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Speaker 1: It is Monday, and we have a very very special guest,

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Speaker 1: and the studio with us today can recognize. She didn't care.

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Speaker 1: She don't set the short cut away. You know why

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Speaker 1: because she's a new person. A bench is happy and

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Speaker 1: it's not the ending anymore because it's about to begin.

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Speaker 1: But guys, we are here. It's horrible decisions. I'm your girl,

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Speaker 1: Mandy sitting across from Wheezy and our very special guest.

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Speaker 1: You guys all know her. She's been on the show before. Um.

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Speaker 1: You may know her from hosting alongside UH fan favorite Tahoe. Um,

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Speaker 1: she was on the So Shameless podcast. But now she

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Speaker 1: is about to go back on tour for her reloaded book,

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Speaker 1: The M and Man Is for Money. And that name

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Speaker 1: may found sound familiar because she's been on our show before.

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Speaker 1: So if you guys haven't, check out our episode with her,

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Speaker 1: The M and Man Is for Money, where she talks

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Speaker 1: about her book. We're gonna talk a little bit about

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Speaker 1: your book, but we're gonna focus on the new ship

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Speaker 1: in your life because you are a new woman. You are, Um,

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Speaker 1: what's this? What's your new name with this? Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: gotta have a name with this war at least front.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know it's a closure drag us. I don't

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Speaker 1: know got the I mean, got the baby hairs. I

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Speaker 1: don't like the little baby hills. I mean it looks

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Speaker 1: at first I thought it was and then you got

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Speaker 1: the closure on top. Okay, so down, but that's safety.

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Speaker 1: When it's so down, that's safe. I have to explained

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Speaker 1: that about this twenty seven people. They're like, well, is

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Speaker 1: it a wig? And I'm like, no, bitch, there was

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Speaker 1: twenty seven pieces of the track and they're all glued

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Speaker 1: onto the cab and then it's so down and I

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Speaker 1: don't have to explain it to black Yes, man, I've

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Speaker 1: never heard of anybody from up north. To them, it's

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Speaker 1: a down south thing. We call it Jamaicans what they

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Speaker 1: calls it's a quick oh yeah in the blood. Let

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Speaker 1: me get back to my roots. So something. Um, of

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Speaker 1: course we've in. I are now off tour, thank god,

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Speaker 1: but um, we have just a lot of travels coming up. Um,

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Speaker 1: and I wanted you to talk about, of course, the

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Speaker 1: country you were recently and so I guess coming up

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Speaker 1: so that this the summertime. A lot of you guys

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Speaker 1: hit us up saying y'all wanted to visit Thailand. So

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask both of you your travel plans

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Speaker 1: coming up for the summer, and then we'll double back

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Speaker 1: on where you just came from. Well, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: Ruba tomorrow, damn the Wealth, and then Turks and goes

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Speaker 1: next week. Do you like people love it? I mean

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Speaker 1: I've been before Turks and people like stand for it.

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Speaker 1: I've never been. It was always it's funny, this is

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Speaker 1: very ironic. But I always like that's alwayspensive that myself.

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Speaker 1: But you haven't. No, no, no, I no, I have

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Speaker 1: to because it's my friend's birthday. But I always disregarded

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Speaker 1: it because I was like, oh, go, I gotta take

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Speaker 1: me there, And now it's my friend's birthday, I'm like

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Speaker 1: a cutty. Well, actually it's actually cheaper than because no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, no, the we're renting a house, but her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend's paying for the house for Yeah, technically it is.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say the funny thing about tricks and kikos.

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Speaker 1: When I went, I was with some friends and like

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Speaker 1: they were talking about how secluded the island is, so

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Speaker 1: secluded and so expensive that they get their toilet paper

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Speaker 1: from Miami. They get all of their goods from Miami

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Speaker 1: and the hospital there only has fifteen BEZ and he

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, but we're upgrading to thirty five. Holy

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Speaker 1: sh it. I did go five years ago. But um,

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Speaker 1: super blue water. Any cruise boats that go you have

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Speaker 1: you don't funk up their ship, which I think is superb. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like that. I like that somewhere to go for

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Speaker 1: my birthday. At that I took the whole two weeks

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Speaker 1: I like to go to Europe in a summer though, Okay,

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Speaker 1: see I haven't. I just did Europe, and so I'm

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Speaker 1: actually planning a trip now with a friend, um the Bahamas,

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Speaker 1: but just because I want to do Exuma. I haven't

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Speaker 1: done Exuma Island and my homeboy shot love them pigs.

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Speaker 1: But I'm also gonna do the Iguana Island and you

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Speaker 1: got it so crazy. Like my sister got on me too.

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Speaker 1: the tigers like um on Instagram. They're like, oh, in

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Speaker 1: two thousand nineteen, we still write elephants. Yeah, it's funny

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Speaker 1: you're bringing it up. So a friend of the show, Sharonas,

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Speaker 1: make sure they're not in trapp They're like, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's a sanctuary. Yeah, I just sanctuary. Yeah, you have to.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what is this? What is the sake?

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Speaker 1: She says, she don't care, So whatever I did. So

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Speaker 1: elephants sanctuary basically means they don't get beat to be

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Speaker 1: the spirit with elephants, right, So they'll engage them for

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Speaker 1: And there is something recently that I actually want to

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Speaker 1: know that elephant backs are actually not made to be

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Speaker 1: But you know, you have horses, you have camels, those

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Speaker 1: animals were made to support people. But even though elephants

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Speaker 1: I actually just read. So y'all don't go hopping under

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Speaker 1: have to kind of sense the energy, so we're feeding

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Speaker 1: It is what it is. You don't get on top

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Speaker 1: And then Nigga like spit up goddamn food and then

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Speaker 1: eh one my nigga, and he was like, they handed

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Speaker 1: be like, they're so smart, they're so majestic. Every black

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Speaker 1: but they gotta be facing the north and yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: all of it about that? Hold up? What mehing to

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Speaker 1: explain that trends, that's what it's like economics, you know what.

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Speaker 1: Exactly as much as she doesn't believe in astrology. She

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Speaker 1: could never cause which I do that don't believe that's

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Speaker 1: what everybody say. I'm a motherfucking liber And just know

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Speaker 1: if y'all say, I didn't need y'all to know, it's

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Speaker 1: the best. Okay, that's what the fund that mean. So

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and hop into real quick, y'all. Um.

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Speaker 1: While we're talking about travels, this whole episode actually stemmed

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Speaker 1: from Cutty's recent journey to India. UM, So I can't

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Speaker 1: wait to hear about India and some other things that

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Speaker 1: happened while over there. Um. But we're gonna go ahead

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Speaker 1: and hop into our vanilla ship for this episode. UM.

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Speaker 1: And it actually has to do with Alabama, and no,

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Speaker 1: it's not about the abortion law. It's about one of

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Speaker 1: their other trash ass law. So if you guys are

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Speaker 1: in Alabama, get y'all shipped together, go and write to

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Speaker 1: anyone in policy that you can, and also make sure

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Speaker 1: you vote when it comes time to vote, because y'all

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Speaker 1: need to make some change. So this is about Alabama's

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Speaker 1: current sex ed law that actually harms l g B

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Speaker 1: how Alabama's current sex ed law has harmed lgbt Q

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Speaker 1: as the prevention. As the prevention director for AIDS Alabama,

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Speaker 1: Kristen Walker has been allowed by four Birmingham City schools

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Speaker 1: to teach sex education courses. He's advised fourth graders to

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Speaker 1: alert an adult when someone inappropriately touches their private areas,

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Speaker 1: and middle schoolers the different forms of HIV prevention. But

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Speaker 1: a silence. That's how we'd be coming. Got a silencer,

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00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,880
Speaker 1: so it'd be vibrate like you don't even hear it.

426
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 1: So I feel like I'm gonna try to like bring

427
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 1: it on the plane with me because it doesn't vibrate

428
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,199
Speaker 1: like I was like, this ship really silently. We had

429
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,400
Speaker 1: a dope episode with them on Patreon. I really kind

430
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 1: of want to post it on here where we had

431
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 1: these flight attendants and they were telling us how sex

432
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 1: is not you can and all they're gonna tell you.

433
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 1: So here's okay, let me stop, let me revert what

434
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,440
Speaker 1: I was to saying. So they basically were the girls

435
00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,400
Speaker 1: tell the story about how she called a woman giving

436
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 1: a blow job and she said I tapped her and

437
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 1: let her know and go to the bathroom. And I

438
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 1: was like, why would you do that? She's like, because

439
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,639
Speaker 1: two people are allowed in the bathroom. They just have

440
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 1: to make sure there's two oxygen masks in the bathroom.

441
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 1: And if they knocked on the door, as long as

442
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 1: you weren't making too much noise, you can be like,

443
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 1: oh I was sick, he was helping mer, he was

444
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 1: a at my dress or whatever. But you can't have

445
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,199
Speaker 1: assistance in the bathroom. So when we were done, this

446
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 1: is only last night we did that was I looked

447
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: it up last night. I'm like, no, my nigga, how

448
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: come I couldn't find it? And apparently yeah, I mean,

449
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 1: unless you're literally caught in the act, which some people

450
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:28,479
Speaker 1: have been on Twitter. There's been video. Can't be be like,

451
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 1: there's no nothing at all about being in the bathroom

452
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 1: of the opposite set. I mean I could go in

453
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 1: with my girl and gave a tip do it on

454
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 1: the red eye flights because she'd be like, we'd be

455
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 1: we'd be ready to land to it. Everyone's sleep like,

456
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,119
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be distracting as long as she said.

457
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 1: The only way she even knew the girl was giving

458
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 1: head is because you heard she was like, it's like

459
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: really like you gotta give head quiet, no slap. It's

460
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 1: happy on the plane, like you gotta give him some dryhead,

461
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,920
Speaker 1: soum the moment you have all been waiting for. Um

462
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: as you guys know that's some one. I'm probably gonna

463
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 1: be like, what are they talking about? Can probably listen

464
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: If y'all don't know, Ketty, just know this is the thing.

465
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 1: And she said, I'm ready. Guys about you in India,

466
00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: Hutty and I we chat online. We chat very casually.

467
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: This bitch texted me, I don't know what time of

468
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: night it was or day. She was like wheezy and

469
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 1: I was like, looked at the name. That's where cutty

470
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 1: I was she's talking about. I just got happy. I

471
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 1: was like, I wanted Instagram and yeah, so I'm excited

472
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 1: because I was like, who am I gonna tell? Well,

473
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 1: now you're telling about a hunting paper. No, but I mean, like,

474
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: where am I going to share my story yet? Because

475
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 1: you're not be on Live Alive. But it's not. It's better.

476
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 1: It's better it's juicy, are than just the regular live

477
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: juicy when someone can go back and for it and

478
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 1: be like it's juicie when it's But like, I just

479
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 1: I just needed the right platform to tell it. I

480
00:24:56,240 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: was like, who better than? Wh else was better than?

481
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:07,679
Speaker 1: So we're gonna go. We're gonna do it. Set the

482
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 1: scene and Okay, So I was in India and you

483
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: know in Asia they have it's widely known that there's

484
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: like eight dollar massages for like a whole hour everywhere.

485
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I've been to Thailand, got my little

486
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: eight dollar massage over there, Bensibally, got my little hossage

487
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,280
Speaker 1: over there. So I'm like, I just really wanted a

488
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: little cheap massage that's old because at the hotel, you know,

489
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: be like a hundred dollars. I'm like, no, that's fine

490
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 1: in the little nail salon uncol. So we you know,

491
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: me and my friend are all looking around for a

492
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 1: cheap massage place, but they don't want to send us there.

493
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: The hotel keep on trying to send us to somewhere,

494
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 1: but we're like, no, dirty, dirty spot. You said dirty said?

495
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: She says dirty spot. I said she was spy. But

496
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 1: so you're gonna blame your friend. No, no, no no, no no,

497
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: but that's not what happened. So they sentence is somewhere

498
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: that was basically like the dirty spot. But he tried

499
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: to charge just like sixty dollars, I guess because he

500
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 1: knew what hotel was coming from. So she was like, listen,

501
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:17,679
Speaker 1: it's not that oest um the Lodi and um New Delhi.

502
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 1: But let's not talk about how she was also riding

503
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:25,400
Speaker 1: around and like a Rolls Royce the hole. No, yeah,

504
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 1: jaguar in right ball. Girl know some days we was

505
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:39,159
Speaker 1: in a cam okay, so you're you're now heading and

506
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 1: they tried to charge you sixty dollars. Yeah, but so

507
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: we're like, listen, this spot is bullshit, Like we don't

508
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: mind being here, but we're not spending spending sixty dollars,

509
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: like we're leaving. So we literally go into a random

510
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 1: spot across the street. There were like four spots across

511
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 1: the streets. So we're like, oh, how much is for

512
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: um our massage? They said fift rupees that's like twenty dollars.

513
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: So I was like, yeah, yeh need to right, we're going.

514
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: So they're like, okay, come pay whatever. We go to.

515
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: We go in the room and there's a like full

516
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 1: size bed, like low with two pillows. There's a jacuzy right,

517
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: and then there's a shower. So we had just come

518
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: from the taj Mahle, so we were it was a

519
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 1: hundred and five degrees over there. So she was sweating.

520
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: My friend was sweating and she was like, no, he

521
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: not about to um, they're not about the massage. Me sweating.

522
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: So she hopped in a shower real quick, and the

523
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 1: guy's knocking on. I'm like, hold on, yeah, it was

524
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 1: in the room. It was a shower in the room,

525
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,880
Speaker 1: in a jacuzi in the room. So she was like

526
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,359
Speaker 1: just rinsing off real quick. So then she goes and

527
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: she says, um, they're knocking on the door, and he's

528
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: like oh. I'm like hold on, hold on, and he's

529
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 1: like I need to talk to you and I'm like what,

530
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: like what? So he says, we want to put you

531
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: in another room and I'm like okay, yeah, you don't

532
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: like yeah, it was like a couple of room. But

533
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 1: he was like, they're not gonna be comfortable. So when

534
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 1: he said they're not gonna be comfortable, I assumed that

535
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: he meant both of you are gonna be on the

536
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 1: same bed. It's gonna be hard for them. Some maneuver

537
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: around the bed and like yeah, and and massage right,

538
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: So I definitely was like, oh, like I gave massages

539
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: in my own room one of time. Whatever, don man,

540
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: he's like a woman for you, man for you, and

541
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 1: she was like, no, we're both for a women. I

542
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm tak a man. I like it hard,

543
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: Like I don't I request men too, only because sometimes

544
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: women are a lot more gentle. Yeah, I'm like, I

545
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: have had real backgrounds. I really want you to dig

546
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 1: I like deep massage, deep, we believe kind of what

547
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 1: you got. It was so funny because when I was

548
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,959
Speaker 1: in like Thailand and um Bali, I kept on tweeting

549
00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: and I was like I can't find the happy endings fine,

550
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: joking around like, oh they're not doing any happy endings?

551
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: Where is where is that? And I always didn't get

552
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 1: them over always I was joking about it because you know,

553
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: people always sing it. But they had you ever had

554
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: like your breast massage by the dinner? No? Never, no,

555
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 1: like in the massage sudden not me neither are they

556
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: supposed to massage? No, they like they like under but

557
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: they don't like that's what I've had. They've had. I've

558
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: had them like no, no, no, I've had at least

559
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: three times. No, maybe your breast looked just that. They

560
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: always something even like that, okay, nothing. So I go

561
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,479
Speaker 1: in my room, I have on the disposable underwear and

562
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm laying on the table and he starts massaging me

563
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: for like the first three or four minutes and then

564
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 1: he's like take these off, and I'm like okay, because

565
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: I just always I always get naked massages and the

566
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 1: only thing that saves me is the towel which they

567
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: move around anyway. The disposable panties I ain't never had.

568
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: Yeah they I mean a lot of places don't give

569
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: you them. So like the disposable panty is when they're

570
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: using like a lot of oil. It's gonna say a

571
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 1: lot of oil, scrubs and mud. That's when I've had disposable.

572
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: But I've never had someone asked to remove my panties.

573
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: I know me neither, and I don't know if I

574
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: would have done it, but continue on. Let because I've

575
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: had it to wear. I take everything, like I'll actually

576
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: tell them, um, I don't wear panties, so that's probably

577
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: why I mostly do. But I do let them know

578
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: before I get on dress, like, I'll tell them, listen,

579
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: I don't have panties on. Is it okay? And they're like, yeah,

580
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,479
Speaker 1: but you're comfortable. In some small places would be like

581
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 1: keep calm and keep your underwear on. It has signs

582
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: like I ain't got none to keep on. I gotta

583
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: let them know, like and keep you know, how do

584
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,479
Speaker 1: people now we're underwear but whatever that's ain't got him

585
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: on that I need And because I always I always

586
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 1: need to get wet, right is my barrier right now today?

587
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 1: But not it's and it's not even like a horny wet.

588
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: It's like a freaking sweaty so soaky, drippy wetale. My

589
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: office is Antarctica. I'm freezing all day. Okay, so so

590
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: you now take off your panties. So you didn't know

591
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: what was happening. I swear to god, I wasn't thinking

592
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: this has never happened. I thought it was a myth.

593
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 1: Can you tell us really quick? Can you describe the

594
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: man that told you to take your penis? It was bad? Oh?

595
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: I want to know. What did he look like? Oh?

596
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 1: I hate you? He was the same. He was this short,

597
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 1: little short and I didn't hy end about like five four,

598
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 1: skinny with a pot belly. I turned one eye twisted

599
00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: to the other. He was he was something i'd I

600
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: don't know. It wasn't a fake and if it was

601
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 1: a good, happy ending, technically he had a gifted his

602
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 1: eye his eye was twisted. Okay, so the twisted I

603
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: laid his hands on. Now, I just got embarrassed because

604
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: you know what, everybody who asked about this story ain't

605
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: never asking. Why wouldn't we? This is like what don't

606
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 1: need to know? Don't the guy who was getting my

607
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: man and he looked like a chip and like my

608
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 1: friends about you and twisty tree. So your panties are yeah.

609
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: So I swear to god, I didn't think anything. I

610
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: was like, oh, like, I just thought it was what

611
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: they do in India. So I'm like laying on my

612
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 1: stomach and he's massaging up and down one leg. Right,

613
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: So he goes up and down the leg three times.

614
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 1: On the third swipe, he takes like his his hand

615
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: and swipes like by the lip, like right right, like

616
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: a little credit card, like a metro card situation. So

617
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: like but quick, so you think it might be what

618
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: you know what the first time he yeah, he just

619
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: touches it like now. At first, I was like, oh god,

620
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: I'm not even I'm not even shaved, and I'm and

621
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: then I'm like see because I hadn't already stopped before

622
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 1: I went in there, so I was like, I know,

623
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: you didn't think he was gonna find Yeah, so I

624
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: was like I had a little, you know, a little stubble.

625
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: So I'm like all right. So then he goes down,

626
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: he goes back down the leg, he goes back up,

627
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: and then he does like a false swipe, and I'm

628
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,719
Speaker 1: like I felt good, hold on, I said, he supposed

629
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: to be doing this. What the fuck? What is going

630
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: on here? Like mad stuff? Is going through my head.

631
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 1: But I'm like, not stop right. So now he sees that,

632
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 1: I'm you know, like I guess that was his little wait.

633
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 1: So he goes and he just goes and like spreads

634
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: my leg a little bits. Yeah mind you, he said

635
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 1: little leg legs. He spreads my legs a little bit

636
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:17,799
Speaker 1: because yeah, and then like starts touching my vagina and

637
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: like yeah, like and I'm like all these things are

638
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 1: going to bed. I'm like this is not right. I'm

639
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 1: like this feels really good. Oh this is real. Oh

640
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 1: it's real. Oh wow, I have a story to tell.

641
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 1: How it's gonna have a best story in this. This

642
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: is like I have like all of these things. I

643
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: feel so guilty whenever at like a good sex moment

644
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 1: because I'm like, damn, wait till the he is right

645
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: and I'm like okay. So he's and then he does

646
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: that for a little while and then he says turn over,

647
00:34:52,760 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like okay, okay, So I turned over and

648
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:02,800
Speaker 1: I keep my eyes closed because I don't want to

649
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 1: see the eye to keep my eyes closed. And he's

650
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 1: at the bottom of the table and he's like on

651
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 1: straddle of the table and then he's like he was

652
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,439
Speaker 1: just staying up something. Yeah, I don't know. My eyes

653
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: is closed, and he's like playing with the clip with

654
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: my nipples and he's playing with it was a oh boy.

655
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 1: He's like, try to make me come now, like you're

656
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:31,359
Speaker 1: really not even getting massages now, and he his his

657
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 1: duty is to make me come now, and he's playing

658
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: with everything. And then he goes and he puts his

659
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 1: fingers and that's a lot, you know, oh you need yeah,

660
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:49,839
Speaker 1: I got my eyes are closed. Man, I don't know,

661
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: so he just two fingers, but he didn't do that

662
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: a lot. But then he goes and he feel like

663
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,440
Speaker 1: you were you clinching? No? Wait, So I'm like, oh

664
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: my god, this God, this good. But I don't want him.

665
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to give him a reaction because I

666
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: don't see. You weren't making noise, so no, because I

667
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: didn't know. I was sniful because I didn't want him

668
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 1: to get too excited and take any further. So right,

669
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: so I'm up there and I'm just like eyes closed,

670
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 1: eyes closed, but he's gonna go, go, go, and then

671
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 1: finally I come and then but I kept it, so

672
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 1: I was like, have you ever came off of s yeah.

673
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 1: I And it's so funny because like when people talk

674
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: about poring and stuff and they're like, oh, yeah, I

675
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: need to from the minute they walk in the doors,

676
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, I take the little four minute clips.

677
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 1: By two and a half, I'm done. Like I'm one

678
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: of those. I literally Yet I like it to last longer. Yeah,

679
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 1: but it just doesn't. But you know what, I don't

680
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:54,880
Speaker 1: masturbate a lot so that I can have that sensation

681
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 1: and like make sure that I could come. Yet, what

682
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: else helps too with that? Like if you're trying to

683
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,720
Speaker 1: like have better are stronger orgasms if you watch porn

684
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:05,439
Speaker 1: a lot, like if cutting it off a little bit

685
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 1: and like learning how to relearn your body and like

686
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 1: use your mind to work that way, that can help

687
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: you too. It's hard, though, I don't do it. I

688
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 1: don't want it, So I got to sleep aout nine o'clock.

689
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 1: I don't listen. Like so okay, so I got you

690
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: said that you didn't make noise, So so I didn't

691
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 1: make noise. I'm like, but no, no, no, I didn't

692
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 1: make noise. I was like it was like did he know? Then?

693
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: I guess because then afterwards I was like, okay, back

694
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 1: and turned around and go back to my back, right,

695
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 1: because yeah, this it's an hour missile. So I'm like,

696
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 1: you came in, how long and how many minutes do

697
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 1: you know of your massage? How long you were being masturbated?

698
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 1: Not long? Not long? And then he got into so

699
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 1: he and then he went back to regular massage, ngs

700
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 1: all of your juices from his fingers into your back.

701
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I mean that's I didn't even think

702
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:04,359
Speaker 1: about that bad. So I turned back around, go back

703
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 1: to and he's massaging and he leans down. He says

704
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 1: no extra, and I'm like, that wasn't extra. What is extra? Like? No?

705
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: And then he goes, okay, and then you had to

706
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 1: ask for research purpose and extra, right, I did it.

707
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: Some ten minutes later, I didn't want to talk to

708
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: this man. Some five minutes later, he goes he says,

709
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 1: no extra, No, no extra. I don't know what. I

710
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 1: don't know what extra is all of my show extra? No.

711
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: It was just so like, what the funds this extra? Yo?

712
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: I was like, you might be like, yo, look at me.

713
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 1: Oh god, I was like no. So I'm getting dizzy.

714
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 1: Then finally I started like getting a little nervous. And

715
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: then like, I hear more people outside. So I'm like,

716
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: I think my friend is done. He goes yeah, and

717
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: he just and then he just how much? Um, that's

718
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 1: two thousand rupees? So I think that's like twenty eight

719
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 1: dollars in real life. I mean, I mean, sorry, in

720
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: US life, you tipped two tho rupees? Yes, instead of

721
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: in the home massage. Yeah, okay, yeah, so good for you.

722
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 1: So so I go into the other room and my

723
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 1: friend is like, oh my god, she has to touch

724
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:33,279
Speaker 1: because your girl, your friend, I had a girl. She

725
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:35,840
Speaker 1: had a girl. And I was like, she was like, Alex,

726
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: this is a special place. She's mortified, not even she

727
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 1: is mortified. I'm like, let's get out of here. She's like, yes,

728
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: let's get out of here. And then I go and

729
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:52,040
Speaker 1: I picked up my phone and she has been texting

730
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:58,280
Speaker 1: me up. A storm was coming, yo. She has been texted.

731
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find the legement. I wonder why I

732
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: was on you. When I was on the phone, she

733
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 1: had been texting me. Oh, she says, she says, you alive. Oh,

734
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 1: this is a special place. He just asked the rubbed

735
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 1: my pussy. She just asked, the rubbed my man may

736
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: I rub your pussy for you. Oh my god, she

737
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: asked again. So while she's getting the side, she pulled

738
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: the phone out, she said, because she she declined it. Well,

739
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 1: first of all, she had a woman, so maybe she

740
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: was like, hell no, I don't know, but she was like,

741
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 1: she said, the lady said, ma'am, we have twenty eight

742
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:38,879
Speaker 1: minutes left. I can massage your pussy. And she was like,

743
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: excuse me. She was like, oh no, man, absolutely not.

744
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 1: She was like, she was like, she's like, man, please please,

745
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:55,839
Speaker 1: she she she begged. She said, I need to make

746
00:40:55,880 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 1: money to get passport. Because no. Wait, so did speaking

747
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 1: of money to get pass for it? Did you know

748
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 1: how much to give him? No, I just gave him anything.

749
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 1: So you gave him thirty five No, two thousand rupees

750
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 1: so like twenty eight dollars No, but you gave him

751
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 1: that total paid. So you gave him rupie from I

752
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:28,879
Speaker 1: don't know. They probably don't so you gave him total. No,

753
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,480
Speaker 1: he probably doesn't get any of the rupees that I paid.

754
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: The I got you. I kind of thought they were

755
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 1: like independent. No, So now I feel horrible because she's

756
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 1: like she's like, oh we She's like, I don't hourly.

757
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: Probably what's the name of the place, remember spaking, it's

758
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 1: probably those I want to google something. And then she

759
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: says so that she goes and she says, you know, um,

760
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: you know, we we need money to to get married

761
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 1: and have kids. Here like you, the women have to

762
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: have money. No, no, no, saying all of this. He

763
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 1: was like, this, bitch, just so we really need she

764
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 1: you know, over there you have to have money to

765
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: you know, have kids and get married. Uh maybe, but

766
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,320
Speaker 1: they have more than on one location. I think this

767
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 1: location was like being built up like they were. Yeah. Yeah,

768
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 1: actually so, oh my god's so dark, so unsafe, Oh

769
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 1: my god. Yeah, google that. So she goes and she says, um,

770
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: so she's selling her whole life story. She's like crying,

771
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 1: She's like, you know, and then she's like, man, we

772
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: have eleven minutes left. I can still mustache. But she

773
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 1: was like no. After the first time that she asked that,

774
00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: that's what, she hopped up and grabbed her phone and

775
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: started sex to me, like you you know, even knowing

776
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: you was trying to My phone was in the room

777
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 1: with her, because remember initially we were supposed tom So

778
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 1: when I came and I looked at the text. I

779
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, she was freaking the funk out.

780
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 1: What was your friend's reaction when she knew that you

781
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 1: the guy? Damn. Actually we didn't really get all the

782
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,800
Speaker 1: way into it because she was so mortified. So you

783
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 1: would like, let me keep muship, I said, well, I

784
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 1: let him touch me, but I said, that's all I said.

785
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: But so, if you're listening, sorry you were, you were really, really,

786
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:33,439
Speaker 1: really mortified. I was also see how maybe another woman

787
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:35,439
Speaker 1: kind of feature out. I just read something says best

788
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: body to body missige. What the fund is that? Now

789
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 1: I had a body to body massage in Miami once

790
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 1: I found it on Craigslist. I found my Miami. Oh wait,

791
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 1: you deliberately went to go get happy and then I'll

792
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 1: tell you. I'll tell you about my happy briefly. Oh

793
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: so um, I wanted to get I can't even say

794
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: his name, but one of my friends, very close to him,

795
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 1: had not had had sex in years seven years at

796
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 1: the time, and we at least have to get you

797
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: jerked off, right. There was a lot of friends jack off.

798
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: So I look up this place. This is ould trip

799
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 1: two thousand twelve or some ship. I'm like, I got it.

800
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: It's got the stars, it's got the squiggly lines. Were

801
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: good to go. We get there, it's in a strip

802
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: mall really cute girls, me, him, my other friend one.

803
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: I want to say, who got so Anyway, this is

804
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 1: when my breasts were rubbed for the first time and

805
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 1: she got on top of me and it was body

806
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 1: to body, which a lot of tie massages are body

807
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: to body because they'll use their body to crack you.

808
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily always erotic. But the best part of

809
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 1: the massage was the table shower still to this day,

810
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: best experience I've ever had. So basically, you get on

811
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: this sponge bath, there's like probably six shower heads above you,

812
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 1: and they fucking get all up in your crevices, pussy ass, armpits,

813
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 1: bottom of your feet, scrub It's such a good feeling.

814
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 1: You could do it before, after your massage, whatever you like.

815
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:01,720
Speaker 1: But in that massage, I never knew about body to body,

816
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: so like she used her arm throughout my arms, she

817
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: used her legs throughout my legs, everything like picking me

818
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: up and like cracking me out. Like it was good.

819
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: So it wasn't necessarily a sex massage, but some people

820
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: like that ship for erotic ship, you know, so like

821
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: and it's not something that every place like they could

822
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 1: really do, which is why we had to go on

823
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: clas well. This one was very I was like, Mandy

824
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh my god, he didn't ask for

825
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 1: a consent. Came for him to just start, so I'll

826
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 1: be what's crazy is my massus guy did not ask

827
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: for consent either, but um, so I got it done.

828
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,760
Speaker 1: In Miami, I shared it. I don't even remember what episode,

829
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 1: but I was with my homegirl for her birthday. UM

830
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,840
Speaker 1: shout out to my friend Jazz and just graduated group

831
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 1: on one. I thought we didn't, so we went. We

832
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: were in Miami and she she came with me to Asia,

833
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 1: so I was with her. Um my old roommate Crystal,

834
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,279
Speaker 1: and so we went to this massage place that we yeah,

835
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: we found out group on. We had to leave the

836
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 1: beach because like we couldn't find anything like, okay, bitch,

837
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: I found this place this over on Austin Road. We

838
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 1: could just go over there real quick. So we left

839
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: the beach, went to the massage place. Um before we called,

840
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: they said they had two girls and a guy. I

841
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: called it up from I said, well, I need a

842
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: guy because I like man massages, like I don't like anything.

843
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: So we get there, um and we get sent to

844
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 1: our different rooms. So the guy, when I walk in,

845
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: he's like this tall Russian or German or he's somewhere

846
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 1: in Europe, but like just looks like a goddamn action figure.

847
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: A beautiful man though, So we started talking about where

848
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 1: he's from. He just moved to Miami. I can go

849
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 1: an accent, so I didn't want to talk too much

850
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 1: because I really couldn't understand too much of him. But

851
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: he was handsome. I was like, okay, So as he

852
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: is massaging me, he like is going up my thigh

853
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 1: the same way. This is me being actually I was.

854
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 1: I was laying now on my back. This is after

855
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 1: I had rolled over. So he's massaging my thighs, massaging

856
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: my thighs, and as he's doing it, I do kind

857
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 1: of start feel him getting closer up my thighs and

858
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: my whole ass. I opened up my legs so as

859
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 1: he's up there, like I just started inching like up

860
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:16,479
Speaker 1: my pussy um. And then yeah, he literally went from

861
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: massaging my thighs to rubbing his finger around my thing.

862
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: And I had to like not moan, mind you bitch.

863
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 1: I came out fifteen minutes later than my friend. They

864
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 1: was like, well, what your massage? We only paid an

865
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: hour and it looked at me because I was just smiling,

866
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:35,919
Speaker 1: and I was smiling in a year when I left

867
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 1: and I was like, thank you, like you did a

868
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:42,399
Speaker 1: really good you guys, mind you. Neither of my friends

869
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: really care for them and something. They were like, this

870
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 1: was actually I'm recommending U, and it was it was like,

871
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: so did you come? Oh? I was yeah, Like it

872
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:55,319
Speaker 1: started feeling too good, and I was like, man, I'm

873
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:58,959
Speaker 1: about to get him a number everywhere, Like had group

874
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 1: and massage me and like did the thigh thing and

875
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:05,279
Speaker 1: I got tighter and tighter. It was fine. I knew

876
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 1: I want honestly, Like I don't know. It scares me.

877
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: I will say they should definitely there should be some

878
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:15,560
Speaker 1: and that says, well, well either way, whether it doesn't

879
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 1: matter what country, happy ending should be somewhere. But I

880
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:21,320
Speaker 1: know it's literally I know it's illegal, but maybe put somewhere.

881
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 1: Maybe we all know secretly there's a happy and I

882
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: don't know, or maybe pay in the beginning. I don't know,

883
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 1: but you don't look like no, cos I would have

884
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: told you, has there's something two Americans coming in a spot.

885
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, you think that looks kind of sketch.

886
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: I don't know, well because I mean there's not a

887
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 1: lot of Americans around there. Yeah, but you had that

888
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 1: nose around you was you was a whole Indian guard.

889
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 1: You probably looked I just care for the had a

890
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 1: freaking punch Jobby. Did anyone online be like, yo, that's

891
00:48:55,160 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: appropriation as what? Oh? No, really, I got I think

892
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 1: the difference to it Dubai is like the sand dunes,

893
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:08,800
Speaker 1: so you get to cover your face. So I was

894
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: wondering too that I feel like somebody's gonna be fake.

895
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: I mean, but if you want to the taj Mahal,

896
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: that's the thing too. When you're going to these bosques,

897
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,439
Speaker 1: you have to cover up like it's not I remember, well,

898
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,799
Speaker 1: what is this the massoleum? Okay? But I remember like

899
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: even when I was, even when I thought it was

900
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 1: because when I was it looks like when I was

901
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 1: in Bangkok we went to the palace and I thought

902
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:33,879
Speaker 1: I had covered up enough, like I had just all

903
00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 1: black on. My my shirt was long um and I

904
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 1: put a denim jacket over it, but I had legs on.

905
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:40,880
Speaker 1: I was a big girl, but nigga like it's hot,

906
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 1: I'm more leggings. And because my leggings were tight, even

907
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,719
Speaker 1: even though it covered my whole body, they were like

908
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 1: it's too tight, like you need to you know. And

909
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna get in this, y'all not

910
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: stop it. Even Thailand skirts too, that they were selling

911
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 1: in Thailand. I noticed where because most women were wearing words,

912
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 1: Oh no, like Thailand wasn't as um wasn't as strict

913
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 1: to me that as like I did have to cover it,

914
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: oh bitch, And I've been a cutter that I had

915
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 1: a maxi dress and a denim but again my ass

916
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 1: was looking. A man literally changed almost like literally the

917
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:20,800
Speaker 1: guy that I was with at the time, we were scared,

918
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 1: like he just started yelling, but in his in his

919
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 1: language to where like it created a whole like the

920
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: whole supermarket was staring at me and my dude at

921
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 1: the time at six eleven fucking dreads from Atlanta. I'm

922
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 1: over there seeing him because he was playing ball over

923
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:36,759
Speaker 1: there at the time, and I'm confused because I'm like,

924
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,319
Speaker 1: I have a long dress to my knees. I have

925
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: a denim jacket. It's sucking a hundred degrees. How is

926
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 1: there are a problem? But I guess my dress was

927
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: too tight for them, and so literally the wife came

928
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 1: up to me and was like, honey, you're fine, Like

929
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:52,719
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, but mind you, she's covered only a lot.

930
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 1: It's very conservative and cutter in comparison to Dubai. So

931
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: like it was the scary, like I had been scared.

932
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: The literally the security guard had to walk us to

933
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 1: our car in the garage at the supermarket because it

934
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:06,799
Speaker 1: calls such like an uproar, and he was like, don't worry, man,

935
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 1: you look fine, Like I don't know what was wrong

936
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: with him, but like it made me feel uncomfortable. So

937
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: I could see why even I get I get why

938
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: people would think it would be cultural appropriation, but you

939
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: also want to respect the cultures when you go. No,

940
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 1: I just thought that the Indian guards were so beautiful,

941
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 1: like when you go to the here and like you,

942
00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:31,479
Speaker 1: the fabric is amazing and you have to get the maide,

943
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 1: Like I didn't buy that. I had to go get

944
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:37,319
Speaker 1: the fabric and then go to the tailor. He had

945
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: to tailor the whole thing, you know, measurement. But it

946
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:46,359
Speaker 1: was probably because I just bought Is it appropriation if

947
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: tourists were I mean by American definition, yes, but everybody

948
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:56,319
Speaker 1: was like, my god, but you know where it comes from,

949
00:51:56,680 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 1: Bollywood culture, because we're such fucking face ends of Bollywood

950
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 1: all over the world. Bollywood is so amazing. So I

951
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: feel like it's you know, you're just really feeling like,

952
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 1: this is what I've been seeing, this is what I've

953
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: been looking at, opposed to like dashiki ship. I don't

954
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: know why I should be bothering me, but it's not

955
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 1: even like just wrong, yeah, you know what, It's just

956
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 1: like I would here. Crystal wants an Indian wedding. We've

957
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 1: talked about it, either an Indian or African wedding. She

958
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,799
Speaker 1: doesn't care if she marries the Indian. That's the type

959
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:28,759
Speaker 1: of wedding she wants, just because of the beauty of

960
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 1: the dancing. So beautiful, beautiful, It's really the fabrics are beautiful. Wedding.

961
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 1: I don't know about but clothes, but I could fun

962
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:40,959
Speaker 1: with I mean, we showering. We have themes for baby.

963
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 1: You can have a theme for a wedding. I guess

964
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 1: a Bollywood theme as long as it's no, because I

965
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 1: always want to make sure that you don't cross over

966
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 1: to their religion, right, which is what's the thing that

967
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: about Thailand I was just thinking about when she was

968
00:52:56,600 --> 00:53:00,800
Speaker 1: talking about Cutter and Thailand. Thailand Taipee people really probably

969
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 1: themselves on acceptance a lot. But that's just Buddhist way

970
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 1: right with um. You know their l g pt Q community.

971
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: Have you on the t right, like oh my god, yeah,

972
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 1: in those spaces, they're very proud that they are good

973
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:18,920
Speaker 1: to their transgender men, women whatever, mainly trans women, and

974
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 1: even any tour I had or any like temple I

975
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,040
Speaker 1: went into, like they would talk about that, which I

976
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:26,360
Speaker 1: really appreciate it. Um. So yeah, I think that also

977
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 1: maybe why we experience a leniency in Thailand opposed to

978
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 1: these other countries because there's not really many gender um

979
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: oppressing laws. But we were in um India. The there's

980
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,760
Speaker 1: like literally people okay, you know how they sell fruits

981
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 1: on the street, they sell water on the street. Now

982
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:48,120
Speaker 1: they're not on your window. They're selling a paperalel, they're

983
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:52,839
Speaker 1: selling a pen, they're selling the weirdest ship that you're like,

984
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:57,920
Speaker 1: is this the money sense? So that we not buy

985
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: anything then, because and then every single light, which is

986
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:08,760
Speaker 1: not many lights, there's what we would consider a trans

987
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:12,440
Speaker 1: person coming to the window, knocking on the window. Right,

988
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 1: So I'm about to step so I'm I'm like, so

989
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:23,240
Speaker 1: what is this person selling? He's like nothing, and I'm like, okay,

990
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: so why they're knocking on the window. He's like, don't look,

991
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 1: no man, no woman. And I'm like, okay, what is that?

992
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:32,319
Speaker 1: What is that? I'm like, They're like, no, it's not

993
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:34,879
Speaker 1: a man, it's not a woman. I'm like, so, then

994
00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 1: what what? I don't want to say it, but I'm like,

995
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 1: so what do you what it? What it? What? What

996
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 1: is that? Like? I'm like, so it's used to be

997
00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 1: a man, used to be a woman. No, no, man,

998
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 1: no woman. Don't look And I'm like huh but I'm

999
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,120
Speaker 1: trying to understand. So but I'm like, so then what

1000
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 1: is it? If it's not a woman, then what is it?

1001
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 1: And then he just could not answer and they literally

1002
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 1: just it's like, you're nothing. What are they knocking on

1003
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 1: the windows for? Do you know? For money? Oh? Just

1004
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 1: begging for yeah, just begging for money. But they the

1005
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 1: people don't look at them. Is consider them anything. They're

1006
00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 1: like no woman, which is I don't know what that's

1007
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 1: different than Thailand because in Thailand they're actually um and

1008
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 1: a lot of Southeast Asia trans women are actually salt

1009
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: out after just because their body types are a lot

1010
00:55:25,680 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 1: more feminine over there. I know a lot of basketball

1011
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,399
Speaker 1: players when they go and play in Southeast Asia. When

1012
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:33,640
Speaker 1: you have money, that's what you do as a form

1013
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:36,919
Speaker 1: of I've made it. You actually sleep with a trans woman. Yeah,

1014
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:41,320
Speaker 1: and so I really feminine bodies, but they're lean people.

1015
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 1: They've got less hair on their bodies, they grow longer

1016
00:55:44,760 --> 00:55:48,640
Speaker 1: hair of how they've got a softer um jaw like everything.

1017
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:52,640
Speaker 1: So like the most elite looking or most cis looking

1018
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:54,360
Speaker 1: is also a thing most possible if you want to

1019
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 1: use words like that. Trans women come from Southeast Asia.

1020
00:55:58,120 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: Like even the men right when you think of their

1021
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: body is very tall. A lot of comments about Ali Wong.

1022
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: Did you ever see the Pregnant Netflix special and she

1023
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 1: talks about my man is like a dolphin no hair? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes,

1024
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,880
Speaker 1: I guess it's easy because you like I just couldn't,

1025
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 1: but I just I wanted and you know, because there

1026
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 1: was a language barrier that he couldn't really articulate what

1027
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 1: he how I wanted him to because I wanted him

1028
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 1: to explain what the fund did. He mean, that's crazy

1029
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: because that means like they're not even like we have

1030
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: a long way to go with being progressed. That's what

1031
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying. We will just say, Okay, that's a transfer.

1032
00:56:33,680 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: It's nothing to us. Okay, even if a woman looks

1033
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: like a woman like sex and was very similar to

1034
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,239
Speaker 1: trance people, it's like a weird thing. And I'm reading

1035
00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 1: right now, but can you can you hear him? So

1036
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 1: Benson was just saying, there's a third gender slash. You know,

1037
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 1: we got Indian camera guy, so he gonna give his knowledge. Oh,

1038
00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:57,840
Speaker 1: wasn't just something that I ran by when I was

1039
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 1: in India actually, and they discussed that their general a

1040
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: documentary roundly when I was like tenth grade. It was

1041
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 1: a matter of trippy. But um, I don't have that

1042
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,279
Speaker 1: much information on it. But all I know is there's

1043
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 1: a whole third gender and like they essentially like take

1044
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 1: away their manhood and their womanhood. Also they cut the

1045
00:57:12,160 --> 00:57:14,239
Speaker 1: clip and I believe so there's something to do with

1046
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:19,440
Speaker 1: like h I j r. A name, So it's not

1047
00:57:19,720 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 1: trans is not a name. I mean from what I

1048
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 1: just read, they're usually organized with the communities. But um,

1049
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:27,720
Speaker 1: they like if they're in poverty and stuff like that,

1050
00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 1: Like they kind of looked down where they go with

1051
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 1: sex workers. Yeah maybe yeah, but it was crazy one

1052
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 1: of the one of them were knocking on the window

1053
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: with with rupees in their hands, like we're like, why

1054
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 1: how are you asking for money? And you already got right.

1055
00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 1: But it's like a cut with a little change. I

1056
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 1: guess that's what it's. Maybe they couldn't have a cut.

1057
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,920
Speaker 1: It's so true. Maybe this coun't let you know what

1058
00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 1: I mean more it is, that's so true. I actually

1059
00:57:58,240 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: heard this term third sex. My first time hearing that

1060
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 1: was years ago. One of my favorite videos is Maria

1061
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: Rodriguez comedian called Janie Papas. He's been on Andrews Show.

1062
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 1: Um he goes on there and he goes, um, third

1063
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:14,160
Speaker 1: sex from the Lower east Side and he's when he says,

1064
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 1: you know this ask pussy, don't think and this that's

1065
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: sick came from And he always talks about like yo,

1066
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 1: I never knew this would catch on. Like I actually

1067
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 1: used to listen to their podcast. I don't think we

1068
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 1: have anymore called the Rigorous Podcast and he would always

1069
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: do that voice, but yeah, you would call himself third

1070
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:30,920
Speaker 1: sex and I was like, huh, I never that's kind

1071
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 1: of answering it is, and I wonder if it's like

1072
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:36,479
Speaker 1: an old kind of I don't know. I've never grown

1073
00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 1: up in third sex. I never heard of third sex.

1074
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:41,560
Speaker 1: Before we wrap this up, I want to ask you

1075
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 1: would you get an happy ending again? Oh? Yeah, regular,

1076
00:58:53,120 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 1: they're all on Lexington Avenue. You could get him here.

1077
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: But okay, you know what, Okay, you're not Americans. I

1078
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 1: don't know if okay, let me think I would not solicited. Yeah, okay,

1079
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 1: I always wanted to be You want to be surprised? Yeah,

1080
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:12,640
Speaker 1: that well we should be preaching. I surprised. No, it's

1081
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 1: so funny, that's all I'm saying. It was so funny

1082
00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:20,959
Speaker 1: because when I was I text Small and I said

1083
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:22,840
Speaker 1: I want I want to be part of your boys club.

1084
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 1: I was up there talking about happy ending, his hand

1085
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:26,200
Speaker 1: jobs and all of that stuff on a couple of

1086
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 1: episodes when Kraft got uh yeah, oh please he damn

1087
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 1: a millionaire can't get a handy, and I was like, well,

1088
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 1: I want to be harder to the you know, and

1089
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:41,960
Speaker 1: I'm still gonna get the obsession thing with masturbation during

1090
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:45,040
Speaker 1: massages is crazy. One of my old colleagues told me

1091
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 1: about how he would argue with his girl because he's like,

1092
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,640
Speaker 1: you know what, gee, she doesn't get it, Like I'm

1093
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 1: making money. I'm happy with her, but I'm gonna get

1094
00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 1: jerked off my fucking ritual. It was before huh after her,

1095
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:00,280
Speaker 1: I like to get church off. What's the four don't know.

1096
01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 1: I'm cool with that. And he said that if you're

1097
01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:06,560
Speaker 1: in a relationship, I mean, I don't I don't want

1098
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:07,680
Speaker 1: to know. I don't want you to come home and

1099
01:00:07,760 --> 01:00:09,800
Speaker 1: be like and we're like where you was at if

1100
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:12,480
Speaker 1: I went down took it happen. I don't want to.

1101
01:00:12,520 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 1: There's a novelty of it and I don't know what

1102
01:00:14,720 --> 01:00:16,880
Speaker 1: it is, but people fucking love it. And he told

1103
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 1: me he's like, I feel spoiled. He's like, you don't

1104
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 1: want to get relux. You know. Sometimes I've been thinking

1105
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:28,080
Speaker 1: about this. Sometimes um relationships really have this like create

1106
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:32,320
Speaker 1: these boundaries that you just can't do your own thing

1107
01:00:32,480 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 1: that really doesn't mean anything against your relationship is just

1108
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 1: like yo thing, you know, so it's kind of like

1109
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 1: talked about toxic traits that people didn't realize we're toxic.

1110
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 1: And that's one of those like you set these boundaries

1111
01:00:43,400 --> 01:00:45,880
Speaker 1: because you're in a relationship, and then things that probably

1112
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 1: wouldn't really upset you because you're in a relationship now

1113
01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:50,240
Speaker 1: they upset you but for no reason. Feel like fake

1114
01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 1: boundaries are creative. But like even even the porn thing,

1115
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 1: like when people get mad at, first of all, watching porn,

1116
01:00:56,520 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 1: there's some people get mad that watching port and then

1117
01:00:58,160 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: then some people would get mad at the type of

1118
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:01,920
Speaker 1: when you watch because they feel like, oh, I'm not

1119
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:04,080
Speaker 1: that personal. I'm not that's like what you're watching the

1120
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:07,320
Speaker 1: opposite or oh that's what you're into whatever, Like what

1121
01:01:07,720 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 1: turns me on, you know, doesn't necessarily mean that's what

1122
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 1: I'm It's like that isolated fantasy moment, you know what

1123
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:18,919
Speaker 1: I mean, But it's not really like what I'm trying

1124
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 1: to do. But even men who you know, get mad

1125
01:01:21,560 --> 01:01:23,919
Speaker 1: at their women for using sex toys now they don't

1126
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 1: feel adequate enough. And so there's just a lot of things.

1127
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: But I think that that happens a lot. And yes,

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01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 1: like we said, we are not um soliciting unsolicited UM,

1129
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:35,520
Speaker 1: second hands dos and happy endings. Make sure that consent

1130
01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:37,120
Speaker 1: is me in somewhere. You know what's gonna happen. We

1131
01:01:37,160 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 1: are gonna hop into our homemail, UM, which you can

1132
01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: help us out with. Again. If you guys want to

1133
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 1: send in your homemail, make sure you send that into

1134
01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. UM, this one is

1135
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: struggling to be sex positive. Hey ladies, First up, I love, love,

1136
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:54,960
Speaker 1: love the podcast The Pair of You keep me so entertained.

1137
01:01:55,200 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 1: Please do a live show in London? All right, shout

1138
01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:59,919
Speaker 1: out to the UK UM to jump right into my problem.

1139
01:02:00,600 --> 01:02:04,200
Speaker 1: I'm not the most experienced girl. I waited for the

1140
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:07,240
Speaker 1: one quote unquote and lost my V card in my twenties.

1141
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:09,400
Speaker 1: While all my friends have been doing it from the

1142
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 1: age of fourteen. I haven't heard V card right is UK?

1143
01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:18,280
Speaker 1: It might be Oh yeah. When I finally got with

1144
01:02:18,360 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 1: the man I was in love with. The sex was painful, disappointing,

1145
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:28,320
Speaker 1: almost traumatic. It was unplanned. I was wasted and don't

1146
01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 1: she look how to turn into Jamaican. I was wasted

1147
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 1: and didn't remember anything but waking up covered in blood

1148
01:02:37,840 --> 01:02:42,280
Speaker 1: and bruises. All right, everybody, tried out, Okay, let's pass

1149
01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:46,600
Speaker 1: it around. I cannot do it the game. I'm right

1150
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:53,680
Speaker 1: here one sentence, I was hot looking. I went it

1151
01:02:53,840 --> 01:03:04,560
Speaker 1: so long for it's just to wait, I think unble

1152
01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 1: they started the second air goce. I was to wait too,

1153
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:13,920
Speaker 1: so long, just for it to happen in such an

1154
01:03:14,200 --> 01:03:18,920
Speaker 1: unceremoniously brush and meaningless way. Because I was drunk, the

1155
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: lines of blurry about whether or not I consented. Also,

1156
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 1: there was a lot of guilt and shame attached to

1157
01:03:24,920 --> 01:03:28,680
Speaker 1: having grown up in a deeply religious household and always

1158
01:03:28,720 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 1: being taught sex outside of marriage was a sinful thing.

1159
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 1: I bled heavily the first few times I had sex penetration,

1160
01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 1: hurt like hell, I can't do it anymore, and even

1161
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:42,320
Speaker 1: had a horrible pregnancy scare. Meanwhile, the one was cheating

1162
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:47,200
Speaker 1: and only came clean when he contracted lamidia. I got tested,

1163
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:49,640
Speaker 1: came back clean, but it all ended a breakup that

1164
01:03:49,760 --> 01:03:52,840
Speaker 1: tore my world to shreds. On top of that, I

1165
01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:55,200
Speaker 1: was hiding the relationship from my family. I've been going

1166
01:03:55,240 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 1: in between. Australia would just owned if they found out.

1167
01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 1: Let me let me get my friends harry. From then on,

1168
01:04:04,360 --> 01:04:07,280
Speaker 1: I can't help but be incredibly cautious and closed off

1169
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:10,040
Speaker 1: when it comes to sex. It's sad because despite everything

1170
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:13,920
Speaker 1: in my head, I'm super open to all forms of

1171
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:16,960
Speaker 1: kink and freak ship. For example, I love your show

1172
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 1: and follow a lot of progressive women like yourselves, activists, educators,

1173
01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: and sex workers. It's time, like I, it's time that

1174
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:26,960
Speaker 1: I embrace sex positivity for everyone but myself. I'm such

1175
01:04:27,000 --> 01:04:29,960
Speaker 1: a prude after my experiences. How do I overcome my

1176
01:04:30,120 --> 01:04:33,240
Speaker 1: struggle to be sex positive and even get out there

1177
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 1: so I can have enjoyable, adventurous sex. Bitch, I can

1178
01:04:38,360 --> 01:04:43,600
Speaker 1: barely read English, the King's English. That I was gonna say,

1179
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 1: guilt tripping yourself? So many fucking traumatic experiences. Pregnancy scares heavily.

1180
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:52,360
Speaker 1: So how does she now she lost it at twenty one?

1181
01:04:52,440 --> 01:04:54,400
Speaker 1: How does she now that she doesn't say? She said

1182
01:04:54,400 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 1: she actually lost it in her twenties, and so I'm

1183
01:04:57,000 --> 01:04:59,760
Speaker 1: not sure all of her friends lost it earlier. Um,

1184
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 1: But basically, being that her first sexual partner was not

1185
01:05:04,520 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 1: it was not only painful, disappointing and traumatic to her. Um.

1186
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:10,440
Speaker 1: She bled a lot after she got bruises, and then

1187
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:13,040
Speaker 1: of course he cheated on her and contracted STD. So

1188
01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 1: I feel like there's just a lot of fear with

1189
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:18,280
Speaker 1: even knowing if she's going to enjoy it again. UM.

1190
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 1: I think that this is something in which she may

1191
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:25,320
Speaker 1: need to seek therapy for because this is a trauma

1192
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 1: that probably you won't just snap out of. UM. It's

1193
01:05:29,240 --> 01:05:32,280
Speaker 1: definitely gonna take work. I think what's more important than

1194
01:05:32,400 --> 01:05:36,600
Speaker 1: that is for you to share this story with whoever

1195
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:39,760
Speaker 1: you decide to be your partner. UM and So this

1196
01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 1: may actually take more dating than casual sex. It sounds

1197
01:05:43,000 --> 01:05:44,600
Speaker 1: like you want to just get out there and have fun,

1198
01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:46,600
Speaker 1: but I think that in order for you to get

1199
01:05:46,640 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: over this, you are going to have to find a

1200
01:05:47,960 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 1: man that you trust. UM. Also, it doesn't necessarily have

1201
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:53,520
Speaker 1: to be a man. You may find comfort in women

1202
01:05:53,960 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 1: UM and So there are a lot of things that

1203
01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:58,360
Speaker 1: don't have to deal with penetration to where you won't

1204
01:05:58,720 --> 01:06:02,640
Speaker 1: you know, feel pain. UM. So you may also want

1205
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:05,919
Speaker 1: to consider maybe being intimate with a woman. UM. That's

1206
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,560
Speaker 1: something in which you may experience something different, and it's

1207
01:06:08,600 --> 01:06:10,880
Speaker 1: something that will allow you to be vulnerable and grow

1208
01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:14,800
Speaker 1: a friendship with someone UM on that level outside of

1209
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:17,000
Speaker 1: just looking at you know, someone that wants to just

1210
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 1: dick their dicking you. Um, So for me it would

1211
01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:22,600
Speaker 1: be that would be my advice, UM to seek therapy

1212
01:06:22,840 --> 01:06:25,280
Speaker 1: or maybe look for a female companion and see if

1213
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:27,600
Speaker 1: maybe that's something you're interested in. But another thing is

1214
01:06:27,640 --> 01:06:31,560
Speaker 1: I think that, like you said, she she seems like

1215
01:06:31,680 --> 01:06:33,520
Speaker 1: she wants to go out and do all of this

1216
01:06:33,640 --> 01:06:36,800
Speaker 1: stuff with you know she. I think some people just

1217
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:39,439
Speaker 1: want to do what everybody else is doing because they're

1218
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 1: just like everybody else to have casual sex. You know,

1219
01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:45,080
Speaker 1: I can't do want to give her credit to for saying, like,

1220
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:47,960
Speaker 1: you know, I can be open for everyone else and

1221
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 1: embrace their sexuality. That's a good start. Like you know,

1222
01:06:51,080 --> 01:06:53,440
Speaker 1: like sometimes we can be that way where we're like, yes,

1223
01:06:53,600 --> 01:06:56,680
Speaker 1: go be independent blah blah blah blah, but maybe we're not,

1224
01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 1: or we could be like yo, funk that nigga. But

1225
01:07:00,000 --> 01:07:02,439
Speaker 1: where's your text in the ex That happens all the time,

1226
01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,440
Speaker 1: you know, And it's not like you're doing it on purpose,

1227
01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 1: like you know what's right, it's just how do I

1228
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 1: do it? But the thing is that everybody, I mean here,

1229
01:07:09,240 --> 01:07:11,840
Speaker 1: even in our own circle of friends, you have the

1230
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,120
Speaker 1: friend that's not a hope you know she's not home,

1231
01:07:14,600 --> 01:07:17,240
Speaker 1: like you know that she's not about one in the circle.

1232
01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:19,520
Speaker 1: Is that what you're trying to know. I'm not I'm

1233
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 1: not the not hole. Okay, I have friends who are

1234
01:07:22,640 --> 01:07:25,920
Speaker 1: not are not the home and I'm not. I'm not

1235
01:07:26,120 --> 01:07:28,640
Speaker 1: the highest hole. Like I'm not the like the highest

1236
01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:31,960
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna get into that. Like I'm not like

1237
01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: you guys, I like them, not the most usual who

1238
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:38,720
Speaker 1: came on the podcast. Oh, my friend came on Brandon

1239
01:07:39,040 --> 01:07:41,360
Speaker 1: and he said, we said you lost your Virginia and nineteen.

1240
01:07:41,360 --> 01:07:45,880
Speaker 1: He said, I'm not playing past like you know, like,

1241
01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:50,760
Speaker 1: I'm not that, but I'm not a prudy. And what

1242
01:07:50,920 --> 01:07:54,040
Speaker 1: you're saying is probably where she's feeling. Because for her

1243
01:07:54,120 --> 01:07:56,480
Speaker 1: to even bring up my friends lost it at fourteen,

1244
01:07:56,840 --> 01:07:58,720
Speaker 1: I feel like she could be also feeling the precisus

1245
01:07:58,760 --> 01:08:01,120
Speaker 1: of her friends, UM, which isn't good. I don't I

1246
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:03,520
Speaker 1: don't think that you should say here and UM be

1247
01:08:03,640 --> 01:08:05,439
Speaker 1: one to follow the crowd or even if you listen

1248
01:08:05,480 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 1: to this podcast all the time. I want to tell

1249
01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 1: all of you guys, UM communication again, it is big,

1250
01:08:10,680 --> 01:08:13,240
Speaker 1: but everyone has their different paths, their different desires, their

1251
01:08:13,240 --> 01:08:15,960
Speaker 1: different fetishes, UM and so even with listening to us,

1252
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:18,080
Speaker 1: we don't want to feel like we're forcing y'all to

1253
01:08:18,120 --> 01:08:20,840
Speaker 1: go out and live this kinky, fetishy lifestyle of b

1254
01:08:20,960 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 1: D S M and all these things. Like again, everyone

1255
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:26,560
Speaker 1: is on their own path sexually to find what, you know,

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Speaker 1: what heals them, what brings them or meets them spiritually,

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Speaker 1: even if it's elephants and ship. Um. But to not

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Speaker 1: use your friends or everyone around you, or society as

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Speaker 1: a stepping stone to where you feel like you are

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Speaker 1: matched against everyone. Even as even as vocal as I

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Speaker 1: am in whatever the hell I want to do, if

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Speaker 1: people still like will kind of judge you for having

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Speaker 1: sex earlier, they'd be like, oh, zam, you were fat,

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Speaker 1: you know, shut the funk up. I mean, I see

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Speaker 1: that sometimes and don't even realize it. Like, um, one

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Speaker 1: of my really close one of my best friends, I

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Speaker 1: came on here, I think this episode twenty nine. He

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Speaker 1: talked about how me and Mandy had hor phobia, and

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Speaker 1: he's like, you guys are doing the work. He was like,

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Speaker 1: but you don't even realize you do it to each other, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you're a whole are you a ho? Ho? And we

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Speaker 1: still kind of do it because that's how we kind

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Speaker 1: of almost have a that's how we tease each other.

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Speaker 1: We've made that part of our culture to hit up

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Speaker 1: our friends and be like, bitch your hoss right and

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Speaker 1: have fun that way. Right. But sometimes, like I guess,

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Speaker 1: for a person like yourself, who's you know, wrote this

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Speaker 1: letter and we don't even realize how that can fuck

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Speaker 1: you up. When I talked to my friends like that,

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Speaker 1: I don't expect that. I really don't care about the

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Speaker 1: word home, but you get you get shamed for saying

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Speaker 1: you don't suck dick, so you damn exactly grow up.

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Speaker 1: I think. I think another thing that will help is

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Speaker 1: I hate to say it, but I mean, you know

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01:09:43,320 --> 01:09:44,680
Speaker 1: who it's coming from, and if you listen to the

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Speaker 1: show you I guess you can guess I would give

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Speaker 1: you this advice, But no, I was gonna say, get

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Speaker 1: a little more emotionally invested. That way, you don't feel

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01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:57,800
Speaker 1: as judged because I feel like an actual person. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel like if there's a bit of a deeper

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01:09:59,560 --> 01:10:02,519
Speaker 1: connection there, you won't have that fear that like, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, this dude's gonna think I'm a sucking this.

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01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 1: To get yourself an EmPATH like wheezy. I even said

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Speaker 1: that someone that you're maybe not able to have casual

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01:10:10,680 --> 01:10:12,479
Speaker 1: sex with what it needs to have some deeper meaning

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01:10:12,520 --> 01:10:14,799
Speaker 1: because you're gonna have to open up about your traumatic

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Speaker 1: she needs like a Capricorn guy or So here we

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Speaker 1: go with the guys, did astrology are you will go

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Speaker 1: ahead of let everyone know? Everyone knows what about So

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Speaker 1: like we basically like trick on niggas, what is it?

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Speaker 1: We had a whole whole episode about it. So everyone,

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, tell us what it's about. So

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Speaker 1: The M and Man Is for Money is a guide

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Speaker 1: women's guide on how to handle men and money and

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Speaker 1: dating in relationship. It's a really fun written book. I

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Speaker 1: haven't read your reloaded one, so this is reloaded with

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Speaker 1: a lot more information. Yet it's the same book from

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Speaker 1: the first time, with fifty more information. I add a

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Speaker 1: whole bunch more UM scenarios, UM like counsel offering, flying

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Speaker 1: out rules, long distance relationships, um business relationship. Well, I

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Speaker 1: love this, font says, I love the coverage too, So

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Speaker 1: it's it's really it's really good. And a lot of

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Speaker 1: you guys always ask us, how do I get money

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Speaker 1: out of man? How do I get a Sugar Daddy.

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01:11:10,960 --> 01:11:13,200
Speaker 1: We've had a fake for Sugar Daddy episode. But if

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Speaker 1: you guys go back into our archive and listen to

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Speaker 1: the episode with Cutty Um, it's literally titled the M

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Speaker 1: and Man is for Money feature and Passport Cutty Um,

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01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:23,519
Speaker 1: you guys can actually read more about what the book

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Speaker 1: is about. And again it's reloaded, so you now have

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Speaker 1: the opportunity. I just randomly came to a paid shout

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Speaker 1: out to you, Maniga, I'm gonna read you what I

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Speaker 1: just saw Splitting Rent. Don't think for a second that

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Speaker 1: it's the ultimate no no, which so many women like

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Speaker 1: to chant. There are so many different types of factors

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Speaker 1: and scenarios about Splitting Rent. Do not get caught up

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Speaker 1: in the unrealistic ideologies of other women. Fucking shout out

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01:11:44,439 --> 01:11:47,639
Speaker 1: to you, because you know what, other people really influence

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Speaker 1: the idea that the people that were with named shit.

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Speaker 1: But are you what are you bringing to the table too?

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01:11:52,760 --> 01:11:54,880
Speaker 1: Maybe you guys both have to contribute to it this way.

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01:11:55,200 --> 01:11:57,599
Speaker 1: And I don't want you guys to everything for a second.

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Speaker 1: Just because we may talk about men that are fluent,

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Speaker 1: we're not a gold digging. It's not a gold digging manual.

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Speaker 1: It's definitely very realistic. It's more and this one actually

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01:12:09,320 --> 01:12:13,559
Speaker 1: talks more about um relationships later on, because a lot

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Speaker 1: of people kept on saying, Oh, I'm single, I don't

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Speaker 1: want that, I don't need that, you know, I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't want to change my expectation. I mean, I

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01:12:20,840 --> 01:12:23,400
Speaker 1: don't want to ruin my relationship by reading it. And

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01:12:23,520 --> 01:12:26,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, actually, it could probably help you help. But

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Speaker 1: that's the number one actually, like demise of relationships and

1343
01:12:29,800 --> 01:12:32,439
Speaker 1: marriages now is finances. So what you do is you

1344
01:12:32,560 --> 01:12:35,519
Speaker 1: give a lot of like kind of encouragement to you

1345
01:12:35,600 --> 01:12:38,000
Speaker 1: don't have to live by societal norms. But this is

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01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:41,759
Speaker 1: maybe a path you could take to where finances aren't

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01:12:41,800 --> 01:12:44,360
Speaker 1: such a huge But it's also about yourself. There's yourself.

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Speaker 1: It's it's like the best of all worlds. It's about

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01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:49,479
Speaker 1: for single women, is for women in a relationship. Like

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Speaker 1: even today somebody was like, oh, I want to come

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01:12:50,960 --> 01:12:52,320
Speaker 1: to your tour, but I don't want to come along.

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Speaker 1: I'm like girl. Even in the book, I have bar

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Speaker 1: solo bar etiquette one on one, you know, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's I'm gonna get fluid out. Lying out rules is

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Speaker 1: a goddamn chapter. But so I'm going on tour for

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Speaker 1: the book again. I went two years ago to only

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Speaker 1: six cities. That's something going to twenty three cities. Than

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Speaker 1: girl it's a it's like a girl's night out you

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Speaker 1: read because some people think that you have to like

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Speaker 1: read the books that come to the store. But it's

1361
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:29,919
Speaker 1: not about that. It's just girl talk, relationships guys. It's food, drinks, questionings,

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Speaker 1: just that. And it's cute venues and sup and then

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Speaker 1: we I definitely want to pull up to let me

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Speaker 1: know because the ships selling out quick, so had to

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Speaker 1: see which one I could pull up to. We themed

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Speaker 1: it so that every single city has a different um

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Speaker 1: clothing theme, so like some are like metallic, some are

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Speaker 1: sat and some are late someone like that. That's cute

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Speaker 1: and work. Where can our listeners find you and your book?

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Speaker 1: It is passport Cutty. Oh sorry, you can find me

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Speaker 1: on Instagram and two their passport underscore Cutty see U

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Speaker 1: T t Y. And the book is on Amazon. These

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Speaker 1: no more signed copies because I already did that for

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Speaker 1: pre order, but on Amazon you can get it. If

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01:14:13,120 --> 01:14:14,680
Speaker 1: you come to the Sore, I'll sign it. My mom

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01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:18,920
Speaker 1: calls Cutty the author, She's like I was talking earlier,

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Speaker 1: She's like, who are you guys gonna have on like

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Speaker 1: some guy who does like d SEM and then passport cutty.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know if the author Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then the book is on UM, the book at

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Speaker 1: Barnes and Noble, I Tunes, UM, Google Play, every audible

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Speaker 1: is gonna drop next week. Girls dope. Now we'll have

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Speaker 1: it out by the time show us out well Probable

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Speaker 1: code none supported black Woman. We're gonna have all of

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Speaker 1: this information in the description of this episode. Thank you, kay, guys,

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Speaker 1: and we're so happy what everybody's doing getting fingered in India.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, but every single time I get

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Speaker 1: like into a little closer to something more sexually freeing

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Speaker 1: or something, I'm like, you know, that would be so proud.

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Speaker 1: We'll start with you three strokes up. And then I'm

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Speaker 1: always you know, like if I'm on Live and somebody

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Speaker 1: saying something like that's not really in my name, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: that's what my name is it you gotta go up there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm like I don't like it. As earlier, I was like,

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Speaker 1: this is I am not Mandy, leave your asshole to

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Speaker 1: you you. You guys are on the wrong page. You

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Speaker 1: know what's funny? This girl, Um, we're saying something to

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Speaker 1: me like, oh my god, like I know you strap up,

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. And I said to her, Yeah, many,

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Speaker 1: Peggy in the ass, but I'll Peggy in the pussy

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Speaker 1: pussy And with that, you guys, enjoy a clip from

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Speaker 1: our Patreon if you want to hear more of that episode.

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Speaker 1: In the description of this thing episode, it'll be an y'all,

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Speaker 1: y'all know what to do at patreon dot com. Backslash,

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Speaker 1: how I'm going in and out of my accent so

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Speaker 1: on my drizzy taking them yet that is Canadian, bro, No,

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Speaker 1: but that's what Drake does. Back and forth. What's Canadian?

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Speaker 1: That's what you just said, mondam mondam mounting. That's what

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Speaker 1: they say in fucking Canada. I think it's not. I'm

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Speaker 1: pretty sure that they're appropriated, right, So all of Canada appropriated.

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Speaker 1: You know what? This does manage another episode which we

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Speaker 1: go we we've got to Toronto. You can talk about

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Speaker 1: him all by y'all. By conflicted. Me and my boyfriend

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01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:44,960
Speaker 1: have been on and off since two thousand and eleven.

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Speaker 1: Since two thousand, seventeen. We've been committed, we've been moved

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Speaker 1: in together. I loved him even when he's broke, super

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Speaker 1: jealous and sometimes selfish and verbally abusive. For the last

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Speaker 1: few months, sex has been spares. We haven't had consistent

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Speaker 1: sex for nine months. When we do, he doesn't even

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01:17:00,720 --> 01:17:03,360
Speaker 1: stay hard. I ask if it's me and he says no,

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Speaker 1: But I feel unwanted. He's always accusing me of cheating,

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Speaker 1: even though I've never cheated. He said that me being

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01:17:07,520 --> 01:17:09,320
Speaker 1: friends with this guy used to deal with after he

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01:17:09,439 --> 01:17:11,280
Speaker 1: broke up with me three years ago is just as

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Speaker 1: bad as cheating. Now the issue is I am now

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Speaker 1: seriously considering cheating with a different guy, and it would

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Speaker 1: require flying out. I don't want to break up, and

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01:17:18,960 --> 01:17:21,080
Speaker 1: I really think things will get better. But a bitch

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01:17:21,160 --> 01:17:23,040
Speaker 1: is horny and lonely. Should I stay loyal or get

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01:17:23,080 --> 01:17:26,439
Speaker 1: picked down? So I'll be honest with you. You know

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Speaker 1: well that too, um, But you reading this just remind

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Speaker 1: like puts me in that space of a her not

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Speaker 1: valuing herself and be her being a pick me. I

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01:17:36,680 --> 01:17:38,600
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of women will sit here and

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01:17:38,640 --> 01:17:40,640
Speaker 1: be able to name everything that's wrong with their man

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01:17:40,960 --> 01:17:43,160
Speaker 1: but they stay with their man because they genuinely feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm better than the next girl because I have

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Speaker 1: a man. So a lot of women will stay in

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01:17:47,520 --> 01:17:50,000
Speaker 1: their situations just to say I have a boyfriend, or

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01:17:50,080 --> 01:17:52,280
Speaker 1: just to feel claimed, or just to feel wanted. And

1441
01:17:52,400 --> 01:17:55,200
Speaker 1: the fact that you're with this man, you sit here

1442
01:17:55,240 --> 01:17:57,840
Speaker 1: and say, the sex isn't good, he's abusive, mentally, he

1443
01:17:57,960 --> 01:18:00,080
Speaker 1: gets jealous. You have all of these things negative to

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01:18:00,120 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 1: say about him. What is your reason for saying with him?

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01:18:02,560 --> 01:18:05,120
Speaker 1: Other than I think I think the one thing I

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01:18:05,160 --> 01:18:07,760
Speaker 1: will say instead of blaming her, because to me, that's

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01:18:07,800 --> 01:18:10,720
Speaker 1: too much of a blame game for a woman. I

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01:18:10,800 --> 01:18:13,240
Speaker 1: think a lot of times women feel like they should

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Speaker 1: stick with that person and they've already started something, so

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Speaker 1: now I've got to finish it. I remember this good

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01:18:19,360 --> 01:18:21,840
Speaker 1: time with someone, so they hold on to that. Most

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Speaker 1: people do in relationships. This is men and women. They

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01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:26,400
Speaker 1: remember these good moments and they're like, it's gonna get better,

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Speaker 1: and they get very, very hopeful, and they feel like

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Speaker 1: there's so much time invested. Two thousand and eleven, So

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Speaker 1: she's like, damn, how can I end it? Now? Y'all

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Speaker 1: stopped and then picked back up. Here's my thing with

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01:18:36,640 --> 01:18:40,040
Speaker 1: exactly what you're saying. And that entire email, did y'all

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Speaker 1: hear one thing as to why she loves him. She

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Speaker 1: didn't even go back. So any good thing that's keeping

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Speaker 1: her with him, all she listed out was everything that

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01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:51,160
Speaker 1: was bad, everything that she doesn't like, and then said,

1463
01:18:51,280 --> 01:18:53,880
Speaker 1: so I want to cheat, But loyalty to her meant

1464
01:18:53,960 --> 01:18:55,559
Speaker 1: more than anything else, which is what I think she's

1465
01:18:55,560 --> 01:18:57,240
Speaker 1: staying with him. I don't know if it's not this

1466
01:18:57,320 --> 01:19:00,000
Speaker 1: idea of loyalty, which is a lot of people feel

1467
01:19:00,120 --> 01:19:03,200
Speaker 1: like tenure. Even with bad friendships, people feel like, oh,

1468
01:19:03,600 --> 01:19:05,439
Speaker 1: we've known each other ten years, I gotta stick with

1469
01:19:05,479 --> 01:19:09,240
Speaker 1: you instead of because it doesn't necessarily mean like it's

1470
01:19:09,280 --> 01:19:10,720
Speaker 1: to say I have a way friend, but people feel

1471
01:19:10,720 --> 01:19:12,519
Speaker 1: like I've put this time in how can I let

1472
01:19:12,600 --> 01:19:15,280
Speaker 1: it go? Just like with businesses that don't work. I've

1473
01:19:15,280 --> 01:19:17,040
Speaker 1: been wrapping ten years. It ain't taken off, but I

1474
01:19:17,160 --> 01:19:19,040
Speaker 1: put ten years of work in there. It's like you

1475
01:19:19,200 --> 01:19:22,280
Speaker 1: feel like you've invested all of this fucking energy. How

1476
01:19:22,320 --> 01:19:24,479
Speaker 1: do you let go? I think that's really what it is.

1477
01:19:24,600 --> 01:19:28,639
Speaker 1: But bitch, you got right over him. Period. Because one

1478
01:19:28,680 --> 01:19:31,320
Speaker 1: of the things with the podcast, we sit here and

1479
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:36,080
Speaker 1: talk about non monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, polygamy, which y'all

1480
01:19:36,080 --> 01:19:37,600
Speaker 1: get into that because I might be getting into a

1481
01:19:37,640 --> 01:19:41,800
Speaker 1: polygamous relationship soon. Um. But um, one thing what don't

1482
01:19:41,840 --> 01:19:44,640
Speaker 1: do that? Wait seriously, but one thing that we do

1483
01:19:45,400 --> 01:19:48,720
Speaker 1: that we don't always condone or we never advise you

1484
01:19:48,960 --> 01:19:51,840
Speaker 1: is to cheat. So you writing into us saying should

1485
01:19:51,840 --> 01:19:53,559
Speaker 1: I cheat on him? You already know what we're gonna

1486
01:19:53,600 --> 01:19:55,960
Speaker 1: advise you know. I would say, break up with him,

1487
01:19:56,160 --> 01:19:58,320
Speaker 1: communicate with him all of the things that you feel

1488
01:19:58,320 --> 01:20:00,360
Speaker 1: a wrong with him, and see his response to see

1489
01:20:00,360 --> 01:20:01,920
Speaker 1: if those are things that he's willing to change in

1490
01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:04,240
Speaker 1: order for you guys to stay together. But I don't

1491
01:20:04,280 --> 01:20:07,240
Speaker 1: think that you should. Just your only option is to cheat,

1492
01:20:07,479 --> 01:20:10,519
Speaker 1: I would ask, I guess with two men in the room, Um,

1493
01:20:10,640 --> 01:20:12,760
Speaker 1: have you guys ever felt the need to stay with

1494
01:20:12,840 --> 01:20:15,720
Speaker 1: a woman who you guys, had such a long list

1495
01:20:15,760 --> 01:20:18,840
Speaker 1: of negative things about her? And if so, I like, okay,

1496
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:21,360
Speaker 1: so you're shaking your head. Why. Um? I got caught

1497
01:20:21,439 --> 01:20:23,960
Speaker 1: up in a relationship where I was really close to

1498
01:20:24,000 --> 01:20:26,680
Speaker 1: getting out and then things started happening to her like

1499
01:20:26,800 --> 01:20:31,639
Speaker 1: in her family, and I just couldn't leave her. I couldn't.

1500
01:20:31,640 --> 01:20:33,680
Speaker 1: I couldn't leave her in a bad spot. But at

1501
01:20:33,760 --> 01:20:36,000
Speaker 1: the same time, it was hard because you know, you're

1502
01:20:36,040 --> 01:20:37,960
Speaker 1: trying not to you know, you're trying not to do

1503
01:20:38,000 --> 01:20:39,800
Speaker 1: anything wrong. You don't want to do the cheating thing,

1504
01:20:39,880 --> 01:20:42,000
Speaker 1: you know. And I changed my a lot of my

1505
01:20:42,120 --> 01:20:45,439
Speaker 1: views on relationships after that into more of a like

1506
01:20:45,680 --> 01:20:49,960
Speaker 1: open and like a conversational about how monogamy works and

1507
01:20:50,000 --> 01:20:51,160
Speaker 1: whether or not we're going to do it at all.

1508
01:20:51,439 --> 01:20:54,800
Speaker 1: I always started entering into relationships like that afterwards. But

1509
01:20:55,960 --> 01:20:57,840
Speaker 1: I was basically like, you can't be that dude. You

1510
01:20:57,880 --> 01:21:00,320
Speaker 1: can't like just abandon someone when they really desperately needs you.

1511
01:21:00,360 --> 01:21:03,000
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. In this person's case, I

1512
01:21:03,000 --> 01:21:05,680
Speaker 1: would say, the big thing that's missing is the communication

1513
01:21:05,720 --> 01:21:07,559
Speaker 1: side of it, Like if she can communicate what her

1514
01:21:07,640 --> 01:21:10,200
Speaker 1: needs are and get that information back or at least

1515
01:21:10,200 --> 01:21:12,559
Speaker 1: where he can meet her, and what's going on with him,

1516
01:21:12,560 --> 01:21:16,240
Speaker 1: why he's not responding to her sexually. Sounds like old boy. Probably, Yeah,

1517
01:21:16,320 --> 01:21:21,920
Speaker 1: that's from the beginning. If you at all that accusatory

1518
01:21:22,160 --> 01:21:24,880
Speaker 1: and they are you cheating on the space, it's probably

1519
01:21:24,960 --> 01:21:27,000
Speaker 1: coming from a space that he's not secure about. On

1520
01:21:27,080 --> 01:21:28,880
Speaker 1: that same side, So he's already doing some ship that

1521
01:21:29,160 --> 01:21:33,080
Speaker 1: he probably shouldn't have been doing. Wait, so if a

1522
01:21:33,200 --> 01:21:37,559
Speaker 1: man is constantly accusing a woman of possibly stepping out

1523
01:21:38,080 --> 01:21:40,479
Speaker 1: or saying that, you know, I feel like you're doing X,

1524
01:21:40,640 --> 01:21:43,519
Speaker 1: Y and Z on the side, is it a kind

1525
01:21:43,560 --> 01:21:46,960
Speaker 1: of self inflicted like guilt that like everything that they

1526
01:21:47,000 --> 01:21:49,040
Speaker 1: know that they're doing something wrong, it reminds you. So,

1527
01:21:49,240 --> 01:21:51,360
Speaker 1: you know how like if you're thinking about buying a car,

1528
01:21:51,479 --> 01:21:53,320
Speaker 1: you see that car all the time. Something's put in

1529
01:21:53,360 --> 01:21:55,720
Speaker 1: your mind, right, so you think about all those moments

1530
01:21:55,760 --> 01:21:57,320
Speaker 1: when you snuck off and got a little pussy, you know,

1531
01:21:57,640 --> 01:21:59,560
Speaker 1: all those times when you made in your day to

1532
01:21:59,640 --> 01:22:01,600
Speaker 1: go do something. So you're like, damn, how do I

1533
01:22:01,720 --> 01:22:03,640
Speaker 1: know she's really at the store Because I wasn't at

1534
01:22:03,640 --> 01:22:09,479
Speaker 1: the store, right, you know she's right now. I don't

1535
01:22:09,800 --> 01:22:12,800
Speaker 1: like even I'm telling myself of this on Patreon only

1536
01:22:12,800 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 1: a little bits of people like I made a whole

1537
01:22:14,479 --> 01:22:18,280
Speaker 1: I made a whole snapchat, like in my bed alone

1538
01:22:18,560 --> 01:22:21,280
Speaker 1: going to bed. Oh nigga was on his way and

1539
01:22:21,400 --> 01:22:25,200
Speaker 1: so like no, it realized, so like I've been that

1540
01:22:25,320 --> 01:22:28,000
Speaker 1: person too, or like I've been right beside a nigga

1541
01:22:28,040 --> 01:22:30,120
Speaker 1: whose FaceTime is bitch like, yeah, man, I'm about to

1542
01:22:30,120 --> 01:22:31,400
Speaker 1: go to sleep and he's been in bed and I've

1543
01:22:31,400 --> 01:22:39,960
Speaker 1: been quiet laying right next to him. Okay, what you're doing?

1544
01:22:44,240 --> 01:22:51,040
Speaker 1: Just yeah, that sh it kills me. But you don't know,

1545
01:22:52,200 --> 01:22:57,560
Speaker 1: you don't know, like you don't know you but you

1546
01:22:57,840 --> 01:23:01,479
Speaker 1: don't know do that for you? Since we have this show? No,

1547
01:23:01,640 --> 01:23:04,600
Speaker 1: not since we've had the show. But no, no, no, no,

1548
01:23:04,840 --> 01:23:07,680
Speaker 1: actually I'm not even know what no, what what the

1549
01:23:07,800 --> 01:23:10,760
Speaker 1: nigga that I'm thinking of being in a polygamous relationship with.

1550
01:23:11,160 --> 01:23:12,639
Speaker 1: I had to work the next day, so I fell

1551
01:23:12,680 --> 01:23:15,120
Speaker 1: asleep and yeah, he was talking to So he has

1552
01:23:15,160 --> 01:23:18,680
Speaker 1: a wife and a girlfriend and I'm now they do

1553
01:23:18,920 --> 01:23:23,240
Speaker 1: yes and no no, no, no, no, no no. It

1554
01:23:23,400 --> 01:23:26,360
Speaker 1: was it was a situation where, um, so he's been

1555
01:23:26,400 --> 01:23:29,240
Speaker 1: married for quite some time, but he's had a girlfriend

1556
01:23:29,320 --> 01:23:31,639
Speaker 1: for a while and loves her, and he finally felt

1557
01:23:31,840 --> 01:23:33,720
Speaker 1: the need to come out to his wife and say, hey,

1558
01:23:33,880 --> 01:23:35,439
Speaker 1: I love this girl. She's not going anywhere. This is

1559
01:23:35,520 --> 01:23:37,519
Speaker 1: my girlfriend. And the wife didn't leave the house for

1560
01:23:37,800 --> 01:23:39,880
Speaker 1: a couple of months. She just came back and she's

1561
01:23:39,880 --> 01:23:43,599
Speaker 1: now accepting of it, and so like she also knows

1562
01:23:43,600 --> 01:23:46,280
Speaker 1: about me and like he's like, I'm polygamous. This is

1563
01:23:46,360 --> 01:23:49,600
Speaker 1: my thing, Like this is me and she's give. So

1564
01:23:49,880 --> 01:23:53,840
Speaker 1: he's married. He's married, but he has he has wife,

1565
01:23:53,880 --> 01:23:56,600
Speaker 1: he has a girlfriend. Well, in the United States of

1566
01:23:56,640 --> 01:23:59,120
Speaker 1: America is just not possible. You can't marry multiple people.

1567
01:23:59,360 --> 01:24:01,599
Speaker 1: So he's an relationship with this wife that's who he's

1568
01:24:01,680 --> 01:24:06,120
Speaker 1: legally bonded to. The girlfriend is like the women that

1569
01:24:06,200 --> 01:24:08,639
Speaker 1: he's with cannot be with anyone. But he also provides

1570
01:24:08,720 --> 01:24:11,640
Speaker 1: for all of them. So the girlfriend, he pays for

1571
01:24:11,760 --> 01:24:13,560
Speaker 1: the house, he pays for her business, he pays for

1572
01:24:13,600 --> 01:24:16,240
Speaker 1: her schooling, he has her a car, he takes care

1573
01:24:16,280 --> 01:24:18,240
Speaker 1: of her. And so even that's kind of the thing

1574
01:24:18,320 --> 01:24:21,080
Speaker 1: with me, Like so we're talking and he's like, just

1575
01:24:21,200 --> 01:24:23,880
Speaker 1: so you know, like you can't funk know other niggas.

1576
01:24:24,080 --> 01:24:26,120
Speaker 1: But he's like, just no, you also will go you

1577
01:24:26,160 --> 01:24:28,639
Speaker 1: won't go without like I take care of my women.

1578
01:24:28,960 --> 01:24:31,439
Speaker 1: So it's like one of those things where yeah, it's

1579
01:24:31,479 --> 01:24:33,840
Speaker 1: a power struggle thing. I'm sure it is like for him,

1580
01:24:33,880 --> 01:24:36,040
Speaker 1: but I mean he also feels like if he's providing

1581
01:24:36,080 --> 01:24:38,679
Speaker 1: for everyone and he's dicking it down, which he does

1582
01:24:39,040 --> 01:24:41,439
Speaker 1: dick down, He's just like, I don't want you being

1583
01:24:41,479 --> 01:24:45,320
Speaker 1: around another man. I don't want you to have another man.