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A bucket filler 28 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 3: is someone who is willing to make deposits, positive deposits 29 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 3: in the life of other people, not only with their words, 30 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 3: but with their actions. 31 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 4: See. 32 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:39,839 Speaker 3: A bucket filler is someone who is willing to give. 33 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 3: There's too many bucket dippers in this world. Too many 34 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: bucket dippers. What's a bucket dipper? A bucket dipper is 35 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 3: someone who dips out of the emotional bank of others 36 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 3: with harsh words and criticism. Someone who dips out of 37 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 3: the life of other people. You see the thing about 38 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 3: bucket dippers. Bucket dippers don't even realize that they're depleting 39 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 3: their own bucket. You See, when you fill other people's buckets, 40 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 3: you'll have your bucket filled. We want to be bucket fillers. 41 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 3: We have tremendous power and influence with our words. Listen 42 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,919 Speaker 3: to what it says in Ephesians four twenty nine. It says, 43 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 3: let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but 44 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:37,359 Speaker 3: only what is helpful for building others up, for benefiting 45 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 3: the hearer, for extending grace to those other people, for 46 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 3: building people up. You see, it is up to us. 47 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 3: It starts with us. We can be the builders. We 48 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 3: can be the one to turn this thing around. We 49 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: don't have to go with the flow, but we can 50 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 3: swim upstream because we have God on the inside of us. 51 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 3: But we have to make a decision that we're going 52 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 3: to be builders. You know, not only can we build 53 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 3: people with our words, find the best and bring it 54 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 3: out in them, but do you know that our words 55 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 3: can literally be the glue that holds our relationships together. 56 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 3: It can literally bind us together when we speak positive faith, 57 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 3: build words over one another, when we're willing to pick 58 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 3: out the good and not see the bad. You see, 59 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 3: it's easy to see what's wrong, but it takes a 60 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 3: builder to see what's right. It takes a builder to 61 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 3: know architecturally kind to fix things. You are a builder today. 62 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 3: I want to encourage you with that, because too often 63 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 3: we are unconscious about literally what we are doing throughout 64 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 3: the day, and I want us to all go out 65 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 3: of here saying I am a builder of people, because 66 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 3: when I build people, I build myself. Whatever I throw out, 67 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 3: it's gonna come back to me. Joel and I have 68 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 3: been married thirty years, and we've learned a lot about building. 69 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 3: We've learned a lot about extending grace to one another 70 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 3: through our words. To be married for thirty years, you 71 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 3: know you have to give each other great grace and 72 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 3: you have to use your words to do it. You see, 73 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 3: we realize really a good relationship is built on what 74 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 3: you're willing to give, more than what you're willing to receive. 75 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 3: We all want to be loved. We all want the 76 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 3: other person to show us kindness. But to get the kindness, 77 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 3: we have to be willing to give because really, what 78 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:58,840 Speaker 3: you give is really what's going to come back to you. 79 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 3: Are you just looking for someone to give you something 80 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 3: in your relationship. I'm telling you this is a principle 81 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,840 Speaker 3: that if we will understand, I believe things will change 82 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 3: in our life when we understand that being willing to 83 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 3: extend grace and give grace is what's gonna build our relationships. 84 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:23,039 Speaker 3: We've all heard this when we were young. The Golden rule. 85 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,239 Speaker 3: Your mom probably taught you, your first grade teacher probably 86 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:28,840 Speaker 3: had you recite it. But did you know that the 87 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 3: Golden rule is found in Matthew seven twelve. It says this, 88 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 3: so in everything, do unto others what you would have 89 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 3: them do to you. You see what I'm saying, do 90 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 3: unto others what you would have them do unto you. 91 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 3: You know, I think about this when you go buy 92 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 3: a shirt, or you're gonna go buy an outfit at 93 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 3: the store. You don't just run into the store and 94 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 3: blindly grab something, pay for it, run out the door, 95 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 3: and put it on. No, you choose wisely. You go in, 96 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:06,799 Speaker 3: you look at the clothes, You decide what's gonna work 97 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 3: for you, what will be the best for you. You take 98 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 3: time and effort. You buy those clothes, you take them home, 99 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 3: and you put them on. You take time to clothe yourself. 100 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 3: I want to encourage us to take the same time 101 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:27,159 Speaker 3: to choose wisely the words that we speak out of 102 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 3: our mouth, because the truth is this, we're gonna wear 103 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 3: those words. We are going to be a product of 104 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 3: what we say. We are going to eat from the 105 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 3: fruit of our lips. You know, sometimes we just throw 106 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 3: caution to the wind, not thinking it's gonna affect us. 107 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 3: But can I tell you what you say is going 108 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 3: to affect you now? I have to admit this. When 109 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 3: I was a young bride and I first married Joel 110 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 3: thirty years ago, I didn't weigh my words. I wasn't 111 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 3: putting the glue on my relationship like I should have. 112 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 3: I'll never forget this. God spoke to me one day 113 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 3: and he said, Victoria. He said, if you don't begin 114 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 3: to choose your words wisely, you're going to be sorry. 115 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 3: He basically said, your own words are going to work 116 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 3: against you. I was a young bride. I was a younger. 117 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 3: I was new to this thing, and I didn't always 118 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 3: weigh my words right. I was used to kind of 119 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 3: having my own way, doing it the way I wanted 120 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 3: to do it. And I thought he should get into 121 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 3: the program. But can I tell you this. I stand 122 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 3: up here today and I remember God speaking to my 123 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 3: heart like it was yesterday. It brought tears to my eyes. 124 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 3: It was a serious matter, and I am so grateful 125 00:07:53,400 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 3: that I took heed to what God told me. I 126 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 3: begin to think about what I was building. I begin 127 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:09,679 Speaker 3: to think about the grace that I was extending. You see, 128 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 3: I wanted a man that was successful. I wanted a 129 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 3: man that believed in himself, that had confidence. I wanted 130 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 3: to be the buoye that pushed him up, not the 131 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 3: anchor that pulled him down. I begin to say what 132 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 3: I wanted, not what I saw or what I thought 133 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:32,559 Speaker 3: I saw. I begin to see the good and bring 134 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 3: out the good. Now, can I tell you to this day, 135 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 3: I am not perfect, but I make far more deposits 136 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 3: than I do with Ross, far more deposits than I 137 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,439 Speaker 3: do with Rass. It's kind of like your bank account. 138 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 3: If you keep writing those checks, you're gonna go bankrupt. 139 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 3: You got to put checks in. You got to fill 140 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 3: that account before you think about pulling anything out. So 141 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 3: today I just want to encourage every one of us. 142 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 3: We can create a life that we want with the 143 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 3: words that we speak. If you want grace, you better 144 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:14,559 Speaker 3: extend grace because we're all becoming I think about Peter. 145 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 3: He was a disciple of Jesus. He walked with Jesus, 146 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 3: and if you read about Peter's life, sometimes he was impatient. 147 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 3: He would say things he shouldn't. In fact, his name 148 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 3: Simon Peter actually means pebble, and I'm sure some of 149 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 3: the things he did he felt like a pebble some days. 150 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 3: But you know what, he was Jesus' disciple, and Jesus said, Peter, 151 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:46,199 Speaker 3: you're a rock. You see, to fight Peter's personality, Jesus 152 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 3: called the rock out in him. He spoke to the potential. 153 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 3: And we are the Church of the Living God. We've 154 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 3: got to speak to each other's potential. We are building 155 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 3: this on a solid foundation. 156 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 5: On a rock. 157 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 3: We can't be influenced by what we see. We've got 158 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 3: to make a decision that we are builders. Because I 159 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 3: can tell you, if you extend grace, you will have 160 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 3: you grace extended to you. We can all be better. 161 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 3: We're learning, we're growing, we're becoming. We're in the process. 162 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 3: We're creating Peters all around us as we create the 163 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:30,200 Speaker 3: Peter on the inside of us. Remember you're a bucket filler. 164 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 3: Stop and choose your words wisely, because I believe when 165 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 3: you do that, when you're willing to extend grace, that 166 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 3: same grace I'll come back to you. Amen. Amen, He's 167 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 3: an awesome God. 168 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 5: Thank you for listening to the Joel los Deine podcast. 169 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 5: Help us continue to share the message of hope with 170 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 5: those all over the world. 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