Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of the Overcomfort Podcast. I
Speaker 1: am your host, Jennica Lopez. Thank you guys so much
Speaker 1: for choosing to listen to this episode today. I'm so
Speaker 1: excited because I wanted to talk about building your self
Speaker 1: confidence and always having power in a room. And what
Speaker 1: I mean by that is, when you walk in a room,
Speaker 1: you want I don't want to say you want to
Speaker 1: be the center of attention, but you kind of want
Speaker 1: people to be like, oh yeah, something's a little different,
Speaker 1: something's a little interesting. Eyes on you and people don't
Speaker 1: know like you're attracting a lot more. But overall, let's
Speaker 1: talk about building your confidence. As somebody that has, oh
Speaker 1: my goodness, has struggled with her weight most of her life.
Speaker 1: I've always been chunky, and I've always you know, it's
Speaker 1: not about physical but I kind of want to give
Speaker 1: some context. This is my personal experience. It may not
Speaker 1: be the same for everybody, but in my personal experience
Speaker 1: where I have lost confidence, where I feel like I
Speaker 1: was very had very low self esteem, are times where
Speaker 1: I was very, very chunky. Obviously, I've been drunking my
Speaker 1: whole life. Getting compared to my sisters, I feel like
Speaker 1: I've said that before. Yeah, where I've just I have
Speaker 1: a hard time, you know, being in comparison. And also
Speaker 1: I think with the type of mother that I have,
Speaker 1: who she is, and with the and the family I'm
Speaker 1: surrounded by, and being just growing up in the spotlight,
Speaker 1: I feel like my confidence was very dimmed and very low.
Speaker 1: I felt like I was constantly judged and looked at
Speaker 1: and I had to be a certain way and all
Speaker 1: these comments and social media and obviously this is my
Speaker 1: profession and what I do, and you know, also you know,
Speaker 1: talking about constructive criticism on our first episode of this season,
Speaker 1: Like this is a journey that I'm constantly learning and
Speaker 1: realizing as I get older, and I feel like everybody
Speaker 1: is in a shift, you know. I feel like the
Speaker 1: world is in a different shift. And I feel like
Speaker 1: this generation, like my age if you guys are my age,
Speaker 1: twenty seven, twenty six, twenty five, you know, around those
Speaker 1: around my age range, like I feel like everyone's kind
Speaker 1: of figuring out what they're doing, because you know, the
Speaker 1: thirties start coming and you start questioning like, Okay, what
Speaker 1: am I doing? Like who am I? Like? You know,
Speaker 1: and that's normal at least for me. I've had friends
Speaker 1: that are you know, are in the same page as
Speaker 1: me or whatever. But I recently feel like I've been
Speaker 1: way more confident about myself and who I am as
Speaker 1: a person. And I think that's where it all begins.
Speaker 1: In order to feel confident, you have to feel good
Speaker 1: with who you are on the inside, your morals, your values,
Speaker 1: what you believe in, how you're doing mentally emotionally. Confidence
Speaker 1: starts there, and obviously that's hard because it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm Christian, these are my beliefs. Okay, I'm secure in that.
Speaker 1: Emotionally okay, great, I'm happy, and it might be hard
Speaker 1: to get there, and I think those are the baby
Speaker 1: steps that you have to start taking in order to
Speaker 1: build up your confidence. Okay, cool, you've already got that
Speaker 1: on lock. Physical, I mean mental, emotional, and having a
Speaker 1: firm foundation in your beliefs, in your heart and who
Speaker 1: you are. You focus on your strength and your accomplishments. Next,
Speaker 1: don't focus on your weakness is what you're not good at.
Speaker 1: Focus on This is kind of like a see the
Speaker 1: glass half fool. I think that's what it is, Yes,
Speaker 1: half fool type of scenario where it's like you got
Speaker 1: to see the good in things. You got to see
Speaker 1: the good in yourself before you can exert that. And
Speaker 1: the whole point and purpose is to start feeling good
Speaker 1: on the inside. You start practicing positive talk. You have
Speaker 1: to motivate yourself. If no one else is motivating you,
Speaker 1: you got to be your main motivator, guiding you and
Speaker 1: leading you. And then from there you surround yourself with
Speaker 1: good and supportive people. You know, you can't be surrounded
Speaker 1: with people that are just bashing you, talking shit on you,
Speaker 1: or that just see the negative things in you, or
Speaker 1: always have a comment or an opinion or some type
Speaker 1: of nothing. You know, you guys are probably understanding what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, but you just it's best to stay away
Speaker 1: from those people because, yeah, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: it is just going to be. You can't let them
Speaker 1: dim your light. You can't let people just go ahead
Speaker 1: and boss you around and just because they don't like
Speaker 1: something whatever. No, you have to be so secure and
Speaker 1: so set and positive in who you are as a
Speaker 1: person that nothing else matters. You know, you've worked so
Speaker 1: hard to get to this point. I've worked so hard
Speaker 1: to get to this point. When I'm in my confidence,
Speaker 1: like I feel like, I'm not taking anything. If you
Speaker 1: don't like the way I talk, Okay, you have a
Speaker 1: comment to say about me, Okay, you don't like what
Speaker 1: I believe in, you don't like what I say? Okay,
Speaker 1: I like who I am. I know who I am
Speaker 1: when I walk into a room. I am no longer
Speaker 1: scared of what people have to say about me, or
Speaker 1: about what they think about me or you know, I'm secure.
Speaker 1: I feel good about myself. And then it goes to
Speaker 1: what you are. What you feel on the insight is
Speaker 1: also what you attract. You know, if you're feeling confident,
Speaker 1: you're going to attract confident, welcoming people a boyfriend or
Speaker 1: the husband, whatever, Like you attract those type of people.
Speaker 1: You I start just kind of wandering and going to
Speaker 1: other greater places. Like when you start feeling confident, you
Speaker 1: start seeing better things, you start seeing positive You're like,
Speaker 1: I want to go here next, I want to go
Speaker 1: do this. I'm gonna get this job, I'm going to
Speaker 1: buy this car, I'm going to set this goal, et cetera,
Speaker 1: et cetera. Like when you start really just seeing how
Speaker 1: confidence plays out in your life, you be kind of
Speaker 1: become obss Like it just it feels good. And it's
Speaker 1: not like an ego boost. It's not about anything. It's
Speaker 1: just like, I'm humble enough to know that I look good.
Speaker 1: I feel good inside my heart, my body. I'm very content,
Speaker 1: you know what. I feel like. You're not a good
Speaker 1: person if you don't have a good heart. My sister
Speaker 1: always told me this too. Like you, you're not a
Speaker 1: pretty person if you don't have if your heart is ugly.
Speaker 1: It all stems from the inside. Take care of yourself
Speaker 1: on the inside and that's what you show and that's
Speaker 1: who you are on the outside. Okay, you guys, we're
Speaker 1: gonna go on a quick break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 1: Welcome back, you guys. Okay, let's get into it. We're
Speaker 1: gonna keep talking about confidence and here are some tips,
Speaker 1: some huge takeaways. Right. I think definitely Number one for
Speaker 1: me is social media can definitely kill your confidence. It
Speaker 1: is not a pretty place. The world is. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry it sounds it just it is. The world
Speaker 1: is not a pretty place. And it makes me sad.
Speaker 1: A lot of people. No matter how many times you
Speaker 1: tell people it doesn't kill you to be kind, it
Speaker 1: kills them to be kind because there's always going to
Speaker 1: be comments and people hating on you. And I think
Speaker 1: that that is also part of confidence, that you have
Speaker 1: to be okay with not everybody liking you. That is
Speaker 1: a huge part. That is like something at least for me,
Speaker 1: it's like, okay, I know confidently, like you know what,
Speaker 1: I may not be everybody's favorite person, but I love me.
Speaker 1: I love who I am, I love what I stand for,
Speaker 1: and so that's point number two. Tip number three this
Speaker 1: is definitely for more of my ladies. I'm because obviously
Speaker 1: I'm a lady. I'm speaking as a lady. Taking care
Speaker 1: of yourself. Girls, we already know got to get our
Speaker 1: hair done, obviously if it's in your financial means, but
Speaker 1: if it's not, like there's ways of making it work,
Speaker 1: as a taking care of yourself, getting your petticares, getting
Speaker 1: your nails done, doing your hair, getting wax, do you
Speaker 1: you know, taking care of yourself at least for me
Speaker 1: as a lady, or like making sure I smell good, etc.
Speaker 1: Having good hygiene first of all is huge, and I
Speaker 1: feel like it's like okay when you check those things
Speaker 1: off in your head mentally, like okay, this is you know,
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good. I took care of myself. You
Speaker 1: walk into a room better for sure, obviously exercising taking
Speaker 1: care of your health, like trust me. And I hate
Speaker 1: to be that girl. I would always like, you know,
Speaker 1: talk shit about girls like wearing full glam to the gym.
Speaker 1: But now I'm not wearing full GLAMs to the gym.
Speaker 1: But I do like putting on a little concealer, putting
Speaker 1: on a little blush and must care and that's it.
Speaker 1: Call it a day, like and I feel different, and
Speaker 1: I honestly I follow. I think her name is Whitney
Speaker 1: Simmons on TikTok and she is a trainer and she's
Speaker 1: like you, she gets ready for the gym every day
Speaker 1: and it's you know, I used to be like, okay,
Speaker 1: that's a lot of time. I'd rather just get to
Speaker 1: the gym. But no, honestly, I've tried it once and
Speaker 1: I would. She really inspired me. It's like it really
Speaker 1: changes you work out better, like you just feel better.
Speaker 1: And I know it sounds ridiculous, but girls try it
Speaker 1: at least once. Try it out. See you know if
Speaker 1: you like it or not. But I do. I like it.
Speaker 1: I was like, let me do my skin care. I
Speaker 1: can Sailer're my pleasure. That's it, and I feel really cute. Anyways,
Speaker 1: you walk in, you feel confident. Take care of yourself,
Speaker 1: take care of your body. Exercise, don't only exercise the outside,
Speaker 1: but definitely exercise the inside your heart and your mind.
Speaker 1: Where are you feeding it? Are you have a spiritual foundation?
Speaker 1: Are you going to church? Are you surrounded by toxic behavior?
Speaker 1: Are your boundary set? Did you pray today? Have you
Speaker 1: rested well? Have you drink water? Those are all little
Speaker 1: details and things that make a huge impact when you
Speaker 1: are on the road to self confidence and looking for better. Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys, We're gonna go in a quick break and
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Welcome back, you guys. These are
Speaker 1: all things that I love and know and practice as
Speaker 1: well in my personal daily life. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: give advice where I don't what I don't truly believe in.
Speaker 1: And this is something I do believe in and definitely
Speaker 1: have learned and grown from. And I again, we're all
Speaker 1: learning as we grow. Right now, in the space of confidence,
Speaker 1: I know that I do not care what people think
Speaker 1: about me anymore, what they say about my body, what
Speaker 1: they say about what I do et cetera. And I
Speaker 1: love that about my life. I love that I can
Speaker 1: walk freely knowing that I'm confident in myself and what
Speaker 1: I believe in, and I do not care what my
Speaker 1: family says. I do not engage, and you know, I
Speaker 1: know where I belong and it's super important to know that.
Speaker 1: And I think another thing is I'll get it, and
Speaker 1: this end it on this humble yourself, check yourself, remind
Speaker 1: yourself every day. You know, is my heart good? Is
Speaker 1: my mind good? Where am I? You know? Having confidence
Speaker 1: also brings you know, you get on a little high horse.
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta come down. You got to be humble.
Speaker 1: You're not you know, I'm not saying like money and
Speaker 1: all this stuff. There's people you know that are in
Speaker 1: a high horse in that sense. But also you know,
Speaker 1: you got to align yourself and know that maybe some
Speaker 1: people aren't on the same page as you. And it's
Speaker 1: good to have those healthy conversations and to address things
Speaker 1: and help people also like be on the same path
Speaker 1: as you. A lot of people may not understand like
Speaker 1: some choices or decisions, and obviously, like for example, if
Speaker 1: you set boundaries, a lot of people won't like it.
Speaker 1: And that is definitely okay, you know, but you have
Speaker 1: to respect everybody as well. You have to know that
Speaker 1: you're not the only person there's you know, relationships aren't easy,
Speaker 1: so it's like having boundaries and understanding each other and
Speaker 1: still growing together. And yeah, that's pretty much you guys.
Speaker 1: I know, today was a short one. I love doing
Speaker 1: these little audio ones because I feel like they're like
Speaker 1: my little personal diaries and I can just talk and vent.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I just I felt it on my heart
Speaker 1: that maybe, you know, somebody needed a word of confidence today,
Speaker 1: and I want to let you guys know that I
Speaker 1: believe in you. I'm with you, guys. We are in
Speaker 1: this together. I believe in every single person that's listening
Speaker 1: or watching this episode today. You got this. You're gonna
Speaker 1: get out of that dark hole. You're gonna get out
Speaker 1: of that mess, and you're gonna walk and be free.
Speaker 1: You're wonderfully and beautifully and fearfully made. And know that
Speaker 1: I love you and the world loves you. And always
Speaker 1: remember to be kind to one another. Make sure you
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