Speaker 1: It is Monday, and we have a very very special guest,
Speaker 1: and the studio with us today can recognize. She didn't care.
Speaker 1: She don't set the short cut away. You know why
Speaker 1: because she's a new person. A bench is happy and
Speaker 1: it's not the ending anymore because it's about to begin.
Speaker 1: But guys, we are here. It's horrible decisions. I'm your girl,
Speaker 1: Mandy sitting across from Wheezy and our very special guest.
Speaker 1: You guys all know her. She's been on the show before. Um.
Speaker 1: You may know her from hosting alongside UH fan favorite Tahoe. Um,
Speaker 1: she was on the So Shameless podcast. But now she
Speaker 1: is about to go back on tour for her reloaded book,
Speaker 1: The M and Man Is for Money. And that name
Speaker 1: may found sound familiar because she's been on our show before.
Speaker 1: So if you guys haven't, check out our episode with her,
Speaker 1: The M and Man Is for Money, where she talks
Speaker 1: about her book. We're gonna talk a little bit about
Speaker 1: your book, but we're gonna focus on the new ship
Speaker 1: in your life because you are a new woman. You are, Um,
Speaker 1: what's this? What's your new name with this? Yeah, you
Speaker 1: gotta have a name with this war at least front.
Speaker 1: I didn't know it's a closure drag us. I don't
Speaker 1: know got the I mean, got the baby hairs. I
Speaker 1: don't like the little baby hills. I mean it looks
Speaker 1: at first I thought it was and then you got
Speaker 1: the closure on top. Okay, so down, but that's safety.
Speaker 1: When it's so down, that's safe. I have to explained
Speaker 1: that about this twenty seven people. They're like, well, is
Speaker 1: it a wig? And I'm like, no, bitch, there was
Speaker 1: twenty seven pieces of the track and they're all glued
Speaker 1: onto the cab and then it's so down and I
Speaker 1: don't have to explain it to black Yes, man, I've
Speaker 1: never heard of anybody from up north. To them, it's
Speaker 1: a down south thing. We call it Jamaicans what they
Speaker 1: calls it's a quick oh yeah in the blood. Let
Speaker 1: me get back to my roots. So something. Um, of
Speaker 1: course we've in. I are now off tour, thank god,
Speaker 1: but um, we have just a lot of travels coming up. Um,
Speaker 1: and I wanted you to talk about, of course, the
Speaker 1: country you were recently and so I guess coming up
Speaker 1: so that this the summertime. A lot of you guys
Speaker 1: hit us up saying y'all wanted to visit Thailand. So
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask both of you your travel plans
Speaker 1: coming up for the summer, and then we'll double back
Speaker 1: on where you just came from. Well, I'm going to
Speaker 1: Ruba tomorrow, damn the Wealth, and then Turks and goes
Speaker 1: next week. Do you like people love it? I mean
Speaker 1: I've been before Turks and people like stand for it.
Speaker 1: I've never been. It was always it's funny, this is
Speaker 1: very ironic. But I always like that's alwayspensive that myself.
Speaker 1: But you haven't. No, no, no, I no, I have
Speaker 1: to because it's my friend's birthday. But I always disregarded
Speaker 1: it because I was like, oh, go, I gotta take
Speaker 1: me there, And now it's my friend's birthday, I'm like
Speaker 1: a cutty. Well, actually it's actually cheaper than because no,
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, the we're renting a house, but her
Speaker 1: boyfriend's paying for the house for Yeah, technically it is.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say the funny thing about tricks and kikos.
Speaker 1: When I went, I was with some friends and like
Speaker 1: they were talking about how secluded the island is, so
Speaker 1: secluded and so expensive that they get their toilet paper
Speaker 1: from Miami. They get all of their goods from Miami
Speaker 1: and the hospital there only has fifteen BEZ and he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, but we're upgrading to thirty five. Holy
Speaker 1: sh it. I did go five years ago. But um,
Speaker 1: super blue water. Any cruise boats that go you have
Speaker 1: to take like a boat from the cruise so that
Speaker 1: you don't funk up their ship, which I think is superb. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I like that. I like that somewhere to go for
Speaker 1: my birthday. At that I took the whole two weeks
Speaker 1: off for my birthday, Like I got like a two
Speaker 1: week block out where we going. I don't know, Listen,
Speaker 1: I like to go to Europe in a summer though, Okay,
Speaker 1: see I haven't. I just did Europe, and so I'm
Speaker 1: actually planning a trip now with a friend, um the Bahamas,
Speaker 1: but just because I want to do Exuma. I haven't
Speaker 1: done Exuma Island and my homeboy shot love them pigs.
Speaker 1: But I'm also gonna do the Iguana Island and you
Speaker 1: could swim with the sharks. No, yeah, that's so I
Speaker 1: wanted to get bitch, I'm paying for that tour. So
Speaker 1: so girl found one for the low I'll let you know, um,
Speaker 1: and it's an open bar. The whole time. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be ship faced with the pigs, like I'm bar
Speaker 1: like one thing, what is like one bottle the fucking
Speaker 1: run punch bitch, it's open bar day. White people was
Speaker 1: hired about them pigs getting drunk on fire faster, like
Speaker 1: this is so fucked up. Fuck the niggas on the
Speaker 1: island they sucked over, but those pigs in the I
Speaker 1: got it so crazy. Like my sister got on me too.
Speaker 1: When I was in Thailand and took a picture with
Speaker 1: the tigers like um on Instagram. They're like, oh, in
Speaker 1: two thousand nineteen, we still write elephants. Yeah, it's funny
Speaker 1: you're bringing it up. So a friend of the show, Sharonas,
Speaker 1: is going to Thailand for work and I was like,
Speaker 1: make sure if you do the elephants, you just gotta
Speaker 1: make sure they're not in trapp They're like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's a sanctuary. Yeah, I just sanctuary. Yeah, you have to.
Speaker 1: I don't know what is this? What is the sake?
Speaker 1: She says, she don't care, So whatever I did. So
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't really know right in the
Speaker 1: moment when they do them. But so the tigers I
Speaker 1: never did because I knew they were dropped up, but
Speaker 1: elephants sanctuary basically means they don't get beat to be
Speaker 1: written on, and there's their elephant. There's a breaking of
Speaker 1: the spirit with elephants, right, So they'll engage them for
Speaker 1: like weeks at a time and beat them and basically
Speaker 1: forced them to be submissive so that you can jump
Speaker 1: on their backs and ride them. So I just pet well,
Speaker 1: And there is something recently that I actually want to
Speaker 1: know that elephant backs are actually not made to be
Speaker 1: written on, which is crazy for how big they are.
Speaker 1: But you know, you have horses, you have camels, those
Speaker 1: animals were made to support people. But even though elephants
Speaker 1: are so strong, they actually have week backs. That's something
Speaker 1: I actually just read. So y'all don't go hopping under
Speaker 1: my pictures where I was on top of the elephant
Speaker 1: because I didn't have that elephant for like four seconds
Speaker 1: because it's so high it was. So I went to
Speaker 1: a sanctuary where basically, which what was cool about it.
Speaker 1: She's like, Okay, if the elephant doesn't funk with you,
Speaker 1: you just can't get on, like right, She's like, you
Speaker 1: have to kind of sense the energy, so we're feeding
Speaker 1: in bananas. Well, I mean it bro it was. It
Speaker 1: was really far, but you felt better about it, like
Speaker 1: they were playing with us there in the water. You
Speaker 1: bathe with him. But yeah, she was like if they
Speaker 1: don't like you, then like did drive all this way?
Speaker 1: It is what it is. You don't get on top
Speaker 1: of them because we don't do that right where in
Speaker 1: some places they just turned them around every thirty minutes.
Speaker 1: So it was really interesting minutes. And I did it
Speaker 1: for like four I was like I don't like this,
Speaker 1: take me back and they were like what because you
Speaker 1: know they take you to the middle of the um
Speaker 1: the forest and then trying to sell you something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like, here's the money. Turn around. We got like
Speaker 1: four minutes and I was like, oh, you want me
Speaker 1: to give you money, just turn this to the round
Speaker 1: way to like it was higher than that thought, like
Speaker 1: we were on top of we were on top of
Speaker 1: the house. Yeah, almost like slipping off, like and they
Speaker 1: put us in a yeah, they put us on a
Speaker 1: bench um and then for my elephant was metatl because
Speaker 1: they was feeding him of course to keep them walking.
Speaker 1: And then Nigga like spit up goddamn food and then
Speaker 1: came back toide hand shut his back, that perfect kind
Speaker 1: of go get us off. It was green and ship
Speaker 1: like this is disgusting. So I don't know if I
Speaker 1: ever talked about on this show, but like I had
Speaker 1: this fucking wild spiritual moment with this elephant. This bit
Speaker 1: everything is spiritual. Heart tell you what happened, dude. So
Speaker 1: first off, my waist slid off because the elephant was
Speaker 1: like throwing me up, So you basically slide on their trunks,
Speaker 1: right if you ever get debates with the elephants and
Speaker 1: they flip you and they have so much fun doing it.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I was getting out of breath and my
Speaker 1: hair came off, and I was like, I'm done, I'm done.
Speaker 1: So I started swimming to the shore and the elephant
Speaker 1: then starts to go really fast, like almost running out
Speaker 1: of the water, and they were scared he was gonna
Speaker 1: stomp on me because I basically jumped off the elephant
Speaker 1: to go in the water. So he then comes right
Speaker 1: over me, on top of me, right, and I didn't
Speaker 1: even realize. So the elephant knew I was in distress
Speaker 1: and was like protecting me, like almost like how you
Speaker 1: connect with a dog and a dog knows that basically,
Speaker 1: eh one my nigga, and he was like, they handed
Speaker 1: me my wig. He was checking the nigga like you
Speaker 1: he good, and I'm like, we're good boo and got
Speaker 1: back on. He took his trunk between my leg and
Speaker 1: lifted me up. It was crazy, dog. But it's just
Speaker 1: crazy how in tune with elephants like that we can
Speaker 1: be like, they're so smart, they're so majestic. Every black
Speaker 1: household got an elephant in it, like the trunk up
Speaker 1: and out of face to the north RP to my auntie.
Speaker 1: But when she died, my mom was like, you want
Speaker 1: the elephants. I'm like, she had fifteen. And that's actually
Speaker 1: a thing um in the Jamaican culture. Like my grandma
Speaker 1: has so many glass elephants all over the house. I
Speaker 1: think they're actually supposed to be for good and good luck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but they gotta be facing the north and yeah, that's
Speaker 1: that's my Can we just be making up this stuff?
Speaker 1: You know? I think so? I don't think we do
Speaker 1: all of it about that? Hold up? What mehing to
Speaker 1: explain that trends, that's what it's like economics, you know what.
Speaker 1: Exactly as much as she doesn't believe in astrology. She
Speaker 1: could never cause which I do that don't believe that's
Speaker 1: what everybody say. I'm a motherfucking liber And just know
Speaker 1: if y'all say, I didn't need y'all to know, it's
Speaker 1: the best. Okay, that's what the fund that mean. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and hop into real quick, y'all. Um.
Speaker 1: While we're talking about travels, this whole episode actually stemmed
Speaker 1: from Cutty's recent journey to India. UM, So I can't
Speaker 1: wait to hear about India and some other things that
Speaker 1: happened while over there. Um. But we're gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and hop into our vanilla ship for this episode. UM.
Speaker 1: And it actually has to do with Alabama, and no,
Speaker 1: it's not about the abortion law. It's about one of
Speaker 1: their other trash ass law. So if you guys are
Speaker 1: in Alabama, get y'all shipped together, go and write to
Speaker 1: anyone in policy that you can, and also make sure
Speaker 1: you vote when it comes time to vote, because y'all
Speaker 1: need to make some change. So this is about Alabama's
Speaker 1: current sex ed law that actually harms l g B
Speaker 1: t Q youth. Um. Tony Kristen Walker UM has seen
Speaker 1: how Alabama's current sex ed law has harmed lgbt Q
Speaker 1: as the prevention. As the prevention director for AIDS Alabama,
Speaker 1: Kristen Walker has been allowed by four Birmingham City schools
Speaker 1: to teach sex education courses. He's advised fourth graders to
Speaker 1: alert an adult when someone inappropriately touches their private areas,
Speaker 1: and middle schoolers the different forms of HIV prevention. But
Speaker 1: when it comes to the lgbt Q community, the state's
Speaker 1: decades old sex ad law requires instructors to state that
Speaker 1: homosexuality is not a lifestyle acceptable to the general public
Speaker 1: and that homosexual conduct is a criminal offense under the
Speaker 1: state's UM laws. As a gay man himself, Christin Walker
Speaker 1: refuses to say those words. UM. If an lgbt Q
Speaker 1: student asks him a question about sexual health, he just
Speaker 1: redirects the conversation because it is harmon harmful. I'm sorry, UM.
Speaker 1: To include lgbt Q youth and sex education conversations is
Speaker 1: not only necessary, Walker said, but it's suicide prevention. Lgbt
Speaker 1: Q youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide
Speaker 1: than their peers. Why I know ship And according to
Speaker 1: a two thousand seventeen climate survey conducted by the Gay,
Speaker 1: Lesbian and Straight Education Network. Six point seven percent of
Speaker 1: lgbt Q students in Alabama received a sex ad course
Speaker 1: mentioning their sexuality or gender identity. I want to give
Speaker 1: a shout out to Randall wood Finn, who's the mayor
Speaker 1: of Birmingham, Alabama. He's one of the only black mayors
Speaker 1: they've ever had in the youngest mayor and like hundred years.
Speaker 1: I met him while we were doing the Do Say
Speaker 1: Friday podcast Me and then and had you know, I'm
Speaker 1: talking about the Oh that's where you were there. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about Remember the dude though, remember so like this dude, Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like it's really trying to make change there and ship
Speaker 1: like that, but it's so hard. Like, you know, we
Speaker 1: talked about getting people of our own office and ship
Speaker 1: like that, but just one person ain't enough. Like you
Speaker 1: really need to make sure that we're doing all that
Speaker 1: we can in our own communities. Seriously, Like we can't
Speaker 1: keep tweeting and being enraged. Like if you're there in
Speaker 1: a city close by, in a state close by, like
Speaker 1: do all that you can to alert your legislators and
Speaker 1: let them know, Like this is fucking wild. LGBTQ people
Speaker 1: that are having a higher suier side rate are generally
Speaker 1: because they're growing up in a super religious households, be
Speaker 1: being shunn from their homes and see unable to live
Speaker 1: as they are because of ship like this. Yes, so
Speaker 1: I think it's also very important now and we've talked
Speaker 1: about it, um, from Our Lives show in d C
Speaker 1: to even talking on here about the importance of not
Speaker 1: only sex head as it pertains to sex with others,
Speaker 1: but also just masturbation. UM, the conversation of when you
Speaker 1: should have that conversation with your child, and also not
Speaker 1: shaming um what type of sexual orientation they decide to go,
Speaker 1: and really letting them find themselves. I think all of
Speaker 1: us know that. UM. We can't help who we love.
Speaker 1: We can't help who we're attracted to. UM. I've tried
Speaker 1: to stop liking these light skinned funk nis for a
Speaker 1: long time, Okay, I've tried. UM, So just when it
Speaker 1: comes like it does, start in the youth, and of
Speaker 1: course just with social media and everything now, UM, bullying
Speaker 1: and suicide rates are going up, and so UM again,
Speaker 1: if you guys have any say, or you guys live
Speaker 1: in the Alabama area and want to try to make
Speaker 1: some change, I think this is definitely, um, something that
Speaker 1: y'all should look into to you know, helping ship change,
Speaker 1: because that's what we gotta do outside of them abortion laws.
Speaker 1: But you know we're gonna talk about that another goddamn
Speaker 1: tact um. So for this one, I'm really excited, guys.
Speaker 1: The kink of the week for this goddamn episode UM
Speaker 1: is stepped by a goddamn mother vegon cutty Um. Today's
Speaker 1: kink of the week is erotic massage. He so, erotic
Speaker 1: massage is the use of massage techniques by a person
Speaker 1: on another person's orogen rat ridiculous orogenis zones who achieve
Speaker 1: or enhance their sexual excitation or arousal to achieve orgasm.
Speaker 1: Massages have been used for medical purposes for a very
Speaker 1: long time, and they're used for erotic purposes. Also has
Speaker 1: a long history. In the case of women, the two
Speaker 1: focal areas are the breasts and the vagina. Wall of course,
Speaker 1: in the male case is the dick. Um. So there's
Speaker 1: things called the pelvic massage, which we've talked about, um,
Speaker 1: And actually erotic massage has actually led to as well, UM,
Speaker 1: the development of vibrators. Yeah, did you know that vibrators
Speaker 1: were used, like they were saying, I mean initially like
Speaker 1: for women, like the orgasm was relieving pains and different
Speaker 1: stuff like that, which is why they brought them right
Speaker 1: because they were doing like badginal massages anyway, And that's
Speaker 1: actually where the laby A massage came from, which I
Speaker 1: think I talked about Jeeves doing it on me and
Speaker 1: I've done on scissors. But like it's so dope because
Speaker 1: it's all this blood flow that we've never felt before.
Speaker 1: If you've never heard of the laby A massage, it's
Speaker 1: one of the best erotic massages to give. So there's
Speaker 1: no I mean, you can put your fingers inside the
Speaker 1: pussy if you want to, but you basically use your
Speaker 1: hands and the woman's outer laby a too massage for clip.
Speaker 1: So when we're simulated by the clip, generally it's from
Speaker 1: the front and we don't really get to feel the sides.
Speaker 1: So when you take the two sides of her outer
Speaker 1: lips and rub them up and down to where they're
Speaker 1: rubbing the clip on its own, it's like a whole
Speaker 1: another sensation and it's like fucking crazy. So look up
Speaker 1: laby A massage on and hub or online and figure
Speaker 1: out how you can give your partner one. I know
Speaker 1: we talked about it before and a lot of you
Speaker 1: guys wrote me and said it went well. But just
Speaker 1: in case there's new listeners, laby a massage is the jam.
Speaker 1: And and also what's crazy is that the genital massage
Speaker 1: UM was actually introduced in Western medical tradition. So this
Speaker 1: was something UM in which at one point you had
Speaker 1: to go to a doctor um to achieve and this
Speaker 1: helped UM. Actually it was a technique of general massage
Speaker 1: that helped for the disease called womb disease UM to
Speaker 1: bring the woman into hysterical paroxysm. The linga massage for men.
Speaker 1: A lot of people, like modern society has seen it
Speaker 1: um on Sex in the City, the episode Miranda Gets
Speaker 1: came on. They go to this woman's apartment. She teaches
Speaker 1: women how to give them her man a hand job
Speaker 1: by doing the linga massage. If you watch it, I've
Speaker 1: done it once. It kind of takes a long time,
Speaker 1: but it was like he could have probably filled up
Speaker 1: a cup. So I guess what linga linga l angie
Speaker 1: hand It's it's a hand shop, but you're using You're
Speaker 1: like you're using both hands, you can use them flat.
Speaker 1: It's like different focuses on. It's crazy. But yeah, every
Speaker 1: single time I try to do anything except something that
Speaker 1: he'd be like, no, stop playing on my staying with me.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you has I mean and we'll
Speaker 1: talk about, of course getting into the happy ending type massages,
Speaker 1: but have you ever massaged a man that led to sex? Like?
Speaker 1: Are you into massaging in the bedroom or always get
Speaker 1: you let me exactly? They either say let me rub
Speaker 1: your back on? They tell you to rub day back
Speaker 1: And that's the last person I had sex with. That's
Speaker 1: how we want them having sex. But I mean, this
Speaker 1: is how you got got well yeah, did you really
Speaker 1: get got? God? Though? No? Yeah, I just want to say, wait,
Speaker 1: weald about the guy that we're talking about your mother bitch.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, now we're gonna get there. We're gonna get there. No.
Speaker 1: But to me, it's crazy because I really enjoy getting
Speaker 1: massage and I like I hate giving them. I'll be
Speaker 1: telling them I'm work work all day, I'm tired, I'm
Speaker 1: lazy too. I need to I don't ride. I don't
Speaker 1: like I know I do it, But I'll just be
Speaker 1: like I told you. I'm really into like, but I
Speaker 1: don't like a real one like I like to like
Speaker 1: I love some massage chest male and female, and like
Speaker 1: put my pussy right on them and like rub their
Speaker 1: chests while they're looking at me. And then like sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll flip over and like we rubbing their legs and
Speaker 1: my pussy in their face. And if I'm showing out,
Speaker 1: I'll do like only if I really like the guy,
Speaker 1: like I have to really like you to give me
Speaker 1: give you a massage, but I get into the whole,
Speaker 1: like all rubbed the calves and stuff. But then I
Speaker 1: just like to get up because then I'm by the
Speaker 1: thighs and then I like spread their booty cheeks I
Speaker 1: do the girl. They'd be running, well you know, I
Speaker 1: just do it in the back for a little while
Speaker 1: and then I'd be like I'll be having that. Yeah, No, seriously,
Speaker 1: that's literally what goes on. It's hard to give like
Speaker 1: a good moratic erotic miss. I think we can make
Speaker 1: them fun is like touching everything, but like I be
Speaker 1: gave right and increase, I can't. I don't funk with
Speaker 1: people who are like that. They'll be like come on now,
Speaker 1: Like I wanted to bring back though guys. UM. How
Speaker 1: the erotic massage led to the development of the vibrator. UM.
Speaker 1: A solution was the invention of massage devices, which shortened
Speaker 1: the needed treatment from hours to minutes, removing the need
Speaker 1: for midwives and increasing a physicians treatment capacity. Already at
Speaker 1: the turn of the century, hydrotherapy devices were available at
Speaker 1: bath and by the mid nineteenth century they were popular
Speaker 1: at many high profile bathing resorts across Europe and America.
Speaker 1: By eighteen seventy a clockwork driven vibrator was available for physicians,
Speaker 1: and in eighteen seventy three the first electro mechanical vibrator
Speaker 1: was used at an asylum in France for the treatment
Speaker 1: of hysteria. UM. But basically, by the turn of the
Speaker 1: twentieth century, the spread of home electricity is what brought
Speaker 1: vibrators into our home. UM. And I just go to
Speaker 1: say that UM, because I want to shout out. I
Speaker 1: want to shout out hold on. Let me get her
Speaker 1: name right. It starts with a v who gave us
Speaker 1: those toys in UM? Veronica. I want to give a
Speaker 1: I want to give a huge shout out to Veronica,
Speaker 1: UM because she came to our l A live show,
Speaker 1: and she gifted us with mad sex toys. Now, if
Speaker 1: y'all I've said it before, i'd be like, bitch, I
Speaker 1: just like my fingers. I don't really use sex toys,
Speaker 1: but I'll allow. Okay, let me give it a try. Um.
Speaker 1: So I tried the woman isiser. This is not an
Speaker 1: ad I need you all to know that. Um. And literally,
Speaker 1: for a split second of using it, I thought I
Speaker 1: would never need dick again. Um. So I tried the
Speaker 1: woman either. Now here's my problem, right, So I tried
Speaker 1: it with the use of CBD infused loop. Um. If
Speaker 1: you guys want to know what type, come to my Instagram.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it on here, but it just
Speaker 1: made me fucking like feel some type of what I
Speaker 1: was making, like cat noises, like I remember mom like
Speaker 1: that while I was mastivating, I was like, it felt
Speaker 1: so good. Um. It's a pretty pricey toy. Um. So
Speaker 1: if you guys want to look I did look it up. Um.
Speaker 1: There's an option of a hundred dollar one and a
Speaker 1: two D one um and I believe you may be
Speaker 1: able to find it on Adam and Eve. So you
Speaker 1: guys use our w D five zero. Maybe not for
Speaker 1: that because the woman is apparently is that ship. It
Speaker 1: is almost there is like a guarantee you to a
Speaker 1: year ago whenever I was well, I used it and
Speaker 1: I was kind of like this is a little too much.
Speaker 1: It's a I was like, like a clip over your clip, right,
Speaker 1: So it's so good. It's so good, ladies, if you
Speaker 1: if you're looking for a new toy, the woman I bitch,
Speaker 1: and it makes me not one dick like it needs
Speaker 1: to be. The sucking I might never go downside that
Speaker 1: they're making on like Amazon that you can get. I
Speaker 1: think it's like forty five dollars you could type and
Speaker 1: clips sucking. Honestly, it'll come up. But the woman is
Speaker 1: the original quote unquote or most well known. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's an original, but clip sucking toy. And
Speaker 1: so it basically takes the you know, the clip and
Speaker 1: the skin around it, and it's like right, also the
Speaker 1: more blood flow too. Not only that, got it got
Speaker 1: a silence. That's how we'd be coming. Got a silencer,
Speaker 1: so it'd be vibrate like you don't even hear it.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I'm gonna try to like bring
Speaker 1: it on the plane with me because it doesn't vibrate
Speaker 1: like I was like, this ship really silently. We had
Speaker 1: a dope episode with them on Patreon. I really kind
Speaker 1: of want to post it on here where we had
Speaker 1: these flight attendants and they were telling us how sex
Speaker 1: is not you can and all they're gonna tell you.
Speaker 1: So here's okay, let me stop, let me revert what
Speaker 1: I was to saying. So they basically were the girls
Speaker 1: tell the story about how she called a woman giving
Speaker 1: a blow job and she said I tapped her and
Speaker 1: let her know and go to the bathroom. And I
Speaker 1: was like, why would you do that? She's like, because
Speaker 1: two people are allowed in the bathroom. They just have
Speaker 1: to make sure there's two oxygen masks in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: And if they knocked on the door, as long as
Speaker 1: you weren't making too much noise, you can be like,
Speaker 1: oh I was sick, he was helping mer, he was
Speaker 1: a at my dress or whatever. But you can't have
Speaker 1: assistance in the bathroom. So when we were done, this
Speaker 1: is only last night we did that was I looked
Speaker 1: it up last night. I'm like, no, my nigga, how
Speaker 1: come I couldn't find it? And apparently yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: unless you're literally caught in the act, which some people
Speaker 1: have been on Twitter. There's been video. Can't be be like,
Speaker 1: there's no nothing at all about being in the bathroom
Speaker 1: of the opposite set. I mean I could go in
Speaker 1: with my girl and gave a tip do it on
Speaker 1: the red eye flights because she'd be like, we'd be
Speaker 1: we'd be ready to land to it. Everyone's sleep like,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be distracting as long as she said.
Speaker 1: The only way she even knew the girl was giving
Speaker 1: head is because you heard she was like, it's like
Speaker 1: really like you gotta give head quiet, no slap. It's
Speaker 1: happy on the plane, like you gotta give him some dryhead,
Speaker 1: soum the moment you have all been waiting for. Um
Speaker 1: as you guys know that's some one. I'm probably gonna
Speaker 1: be like, what are they talking about? Can probably listen
Speaker 1: If y'all don't know, Ketty, just know this is the thing.
Speaker 1: And she said, I'm ready. Guys about you in India,
Speaker 1: Hutty and I we chat online. We chat very casually.
Speaker 1: This bitch texted me, I don't know what time of
Speaker 1: night it was or day. She was like wheezy and
Speaker 1: I was like, looked at the name. That's where cutty
Speaker 1: I was she's talking about. I just got happy. I
Speaker 1: was like, I wanted Instagram and yeah, so I'm excited
Speaker 1: because I was like, who am I gonna tell? Well,
Speaker 1: now you're telling about a hunting paper. No, but I mean, like,
Speaker 1: where am I going to share my story yet? Because
Speaker 1: you're not be on Live Alive. But it's not. It's better.
Speaker 1: It's better it's juicy, are than just the regular live
Speaker 1: juicy when someone can go back and for it and
Speaker 1: be like it's juicie when it's But like, I just
Speaker 1: I just needed the right platform to tell it. I
Speaker 1: was like, who better than? Wh else was better than?
Speaker 1: So we're gonna go. We're gonna do it. Set the
Speaker 1: scene and Okay, So I was in India and you
Speaker 1: know in Asia they have it's widely known that there's
Speaker 1: like eight dollar massages for like a whole hour everywhere.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I've been to Thailand, got my little
Speaker 1: eight dollar massage over there, Bensibally, got my little hossage
Speaker 1: over there. So I'm like, I just really wanted a
Speaker 1: little cheap massage that's old because at the hotel, you know,
Speaker 1: be like a hundred dollars. I'm like, no, that's fine
Speaker 1: in the little nail salon uncol. So we you know,
Speaker 1: me and my friend are all looking around for a
Speaker 1: cheap massage place, but they don't want to send us there.
Speaker 1: The hotel keep on trying to send us to somewhere,
Speaker 1: but we're like, no, dirty, dirty spot. You said dirty said?
Speaker 1: She says dirty spot. I said she was spy. But
Speaker 1: so you're gonna blame your friend. No, no, no no, no no,
Speaker 1: but that's not what happened. So they sentence is somewhere
Speaker 1: that was basically like the dirty spot. But he tried
Speaker 1: to charge just like sixty dollars, I guess because he
Speaker 1: knew what hotel was coming from. So she was like, listen,
Speaker 1: it's not that oest um the Lodi and um New Delhi.
Speaker 1: But let's not talk about how she was also riding
Speaker 1: around and like a Rolls Royce the hole. No, yeah,
Speaker 1: jaguar in right ball. Girl know some days we was
Speaker 1: in a cam okay, so you're you're now heading and
Speaker 1: they tried to charge you sixty dollars. Yeah, but so
Speaker 1: we're like, listen, this spot is bullshit, Like we don't
Speaker 1: mind being here, but we're not spending spending sixty dollars,
Speaker 1: like we're leaving. So we literally go into a random
Speaker 1: spot across the street. There were like four spots across
Speaker 1: the streets. So we're like, oh, how much is for
Speaker 1: um our massage? They said fift rupees that's like twenty dollars.
Speaker 1: So I was like, yeah, yeh need to right, we're going.
Speaker 1: So they're like, okay, come pay whatever. We go to.
Speaker 1: We go in the room and there's a like full
Speaker 1: size bed, like low with two pillows. There's a jacuzy right,
Speaker 1: and then there's a shower. So we had just come
Speaker 1: from the taj Mahle, so we were it was a
Speaker 1: hundred and five degrees over there. So she was sweating.
Speaker 1: My friend was sweating and she was like, no, he
Speaker 1: not about to um, they're not about the massage. Me sweating.
Speaker 1: So she hopped in a shower real quick, and the
Speaker 1: guy's knocking on. I'm like, hold on, yeah, it was
Speaker 1: in the room. It was a shower in the room,
Speaker 1: in a jacuzi in the room. So she was like
Speaker 1: just rinsing off real quick. So then she goes and
Speaker 1: she says, um, they're knocking on the door, and he's
Speaker 1: like oh. I'm like hold on, hold on, and he's
Speaker 1: like I need to talk to you and I'm like what,
Speaker 1: like what? So he says, we want to put you
Speaker 1: in another room and I'm like okay, yeah, you don't
Speaker 1: like yeah, it was like a couple of room. But
Speaker 1: he was like, they're not gonna be comfortable. So when
Speaker 1: he said they're not gonna be comfortable, I assumed that
Speaker 1: he meant both of you are gonna be on the
Speaker 1: same bed. It's gonna be hard for them. Some maneuver
Speaker 1: around the bed and like yeah, and and massage right,
Speaker 1: So I definitely was like, oh, like I gave massages
Speaker 1: in my own room one of time. Whatever, don man,
Speaker 1: he's like a woman for you, man for you, and
Speaker 1: she was like, no, we're both for a women. I
Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm tak a man. I like it hard,
Speaker 1: Like I don't I request men too, only because sometimes
Speaker 1: women are a lot more gentle. Yeah, I'm like, I
Speaker 1: have had real backgrounds. I really want you to dig
Speaker 1: I like deep massage, deep, we believe kind of what
Speaker 1: you got. It was so funny because when I was
Speaker 1: in like Thailand and um Bali, I kept on tweeting
Speaker 1: and I was like I can't find the happy endings fine,
Speaker 1: joking around like, oh they're not doing any happy endings?
Speaker 1: Where is where is that? And I always didn't get
Speaker 1: them over always I was joking about it because you know,
Speaker 1: people always sing it. But they had you ever had
Speaker 1: like your breast massage by the dinner? No? Never, no,
Speaker 1: like in the massage sudden not me neither are they
Speaker 1: supposed to massage? No, they like they like under but
Speaker 1: they don't like that's what I've had. They've had. I've
Speaker 1: had them like no, no, no, I've had at least
Speaker 1: three times. No, maybe your breast looked just that. They
Speaker 1: always something even like that, okay, nothing. So I go
Speaker 1: in my room, I have on the disposable underwear and
Speaker 1: I'm laying on the table and he starts massaging me
Speaker 1: for like the first three or four minutes and then
Speaker 1: he's like take these off, and I'm like okay, because
Speaker 1: I just always I always get naked massages and the
Speaker 1: only thing that saves me is the towel which they
Speaker 1: move around anyway. The disposable panties I ain't never had.
Speaker 1: Yeah they I mean a lot of places don't give
Speaker 1: you them. So like the disposable panty is when they're
Speaker 1: using like a lot of oil. It's gonna say a
Speaker 1: lot of oil, scrubs and mud. That's when I've had disposable.
Speaker 1: But I've never had someone asked to remove my panties.
Speaker 1: I know me neither, and I don't know if I
Speaker 1: would have done it, but continue on. Let because I've
Speaker 1: had it to wear. I take everything, like I'll actually
Speaker 1: tell them, um, I don't wear panties, so that's probably
Speaker 1: why I mostly do. But I do let them know
Speaker 1: before I get on dress, like, I'll tell them, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't have panties on. Is it okay? And they're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you're comfortable. In some small places would be like
Speaker 1: keep calm and keep your underwear on. It has signs
Speaker 1: like I ain't got none to keep on. I gotta
Speaker 1: let them know, like and keep you know, how do
Speaker 1: people now we're underwear but whatever that's ain't got him
Speaker 1: on that I need And because I always I always
Speaker 1: need to get wet, right is my barrier right now today?
Speaker 1: But not it's and it's not even like a horny wet.
Speaker 1: It's like a freaking sweaty so soaky, drippy wetale. My
Speaker 1: office is Antarctica. I'm freezing all day. Okay, so so
Speaker 1: you now take off your panties. So you didn't know
Speaker 1: what was happening. I swear to god, I wasn't thinking
Speaker 1: this has never happened. I thought it was a myth.
Speaker 1: Can you tell us really quick? Can you describe the
Speaker 1: man that told you to take your penis? It was bad? Oh?
Speaker 1: I want to know. What did he look like? Oh?
Speaker 1: I hate you? He was the same. He was this short,
Speaker 1: little short and I didn't hy end about like five four,
Speaker 1: skinny with a pot belly. I turned one eye twisted
Speaker 1: to the other. He was he was something i'd I
Speaker 1: don't know. It wasn't a fake and if it was
Speaker 1: a good, happy ending, technically he had a gifted his
Speaker 1: eye his eye was twisted. Okay, so the twisted I
Speaker 1: laid his hands on. Now, I just got embarrassed because
Speaker 1: you know what, everybody who asked about this story ain't
Speaker 1: never asking. Why wouldn't we? This is like what don't
Speaker 1: need to know? Don't the guy who was getting my
Speaker 1: man and he looked like a chip and like my
Speaker 1: friends about you and twisty tree. So your panties are yeah.
Speaker 1: So I swear to god, I didn't think anything. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, like, I just thought it was what
Speaker 1: they do in India. So I'm like laying on my
Speaker 1: stomach and he's massaging up and down one leg. Right,
Speaker 1: So he goes up and down the leg three times.
Speaker 1: On the third swipe, he takes like his his hand
Speaker 1: and swipes like by the lip, like right right, like
Speaker 1: a little credit card, like a metro card situation. So
Speaker 1: like but quick, so you think it might be what
Speaker 1: you know what the first time he yeah, he just
Speaker 1: touches it like now. At first, I was like, oh god,
Speaker 1: I'm not even I'm not even shaved, and I'm and
Speaker 1: then I'm like see because I hadn't already stopped before
Speaker 1: I went in there, so I was like, I know,
Speaker 1: you didn't think he was gonna find Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: was like I had a little, you know, a little stubble.
Speaker 1: So I'm like all right. So then he goes down,
Speaker 1: he goes back down the leg, he goes back up,
Speaker 1: and then he does like a false swipe, and I'm
Speaker 1: like I felt good, hold on, I said, he supposed
Speaker 1: to be doing this. What the fuck? What is going
Speaker 1: on here? Like mad stuff? Is going through my head.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, not stop right. So now he sees that,
Speaker 1: I'm you know, like I guess that was his little wait.
Speaker 1: So he goes and he just goes and like spreads
Speaker 1: my leg a little bits. Yeah mind you, he said
Speaker 1: little leg legs. He spreads my legs a little bit
Speaker 1: because yeah, and then like starts touching my vagina and
Speaker 1: like yeah, like and I'm like all these things are
Speaker 1: going to bed. I'm like this is not right. I'm
Speaker 1: like this feels really good. Oh this is real. Oh
Speaker 1: it's real. Oh wow, I have a story to tell.
Speaker 1: How it's gonna have a best story in this. This
Speaker 1: is like I have like all of these things. I
Speaker 1: feel so guilty whenever at like a good sex moment
Speaker 1: because I'm like, damn, wait till the he is right
Speaker 1: and I'm like okay. So he's and then he does
Speaker 1: that for a little while and then he says turn over,
Speaker 1: and I'm like okay, okay, So I turned over and
Speaker 1: I keep my eyes closed because I don't want to
Speaker 1: see the eye to keep my eyes closed. And he's
Speaker 1: at the bottom of the table and he's like on
Speaker 1: straddle of the table and then he's like he was
Speaker 1: just staying up something. Yeah, I don't know. My eyes
Speaker 1: is closed, and he's like playing with the clip with
Speaker 1: my nipples and he's playing with it was a oh boy.
Speaker 1: He's like, try to make me come now, like you're
Speaker 1: really not even getting massages now, and he his his
Speaker 1: duty is to make me come now, and he's playing
Speaker 1: with everything. And then he goes and he puts his
Speaker 1: fingers and that's a lot, you know, oh you need yeah,
Speaker 1: I got my eyes are closed. Man, I don't know,
Speaker 1: so he just two fingers, but he didn't do that
Speaker 1: a lot. But then he goes and he feel like
Speaker 1: you were you clinching? No? Wait, So I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, this God, this good. But I don't want him.
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to give him a reaction because I
Speaker 1: don't see. You weren't making noise, so no, because I
Speaker 1: didn't know. I was sniful because I didn't want him
Speaker 1: to get too excited and take any further. So right,
Speaker 1: so I'm up there and I'm just like eyes closed,
Speaker 1: eyes closed, but he's gonna go, go, go, and then
Speaker 1: finally I come and then but I kept it, so
Speaker 1: I was like, have you ever came off of s yeah.
Speaker 1: I And it's so funny because like when people talk
Speaker 1: about poring and stuff and they're like, oh, yeah, I
Speaker 1: need to from the minute they walk in the doors,
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, I take the little four minute clips.
Speaker 1: By two and a half, I'm done. Like I'm one
Speaker 1: of those. I literally Yet I like it to last longer. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it just doesn't. But you know what, I don't
Speaker 1: masturbate a lot so that I can have that sensation
Speaker 1: and like make sure that I could come. Yet, what
Speaker 1: else helps too with that? Like if you're trying to
Speaker 1: like have better are stronger orgasms if you watch porn
Speaker 1: a lot, like if cutting it off a little bit
Speaker 1: and like learning how to relearn your body and like
Speaker 1: use your mind to work that way, that can help
Speaker 1: you too. It's hard, though, I don't do it. I
Speaker 1: don't want it, So I got to sleep aout nine o'clock.
Speaker 1: I don't listen. Like so okay, so I got you
Speaker 1: said that you didn't make noise, So so I didn't
Speaker 1: make noise. I'm like, but no, no, no, I didn't
Speaker 1: make noise. I was like it was like did he know? Then?
Speaker 1: I guess because then afterwards I was like, okay, back
Speaker 1: and turned around and go back to my back, right,
Speaker 1: because yeah, this it's an hour missile. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: you came in, how long and how many minutes do
Speaker 1: you know of your massage? How long you were being masturbated?
Speaker 1: Not long? Not long? And then he got into so
Speaker 1: he and then he went back to regular massage, ngs
Speaker 1: all of your juices from his fingers into your back.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I mean that's I didn't even think
Speaker 1: about that bad. So I turned back around, go back
Speaker 1: to and he's massaging and he leans down. He says
Speaker 1: no extra, and I'm like, that wasn't extra. What is extra? Like? No?
Speaker 1: And then he goes, okay, and then you had to
Speaker 1: ask for research purpose and extra, right, I did it.
Speaker 1: Some ten minutes later, I didn't want to talk to
Speaker 1: this man. Some five minutes later, he goes he says,
Speaker 1: no extra, No, no extra. I don't know what. I
Speaker 1: don't know what extra is all of my show extra? No.
Speaker 1: It was just so like, what the funds this extra? Yo?
Speaker 1: I was like, you might be like, yo, look at me.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I was like no. So I'm getting dizzy.
Speaker 1: Then finally I started like getting a little nervous. And
Speaker 1: then like, I hear more people outside. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: I think my friend is done. He goes yeah, and
Speaker 1: he just and then he just how much? Um, that's
Speaker 1: two thousand rupees? So I think that's like twenty eight
Speaker 1: dollars in real life. I mean, I mean, sorry, in
Speaker 1: US life, you tipped two tho rupees? Yes, instead of
Speaker 1: in the home massage. Yeah, okay, yeah, so good for you.
Speaker 1: So so I go into the other room and my
Speaker 1: friend is like, oh my god, she has to touch
Speaker 1: because your girl, your friend, I had a girl. She
Speaker 1: had a girl. And I was like, she was like, Alex,
Speaker 1: this is a special place. She's mortified, not even she
Speaker 1: is mortified. I'm like, let's get out of here. She's like, yes,
Speaker 1: let's get out of here. And then I go and
Speaker 1: I picked up my phone and she has been texting
Speaker 1: me up. A storm was coming, yo. She has been texted.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find the legement. I wonder why I
Speaker 1: was on you. When I was on the phone, she
Speaker 1: had been texting me. Oh, she says, she says, you alive. Oh,
Speaker 1: this is a special place. He just asked the rubbed
Speaker 1: my pussy. She just asked, the rubbed my man may
Speaker 1: I rub your pussy for you. Oh my god, she
Speaker 1: asked again. So while she's getting the side, she pulled
Speaker 1: the phone out, she said, because she she declined it. Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, she had a woman, so maybe she
Speaker 1: was like, hell no, I don't know, but she was like,
Speaker 1: she said, the lady said, ma'am, we have twenty eight
Speaker 1: minutes left. I can massage your pussy. And she was like,
Speaker 1: excuse me. She was like, oh no, man, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: She was like, she was like, she's like, man, please please,
Speaker 1: she she she begged. She said, I need to make
Speaker 1: money to get passport. Because no. Wait, so did speaking
Speaker 1: of money to get pass for it? Did you know
Speaker 1: how much to give him? No, I just gave him anything.
Speaker 1: So you gave him thirty five No, two thousand rupees
Speaker 1: so like twenty eight dollars No, but you gave him
Speaker 1: that total paid. So you gave him rupie from I
Speaker 1: don't know. They probably don't so you gave him total. No,
Speaker 1: he probably doesn't get any of the rupees that I paid.
Speaker 1: The I got you. I kind of thought they were
Speaker 1: like independent. No, So now I feel horrible because she's
Speaker 1: like she's like, oh we She's like, I don't hourly.
Speaker 1: Probably what's the name of the place, remember spaking, it's
Speaker 1: probably those I want to google something. And then she
Speaker 1: says so that she goes and she says, you know, um,
Speaker 1: you know, we we need money to to get married
Speaker 1: and have kids. Here like you, the women have to
Speaker 1: have money. No, no, no, saying all of this. He
Speaker 1: was like, this, bitch, just so we really need she
Speaker 1: you know, over there you have to have money to
Speaker 1: you know, have kids and get married. Uh maybe, but
Speaker 1: they have more than on one location. I think this
Speaker 1: location was like being built up like they were. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: actually so, oh my god's so dark, so unsafe, Oh
Speaker 1: my god. Yeah, google that. So she goes and she says, um,
Speaker 1: so she's selling her whole life story. She's like crying,
Speaker 1: She's like, you know, and then she's like, man, we
Speaker 1: have eleven minutes left. I can still mustache. But she
Speaker 1: was like no. After the first time that she asked that,
Speaker 1: that's what, she hopped up and grabbed her phone and
Speaker 1: started sex to me, like you you know, even knowing
Speaker 1: you was trying to My phone was in the room
Speaker 1: with her, because remember initially we were supposed tom So
Speaker 1: when I came and I looked at the text. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, she was freaking the funk out.
Speaker 1: What was your friend's reaction when she knew that you
Speaker 1: the guy? Damn. Actually we didn't really get all the
Speaker 1: way into it because she was so mortified. So you
Speaker 1: would like, let me keep muship, I said, well, I
Speaker 1: let him touch me, but I said, that's all I said.
Speaker 1: But so, if you're listening, sorry you were, you were really, really,
Speaker 1: really mortified. I was also see how maybe another woman
Speaker 1: kind of feature out. I just read something says best
Speaker 1: body to body missige. What the fund is that? Now
Speaker 1: I had a body to body massage in Miami once
Speaker 1: I found it on Craigslist. I found my Miami. Oh wait,
Speaker 1: you deliberately went to go get happy and then I'll
Speaker 1: tell you. I'll tell you about my happy briefly. Oh
Speaker 1: so um, I wanted to get I can't even say
Speaker 1: his name, but one of my friends, very close to him,
Speaker 1: had not had had sex in years seven years at
Speaker 1: the time, and we at least have to get you
Speaker 1: jerked off, right. There was a lot of friends jack off.
Speaker 1: So I look up this place. This is ould trip
Speaker 1: two thousand twelve or some ship. I'm like, I got it.
Speaker 1: It's got the stars, it's got the squiggly lines. Were
Speaker 1: good to go. We get there, it's in a strip
Speaker 1: mall really cute girls, me, him, my other friend one.
Speaker 1: I want to say, who got so Anyway, this is
Speaker 1: when my breasts were rubbed for the first time and
Speaker 1: she got on top of me and it was body
Speaker 1: to body, which a lot of tie massages are body
Speaker 1: to body because they'll use their body to crack you.
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily always erotic. But the best part of
Speaker 1: the massage was the table shower still to this day,
Speaker 1: best experience I've ever had. So basically, you get on
Speaker 1: this sponge bath, there's like probably six shower heads above you,
Speaker 1: and they fucking get all up in your crevices, pussy ass, armpits,
Speaker 1: bottom of your feet, scrub It's such a good feeling.
Speaker 1: You could do it before, after your massage, whatever you like.
Speaker 1: But in that massage, I never knew about body to body,
Speaker 1: so like she used her arm throughout my arms, she
Speaker 1: used her legs throughout my legs, everything like picking me
Speaker 1: up and like cracking me out. Like it was good.
Speaker 1: So it wasn't necessarily a sex massage, but some people
Speaker 1: like that ship for erotic ship, you know, so like
Speaker 1: and it's not something that every place like they could
Speaker 1: really do, which is why we had to go on
Speaker 1: clas well. This one was very I was like, Mandy
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh my god, he didn't ask for
Speaker 1: a consent. Came for him to just start, so I'll
Speaker 1: be what's crazy is my massus guy did not ask
Speaker 1: for consent either, but um, so I got it done.
Speaker 1: In Miami, I shared it. I don't even remember what episode,
Speaker 1: but I was with my homegirl for her birthday. UM
Speaker 1: shout out to my friend Jazz and just graduated group
Speaker 1: on one. I thought we didn't, so we went. We
Speaker 1: were in Miami and she she came with me to Asia,
Speaker 1: so I was with her. Um my old roommate Crystal,
Speaker 1: and so we went to this massage place that we yeah,
Speaker 1: we found out group on. We had to leave the
Speaker 1: beach because like we couldn't find anything like, okay, bitch,
Speaker 1: I found this place this over on Austin Road. We
Speaker 1: could just go over there real quick. So we left
Speaker 1: the beach, went to the massage place. Um before we called,
Speaker 1: they said they had two girls and a guy. I
Speaker 1: called it up from I said, well, I need a
Speaker 1: guy because I like man massages, like I don't like anything.
Speaker 1: So we get there, um and we get sent to
Speaker 1: our different rooms. So the guy, when I walk in,
Speaker 1: he's like this tall Russian or German or he's somewhere
Speaker 1: in Europe, but like just looks like a goddamn action figure.
Speaker 1: A beautiful man though, So we started talking about where
Speaker 1: he's from. He just moved to Miami. I can go
Speaker 1: an accent, so I didn't want to talk too much
Speaker 1: because I really couldn't understand too much of him. But
Speaker 1: he was handsome. I was like, okay, So as he
Speaker 1: is massaging me, he like is going up my thigh
Speaker 1: the same way. This is me being actually I was.
Speaker 1: I was laying now on my back. This is after
Speaker 1: I had rolled over. So he's massaging my thighs, massaging
Speaker 1: my thighs, and as he's doing it, I do kind
Speaker 1: of start feel him getting closer up my thighs and
Speaker 1: my whole ass. I opened up my legs so as
Speaker 1: he's up there, like I just started inching like up
Speaker 1: my pussy um. And then yeah, he literally went from
Speaker 1: massaging my thighs to rubbing his finger around my thing.
Speaker 1: And I had to like not moan, mind you bitch.
Speaker 1: I came out fifteen minutes later than my friend. They
Speaker 1: was like, well, what your massage? We only paid an
Speaker 1: hour and it looked at me because I was just smiling,
Speaker 1: and I was smiling in a year when I left
Speaker 1: and I was like, thank you, like you did a
Speaker 1: really good you guys, mind you. Neither of my friends
Speaker 1: really care for them and something. They were like, this
Speaker 1: was actually I'm recommending U, and it was it was like,
Speaker 1: so did you come? Oh? I was yeah, Like it
Speaker 1: started feeling too good, and I was like, man, I'm
Speaker 1: about to get him a number everywhere, Like had group
Speaker 1: and massage me and like did the thigh thing and
Speaker 1: I got tighter and tighter. It was fine. I knew
Speaker 1: I want honestly, Like I don't know. It scares me.
Speaker 1: I will say they should definitely there should be some
Speaker 1: and that says, well, well either way, whether it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter what country, happy ending should be somewhere. But I
Speaker 1: know it's literally I know it's illegal, but maybe put somewhere.
Speaker 1: Maybe we all know secretly there's a happy and I
Speaker 1: don't know, or maybe pay in the beginning. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but you don't look like no, cos I would have
Speaker 1: told you, has there's something two Americans coming in a spot.
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, you think that looks kind of sketch.
Speaker 1: I don't know, well because I mean there's not a
Speaker 1: lot of Americans around there. Yeah, but you had that
Speaker 1: nose around you was you was a whole Indian guard.
Speaker 1: You probably looked I just care for the had a
Speaker 1: freaking punch Jobby. Did anyone online be like, yo, that's
Speaker 1: appropriation as what? Oh? No, really, I got I think
Speaker 1: the difference to it Dubai is like the sand dunes,
Speaker 1: so you get to cover your face. So I was
Speaker 1: wondering too that I feel like somebody's gonna be fake.
Speaker 1: I mean, but if you want to the taj Mahal,
Speaker 1: that's the thing too. When you're going to these bosques,
Speaker 1: you have to cover up like it's not I remember, well,
Speaker 1: what is this the massoleum? Okay? But I remember like
Speaker 1: even when I was, even when I thought it was
Speaker 1: because when I was it looks like when I was
Speaker 1: in Bangkok we went to the palace and I thought
Speaker 1: I had covered up enough, like I had just all
Speaker 1: black on. My my shirt was long um and I
Speaker 1: put a denim jacket over it, but I had legs on.
Speaker 1: I was a big girl, but nigga like it's hot,
Speaker 1: I'm more leggings. And because my leggings were tight, even
Speaker 1: even though it covered my whole body, they were like
Speaker 1: it's too tight, like you need to you know. And
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna get in this, y'all not
Speaker 1: stop it. Even Thailand skirts too, that they were selling
Speaker 1: in Thailand. I noticed where because most women were wearing words,
Speaker 1: Oh no, like Thailand wasn't as um wasn't as strict
Speaker 1: to me that as like I did have to cover it,
Speaker 1: oh bitch, And I've been a cutter that I had
Speaker 1: a maxi dress and a denim but again my ass
Speaker 1: was looking. A man literally changed almost like literally the
Speaker 1: guy that I was with at the time, we were scared,
Speaker 1: like he just started yelling, but in his in his
Speaker 1: language to where like it created a whole like the
Speaker 1: whole supermarket was staring at me and my dude at
Speaker 1: the time at six eleven fucking dreads from Atlanta. I'm
Speaker 1: over there seeing him because he was playing ball over
Speaker 1: there at the time, and I'm confused because I'm like,
Speaker 1: I have a long dress to my knees. I have
Speaker 1: a denim jacket. It's sucking a hundred degrees. How is
Speaker 1: there are a problem? But I guess my dress was
Speaker 1: too tight for them, and so literally the wife came
Speaker 1: up to me and was like, honey, you're fine, Like
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, but mind you, she's covered only a lot.
Speaker 1: It's very conservative and cutter in comparison to Dubai. So
Speaker 1: like it was the scary, like I had been scared.
Speaker 1: The literally the security guard had to walk us to
Speaker 1: our car in the garage at the supermarket because it
Speaker 1: calls such like an uproar, and he was like, don't worry, man,
Speaker 1: you look fine, Like I don't know what was wrong
Speaker 1: with him, but like it made me feel uncomfortable. So
Speaker 1: I could see why even I get I get why
Speaker 1: people would think it would be cultural appropriation, but you
Speaker 1: also want to respect the cultures when you go. No,
Speaker 1: I just thought that the Indian guards were so beautiful,
Speaker 1: like when you go to the here and like you,
Speaker 1: the fabric is amazing and you have to get the maide,
Speaker 1: Like I didn't buy that. I had to go get
Speaker 1: the fabric and then go to the tailor. He had
Speaker 1: to tailor the whole thing, you know, measurement. But it
Speaker 1: was probably because I just bought Is it appropriation if
Speaker 1: tourists were I mean by American definition, yes, but everybody
Speaker 1: was like, my god, but you know where it comes from,
Speaker 1: Bollywood culture, because we're such fucking face ends of Bollywood
Speaker 1: all over the world. Bollywood is so amazing. So I
Speaker 1: feel like it's you know, you're just really feeling like,
Speaker 1: this is what I've been seeing, this is what I've
Speaker 1: been looking at, opposed to like dashiki ship. I don't
Speaker 1: know why I should be bothering me, but it's not
Speaker 1: even like just wrong, yeah, you know what, It's just
Speaker 1: like I would here. Crystal wants an Indian wedding. We've
Speaker 1: talked about it, either an Indian or African wedding. She
Speaker 1: doesn't care if she marries the Indian. That's the type
Speaker 1: of wedding she wants, just because of the beauty of
Speaker 1: the dancing. So beautiful, beautiful, It's really the fabrics are beautiful. Wedding.
Speaker 1: I don't know about but clothes, but I could fun
Speaker 1: with I mean, we showering. We have themes for baby.
Speaker 1: You can have a theme for a wedding. I guess
Speaker 1: a Bollywood theme as long as it's no, because I
Speaker 1: always want to make sure that you don't cross over
Speaker 1: to their religion, right, which is what's the thing that
Speaker 1: about Thailand I was just thinking about when she was
Speaker 1: talking about Cutter and Thailand. Thailand Taipee people really probably
Speaker 1: themselves on acceptance a lot. But that's just Buddhist way
Speaker 1: right with um. You know their l g pt Q community.
Speaker 1: Have you on the t right, like oh my god, yeah,
Speaker 1: in those spaces, they're very proud that they are good
Speaker 1: to their transgender men, women whatever, mainly trans women, and
Speaker 1: even any tour I had or any like temple I
Speaker 1: went into, like they would talk about that, which I
Speaker 1: really appreciate it. Um. So yeah, I think that also
Speaker 1: maybe why we experience a leniency in Thailand opposed to
Speaker 1: these other countries because there's not really many gender um
Speaker 1: oppressing laws. But we were in um India. The there's
Speaker 1: like literally people okay, you know how they sell fruits
Speaker 1: on the street, they sell water on the street. Now
Speaker 1: they're not on your window. They're selling a paperalel, they're
Speaker 1: selling a pen, they're selling the weirdest ship that you're like,
Speaker 1: is this the money sense? So that we not buy
Speaker 1: anything then, because and then every single light, which is
Speaker 1: not many lights, there's what we would consider a trans
Speaker 1: person coming to the window, knocking on the window. Right,
Speaker 1: So I'm about to step so I'm I'm like, so
Speaker 1: what is this person selling? He's like nothing, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: so why they're knocking on the window. He's like, don't look,
Speaker 1: no man, no woman. And I'm like, okay, what is that?
Speaker 1: What is that? I'm like, They're like, no, it's not
Speaker 1: a man, it's not a woman. I'm like, so, then
Speaker 1: what what? I don't want to say it, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: so what do you what it? What it? What? What
Speaker 1: is that? Like? I'm like, so it's used to be
Speaker 1: a man, used to be a woman. No, no, man,
Speaker 1: no woman. Don't look And I'm like huh but I'm
Speaker 1: trying to understand. So but I'm like, so then what
Speaker 1: is it? If it's not a woman, then what is it?
Speaker 1: And then he just could not answer and they literally
Speaker 1: just it's like, you're nothing. What are they knocking on
Speaker 1: the windows for? Do you know? For money? Oh? Just
Speaker 1: begging for yeah, just begging for money. But they the
Speaker 1: people don't look at them. Is consider them anything. They're
Speaker 1: like no woman, which is I don't know what that's
Speaker 1: different than Thailand because in Thailand they're actually um and
Speaker 1: a lot of Southeast Asia trans women are actually salt
Speaker 1: out after just because their body types are a lot
Speaker 1: more feminine over there. I know a lot of basketball
Speaker 1: players when they go and play in Southeast Asia. When
Speaker 1: you have money, that's what you do as a form
Speaker 1: of I've made it. You actually sleep with a trans woman. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so I really feminine bodies, but they're lean people.
Speaker 1: They've got less hair on their bodies, they grow longer
Speaker 1: hair of how they've got a softer um jaw like everything.
Speaker 1: So like the most elite looking or most cis looking
Speaker 1: is also a thing most possible if you want to
Speaker 1: use words like that. Trans women come from Southeast Asia.
Speaker 1: Like even the men right when you think of their
Speaker 1: body is very tall. A lot of comments about Ali Wong.
Speaker 1: Did you ever see the Pregnant Netflix special and she
Speaker 1: talks about my man is like a dolphin no hair? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes,
Speaker 1: I guess it's easy because you like I just couldn't,
Speaker 1: but I just I wanted and you know, because there
Speaker 1: was a language barrier that he couldn't really articulate what
Speaker 1: he how I wanted him to because I wanted him
Speaker 1: to explain what the fund did. He mean, that's crazy
Speaker 1: because that means like they're not even like we have
Speaker 1: a long way to go with being progressed. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. We will just say, Okay, that's a transfer.
Speaker 1: It's nothing to us. Okay, even if a woman looks
Speaker 1: like a woman like sex and was very similar to
Speaker 1: trance people, it's like a weird thing. And I'm reading
Speaker 1: right now, but can you can you hear him? So
Speaker 1: Benson was just saying, there's a third gender slash. You know,
Speaker 1: we got Indian camera guy, so he gonna give his knowledge. Oh,
Speaker 1: wasn't just something that I ran by when I was
Speaker 1: in India actually, and they discussed that their general a
Speaker 1: documentary roundly when I was like tenth grade. It was
Speaker 1: a matter of trippy. But um, I don't have that
Speaker 1: much information on it. But all I know is there's
Speaker 1: a whole third gender and like they essentially like take
Speaker 1: away their manhood and their womanhood. Also they cut the
Speaker 1: clip and I believe so there's something to do with
Speaker 1: like h I j r. A name, So it's not
Speaker 1: trans is not a name. I mean from what I
Speaker 1: just read, they're usually organized with the communities. But um,
Speaker 1: they like if they're in poverty and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: Like they kind of looked down where they go with
Speaker 1: sex workers. Yeah maybe yeah, but it was crazy one
Speaker 1: of the one of them were knocking on the window
Speaker 1: with with rupees in their hands, like we're like, why
Speaker 1: how are you asking for money? And you already got right.
Speaker 1: But it's like a cut with a little change. I
Speaker 1: guess that's what it's. Maybe they couldn't have a cut.
Speaker 1: It's so true. Maybe this coun't let you know what
Speaker 1: I mean more it is, that's so true. I actually
Speaker 1: heard this term third sex. My first time hearing that
Speaker 1: was years ago. One of my favorite videos is Maria
Speaker 1: Rodriguez comedian called Janie Papas. He's been on Andrews Show.
Speaker 1: Um he goes on there and he goes, um, third
Speaker 1: sex from the Lower east Side and he's when he says,
Speaker 1: you know this ask pussy, don't think and this that's
Speaker 1: sick came from And he always talks about like yo,
Speaker 1: I never knew this would catch on. Like I actually
Speaker 1: used to listen to their podcast. I don't think we
Speaker 1: have anymore called the Rigorous Podcast and he would always
Speaker 1: do that voice, but yeah, you would call himself third
Speaker 1: sex and I was like, huh, I never that's kind
Speaker 1: of answering it is, and I wonder if it's like
Speaker 1: an old kind of I don't know. I've never grown
Speaker 1: up in third sex. I never heard of third sex.
Speaker 1: Before we wrap this up, I want to ask you
Speaker 1: would you get an happy ending again? Oh? Yeah, regular,
Speaker 1: they're all on Lexington Avenue. You could get him here.
Speaker 1: But okay, you know what, Okay, you're not Americans. I
Speaker 1: don't know if okay, let me think I would not solicited. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I always wanted to be You want to be surprised? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that well we should be preaching. I surprised. No, it's
Speaker 1: so funny, that's all I'm saying. It was so funny
Speaker 1: because when I was I text Small and I said
Speaker 1: I want I want to be part of your boys club.
Speaker 1: I was up there talking about happy ending, his hand
Speaker 1: jobs and all of that stuff on a couple of
Speaker 1: episodes when Kraft got uh yeah, oh please he damn
Speaker 1: a millionaire can't get a handy, and I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I want to be harder to the you know, and
Speaker 1: I'm still gonna get the obsession thing with masturbation during
Speaker 1: massages is crazy. One of my old colleagues told me
Speaker 1: about how he would argue with his girl because he's like,
Speaker 1: you know what, gee, she doesn't get it, Like I'm
Speaker 1: making money. I'm happy with her, but I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: jerked off my fucking ritual. It was before huh after her,
Speaker 1: I like to get church off. What's the four don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm cool with that. And he said that if you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship, I mean, I don't I don't want
Speaker 1: to know. I don't want you to come home and
Speaker 1: be like and we're like where you was at if
Speaker 1: I went down took it happen. I don't want to.
Speaker 1: There's a novelty of it and I don't know what
Speaker 1: it is, but people fucking love it. And he told
Speaker 1: me he's like, I feel spoiled. He's like, you don't
Speaker 1: want to get relux. You know. Sometimes I've been thinking
Speaker 1: about this. Sometimes um relationships really have this like create
Speaker 1: these boundaries that you just can't do your own thing
Speaker 1: that really doesn't mean anything against your relationship is just
Speaker 1: like yo thing, you know, so it's kind of like
Speaker 1: talked about toxic traits that people didn't realize we're toxic.
Speaker 1: And that's one of those like you set these boundaries
Speaker 1: because you're in a relationship, and then things that probably
Speaker 1: wouldn't really upset you because you're in a relationship now
Speaker 1: they upset you but for no reason. Feel like fake
Speaker 1: boundaries are creative. But like even even the porn thing,
Speaker 1: like when people get mad at, first of all, watching porn,
Speaker 1: there's some people get mad that watching port and then
Speaker 1: then some people would get mad at the type of
Speaker 1: when you watch because they feel like, oh, I'm not
Speaker 1: that personal. I'm not that's like what you're watching the
Speaker 1: opposite or oh that's what you're into whatever, Like what
Speaker 1: turns me on, you know, doesn't necessarily mean that's what
Speaker 1: I'm It's like that isolated fantasy moment, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, But it's not really like what I'm trying
Speaker 1: to do. But even men who you know, get mad
Speaker 1: at their women for using sex toys now they don't
Speaker 1: feel adequate enough. And so there's just a lot of things.
Speaker 1: But I think that that happens a lot. And yes,
Speaker 1: like we said, we are not um soliciting unsolicited UM,
Speaker 1: second hands dos and happy endings. Make sure that consent
Speaker 1: is me in somewhere. You know what's gonna happen. We
Speaker 1: are gonna hop into our homemail, UM, which you can
Speaker 1: help us out with. Again. If you guys want to
Speaker 1: send in your homemail, make sure you send that into
Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. UM, this one is
Speaker 1: struggling to be sex positive. Hey ladies, First up, I love, love,
Speaker 1: love the podcast The Pair of You keep me so entertained.
Speaker 1: Please do a live show in London? All right, shout
Speaker 1: out to the UK UM to jump right into my problem.
Speaker 1: I'm not the most experienced girl. I waited for the
Speaker 1: one quote unquote and lost my V card in my twenties.
Speaker 1: While all my friends have been doing it from the
Speaker 1: age of fourteen. I haven't heard V card right is UK?
Speaker 1: It might be Oh yeah. When I finally got with
Speaker 1: the man I was in love with. The sex was painful, disappointing,
Speaker 1: almost traumatic. It was unplanned. I was wasted and don't
Speaker 1: she look how to turn into Jamaican. I was wasted
Speaker 1: and didn't remember anything but waking up covered in blood
Speaker 1: and bruises. All right, everybody, tried out, Okay, let's pass
Speaker 1: it around. I cannot do it the game. I'm right
Speaker 1: here one sentence, I was hot looking. I went it
Speaker 1: so long for it's just to wait, I think unble
Speaker 1: they started the second air goce. I was to wait too,
Speaker 1: so long, just for it to happen in such an
Speaker 1: unceremoniously brush and meaningless way. Because I was drunk, the
Speaker 1: lines of blurry about whether or not I consented. Also,
Speaker 1: there was a lot of guilt and shame attached to
Speaker 1: having grown up in a deeply religious household and always
Speaker 1: being taught sex outside of marriage was a sinful thing.
Speaker 1: I bled heavily the first few times I had sex penetration,
Speaker 1: hurt like hell, I can't do it anymore, and even
Speaker 1: had a horrible pregnancy scare. Meanwhile, the one was cheating
Speaker 1: and only came clean when he contracted lamidia. I got tested,
Speaker 1: came back clean, but it all ended a breakup that
Speaker 1: tore my world to shreds. On top of that, I
Speaker 1: was hiding the relationship from my family. I've been going
Speaker 1: in between. Australia would just owned if they found out.
Speaker 1: Let me let me get my friends harry. From then on,
Speaker 1: I can't help but be incredibly cautious and closed off
Speaker 1: when it comes to sex. It's sad because despite everything
Speaker 1: in my head, I'm super open to all forms of
Speaker 1: kink and freak ship. For example, I love your show
Speaker 1: and follow a lot of progressive women like yourselves, activists, educators,
Speaker 1: and sex workers. It's time, like I, it's time that
Speaker 1: I embrace sex positivity for everyone but myself. I'm such
Speaker 1: a prude after my experiences. How do I overcome my
Speaker 1: struggle to be sex positive and even get out there
Speaker 1: so I can have enjoyable, adventurous sex. Bitch, I can
Speaker 1: barely read English, the King's English. That I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: guilt tripping yourself? So many fucking traumatic experiences. Pregnancy scares heavily.
Speaker 1: So how does she now she lost it at twenty one?
Speaker 1: How does she now that she doesn't say? She said
Speaker 1: she actually lost it in her twenties, and so I'm
Speaker 1: not sure all of her friends lost it earlier. Um,
Speaker 1: But basically, being that her first sexual partner was not
Speaker 1: it was not only painful, disappointing and traumatic to her. Um.
Speaker 1: She bled a lot after she got bruises, and then
Speaker 1: of course he cheated on her and contracted STD. So
Speaker 1: I feel like there's just a lot of fear with
Speaker 1: even knowing if she's going to enjoy it again. UM.
Speaker 1: I think that this is something in which she may
Speaker 1: need to seek therapy for because this is a trauma
Speaker 1: that probably you won't just snap out of. UM. It's
Speaker 1: definitely gonna take work. I think what's more important than
Speaker 1: that is for you to share this story with whoever
Speaker 1: you decide to be your partner. UM and So this
Speaker 1: may actually take more dating than casual sex. It sounds
Speaker 1: like you want to just get out there and have fun,
Speaker 1: but I think that in order for you to get
Speaker 1: over this, you are going to have to find a
Speaker 1: man that you trust. UM. Also, it doesn't necessarily have
Speaker 1: to be a man. You may find comfort in women
Speaker 1: UM and So there are a lot of things that
Speaker 1: don't have to deal with penetration to where you won't
Speaker 1: you know, feel pain. UM. So you may also want
Speaker 1: to consider maybe being intimate with a woman. UM. That's
Speaker 1: something in which you may experience something different, and it's
Speaker 1: something that will allow you to be vulnerable and grow
Speaker 1: a friendship with someone UM on that level outside of
Speaker 1: just looking at you know, someone that wants to just
Speaker 1: dick their dicking you. Um, So for me it would
Speaker 1: be that would be my advice, UM to seek therapy
Speaker 1: or maybe look for a female companion and see if
Speaker 1: maybe that's something you're interested in. But another thing is
Speaker 1: I think that, like you said, she she seems like
Speaker 1: she wants to go out and do all of this
Speaker 1: stuff with you know she. I think some people just
Speaker 1: want to do what everybody else is doing because they're
Speaker 1: just like everybody else to have casual sex. You know,
Speaker 1: I can't do want to give her credit to for saying, like,
Speaker 1: you know, I can be open for everyone else and
Speaker 1: embrace their sexuality. That's a good start. Like you know,
Speaker 1: like sometimes we can be that way where we're like, yes,
Speaker 1: go be independent blah blah blah blah, but maybe we're not,
Speaker 1: or we could be like yo, funk that nigga. But
Speaker 1: where's your text in the ex That happens all the time,
Speaker 1: you know, And it's not like you're doing it on purpose,
Speaker 1: like you know what's right, it's just how do I
Speaker 1: do it? But the thing is that everybody, I mean here,
Speaker 1: even in our own circle of friends, you have the
Speaker 1: friend that's not a hope you know she's not home,
Speaker 1: like you know that she's not about one in the circle.
Speaker 1: Is that what you're trying to know. I'm not I'm
Speaker 1: not the not hole. Okay, I have friends who are
Speaker 1: not are not the home and I'm not. I'm not
Speaker 1: the highest hole. Like I'm not the like the highest
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna get into that. Like I'm not like
Speaker 1: you guys, I like them, not the most usual who
Speaker 1: came on the podcast. Oh, my friend came on Brandon
Speaker 1: and he said, we said you lost your Virginia and nineteen.
Speaker 1: He said, I'm not playing past like you know, like,
Speaker 1: I'm not that, but I'm not a prudy. And what
Speaker 1: you're saying is probably where she's feeling. Because for her
Speaker 1: to even bring up my friends lost it at fourteen,
Speaker 1: I feel like she could be also feeling the precisus
Speaker 1: of her friends, UM, which isn't good. I don't I
Speaker 1: don't think that you should say here and UM be
Speaker 1: one to follow the crowd or even if you listen
Speaker 1: to this podcast all the time. I want to tell
Speaker 1: all of you guys, UM communication again, it is big,
Speaker 1: but everyone has their different paths, their different desires, their
Speaker 1: different fetishes, UM and so even with listening to us,
Speaker 1: we don't want to feel like we're forcing y'all to
Speaker 1: go out and live this kinky, fetishy lifestyle of b
Speaker 1: D S M and all these things. Like again, everyone
Speaker 1: is on their own path sexually to find what, you know,
Speaker 1: what heals them, what brings them or meets them spiritually,
Speaker 1: even if it's elephants and ship. Um. But to not
Speaker 1: use your friends or everyone around you, or society as
Speaker 1: a stepping stone to where you feel like you are
Speaker 1: matched against everyone. Even as even as vocal as I
Speaker 1: am in whatever the hell I want to do, if
Speaker 1: people still like will kind of judge you for having
Speaker 1: sex earlier, they'd be like, oh, zam, you were fat,
Speaker 1: you know, shut the funk up. I mean, I see
Speaker 1: that sometimes and don't even realize it. Like, um, one
Speaker 1: of my really close one of my best friends, I
Speaker 1: came on here, I think this episode twenty nine. He
Speaker 1: talked about how me and Mandy had hor phobia, and
Speaker 1: he's like, you guys are doing the work. He was like,
Speaker 1: but you don't even realize you do it to each other, bitch,
Speaker 1: you're a whole are you a ho? Ho? And we
Speaker 1: still kind of do it because that's how we kind
Speaker 1: of almost have a that's how we tease each other.
Speaker 1: We've made that part of our culture to hit up
Speaker 1: our friends and be like, bitch your hoss right and
Speaker 1: have fun that way. Right. But sometimes, like I guess,
Speaker 1: for a person like yourself, who's you know, wrote this
Speaker 1: letter and we don't even realize how that can fuck
Speaker 1: you up. When I talked to my friends like that,
Speaker 1: I don't expect that. I really don't care about the
Speaker 1: word home, but you get you get shamed for saying
Speaker 1: you don't suck dick, so you damn exactly grow up.
Speaker 1: I think. I think another thing that will help is
Speaker 1: I hate to say it, but I mean, you know
Speaker 1: who it's coming from, and if you listen to the
Speaker 1: show you I guess you can guess I would give
Speaker 1: you this advice, But no, I was gonna say, get
Speaker 1: a little more emotionally invested. That way, you don't feel
Speaker 1: as judged because I feel like an actual person. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like if there's a bit of a deeper
Speaker 1: connection there, you won't have that fear that like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, this dude's gonna think I'm a sucking this.
Speaker 1: To get yourself an EmPATH like wheezy. I even said
Speaker 1: that someone that you're maybe not able to have casual
Speaker 1: sex with what it needs to have some deeper meaning
Speaker 1: because you're gonna have to open up about your traumatic
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Speaker 1: like we basically like trick on niggas, what is it?
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Speaker 1: you guys always ask us, how do I get money
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Speaker 1: you guys go back into our archive and listen to
Speaker 1: the episode with Cutty Um, it's literally titled the M
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Speaker 1: you guys can actually read more about what the book
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Speaker 1: it's the ultimate no no, which so many women like
Speaker 1: to chant. There are so many different types of factors
Speaker 1: and scenarios about Splitting Rent. Do not get caught up
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Speaker 1: It's definitely very realistic. It's more and this one actually
Speaker 1: talks more about um relationships later on, because a lot
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Speaker 1: I don't want to change my expectation. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't want to ruin my relationship by reading it. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, actually, it could probably help you help. But
Speaker 1: that's the number one actually, like demise of relationships and
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Speaker 1: give a lot of like kind of encouragement to you
Speaker 1: don't have to live by societal norms. But this is
Speaker 1: maybe a path you could take to where finances aren't
Speaker 1: such a huge But it's also about yourself. There's yourself.
Speaker 1: It's it's like the best of all worlds. It's about
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Speaker 1: even today somebody was like, oh, I want to come
Speaker 1: to your tour, but I don't want to come along.
Speaker 1: I'm like girl. Even in the book, I have bar
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Speaker 1: that's I'm gonna get fluid out. Lying out rules is
Speaker 1: a goddamn chapter. But so I'm going on tour for
Speaker 1: the book again. I went two years ago to only
Speaker 1: six cities. That's something going to twenty three cities. Than
Speaker 1: girl it's a it's like a girl's night out you
Speaker 1: read because some people think that you have to like
Speaker 1: read the books that come to the store. But it's
Speaker 1: not about that. It's just girl talk, relationships guys. It's food, drinks, questionings,
Speaker 1: just that. And it's cute venues and sup and then
Speaker 1: we I definitely want to pull up to let me
Speaker 1: know because the ships selling out quick, so had to
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Speaker 1: it so that every single city has a different um
Speaker 1: clothing theme, so like some are like metallic, some are
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Speaker 1: It is passport Cutty. Oh sorry, you can find me
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Speaker 1: no more signed copies because I already did that for
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Speaker 1: calls Cutty the author, She's like I was talking earlier,
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Speaker 1: him all by y'all. By conflicted. Me and my boyfriend
Speaker 1: have been on and off since two thousand and eleven.
Speaker 1: Since two thousand, seventeen. We've been committed, we've been moved
Speaker 1: in together. I loved him even when he's broke, super
Speaker 1: jealous and sometimes selfish and verbally abusive. For the last
Speaker 1: few months, sex has been spares. We haven't had consistent
Speaker 1: sex for nine months. When we do, he doesn't even
Speaker 1: stay hard. I ask if it's me and he says no,
Speaker 1: But I feel unwanted. He's always accusing me of cheating,
Speaker 1: even though I've never cheated. He said that me being
Speaker 1: friends with this guy used to deal with after he
Speaker 1: broke up with me three years ago is just as
Speaker 1: bad as cheating. Now the issue is I am now
Speaker 1: seriously considering cheating with a different guy, and it would
Speaker 1: require flying out. I don't want to break up, and
Speaker 1: I really think things will get better. But a bitch
Speaker 1: is horny and lonely. Should I stay loyal or get
Speaker 1: picked down? So I'll be honest with you. You know
Speaker 1: well that too, um, But you reading this just remind
Speaker 1: like puts me in that space of a her not
Speaker 1: valuing herself and be her being a pick me. I
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of women will sit here and
Speaker 1: be able to name everything that's wrong with their man
Speaker 1: but they stay with their man because they genuinely feel
Speaker 1: like I'm better than the next girl because I have
Speaker 1: a man. So a lot of women will stay in
Speaker 1: their situations just to say I have a boyfriend, or
Speaker 1: just to feel claimed, or just to feel wanted. And
Speaker 1: the fact that you're with this man, you sit here
Speaker 1: and say, the sex isn't good, he's abusive, mentally, he
Speaker 1: gets jealous. You have all of these things negative to
Speaker 1: say about him. What is your reason for saying with him?
Speaker 1: Other than I think I think the one thing I
Speaker 1: will say instead of blaming her, because to me, that's
Speaker 1: too much of a blame game for a woman. I
Speaker 1: think a lot of times women feel like they should
Speaker 1: stick with that person and they've already started something, so
Speaker 1: now I've got to finish it. I remember this good
Speaker 1: time with someone, so they hold on to that. Most
Speaker 1: people do in relationships. This is men and women. They
Speaker 1: remember these good moments and they're like, it's gonna get better,
Speaker 1: and they get very, very hopeful, and they feel like
Speaker 1: there's so much time invested. Two thousand and eleven, So
Speaker 1: she's like, damn, how can I end it? Now? Y'all
Speaker 1: stopped and then picked back up. Here's my thing with
Speaker 1: exactly what you're saying. And that entire email, did y'all
Speaker 1: hear one thing as to why she loves him. She
Speaker 1: didn't even go back. So any good thing that's keeping
Speaker 1: her with him, all she listed out was everything that
Speaker 1: was bad, everything that she doesn't like, and then said,
Speaker 1: so I want to cheat, But loyalty to her meant
Speaker 1: more than anything else, which is what I think she's
Speaker 1: staying with him. I don't know if it's not this
Speaker 1: idea of loyalty, which is a lot of people feel
Speaker 1: like tenure. Even with bad friendships, people feel like, oh,
Speaker 1: we've known each other ten years, I gotta stick with
Speaker 1: you instead of because it doesn't necessarily mean like it's
Speaker 1: to say I have a way friend, but people feel
Speaker 1: like I've put this time in how can I let
Speaker 1: it go? Just like with businesses that don't work. I've
Speaker 1: been wrapping ten years. It ain't taken off, but I
Speaker 1: put ten years of work in there. It's like you
Speaker 1: feel like you've invested all of this fucking energy. How
Speaker 1: do you let go? I think that's really what it is.
Speaker 1: But bitch, you got right over him. Period. Because one
Speaker 1: of the things with the podcast, we sit here and
Speaker 1: talk about non monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, polygamy, which y'all
Speaker 1: get into that because I might be getting into a
Speaker 1: polygamous relationship soon. Um. But um, one thing what don't
Speaker 1: do that? Wait seriously, but one thing that we do
Speaker 1: that we don't always condone or we never advise you
Speaker 1: is to cheat. So you writing into us saying should
Speaker 1: I cheat on him? You already know what we're gonna
Speaker 1: advise you know. I would say, break up with him,
Speaker 1: communicate with him all of the things that you feel
Speaker 1: a wrong with him, and see his response to see
Speaker 1: if those are things that he's willing to change in
Speaker 1: order for you guys to stay together. But I don't
Speaker 1: think that you should. Just your only option is to cheat,
Speaker 1: I would ask, I guess with two men in the room, Um,
Speaker 1: have you guys ever felt the need to stay with
Speaker 1: a woman who you guys, had such a long list
Speaker 1: of negative things about her? And if so, I like, okay,
Speaker 1: so you're shaking your head. Why. Um? I got caught
Speaker 1: up in a relationship where I was really close to
Speaker 1: getting out and then things started happening to her like
Speaker 1: in her family, and I just couldn't leave her. I couldn't.
Speaker 1: I couldn't leave her in a bad spot. But at
Speaker 1: the same time, it was hard because you know, you're
Speaker 1: trying not to you know, you're trying not to do
Speaker 1: anything wrong. You don't want to do the cheating thing,
Speaker 1: you know. And I changed my a lot of my
Speaker 1: views on relationships after that into more of a like
Speaker 1: open and like a conversational about how monogamy works and
Speaker 1: whether or not we're going to do it at all.
Speaker 1: I always started entering into relationships like that afterwards. But
Speaker 1: I was basically like, you can't be that dude. You
Speaker 1: can't like just abandon someone when they really desperately needs you.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. In this person's case, I
Speaker 1: would say, the big thing that's missing is the communication
Speaker 1: side of it, Like if she can communicate what her
Speaker 1: needs are and get that information back or at least
Speaker 1: where he can meet her, and what's going on with him,
Speaker 1: why he's not responding to her sexually. Sounds like old boy. Probably, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's from the beginning. If you at all that accusatory
Speaker 1: and they are you cheating on the space, it's probably
Speaker 1: coming from a space that he's not secure about. On
Speaker 1: that same side, So he's already doing some ship that
Speaker 1: he probably shouldn't have been doing. Wait, so if a
Speaker 1: man is constantly accusing a woman of possibly stepping out
Speaker 1: or saying that, you know, I feel like you're doing X,
Speaker 1: Y and Z on the side, is it a kind
Speaker 1: of self inflicted like guilt that like everything that they
Speaker 1: know that they're doing something wrong, it reminds you. So,
Speaker 1: you know how like if you're thinking about buying a car,
Speaker 1: you see that car all the time. Something's put in
Speaker 1: your mind, right, so you think about all those moments
Speaker 1: when you snuck off and got a little pussy, you know,
Speaker 1: all those times when you made in your day to
Speaker 1: go do something. So you're like, damn, how do I
Speaker 1: know she's really at the store Because I wasn't at
Speaker 1: the store, right, you know she's right now. I don't
Speaker 1: like even I'm telling myself of this on Patreon only
Speaker 1: a little bits of people like I made a whole
Speaker 1: I made a whole snapchat, like in my bed alone
Speaker 1: going to bed. Oh nigga was on his way and
Speaker 1: so like no, it realized, so like I've been that
Speaker 1: person too, or like I've been right beside a nigga
Speaker 1: whose FaceTime is bitch like, yeah, man, I'm about to
Speaker 1: go to sleep and he's been in bed and I've
Speaker 1: been quiet laying right next to him. Okay, what you're doing?
Speaker 1: Just yeah, that sh it kills me. But you don't know,
Speaker 1: you don't know, like you don't know you but you
Speaker 1: don't know do that for you? Since we have this show? No,
Speaker 1: not since we've had the show. But no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: actually I'm not even know what no, what what the
Speaker 1: nigga that I'm thinking of being in a polygamous relationship with.
Speaker 1: I had to work the next day, so I fell
Speaker 1: asleep and yeah, he was talking to So he has
Speaker 1: a wife and a girlfriend and I'm now they do
Speaker 1: yes and no no, no, no, no, no no. It
Speaker 1: was it was a situation where, um, so he's been
Speaker 1: married for quite some time, but he's had a girlfriend
Speaker 1: for a while and loves her, and he finally felt
Speaker 1: the need to come out to his wife and say, hey,
Speaker 1: I love this girl. She's not going anywhere. This is
Speaker 1: my girlfriend. And the wife didn't leave the house for
Speaker 1: a couple of months. She just came back and she's
Speaker 1: now accepting of it, and so like she also knows
Speaker 1: about me and like he's like, I'm polygamous. This is
Speaker 1: my thing, Like this is me and she's give. So
Speaker 1: he's married. He's married, but he has he has wife,
Speaker 1: he has a girlfriend. Well, in the United States of
Speaker 1: America is just not possible. You can't marry multiple people.
Speaker 1: So he's an relationship with this wife that's who he's
Speaker 1: legally bonded to. The girlfriend is like the women that
Speaker 1: he's with cannot be with anyone. But he also provides
Speaker 1: for all of them. So the girlfriend, he pays for
Speaker 1: the house, he pays for her business, he pays for
Speaker 1: her schooling, he has her a car, he takes care
Speaker 1: of her. And so even that's kind of the thing
Speaker 1: with me, Like so we're talking and he's like, just
Speaker 1: so you know, like you can't funk know other niggas.
Speaker 1: But he's like, just no, you also will go you
Speaker 1: won't go without like I take care of my women.
Speaker 1: So it's like one of those things where yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a power struggle thing. I'm sure it is like for him,
Speaker 1: but I mean he also feels like if he's providing
Speaker 1: for everyone and he's dicking it down, which he does
Speaker 1: dick down, He's just like, I don't want you being
Speaker 1: around another man. I don't want you to have another man.