WEBVTT - Burning Questions You Need to Know the Answers To 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.000 This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:10.960 We have been through every detail of both of our weddings, 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:14.800 the dual weddings, the one in Napa and obviously the 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:18.119 one that we held here in Austin, Texas. But Elsie, 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:21.760 we have still gotten so many questions, and so I thought, 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:25.840 let's jump back into this and let's take wait, let's 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.280 get married again, Let's have one more. I think the 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:31.280 third time is aim I have this ring on, I'm 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:31.960 not taking it off. 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:36.720 Or let's plan another one wed again. 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:42.040 This one doing the look doing Austin in our hometown, 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.559 which involved our home, and there were people in our 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:48.559 home obviously filled it with family, the kids. It was 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:52.200 a lot. The silence of this week is very welcome. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:52.960 I'll just say that. 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:57.000 I also, after we'd finished these podcast episodes, I'm going 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:59.160 to literally have a break of silence and rest my voice. 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:00.960 So I'm sorry I sound like this, but we're so 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:04.440 excited to answer your questions and thank you all so 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:07.440 much for caring about our wedding. Thank you for your 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:10.640 wonderful comments and kind words and compliments. 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:11.319 It means the world. 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:13.640 So Kendall, our producer, is with us and I think 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:16.720 Kendall's gonna give her voice to some of the questions 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:17.200 from you all. 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:22.600 Okay, our first question is from Bruce. He's asking how 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:25.560 did you guys decide who to invite from Bachelor Nation? 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:30.720 So our basic guideline there was who do we talk 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:34.360 to fairly regularly? Who do we still feel close with? 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:39.720 I mean, I covered the show for five six years. 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:44.120 You yeah, so you've got a lot. I mean, gosh, 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:47.080 when you do the numbers on thirty people per season, 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:47.560 that's a. 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:49.520 Lot of people, over a thousand people. 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.960 So obviously Chris can't keep in touch with everybody, and 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:55.400 I you know you and I. I also think we're maybe 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:58.240 a little bit closer with some people because of age, 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:00.120 Like I know, you're really close with Andrew Firestone and 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.880 Bob Guiney because they you were the same age as 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:04.800 them when they were on the show. So we were 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:07.120 just going by who are we still pretty close with, 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:08.920 Who do we talk to regularly? Who do we have 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:14.040 that history with and keep in touch with regularly. It 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.080 doesn't mean if if we didn't invite people, it doesn't 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:17.560 mean we have animosity towards them. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:19.040 It just might be that we even talked to them 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:19.600 in a long. 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.560 Time and to me. And this is how I kind 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:23.880 of tried to separate it, because again I could have 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:25.799 gone on and on and on, and I started going 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:28.720 down this rabbit hole, and I think Lauren noticed it 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:29.800 was really weighing on me. 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:31.840 We were afraid of missing someone. 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:34.000 Yeah, I didn't want to hurt anybody. You don't and 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:35.359 I didn't want to leave anybody out. But at the 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:38.040 same time, I wanted it to be very special. And 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:40.320 so I think where I started to draw the line, 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.400 and you helped me with this is who has a 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.959 connection with both of us? Who has a connection with us, 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:48.240 not me with us? Because again I can go back 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:51.400 and yeah, there's Andrew Firestone, but Andrew and Ivanna are 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.160 dear friends of ours. Very same thing with Bob Guiney. 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:56.280 Bob Guiney has now come into your life. We went 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:59.160 to the Kentucky Derby with him, and so there are 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.680 people that aren't just special to me. I wanted it 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:04.520 to be an us thing. They're at our wedding and 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:06.840 share in our love, and so I think that really 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:07.280 helped us. 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:08.200 We were really trying. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:11.080 We'd heard actually from Wells Adams's brother and his wife, 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:12.440 his brother Brett. 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:13.840 They had a rule at their. 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:15.800 Wedding that they didn't want to meet anyone for the 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:18.480 first time at their wedding, And in Napa, of course 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.880 we had our very closest friends. But Austin that was 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.600 a risk and ultimately some people did you know, people 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.000 get plus ones, We get it. So there were a 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.600 few people we met for the first time, but you know, 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:29.720 we had that spirit in mind if we wanted it 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.840 to be people we were connected with. And I did 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:35.600 say this in Austin as we stood up on the 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.040 little stage to do our vows, I said, we look 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:41.120 around this room and we recognize everyone, and we feel 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:43.800 close with everyone, and so we wanted to have that feeling. 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.760 I also will admit that. 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.920 Because you had so many over a thousand people on 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:52.720 the show over the years, when we were doing the 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:56.040 guest list, we did pull up Wikipedia the Bachelor page 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:58.920 and we went through all of the leads and then 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.640 kind of glanced to do his their season, because I said, Babe, 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:03.320 it's just what if you forget. 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:08.320 Someone, and inevitably Banks Wikipedia two people that I kind 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:08.880 of forgot. 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.440 Too that Oh okay, let's ad minute. 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.720 No Brad Womack, we invited and because he's from Austin 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.920 here and he lives here and you've got to know him. 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:17.279 We've gone to dinner that was. 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.080 Going to come and ultimately couldn't make it. We forgot 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.000 to mention him in the other podcast episode. He was 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:22.000 invited to yes. 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.919 Because he's he's always been a very good friend of 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:28.760 mine and so and former ESPN Sports Center host Sage 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:30.520 Steele was here as well, a good friend of ours. 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:32.280 So that's kind of whether they were part of the 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.880 bats or outside like Courtney and justin a you know, 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:38.679 baseball player, it's because they're friends of ours, and that's 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:40.520 it's kind of moving to Austin. The reason we're here 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.560 is it's something Lauren and I built together, and I 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:45.480 wanted our wedding to be about everything together. 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.280 And I guess we could segue that into something we 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:50.960 haven't talked about yet, which is how we chose Wells 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:54.200 and Ben to make a toast for us. Yeah, we 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.720 really we wanted the toast to be fun. We've been 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.840 to weddings before where the toasts on and on, or 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:02.800 there's too many people giving toasts, or I hate to 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:06.280 say it, but not everybody's a performer I think sometimes 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.960 people pick the people they're close to. But Chris and 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.760 I we have producers minds. As much as our wedding 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:14.719 wasn't was our wedding and it was real, we can't 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:16.680 help but think this has got to be fun and 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.080 have a good run of show. And so you want 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:20.799 to pick people who you know are going to perform 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.760 and be both emotional and funny. 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.640 And are beloved by all. Yes, you know it's neither 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.840 one of them you're gonna choose and be like, oh, 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:29.760 he chose him instead of me? 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.680 You know, No, we and I think everybody knows we're 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.920 all so most importantly we're close with Wells and Ben Well, 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.200 like Chris said, we wanted people know us both. 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:38.960 Yeah. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.479 So Ben was the very first Bachelor and I ever did. 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:47.200 I had started at ET and actually I've said this before, 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.960 but I had never watched The Bachelor. I was a 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:55.799 Housewives still am a Bravo Housewives fan, and I started 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:57.960 doing The Bachelor just because no one was doing it. 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:01.400 So I've known Ben for a long time. Wells was 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:03.360 one of the first interviews I did so and they 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:03.760 crushed it. 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:04.680 Their toasts were amazing. 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:06.279 All right, Kendall, what else you got. 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:09.560 Speaking of Ben Higgins, people are wondering what Ben and 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:11.279 Jojo were like around each other. 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.760 Again from the same season this had. This was the dynamic. 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:17.039 That's so funny when you do this. And I did 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:21.120 not at all consider whose season was coming and who 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.000 was on whose season. I think we forget a lot 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:26.240 and who's dated because you can drive yourself crazy. But 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:30.480 the dynamic with him is awesome. They are jovial, laugh 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:32.839 make fun of each other about you know, and I 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:36.560 think Ben even said about you know, Jojo not picking him, 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:40.040 and I said, great choice, Jojo, good, you know, bullet dodged, 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:41.200 and everybody got. 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:42.600 Alongst that joke. 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:45.240 Yeah, Ben and Wells has some good Bachelor jokes in 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:45.640 their toes. 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:46.600 They did call you out. 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:50.800 I think Wells said Chris Harrison. I'm paarphrasing his joke, 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.200 but he basically said, Chris Harrison is a matchmaker. But 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:55.880 as I look around this room, he really only made 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:58.200 one or two successful matches. So I think he joked 0:06:58.200 --> 0:06:59.960 that it turned out the Bachelor was a long count. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.240 No Will said, he goes, you're a Matchmaker's like you 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:06.080 are terrible at your job, and so he went around 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.760 the room and he goes, isn't that right, Ben, isn't 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.040 that right? Jojo is you know? He just kept going 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:14.480 around the room and like everybody who's you know, relationships 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:16.440 had failed. And then he got to Caitlin and Jason 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:20.360 and said right, guys, and Caitlyn raised two fingers because 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:23.360 obviously the show didn't go well, and then Jason Tartick 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.840 didn't go well. So everyone had a great sense of 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.080 humor and really took it all in. 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.800 Wells accused you of using the show as a long 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:31.320 con to find love for yourself. 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.320 He did, yeah, that he because I obviously found love 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:36.160 through the show as well and meeting Lauren. 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:39.080 Now, I will say with Ben and Jojo because when 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.760 I was again I'm interviewing them, like they did have 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:46.200 a tough period there, Like they had some awkwardness when 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.120 Jojo was with Jordan, and I don't think they were 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.680 always you know, because like Ben was with Lauren for 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:51.400 a while. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:52.720 And when I think that was a real breakup. You know, 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:56.040 there was a real emotional with Ben and Jojo. Two 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:58.360 of the biggest hearts you're going to find hearts were 0:07:58.400 --> 0:07:59.840 broken and so they. 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:02.400 Needed he What made me really happy was seeing them 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:05.320 at our house Friday night, Jojo is chatting with Ben 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.960 and with his wife Jess, who's wonderful, and it looked 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:12.280 like such a happy, chill, catch up, great conversation. 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:17.240 Hollie is asking, will you guys go on a honeymoon. 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:20.360 We are not going on a honeymoon. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:23.480 I really felt like we were being decadent enough by 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.440 having two weddings. We were going to be doing so 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:29.960 much celebrating, and Napa kind of feels like a honeymoon 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.199 destination anyway. But as Chris pointed out, well, we really 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:34.800 couldn't go on honeymoon because we had to come back 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:35.839 into our other wedding in Austin. 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.079 Also, yeah, I'm not gonna lie. And then Dad's weekend 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.120 at TCU is coming, you know, So we have things, 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.120 we have things coming up. When we're running into the holidays. 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:44.719 We'll get there. I think we'll breathe it all in. 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:48.000 Maybe I'll take Lauren to a quiet resort where where 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:48.960 we're not allowed to talk. 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:51.040 But we did. 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:56.520 We did have one night at this beautiful place in 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:59.199 Napa called the Poetry In and it's a place that's 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.920 special to us because after we got engaged in Napa 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.840 at brand. We were staying that night at the Poetry 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:07.880 and it's this place. It's a house turned into a 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:12.480 hotel that only has five rooms. They're all themed after poets. 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.520 We love the Emily Dickinson Suite. It's kind of a 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.520 special thing for us. The outdoor shower, I can't recommend 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:18.960 it enough. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.800 In the morning, he means that because you're looking over 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:23.920 the vineyards. So wasn't you weren't being dirty there? 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:24.160 Right? 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:27.320 Oh whatever? Okay, Like in the morning, you know, because 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:29.400 you're looking over stags leap in the valley and the 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.560 hot air balloons are coming across, and it's just so quaint, 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:37.320 so romantic. So we had a honeymoon night, special night 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.240 that we left the Archer Hotel where we stayed for 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:43.600 the wedding, which I can't recommend enough in downtown Napa. 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:45.800 Thank you to the folks at the Archer who just 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:49.000 treated us like royalty and took such good care. But 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.680 then we moved over and stayed at the Poetry in 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:52.199 for one night. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.480 It was special to go back to the place where 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:55.400 we were when we got. 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:58.320 Engaged, same room, same everything, and you know, we had 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.520 a nice quiet breakfast next morning before we flew back 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.160 home and it was just it was lovely. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:18.240 A lot of people have this question, did either of 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:19.800 you invite your ex? 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.120 Laura and I have both been married before and much 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:29.640 talked about the answer. Simple answer to that is, I 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:31.160 think is no. 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:35.280 No, no, I no exes, no ex boyfriends or girlfriends 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:35.840 of any kind. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.839 Yeah, no exes of any kind from either of us. Yes, 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:41.520 that I know about, but no. And by the way, 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:45.080 my my ex wife, lovely great mother, she did not 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:46.840 invite me to her wedding either. I did not go 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:47.160 to that. 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:49.360 It's always funny and I used to have to ask 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:51.560 this question sometimes on ET. They'd want me to ask that, 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:56.840 and I think, unfortunately that question immediately it makes it 0:10:56.880 --> 0:10:59.599 sound like there's something amiss, like, oh, you don't have 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:03.240 a good real relationship. No, I think the best friendliest 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:06.760 exes in the world. You're getting married again. Do you 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.640 want your ex? And does your ex. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.080 Want to be at your wedding? 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:10.320 You know? 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.280 Uh, your ex wife sent us a lovely congratulations. 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.640 I was going to give her give her props on that. 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:18.440 She texted both of us and said, thinking about you 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.800 on your wedding day. I hope y'all have a wonderful 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:23.000 weekend and send us her love. 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:26.800 And I will say that I had for my former 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.640 sister in law was at our party in Austin. I'm 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:33.040 still very close with her. I love her dearly. So 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:35.360 there is no bad blood of any kind. It's just 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:39.120 I have. I don't think anybody needs to have exes 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:42.040 of any kind of a wedding unless it's unless you 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:45.760 want drama. And I will just unless it's Jason with Caitlin. 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:47.720 He meant it your own, I know, I'm just kidding, 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.600 totally kidding. Yeah, So that definitely no exes. And I, 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.199 by the way, I recommend don't don't bring an X. 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:56.120 And by the way, even if the significant other doesn't 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:58.520 even know who that person was or if you've ever 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:01.079 been with him, it's just just for spectful in my mind. 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.760 And I wants to know if you considered getting married 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:04.600 on television. 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.720 That was been that was brought up to us, and 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:12.360 that was offered and nothing got crazy official and we 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:17.520 never got down that road. For me anyway, It's something 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:20.720 I wasn't against, you know, we never even really discussed it, 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.040 but it's something I didn't really want. It wasn't I 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:26.199 wasn't looking to monetize this. I didn't need to, and so. 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:30.000 Well, and I don't know that everybody gets on television 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:31.640 mare and on television needs to monetize. 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.400 I just I agree. 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:38.760 It wasn't something I would have been against, but in 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:43.920 the past, in the planning for NAPA and Austin, that 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:48.079 was never part of the discussion for these And I 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:49.480 loved everything about the way we did it. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:51.560 Yeah, but some people that had had talked to Lauren 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.280 and I early on about maybe if we did a show, 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.480 we could kind of roll it into that show and 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:01.520 we would launch it with a wedding, and we were like, yeah, no, 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.360 we just want to get married. We just want to 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:03.880 love each other. 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:08.880 Maddie is asking who was the drunkest from Bachelor Nation 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:12.559 at your party in Austin, Bobby, Lauren and I. No. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.320 People kept bringing us tequila shots. They bring the bride 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:16.920 and groom tequila shots, which I support. 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:18.280 Well, I don't know about you, but I ended up 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.360 at the bar with the guys. So I was over 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:24.480 there with tartic Wells, Bob Guiney, who's never shy at 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:28.960 the bar, and we cracked a bottle of Ceemprey tequila 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.160 and shot and then more people kept walking up. That 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:34.679 was the thing is people saw us over there, We're like, oh, 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.400 I want in, I wan in, and next thing you knew, 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:39.160 you're three or four shots deep. 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:40.079 No, I didn't know this. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:42.120 I'm glad we're doing this podcast because I need to 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:44.240 know what you were doing in our wedding. That was 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:45.920 the thing about Austin. We had two hundred and twenty 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:47.599 five people, and Chris and I had a divide and 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:49.720 conquer to make sure we saw everybody in dance with 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:51.800 everybody and said hi to everybody, and so I didn't 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.200 really see you much of the night. Again, the reason 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:56.280 I'm glad we had two weddings and had NAPA. How 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.400 many shots did you take at the bar? I like 0:13:58.400 --> 0:13:59.640 how You're like, I don't know if you did it. Yeah, 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.520 I was all over at the bar doing shots with 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:02.240 Bob getting well. 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.120 My boys were there and we were just having a 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:08.319 good time. So I mean four or five probably by 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.280 the end of the night. And I look, here's the 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:13.280 good news. In all seriousness, no one got belligerent, no 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:17.800 one made a fool of themselves, nobody was crazy silly 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.840 in a bad way. We did run out of tequila 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.200 we did run out of tequila, and I was it 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:24.960 wasn't early. It was later in the night because the 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.240 party went later than it was supposed to. And I 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:28.880 said to Chris, like, oh no, we're out of tequila, 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:31.360 and he said, maybe that's a good thing. It probably was. 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.440 It was like, as I said to Justin Turner, who's 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.520 a professional baseball player with the Red Sox, I said, 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:37.640 it's kind of like baseball at the seventh inning, they 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.120 cut everybody off so you can kind of sober up 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:42.400 before the ninth inning. That's how this was. I think 0:14:42.400 --> 0:14:45.000 we cut everybody off at the seventh inning and everybody 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:48.200 could just dance it out. If I'm going to out anybody, 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.960 Wells definitely maybe enjoyed the most. 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:53.760 The bartender per took in the bar. 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.240 Yes, you know, Oh here's what's funny. And I'll just 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:59.520 throw a well story out there. When we got to 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:03.000 our event at our house here Friday night and Wells 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.560 got here, Ben needed a drink and I look over 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:08.120 and Wells is making Ben a drink and he's handing 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:10.320 drinks out and I said, I went up to I said, Wells, 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:13.520 you don't have to be the bartender tonight. Man just relax, 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:14.400 enjoy the night. 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:18.120 Oh it's not a working night. Wells, we have air conditioning. 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:20.080 You're not in a but he and he enjoyed on 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:21.640 Saturday for sure, as we all did. 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.560 Lauren, this question is for you. We actually had a 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:29.560 soon to be bride reach out who is currently planning 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:32.760 her wedding and her dad passed away ten years ago 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:34.960 and she wants to know your advice on what she 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:36.720 can do to honor her dad at her wedding. 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.960 Well, all my love to her. What a wonderful question. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:48.120 I have seen a Well, I will say that I 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:50.360 think you should say something about your parents or your 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:52.920 loved one who's lost, if you want to. I actually, 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:57.280 in the past had a wedding coordinator at my first 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:59.200 wedding said I don't think you should say anything. I 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:03.080 think it'll bring the mood down. And that was like, what, Like, 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.400 you need to honor your that's the biggest thing. Honor 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:08.000 your person, because you don't want to look back at 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:11.480 that moment and wish you'd said or done something. Honor them, 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:13.840 most importantly in a way that's meaningful to you. I 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:15.920 don't care if it's what other people don't do. Be 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:19.560 specific to you. At my first wedding, I stood up 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.320 and just gave a little speech about my dad. 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:22.680 I did cry during it. 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:26.080 We had a couple pictures of my dad framed out 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:29.040 at my first wedding, which I loved. My little sister 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.240 did that at hers too, and then at our wedding 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:34.680 in Austin. Well, I guess and Napa, we honor my 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:36.200 dad at both. Do you want to talk about that? 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.720 Well, I would just say, as the person on the 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:45.520 other side of this, if your significant other is not 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.840 into this and not willing to honor your father, that's 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:52.840 a red flag to me. It was important to me. Well, 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:55.240 family's everything to me, first of all, and so it 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:57.320 was really important to me to honor your father. I 0:16:57.360 --> 0:17:00.240 think of him often. I think of him watching out 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:04.680 on me and watching us, and I wanted to honor him, 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:08.080 not not because you wanted it, because of us, and 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:10.760 because he's important. And he left an amazing you know, 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.600 as I said this in my vows, he left an 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:16.320 amazing family. Not just a daughter that I love, but 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:19.880 a family your mom who I adore, and your your 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:22.600 sister and your brother. Like he did the work, and 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:25.040 he left this amazing family that I'm not now a 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:27.160 part of So I'm grateful and I wanted to honor that. 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:30.480 And it was important to Mike, our officiant, our good friend. 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.080 He knew that too. So your dad Gary was a 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:37.399 part of the whole, the or the entire ceremony. He 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:40.640 was a part of my vows. So we all wanted 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:44.800 to do that. It wasn't just because Lauren asked for 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:46.600 it by any means. We just knew it was important. 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:51.000 It should come from a place of honoring, respecting, not 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:53.879 something obligatory. And I agree, look for that red flag 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:55.880 if it doesn't feel that way, but do whatever makes 0:17:55.880 --> 0:18:00.000 sense to you. In Austin, we danced our first day 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:03.760 chants to my dad and nice favorite song, you know, 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:07.399 because I never had that father daughter dance moment. I also, 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:09.879