1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,960 Speaker 1: Dear morning show. I am an African American female in 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: my late twenties, and I am currently in a relationship 3 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 1: with a Puerto Rican male in his early twenties. We 4 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: have an awesome relationship. We get along like best friends. 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: We often sit around and laugh and joke with each 6 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 1: other for hours. We have real conversations, and we just 7 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: enjoy each other's company. He's very attentive to my knees 8 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: and once, and the sex is absolutely explosive. Our only 9 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: problem is that he is a bit too controlling. He 10 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: has to know where I'm at, what I'm doing, what 11 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 1: I'm wearing, and who I'm with at all times, and 12 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: it's beginning to pluck my nerves. I've never been the 13 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: type to allow a man to clock my every move, 14 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: and I don't feel like I should start now. When 15 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: he's not with me, he's calling and texting me seems 16 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: like every minute of the day and night, to the 17 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:48,519 Speaker 1: point that I have to actually cut off my phone 18 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 1: sometimes just to get some rest. He even finds the 19 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: time to text me or call me during all of 20 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: his breaks when he's at work. Sometimes he spends his 21 00:00:57,280 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: entire lunch hour talking to me on the phone and 22 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: instead of eating and one hour. I have once received 23 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: as many as thirty text messages from him. He's out 24 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:08,679 Speaker 1: of control. When I leave for work at night, he 25 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: wants me uh to send him a picture from my 26 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 1: camera phone so that he can see what I'm wearing. 27 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: And he has even gone so far as to show 28 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: up at my house as I was leaving for work 29 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: just to see what I had on. I don't understand 30 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: why he does this. When I question him about it, 31 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: he has no answer in access if it's no big deal, 32 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: But clearly this is becoming a big problem now. I've 33 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,839 Speaker 1: been told by my friends, whom are also Puerto Rican, 34 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: that Puerto Rican men are controlling and possessive. I'm not 35 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: sure if that's just how Puerto Rican men are. I've 36 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: dated a few others in the past, but not enough 37 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: to know, or if he just has issues of his 38 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: own that he needs to get a handle on. Please help. 39 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: I'm crazy about this guy, but this relationship won't last 40 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: if he continues with this madness. Don't know what to do? Okay, 41 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: it's true, you know fear. Don't know what to do? Um, 42 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: The word that comes to mind is stalker. You know 43 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: what this is? Just too much. Your man is jealous, 44 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: he's insecure and yes, controlling. Of course this would get 45 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: on your nerves. Um, it could get pretty scary too, 46 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: you know, him just showing up at your job and stuff. Yeah, 47 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: send me a picture. You say, you get along like 48 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: best friends. Who tell your best friend to back it up? Okay? 49 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: Tell him it's not normal to run somebody down like 50 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 1: he's running you down, uh, in this relationship. Relationships have 51 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: to be built on trust. I know there are cultures 52 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: where men are very denominate, dominating and domineering. I don't 53 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: know that to be the case with Puerto Rican men. 54 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: But this guy has all the signs of a stalker. 55 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: You know, he just does. Trying to control someone like 56 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,079 Speaker 1: this is major. I think you really need to look 57 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: at him for the control freak that he is. Consider 58 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,799 Speaker 1: your safety and your well being, and let someone in 59 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: your family know what's up, you know, just in case 60 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: something goes down and we certainly don't want that to happen. Steve, 61 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 1: let me swallow this because you ain't gonna believe. I 62 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: can't wait for it. I know that African American female 63 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: in her late twenties Puerto Rican male in his early twenties, 64 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: the twenties, early twenties. Already, when you're talking women and men, 65 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 1: when the woman is older in the twenties, she is 66 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: much older. Yeah, this ain't like you thirty nine and 67 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: he thirty five where it starts balancing out you twenty 68 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: nine he one. But let's just shut this whole letter down. 69 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: Here's your whole problem, sistem. Did you not say that 70 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: the sex is absolutely explosive? About time? Did you not 71 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: say that the sex is absolutely explosive? Poo, firecrackers word 72 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: that goes your whole problem right there. You have an 73 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: explosive sex. Now he's frum Now he's falling around looking 74 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: for you in the daytime with a flash like he 75 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 1: want to know what you got on, where you're going, 76 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:30,280 Speaker 1: who you're doing. It would show me a picture, take me, 77 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: let me see you what you got on. He's sweating 78 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: you like hosta donna. Stop. So now you want to 79 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: know what your problem is? Your problem is y'all have 80 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: it explosive sex a problem? My suggestion to you is, 81 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: fis it out a little bit up, put a little 82 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: take some of the explosion, all of it, dude, do 83 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: a little alco self to sect cut back, fierce fist. 84 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: Oh what a relief it is. But as long as 85 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 1: you have an explosive sex, please know when I come back, 86 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: I will tell you what it's about to follow. Now, 87 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: I want you to tell me what. Twelve after you're 88 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: listening Steve Harvey Morning Show, Don't Forget Today at one 89 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: thirty pm. That is today at one thirty pm Eastern time, 90 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: I will be on Facebook Live for the Strawberry Letter 91 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: Live after show. Uh. You can find me at My 92 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 1: Girl Shirley or Shirley Strawberry Live. Will be on Facebook. 93 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,119 Speaker 1: Come and join us please. But right now, Steve, let's 94 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 1: get to part two of today's Strawberry Letter, that is 95 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 1: about one thing. Hu an African American female in her 96 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: late twenties. Yeah, currently relationship with a Puerto Rican male 97 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: in his early twy She seems to think that he's 98 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: a bit to control. Yes, he has to know. Come 99 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: on here now. Ah, he want to know what I'm 100 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: doing and what I'm wearing, who I'm with at all times, 101 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: and it is beginning to pluck my nerves. Take your time. Yeah. Uh, 102 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: when at work in an hour, instead of eating, he's 103 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:35,600 Speaker 1: talking to her on the phone. I don't want no food. 104 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's been as mindys, thirty text messages to text 105 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 1: messages in a lunch break, have not text message on 106 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: my phone that at a time since I had the phone. Okay, 107 00:06:54,800 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 1: do you see a problem? Yeah, it says, It says, 108 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:05,559 Speaker 1: as I read on, and that he has gone so 109 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: far as to show up at my house when I'm 110 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: leaving for whack, yes, to see what I had on. 111 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: What is that about? Passion? Ah, that is fantasized, that 112 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: is highs. That is menana Carlo fantasized banana colon. That's 113 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: a combination of a Hawaiian hello and a black stump 114 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: as a Melona colo type thing going on hill Nah. 115 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: She's been told by friends who are also Puerto Rican 116 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: pe off for shot for sure that Puerto Rican men 117 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: are controlled and possessing, all right, And she says that 118 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: she's not sure if how Porto me reaking men really 119 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: are because she's the only day of the few in 120 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: the paint. Well, let's take this one step further. Come on, 121 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: maybe you need to quit dating period, because it ain't 122 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: just prot to weaken me once you've passed out some 123 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: explosive sex not not not not not not not. Now 124 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: tell me what explosion means. Not explosive sexiest when right 125 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: in the middle of it, your your mind leaves you 126 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 1: and you have a lot of body experience. It's when 127 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 1: you actually standing on the foot of the bed watching 128 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:48,199 Speaker 1: yourself go to work. That's right, that's right. Explosive sexiest 129 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: when the moment comes of ultimate excitement, you reach over 130 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: and tad the corners off the fitted sheet. You can 131 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: actually do that. Your toes are hug into the mattress, 132 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: trying to position yourself harder. Sparks's coming up off your 133 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: tone nail. Thank you, Steve. We gotta go. Join me 134 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: on Facebook Live today at one thirty pm Eastern time. 135 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 1: I'll be waiting for you. We're gonna talk about today's 136 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,679 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. I'll have my fresh strawberry pick of the 137 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: day and we'll talk about trending topics.