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Speaker 1: One thing I do sometimes struggle with is the level

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Speaker 1: of compassion we should be having for our teens if

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Speaker 1: we grew up in a challenging environment, Like do any

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Speaker 1: of you have this thing where your teenager will be

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Speaker 1: going through something and it's real and their struggle is real,

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Speaker 1: and you validate that their struggle is real or it's

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Speaker 1: not that real, or it's not or it's like a

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Speaker 1: high class problem that you are dealing with them being

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Speaker 1: upset about and lacking a compassion or sensitivity chip because

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Speaker 1: you know what it's like to be in an alcoholic

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Speaker 1: or physically abusive or drug addiction or gambling, soaked, dysfunctional,

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Speaker 1: fucked up, smoked and drank while pregnant, throw the kids

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Speaker 1: out in the backyard, pray for the best immoral, psychologically warped

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Speaker 1: household like I did. Like it's hard when our kids

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Speaker 1: like they didn't get the most expensive sneakers, or everyone

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Speaker 1: has this, or they're all going here, and like it's

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Speaker 1: hard to have compassion in those areas, And there has

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Speaker 1: to be a line where if it's something that seems

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Speaker 1: fairly real, you do validate their experience. You don't want

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Speaker 1: them to be experiencing the pain that you had. I mean,

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Speaker 1: there's fifty shades of horrible childhoods. And then you have

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Speaker 1: a child that really orders in uber eats, you know,

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Speaker 1: or never has to worry about a meal or going

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Speaker 1: on vacation or going to a camp. And I tell you, now,

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Speaker 1: there's no way for me to say my.

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Speaker 2: Daughter's not spoiled.

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Speaker 1: She goes to a nice school, she has nice things,

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Speaker 1: she has wonderful experience, she's a very good person. She's

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Speaker 1: a wonderful human being, and from what I understand, compared

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Speaker 1: to most other teens, she's exceptional. That's what other parents say.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't have access to that many teens,

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Speaker 1: so I'm not one of these people. It's gonna be like,

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Speaker 1: my child's the smartest, my child's the best. I get

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Speaker 1: it from other people that they say she's really wonderful,

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Speaker 1: and she happens to do very well in school, completely

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Speaker 1: self regulated, having nothing to do with me. But you

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Speaker 1: just also want to find the line between validating what

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Speaker 1: single whim or struggle. They're not made of glass. They're

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Speaker 1: not supposed to be wrapped in bubble wrap. They're not

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Speaker 1: supposed to be fragile. Handle with care per se. Because

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Speaker 1: they have to deal with life, which is not fragile

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Speaker 1: handle with care. They have to be resilient, they have

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Speaker 1: to be strong, they have.

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Speaker 2: To be tough.

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Speaker 1: Different people have different ways of doing things. I was

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Speaker 1: just out with someone who said that their parents never

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Speaker 2: Money, because they have to have that hunger.

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Speaker 1: I don't know that I subscribe to that specifically for myself,

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Speaker 1: because I had that hunger times a thousand, and that

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Speaker 1: I am very triggered by it. Because I was in

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Speaker 1: I lived in like panic fear money noise, where I

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Speaker 1: Cuban about this, Like he's on a private plan. He's

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Speaker 1: and they're not going to live the exact same life

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Speaker 1: that we lived. A you want better for your kids,

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Speaker 1: but it's a different hand they were dealt. It's a

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Speaker 1: hand to be dealt to be my daughter, like just

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Speaker 1: to have some people talk to her because of me.

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Speaker 1: Some people the first thing they say about her is

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Speaker 1: ask her about me. Sometimes she doesn't want me to

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Speaker 1: always go to school because she doesn't want it to.

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Speaker 2: Be about me.

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Speaker 1: I get that by the same token, she gets to

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Speaker 1: Like my inner monologue is very different than my outer

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Speaker 1: But I don't say that because she's not supposed to

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Speaker 2: It's hard. It's also hard for it to get our

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Speaker 1: But I don't understand a lot of what's going on

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Speaker 2: Like I don't go to museums that much.

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Speaker 1: VICKI gumbleson years ago in the house. So I talked

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Speaker 1: Like I just crave being back and like having just

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Speaker 1: But then she got back and I had like a

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Speaker 1: we still weren't vibing. And then it was before Thanksgiving

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Speaker 1: and she said, Mama, can we just stay around all

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Speaker 1: Diane Keaton rest in Peace is in it, Sarah Jessica

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Speaker 1: like it's not a group activity, it's not a dinner

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Speaker 2: It's harder for you.

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Speaker 1: Guys if you have more find the meaningful tank filling time,

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Speaker 1: because it's so incredible and it's so important during the holidays,

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Speaker 2: It just heals me. It heals me to the core.

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Speaker 1: And I'm so happy because I am going away on

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Speaker 1: I don't care about all the money. I'm going there

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Speaker 1: And I say to myself, like I can afford it,

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Speaker 1: Because people will be like, why do you want Spirit

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna make an experience.

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Speaker 2: Out of it.

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Speaker 2: So it is still business.

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Speaker 1: And it became a good reason because it combined all

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Speaker 2: So that's what I think.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm doing, and that's the story.

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