1 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: What's up this way up with Angela here? And look 2 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: who's in the building. Q Parker's here. 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 2: How you feeling? 4 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:08,959 Speaker 3: And well, how are you? 5 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 2: How good? 6 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,040 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining me, and congratulations on 7 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: a new project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one. 8 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:16,639 Speaker 2: And this is part of a trilogy. 9 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, it's not necessarily a trilogy. It's just a 10 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 3: volume series. Okay, this first one is volume one, and 11 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 3: I plan on being in this romance arena for a while, 12 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 3: and so you may get four or five. 13 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 2: Oh okay, I thought you were planning three, but you 14 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 2: don't know yet. 15 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 3: We're just gonna go until I feel like I've explained 16 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,199 Speaker 3: thoroughly the levels of romance. 17 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:36,839 Speaker 2: Has your evolution been? 18 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 3: So my evolution. You know, I started in this game 19 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 3: as a teenager, and so I've evolved as a man. 20 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,879 Speaker 3: I've evolved as a musician. I've grown in a lot 21 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 3: of areas, and so I write about all of those, 22 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 3: those those journeys. But then also romance has also evolved. 23 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 3: Romance looked different in the eighties than it does than 24 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 3: it did in the nineties and so forth, and so 25 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 3: marrying those two words to get other the evolution of 26 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 3: Q Parker and the evolution of romance. I thought it 27 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 3: was just so fitting to bring some romance back into 28 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 3: the to the markets. 29 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: You think romance is different for like we define romance 30 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: differently men and women. 31 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:15,200 Speaker 3: I don't know if we define it differently. I just 32 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: think we're always seeking it. I think it's a component 33 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 3: that relationships need, and they're yearning for. Romance. To me, 34 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 3: is it's the cording, it's the dating, it's the it's 35 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,759 Speaker 3: the little nothing text that you get in the middle 36 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 3: of the day. It is that that head rub, it's 37 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 3: that that note else, it's all of that. No no, no, no, no, 38 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 3: I'm saying, it's just those those little subtleties, uh, that 39 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,119 Speaker 3: usher in love. 40 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 2: And it's just it's so different now. 41 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 3: It is it is. And so my version of the 42 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 3: evolution of romance is to just kind of bring back 43 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 3: those foundational principles of what dating used to feel like. 44 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 3: And you know, I grew up watching the soap operas, 45 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 3: and so I write from a relational type of angle, 46 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 3: but also I leaned into what I used to watch 47 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 3: as a teenager, the soap operas, when it was all 48 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 3: about affection, love, kissing and holding and everything was soft 49 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 3: and gentle and you know that's what we signed up 50 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 3: for as male R and B artists. 51 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:18,119 Speaker 2: But also a lot of drama and those soap operas too. 52 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 3: I leave that part out, but again those called for 53 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 3: some good songs too. 54 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 1: Now you're right, what do you think do you think 55 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: you were always? Since you grew up watching soap operas? Right, 56 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: and you got in this business as a teenager, and 57 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: I have to imagine that you saw a lot of 58 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 1: things and even just the way that women reacted to you. 59 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 2: So were you always? 60 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:41,399 Speaker 1: Do you feel like, even back then you still were 61 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: a gentleman? Or do you think that's something you want 62 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: to grow into? Nah? 63 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 3: I mean the way that I was raised. I grew 64 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 3: up in a mother father household, and so I saw 65 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,519 Speaker 3: my dad be a gentleman to my mom every day. 66 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 3: My man, my father is a he's a he's small 67 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 3: and statue, but he's so huge. My dad is about 68 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,119 Speaker 3: five four and so, but I saw him every day 69 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 3: just where the role of manhood and fatherhood and so 70 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 3: he was always gentle with my mom. And so we 71 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 3: as children, we portray what we see. And so for me, 72 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 3: when I got into dating, I was always a gentleman. 73 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 3: I always believed in chivalry and charm and all of 74 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 3: those delicate components of what manhood is. 75 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 1: Also, you've also been married for twenty three years. I 76 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 1: have to assume that you're doing something right. 77 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, And I got a real one man who 78 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 3: has grown with me, Charlotte de Parker. Man, she's grown me. 79 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 3: She exercised a lot of patients so that we could 80 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 3: get to these twenty three years, you know, getting married 81 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 3: at twenty five, I was twenty six years old, the 82 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 3: height of one twelve, the peak of our records in 83 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 3: our career. Yeah. She had to be understanding and exercise 84 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 3: some patience, and so we don't get here without her 85 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 3: being able to exercise those things. 86 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 2: What is your love story with Charltte de Parker. 87 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, my love story is my best friend is Wingo. 88 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 3: One of my best friend is Wingo from Jagged Edge. 89 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 3: And so one particular day back in ninety eight or 90 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 3: ninety nine, I did my regular yo where you at? 91 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 3: He said, Yo, I met this The ken Bai Matombo 92 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 3: had this this spa in Buckhead, and my wife and 93 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 3: her twin sister they managed the nails and the facials 94 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 3: and all that division of the of the location. And 95 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,280 Speaker 3: so Wingo was actually there and he's like, yo, pull 96 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 3: up on me. I pulled up. Charlotte ended up doing 97 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 3: my nails and the story began. 98 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 2: Wow I started from that, Yeah. 99 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 3: The story began. 100 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 2: So you immediately was it like an immediate chemistry. 101 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 3: Or kind of I wonst I knew that something was there, 102 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 3: so to the point where I would and we laugh 103 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 3: about this still to this day, I would like intentionally 104 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 3: mess up my nails just so that I could get 105 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 3: another appointment on her book, like two days later. But 106 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 3: I just think from those occurrences, we started to develop 107 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 3: a liking to each other, and we just kept it 108 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:05,280 Speaker 3: kind of under wraps for about maybe twelve thirteen months 109 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 3: or so until we finally just like, all right, we 110 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 3: can let people know that we're actually dating. And then 111 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 3: we got married after two years. 112 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 2: Wow, that's quick. 113 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I propose after two years. 114 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, you knew it. 115 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: You know, there's so much pressure, I think in this industry, 116 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: especially in the position that you were in, like you said, it. 117 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 2: Was prime time. 118 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: You're an R and B singer, and sometimes they don't 119 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: want you to seem like you're in a relationship or 120 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: sure yeah, or not even married. 121 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 3: You know. You know it, as they say, don't spoil 122 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 3: the fantasy. Yeah, knowing that you are in a relationship, 123 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:37,839 Speaker 3: but you had to it was told to say that 124 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 3: we all single and we're all looking and because of 125 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 3: course the records were portraying that we're all these single individuals. 126 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 3: But I do believe the best way to be an 127 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 3: artist is really be authentic. And we did what we 128 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 3: thought was the best during that time. But I can 129 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,160 Speaker 3: look at a lot, I can look back at some 130 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 3: of those ways we did things, and I'm totally the opposite. 131 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 3: And even as i'm developed artists today, my advice to 132 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 3: them is just be you, be authentically you, and if 133 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 3: some people don't don't like it or can't get with 134 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 3: it, it's all good. It's like billions of people out here. 135 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 3: Everybody ain't gotta like you, but those who want to 136 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 3: rock with me, I'm cool with y'all exactly. 137 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, you do these summer camps also for 138 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: the youth, where you are trying to teach them all 139 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: about this business and things that you actually had to 140 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: learn along the way to what inspired you to decide 141 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: to do that. 142 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 3: Well, so when I look at the next generation, I 143 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 3: want to do my part and making sure that they 144 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,360 Speaker 3: have all the tools to be able to have a 145 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:42,280 Speaker 3: career and that's the key word, or career, and don't 146 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 3: treat this industry as a one off something I can 147 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 3: just do over here, then I got three more things 148 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 3: over here to do, but really have the expectancy of 149 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 3: it being a career. And because I started this game 150 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:57,040 Speaker 3: as a teenager, I entered not fully knowing the business side. 151 00:06:57,440 --> 00:06:59,719 Speaker 3: And the reality is everybody's not going to sign a 152 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:01,720 Speaker 3: record deal, and so if you're going to be an artist, 153 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:04,280 Speaker 3: you're going to have to be an independent artist. But 154 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 3: as an independent artist, you need to really know how 155 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 3: to navigate properly. And so my summer camp is designed 156 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 3: to do not only nurture their gifts and make sure 157 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 3: that they become great at their talent, but also giving 158 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 3: them the terminology of understanding contracts and how to pick 159 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 3: a manager, and understanding licensing and royalties and publishing and 160 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 3: copyright and all of those things so that as an 161 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 3: independent artist, you will know what's going on in your business. 162 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, independent is a wave right now too, because back 163 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: then when you started, it wasn't really no independent route 164 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 1: that you could go. But now there's so many more 165 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: options to go more straight to the consumer where you 166 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: can just have distribution. But that's also confusing for people too. 167 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 3: I mean, if you don't know, you don't know. And 168 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 3: so even what's crazy, sis is I have been in 169 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 3: this game. Next year it be thirty years, and the 170 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 3: first twenty of my twenty years of my career, I 171 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 3: was signed to a major, and so there was some 172 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 3: components of the game that I didn't even I wasn't 173 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 3: aware of, I'll put it that way. And so as 174 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 3: I started my independent journey in twenty twelve and then 175 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 3: which was partially independent, but then now present day as 176 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 3: a fully independent artist, I'm now even discovering things and 177 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 3: I'm like, ah, so that's how that went down. Oh really, 178 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 3: when we were doing all that, that was what was happening. 179 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 3: And so as I'm learning more, I'm passing it on 180 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 3: to the next generation because they're going to enter the 181 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 3: game as an independent artist. And so what I get, 182 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 3: whether it's lessons of success failure, it's my job to 183 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 3: pass it on to this next generation. 184 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 1: Yeah no, because you don't want people to it's more 185 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 1: like a learn from my mistakes type of thing exactly. 186 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: And I so one of the things you talk about 187 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 1: at sunset clause is, Yeah, everybody needs to know about that. 188 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 3: I mean, just any being able to navigate a contract 189 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 3: is just so important because that contract is binding, and 190 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 3: once you sign it and your signature on it, you 191 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 3: have to you just got to go to the end 192 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 3: of it. And it may not be in your best benefit. 193 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 3: You may have signed a way. You're publishing your royalties, 194 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 3: which is your legacy. And we're getting into this game 195 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 3: so that our grandchildren's children's children's children can be proud 196 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 3: of what they og did right. And the only way 197 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 3: you can do that and get that is through ownership. 198 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 3: And so again, the primary objective of what I do 199 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 3: with my foundation is teaching the importance of ownership. 200 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: How do you feel about signing to a major label again? 201 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 1: Is it something I. 202 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 2: Know some people would say it was the right situation. 203 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,839 Speaker 1: But now that you've gone the independent route, you've you've 204 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: been educated through life and through teaching yourself, what do 205 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: you think about it? 206 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 3: I enjoy the independence, I really do. I enjoy I 207 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 3: enjoy it because what's funny is nowadays through independence, your 208 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 3: small team really is label services. So you can all 209 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 3: accart somebody to just do marketing and promotions. You can 210 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 3: hire an expert to do pr hire somebody to do 211 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 3: social media. So even in my independence, I could still 212 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,839 Speaker 3: contract these independent providers. 213 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 2: AI you can. 214 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:14,319 Speaker 3: Do that, but yeah, you can do that too. However, 215 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 3: I still believe in I still believe in people, which 216 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 3: is why, you know, part of my independent journey is 217 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 3: getting in the car and we ride Azeema and I 218 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:28,199 Speaker 3: we're riding up and down the highways doing in studio interviews. 219 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 3: Like I get calling in and the phones and all 220 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 3: of that. But I like this right here, this is 221 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:34,719 Speaker 3: how I was raised. I want you not only to 222 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 3: feel my music, but I want you to get a 223 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 3: sense of who I am. So when you're playing my songs, 224 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 3: there's another real component to it, and not that you 225 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 3: would just service the record. They're like, YO, play this song, 226 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 3: yeah anymore, that's my guy, Q Parker. He came here. 227 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 3: We had a great conversation, and I like his song too. 228 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, no, f ff, let's talk about that because 229 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: that's a song. 230 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 3: Yeah you like that song. I do why you like 231 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 3: that song? 232 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 2: I like anything that is ron to the point. 233 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: Yeah you know, and I know you're gonna come do 234 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: the podcast lip service or something. Yeah, but it also 235 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: I think has a deeper meaning than what is on 236 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: the surface too, And actually I can appreciate that as well. 237 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. So Triple Left was created because I feel like 238 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 3: I am a deliverer of I'm a messenger and when 239 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 3: I create, I want to be the voice for men. 240 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 3: But I also want to be the voice for women. 241 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,559 Speaker 3: And so a lot of my career has been taking 242 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:32,439 Speaker 3: the vantage point of what women want from men. So fellas, 243 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 3: we need to do this. Make sure guys you're doing this. 244 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 2: Two women went from men. I want to know a 245 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 2: couple of things. 246 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:40,240 Speaker 3: Well, I think women want presence, they want security, they 247 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 3: want provision, they want to be the one, they want 248 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:47,839 Speaker 3: to be seen, they want to be heard, and they 249 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 3: want to be dealt with gently, right, with soft hands 250 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 3: and soft words, charm, charisma like all of that. Right. 251 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:58,559 Speaker 3: I'm a romance dealer, so I'm really connected to all 252 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 3: of these things. Right, I've been married twenty three years, 253 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 3: so I know these things. And so part of my 254 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 3: career has been providing information to men what women want. 255 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 3: And rarely is there a forum where women have to 256 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 3: sit down and just listen to the heart of a man, right, 257 00:12:16,520 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 3: We're in a relationship, right, which goes both ways. We 258 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 3: give and take, we sacrifice. We give. If I really 259 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 3: love you, I'm willing to give you whatever you want. 260 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 3: If you love me, you should be willing to give 261 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 3: me what I want. And so rarely is there a 262 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 3: conversation where men get to just speak authentically on some 263 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 3: of the things we want from women. And I wanted 264 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: to highlight three of those things. And so the song 265 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 3: triple F it is Yo, do you curse on this? Okay? 266 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 3: So the song is triple F is fucked me, feed me, 267 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 3: and be my fan. And when you listen to the song, 268 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:51,079 Speaker 3: it describes what this means. Obviously, every man wants intimacy. 269 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:53,720 Speaker 3: We can't live without it, so we have to be 270 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 3: We have to have that. That's one of the reasons 271 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 3: why we was here to create, pro create? How you 272 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 3: pro create? 273 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 1: I gotta say, when people, because you've been married for 274 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:06,680 Speaker 1: so long, right, And is there ever like dry spells where. 275 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:10,520 Speaker 3: Nah, you have It's like rhythm. You have your rhythm right, 276 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:14,199 Speaker 3: and when you understand your rhythm, it ain't necessarily classified 277 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 3: as a dry spell or a hot season or whatever 278 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 3: because you understand your rhythm. And so The first f 279 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,839 Speaker 3: is we can't live without it. We men need intimacy. 280 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 3: Feed me. Yeah, I want you to be able to 281 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:30,319 Speaker 3: cook and feed my stomach, but the more important piece 282 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:33,200 Speaker 3: of that feed is feeding my soul. Men need we 283 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 3: need our souls fed. And then the last one is 284 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 3: be my fans, support me, affirm me. Yeah, you got 285 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 3: it bad go yo, go kill it. Man, great job. 286 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 3: And so then it finishes and said, when women master 287 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,199 Speaker 3: these things, men will give you anything you want. 288 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that's important. 289 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:52,800 Speaker 1: And I want to say that the position that you're 290 00:13:52,840 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: into because like you said, when you met her, you 291 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:58,080 Speaker 1: were at kind of the height, and there's ups and downs, 292 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 1: and there's times that you're disappointed and how things turned out. 293 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: There's times that you got to figure out a different 294 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:05,920 Speaker 1: way to move forward. And you need somebody that's going 295 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: to be good and supportive through. 296 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 3: Outderstanding and patience and all of those things. And you know, 297 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:17,599 Speaker 3: just for just for a period in the relationship, have 298 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 3: the man. That's the top line. You know, a lot 299 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 3: of times what the women needs needs are is what 300 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 3: is the driver on how we're able to sustain this relationship, 301 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 3: and men sometimes need, Like I should tell my wife 302 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 3: what you want from me, I want the same thing 303 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 3: from you, and what you need from me, I need 304 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 3: the same thing. So if you want that text in 305 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 3: the middle of the day, that's just like when thinking 306 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 3: about you, I need that text too. 307 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, Because sometimes I also feel like sometimes men try 308 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 1: really hard to act like they don't need certain things. 309 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the post fake Yeah. 310 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 1: And try to seem like they want to be the 311 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 1: ones that's always providing and doing these things for you. 312 00:14:58,200 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: And a lot of times women don't do that for 313 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: men too in a way. I mean, it's a lot 314 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: of games people play too, like they're waiting to see 315 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 1: who's going to text you? But God, but I think 316 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: in relationships, in courting, what's the rule? Okay, So I 317 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 1: met him, I liked him, we went on a date. 318 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:15,160 Speaker 1: Should I call him first? Should he call me? 319 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 3: Like? 320 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 2: How to you know? 321 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 3: Since it's nonsense, I feel like, go where your heart 322 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 3: says go. If you feel like sending that message, send it. 323 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 3: If you feel like calling, call what you got to lose. 324 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: It's just I think it's harder for people now because 325 00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: it's so many distractions and it's just so accessible. And 326 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: people have told me that, like it's you know, I'm 327 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: dating this person, but then he's following this person, he's 328 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: liking her pictures, he's here, he's there, And it's just 329 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 1: so easy for somebody to just send a DM or 330 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 1: you know, reconnect with somebody they haven't seen in so long. 331 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 3: And because of that, which is why I feel like 332 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 3: the romance and the dating and the courting has to 333 00:15:57,120 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 3: be done, because you know, we're the relationship to be microwave, 334 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 3: put it in for two minutes, is ready, and I'm 335 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 3: about to do it. Well, a relationship needs time, I said. 336 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 3: I said, like, you gotta let that thing marinate, Like 337 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 3: because when you slow cook anything, it's the right temperature, 338 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 3: you can taste all the seasons, it's tender and like 339 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 3: the meat just falling off the bone, like it's all 340 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 3: those things. And so if you applied that same mindset 341 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:29,120 Speaker 3: to your relationship and understand that if you want it 342 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 3: to be really potent, let it cook for a little while, right, 343 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 3: And so the first day after you met somebody, you're 344 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 3: not gonna have a revelation like, oh this is the person. No, 345 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 3: take your time, have some phone calls and be so 346 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 3: compelling and be such so connected to that individual that 347 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 3: you can't make him or her stop dming somebody, but 348 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 3: it'll just happen because we's so connected to each other. 349 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 3: And now I realize that you can provide everything that 350 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 3: I need. And those others who just started falling off. 351 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: You know, keep on loving. That's a standout song on 352 00:17:06,920 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 1: here too. And I do want to say I felt 353 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:13,160 Speaker 1: like I heard a little Two Occasions. 354 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 3: You did, you did? That was the goal. One thing 355 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 3: I learned from puff Man is how to give a 356 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:23,679 Speaker 3: song that's already a hit record another life a. 357 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:27,159 Speaker 2: Little nostalgic yeah, on twist exactly. 358 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:29,800 Speaker 3: And you know, I'm very careful when I do that, 359 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 3: because you want to add to the legacy of the 360 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 3: record and not you know, not take away from it. 361 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:39,919 Speaker 3: And Two Occasions is just such an iconic record. We 362 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 3: needed to make sure. So myself, Rico Love Ghost Kid 363 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 3: we said and were like, all right, we can't make 364 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 3: this a thing until it's really really one of the ones. 365 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 3: And I feel like we did a great job of 366 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:58,199 Speaker 3: just sprinking just enough. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you 367 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,040 Speaker 3: were right. Okay, you know your r and bl a 368 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:00,400 Speaker 3: little bit. 369 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 1: It took me a second because I was like, I 370 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 1: had to like, figure, yeah, yeah, and so now I 371 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: saw recently also you you've been doing your press for this. 372 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: Does it bother you too that people will still be. 373 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 2: Like you from one twelve? 374 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 3: So it doesn't have to be stated because I'm always 375 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 3: going to be from one twelve and I've worked, I've 376 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:29,919 Speaker 3: worked really really hard to have Q Parker as a 377 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 3: stand alone and even as I've journeyed into this independent, 378 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:37,199 Speaker 3: anytime I open my mouth, you're going to hear one twelve, 379 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 3: one twelve raised me. I am one twelve, we are 380 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:43,919 Speaker 3: one twelve. We all have contributed to this legacy of 381 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:47,359 Speaker 3: thirty years, and so even as I am Q Parker, 382 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:51,159 Speaker 3: I'm always representing one twelve, So it doesn't bother me. 383 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 3: But I am just working really really hard so that 384 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:57,440 Speaker 3: Q Parker can stand on his own and then, by 385 00:18:57,480 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 3: the way, he's a founding member of one twelve. Yeah. 386 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:04,119 Speaker 1: No, I was just wondering because sometimes it could be irritating, 387 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 1: like when people are always like Angela from the Breakfast, 388 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:09,680 Speaker 1: like I have my own thing now sometimes. 389 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 3: And you know, and it's just so it's it's difficult 390 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 3: sometimes for people to embrace something new that they have 391 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 3: been accustomed to sing for so long. Uh, and then 392 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 3: they'll try to portray their discomfort onto you. They may 393 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 3: be uncomfortable seeing you now operate outside of the breakfast 394 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:32,200 Speaker 3: breakfast club because they just want you to always be. 395 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:36,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, people like we miss you. I'm like, but happy 396 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 1: you're doing your own thing. 397 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 3: Right right, right, right, it's the same thing. 398 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 1: You know. 399 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 3: We love what you're doing. 400 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: In a good way way because you know, it shows 401 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 1: that it's sometimes it is that coming from something that's 402 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 1: iconic and meant so much to people, and people are 403 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: used to seeing you in a space and then you're 404 00:19:54,960 --> 00:19:57,199 Speaker 1: doing your own thing. They're happy for you. But the 405 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,920 Speaker 1: nostalgia is also like you over there. Yeah, and it 406 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:04,439 Speaker 1: could happen right one day. 407 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 3: I'm never the guy to hinder something nostalgic like that, 408 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:15,600 Speaker 3: you know. I always remain hopeful. And my goal, my 409 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 3: objective is, you know, we all are having singular pursuits 410 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 3: at the moment, and so there's a space where you 411 00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:26,120 Speaker 3: can support the brand of one twelve as it is, 412 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 3: but also some room to support Q Parker. You don't 413 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 3: have to, It doesn't have to be in either, or 414 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 3: it can be both. Yeah, because we are cut from 415 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 3: the same cloth. 416 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, we're talking about how, like just I saw 417 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: a babe while talking about this recently, how the music 418 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:48,760 Speaker 1: from you know, back then, those concerts and those artists 419 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 1: are the ones that are really selling out shows and 420 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: tours right now. It's just something harder for like the 421 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:55,880 Speaker 1: newer artists. 422 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:59,320 Speaker 3: It's something sweet about that nineties era. Man, Like, I'm 423 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 3: just so glad that I was a part of arguably 424 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 3: one of the dopest eras of hip hop and R 425 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 3: and B. Nobody can ever take that away from me. 426 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,280 Speaker 3: When my grandchildren's children's children talk about their GP, they're 427 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 3: gonna be able to go in the museum and see 428 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 3: they GP right there. When you're talking about the legacy 429 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 3: of hip hop and R and B, you can't mention 430 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 3: hip hop and R and B with our bad Boy. 431 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 3: You can't mention it without Biggie Smalls in one twelve 432 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:24,959 Speaker 3: and just what we were able to do as a 433 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 3: record company and just artists underneath this record company. And 434 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 3: so I'm really proud. I'm really proud of that. But 435 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 3: for me, it's just it's about legacy, and I think 436 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 3: that my legacy will be in a great place in 437 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 3: terms of what I've done musically with my brothers of 438 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 3: one twelve, but also as Q. 439 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:47,879 Speaker 1: Parker, Threesome is also how you ended the album. I 440 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:49,600 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, what are we talking about here? 441 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:54,959 Speaker 3: But mission accomplished, mission accomplished. 442 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: But with the soul and your body so well, I 443 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 1: don't know what they really do. 444 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 2: But that's not what this song was about. 445 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:06,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, as a songwriter, there's this thing about 446 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 3: just being an eye grabber. And when you look at 447 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 3: the song list, you know I could have put on 448 00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 3: that fu Me, feed Me be my Fan and people 449 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:17,200 Speaker 3: would have just went right to that song because why 450 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:20,639 Speaker 3: is Q Parker singing a song talking about me feeding 451 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 3: me be my fan? Why is Q talking about uh threesome? 452 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 3: And it's so funny And when I play, when I 453 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 3: play the album and people see the song list, they'll 454 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,439 Speaker 3: go and, oh my god, it's just so romantic and 455 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 3: I love keep on loving and begging da da da threesome? 456 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,439 Speaker 3: Are you gonna end the album with a song called threesome? 457 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,880 Speaker 3: You just had all this romance And I'm like, did 458 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,520 Speaker 3: you listen? Just listen, just keep listening, And by the 459 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:49,680 Speaker 3: by the hook, they're like, oh I get it. It's 460 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 3: just I called myself way earlier. Yes, it's always just 461 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:01,000 Speaker 3: a deeper meaning. And I take pride as a songwriter 462 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 3: and as a creative to always have the mind working, 463 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 3: because there are levels, as I said earlier, there's the 464 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,920 Speaker 3: levels of romance and the truth threesome, in my opinion, 465 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 3: is having intimate moments mind, body, and soul. 466 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,439 Speaker 1: You know, do you think that being married in a 467 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 1: relationship as long as you were kept you out of 468 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 1: a lot of trouble when you were younger? 469 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:26,720 Speaker 3: Absolutely? Absolutely, I got married young doesn't mean that I 470 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,320 Speaker 3: was a saint. But again, I got to give my 471 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 3: wife so much props, man, because my wife is four 472 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,639 Speaker 3: years older than me, and so in my twenties she 473 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,119 Speaker 3: was already, like in her early thirties, my late twenties 474 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 3: and early thirties, she was already kind of like destined 475 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 3: for what she wanted in a relationship. And I'm still 476 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 3: trying to figure out, you know, who I am, who 477 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 3: I was at the time. But I just love her 478 00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 3: so much because she was patient. She you know, allowed 479 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 3: me the space and grace, grace but also the space 480 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,680 Speaker 3: for me to like grow into full manhood. And so 481 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 3: I do believe that everybody has to have the patience 482 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:06,480 Speaker 3: to allow the relationship to really just develop into what 483 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 3: it ultimately will become. 484 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: And then you can put on the song bag in 485 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,359 Speaker 1: case you absolutely some more grace. 486 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:16,880 Speaker 3: Well see this. So the interesting thing about Beg, which 487 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 3: was the first single of this romance evolution of romance, 488 00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,560 Speaker 3: is we redefined beg and gave beg an acronym bringing 489 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,919 Speaker 3: endless gratitude. So this version of big ain't because you 490 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 3: messed up. The song says, this ain't cuz you done 491 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 3: went through my phone. It ain't because none of that. 492 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 3: It's none of that. This big is just we're gonna 493 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,840 Speaker 3: beg for each other because I love you, because you're worthy. 494 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,879 Speaker 3: And if both parties are doing this type of begging, 495 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 3: the relationship stays in a healthy place. So it ain't 496 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 3: the old school. 497 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:45,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not the old school. 498 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 499 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,639 Speaker 1: You know. It's interesting because sometimes people right from a 500 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 1: space of like for some reason, people also really connect 501 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,719 Speaker 1: with music that is more about like painful relationships. But 502 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,440 Speaker 1: this is more of a celebration and this is more 503 00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,199 Speaker 1: of a romance and we need that too, because I 504 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of music that we listen to 505 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,399 Speaker 1: now is a lot of like I'm messed up. 506 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 3: Or yeah, and granted there is messing up is a 507 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,160 Speaker 3: part of the I think it's in the equation of 508 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 3: a long lasting relationship, Like Grandma and them don't get 509 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,959 Speaker 3: to fifty years without some peaks and valleys, right, And 510 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,600 Speaker 3: I think if you live long enough, everybody has to 511 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:28,320 Speaker 3: have about or some bounce with the word forgiveness and grace, 512 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,159 Speaker 3: whether you're gonna have to ask for it or you 513 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,240 Speaker 3: got to be on the other end of it, and 514 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:35,199 Speaker 3: you know, the road of forgiveness and all of that, 515 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,920 Speaker 3: it's still dual because the person who did the offending 516 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 3: has to show remorse and repent and do all these things. 517 00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,120 Speaker 3: But the offend did also have some work to do too, 518 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 3: because now if you're gonna really forgive, are you forgetting? 519 00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,439 Speaker 3: You're gonna do the work that we can actually move forward. 520 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 2: Forgive doesn't mean forget. 521 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 3: Though it done. It doesn't, it doesn't. But if you're 522 00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 3: gonna fully forgive, you have to be in a space 523 00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 3: where we can continue moving forward. 524 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,359 Speaker 1: Somebody called the other day for advice for the advice segment, 525 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,199 Speaker 1: and they were talking about that, like, I don't know 526 00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,400 Speaker 1: how I can stick this out. You know, my wife 527 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,640 Speaker 1: stayed with me, She says, she forgave me, but she's 528 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 1: still giving me a hard time about the cheating that 529 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:14,800 Speaker 1: he did. And I understand both sides of that, because 530 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:16,560 Speaker 1: you can't act like it doesn't hurt you and not 531 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: express yourself. And it had been, like I think he said, 532 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 1: like a year, you know, and sometimes it does. 533 00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:23,840 Speaker 2: It should get like better and better. 534 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,320 Speaker 1: Over time, but sometimes it is like people have a 535 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:28,640 Speaker 1: little breakdown and have to bring it. 536 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:29,240 Speaker 2: Back up again. 537 00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 3: Well, I think communication This is when communication really really 538 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:37,800 Speaker 3: becomes a thing because when there's infidelity, like I don't 539 00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 3: know if the two individuals alone have the tools to 540 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,439 Speaker 3: work their way back, And so here's when therapy and 541 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:49,639 Speaker 3: counseling and licensed professionals have to can help you get 542 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 3: back on the road to recovery. But also understanding that 543 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,640 Speaker 3: that ain't just a next day, we're good type of situation. 544 00:26:57,119 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 3: It takes time, and no one person can say, all right, 545 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,680 Speaker 3: it's been long enough, because again you don't know how 546 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:07,040 Speaker 3: it's really really affecting me. There are triggers, and if 547 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,800 Speaker 3: there is the case, the therapy help you deal with 548 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:12,920 Speaker 3: the triggers because we can move on, but the triggers 549 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:16,359 Speaker 3: are going to show themselves tomorrow. Three months down the line, 550 00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 3: three years down the line. But if we're having effective communication, 551 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 3: he or she could say, you know, today was a trigger. 552 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,640 Speaker 3: How did that make you feel when this happens, Let's 553 00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,760 Speaker 3: talk through. Come on, yo, come on, I can't sing 554 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 3: by romance if I don't know all the levels. 555 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 2: Okay, I like this aspect of it too. That was amazing. 556 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's exactly what I was trying to expect, because 557 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 1: you're right, sometimes we don't have the tools to be 558 00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: and that's where a licensed professional can help you with 559 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,000 Speaker 1: that aspect of it and learning how to talk to 560 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:48,560 Speaker 1: each other, how to express ourselves, how to respond and 561 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: all of that. 562 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,880 Speaker 3: You can talk. You can talk through anything if both 563 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:58,200 Speaker 3: parties are willing to have effective communication. And I always 564 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:03,159 Speaker 3: say communication for Claire, not just exchanging words. But my 565 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,159 Speaker 3: goal is to make sure you have complete clarity on 566 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,560 Speaker 3: what I'm trying to say, and your goal should be 567 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:11,400 Speaker 3: to use the words so that I have complete clarity 568 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 3: of what you're trying to say. 569 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 1: Man, I really enjoyed this conversation. I have too, and 570 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 1: this project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one, Yes, is 571 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 1: that you can never tell me nothing bad about Q Parker. 572 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,879 Speaker 1: I must feel bad about what we're gonna do on 573 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:29,440 Speaker 1: lip service. When you come, let's not going to be bad. 574 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,440 Speaker 1: But make sure y'all listen to this. And this is 575 00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,439 Speaker 1: a real solo album. You don't have it like, you know, 576 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 1: bogged down with guest appearances. 577 00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:37,639 Speaker 2: It's all you. 578 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,120 Speaker 3: I needed it to be like this, this reacclimation, and 579 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 3: this is this re entering back into the game. I 580 00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 3: needed everybody to get one hundred percent of Q Parker 581 00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 3: Volume one. Now as I go to Volume two, Andy three, 582 00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,120 Speaker 3: I may bring in some friends and some features and 583 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 3: all that, but Volume one needed to be the romance 584 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:55,960 Speaker 3: deal to himself. 585 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:57,520 Speaker 2: Who are friends of Q Parker? 586 00:28:57,680 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 1: Man? 587 00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 3: I have so One thing I learned in my youth, 588 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 3: in my early days, was relationships are key, and so 589 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 3: h in my phone other artists, it's entrepreneurs, it's people 590 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 3: in radio, it's old label executives. I do que Parking 591 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:17,959 Speaker 3: friends and so anybody from the nineties era and after that. 592 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I have a great relationship with him, 593 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:22,680 Speaker 3: personal relationship with him. 594 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,840 Speaker 2: So anyone could pop out, anyone could pop out. 595 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,760 Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you, I appreciate you for coming 596 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,080 Speaker 1: through it. I know we've been working hard on making 597 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,959 Speaker 1: this happen. Thank you asimy guys. Thank you saving me. 598 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 1: Thank you guys,