WEBVTT - Ep 215: Does Hoeing Healll? (Ft. We Talk Back)

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision We're about to make. Horrible decisions. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>start it out. Welcome to the horrible decisions. I'm fucked. Nah,

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<v Speaker 1>we got good energy right now, we got can't be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about really fun every week, No, but not

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<v Speaker 1>like this fucked. So I just want to let the

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<v Speaker 1>world know that I was fucked, but not fucked like

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<v Speaker 1>fucked up, like really fucked. I'm really excited right now.

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<v Speaker 1>We have got two ladies in the building and there

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<v Speaker 1>are Black Effects. Okay, Like I ain't gonna front. When

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<v Speaker 1>I saw the first little clip, y'all, I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't heals. These bitches just be talking about stick.

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to call and be like, I thought

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<v Speaker 1>that we were your sex pot. What the fund is

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<v Speaker 1>y'all show about? We talked back, listen, we thought we

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<v Speaker 1>were the hose on Black Effect Network, and we listened

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<v Speaker 1>to y'all show, and we realized because that's how it was.

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<v Speaker 1>An episode was like, are we only holes on Black Effect?

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<v Speaker 1>And they may be ho hoes, but were like one

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<v Speaker 1>whole you like Christmas? Wait, y'all only half and half? Yeah, together,

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<v Speaker 1>we make one black person appearance, So okay, So wait,

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<v Speaker 1>who's the bigger hole and who decided to make a

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<v Speaker 1>whole podcast? So the podcast is well both of us

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<v Speaker 1>for the most part. I don't know if we of

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<v Speaker 1>us is the bigger house. She's I'm a conservative, like

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<v Speaker 1>we could tell from definitely t D. Jake's daughter. You

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<v Speaker 1>came in here like a holy ho wait taking a

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<v Speaker 1>card to get on y'all. I'm listening. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>your voice. Decision, Let's know your voices first, so let's

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<v Speaker 1>associate the name with the boy. So I'm a J

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<v Speaker 1>A J J engaged one and tam bam tama. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you ma'am out here. Okay, So yeah, tell talk to

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<v Speaker 1>us about uh your whole ways. I mean, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>like the shout out we talk back. Yeah, you mentioned

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<v Speaker 1>that it was about femininity, but like in one way,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not feminist, first of all because don't take care.

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<v Speaker 1>So why did you mention it in the description there

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<v Speaker 1>being a feminist? I wrote it actually being empowered exactly

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm not trying to replace men. I want men

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<v Speaker 1>to be you know what, can we talk about that

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<v Speaker 1>because we have had I proclaim all the time too

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<v Speaker 1>that I am not a feminist. Pol though I do

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<v Speaker 1>believe in women empowerment. So you said, the reason that

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<v Speaker 1>you're not a feminist is because you believe feminist hatement

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<v Speaker 1>and you believe that they want to get a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the people who are on the forefront, you would

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<v Speaker 1>get that from them, or they may be you know, lesbians, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of get that energy from the feminist or leslians. No,

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<v Speaker 1>basically they are don't do that. Yeah, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>The feminists that we've had on the show, We've had

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<v Speaker 1>some married feminists on the show. We've had married or

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<v Speaker 1>or heterosexual feminists. I wouldn't say that all of them

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<v Speaker 1>want to get rid of men, and a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>them actually were married. We had Uh. I think this

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<v Speaker 1>is just the same rhetoric as like Black Lives matter,

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<v Speaker 1>ship right. Some of us are dr umar, some of

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<v Speaker 1>us peacefully protests. I'm in the middle and necessary, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like I understand it all. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I'm outIn worship. Sometimes I'm like all right, chel like

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<v Speaker 1>let's you know, have a white person come in the studio.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, really, I think that with feminism, the

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<v Speaker 1>larger issue is like you know, when Trump got elected,

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<v Speaker 1>we saw such radical feminism and that being like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>showing your pussy hair and a protest and ship like that,

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<v Speaker 1>which me all of that ship is still or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that we attached feminism with that because

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<v Speaker 1>I really believe like the right wing people did that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really believe that I've ever thought feminism was

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<v Speaker 1>that until Trump got elected or perpetuated that. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>heard people want to not be a feminist until Trump.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no reason you should say. I'm not wonder you

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<v Speaker 1>you should say that either the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>the definition for it is just believing in equal rights

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<v Speaker 1>for women. Can we were able to pull the definition

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<v Speaker 1>up of feminism? Can I get you? I just love equality,

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<v Speaker 1>equality for quicker than you if feminism is the advocacy

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<v Speaker 1>of women's rights on the basis of the equality of

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<v Speaker 1>the sexes. But I still want if I get on

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<v Speaker 1>the train, I want a man to get up from

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not your right. I don't it's not my right.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think there's a difference with this. I like

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<v Speaker 1>niggas paying for my ship too, right. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>at this point in my life, I'm not you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, So y'all niggas need to be doing

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<v Speaker 1>it for me. And even when I was kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like on some bumped and ship, y'all still should be

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<v Speaker 1>doing it for me. That's why they're supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>doing it. But like what that said, I think when

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<v Speaker 1>you're a woman that expects those things, that's chivalry. That's

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<v Speaker 1>us digging into femininity. Masculinity I think as nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>do with feminism. And when people try to weaponize feminism

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<v Speaker 1>by saying you can pay for your own ship, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you can also not suck me. But I guess that's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing because even when I'm reading there, if we

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<v Speaker 1>do want them to pay for things, and we want

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<v Speaker 1>them to do the things that we necessarily won't know

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<v Speaker 1>for them, then I can see why you don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to align with it, because we don't really want equality

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<v Speaker 1>in the way that we really A lot of women

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think want the equality about the actual definition

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<v Speaker 1>of feminists of being a feminist. But I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on right now, the culture of being a feminist.

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<v Speaker 1>It's different. I don't know if I do, maybe because

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<v Speaker 1>on our own now I'm not with that. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's because I also mean on the side of what

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<v Speaker 1>y'all are all saying, Like, I am that girl too,

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm definitely a feminist, definitely for a women, because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not one of those girls that say, oh I

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<v Speaker 1>don't need female friends, but I love women I do

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<v Speaker 1>rock with in my head though, Like right, feminism, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like, feminism to me is knowing that, um,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no discrimination against being a woman when I want

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<v Speaker 1>to get a certain role or when I'm handling business

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<v Speaker 1>someone thinking I'm too weak to do it ship like that,

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<v Speaker 1>which I don't think no feminism going on with the

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<v Speaker 1>checko at all. Don't get me wrong. There's sometimes where

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<v Speaker 1>I like the boss up and maybe grab it because

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<v Speaker 1>that makes me feel a little masked. But like, I

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<v Speaker 1>still don't think that has to do with it. But

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<v Speaker 1>when you're talking about women having babies on their own

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<v Speaker 1>science bitch. See we talked back be having hot takes

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<v Speaker 1>that I don't know what. I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 1>liked because the girl we're gonna run down a yall, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't know what we were talking about. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make sure you'll read it durate all of your I

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<v Speaker 1>spent a lot of time. I pulled up most of

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<v Speaker 1>your podcast scriptionans and went through your clips and picked

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<v Speaker 1>everything on like I not even that. I don't like ship,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it's for a great conversation. You're no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>we can't because you guys are pretty and better have

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<v Speaker 1>tintoes down on your tape. Um. Oh. The reason I

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<v Speaker 1>disagree with that is because when it comes to science

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<v Speaker 1>and having babies and ship like that, I don't believe

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<v Speaker 1>like men and women need to have a child together.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe women could have kids on their own, just

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<v Speaker 1>like I think gays could have kids if they want to.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I don't really believe in that. But go ahead,

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<v Speaker 1>one because politics on our show, because I got a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of different views in comparison, don't talk about politics

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<v Speaker 1>at all in comparison to each other. Yea, this is

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<v Speaker 1>considered political, okay, Because I believe in the traditional family

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<v Speaker 1>became don't need to be raised properly with a man

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<v Speaker 1>and a woman. You know what is this? Because do

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<v Speaker 1>you consider yourself a religious person. I'm very spiritual but

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<v Speaker 1>not religious, Like I have religion, but I'm not religious,

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<v Speaker 1>So you prep just don't want to get canceled canceled.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, we don't. You don't want to get canceled.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that's not I'll be honest with you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of the things that we speak

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<v Speaker 1>on here on horrible decisions. I mean, we we learned,

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<v Speaker 1>we've over the last four years, we've said things that

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<v Speaker 1>were not right and we we we've we've walked it back.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that I don't want have to walk back.

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<v Speaker 1>But but sometimes learn that's why we've walked it back.

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<v Speaker 1>But but I also think that there is um something

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<v Speaker 1>really genuine about you being your true self. And if

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<v Speaker 1>there is something that you feel, whether it's political or not,

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<v Speaker 1>there are going to be people that agree with you.

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<v Speaker 1>And in this space podcasting, a lot of people now

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<v Speaker 1>have podcasts. I think it's important to be yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>not speak to feel like, oh my god, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to offend somebody, because guarantee, your hot texts look

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<v Speaker 1>a little offensive. If you ask me, they political, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's what's y'all. Definitely, So to me, there

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<v Speaker 1>are two different types of women. Okay, so the sexually liberated.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's are there are sluts in there? Paid Let's

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<v Speaker 1>just give a finger pop in the back of the

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<v Speaker 1>club somewhere for free. Holes get paid. So I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>doing nothing. I'm not saying that. I've never just make

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<v Speaker 1>these definitions up yourself. That's just what I think. What

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<v Speaker 1>they do say like I believe, and you can pull

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<v Speaker 1>this up if you want to, then I do believe.

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<v Speaker 1>Definition is horror goes back to prostitution, prostitutions associated with money. However, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's whatever you want to be, right, prostitute? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What about how? Because how ain't really holes like that

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<v Speaker 1>that let me to urban? How it's gonna give me

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<v Speaker 1>a long hand who uses their looks and charms to

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<v Speaker 1>manipulate their partner to gain materials? Yes, sex money, And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that slutnext, put slutnext. I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>a slut is a person who is known to have

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<v Speaker 1>had sex many times with different individuals. Nothing about money. Nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>So let let me ask you guys this because one

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that I heard, get the funk out

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<v Speaker 1>of here. All not money per se, but they just

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<v Speaker 1>got to be doing something. You're just not gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>just you said that in the clip that I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>I keep messing you said having sex with people is

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<v Speaker 1>doing nothing for you right or something? I quoted it

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to oh, come on, come on, come on,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, hold on. Um. When I listened to it,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, being used, that's what you said, right?

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<v Speaker 1>And I saw all the comments some I think on

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<v Speaker 1>Charlottagne page, I don't want to nothing. I got you

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<v Speaker 1>wanna we talk about on because I'll tell me why.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a reference to like, say, forst you're in a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with somebody, a man cheese on you, you you go

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<v Speaker 1>cheat back. That's not really getting back. Get the nigga

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<v Speaker 1>with more money than your nigga is getting back. That's

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's what men. Men don't give a funk with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's like you're feeling like revenge is sweet. Yes, they

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<v Speaker 1>are more um concerned about the social social status of

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<v Speaker 1>the man that you fucking went. You don't think. I've

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<v Speaker 1>definitely done some ship like that. It felt good, But

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<v Speaker 1>but here it is though. Let me tell you why.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's some key differences. As someone who considers

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<v Speaker 1>themselves more traditional, the things that pleasure you and make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel good about yourself may be different genuinely, and

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<v Speaker 1>you may agree with this to like I sometimes just

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<v Speaker 1>love to fucking do nasty s because that ship it

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<v Speaker 1>makes me feel sexy and hot and good, opposed to

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<v Speaker 1>where you may actually feel like I feel nasty. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>used to having a man one day, so then how

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<v Speaker 1>could I not feel used? But you would because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily feel used if I'm having sex like that.

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<v Speaker 1>There's times and times when when people are having like

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<v Speaker 1>a whole bunch of sex, and this could be some

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<v Speaker 1>psychology type ship. You didn't look at what's going on

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<v Speaker 1>in your life at that time. Your grandmother might have

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<v Speaker 1>just passed away, or I don't know, my pussy doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>get wet with my financial finances ain't in order. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to unless you assistant with that. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are, you're saying because you know what, here's this

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<v Speaker 1>you're just gonna say, Is that you because you like

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<v Speaker 1>sing with niggas with bread. I's not giving me the

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<v Speaker 1>brand just just but I don't sexual gratification. But that's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. Maybe you're just not a sexual being. And

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<v Speaker 1>though I am not, the way you're speaking because the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that ay, you feel like having sex with certain

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<v Speaker 1>people are multiple people, however, has uh some sort of

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<v Speaker 1>like negative connotations to it. First off. Secondly, you brought up, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>if someone has a lot of sex, maybe there's something

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<v Speaker 1>wrong going on in their life or maybe it's the

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<v Speaker 1>psychological thing that they have. First of all, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>had a lot of sex. Okay, I have had multiple partners.

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<v Speaker 1>Is we all hose in here for the most part

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<v Speaker 1>based on most men's general definition of a hole? Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm just saying at this age, I'm in my

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<v Speaker 1>mid thirties, right at this age, I'm not just sucking

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<v Speaker 1>for nothing because it doesn't fulfill me. There's other things

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<v Speaker 1>I can do, like I'm gonna certified spin instructor. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>go work out or something like that. But it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>fulfill me to just be fucking for no reason. When's

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<v Speaker 1>the last time you think or have you ever has

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<v Speaker 1>some sex with the nigga? Got in the car and

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<v Speaker 1>be like, gird you just laughed on some one night

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<v Speaker 1>stand ship and you're still smelling like a hole telling

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<v Speaker 1>your story. Have you been engaged since? So? Then yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And then and then we on Alex because I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>even wearing my ring right now. So anyway, there's that part,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm ready to come back to basically, bitch nigger

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<v Speaker 1>cut my wake up. So we were supposed to leave

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<v Speaker 1>to come here backful and who episode. We had an

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<v Speaker 1>episode with Danahy, which is a psychic, and he said

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<v Speaker 1>in another like he was like, you know, I think

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<v Speaker 1>this person you're with is good for you. Um maybe

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<v Speaker 1>in another life you were the husband and he was

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<v Speaker 1>the wife. And I feel like, Okay, that makes some

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<v Speaker 1>fucking sense today because this nigga caught my wig up.

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<v Speaker 1>That's mew every mic, but hours tell us about the wig.

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<v Speaker 1>I just know that niggas is out here cut wigs up.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's Segrenna. I want to definitely get into

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<v Speaker 1>your hot tekes. I'm gonna make thishp quick as I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even want to do it. Vanilla Ship, but here

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<v Speaker 1>we go because this ship too interesting. But Vanilla Ship

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<v Speaker 1>is our segment where we talk about something that's sexually

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<v Speaker 1>related somehow. In the News and Business Insider, a baby

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<v Speaker 1>was born with three patience is a world first caused

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<v Speaker 1>by a rare medical condition. This has never happened before,

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<v Speaker 1>and I ain't gonna lie. Let me know when the

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<v Speaker 1>bit turn a team. Wait wait does that sound bad?

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<v Speaker 1>At least? Where was the baby, the baby. The baby

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<v Speaker 1>was born in Iraq, so it'll be a brown baby.

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<v Speaker 1>He was more aware in Iraq. After three months, his

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<v Speaker 1>parents noticed additional bits of skin near his scrotum and

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<v Speaker 1>he was looking like swelling. And it turns out the

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<v Speaker 1>extra bits of skin were three penises growing um a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit shorter in length than the other. But I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's it's still a baby right now, So it's

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<v Speaker 1>called triple penis. Or start getting hard at and like,

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<v Speaker 1>how do they know each of those zicks? When will

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<v Speaker 1>they know that each of those dicks will erect? Like

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<v Speaker 1>when was your first direction at it? Sure, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember when my first direction you don't know, but when

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<v Speaker 1>I was acknowledging probably Like if they all work, that'd

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<v Speaker 1>be fun. Yeah, you know what's been hardly even he

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<v Speaker 1>may be favor this, So just imagine if like sixteen,

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<v Speaker 1>but also you can put the ass at the same time. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>listen to this, every five to six million birds to

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<v Speaker 1>penises come up. But this is the first triple penis. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>cases of them happening are rare um, but they can

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<v Speaker 1>be a medical challenge if they're not treated. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>actually carry it on. According to the report, no case

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<v Speaker 1>of a child born with an additional penis is the same.

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<v Speaker 1>All of them are different. In lane where some people

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<v Speaker 1>are both, we're a double penis? Yeah, where is it

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<v Speaker 1>a American? You know? I was black Book directory of Dix.

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<v Speaker 1>They clearly put this down in hit three or and

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<v Speaker 1>be like y'a only had any double dick? How you

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<v Speaker 1>was anyone born in two thousand one? Can you believe

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<v Speaker 1>that you can be twenty years old born in two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand one? Graduate? Oh my god, I don't want no,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know how old is that? Again? I'm not bag.

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to take back my tape, pick the

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<v Speaker 1>dick up. My so old, and I don't think like

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<v Speaker 1>I was really moist over ron Eisley during that goddamn yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I know he ate, but I was like dealing with

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<v Speaker 1>old niggas now. And my man was like, I am

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<v Speaker 1>not eighty white. He looked good at his clothes, but

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<v Speaker 1>just imagine what he probably got, the droopy skin, ye eight,

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<v Speaker 1>what he probably had a tummy. I really want to

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<v Speaker 1>and he's not even that old. Coma Obama too. Um sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, the horrid derve. Okay, we're gonna start with

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<v Speaker 1>card again. I'm sorry. Eddn texted me in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of this, Hey, can you move her mike closer to her?

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<v Speaker 1>And then he said card again, But it is I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna like you get on horrible decisions the girls

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest with and we got our moms. Wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute, what might jacket look like? What good? It's fire?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it couci? It was just the first I can notice.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, it's a it's like a varsity that's what

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<v Speaker 1>it's said on the website. But it's a blazer CARDI yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going with more of a blazer anyway. Bitch, what's

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<v Speaker 1>your sex to you? Making niggas will out over you say?

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<v Speaker 1>Gotta be good. So we talked about this is like yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So when we got the message, I'm like, my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>thing is like, I can I'm pretty flexible for a

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<v Speaker 1>chunky girl. But you put your knees all the way back,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, over your head on the bed. But I

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<v Speaker 1>can literally suck dick with my pussy will it in? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>You got keg extracides, Like when the lights are red,

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<v Speaker 1>start doing your keg. You use your kegoes to grip

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<v Speaker 1>and really push. I could suck dick with my pussy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's you win. I mean I could do it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I cheat a little bit. I clenched my butt

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<v Speaker 1>cheeks together because then it tighted my pussy. The same

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<v Speaker 1>thing when your asses, you know, contracting asshole likes. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not a real keigo. I don't give an if it's

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<v Speaker 1>real effect bit it work get the same good. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's just because, like when people clench their ass

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not sure how to do kegels, you just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're tightening everything, but you're just tensing it

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<v Speaker 1>up really, and that's fine. No, one's not many why

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<v Speaker 1>because then it makes it does make me pussy tighter

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<v Speaker 1>because I could grip it. He came move it when

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<v Speaker 1>I do, when I push it out, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>whole pussy be tight. I never want to see that again.

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<v Speaker 1>Even I was like, I feel like that man is

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Jackson. Now what about you, my love. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if this is a real tip for y'all, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just learned this recently. So when I'm giving head,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't just grab the dick. I grabbed behind the balls,

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<v Speaker 1>like to do the balls together, the balls and the

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<v Speaker 1>dick together. Oh, I love doing that. You'll be doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>and even if it's too big, you just like put

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<v Speaker 1>your tongue down there like you're getting the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, and then I push it all the way

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<v Speaker 1>to the back of my throat, so I create so

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<v Speaker 1>much fit like that. You know, it's a different type

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<v Speaker 1>of mucusa. I had a nig and clear my whole sinuses.

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<v Speaker 1>Really not, I just started coming out of my nose.

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<v Speaker 1>To further, you're the COVID if you need to. You're

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<v Speaker 1>positive COVID results, You're like, oh, it's all and it

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<v Speaker 1>started drinking all. It's not just started, yes, because that

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<v Speaker 1>means there's an infection. You imagine if it goes in

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<v Speaker 1>like the dick hole and the dick ends up getting

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<v Speaker 1>like codd Oh my god, what is happening? What do

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<v Speaker 1>you mean the dick hole gets COVID? Honestly, I smoke

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<v Speaker 1>to meck out here. I don't know what I'm saying. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that don't happen. My man went on all my holes

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<v Speaker 1>while I was positive, and he tested negative the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>That's lovely. So yeah, I don't think it's transmitted through

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<v Speaker 1>your COVID. So let's get into it. First hot take

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<v Speaker 1>from We Talked Back. I loved the title of this

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<v Speaker 1>is the White Grass Greener y'all had an E said

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<v Speaker 1>about interracial relationships and talking about how you think there

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<v Speaker 1>may be beneficialness from dating someone white or with a

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<v Speaker 1>woman being worried. Tell me about that if y'all ever

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<v Speaker 1>dated a white dude. First off, this is a motherfucking chilly,

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<v Speaker 1>freezing as cold ass take. Hey, y'all really are you're

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<v Speaker 1>sitting the colonizers? Maybe maybe greener on that side? No,

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<v Speaker 1>we were asking were everyone is green? Up? Yeah? Because

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't want y'all on clubhouse right not number Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So a couple of weeks ago, it was a whole

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<v Speaker 1>big thing about black women like leaving the black community,

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<v Speaker 1>like only fucking with white men. So that's why we

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<v Speaker 1>had the whole discussion because I'm not with that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not into pink dick. I'll jump on one again

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<v Speaker 1>at some point, but it doesn't mean married, you're gonna stay.

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<v Speaker 1>Not my life talk. It's not what I wanted. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I will say I don't like colonizers very well, But

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<v Speaker 1>but I will say eve Serena Williams, they do seem

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<v Speaker 1>happy with their partners. Cassie her Man is fine for football.

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<v Speaker 1>He has a black Travis count Now that's like na

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<v Speaker 1>they got they gotta get a fade, like like white

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<v Speaker 1>boys like that. Because then to me, it's like like

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<v Speaker 1>all my white home girls that I have put some boys,

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<v Speaker 1>they're real white girls. They don't like try to assist me.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't be on it. I don't fuck white girls

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<v Speaker 1>like that. I don't like. I never liked that. I

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<v Speaker 1>find it to just be like you're almost making fun

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<v Speaker 1>of me. Like when I say nigga, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, girl, you're crazy, like they want to know.

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<v Speaker 1>But well, white boys that do that, I don't that either,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know when I leave and you turn the

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<v Speaker 1>music up, you'd be like me and all my niggas,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't do that. I don't really care nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>When no black people around they saying nigga in the song,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom would never if your mamma no better, you're

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<v Speaker 1>not there and you black, you black? If you're not,

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<v Speaker 1>she still knows not we're talking about. When the song

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<v Speaker 1>is and they're listening, you think they're not gonna relate

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<v Speaker 1>you even if because like think about the white people

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<v Speaker 1>that never have a nigga's slip you. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know how hard never nigga? Yeah, I've never. My

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<v Speaker 1>white friends haven't had one around me, so I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like if they haven't, there's no way they're saying that,

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<v Speaker 1>because why that's my one I try nothing song. You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna just cut out one word in the song you're

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<v Speaker 1>vibing in your house. You gotta get you're feeling real

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<v Speaker 1>black in the moment. Yes, yes, and you're gonna not

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<v Speaker 1>saying nigga because no niggas are around to hear you. Wait, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not gonna enough. My god, that movie could have

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<v Speaker 1>never came out to this, like why that thing isn't ablematic?

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<v Speaker 1>I was watching it like this really was like the

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<v Speaker 1>Ship And if you like I missed that, bro, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna watch the movie and be like you're gonna look

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<v Speaker 1>around like you and trouble watching it? Bro, I remember it?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you be bad that you laugh at the ship?

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<v Speaker 1>You laugh? That was problematic? And okay, kids, I'm sticking

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<v Speaker 1>at ship too. I just watched The Wedding Planner and

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<v Speaker 1>me and my woke ship. I was like, they made

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<v Speaker 1>her Italian. She's clearly Latina. I was like I was

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<v Speaker 1>on Twitter, It's like I cannot believe this, and she

0:25:43.480 --> 0:25:45.159
<v Speaker 1>agreed to it. But it's like I was, where you

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get baby, That's why you don't like her saying

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<v Speaker 1>the N word. J Loo says, Nigga, Oh yeah, yeah, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>that fun name. I remembers my thing. This is why

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<v Speaker 1>I want to have a policy black. It's the culture.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not necessarily a nature nation of people. So black

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<v Speaker 1>is like a culture. So she probably feels like she's

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<v Speaker 1>of the black culture. So she can say naked. But

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't say that if white people are saying it

0:26:10.760 --> 0:26:14.159
<v Speaker 1>and they grew up in a hood. No, well, I

0:26:14.160 --> 0:26:16.399
<v Speaker 1>don't know. That's why I don't think black. Black is

0:26:16.440 --> 0:26:19.440
<v Speaker 1>not a culture, bro? What is it is a culture?

0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:23.199
<v Speaker 1>It's color. It's definitely a color. You have Africans who

0:26:23.200 --> 0:26:25.439
<v Speaker 1>don't consider themselves just black. I mean I think that

0:26:25.440 --> 0:26:27.720
<v Speaker 1>that's why even when they we have, well, when we

0:26:27.760 --> 0:26:30.080
<v Speaker 1>have the in word discussion, and I know Kyrie Irving

0:26:30.160 --> 0:26:32.320
<v Speaker 1>just came out and doesn't want it to even be reclaimed,

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:35.119
<v Speaker 1>He's like, we need to completely stop saying it. I

0:26:35.160 --> 0:26:37.600
<v Speaker 1>think that's why even using the term black, I like

0:26:37.720 --> 0:26:41.240
<v Speaker 1>to dissect it as just African American. I don't like

0:26:41.280 --> 0:26:44.760
<v Speaker 1>African American. I like to but I like to add

0:26:44.840 --> 0:26:50.679
<v Speaker 1>that that's interesting that you're like, I don't. But to me,

0:26:52.000 --> 0:26:55.600
<v Speaker 1>there has to be an American, just an American. That's

0:26:55.640 --> 0:26:58.440
<v Speaker 1>what I feel like. Yeah, but I feel like Black Americans.

0:26:58.480 --> 0:27:00.400
<v Speaker 1>If you want to take out the African, then Black

0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:06.240
<v Speaker 1>Americans have such a different um I think, experienced, experienced

0:27:06.280 --> 0:27:10.440
<v Speaker 1>culture from everybody in the world, even blacks from Africa.

0:27:10.560 --> 0:27:14.200
<v Speaker 1>Blacks from the Africa then just don't consider themselves black.

0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:19.479
<v Speaker 1>They're Nigerian, They're but you understand it because there's no

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:23.160
<v Speaker 1>one against right, we need to identify ourselves so much

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:25.719
<v Speaker 1>because the person in the room're gonna look like us

0:27:25.880 --> 0:27:27.840
<v Speaker 1>nine out of ten, right, I think what percent of

0:27:27.880 --> 0:27:32.159
<v Speaker 1>the population is black? That's sucking insane. Soto finding what

0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:35.720
<v Speaker 1>you're you know, checking your genealogy, talking to the elders

0:27:35.720 --> 0:27:37.720
<v Speaker 1>in your family, and figuring out who the funk you are.

0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:41.120
<v Speaker 1>So like, I'm from Charleston, South Carolina, where Geichy people.

0:27:41.160 --> 0:27:44.760
<v Speaker 1>There's a whole Indian indigenous tribe o Geeche Indians. So

0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:46.640
<v Speaker 1>white people have a way of telling you a lie

0:27:46.720 --> 0:27:48.880
<v Speaker 1>and the truth at the same time, so you can't

0:27:48.920 --> 0:27:52.159
<v Speaker 1>depend on them for your primary research. We're trying to

0:27:52.160 --> 0:27:53.719
<v Speaker 1>figure out who the funk you are so that you're

0:27:53.720 --> 0:27:56.879
<v Speaker 1>not just calling yourself black because Negro was on the

0:27:57.000 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 1>census up until so what are you? I don't want

0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:02.320
<v Speaker 1>to be black. I don't want to be African American.

0:28:02.400 --> 0:28:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I definitely don't want to be Negro. Figure out who

0:28:05.080 --> 0:28:07.160
<v Speaker 1>the funk you are as a nation of people if

0:28:07.160 --> 0:28:09.560
<v Speaker 1>you want. So, we're going the whole right, and we're

0:28:09.560 --> 0:28:20.600
<v Speaker 1>going to do we want to get Yeah, yeah, black ass.

0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:23.399
<v Speaker 1>Floyd or need you love? The political with your line

0:28:23.480 --> 0:28:27.480
<v Speaker 1>has talked about I don't want to be you want

0:28:27.480 --> 0:28:31.160
<v Speaker 1>to be politically correct. Okay, let's get into some fun.

0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:33.199
<v Speaker 1>You have to beat people to funk up. That's what

0:28:33.240 --> 0:28:37.679
<v Speaker 1>I want. Doesn't heal? Is what you said? Um, and

0:28:37.720 --> 0:28:39.240
<v Speaker 1>this is the clip. This is how I found We

0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:42.120
<v Speaker 1>talked back and literally I think my Instagram just like

0:28:42.120 --> 0:28:44.840
<v Speaker 1>when Ho pops up and I'm just like, oh, just

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:48.000
<v Speaker 1>say you all. It goes right to me. But let's

0:28:48.040 --> 0:28:50.280
<v Speaker 1>play your clip. Let's see a Friday here we go.

0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:54.360
<v Speaker 1>Does not heal because at the end of the day,

0:28:54.880 --> 0:28:57.880
<v Speaker 1>you're just letting somebody else use your vagina, you know,

0:28:58.040 --> 0:29:02.680
<v Speaker 1>so you gotta stop thinking about your vagina using it.

0:29:02.680 --> 0:29:05.200
<v Speaker 1>It's yours, so you use it how you want to.

0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:07.440
<v Speaker 1>You don't let them use it. You use their dick,

0:29:07.680 --> 0:29:11.920
<v Speaker 1>not use your vagina. But you literally let somebody go

0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:16.080
<v Speaker 1>inside your body, right, So because you choose it though,

0:29:16.160 --> 0:29:18.520
<v Speaker 1>because you choose it, you take you when you said

0:29:18.520 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 1>when choose that day giving them power over your vagina. No,

0:29:22.120 --> 0:29:24.600
<v Speaker 1>your vagina has the power and you're using it how

0:29:24.680 --> 0:29:27.000
<v Speaker 1>you know. Let's say you're going through a breakup and

0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:30.720
<v Speaker 1>it's over. Sometimes that a v dick is like good

0:29:30.760 --> 0:29:36.400
<v Speaker 1>to get through and just people after this breakup, as

0:29:36.400 --> 0:29:39.120
<v Speaker 1>long as you're doing it responsibly and safe. You know,

0:29:39.240 --> 0:29:43.040
<v Speaker 1>you're a grown woman. I don't agree with transferring energy

0:29:43.120 --> 0:29:45.920
<v Speaker 1>like that with so many people, but if you decide

0:29:45.960 --> 0:29:49.400
<v Speaker 1>to do that, that's your prerogative. I'm not mad. So

0:29:50.520 --> 0:29:53.840
<v Speaker 1>it went on, but yeah, I would say, do you

0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:57.640
<v Speaker 1>not think that to get over somebody getting under someone

0:29:57.680 --> 0:29:59.560
<v Speaker 1>is do you think that's completely not true? Let's talk

0:29:59.560 --> 0:30:02.040
<v Speaker 1>about that like this really not hell. I feel like

0:30:02.040 --> 0:30:05.000
<v Speaker 1>it's possible, it's possible to get with somebody to get over,

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:08.320
<v Speaker 1>but I think it's more important to me, Like I

0:30:08.360 --> 0:30:10.520
<v Speaker 1>want you to pitching me rolling like on some tupaction

0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:13.200
<v Speaker 1>when we break up. I want to be looking better,

0:30:13.280 --> 0:30:14.960
<v Speaker 1>I want to have more money. I want to be

0:30:15.120 --> 0:30:18.320
<v Speaker 1>driving nice when you see me. Can just sucking a

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:23.080
<v Speaker 1>naken do that if he is, get you a new

0:30:23.160 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 1>car and more money, and like, it's not everyone can

0:30:27.040 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 1>just level up after a breakup. A lot of people

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:33.800
<v Speaker 1>combine households or combined incomes and really go through shipped

0:30:33.840 --> 0:30:36.360
<v Speaker 1>together that when a breakup happens. Sure you can go

0:30:36.400 --> 0:30:39.040
<v Speaker 1>get a haircut, Sure you can go take a picture

0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:42.440
<v Speaker 1>in some lingerie. But the idea that you're speaking of

0:30:42.680 --> 0:30:45.560
<v Speaker 1>after a breakup short you can level up inside. But

0:30:45.600 --> 0:30:48.480
<v Speaker 1>the idea that after I break up, I'm leveling up

0:30:48.480 --> 0:30:50.440
<v Speaker 1>by getting a new car. Maybe No, that's not what

0:30:50.480 --> 0:30:55.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. So and the breakup I'm comusing on it

0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:57.320
<v Speaker 1>doesn't have to do with another with a man me

0:30:57.440 --> 0:31:01.320
<v Speaker 1>jumping on somebody else days something that need to handle internally.

0:31:01.840 --> 0:31:04.440
<v Speaker 1>This is fine because I don't know the first thing.

0:31:04.440 --> 0:31:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I've been thinking about it like it's somebody else after

0:31:08.040 --> 0:31:10.760
<v Speaker 1>the breaking evening. Sometimes I don't I just be like yo,

0:31:10.840 --> 0:31:12.720
<v Speaker 1>I need to get que I need to go out

0:31:12.760 --> 0:31:15.000
<v Speaker 1>and I need to have somebody else be all because

0:31:15.080 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 1>generally in a breakup, I'm feeling so worthless, right even

0:31:18.720 --> 0:31:20.160
<v Speaker 1>if I'm the one who does it, I'm like, damn,

0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:24.840
<v Speaker 1>something's making me feel not invalid invalidated. But you know

0:31:24.880 --> 0:31:33.120
<v Speaker 1>what I'm trying to say, like invalidated devalidated. Deal. Yeah. Now,

0:31:33.120 --> 0:31:35.880
<v Speaker 1>whether that's healthy or not, I already know something y'all

0:31:36.120 --> 0:31:38.040
<v Speaker 1>feel like it isn't, But I'm not going First, I

0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:40.080
<v Speaker 1>do like going on a date and like, yes, I

0:31:40.160 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 1>love that you didn't compliment last time I was with you,

0:31:43.080 --> 0:31:45.880
<v Speaker 1>and then that's not fucking oh no. But I'm like

0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:49.680
<v Speaker 1>I depend on and they're like fucking to me. It's

0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:52.280
<v Speaker 1>exciting and fun, and I love those first experience as

0:31:52.280 --> 0:31:54.280
<v Speaker 1>a sucking someone new, Like, don't get me wrong, I'm

0:31:54.320 --> 0:31:55.960
<v Speaker 1>a sucking the same nickel for a long time, but

0:31:56.040 --> 0:32:00.680
<v Speaker 1>new dick do be like yeah, yeah. And I think

0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:06.120
<v Speaker 1>that sometimes sex can bring intimacy and exciting excitement that

0:32:06.160 --> 0:32:07.920
<v Speaker 1>you haven't felt in a while, especially when you've been

0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:10.480
<v Speaker 1>down in the dumps with somebody. Break clubs are rough,

0:32:10.560 --> 0:32:12.760
<v Speaker 1>especially when you've been used to sucking one person. It

0:32:12.880 --> 0:32:14.680
<v Speaker 1>is nice for someone else to see you naked for

0:32:14.680 --> 0:32:16.800
<v Speaker 1>the first time and feel sexy again. A lot of

0:32:16.840 --> 0:32:19.480
<v Speaker 1>women may have some body image issues in a in

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:21.800
<v Speaker 1>a breakup right, not feeling good about that. When someone

0:32:21.840 --> 0:32:24.560
<v Speaker 1>new funcks you, they just be like, damn every beautiful yo.

0:32:24.800 --> 0:32:27.040
<v Speaker 1>My mom's like, oh didn't I don't give a funk.

0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:30.520
<v Speaker 1>They'd be ready Garfield, you know what I mean, let

0:32:30.560 --> 0:32:35.280
<v Speaker 1>me get that. Now tell me what y'all think. Have

0:32:35.320 --> 0:32:37.640
<v Speaker 1>you ever fucked and it went the opposite away or

0:32:37.640 --> 0:32:40.600
<v Speaker 1>it didn't heal you or something. I mean I brought

0:32:40.680 --> 0:32:42.880
<v Speaker 1>up when all of my friends break up or have

0:32:42.920 --> 0:32:44.920
<v Speaker 1>a heartbreak, I'll be the first be like, girl, let

0:32:44.920 --> 0:32:47.080
<v Speaker 1>me get you a new nigga. Right, let's have some

0:32:47.160 --> 0:32:52.880
<v Speaker 1>fun service. You sent me some way. Yeah, it was

0:32:52.960 --> 0:32:59.080
<v Speaker 1>like Ubert did. I was like, I know a guy

0:32:57.040 --> 0:33:02.960
<v Speaker 1>and what was that? Wait? Wait, I grew up and

0:33:02.960 --> 0:33:05.880
<v Speaker 1>now I just get my friends flute out and that's

0:33:05.920 --> 0:33:11.600
<v Speaker 1>kind of cool. But wait, you you hubered? You just okay?

0:33:11.600 --> 0:33:13.280
<v Speaker 1>Wait was this the guy that you had that you

0:33:13.360 --> 0:33:16.600
<v Speaker 1>had had sex with previously? Yeah? I mean figure if

0:33:16.640 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 1>you knew it was good? Wait, so you now that's

0:33:19.840 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 1>the t for the man listening you. I used to

0:33:26.080 --> 0:33:28.120
<v Speaker 1>tell you y'all never did that before, like, Dan, girl,

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 1>you should this nigga? Yeah, actually done when I'm over one.

0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:34.560
<v Speaker 1>Even when I was seven, Like if he would travel,

0:33:34.560 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I would be like I would tell my friend, like, girl,

0:33:37.640 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 1>this nigga in your city. It's good. You won't I mean,

0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:44.760
<v Speaker 1>And I think even now with my partner, it's more

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:47.280
<v Speaker 1>like you want to join this. I'm trying to think

0:33:47.440 --> 0:33:48.880
<v Speaker 1>I do this with three sons all the time, but

0:33:48.920 --> 0:33:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I did used to do it. Yeah, I have so

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:56.560
<v Speaker 1>wait a second, So you did he know that you

0:33:56.600 --> 0:33:59.720
<v Speaker 1>were sending him? Yeah? I say hey, I said, oh,

0:34:00.120 --> 0:34:01.959
<v Speaker 1>we're literally on the phone. I'm like, hold on, let

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:05.160
<v Speaker 1>me texting. I was texting. I ain't gonna say when

0:34:05.160 --> 0:34:12.640
<v Speaker 1>he was always take what was that text message? Like?

0:34:12.760 --> 0:34:18.400
<v Speaker 1>What you doing? You busy? I got for you? I

0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:22.160
<v Speaker 1>was like, girl, I need to get fucked. Shut the

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:26.799
<v Speaker 1>fun over he was keeping. I was like, So when

0:34:26.800 --> 0:34:28.200
<v Speaker 1>she said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,

0:34:28.239 --> 0:34:30.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm nervous now because I was like doing girl, do it.

0:34:30.719 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>And then when he said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,

0:34:34.000 --> 0:34:37.319
<v Speaker 1>stranger is about to come over. Here? Was it good? Dick?

0:34:37.480 --> 0:34:46.360
<v Speaker 1>It was dick to get wasted like all right. So

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:48.359
<v Speaker 1>when he came he came in, he was nervous too,

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:50.759
<v Speaker 1>So that made me a little bit less nervous because

0:34:50.760 --> 0:34:52.279
<v Speaker 1>he didn't just come in there like, hey, pull your

0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:55.400
<v Speaker 1>pussy out right now. He wasn't like that. So we

0:34:55.480 --> 0:34:57.759
<v Speaker 1>smoked and were drink and I got to know. I mean,

0:34:57.760 --> 0:35:00.560
<v Speaker 1>he seemed like he had good morals and nice man

0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:04.759
<v Speaker 1>like rooms. Yes, he was a nice just the dick

0:35:04.880 --> 0:35:09.920
<v Speaker 1>over to her house and he's an African Muslim. I

0:35:10.000 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 1>learned about we're talking. We talked about right now, like

0:35:15.040 --> 0:35:16.640
<v Speaker 1>you are so me like before I want to get

0:35:16.680 --> 0:35:18.200
<v Speaker 1>sloppy on the jack, I'd be like no, but like

0:35:18.280 --> 0:35:22.640
<v Speaker 1>I too, like love crystals and stuff. And then there's

0:35:22.640 --> 0:35:25.160
<v Speaker 1>no cork in my fridge. We're gonna have a great time.

0:35:25.640 --> 0:35:29.359
<v Speaker 1>Exactly what did happen? How long did y'all connect before

0:35:29.400 --> 0:35:31.799
<v Speaker 1>y'all started? It was like maybe an hour and a half.

0:35:31.840 --> 0:35:34.680
<v Speaker 1>We said yeah and just smoked and I learned about

0:35:34.680 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 1>his family and Africa and his education. We talked about

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:40.239
<v Speaker 1>a lot of stuff before and then and then he's

0:35:40.280 --> 0:35:42.400
<v Speaker 1>like used the bathroom. He went in the bathroom, and

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:43.799
<v Speaker 1>I went in the room and got naked. So when

0:35:43.800 --> 0:35:45.239
<v Speaker 1>he came out, of the bathroom, was like, come in here,

0:35:45.840 --> 0:35:49.080
<v Speaker 1>and that's how it happened. And but yeah, he just

0:35:49.920 --> 0:35:52.759
<v Speaker 1>in the nigger for the next four days. I'm like,

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:57.120
<v Speaker 1>you dick off. Do you like him? You looked at

0:35:57.120 --> 0:36:00.880
<v Speaker 1>that cooking for him within a week, sitting her pictures

0:36:00.880 --> 0:36:06.120
<v Speaker 1>of us and having champagne and Sammy child. You know what,

0:36:06.160 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 1>this made me think of Mandy and I so much

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:10.560
<v Speaker 1>because I went through a breakup and me and he

0:36:10.600 --> 0:36:13.520
<v Speaker 1>looked me up with this dude. I flew we fucked.

0:36:13.560 --> 0:36:15.239
<v Speaker 1>But we have been talking for a while because I

0:36:15.239 --> 0:36:18.680
<v Speaker 1>was really nervous after that. The next time he was

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:20.799
<v Speaker 1>coming to Orlando, was staying at my house. He's watching

0:36:20.880 --> 0:36:23.480
<v Speaker 1>my She was like, you're not supposed to do this, right?

0:36:23.520 --> 0:36:27.040
<v Speaker 1>We like this watch? I was like, I know that,

0:36:27.200 --> 0:36:29.840
<v Speaker 1>Like we're She was wiping the up. What are you

0:36:29.960 --> 0:36:34.800
<v Speaker 1>doing in the work. He didn't leave me some African sandals.

0:36:34.840 --> 0:36:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I was sitting me to aj with my African sandals, like, Ben,

0:36:42.120 --> 0:36:46.800
<v Speaker 1>you got got me some gifts? Like why videos? You

0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 1>know what? No? I actually him back to the streets.

0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:55.120
<v Speaker 1>He started getting to but she was cooking, like no

0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:57.880
<v Speaker 1>relationship relationships? Why he was cooking for him? Then we

0:36:57.920 --> 0:37:05.120
<v Speaker 1>had to eat all right, work upside South Carolina. So

0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:07.719
<v Speaker 1>what is this cheating episode you guys have? What is

0:37:07.760 --> 0:37:09.759
<v Speaker 1>that common theme you learned from the episode? Tell us

0:37:09.800 --> 0:37:12.160
<v Speaker 1>about this cheating episode you guys did our first episode

0:37:12.200 --> 0:37:14.000
<v Speaker 1>it said with three men you did it with? Yeah,

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:17.160
<v Speaker 1>tell us about that cheaters? What is the cheaters? Never win?

0:37:17.239 --> 0:37:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Winners never cheat? So we had, yeah, a couple of

0:37:20.680 --> 0:37:23.279
<v Speaker 1>guys calling and basically tell why are the reasons why

0:37:23.320 --> 0:37:25.600
<v Speaker 1>they chat? Because I feel like women need a reason.

0:37:25.760 --> 0:37:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Men just need a time and a place to get

0:37:27.760 --> 0:37:31.600
<v Speaker 1>that pussy. So, yeah, opportunities. So we wanted to find out,

0:37:31.640 --> 0:37:36.479
<v Speaker 1>like why they cheat? Um, what gives you permission to cheat?

0:37:36.640 --> 0:37:38.720
<v Speaker 1>What you find out? That's that's how you said, everyone,

0:37:39.840 --> 0:37:45.480
<v Speaker 1>That's how we found out. The Witness Protection ship over

0:37:45.520 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 1>their voice so they could be you know, candidate. Yeah,

0:37:49.000 --> 0:37:50.880
<v Speaker 1>so they could be honest and they just told a

0:37:50.920 --> 0:37:54.439
<v Speaker 1>ship we already knew honestly. Then. So the first guy

0:37:54.600 --> 0:37:57.799
<v Speaker 1>was a younger guy and he was like, uh in

0:37:57.840 --> 0:38:01.719
<v Speaker 1>the music industry. He had like money and he was

0:38:01.760 --> 0:38:04.920
<v Speaker 1>taking care of two different women. His man girl was

0:38:04.960 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 1>like thirty one of traveler nurse and he said she

0:38:07.719 --> 0:38:09.880
<v Speaker 1>was boring and then he had a twenty four year

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 1>old fashionyone is young. First off, Ye, you know my

0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:22.040
<v Speaker 1>pussy snap different now that I'm thirty. I ain't gonna

0:38:22.080 --> 0:38:28.080
<v Speaker 1>hold you. It'd be snapping brow. That's the rest tap

0:38:28.120 --> 0:38:30.760
<v Speaker 1>of baby. When I tell you I thought my pussy

0:38:30.840 --> 0:38:37.640
<v Speaker 1>was women, when you get real like up god, I'm

0:38:37.680 --> 0:38:39.920
<v Speaker 1>not gonna like, I will say what you just said.

0:38:39.960 --> 0:38:42.120
<v Speaker 1>I think we've talked about women do cheat as well,

0:38:42.440 --> 0:38:45.120
<v Speaker 1>and I think that to be very fair, we get

0:38:45.160 --> 0:38:47.719
<v Speaker 1>opportunity as well, and sometimes we don't have to have

0:38:47.760 --> 0:38:50.040
<v Speaker 1>a reason. That's why I think hohen hills because when

0:38:50.040 --> 0:38:52.239
<v Speaker 1>you cheat, you just be that nigga like probably is

0:38:52.280 --> 0:38:54.600
<v Speaker 1>emotionally not filling you up, and you're like, you know what.

0:38:54.960 --> 0:39:00.479
<v Speaker 1>Some it may not be emotional, but it could also

0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:03.520
<v Speaker 1>be sexually. Maybe I'm not being pleased sexually when I cheating,

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:05.960
<v Speaker 1>when actually I I'm ready to leave. I lit a

0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:08.120
<v Speaker 1>naked cheating please and be himself in peace and tell

0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:09.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm really ready to get the fun you believe in

0:39:09.840 --> 0:39:15.680
<v Speaker 1>that respectfully. Cheating, Yes, yes, that's a making myself unhappy

0:39:15.800 --> 0:39:19.600
<v Speaker 1>or hurting my own feelings, But isn't not just ignoring it.

0:39:19.920 --> 0:39:23.960
<v Speaker 1>That's just ignoring it. That's because something you don't know about.

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:26.319
<v Speaker 1>How you ignoring it if you're not if you out

0:39:26.360 --> 0:39:29.680
<v Speaker 1>here searching for it, going through, but you're telling me

0:39:29.719 --> 0:39:34.480
<v Speaker 1>if you think he's cheating, you choose not to look. Oh,

0:39:36.960 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about before the phone is just there.

0:39:39.880 --> 0:39:42.440
<v Speaker 1>You genuinely feel like this person next to you is

0:39:43.000 --> 0:39:45.759
<v Speaker 1>I have been in the phone maybe twice in life. Okay,

0:39:45.800 --> 0:39:47.120
<v Speaker 1>you know the phone. You're gonna find all this ship

0:39:47.160 --> 0:39:49.160
<v Speaker 1>you want to see? No girls in black pad and

0:39:49.200 --> 0:39:54.920
<v Speaker 1>the emails I had boyfriend iPad logged in when he

0:39:54.960 --> 0:39:57.520
<v Speaker 1>went to prison, back when you know, you just watch

0:39:57.640 --> 0:39:59.720
<v Speaker 1>movies and ship. So he had to go to practice.

0:40:00.560 --> 0:40:03.319
<v Speaker 1>Left iPad the movie we were watching. As soon as

0:40:03.400 --> 0:40:06.120
<v Speaker 1>he left, went straight to the emails. There was a

0:40:06.320 --> 0:40:08.600
<v Speaker 1>car service for a bit and the next city he

0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:11.120
<v Speaker 1>was going to. Oh, I did the name and everything? Shame?

0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:13.520
<v Speaker 1>Did you tell him? So? Of course I didn't tell him.

0:40:13.520 --> 0:40:15.720
<v Speaker 1>I found out. I say, you know, I know everything,

0:40:15.800 --> 0:40:18.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, I got eyes everything, But I didn't exactly

0:40:18.960 --> 0:40:21.719
<v Speaker 1>what you know? He found. I told him later down

0:40:21.760 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 1>the line That's how I knew. But other than that,

0:40:24.000 --> 0:40:25.680
<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, I keep it. You know how many

0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:32.719
<v Speaker 1>people I know? I knew everything because I have a question.

0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:35.040
<v Speaker 1>So cheating is a deal breaker for you, it's not.

0:40:35.640 --> 0:40:38.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean, but we're not monogamous in our relationship. We

0:40:38.880 --> 0:40:41.120
<v Speaker 1>had a show with open relationships as well. I saw

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:45.040
<v Speaker 1>that you had Polly marriage um as one of the

0:40:45.160 --> 0:40:47.040
<v Speaker 1>things that Dwayne left for us about your show. But

0:40:47.200 --> 0:40:49.080
<v Speaker 1>I do want to talk about the differences with that. Yeah,

0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:51.479
<v Speaker 1>talk about that. So we had a guy on the show,

0:40:51.680 --> 0:40:54.440
<v Speaker 1>Dylan Dylan Lane. He's a guy he does in Charlotte

0:40:54.800 --> 0:41:03.880
<v Speaker 1>Lane Lane. Okay, Okay, yeah, Brot, that's the old that's

0:41:04.000 --> 0:41:07.840
<v Speaker 1>only an Asian last name. Ling. Maybe it could be

0:41:08.480 --> 0:41:18.680
<v Speaker 1>Italians Italian? What do you said, Ling? I'm like, damn, maybe,

0:41:18.680 --> 0:41:20.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say. I used to get mad

0:41:20.120 --> 0:41:21.719
<v Speaker 1>they used to tell me I was Spanish because they

0:41:21.719 --> 0:41:24.120
<v Speaker 1>said Amanda is actually a Spanish name. And I was like,

0:41:24.239 --> 0:41:28.040
<v Speaker 1>bro it's white and it's Amanda, and I also Amanda

0:41:28.120 --> 0:41:31.160
<v Speaker 1>the panda. That's Florida Hospital mascot. Okay, that's where I

0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:34.400
<v Speaker 1>got my fame. You're fucking serious. My mom put in,

0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:36.759
<v Speaker 1>then my middle name is my cousin's name. Zero thought

0:41:36.800 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 1>into my name as if I didn't come after two abortions,

0:41:39.840 --> 0:41:43.000
<v Speaker 1>I should have really had a real name. Your name

0:41:43.120 --> 0:41:47.120
<v Speaker 1>is after the hospital, the hospital mascot, and and my

0:41:47.200 --> 0:41:50.080
<v Speaker 1>middle name is my cousins. All I could think of

0:41:50.239 --> 0:41:53.439
<v Speaker 1>it's Tammy. Who's her mother's name? My mama, like, damn,

0:41:53.480 --> 0:42:01.560
<v Speaker 1>we gotta name it right, baby, literal nigh and just

0:42:01.680 --> 0:42:08.080
<v Speaker 1>walked back the man. That's how I command Amanda depends.

0:42:11.040 --> 0:42:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Are you serious? I'm not lying at Florida Hospital, the

0:42:14.760 --> 0:42:20.440
<v Speaker 1>mascot is Amanda the panda. Damn, y'all are laughing because

0:42:20.480 --> 0:42:24.800
<v Speaker 1>my name means it actually means love. That is what

0:42:25.000 --> 0:42:28.680
<v Speaker 1>my my my name means love. Now you've been rejecting

0:42:28.719 --> 0:42:32.160
<v Speaker 1>it until you turn thirty, man, but now I love

0:42:32.280 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 1>y'all love anyway, though, hold on, I'm trying to find

0:42:37.239 --> 0:42:41.200
<v Speaker 1>the panda. It's just a bunch of Caucasians. I'll find.

0:42:41.239 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 1>I have my mama show you the birth. So we

0:42:43.160 --> 0:42:44.920
<v Speaker 1>got an open relationship. So we had a guy on

0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:48.480
<v Speaker 1>he's in a five year relationship and they've been married

0:42:48.520 --> 0:42:51.040
<v Speaker 1>for two years since two or three years away in

0:42:51.120 --> 0:42:54.920
<v Speaker 1>an open relationship, and he went through the different steps, um,

0:42:55.440 --> 0:42:57.520
<v Speaker 1>the different things that they went through, the different ways

0:42:57.560 --> 0:42:59.239
<v Speaker 1>they did the open relationship. So first it was like

0:42:59.320 --> 0:43:02.040
<v Speaker 1>don't ask on. And then second they had like this

0:43:02.200 --> 0:43:04.839
<v Speaker 1>thing called church, which was like calendar that they would

0:43:04.840 --> 0:43:09.800
<v Speaker 1>put on like when me too, I like church, but

0:43:09.880 --> 0:43:13.160
<v Speaker 1>they didn't. They hated like church because it was passive

0:43:13.200 --> 0:43:16.400
<v Speaker 1>aggressive for this. Yeah, I could see that, And so

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:18.759
<v Speaker 1>he just basically got to the point to where he's saying, like,

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:21.320
<v Speaker 1>having an open relationship with your partner makes it easy

0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:23.919
<v Speaker 1>to communicate with anybody in the world, Like you don't

0:43:23.960 --> 0:43:25.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, you don't liking your job. You could talk

0:43:25.600 --> 0:43:27.080
<v Speaker 1>to your boss like listen, you're not paying me enough,

0:43:27.080 --> 0:43:29.319
<v Speaker 1>bitch or whatever. The only thing that I know open

0:43:29.360 --> 0:43:33.839
<v Speaker 1>relationship has done that. I would say, Um, it's counteractive

0:43:34.280 --> 0:43:36.479
<v Speaker 1>with what I expected to happen, and it's okay because

0:43:36.520 --> 0:43:40.480
<v Speaker 1>we work through it. But it's blurred some lines because

0:43:41.040 --> 0:43:45.160
<v Speaker 1>through non monogamy. Um, for example, I want to know everything,

0:43:45.280 --> 0:43:47.439
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to ship, you know what I'm saying.

0:43:47.480 --> 0:43:49.000
<v Speaker 1>So when you have a nigga that lets you funk

0:43:49.080 --> 0:43:51.640
<v Speaker 1>the niggas but wants to know nothing, um, and you

0:43:51.680 --> 0:43:53.719
<v Speaker 1>want to know everything, then he's kind of like, yo,

0:43:53.800 --> 0:43:56.920
<v Speaker 1>but I don't ask you questions, you know what I mean? UM.

0:43:57.040 --> 0:43:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I think the other issue is like the things that

0:43:59.200 --> 0:44:02.080
<v Speaker 1>may make me angry. He gets very confused about why

0:44:02.120 --> 0:44:03.880
<v Speaker 1>do you want to know? Though? I want to know

0:44:04.080 --> 0:44:12.359
<v Speaker 1>because I think that for one, it's ego. And when

0:44:12.360 --> 0:44:13.920
<v Speaker 1>you say you want to know, do you want to

0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:15.920
<v Speaker 1>just know when he does it? Or do you want

0:44:15.960 --> 0:44:17.880
<v Speaker 1>to see the girl's instagram? Do you want to know

0:44:17.920 --> 0:44:19.960
<v Speaker 1>what she looks like? I want to know? Does you

0:44:20.040 --> 0:44:22.080
<v Speaker 1>do want to know? But yes, physically you want to

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:25.160
<v Speaker 1>be able to see who she's um. The only thing

0:44:25.520 --> 0:44:28.640
<v Speaker 1>that we've had issue with two is there's a bit

0:44:28.680 --> 0:44:31.360
<v Speaker 1>of a jealousy issue because he knows that I just can't.

0:44:31.680 --> 0:44:34.400
<v Speaker 1>He's never had an emotional connection ever to someone who

0:44:34.480 --> 0:44:36.719
<v Speaker 1>slept with that since we've been together. Right, Like, it's

0:44:36.760 --> 0:44:38.360
<v Speaker 1>just super like whatever. There's a bit I like the

0:44:38.640 --> 0:44:43.080
<v Speaker 1>who am whereas? And he likes it and they like it,

0:44:43.200 --> 0:44:45.200
<v Speaker 1>and like they're respectful about it too, like they get

0:44:45.239 --> 0:44:47.640
<v Speaker 1>the vibe and I'm cool with that. But on the

0:44:47.719 --> 0:44:49.879
<v Speaker 1>other end, with me, it's like mine is a little

0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:52.280
<v Speaker 1>more premeditated and like I'm going to l a this weekend,

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:54.719
<v Speaker 1>so you already know, and I'm going to eat at

0:44:54.760 --> 0:44:56.160
<v Speaker 1>this place and you know I'm not paying for it

0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:57.759
<v Speaker 1>because it was taken me out and you know that

0:44:57.840 --> 0:44:59.560
<v Speaker 1>this is going on, and like there's a little more

0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:02.520
<v Speaker 1>thought to it opposed to him. It's just like, oh,

0:45:02.560 --> 0:45:04.080
<v Speaker 1>I didn't need to suck this bitch this weekend. It

0:45:04.160 --> 0:45:06.279
<v Speaker 1>was just because I felt like it, Whereas the mine,

0:45:06.320 --> 0:45:10.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm like learning calculated in that way and I'd like

0:45:10.880 --> 0:45:13.280
<v Speaker 1>to do ship like that. So I think that's probably

0:45:13.320 --> 0:45:15.759
<v Speaker 1>the blurred line of like he was like, I just

0:45:15.840 --> 0:45:17.359
<v Speaker 1>kind of thought this was gonna be some shoop when

0:45:17.400 --> 0:45:18.799
<v Speaker 1>but you were out there, you're out there. I didn't

0:45:18.800 --> 0:45:21.399
<v Speaker 1>know he was looking for the nigga, And I was like, oh,

0:45:21.719 --> 0:45:23.880
<v Speaker 1>he just thought it was just supposed to happen. I

0:45:23.920 --> 0:45:28.160
<v Speaker 1>think because his was spontaneous. You know mine also yours

0:45:28.239 --> 0:45:30.479
<v Speaker 1>be a replacement, like if you were to find somebody else.

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:34.160
<v Speaker 1>Mine is just a little more. It requires some maintenance

0:45:34.200 --> 0:45:36.920
<v Speaker 1>to where his doesn't like he's gonna suck whatever he

0:45:36.960 --> 0:45:39.040
<v Speaker 1>wants to, that's just the truth, whereas mine is like

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:42.960
<v Speaker 1>sometimes I behave when I'll send you a little vacation,

0:45:43.040 --> 0:45:51.799
<v Speaker 1>pigg do you like the beach? No? But I mean

0:45:51.880 --> 0:45:53.680
<v Speaker 1>I think that's also just me. I'm kind of emo,

0:45:53.760 --> 0:45:55.359
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like I'm I really haven't

0:45:55.360 --> 0:45:56.920
<v Speaker 1>had a situation where I've seen a nigger and just

0:45:57.000 --> 0:45:59.279
<v Speaker 1>wanted some dick because I think about my nigga, But

0:45:59.480 --> 0:46:02.320
<v Speaker 1>really it happened that way. So I think those blurred

0:46:02.360 --> 0:46:04.279
<v Speaker 1>lines of like Philip finding out what you're comfortable with,

0:46:04.360 --> 0:46:06.640
<v Speaker 1>you need to explore a lot in open relationships, and

0:46:06.680 --> 0:46:08.640
<v Speaker 1>it could make or break you. But once you get

0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:10.800
<v Speaker 1>past that hurd or it's cool and it's not for everybody,

0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:13.080
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. But when I say men

0:46:13.680 --> 0:46:20.160
<v Speaker 1>aren't with open relationships, we go open. I mean, we're

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:22.920
<v Speaker 1>not open. But I this is the first guy and

0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:25.799
<v Speaker 1>I I tell him, I like, damn, why I ain't

0:46:25.800 --> 0:46:27.440
<v Speaker 1>meet you when I was really a home because what

0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:29.759
<v Speaker 1>the things you say would have been music to my ears.

0:46:29.880 --> 0:46:31.880
<v Speaker 1>Like he know I'm going to Jamaica and he's like,

0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:35.600
<v Speaker 1>I know what happened in Jamaica. I'm going with my

0:46:35.960 --> 0:46:39.439
<v Speaker 1>my home girl's birthday. But he's like, if you want,

0:46:39.719 --> 0:46:42.560
<v Speaker 1>like to have fun out there, like have fun, like

0:46:42.680 --> 0:46:47.160
<v Speaker 1>get you like And I'm just like, oh, but I

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:49.080
<v Speaker 1>don't want any like. Bro, he just came ten times

0:46:49.120 --> 0:46:51.359
<v Speaker 1>this morning. I'm good, he'd be I'm good, y'all talk

0:46:51.400 --> 0:46:54.000
<v Speaker 1>about being homes but y'all not really hols, like for real,

0:46:54.280 --> 0:47:01.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, on vacation. I'm not getting no vacation. Mandy

0:47:01.560 --> 0:47:02.920
<v Speaker 1>is in love right now. Don't let her do this.

0:47:03.520 --> 0:47:07.319
<v Speaker 1>She let me tell you something. Let me just y'all

0:47:07.360 --> 0:47:12.719
<v Speaker 1>might be one hole together like us. Hold this is

0:47:12.760 --> 0:47:21.840
<v Speaker 1>a hold down. You're Mandy bro Chill, bro, because we

0:47:21.880 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 1>don't do this because I'm anna hope for my man. Bro.

0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:26.120
<v Speaker 1>Let me just say I am. I let him fun

0:47:26.200 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 1>me with another dick in his hand. Mandy, that's not

0:47:30.600 --> 0:47:35.520
<v Speaker 1>a real home. She's been in love. You called this

0:47:35.600 --> 0:47:38.719
<v Speaker 1>your first real boyfriend. You've used that was the one

0:47:38.760 --> 0:47:41.960
<v Speaker 1>in high school account so I think to not have

0:47:42.239 --> 0:47:44.400
<v Speaker 1>that for ten years or maybe even twelve years if

0:47:44.400 --> 0:47:46.239
<v Speaker 1>you count in high school. I think this is why

0:47:47.120 --> 0:47:50.480
<v Speaker 1>it's really weird to associate hole with you. But what

0:47:50.600 --> 0:47:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm hoping happens is you come to your whole. We

0:47:54.080 --> 0:47:58.239
<v Speaker 1>go to the second club every weekend, like hope this

0:48:00.880 --> 0:48:05.719
<v Speaker 1>It was gripping that bitch oping. What I mean is

0:48:06.120 --> 0:48:08.200
<v Speaker 1>there was once upon a time where she too was

0:48:09.480 --> 0:48:10.680
<v Speaker 1>and now I feel like I have to hold it

0:48:10.719 --> 0:48:14.359
<v Speaker 1>down on my own. Do you hear this right? Bail

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:18.520
<v Speaker 1>going to the sex club every weekend. Now my whole

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:23.840
<v Speaker 1>car both it's you're not even seeing Jamaica as a

0:48:24.040 --> 0:48:27.000
<v Speaker 1>big dick opportunity, bitch. But think I got a big

0:48:27.120 --> 0:48:29.600
<v Speaker 1>dick and then he fucked me with King Duars dildo.

0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.399
<v Speaker 1>That's a big dick. All right, Let's go say home, mail,

0:48:32.680 --> 0:48:34.759
<v Speaker 1>Let's find a real going to Jamaica to dream my

0:48:34.880 --> 0:48:39.800
<v Speaker 1>size bit. You ain't act like you've been to Jamaica.

0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:49.400
<v Speaker 1>Striping guinnis for me. Thank you? All right, Let's try

0:48:49.440 --> 0:48:52.920
<v Speaker 1>to help this whole out. Hey, ladies, not Mandy. Your

0:48:53.000 --> 0:48:55.200
<v Speaker 1>podcast has been the main sex podcast that's helped me

0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:57.000
<v Speaker 1>through a very dark period of life. I've been healing

0:48:57.080 --> 0:48:59.280
<v Speaker 1>from sex trauma the last couple of years through therapy,

0:48:59.320 --> 0:49:02.320
<v Speaker 1>support groups, and focusing on my health. My question is

0:49:02.800 --> 0:49:05.440
<v Speaker 1>how can I get out of my abstinence while depression

0:49:05.480 --> 0:49:07.239
<v Speaker 1>is still lingering. I feel like a j might can

0:49:07.320 --> 0:49:09.560
<v Speaker 1>help us with this. Men want a fun woman or

0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:11.120
<v Speaker 1>a woman who's at least happy, and while I do

0:49:11.239 --> 0:49:13.160
<v Speaker 1>have my happy moments, my mental health is a journey

0:49:13.200 --> 0:49:15.200
<v Speaker 1>and I want to embark into another whole phase. I

0:49:15.239 --> 0:49:17.919
<v Speaker 1>feel like I need it in order to fully heal

0:49:18.239 --> 0:49:22.719
<v Speaker 1>and feel empowered and integrate my sexual trauma, healing work.

0:49:22.760 --> 0:49:24.680
<v Speaker 1>The only whole phase I went through was in art school,

0:49:24.719 --> 0:49:26.919
<v Speaker 1>but it was all low life drug addicts or poor

0:49:27.040 --> 0:49:28.880
<v Speaker 1>dick that never treated me right. Now, in thirty one,

0:49:28.920 --> 0:49:31.840
<v Speaker 1>I want to just be treated well. Capital cists I

0:49:31.920 --> 0:49:34.359
<v Speaker 1>deserve and I'm successful. I have a podcast about mental health,

0:49:34.400 --> 0:49:36.440
<v Speaker 1>I do yoga. I'm a writer and a speaker and

0:49:36.520 --> 0:49:37.640
<v Speaker 1>have a lot of things going for me. And I

0:49:37.719 --> 0:49:39.440
<v Speaker 1>want a guy to spend on me for once. I

0:49:39.520 --> 0:49:42.560
<v Speaker 1>need sugar daddy attention. But I want to start sucking,

0:49:42.560 --> 0:49:44.719
<v Speaker 1>and I'm terrified. I think I have a kink and

0:49:44.800 --> 0:49:46.640
<v Speaker 1>it probably comes from trauma. Is that I need to

0:49:46.640 --> 0:49:48.880
<v Speaker 1>be in control. Tell the guy that I want to fuck.

0:49:49.719 --> 0:49:52.520
<v Speaker 1>Once we're done, they gotta go. I want no emotional connection.

0:49:52.560 --> 0:49:54.360
<v Speaker 1>I just want to hold it out and reinvent myself.

0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:57.160
<v Speaker 1>But my depression trauma is blocking me. How can I

0:49:57.239 --> 0:49:59.879
<v Speaker 1>get out of this mental block? I got something to say,

0:50:00.080 --> 0:50:02.479
<v Speaker 1>but I'm gonna let you start h So, so she's

0:50:02.480 --> 0:50:07.640
<v Speaker 1>a whole she wants to so Okay. I feel like

0:50:07.719 --> 0:50:11.160
<v Speaker 1>in order to be a healthy home, you gotta be

0:50:11.239 --> 0:50:13.759
<v Speaker 1>whole with yourself. So she's in like some type of

0:50:13.960 --> 0:50:16.560
<v Speaker 1>the state of depression, like How is dick really gonna

0:50:17.160 --> 0:50:19.400
<v Speaker 1>help with that? If she has to be whole first,

0:50:19.640 --> 0:50:21.120
<v Speaker 1>and then I feel like it would be more fun

0:50:21.239 --> 0:50:23.120
<v Speaker 1>once you sucking all the day. I feel like that too.

0:50:23.200 --> 0:50:25.400
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's when I'm to be happy to

0:50:25.480 --> 0:50:27.759
<v Speaker 1>have sex. Now you're kink of one of the kick

0:50:27.840 --> 0:50:29.600
<v Speaker 1>nigs out after you're done fucking, Like if you really

0:50:29.640 --> 0:50:32.040
<v Speaker 1>wanted to do that. Anonymous tex sex type ship like

0:50:32.120 --> 0:50:34.560
<v Speaker 1>you definitely could. Fat life like a lot of grinder

0:50:34.560 --> 0:50:37.279
<v Speaker 1>ship is anonymous sex. But I actually think you may

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:40.080
<v Speaker 1>feel worse. I think she and I normally don't think that.

0:50:40.560 --> 0:50:43.920
<v Speaker 1>It's only because you're already feeling I think she to

0:50:44.000 --> 0:50:47.719
<v Speaker 1>reread her email. So the clip you you read contradicting, Yeah,

0:50:47.960 --> 0:50:51.600
<v Speaker 1>what is I was saying? Like, if you're already in

0:50:51.600 --> 0:50:54.359
<v Speaker 1>a down place and you just out here fucking, That's

0:50:54.400 --> 0:50:56.000
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. You need to recognize what's going on

0:50:56.040 --> 0:50:58.000
<v Speaker 1>in your life when you just start picking up all

0:50:58.000 --> 0:50:59.960
<v Speaker 1>these dicks just having sex for no reason? What what's

0:51:00.000 --> 0:51:01.759
<v Speaker 1>going on with you? But she still needs to get fun?

0:51:01.920 --> 0:51:05.960
<v Speaker 1>Can we not all agree with that? Um No, don't

0:51:06.000 --> 0:51:07.560
<v Speaker 1>look at me like that, because you know I'm I'm

0:51:07.560 --> 0:51:10.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna guys, I am no longer Mandy, I don't know

0:51:10.960 --> 0:51:23.480
<v Speaker 1>who I am. Okay. So when you've read that, risk

0:51:23.560 --> 0:51:27.720
<v Speaker 1>not bobile baby. Okay. So as you were reading the email,

0:51:27.960 --> 0:51:30.560
<v Speaker 1>I took two things from it. Hey, if she reads

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:33.680
<v Speaker 1>it back outside of the depression, the anxiety, her low

0:51:33.719 --> 0:51:36.640
<v Speaker 1>point wherever she's at right now, she was contradicting and

0:51:36.760 --> 0:51:40.319
<v Speaker 1>even what she wanted. So in the one sense, she said,

0:51:40.719 --> 0:51:42.080
<v Speaker 1>I want to be a hope, but I wanted to

0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:45.359
<v Speaker 1>I want to be treated well. Then at the very

0:51:45.520 --> 0:51:47.800
<v Speaker 1>end she says, I want to be a hoe, but

0:51:47.880 --> 0:51:49.200
<v Speaker 1>I want to just tell them. I want to sun them.

0:51:49.239 --> 0:51:52.239
<v Speaker 1>Then I want them to leave. So there's it's conflicting

0:51:52.320 --> 0:51:56.440
<v Speaker 1>because to be treading well as a woman ship, we

0:51:56.520 --> 0:51:58.960
<v Speaker 1>do want the intimacy, we want someone to be there

0:51:59.280 --> 0:52:01.920
<v Speaker 1>to listen, to speak. And then on the opposite and

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:04.640
<v Speaker 1>she's like, no, but I really just want to get

0:52:04.680 --> 0:52:06.560
<v Speaker 1>fucked and then tell them to go on their married way.

0:52:07.200 --> 0:52:11.120
<v Speaker 1>She also mentioned sugar babies, sugar daddies. They will kick

0:52:11.320 --> 0:52:14.040
<v Speaker 1>like there's a dynamic there where you don't have the

0:52:14.120 --> 0:52:17.320
<v Speaker 1>power that maybe you even think you want. There's a

0:52:17.360 --> 0:52:20.040
<v Speaker 1>lot of things in that email that conflicted with each other.

0:52:20.160 --> 0:52:23.239
<v Speaker 1>So I think that she doesn't know what she wants.

0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:25.839
<v Speaker 1>I think that she is in a very low place

0:52:25.920 --> 0:52:28.560
<v Speaker 1>to where she thinks that the different things of this

0:52:29.120 --> 0:52:31.520
<v Speaker 1>can resolve this depression that she's in. And I'm not

0:52:31.560 --> 0:52:34.600
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie myself a lot of my friends, There's been

0:52:34.680 --> 0:52:36.640
<v Speaker 1>times where I've had sex. I mean, just even with

0:52:36.800 --> 0:52:39.719
<v Speaker 1>my man in fucking in January, I was at such

0:52:39.760 --> 0:52:42.000
<v Speaker 1>a low point. I got up from the bed and

0:52:42.080 --> 0:52:44.880
<v Speaker 1>just started crying, and I was just like, and I

0:52:44.960 --> 0:52:47.439
<v Speaker 1>just went back to the bed fighting because one doesn't

0:52:47.440 --> 0:52:51.880
<v Speaker 1>heal for what reason. Now, what I'm saying is it

0:52:52.000 --> 0:52:57.719
<v Speaker 1>breaks up a break up, but don't already know who

0:52:57.760 --> 0:53:01.239
<v Speaker 1>you want to try to hold fucking you. I don't

0:53:01.239 --> 0:53:02.719
<v Speaker 1>know who you want to. I don't know you want

0:53:02.719 --> 0:53:04.359
<v Speaker 1>to fun. I know who's d M. I'm gonna slide

0:53:04.400 --> 0:53:08.759
<v Speaker 1>into it. That's the same, you know. Yeah, I don't know.

0:53:08.880 --> 0:53:10.640
<v Speaker 1>If he don't let me funk him, I'm just gonna

0:53:10.640 --> 0:53:13.279
<v Speaker 1>shoot that's the fun. So I think this is a

0:53:13.360 --> 0:53:15.360
<v Speaker 1>great email to do in this episode. It kind of

0:53:15.440 --> 0:53:17.719
<v Speaker 1>wasn't on purpose to be real with you, but two

0:53:17.760 --> 0:53:20.759
<v Speaker 1>different types of healing, because this totally agree with what

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:24.800
<v Speaker 1>you're saying. When you're mentally and like seriously depressed. But

0:53:24.880 --> 0:53:27.640
<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not it's not gonna heap or or

0:53:27.719 --> 0:53:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I know, because it's another person's energy. And you don't

0:53:30.040 --> 0:53:32.799
<v Speaker 1>make who said it in the clip that they don't

0:53:32.840 --> 0:53:39.560
<v Speaker 1>believe that sex transfers energies. We said so, yeah, and

0:53:39.640 --> 0:53:41.960
<v Speaker 1>that's the thing when you're dealing with some sort of trauma,

0:53:44.200 --> 0:53:48.520
<v Speaker 1>is dealing with trauma or you Yeah, the piece that

0:53:48.560 --> 0:53:50.680
<v Speaker 1>you didn't put in there, When you're dealing with some

0:53:50.760 --> 0:53:55.239
<v Speaker 1>ship and you're letting man literally ejaculate his problems into

0:53:55.360 --> 0:54:02.440
<v Speaker 1>your womb, imagine how this comp girlsulate, you know, another thing,

0:54:04.160 --> 0:54:14.120
<v Speaker 1>Like I'd rather not have sex. I don't like I've

0:54:14.120 --> 0:54:19.080
<v Speaker 1>been and it has to be And I'm like, I

0:54:19.200 --> 0:54:22.839
<v Speaker 1>want this, you want one, and I haven't been, bro

0:54:23.000 --> 0:54:25.279
<v Speaker 1>it's just a big wide, meaty dick, and I doesn't

0:54:25.280 --> 0:54:30.759
<v Speaker 1>want like a hamburger like hamburger like me the other

0:54:30.840 --> 0:54:32.840
<v Speaker 1>day slowly and told me because he needed to stretch

0:54:32.920 --> 0:54:34.839
<v Speaker 1>my pussy out and I want to be like it up,

0:54:36.640 --> 0:54:40.640
<v Speaker 1>but I did because I'm a respectful how anyway, No,

0:54:40.920 --> 0:54:44.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm I think depression and the healing has to be different.

0:54:44.280 --> 0:54:50.120
<v Speaker 1>I think breakups definitely definitely going to get Yeah, because

0:54:50.200 --> 0:54:52.200
<v Speaker 1>men women get dick thrown at them all day long.

0:54:52.239 --> 0:54:53.440
<v Speaker 1>We got to turn it down. We want to be

0:54:53.480 --> 0:54:55.120
<v Speaker 1>a hool, so we want to funk people and men

0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:59.279
<v Speaker 1>may as for breakups, and I don't care, genuinely, I

0:54:59.440 --> 0:55:02.759
<v Speaker 1>really don't care who thinks it's unhealthy. You really feel

0:55:02.800 --> 0:55:05.560
<v Speaker 1>like you'll never get someone again. Sometimes in a breakup

0:55:05.640 --> 0:55:08.040
<v Speaker 1>you feel like there's nobody else that exists, Like I've

0:55:08.080 --> 0:55:09.640
<v Speaker 1>felt that. You know, I'd be like, I'll never fun

0:55:09.760 --> 0:55:11.800
<v Speaker 1>someone else again. There's no other niggas out here, And

0:55:11.840 --> 0:55:13.880
<v Speaker 1>when you finally me, you'll be like, oh yeah, I

0:55:13.920 --> 0:55:16.200
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like it's always niggas out here. What are

0:55:16.200 --> 0:55:21.040
<v Speaker 1>you talking about? And so dick is in plethora. They

0:55:21.120 --> 0:55:25.200
<v Speaker 1>will suck a chicken sandwich, so you know what I mean?

0:55:25.520 --> 0:55:27.759
<v Speaker 1>I like. Choosing love is like I like somebody who

0:55:27.840 --> 0:55:31.279
<v Speaker 1>can get bitches but ain't accessible to all of it.

0:55:31.360 --> 0:55:35.120
<v Speaker 1>You'll never know j is so picky. You might need

0:55:35.160 --> 0:55:39.400
<v Speaker 1>to pick your wig back up and nigh. That's what

0:55:39.480 --> 0:55:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I told her choosing I need this and I like

0:55:42.800 --> 0:55:44.080
<v Speaker 1>and I need to get paid and I need to

0:55:44.080 --> 0:55:48.759
<v Speaker 1>get sucked. Right. They don't want to conduct ship and

0:55:48.800 --> 0:55:52.279
<v Speaker 1>get back, you know what I mean? All right, let's

0:55:52.360 --> 0:55:55.440
<v Speaker 1>tell the people where they can find you. Um, we

0:55:55.560 --> 0:55:57.920
<v Speaker 1>know you're on the Black Effect Network, but yeah, tell

0:55:58.000 --> 0:56:00.520
<v Speaker 1>us where we can find your socials. Know you asked

0:56:00.560 --> 0:56:02.600
<v Speaker 1>me a question earlier, and I think you forgot about it.

0:56:03.200 --> 0:56:05.920
<v Speaker 1>What was it you asked us? How do we know Challemagne?

0:56:05.960 --> 0:56:10.320
<v Speaker 1>And how did we ask that before we started? Okay?

0:56:10.400 --> 0:56:13.200
<v Speaker 1>So I know Charlemagne from Columbia, South Carolina. This is

0:56:13.200 --> 0:56:16.440
<v Speaker 1>a funny story. He was working at the radio station

0:56:16.640 --> 0:56:19.279
<v Speaker 1>and he was doing a remote in front of a barbecue,

0:56:19.800 --> 0:56:22.320
<v Speaker 1>a barbecue restaurant, and I was going to get me

0:56:22.360 --> 0:56:26.239
<v Speaker 1>a rim sandwich and he was out there and I

0:56:26.360 --> 0:56:28.400
<v Speaker 1>was like, he had like the setup, you know, the

0:56:28.480 --> 0:56:30.520
<v Speaker 1>DJ and ship. So I went over and I tried

0:56:30.560 --> 0:56:33.239
<v Speaker 1>to get me some free tickets to a concert. And

0:56:35.160 --> 0:56:36.960
<v Speaker 1>I always want to ask for something free, don't they

0:56:37.800 --> 0:56:40.480
<v Speaker 1>get some tickets and some posters? So that's how old

0:56:40.560 --> 0:56:43.600
<v Speaker 1>you know it is? That's real, that long long time ago.

0:56:43.840 --> 0:56:45.879
<v Speaker 1>And then we've been friends ever since. Did you get

0:56:46.040 --> 0:56:47.919
<v Speaker 1>the free ticket he did? He gave me talking about

0:56:49.960 --> 0:56:54.840
<v Speaker 1>when I was Yeah he was, I mean he was

0:56:55.080 --> 0:56:58.040
<v Speaker 1>might have been. So he worked at I need three

0:56:58.040 --> 0:57:00.239
<v Speaker 1>in Charleston, South Carolina, and I won ticket to go

0:57:00.360 --> 0:57:03.040
<v Speaker 1>see Nas. It was Naws at the house and boozing

0:57:03.080 --> 0:57:05.760
<v Speaker 1>Myrtle Myrtle Beach, South Carolinas. I called in one tickets

0:57:06.280 --> 0:57:08.200
<v Speaker 1>and him and his now wife they were on a

0:57:08.239 --> 0:57:11.239
<v Speaker 1>trip to so we rolled like a stretch navy stretching. No,

0:57:11.400 --> 0:57:13.640
<v Speaker 1>I forgot the whole thing for the little radio, the

0:57:13.719 --> 0:57:17.000
<v Speaker 1>radio associate. So we drove the navigator down there, me

0:57:17.080 --> 0:57:19.400
<v Speaker 1>and a friend. I even altered my driver's license to

0:57:19.440 --> 0:57:24.120
<v Speaker 1>put eight teams. But you you wrote it down, I

0:57:24.200 --> 0:57:29.880
<v Speaker 1>kind of scribbling older. Did you just write a new

0:57:30.000 --> 0:57:32.400
<v Speaker 1>date on? And now you've been scratch into the plastic

0:57:32.480 --> 0:57:37.040
<v Speaker 1>and they used the red pen. Remember that could be eighties,

0:57:37.040 --> 0:57:39.720
<v Speaker 1>so I could change the date of I was anyway

0:57:41.080 --> 0:57:43.400
<v Speaker 1>put you to We all already friends. We met at

0:57:43.400 --> 0:57:46.320
<v Speaker 1>college in college, so me and Charlemagne have been friends

0:57:46.360 --> 0:57:48.520
<v Speaker 1>since back home because he's from Monst Corner, which is

0:57:48.600 --> 0:57:52.800
<v Speaker 1>like outside of Charleston. So I met me and tam

0:57:52.840 --> 0:57:59.280
<v Speaker 1>Man in college college in South Carolina. The Tigers. Yeah

0:58:00.000 --> 0:58:03.920
<v Speaker 1>today was now dog shit. As much as I have

0:58:04.040 --> 0:58:07.600
<v Speaker 1>no concert happening exactly, something exclusive going on, as much

0:58:07.600 --> 0:58:09.160
<v Speaker 1>as I'd be on Brent fire as Dick and I

0:58:09.280 --> 0:58:11.680
<v Speaker 1>know Charlemagne. What the funk I'm telling you? When they

0:58:11.720 --> 0:58:13.520
<v Speaker 1>haven't met the breakfast club. I need to be in

0:58:13.560 --> 0:58:17.600
<v Speaker 1>the background taking I'm Taylor for the day, Taylor Chicken.

0:58:17.840 --> 0:58:21.120
<v Speaker 1>She just wants to give out, honestly, And you know,

0:58:21.240 --> 0:58:23.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Have you ever heard me talk about

0:58:23.040 --> 0:58:24.800
<v Speaker 1>a rapper or anybody like that? I don't even want to.

0:58:25.200 --> 0:58:29.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean I have, really am I supposed to just

0:58:29.080 --> 0:58:31.640
<v Speaker 1>start saying, Nate one that I fucked? I mean you did.

0:58:32.000 --> 0:58:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I've never sucked a rapper, though you did fund on

0:58:35.440 --> 0:58:40.320
<v Speaker 1>his dick or pillow or something too right, But isn't

0:58:40.320 --> 0:58:44.640
<v Speaker 1>that badly? Don't count? I was like nineties, still is

0:58:44.680 --> 0:58:47.520
<v Speaker 1>saying four years later she didn't have anal sex because

0:58:47.560 --> 0:58:50.440
<v Speaker 1>she said the whole shaft didn't go in. But happened, Bro,

0:58:50.600 --> 0:58:55.920
<v Speaker 1>It happened, Bro. She'd be loving saying, don't but like

0:58:56.040 --> 0:59:00.360
<v Speaker 1>one that I really wanted. I don't care you didn't

0:59:00.360 --> 0:59:04.880
<v Speaker 1>cry it down it maybe it doesn't Wait if what

0:59:05.120 --> 0:59:10.560
<v Speaker 1>if it don't come? Put me on Southwest bro Southwestern bags,

0:59:10.640 --> 0:59:13.240
<v Speaker 1>though you get to check to what's it's free bag?

0:59:15.640 --> 0:59:18.320
<v Speaker 1>My thing is I don't like how bitch, don't get

0:59:18.400 --> 0:59:23.240
<v Speaker 1>no seats, so now you like get in like we

0:59:23.400 --> 0:59:25.600
<v Speaker 1>did Molly all night. So I missed my flight. When

0:59:25.600 --> 0:59:28.200
<v Speaker 1>you're driving off to the airport and Atlanta Hartfield, I

0:59:28.280 --> 0:59:29.760
<v Speaker 1>was like, Oh, they're gonna make me pay to do

0:59:29.800 --> 0:59:31.520
<v Speaker 1>another one and he was like okay, and I was like,

0:59:31.760 --> 0:59:35.520
<v Speaker 1>you need to turn around. It's what I'm saying. We're

0:59:35.560 --> 0:59:38.960
<v Speaker 1>no cash happing shaped back then, So what's crazy? I

0:59:39.040 --> 0:59:44.960
<v Speaker 1>remember now because used to Western Union me bitch, Western

0:59:45.240 --> 0:59:47.720
<v Speaker 1>Union money. When you think of how being a hole

0:59:47.840 --> 0:59:53.720
<v Speaker 1>used to be back in the day, Now I got

0:59:53.880 --> 0:59:56.760
<v Speaker 1>fluid out of being funny on Twitter. Nigger. All I

0:59:56.840 --> 0:59:59.880
<v Speaker 1>had was one picture. I got fluid out off being

1:00:00.040 --> 1:00:03.840
<v Speaker 1>was on Twitter like this. If you don't know what

1:00:03.960 --> 1:00:07.480
<v Speaker 1>we're talking about, please check YouTube. Anyway, what YouTube, y'all,

1:00:07.720 --> 1:00:10.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all we talk back. We're so happy to have our

1:00:10.120 --> 1:00:13.720
<v Speaker 1>first Black Effects podcast on here with us. Um. I'm

1:00:13.760 --> 1:00:15.200
<v Speaker 1>not saying we're coming to South Carolina, but you know,

1:00:19.640 --> 1:00:22.680
<v Speaker 1>shout out to Charlotte. Did one of our last live

1:00:22.760 --> 1:00:27.360
<v Speaker 1>shows before COVID hit in Charlotte and they were amazing.

1:00:27.400 --> 1:00:29.680
<v Speaker 1>They came out on a Wednesday night, packed out the house.

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<v Speaker 1>So just shout out to show. Shout out to thank

1:00:33.280 --> 1:00:36.280
<v Speaker 1>you for listening to our show if you are tired

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<v Speaker 1>of us having guests, even though these guests were fun. Patreon,

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<v Speaker 1>we are damn near almost have solo episode. So I

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<v Speaker 1>need y'all to understand that, because I feel like y'all

1:00:45.200 --> 1:00:48.120
<v Speaker 1>be like, who's gonna be here to leak now if

1:00:48.160 --> 1:00:51.800
<v Speaker 1>you don't like them? For real, Not y'all. I'm just saying, hey, look,

1:00:54.960 --> 1:00:59.240
<v Speaker 1>listen to us alone and if you want to join

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<v Speaker 1>in the convo. Once a month on Patreon, we do

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<v Speaker 1>live town Halls. Mandy and I are now doing four

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<v Speaker 1>episodes a month, and we have a new tier where

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<v Speaker 1>you can watch behind the scenes fitted even behind the

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<v Speaker 1>scenes for from today on our new tier, So go

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<v Speaker 1>to patreon dot com slash Horrible Decisions what else? Um. Yeah, Also,

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<v Speaker 1>we are working. We're gonna discuss uh. I know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of you guys y'all here in Spanish ads now

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<v Speaker 1>and ship, but we are gonna probably possibly try to

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<v Speaker 1>work on getting some ad free episodes over there for y'all. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>our Patreon episodes are ad free. You can go over

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<v Speaker 1>there and listen and sometimes Wheezy just be wanting to

1:01:33.960 --> 1:01:36.200
<v Speaker 1>stay talking to me. So we even got like our

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<v Speaker 1>plus episodes over there, so if y'all want to go

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<v Speaker 1>listen over there. Um and like like you said, also

1:01:42.480 --> 1:01:44.280
<v Speaker 1>a lot of you guys see these mugs. Y'all have

1:01:44.360 --> 1:01:46.360
<v Speaker 1>been asking where can I get these mugs? If you

1:01:46.440 --> 1:01:49.360
<v Speaker 1>like these mugs. These are actually for our top tier patrons,

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<v Speaker 1>So fifteen dollar patrons get a little cute things like

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<v Speaker 1>this every in the canvas in the back behind and

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<v Speaker 1>the campus and there's t shirts, there's sweatshirts and we're

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<v Speaker 1>getting new designs for that. Also, if you guys are

1:02:00.720 --> 1:02:04.360
<v Speaker 1>all caught up with us on both Patreon and our

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<v Speaker 1>regular episodes, feel free. On Mondays you can also listen

1:02:08.680 --> 1:02:11.960
<v Speaker 1>to Periods this which is my other podcast. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>very short form uh edutainment type of podcasts of storytelling,

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<v Speaker 1>um tales of womanhood. So it's various women sharing their

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<v Speaker 1>tales of their health, journeys and everything else. And then

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<v Speaker 1>on Tuesdays you can listen to me for goddamn to

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<v Speaker 1>three hours goddamn on. See the thing is when my

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<v Speaker 1>girl Bridget Kelly and we have our friends with benefits

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<v Speaker 1>joining us. Yes, Also on Tuesdays we've got for fact

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<v Speaker 1>sake with Me and Eddie Doll Seppy. Y'all go see

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<v Speaker 1>him film. Yeah, he's coming in two weeks. He was

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<v Speaker 1>so funny. He's like, I don't know if Mandy likes me.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, why do you think that? Because when

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<v Speaker 1>he was on the episode, he's white presenting, so he

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<v Speaker 1>was telling the story and you were like, what are

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<v Speaker 1>you talking about? You don't remember that he said your

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<v Speaker 1>life with a Loving hip Hop movie. He's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think she liked that was what you used to

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<v Speaker 1>do that? So I felt like maybe hip hop used

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<v Speaker 1>to say I dressed like loving hip hop on the tour, Bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>you did? You had all glitter, everything is fabulous. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say it was it and it was lost. I

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<v Speaker 1>never said it was. But there's a hip hop tire

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna explain what it is that was never shade.

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<v Speaker 1>Loving hip hop is over the top for every occasion

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<v Speaker 1>when they go to have their friends over, they are

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<v Speaker 1>fully dressed, full makeup and whatever. Mandy is that bitch

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<v Speaker 1>day we got Woja cat move, bitch, sure you wish?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think now? What do you think that?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see how she took it a shade? It was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was in the auto you see what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>You fucking check out the five minute motherfucking bonus play.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you guys for listening to Yeah another episode of

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry that we kind of just talked all over that Edin,

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<v Speaker 1>but if you could catch all them notes, that would

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<v Speaker 1>be great. Thank you, sir, by God, say bye, ed

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<v Speaker 1>and say bye to the people I feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to hear me say by it comment by

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<v Speaker 1>What other qualities do you think should be deal breakers

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<v Speaker 1>for non negotiables in order for it to make sense

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<v Speaker 1>to move forward outside of the looks? If if if

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<v Speaker 1>they're in the position where you are, where I really

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<v Speaker 1>want a boyfriend, I really want a man, what other

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<v Speaker 1>qualities should they have outside of looks? If you have

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<v Speaker 1>to still have look you, well, I think first thing

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<v Speaker 1>and I think this is the question I've asked, so,

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<v Speaker 1>what's what's today's Saturday? So it's almost been seven days

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<v Speaker 1>of reflection. Asked started with asking yourself what is it

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<v Speaker 1>that you want? And being very clear and what it

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<v Speaker 1>is that you want? Right, because I think as women

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes we don't define what it is that we want.

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<v Speaker 1>And once I define that, I was able to kind

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<v Speaker 1>of I think I'm getting more clarity on what it

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<v Speaker 1>is I need out of a man based on what

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<v Speaker 1>I want, right, and those those things didn't involve looks,

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<v Speaker 1>So to achieve the goal I want to achieve. Now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, so it's like reverse engineering, right, So

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm starting to do that and I am having

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<v Speaker 1>like even conversations with you. Last night it was like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>I probably gotta cut off like al ten of these

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<v Speaker 1>dudes and maybe focus on you know, and if none

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<v Speaker 1>of them were none of them fit what I've now

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<v Speaker 1>defined as what I want or can get me there,

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<v Speaker 1>they gotta go. Do you listen to Kevin Samuels? So

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<v Speaker 1>the new one has me listening to Kevin Samuels. So

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<v Speaker 1>I only say that because is youret And I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's also clear that you still don't really know what

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<v Speaker 1>you want? Mhmm. And a lot of the women that

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<v Speaker 1>call in to Kevin Samuel's show, sorry guys. He asked

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<v Speaker 1>them so many questions and it feels like it trips

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<v Speaker 1>them up, and he's able to completely control the narrative

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<v Speaker 1>on who they are and why they don't have what

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<v Speaker 1>they want, simply off the fact that a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>them don't know what they want. I remember one woman

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I mean, I have kids. I guess if

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<v Speaker 1>my partner wants kids, sure I'll have them or and

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<v Speaker 1>I was engaged, but I called it off and I

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<v Speaker 1>can't really tell you why. He just wasn't it. And

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of women who date that way. They

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<v Speaker 1>date knowing that they want a partner, but not knowing

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<v Speaker 1>what they need fully from another half. And that's what

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's what I just said. I had to reverse

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<v Speaker 1>engineer this baby, right, said what do you want? And

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<v Speaker 1>I was very clear with you, I want to be married,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to have kids, so okay, cool, but what

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing and how you're acting isn't aligning with that, right.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was more of a self check with myself,

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<v Speaker 1>like you actually got align with what you say you

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<v Speaker 1>want because I'm very clear that I want that because

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship I just got out of I was also

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<v Speaker 1>raising five kids, and you know, I want my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a step mom and I and i'm and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very much a maternal human being. So I just

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<v Speaker 1>have to walk in what I say. I want. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, and it's and it's I think

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<v Speaker 1>I get distracted, you know what I'm saying, And like

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<v Speaker 1>like you, I'm also career focused and I'm busy, so

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it's easy to have like whatever basic conversations because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have time and the mental capacity to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with a whole lot more for the longest fucking day.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, And I know you feel

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<v Speaker 1>that that's what But like I think your person allows

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<v Speaker 1>you a positive escape from that, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Where is situations that may not be right, don't right.

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<v Speaker 1>But also the fact, like you said that a as

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<v Speaker 1>career driven women, we want an escape from our partner.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why what I brought up earlier in the

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<v Speaker 1>episode about all of the negative connotations of relationships then

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<v Speaker 1>being hard them not being easy than being hard work.

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<v Speaker 1>We work so hard in our day to day life.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't. I can't have a relationship that feels like

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<v Speaker 1>another job period. At this point, I know I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do it. And I think that that's probably what works

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<v Speaker 1>against a lot of career driven, very busy women, is

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<v Speaker 1>that if you go down the gender roles, the patriarchy,

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<v Speaker 1>which a lot of people still want to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>uphold a little bit, it takes a lot to run

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<v Speaker 1>a business, to be an employee, to to be an entrepreneur,

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<v Speaker 1>and then no, fuck, I have to go home and

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<v Speaker 1>cook and clean, bold fuck suck and and make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm everything that a wife, because being a wife

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<v Speaker 1>and being a mother, those are also jobs.