's
Speaker 1: not a big thing for a leak, and so we
Speaker 1: wanted it to have have that special moment and save it.
Speaker 1: But if it didn't, you know, we weren't going to
Speaker 1: live and die by it.
Speaker 3: We were We were careful about not wearing our wedding
Speaker 3: rings after NAPA, but you were so bad about it,
Speaker 3: I had to keep it. We'd be going to dinner,
Speaker 3: I'd say, take your ring off, or you'd go post
Speaker 3: something on Instagram, like showing off your new golf clubs, and.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you have to reach rise.
Speaker 1: I could wear my around the house only, and then
Speaker 1: I would take it off before we'd go to dinner
Speaker 1: or go to events, and I would often forget because
Speaker 1: I'm excited. I want to wear my ring. It's very
Speaker 1: cute that and so what I would do instead is
Speaker 1: I would wear the watch that Lauren gave me, and
Speaker 1: I would take the ring off put my watch on
Speaker 1: so I could just have a little something to let
Speaker 1: me know that, you know, hey, we're married, it's real.
Speaker 1: It was a little sign, a little signal, a little
Speaker 1: symbol of our love.
Speaker 4: Christy is asking now that you saw Jason and Caitlyn together.
Speaker 4: Do you see them ever getting back together?
Speaker 1: Oh? Great question. I think that's a fair question. And
Speaker 1: first of all, I'll take it well.
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking of how much to say. I'll be honest.
Speaker 3: I texted Caitlyn jokingly and said, so are you guys
Speaker 3: back together? And I think what came out of this
Speaker 3: weekend was that they were able to heal post breakup
Speaker 3: and move into a place of really good friendship.
Speaker 2: Now, I will.
Speaker 3: Say I'm not knowing both of them. I am not
Speaker 3: one hundred percent sure the door is closed forever. I
Speaker 3: loved seeing them together. If it's best for them to
Speaker 3: be broken apart, of course, I want them to do
Speaker 3: it's best for both of them. I always like them together.
Speaker 1: So as my mom says, never say never, and so
Speaker 1: I will not say never. But I agree with Lauren.
Speaker 1: I know for a fact where they got this weekend
Speaker 1: at our wedding was to a wonderful, friendly, amicable place,
Speaker 1: and I think it was important for them just to
Speaker 1: take that step. The animosity is gone. It's so funny
Speaker 1: when you are famous like they are. You know again,
Speaker 1: they're not, you know. Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck but
Speaker 1: they're still famous enough that public figures. It's weird. You
Speaker 1: get in this cone of just your people, and so
Speaker 1: you only hear the bad and you hear people talking
Speaker 1: and you see articles written in podcasts, and so it's
Speaker 1: easy for that animosity to build because the communication between
Speaker 1: the two of you stops like a normal breakup, So
Speaker 1: you're not communicating and you're not resolving things. So the
Speaker 1: animosity builds, and that can be cancerous. And so I'm
Speaker 1: glad that the animosity is gone. The friendship is there,
Speaker 1: and now I think what's important is the lanes of
Speaker 1: communication are open, and so I think this friendship will exist.
Speaker 1: Are they going to be best buds and hang out
Speaker 1: all the time. I don't think so, but at least
Speaker 1: they could reach out to each other should anything else arise. Now,
Speaker 1: will they ever be together a hook up? Who knows?
Speaker 1: And I just wish them the best. I love them both.
Speaker 1: They're both friends of mine ours, and I just wish
Speaker 1: them the best. And I hope this weekend and I'm
Speaker 1: I'm grateful that this weekend was something for them to
Speaker 1: just get over that first hurdle and come back together.
Speaker 2: And they both looked great. They did I did wonder.
Speaker 2: I did wonder, yeah, if they would hook up because
Speaker 2: they both looked so good. They both had great outfits.
Speaker 3: They both looked fit and just gorgeous, and I was
Speaker 3: like crushing.
Speaker 2: On both of them.
Speaker 3: And you know, look at weddings. Alcohol's flowing, people are dancing.
Speaker 2: I ha a good time. Love is in the air. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'll be honest.
Speaker 3: I was secretly hopeful for not Jason Caitlin, but I
Speaker 3: was just topebal for like some surprise hookups side of
Speaker 3: the weekend. But we're still pretty fresh off of it.
Speaker 3: We might still hear some news. There were two hundred
Speaker 3: and twenty five people there, so we'll see.
Speaker 1: We'll keep you posted.
Speaker 4: Okay, I have three more questions. The next one is
Speaker 4: from my Leen. She wants to know who the most
Speaker 4: famous person was at your wedding party in Austin.
Speaker 1: Louren Zema, Chris Arison, I don't know, you know that
Speaker 1: you know who it was? The Bachelor people were there.
Speaker 1: You know, Sergio Garcia is a very pretty famous you
Speaker 1: know golfer and Sage Steel on ESPN. So do you
Speaker 1: go like this depends on what world? And William Beckman
Speaker 1: was nice enough to be there.
Speaker 2: When Meryl Streep walked in, I said, is that a
Speaker 2: bit much? I said, maryl sit down?
Speaker 1: Are you kind of stealing our No?
Speaker 2: No, she'd think. You know, I'm like, Meryl, can you
Speaker 2: move over Ben Higgins this year? Please?
Speaker 3: Like people want to see Ben Higgins. So having Meryl
Speaker 3: there was fine, but I think it was good.
Speaker 2: You know, she was a beatlister.
Speaker 1: I was bombed that Stanley Tucci and Bono did not
Speaker 1: make it. I was holding out home.
Speaker 3: Somehow they didn't get the wedding website link and that
Speaker 3: was probably on me, you know, I DMed it to
Speaker 3: them incessantly. No, Honey, if I can make Bono happen
Speaker 3: for you, at some point, I will. It is the
Speaker 3: great lot in life for Chris to meet Bono. He
Speaker 3: has nearly met him, no joke, been in the same
Speaker 3: room as him. But then like he thought he'd get
Speaker 3: to say hi with then Bono left too early.
Speaker 2: Like five or six.
Speaker 1: Can't wait to write this book. Okay, one degree of Bono.
Speaker 1: So there you go.
Speaker 4: Amy wants to know you have been to a lot
Speaker 4: of Bachelor Nation weddings and I've seen it all. Was
Speaker 4: there anything that you wanted to and wanted not to
Speaker 4: do at your own wedding.
Speaker 3: I do think we had the discussion about how bachelory
Speaker 3: for the Austin party to be NAPA was intimate our
Speaker 3: forty closest family and friends. No, you know, it was
Speaker 3: just a really fun dinner and dance party. But we
Speaker 3: knew we were gonna have all of our bachelor friends
Speaker 3: at this Austin party, and so we knew that we'll
Speaker 3: give a certain bachelor element to it. And also, obviously,
Speaker 3: why are people listening to this podcast because they grew
Speaker 3: to know and love Chris through The Bachelor and maybe.
Speaker 2: Me through covering the Bachelor and.
Speaker 3: Part Anyway, so we had that discussion and we decided
Speaker 3: on doing a few little nods, like we did have
Speaker 3: some red roses, although maybe red roses are just romance.
Speaker 3: I talked to our florist about this, which was something Pretty.
Speaker 3: Floral's out of Dallas, an incredible floral designer named Taylor Davis.
Speaker 3: She owns her own company There's Something Pretty, and man
Speaker 3: are their arrangements pretty? So check them out because she
Speaker 3: also sells these super cute Christmas wreaths online that you
Speaker 3: can get. She's gonna send us one, Babe, because soon
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get festive for Christmas. Yes, So we talked
Speaker 3: about this because I said, like, you know, obviously roses
Speaker 3: are a thing for Chris. We met via The Bachelor,
Speaker 3: so I want to honor the way we met, but
Speaker 3: I don't want it to be over the top for cheesy.
Speaker 3: And Taylor really worked with me on, like, we had
Speaker 3: some red roses sprinkled around the love signs, and we
Speaker 3: had this beautiful champagne wall of Peyju champagn where people
Speaker 3: could take a glass as they entered, and so Taylor
Speaker 3: sprinkled red roses around there. But she said, you know,
Speaker 3: actually she said this, and I really appreciate it. She said, Lauren,
Speaker 3: Chris is so much more than like She's like, he
Speaker 3: does so much. He is, like I mean, she was
Speaker 3: singing your praises and just saying he is like an
Speaker 3: icon of television to people. So we need to make
Speaker 3: a little nod, but do much more than that. And
Speaker 3: so that's where the roses stopped. And then she did
Speaker 3: these beautiful fall blooms for us, with gorgeous fall colors
Speaker 3: and a beautiful arch that we got married under. So
Speaker 3: thanks to something pretty for doing that, right.
Speaker 1: Let me connect two dots and follow me here. Taylor
Speaker 1: also did Raven and Adam's wedding. She did, and that
Speaker 1: led me to think Raven and Adam we also invited.
Speaker 1: They were going to come. They are very good friends
Speaker 1: of ours. They were at another wedding and actually Raven
Speaker 1: was in the wedding.
Speaker 2: Raven was a Ta Booth's wedding.
Speaker 1: So our congratulations to Tea Booth who got married this weekend.
Speaker 1: God bless you. And unfortunately Raven and Adam couldn't make it,
Speaker 1: but I wish they had been there.
Speaker 2: We love them so much.
Speaker 3: That one hit hard because we're very close friends with them,
Speaker 3: and I know they were torn between being at two
Speaker 3: places at once. I think my favorite little nod was
Speaker 3: the signature drinks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this was all you too, This is Elsie.
Speaker 3: I love to craft a signature drink. I like to google,
Speaker 3: and you're also naming them. I love to name a
Speaker 3: signature drink, so they were. We had two signature cocktails.
Speaker 3: We had the Final Rose, which was Samprey tequila, a
Speaker 3: little lemonade and some rose syrup garnished with edible rose
Speaker 3: petals and people loved it. And then we had the
Speaker 3: Bachelor no more, which Jake it how you want. Yes,
Speaker 3: he's not a bachelor anymore.
Speaker 1: And he's not a bachelor anymore.
Speaker 3: And that was fresh muddled strawberries, Semprey tequila, lime juice,
Speaker 3: and a little triple sex. So that was kind of
Speaker 3: a yummy, fresh strawberry margarita. And it had that pink,
Speaker 3: you know, that red rose hue to it, and then
Speaker 3: the final rose drink had that pink queue to it.
Speaker 3: So they were pretty, they were yummy, and that was
Speaker 3: like the perfect little fun nod to me.
Speaker 1: My main thing was it wasn't necessarily things I had
Speaker 1: learned from the show. But you know, I guess, you know,
Speaker 1: having been to so many weddings and some I officiated
Speaker 1: on television, many you know, weren't on TV. You know,
Speaker 1: I guess Ari Lauren are great example. I went and hosted, hosted,
Speaker 1: officiated their wedding in Hawaii, and you pick up little
Speaker 1: things like at their wedding, it's just the end of
Speaker 1: the day. I wanted it to be us. I wanted
Speaker 1: everything to be intentional. I wanted it to be one
Speaker 1: hundred percent. Why are we doing this, Why are we
Speaker 1: spending money on this? Why are we taking this step,
Speaker 1: Why are we inviting this person? I wanted everything to
Speaker 1: be very intentional, so when I saw it or went
Speaker 1: through it, everything had meaning. Everywhere I looked, everywhere I stepped,
Speaker 1: everybody I met, everything I ate had meaning. And there's
Speaker 1: nothing that felt frivolous or pomp and circumstance. It all
Speaker 1: felt so heartfelt to me, and I think to you
Speaker 1: that was the most important thing. And I urge you
Speaker 1: as you plan your own wedding. And I gave somebody
Speaker 1: this advice the other day, make sure it's your day,
Speaker 1: and I get it. Yeah, you got to make sure
Speaker 1: the certain people are taken care of and feed everybody
Speaker 1: all that, but I just make sure it's your day
Speaker 1: and the decisions you're making, I guess be a little selfish.
Speaker 1: It's your day. You should be a little selfish.
Speaker 4: Okay. This final questions for me, Chris. I want to know,
Speaker 4: from looking at the photos and seeing you all with
Speaker 4: your Bachelor Nation friends, how do you feel emotionally about
Speaker 4: the show these days? Like? Did this weekend make you
Speaker 4: miss it at all?
Speaker 1: No, it didn't make me miss my job. It made
Speaker 1: me sentimental for sure, emotional absolutely, but feel really good
Speaker 1: again as we talked about with Jason and Caitlin how
Speaker 1: cathartic it was for them to kind of maybe bury
Speaker 1: the hatchet a little bit. Maybe there was some still
Speaker 1: still some things lingering in me that I didn't even
Speaker 1: know about. That Friday night especially helped resolve, and then
Speaker 1: seeing everybody on Saturday helped resolve. Just really nothing but
Speaker 1: love in my heart. Grateful that these people are in
Speaker 1: my life. And again I've said it before, I'll always
Speaker 1: be grateful for the Bachelor and that job that I
Speaker 1: held for twenty years in something I created. And as
Speaker 1: looked as I looked around the room that night and
Speaker 1: I stood up on a chair and I was giving
Speaker 1: a toast, the only reason all of us the connective
Speaker 1: tissue was me in the show. And so it made
Speaker 1: me feel really good, and so it didn't make me
Speaker 1: long for the days. It just made me happy and
Speaker 1: content for the days that I was blessed to have everybody.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for your questions, your comments, your support,
Speaker 3: your compliments. I have to say that one thing, Chris
Speaker 3: and I were so excited we held the secret of
Speaker 3: NAPA and we made it through the weekend in Austin,
Speaker 3: and we were so excited to be able to share
Speaker 3: this with all of you. As Chris always says, he
Speaker 3: loves love and man is a wedding a beautiful time
Speaker 3: to bring everybody you love together. And then the fact
Speaker 3: that we get the added bonus of having that love
Speaker 3: embraced by you, guys. We feel so blessed. Thank you
Speaker 3: so much.
Speaker 1: I am even though I'm a public person, a public figure,
Speaker 1: I'm not a I don't live out loud and one
Speaker 1: thing that has really struck with me is hosting the
Speaker 1: show I hosted for so long. It's all about love.
Speaker 1: It's all about relationships, you know, officiating weddings, going through
Speaker 1: a very public divorce, and then trying to date. When
Speaker 1: I found Elz and I fell in love and we
Speaker 1: went public, there was nothing but love and support and
Speaker 1: we shared that with you. And have we shared everything, No,
Speaker 1: But we've really tried to go on this journey, if
Speaker 1: you will, with you, guys, and you've just been there,
Speaker 1: supporting us and loving us every step of the way.
Speaker 1: And that's the reason we wanted to do these podcasts
Speaker 1: to talk about the wedding is really just a fan
Speaker 1: letter and a love letter to you guys, because we
Speaker 1: appreciate you so much, and I hope you know that.
Speaker 1: I hope you feel that we love you and adore
Speaker 1: you and thank you as much as you enjoy being
Speaker 1: with us. It's been a great community and we really
Speaker 1: appreciate this time with you, Elsie and I. As we
Speaker 1: look back, it was perfect. There's nothing I would change
Speaker 1: about either wedding, about either celebration, about anything. It's just spectacular.
Speaker 1: So thank you, thanks for being along for the ride,
Speaker 1: and we will do it again next time because we
Speaker 1: have a lot more to talk about. Thanks for listening.
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