Speaker 1: Guess what decision We're about to make. Horrible decisions. Let's
Speaker 1: start it out. Welcome to the horrible decisions. I'm fucked. Nah,
Speaker 1: we got good energy right now, we got can't be fun.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about really fun every week, No, but not
Speaker 1: like this fucked. So I just want to let the
Speaker 1: world know that I was fucked, but not fucked like
Speaker 1: fucked up, like really fucked. I'm really excited right now.
Speaker 1: We have got two ladies in the building and there
Speaker 1: are Black Effects. Okay, Like I ain't gonna front. When
Speaker 1: I saw the first little clip, y'all, I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: we don't heals. These bitches just be talking about stick.
Speaker 1: I really want to call and be like, I thought
Speaker 1: that we were your sex pot. What the fund is
Speaker 1: y'all show about? We talked back, listen, we thought we
Speaker 1: were the hose on Black Effect Network, and we listened
Speaker 1: to y'all show, and we realized because that's how it was.
Speaker 1: An episode was like, are we only holes on Black Effect?
Speaker 1: And they may be ho hoes, but were like one
Speaker 1: whole you like Christmas? Wait, y'all only half and half? Yeah, together,
Speaker 1: we make one black person appearance, So okay, So wait,
Speaker 1: who's the bigger hole and who decided to make a
Speaker 1: whole podcast? So the podcast is well both of us
Speaker 1: for the most part. I don't know if we of
Speaker 1: us is the bigger house. She's I'm a conservative, like
Speaker 1: we could tell from definitely t D. Jake's daughter. You
Speaker 1: came in here like a holy ho wait taking a
Speaker 1: card to get on y'all. I'm listening. I don't know
Speaker 1: your voice. Decision, Let's know your voices first, so let's
Speaker 1: associate the name with the boy. So I'm a J
Speaker 1: A J J engaged one and tam bam tama. Thank
Speaker 1: you ma'am out here. Okay, So yeah, tell talk to
Speaker 1: us about uh your whole ways. I mean, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like the shout out we talk back. Yeah, you mentioned
Speaker 1: that it was about femininity, but like in one way,
Speaker 1: we're not feminist, first of all because don't take care.
Speaker 1: So why did you mention it in the description there
Speaker 1: being a feminist? I wrote it actually being empowered exactly
Speaker 1: because I'm not trying to replace men. I want men
Speaker 1: to be you know what, can we talk about that
Speaker 1: because we have had I proclaim all the time too
Speaker 1: that I am not a feminist. Pol though I do
Speaker 1: believe in women empowerment. So you said, the reason that
Speaker 1: you're not a feminist is because you believe feminist hatement
Speaker 1: and you believe that they want to get a lot
Speaker 1: of the people who are on the forefront, you would
Speaker 1: get that from them, or they may be you know, lesbians, okay,
Speaker 1: kind of get that energy from the feminist or leslians. No,
Speaker 1: basically they are don't do that. Yeah, you know what.
Speaker 1: The feminists that we've had on the show, We've had
Speaker 1: some married feminists on the show. We've had married or
Speaker 1: or heterosexual feminists. I wouldn't say that all of them
Speaker 1: want to get rid of men, and a lot of
Speaker 1: them actually were married. We had Uh. I think this
Speaker 1: is just the same rhetoric as like Black Lives matter,
Speaker 1: ship right. Some of us are dr umar, some of
Speaker 1: us peacefully protests. I'm in the middle and necessary, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like I understand it all. Sometimes
Speaker 1: I'm outIn worship. Sometimes I'm like all right, chel like
Speaker 1: let's you know, have a white person come in the studio.
Speaker 1: I don't know, really, I think that with feminism, the
Speaker 1: larger issue is like you know, when Trump got elected,
Speaker 1: we saw such radical feminism and that being like you know,
Speaker 1: showing your pussy hair and a protest and ship like that,
Speaker 1: which me all of that ship is still or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I think that we attached feminism with that because
Speaker 1: I really believe like the right wing people did that ship.
Speaker 1: I don't really believe that I've ever thought feminism was
Speaker 1: that until Trump got elected or perpetuated that. I've never
Speaker 1: heard people want to not be a feminist until Trump.
Speaker 1: There's no reason you should say. I'm not wonder you
Speaker 1: you should say that either the end of the day,
Speaker 1: the definition for it is just believing in equal rights
Speaker 1: for women. Can we were able to pull the definition
Speaker 1: up of feminism? Can I get you? I just love equality,
Speaker 1: equality for quicker than you if feminism is the advocacy
Speaker 1: of women's rights on the basis of the equality of
Speaker 1: the sexes. But I still want if I get on
Speaker 1: the train, I want a man to get up from
Speaker 1: But that's not your right. I don't it's not my right.
Speaker 1: So I think there's a difference with this. I like
Speaker 1: niggas paying for my ship too, right. I feel like
Speaker 1: at this point in my life, I'm not you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So y'all niggas need to be doing
Speaker 1: it for me. And even when I was kind of
Speaker 1: like on some bumped and ship, y'all still should be
Speaker 1: doing it for me. That's why they're supposed to be
Speaker 1: doing it. But like what that said, I think when
Speaker 1: you're a woman that expects those things, that's chivalry. That's
Speaker 1: us digging into femininity. Masculinity I think as nothing to
Speaker 1: do with feminism. And when people try to weaponize feminism
Speaker 1: by saying you can pay for your own ship, okay,
Speaker 1: you can also not suck me. But I guess that's
Speaker 1: the thing because even when I'm reading there, if we
Speaker 1: do want them to pay for things, and we want
Speaker 1: them to do the things that we necessarily won't know
Speaker 1: for them, then I can see why you don't want
Speaker 1: to align with it, because we don't really want equality
Speaker 1: in the way that we really A lot of women
Speaker 1: I don't think want the equality about the actual definition
Speaker 1: of feminists of being a feminist. But I'm talking about
Speaker 1: what's going on right now, the culture of being a feminist.
Speaker 1: It's different. I don't know if I do, maybe because
Speaker 1: on our own now I'm not with that. I think
Speaker 1: it's because I also mean on the side of what
Speaker 1: y'all are all saying, Like, I am that girl too,
Speaker 1: But I'm definitely a feminist, definitely for a women, because
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those girls that say, oh I
Speaker 1: don't need female friends, but I love women I do
Speaker 1: rock with in my head though, Like right, feminism, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, feminism to me is knowing that, um,
Speaker 1: there's no discrimination against being a woman when I want
Speaker 1: to get a certain role or when I'm handling business
Speaker 1: someone thinking I'm too weak to do it ship like that,
Speaker 1: which I don't think no feminism going on with the
Speaker 1: checko at all. Don't get me wrong. There's sometimes where
Speaker 1: I like the boss up and maybe grab it because
Speaker 1: that makes me feel a little masked. But like, I
Speaker 1: still don't think that has to do with it. But
Speaker 1: when you're talking about women having babies on their own
Speaker 1: science bitch. See we talked back be having hot takes
Speaker 1: that I don't know what. I don't know if I
Speaker 1: liked because the girl we're gonna run down a yall, Okay,
Speaker 1: I ain't know what we were talking about. We're gonna
Speaker 1: make sure you'll read it durate all of your I
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time. I pulled up most of
Speaker 1: your podcast scriptionans and went through your clips and picked
Speaker 1: everything on like I not even that. I don't like ship,
Speaker 1: and I think it's for a great conversation. You're no, no,
Speaker 1: we can't because you guys are pretty and better have
Speaker 1: tintoes down on your tape. Um. Oh. The reason I
Speaker 1: disagree with that is because when it comes to science
Speaker 1: and having babies and ship like that, I don't believe
Speaker 1: like men and women need to have a child together.
Speaker 1: I believe women could have kids on their own, just
Speaker 1: like I think gays could have kids if they want to.
Speaker 1: That's why I don't really believe in that. But go ahead,
Speaker 1: one because politics on our show, because I got a
Speaker 1: lot of different views in comparison, don't talk about politics
Speaker 1: at all in comparison to each other. Yea, this is
Speaker 1: considered political, okay, Because I believe in the traditional family
Speaker 1: became don't need to be raised properly with a man
Speaker 1: and a woman. You know what is this? Because do
Speaker 1: you consider yourself a religious person. I'm very spiritual but
Speaker 1: not religious, Like I have religion, but I'm not religious,
Speaker 1: So you prep just don't want to get canceled canceled.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we don't. You don't want to get canceled.
Speaker 1: But I think that's not I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of the things that we speak
Speaker 1: on here on horrible decisions. I mean, we we learned,
Speaker 1: we've over the last four years, we've said things that
Speaker 1: were not right and we we we've we've walked it back.
Speaker 1: But I think that I don't want have to walk back.
Speaker 1: But but sometimes learn that's why we've walked it back.
Speaker 1: But but I also think that there is um something
Speaker 1: really genuine about you being your true self. And if
Speaker 1: there is something that you feel, whether it's political or not,
Speaker 1: there are going to be people that agree with you.
Speaker 1: And in this space podcasting, a lot of people now
Speaker 1: have podcasts. I think it's important to be yourself and
Speaker 1: not speak to feel like, oh my god, I don't
Speaker 1: want to offend somebody, because guarantee, your hot texts look
Speaker 1: a little offensive. If you ask me, they political, honestly,
Speaker 1: I mean that's what's y'all. Definitely, So to me, there
Speaker 1: are two different types of women. Okay, so the sexually liberated.
Speaker 1: So there's are there are sluts in there? Paid Let's
Speaker 1: just give a finger pop in the back of the
Speaker 1: club somewhere for free. Holes get paid. So I'm not
Speaker 1: doing nothing. I'm not saying that. I've never just make
Speaker 1: these definitions up yourself. That's just what I think. What
Speaker 1: they do say like I believe, and you can pull
Speaker 1: this up if you want to, then I do believe.
Speaker 1: Definition is horror goes back to prostitution, prostitutions associated with money. However, um,
Speaker 1: I mean it's whatever you want to be, right, prostitute? Yeah?
Speaker 1: What about how? Because how ain't really holes like that
Speaker 1: that let me to urban? How it's gonna give me
Speaker 1: a long hand who uses their looks and charms to
Speaker 1: manipulate their partner to gain materials? Yes, sex money, And
Speaker 1: I don't know if that slutnext, put slutnext. I definitely
Speaker 1: a slut is a person who is known to have
Speaker 1: had sex many times with different individuals. Nothing about money. Nothing.
Speaker 1: So let let me ask you guys this because one
Speaker 1: of the things that I heard, get the funk out
Speaker 1: of here. All not money per se, but they just
Speaker 1: got to be doing something. You're just not gonna be
Speaker 1: just you said that in the clip that I'm sorry
Speaker 1: I keep messing you said having sex with people is
Speaker 1: doing nothing for you right or something? I quoted it
Speaker 1: and I want to oh, come on, come on, come on,
Speaker 1: come on, hold on. Um. When I listened to it,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, being used, that's what you said, right?
Speaker 1: And I saw all the comments some I think on
Speaker 1: Charlottagne page, I don't want to nothing. I got you
Speaker 1: wanna we talk about on because I'll tell me why.
Speaker 1: That's a reference to like, say, forst you're in a
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody, a man cheese on you, you you go
Speaker 1: cheat back. That's not really getting back. Get the nigga
Speaker 1: with more money than your nigga is getting back. That's
Speaker 1: that's that's what men. Men don't give a funk with
Speaker 1: somebody's like you're feeling like revenge is sweet. Yes, they
Speaker 1: are more um concerned about the social social status of
Speaker 1: the man that you fucking went. You don't think. I've
Speaker 1: definitely done some ship like that. It felt good, But
Speaker 1: but here it is though. Let me tell you why.
Speaker 1: I think there's some key differences. As someone who considers
Speaker 1: themselves more traditional, the things that pleasure you and make
Speaker 1: you feel good about yourself may be different genuinely, and
Speaker 1: you may agree with this to like I sometimes just
Speaker 1: love to fucking do nasty s because that ship it
Speaker 1: makes me feel sexy and hot and good, opposed to
Speaker 1: where you may actually feel like I feel nasty. I'm
Speaker 1: used to having a man one day, so then how
Speaker 1: could I not feel used? But you would because I
Speaker 1: don't necessarily feel used if I'm having sex like that.
Speaker 1: There's times and times when when people are having like
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of sex, and this could be some
Speaker 1: psychology type ship. You didn't look at what's going on
Speaker 1: in your life at that time. Your grandmother might have
Speaker 1: just passed away, or I don't know, my pussy doesn't
Speaker 1: get wet with my financial finances ain't in order. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't want to unless you assistant with that. If
Speaker 1: you are, you're saying because you know what, here's this
Speaker 1: you're just gonna say, Is that you because you like
Speaker 1: sing with niggas with bread. I's not giving me the
Speaker 1: brand just just but I don't sexual gratification. But that's
Speaker 1: the thing. Maybe you're just not a sexual being. And
Speaker 1: though I am not, the way you're speaking because the
Speaker 1: fact that ay, you feel like having sex with certain
Speaker 1: people are multiple people, however, has uh some sort of
Speaker 1: like negative connotations to it. First off. Secondly, you brought up, uh,
Speaker 1: if someone has a lot of sex, maybe there's something
Speaker 1: wrong going on in their life or maybe it's the
Speaker 1: psychological thing that they have. First of all, I don't
Speaker 1: had a lot of sex. Okay, I have had multiple partners.
Speaker 1: Is we all hose in here for the most part
Speaker 1: based on most men's general definition of a hole? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: So I'm just saying at this age, I'm in my
Speaker 1: mid thirties, right at this age, I'm not just sucking
Speaker 1: for nothing because it doesn't fulfill me. There's other things
Speaker 1: I can do, like I'm gonna certified spin instructor. I'll
Speaker 1: go work out or something like that. But it doesn't
Speaker 1: fulfill me to just be fucking for no reason. When's
Speaker 1: the last time you think or have you ever has
Speaker 1: some sex with the nigga? Got in the car and
Speaker 1: be like, gird you just laughed on some one night
Speaker 1: stand ship and you're still smelling like a hole telling
Speaker 1: your story. Have you been engaged since? So? Then yeah?
Speaker 1: And then and then we on Alex because I'm not
Speaker 1: even wearing my ring right now. So anyway, there's that part,
Speaker 1: and I'm ready to come back to basically, bitch nigger
Speaker 1: cut my wake up. So we were supposed to leave
Speaker 1: to come here backful and who episode. We had an
Speaker 1: episode with Danahy, which is a psychic, and he said
Speaker 1: in another like he was like, you know, I think
Speaker 1: this person you're with is good for you. Um maybe
Speaker 1: in another life you were the husband and he was
Speaker 1: the wife. And I feel like, Okay, that makes some
Speaker 1: fucking sense today because this nigga caught my wig up.
Speaker 1: That's mew every mic, but hours tell us about the wig.
Speaker 1: I just know that niggas is out here cut wigs up.
Speaker 1: All right, let's Segrenna. I want to definitely get into
Speaker 1: your hot tekes. I'm gonna make thishp quick as I
Speaker 1: don't even want to do it. Vanilla Ship, but here
Speaker 1: we go because this ship too interesting. But Vanilla Ship
Speaker 1: is our segment where we talk about something that's sexually
Speaker 1: related somehow. In the News and Business Insider, a baby
Speaker 1: was born with three patience is a world first caused
Speaker 1: by a rare medical condition. This has never happened before,
Speaker 1: and I ain't gonna lie. Let me know when the
Speaker 1: bit turn a team. Wait wait does that sound bad?
Speaker 1: At least? Where was the baby, the baby. The baby
Speaker 1: was born in Iraq, so it'll be a brown baby.
Speaker 1: He was more aware in Iraq. After three months, his
Speaker 1: parents noticed additional bits of skin near his scrotum and
Speaker 1: he was looking like swelling. And it turns out the
Speaker 1: extra bits of skin were three penises growing um a
Speaker 1: little bit shorter in length than the other. But I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's it's still a baby right now, So it's
Speaker 1: called triple penis. Or start getting hard at and like,
Speaker 1: how do they know each of those zicks? When will
Speaker 1: they know that each of those dicks will erect? Like
Speaker 1: when was your first direction at it? Sure, I don't
Speaker 1: remember when my first direction you don't know, but when
Speaker 1: I was acknowledging probably Like if they all work, that'd
Speaker 1: be fun. Yeah, you know what's been hardly even he
Speaker 1: may be favor this, So just imagine if like sixteen,
Speaker 1: but also you can put the ass at the same time. Now,
Speaker 1: listen to this, every five to six million birds to
Speaker 1: penises come up. But this is the first triple penis. Now,
Speaker 1: cases of them happening are rare um, but they can
Speaker 1: be a medical challenge if they're not treated. Some people
Speaker 1: actually carry it on. According to the report, no case
Speaker 1: of a child born with an additional penis is the same.
Speaker 1: All of them are different. In lane where some people
Speaker 1: are both, we're a double penis? Yeah, where is it
Speaker 1: a American? You know? I was black Book directory of Dix.
Speaker 1: They clearly put this down in hit three or and
Speaker 1: be like y'a only had any double dick? How you
Speaker 1: was anyone born in two thousand one? Can you believe
Speaker 1: that you can be twenty years old born in two
Speaker 1: thousand one? Graduate? Oh my god, I don't want no,
Speaker 1: you don't know how old is that? Again? I'm not bag.
Speaker 1: I do want to take back my tape, pick the
Speaker 1: dick up. My so old, and I don't think like
Speaker 1: I was really moist over ron Eisley during that goddamn yes,
Speaker 1: I know he ate, but I was like dealing with
Speaker 1: old niggas now. And my man was like, I am
Speaker 1: not eighty white. He looked good at his clothes, but
Speaker 1: just imagine what he probably got, the droopy skin, ye eight,
Speaker 1: what he probably had a tummy. I really want to
Speaker 1: and he's not even that old. Coma Obama too. Um sorry,
Speaker 1: So anyway, the horrid derve. Okay, we're gonna start with
Speaker 1: card again. I'm sorry. Eddn texted me in the middle
Speaker 1: of this, Hey, can you move her mike closer to her?
Speaker 1: And then he said card again, But it is I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna like you get on horrible decisions the girls
Speaker 1: to be honest with and we got our moms. Wait
Speaker 1: a minute, what might jacket look like? What good? It's fire?
Speaker 1: Is it couci? It was just the first I can notice.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, it's a it's like a varsity that's what
Speaker 1: it's said on the website. But it's a blazer CARDI yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going with more of a blazer anyway. Bitch, what's
Speaker 1: your sex to you? Making niggas will out over you say?
Speaker 1: Gotta be good. So we talked about this is like yeah.
Speaker 1: So when we got the message, I'm like, my favorite
Speaker 1: thing is like, I can I'm pretty flexible for a
Speaker 1: chunky girl. But you put your knees all the way back,
Speaker 1: you know, over your head on the bed. But I
Speaker 1: can literally suck dick with my pussy will it in? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You got keg extracides, Like when the lights are red,
Speaker 1: start doing your keg. You use your kegoes to grip
Speaker 1: and really push. I could suck dick with my pussy.
Speaker 1: That's that's you win. I mean I could do it,
Speaker 1: but I cheat a little bit. I clenched my butt
Speaker 1: cheeks together because then it tighted my pussy. The same
Speaker 1: thing when your asses, you know, contracting asshole likes. That's
Speaker 1: not a real keigo. I don't give an if it's
Speaker 1: real effect bit it work get the same good. I
Speaker 1: think it's just because, like when people clench their ass
Speaker 1: if you're not sure how to do kegels, you just
Speaker 1: feel like you're tightening everything, but you're just tensing it
Speaker 1: up really, and that's fine. No, one's not many why
Speaker 1: because then it makes it does make me pussy tighter
Speaker 1: because I could grip it. He came move it when
Speaker 1: I do, when I push it out, and I just
Speaker 1: whole pussy be tight. I never want to see that again.
Speaker 1: Even I was like, I feel like that man is
Speaker 1: Michael Jackson. Now what about you, my love. I don't
Speaker 1: know if this is a real tip for y'all, but
Speaker 1: I just learned this recently. So when I'm giving head,
Speaker 1: I don't just grab the dick. I grabbed behind the balls,
Speaker 1: like to do the balls together, the balls and the
Speaker 1: dick together. Oh, I love doing that. You'll be doing that,
Speaker 1: and even if it's too big, you just like put
Speaker 1: your tongue down there like you're getting the whole thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and then I push it all the way
Speaker 1: to the back of my throat, so I create so
Speaker 1: much fit like that. You know, it's a different type
Speaker 1: of mucusa. I had a nig and clear my whole sinuses.
Speaker 1: Really not, I just started coming out of my nose.
Speaker 1: To further, you're the COVID if you need to. You're
Speaker 1: positive COVID results, You're like, oh, it's all and it
Speaker 1: started drinking all. It's not just started, yes, because that
Speaker 1: means there's an infection. You imagine if it goes in
Speaker 1: like the dick hole and the dick ends up getting
Speaker 1: like codd Oh my god, what is happening? What do
Speaker 1: you mean the dick hole gets COVID? Honestly, I smoke
Speaker 1: to meck out here. I don't know what I'm saying. No,
Speaker 1: that don't happen. My man went on all my holes
Speaker 1: while I was positive, and he tested negative the whole time.
Speaker 1: That's lovely. So yeah, I don't think it's transmitted through
Speaker 1: your COVID. So let's get into it. First hot take
Speaker 1: from We Talked Back. I loved the title of this
Speaker 1: is the White Grass Greener y'all had an E said
Speaker 1: about interracial relationships and talking about how you think there
Speaker 1: may be beneficialness from dating someone white or with a
Speaker 1: woman being worried. Tell me about that if y'all ever
Speaker 1: dated a white dude. First off, this is a motherfucking chilly,
Speaker 1: freezing as cold ass take. Hey, y'all really are you're
Speaker 1: sitting the colonizers? Maybe maybe greener on that side? No,
Speaker 1: we were asking were everyone is green? Up? Yeah? Because
Speaker 1: so I don't want y'all on clubhouse right not number Okay,
Speaker 1: So a couple of weeks ago, it was a whole
Speaker 1: big thing about black women like leaving the black community,
Speaker 1: like only fucking with white men. So that's why we
Speaker 1: had the whole discussion because I'm not with that ship.
Speaker 1: I'm not into pink dick. I'll jump on one again
Speaker 1: at some point, but it doesn't mean married, you're gonna stay.
Speaker 1: Not my life talk. It's not what I wanted. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I will say I don't like colonizers very well, But
Speaker 1: but I will say eve Serena Williams, they do seem
Speaker 1: happy with their partners. Cassie her Man is fine for football.
Speaker 1: He has a black Travis count Now that's like na
Speaker 1: they got they gotta get a fade, like like white
Speaker 1: boys like that. Because then to me, it's like like
Speaker 1: all my white home girls that I have put some boys,
Speaker 1: they're real white girls. They don't like try to assist me.
Speaker 1: They don't be on it. I don't fuck white girls
Speaker 1: like that. I don't like. I never liked that. I
Speaker 1: find it to just be like you're almost making fun
Speaker 1: of me. Like when I say nigga, I want to
Speaker 1: be like, girl, you're crazy, like they want to know.
Speaker 1: But well, white boys that do that, I don't that either,
Speaker 1: because I know when I leave and you turn the
Speaker 1: music up, you'd be like me and all my niggas,
Speaker 1: and I don't do that. I don't really care nothing.
Speaker 1: When no black people around they saying nigga in the song,
Speaker 1: my mom would never if your mamma no better, you're
Speaker 1: not there and you black, you black? If you're not,
Speaker 1: she still knows not we're talking about. When the song
Speaker 1: is and they're listening, you think they're not gonna relate
Speaker 1: you even if because like think about the white people
Speaker 1: that never have a nigga's slip you. I feel like,
Speaker 1: you know how hard never nigga? Yeah, I've never. My
Speaker 1: white friends haven't had one around me, so I feel
Speaker 1: like if they haven't, there's no way they're saying that,
Speaker 1: because why that's my one I try nothing song. You're
Speaker 1: gonna just cut out one word in the song you're
Speaker 1: vibing in your house. You gotta get you're feeling real
Speaker 1: black in the moment. Yes, yes, and you're gonna not
Speaker 1: saying nigga because no niggas are around to hear you. Wait, hey,
Speaker 1: they're not gonna enough. My god, that movie could have
Speaker 1: never came out to this, like why that thing isn't ablematic?
Speaker 1: I was watching it like this really was like the
Speaker 1: Ship And if you like I missed that, bro, you're
Speaker 1: gonna watch the movie and be like you're gonna look
Speaker 1: around like you and trouble watching it? Bro, I remember it?
Speaker 1: Would you be bad that you laugh at the ship?
Speaker 1: You laugh? That was problematic? And okay, kids, I'm sticking
Speaker 1: at ship too. I just watched The Wedding Planner and
Speaker 1: me and my woke ship. I was like, they made
Speaker 1: her Italian. She's clearly Latina. I was like I was
Speaker 1: on Twitter, It's like I cannot believe this, and she
Speaker 1: agreed to it. But it's like I was, where you
Speaker 1: gonna get baby, That's why you don't like her saying
Speaker 1: the N word. J Loo says, Nigga, Oh yeah, yeah, sorry,
Speaker 1: that fun name. I remembers my thing. This is why
Speaker 1: I want to have a policy black. It's the culture.
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily a nature nation of people. So black
Speaker 1: is like a culture. So she probably feels like she's
Speaker 1: of the black culture. So she can say naked. But
Speaker 1: you wouldn't say that if white people are saying it
Speaker 1: and they grew up in a hood. No, well, I
Speaker 1: don't know. That's why I don't think black. Black is
Speaker 1: not a culture, bro? What is it is a culture?
Speaker 1: It's color. It's definitely a color. You have Africans who
Speaker 1: don't consider themselves just black. I mean I think that
Speaker 1: that's why even when they we have, well, when we
Speaker 1: have the in word discussion, and I know Kyrie Irving
Speaker 1: just came out and doesn't want it to even be reclaimed,
Speaker 1: He's like, we need to completely stop saying it. I
Speaker 1: think that's why even using the term black, I like
Speaker 1: to dissect it as just African American. I don't like
Speaker 1: African American. I like to but I like to add
Speaker 1: that that's interesting that you're like, I don't. But to me,
Speaker 1: there has to be an American, just an American. That's
Speaker 1: what I feel like. Yeah, but I feel like Black Americans.
Speaker 1: If you want to take out the African, then Black
Speaker 1: Americans have such a different um I think, experienced, experienced
Speaker 1: culture from everybody in the world, even blacks from Africa.
Speaker 1: Blacks from the Africa then just don't consider themselves black.
Speaker 1: They're Nigerian, They're but you understand it because there's no
Speaker 1: one against right, we need to identify ourselves so much
Speaker 1: because the person in the room're gonna look like us
Speaker 1: nine out of ten, right, I think what percent of
Speaker 1: the population is black? That's sucking insane. Soto finding what
Speaker 1: you're you know, checking your genealogy, talking to the elders
Speaker 1: in your family, and figuring out who the funk you are.
Speaker 1: So like, I'm from Charleston, South Carolina, where Geichy people.
Speaker 1: There's a whole Indian indigenous tribe o Geeche Indians. So
Speaker 1: white people have a way of telling you a lie
Speaker 1: and the truth at the same time, so you can't
Speaker 1: depend on them for your primary research. We're trying to
Speaker 1: figure out who the funk you are so that you're
Speaker 1: not just calling yourself black because Negro was on the
Speaker 1: census up until so what are you? I don't want
Speaker 1: to be black. I don't want to be African American.
Speaker 1: I definitely don't want to be Negro. Figure out who
Speaker 1: the funk you are as a nation of people if
Speaker 1: you want. So, we're going the whole right, and we're
Speaker 1: going to do we want to get Yeah, yeah, black ass.
Speaker 1: Floyd or need you love? The political with your line
Speaker 1: has talked about I don't want to be you want
Speaker 1: to be politically correct. Okay, let's get into some fun.
Speaker 1: You have to beat people to funk up. That's what
Speaker 1: I want. Doesn't heal? Is what you said? Um, and
Speaker 1: this is the clip. This is how I found We
Speaker 1: talked back and literally I think my Instagram just like
Speaker 1: when Ho pops up and I'm just like, oh, just
Speaker 1: say you all. It goes right to me. But let's
Speaker 1: play your clip. Let's see a Friday here we go.
Speaker 1: Does not heal because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you're just letting somebody else use your vagina, you know,
Speaker 1: so you gotta stop thinking about your vagina using it.
Speaker 1: It's yours, so you use it how you want to.
Speaker 1: You don't let them use it. You use their dick,
Speaker 1: not use your vagina. But you literally let somebody go
Speaker 1: inside your body, right, So because you choose it though,
Speaker 1: because you choose it, you take you when you said
Speaker 1: when choose that day giving them power over your vagina. No,
Speaker 1: your vagina has the power and you're using it how
Speaker 1: you know. Let's say you're going through a breakup and
Speaker 1: it's over. Sometimes that a v dick is like good
Speaker 1: to get through and just people after this breakup, as
Speaker 1: long as you're doing it responsibly and safe. You know,
Speaker 1: you're a grown woman. I don't agree with transferring energy
Speaker 1: like that with so many people, but if you decide
Speaker 1: to do that, that's your prerogative. I'm not mad. So
Speaker 1: it went on, but yeah, I would say, do you
Speaker 1: not think that to get over somebody getting under someone
Speaker 1: is do you think that's completely not true? Let's talk
Speaker 1: about that like this really not hell. I feel like
Speaker 1: it's possible, it's possible to get with somebody to get over,
Speaker 1: but I think it's more important to me, Like I
Speaker 1: want you to pitching me rolling like on some tupaction
Speaker 1: when we break up. I want to be looking better,
Speaker 1: I want to have more money. I want to be
Speaker 1: driving nice when you see me. Can just sucking a
Speaker 1: naken do that if he is, get you a new
Speaker 1: car and more money, and like, it's not everyone can
Speaker 1: just level up after a breakup. A lot of people
Speaker 1: combine households or combined incomes and really go through shipped
Speaker 1: together that when a breakup happens. Sure you can go
Speaker 1: get a haircut, Sure you can go take a picture
Speaker 1: in some lingerie. But the idea that you're speaking of
Speaker 1: after a breakup short you can level up inside. But
Speaker 1: the idea that after I break up, I'm leveling up
Speaker 1: by getting a new car. Maybe No, that's not what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So and the breakup I'm comusing on it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to do with another with a man me
Speaker 1: jumping on somebody else days something that need to handle internally.
Speaker 1: This is fine because I don't know the first thing.
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it like it's somebody else after
Speaker 1: the breaking evening. Sometimes I don't I just be like yo,
Speaker 1: I need to get que I need to go out
Speaker 1: and I need to have somebody else be all because
Speaker 1: generally in a breakup, I'm feeling so worthless, right even
Speaker 1: if I'm the one who does it, I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: something's making me feel not invalid invalidated. But you know
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say, like invalidated devalidated. Deal. Yeah. Now,
Speaker 1: whether that's healthy or not, I already know something y'all
Speaker 1: feel like it isn't, But I'm not going First, I
Speaker 1: do like going on a date and like, yes, I
Speaker 1: love that you didn't compliment last time I was with you,
Speaker 1: and then that's not fucking oh no. But I'm like
Speaker 1: I depend on and they're like fucking to me. It's
Speaker 1: exciting and fun, and I love those first experience as
Speaker 1: a sucking someone new, Like, don't get me wrong, I'm
Speaker 1: a sucking the same nickel for a long time, but
Speaker 1: new dick do be like yeah, yeah. And I think
Speaker 1: that sometimes sex can bring intimacy and exciting excitement that
Speaker 1: you haven't felt in a while, especially when you've been
Speaker 1: down in the dumps with somebody. Break clubs are rough,
Speaker 1: especially when you've been used to sucking one person. It
Speaker 1: is nice for someone else to see you naked for
Speaker 1: the first time and feel sexy again. A lot of
Speaker 1: women may have some body image issues in a in
Speaker 1: a breakup right, not feeling good about that. When someone
Speaker 1: new funcks you, they just be like, damn every beautiful yo.
Speaker 1: My mom's like, oh didn't I don't give a funk.
Speaker 1: They'd be ready Garfield, you know what I mean, let
Speaker 1: me get that. Now tell me what y'all think. Have
Speaker 1: you ever fucked and it went the opposite away or
Speaker 1: it didn't heal you or something. I mean I brought
Speaker 1: up when all of my friends break up or have
Speaker 1: a heartbreak, I'll be the first be like, girl, let
Speaker 1: me get you a new nigga. Right, let's have some
Speaker 1: fun service. You sent me some way. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: like Ubert did. I was like, I know a guy
Speaker 1: and what was that? Wait? Wait, I grew up and
Speaker 1: now I just get my friends flute out and that's
Speaker 1: kind of cool. But wait, you you hubered? You just okay?
Speaker 1: Wait was this the guy that you had that you
Speaker 1: had had sex with previously? Yeah? I mean figure if
Speaker 1: you knew it was good? Wait, so you now that's
Speaker 1: the t for the man listening you. I used to
Speaker 1: tell you y'all never did that before, like, Dan, girl,
Speaker 1: you should this nigga? Yeah, actually done when I'm over one.
Speaker 1: Even when I was seven, Like if he would travel,
Speaker 1: I would be like I would tell my friend, like, girl,
Speaker 1: this nigga in your city. It's good. You won't I mean,
Speaker 1: And I think even now with my partner, it's more
Speaker 1: like you want to join this. I'm trying to think
Speaker 1: I do this with three sons all the time, but
Speaker 1: I did used to do it. Yeah, I have so
Speaker 1: wait a second, So you did he know that you
Speaker 1: were sending him? Yeah? I say hey, I said, oh,
Speaker 1: we're literally on the phone. I'm like, hold on, let
Speaker 1: me texting. I was texting. I ain't gonna say when
Speaker 1: he was always take what was that text message? Like?
Speaker 1: What you doing? You busy? I got for you? I
Speaker 1: was like, girl, I need to get fucked. Shut the
Speaker 1: fun over he was keeping. I was like, So when
Speaker 1: she said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: I'm nervous now because I was like doing girl, do it.
Speaker 1: And then when he said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: stranger is about to come over. Here? Was it good? Dick?
Speaker 1: It was dick to get wasted like all right. So
Speaker 1: when he came he came in, he was nervous too,
Speaker 1: So that made me a little bit less nervous because
Speaker 1: he didn't just come in there like, hey, pull your
Speaker 1: pussy out right now. He wasn't like that. So we
Speaker 1: smoked and were drink and I got to know. I mean,
Speaker 1: he seemed like he had good morals and nice man
Speaker 1: like rooms. Yes, he was a nice just the dick
Speaker 1: over to her house and he's an African Muslim. I
Speaker 1: learned about we're talking. We talked about right now, like
Speaker 1: you are so me like before I want to get
Speaker 1: sloppy on the jack, I'd be like no, but like
Speaker 1: I too, like love crystals and stuff. And then there's
Speaker 1: no cork in my fridge. We're gonna have a great time.
Speaker 1: Exactly what did happen? How long did y'all connect before
Speaker 1: y'all started? It was like maybe an hour and a half.
Speaker 1: We said yeah and just smoked and I learned about
Speaker 1: his family and Africa and his education. We talked about
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff before and then and then he's
Speaker 1: like used the bathroom. He went in the bathroom, and
Speaker 1: I went in the room and got naked. So when
Speaker 1: he came out, of the bathroom, was like, come in here,
Speaker 1: and that's how it happened. And but yeah, he just
Speaker 1: in the nigger for the next four days. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you dick off. Do you like him? You looked at
Speaker 1: that cooking for him within a week, sitting her pictures
Speaker 1: of us and having champagne and Sammy child. You know what,
Speaker 1: this made me think of Mandy and I so much
Speaker 1: because I went through a breakup and me and he
Speaker 1: looked me up with this dude. I flew we fucked.
Speaker 1: But we have been talking for a while because I
Speaker 1: was really nervous after that. The next time he was
Speaker 1: coming to Orlando, was staying at my house. He's watching
Speaker 1: my She was like, you're not supposed to do this, right?
Speaker 1: We like this watch? I was like, I know that,
Speaker 1: Like we're She was wiping the up. What are you
Speaker 1: doing in the work. He didn't leave me some African sandals.
Speaker 1: I was sitting me to aj with my African sandals, like, Ben,
Speaker 1: you got got me some gifts? Like why videos? You
Speaker 1: know what? No? I actually him back to the streets.
Speaker 1: He started getting to but she was cooking, like no
Speaker 1: relationship relationships? Why he was cooking for him? Then we
Speaker 1: had to eat all right, work upside South Carolina. So
Speaker 1: what is this cheating episode you guys have? What is
Speaker 1: that common theme you learned from the episode? Tell us
Speaker 1: about this cheating episode you guys did our first episode
Speaker 1: it said with three men you did it with? Yeah,
Speaker 1: tell us about that cheaters? What is the cheaters? Never win?
Speaker 1: Winners never cheat? So we had, yeah, a couple of
Speaker 1: guys calling and basically tell why are the reasons why
Speaker 1: they chat? Because I feel like women need a reason.
Speaker 1: Men just need a time and a place to get
Speaker 1: that pussy. So, yeah, opportunities. So we wanted to find out,
Speaker 1: like why they cheat? Um, what gives you permission to cheat?
Speaker 1: What you find out? That's that's how you said, everyone,
Speaker 1: That's how we found out. The Witness Protection ship over
Speaker 1: their voice so they could be you know, candidate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so they could be honest and they just told a
Speaker 1: ship we already knew honestly. Then. So the first guy
Speaker 1: was a younger guy and he was like, uh in
Speaker 1: the music industry. He had like money and he was
Speaker 1: taking care of two different women. His man girl was
Speaker 1: like thirty one of traveler nurse and he said she
Speaker 1: was boring and then he had a twenty four year
Speaker 1: old fashionyone is young. First off, Ye, you know my
Speaker 1: pussy snap different now that I'm thirty. I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: hold you. It'd be snapping brow. That's the rest tap
Speaker 1: of baby. When I tell you I thought my pussy
Speaker 1: was women, when you get real like up god, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna like, I will say what you just said.
Speaker 1: I think we've talked about women do cheat as well,
Speaker 1: and I think that to be very fair, we get
Speaker 1: opportunity as well, and sometimes we don't have to have
Speaker 1: a reason. That's why I think hohen hills because when
Speaker 1: you cheat, you just be that nigga like probably is
Speaker 1: emotionally not filling you up, and you're like, you know what.
Speaker 1: Some it may not be emotional, but it could also
Speaker 1: be sexually. Maybe I'm not being pleased sexually when I cheating,
Speaker 1: when actually I I'm ready to leave. I lit a
Speaker 1: naked cheating please and be himself in peace and tell
Speaker 1: I'm really ready to get the fun you believe in
Speaker 1: that respectfully. Cheating, Yes, yes, that's a making myself unhappy
Speaker 1: or hurting my own feelings, But isn't not just ignoring it.
Speaker 1: That's just ignoring it. That's because something you don't know about.
Speaker 1: How you ignoring it if you're not if you out
Speaker 1: here searching for it, going through, but you're telling me
Speaker 1: if you think he's cheating, you choose not to look. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about before the phone is just there.
Speaker 1: You genuinely feel like this person next to you is
Speaker 1: I have been in the phone maybe twice in life. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know the phone. You're gonna find all this ship
Speaker 1: you want to see? No girls in black pad and
Speaker 1: the emails I had boyfriend iPad logged in when he
Speaker 1: went to prison, back when you know, you just watch
Speaker 1: movies and ship. So he had to go to practice.
Speaker 1: Left iPad the movie we were watching. As soon as
Speaker 1: he left, went straight to the emails. There was a
Speaker 1: car service for a bit and the next city he
Speaker 1: was going to. Oh, I did the name and everything? Shame?
Speaker 1: Did you tell him? So? Of course I didn't tell him.
Speaker 1: I found out. I say, you know, I know everything,
Speaker 1: you know, I got eyes everything, But I didn't exactly
Speaker 1: what you know? He found. I told him later down
Speaker 1: the line That's how I knew. But other than that,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I keep it. You know how many
Speaker 1: people I know? I knew everything because I have a question.
Speaker 1: So cheating is a deal breaker for you, it's not.
Speaker 1: I mean, but we're not monogamous in our relationship. We
Speaker 1: had a show with open relationships as well. I saw
Speaker 1: that you had Polly marriage um as one of the
Speaker 1: things that Dwayne left for us about your show. But
Speaker 1: I do want to talk about the differences with that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: talk about that. So we had a guy on the show,
Speaker 1: Dylan Dylan Lane. He's a guy he does in Charlotte
Speaker 1: Lane Lane. Okay, Okay, yeah, Brot, that's the old that's
Speaker 1: only an Asian last name. Ling. Maybe it could be
Speaker 1: Italians Italian? What do you said, Ling? I'm like, damn, maybe,
Speaker 1: I don't want to say. I used to get mad
Speaker 1: they used to tell me I was Spanish because they
Speaker 1: said Amanda is actually a Spanish name. And I was like,
Speaker 1: bro it's white and it's Amanda, and I also Amanda
Speaker 1: the panda. That's Florida Hospital mascot. Okay, that's where I
Speaker 1: got my fame. You're fucking serious. My mom put in,
Speaker 1: then my middle name is my cousin's name. Zero thought
Speaker 1: into my name as if I didn't come after two abortions,
Speaker 1: I should have really had a real name. Your name
Speaker 1: is after the hospital, the hospital mascot, and and my
Speaker 1: middle name is my cousins. All I could think of
Speaker 1: it's Tammy. Who's her mother's name? My mama, like, damn,
Speaker 1: we gotta name it right, baby, literal nigh and just
Speaker 1: walked back the man. That's how I command Amanda depends.
Speaker 1: Are you serious? I'm not lying at Florida Hospital, the
Speaker 1: mascot is Amanda the panda. Damn, y'all are laughing because
Speaker 1: my name means it actually means love. That is what
Speaker 1: my my my name means love. Now you've been rejecting
Speaker 1: it until you turn thirty, man, but now I love
Speaker 1: y'all love anyway, though, hold on, I'm trying to find
Speaker 1: the panda. It's just a bunch of Caucasians. I'll find.
Speaker 1: I have my mama show you the birth. So we
Speaker 1: got an open relationship. So we had a guy on
Speaker 1: he's in a five year relationship and they've been married
Speaker 1: for two years since two or three years away in
Speaker 1: an open relationship, and he went through the different steps, um,
Speaker 1: the different things that they went through, the different ways
Speaker 1: they did the open relationship. So first it was like
Speaker 1: don't ask on. And then second they had like this
Speaker 1: thing called church, which was like calendar that they would
Speaker 1: put on like when me too, I like church, but
Speaker 1: they didn't. They hated like church because it was passive
Speaker 1: aggressive for this. Yeah, I could see that, And so
Speaker 1: he just basically got to the point to where he's saying, like,
Speaker 1: having an open relationship with your partner makes it easy
Speaker 1: to communicate with anybody in the world, Like you don't
Speaker 1: you know, you don't liking your job. You could talk
Speaker 1: to your boss like listen, you're not paying me enough,
Speaker 1: bitch or whatever. The only thing that I know open
Speaker 1: relationship has done that. I would say, Um, it's counteractive
Speaker 1: with what I expected to happen, and it's okay because
Speaker 1: we work through it. But it's blurred some lines because
Speaker 1: through non monogamy. Um, for example, I want to know everything,
Speaker 1: you don't want to ship, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So when you have a nigga that lets you funk
Speaker 1: the niggas but wants to know nothing, um, and you
Speaker 1: want to know everything, then he's kind of like, yo,
Speaker 1: but I don't ask you questions, you know what I mean? UM.
Speaker 1: I think the other issue is like the things that
Speaker 1: may make me angry. He gets very confused about why
Speaker 1: do you want to know? Though? I want to know
Speaker 1: because I think that for one, it's ego. And when
Speaker 1: you say you want to know, do you want to
Speaker 1: just know when he does it? Or do you want
Speaker 1: to see the girl's instagram? Do you want to know
Speaker 1: what she looks like? I want to know? Does you
Speaker 1: do want to know? But yes, physically you want to
Speaker 1: be able to see who she's um. The only thing
Speaker 1: that we've had issue with two is there's a bit
Speaker 1: of a jealousy issue because he knows that I just can't.
Speaker 1: He's never had an emotional connection ever to someone who
Speaker 1: slept with that since we've been together. Right, Like, it's
Speaker 1: just super like whatever. There's a bit I like the
Speaker 1: who am whereas? And he likes it and they like it,
Speaker 1: and like they're respectful about it too, like they get
Speaker 1: the vibe and I'm cool with that. But on the
Speaker 1: other end, with me, it's like mine is a little
Speaker 1: more premeditated and like I'm going to l a this weekend,
Speaker 1: so you already know, and I'm going to eat at
Speaker 1: this place and you know I'm not paying for it
Speaker 1: because it was taken me out and you know that
Speaker 1: this is going on, and like there's a little more
Speaker 1: thought to it opposed to him. It's just like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't need to suck this bitch this weekend. It
Speaker 1: was just because I felt like it, Whereas the mine,
Speaker 1: I'm like learning calculated in that way and I'd like
Speaker 1: to do ship like that. So I think that's probably
Speaker 1: the blurred line of like he was like, I just
Speaker 1: kind of thought this was gonna be some shoop when
Speaker 1: but you were out there, you're out there. I didn't
Speaker 1: know he was looking for the nigga, And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: he just thought it was just supposed to happen. I
Speaker 1: think because his was spontaneous. You know mine also yours
Speaker 1: be a replacement, like if you were to find somebody else.
Speaker 1: Mine is just a little more. It requires some maintenance
Speaker 1: to where his doesn't like he's gonna suck whatever he
Speaker 1: wants to, that's just the truth, whereas mine is like
Speaker 1: sometimes I behave when I'll send you a little vacation,
Speaker 1: pigg do you like the beach? No? But I mean
Speaker 1: I think that's also just me. I'm kind of emo,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I'm I really haven't
Speaker 1: had a situation where I've seen a nigger and just
Speaker 1: wanted some dick because I think about my nigga, But
Speaker 1: really it happened that way. So I think those blurred
Speaker 1: lines of like Philip finding out what you're comfortable with,
Speaker 1: you need to explore a lot in open relationships, and
Speaker 1: it could make or break you. But once you get
Speaker 1: past that hurd or it's cool and it's not for everybody,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But when I say men
Speaker 1: aren't with open relationships, we go open. I mean, we're
Speaker 1: not open. But I this is the first guy and
Speaker 1: I I tell him, I like, damn, why I ain't
Speaker 1: meet you when I was really a home because what
Speaker 1: the things you say would have been music to my ears.
Speaker 1: Like he know I'm going to Jamaica and he's like,
Speaker 1: I know what happened in Jamaica. I'm going with my
Speaker 1: my home girl's birthday. But he's like, if you want,
Speaker 1: like to have fun out there, like have fun, like
Speaker 1: get you like And I'm just like, oh, but I
Speaker 1: don't want any like. Bro, he just came ten times
Speaker 1: this morning. I'm good, he'd be I'm good, y'all talk
Speaker 1: about being homes but y'all not really hols, like for real,
Speaker 1: you know, on vacation. I'm not getting no vacation. Mandy
Speaker 1: is in love right now. Don't let her do this.
Speaker 1: She let me tell you something. Let me just y'all
Speaker 1: might be one hole together like us. Hold this is
Speaker 1: a hold down. You're Mandy bro Chill, bro, because we
Speaker 1: don't do this because I'm anna hope for my man. Bro.
Speaker 1: Let me just say I am. I let him fun
Speaker 1: me with another dick in his hand. Mandy, that's not
Speaker 1: a real home. She's been in love. You called this
Speaker 1: your first real boyfriend. You've used that was the one
Speaker 1: in high school account so I think to not have
Speaker 1: that for ten years or maybe even twelve years if
Speaker 1: you count in high school. I think this is why
Speaker 1: it's really weird to associate hole with you. But what
Speaker 1: I'm hoping happens is you come to your whole. We
Speaker 1: go to the second club every weekend, like hope this
Speaker 1: It was gripping that bitch oping. What I mean is
Speaker 1: there was once upon a time where she too was
Speaker 1: and now I feel like I have to hold it
Speaker 1: down on my own. Do you hear this right? Bail
Speaker 1: going to the sex club every weekend. Now my whole
Speaker 1: car both it's you're not even seeing Jamaica as a
Speaker 1: big dick opportunity, bitch. But think I got a big
Speaker 1: dick and then he fucked me with King Duars dildo.
Speaker 1: That's a big dick. All right, Let's go say home, mail,
Speaker 1: Let's find a real going to Jamaica to dream my
Speaker 1: size bit. You ain't act like you've been to Jamaica.
Speaker 1: Striping guinnis for me. Thank you? All right, Let's try
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Speaker 1: podcast has been the main sex podcast that's helped me
Speaker 1: through a very dark period of life. I've been healing
Speaker 1: from sex trauma the last couple of years through therapy,
Speaker 1: support groups, and focusing on my health. My question is
Speaker 1: how can I get out of my abstinence while depression
Speaker 1: is still lingering. I feel like a j might can
Speaker 1: help us with this. Men want a fun woman or
Speaker 1: a woman who's at least happy, and while I do
Speaker 1: have my happy moments, my mental health is a journey
Speaker 1: and I want to embark into another whole phase. I
Speaker 1: feel like I need it in order to fully heal
Speaker 1: and feel empowered and integrate my sexual trauma, healing work.
Speaker 1: The only whole phase I went through was in art school,
Speaker 1: but it was all low life drug addicts or poor
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Speaker 1: I want to just be treated well. Capital cists I
Speaker 1: deserve and I'm successful. I have a podcast about mental health,
Speaker 1: I do yoga. I'm a writer and a speaker and
Speaker 1: have a lot of things going for me. And I
Speaker 1: want a guy to spend on me for once. I
Speaker 1: need sugar daddy attention. But I want to start sucking,
Speaker 1: and I'm terrified. I think I have a kink and
Speaker 1: it probably comes from trauma. Is that I need to
Speaker 1: be in control. Tell the guy that I want to fuck.
Speaker 1: Once we're done, they gotta go. I want no emotional connection.
Speaker 1: I just want to hold it out and reinvent myself.
Speaker 1: But my depression trauma is blocking me. How can I
Speaker 1: get out of this mental block? I got something to say,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna let you start h So, so she's
Speaker 1: a whole she wants to so Okay. I feel like
Speaker 1: in order to be a healthy home, you gotta be
Speaker 1: whole with yourself. So she's in like some type of
Speaker 1: the state of depression, like How is dick really gonna
Speaker 1: help with that? If she has to be whole first,
Speaker 1: and then I feel like it would be more fun
Speaker 1: once you sucking all the day. I feel like that too.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's when I'm to be happy to
Speaker 1: have sex. Now you're kink of one of the kick
Speaker 1: nigs out after you're done fucking, Like if you really
Speaker 1: wanted to do that. Anonymous tex sex type ship like
Speaker 1: you definitely could. Fat life like a lot of grinder
Speaker 1: ship is anonymous sex. But I actually think you may
Speaker 1: feel worse. I think she and I normally don't think that.
Speaker 1: It's only because you're already feeling I think she to
Speaker 1: reread her email. So the clip you you read contradicting, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what is I was saying? Like, if you're already in
Speaker 1: a down place and you just out here fucking, That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You need to recognize what's going on
Speaker 1: in your life when you just start picking up all
Speaker 1: these dicks just having sex for no reason? What what's
Speaker 1: going on with you? But she still needs to get fun?
Speaker 1: Can we not all agree with that? Um No, don't
Speaker 1: look at me like that, because you know I'm I'm
Speaker 1: gonna guys, I am no longer Mandy, I don't know
Speaker 1: who I am. Okay. So when you've read that, risk
Speaker 1: not bobile baby. Okay. So as you were reading the email,
Speaker 1: I took two things from it. Hey, if she reads
Speaker 1: it back outside of the depression, the anxiety, her low
Speaker 1: point wherever she's at right now, she was contradicting and
Speaker 1: even what she wanted. So in the one sense, she said,
Speaker 1: I want to be a hope, but I wanted to
Speaker 1: I want to be treated well. Then at the very
Speaker 1: end she says, I want to be a hoe, but
Speaker 1: I want to just tell them. I want to sun them.
Speaker 1: Then I want them to leave. So there's it's conflicting
Speaker 1: because to be treading well as a woman ship, we
Speaker 1: do want the intimacy, we want someone to be there
Speaker 1: to listen, to speak. And then on the opposite and
Speaker 1: she's like, no, but I really just want to get
Speaker 1: fucked and then tell them to go on their married way.
Speaker 1: She also mentioned sugar babies, sugar daddies. They will kick
Speaker 1: like there's a dynamic there where you don't have the
Speaker 1: power that maybe you even think you want. There's a
Speaker 1: lot of things in that email that conflicted with each other.
Speaker 1: So I think that she doesn't know what she wants.
Speaker 1: I think that she is in a very low place
Speaker 1: to where she thinks that the different things of this
Speaker 1: can resolve this depression that she's in. And I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie myself a lot of my friends, There's been
Speaker 1: times where I've had sex. I mean, just even with
Speaker 1: my man in fucking in January, I was at such
Speaker 1: a low point. I got up from the bed and
Speaker 1: just started crying, and I was just like, and I
Speaker 1: just went back to the bed fighting because one doesn't
Speaker 1: heal for what reason. Now, what I'm saying is it
Speaker 1: breaks up a break up, but don't already know who
Speaker 1: you want to try to hold fucking you. I don't
Speaker 1: know who you want to. I don't know you want
Speaker 1: to fun. I know who's d M. I'm gonna slide
Speaker 1: into it. That's the same, you know. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: If he don't let me funk him, I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: shoot that's the fun. So I think this is a
Speaker 1: great email to do in this episode. It kind of
Speaker 1: wasn't on purpose to be real with you, but two
Speaker 1: different types of healing, because this totally agree with what
Speaker 1: you're saying. When you're mentally and like seriously depressed. But
Speaker 1: it's not it's not it's not gonna heap or or
Speaker 1: I know, because it's another person's energy. And you don't
Speaker 1: make who said it in the clip that they don't
Speaker 1: believe that sex transfers energies. We said so, yeah, and
Speaker 1: that's the thing when you're dealing with some sort of trauma,
Speaker 1: is dealing with trauma or you Yeah, the piece that
Speaker 1: you didn't put in there, When you're dealing with some
Speaker 1: ship and you're letting man literally ejaculate his problems into
Speaker 1: your womb, imagine how this comp girlsulate, you know, another thing,
Speaker 1: Like I'd rather not have sex. I don't like I've
Speaker 1: been and it has to be And I'm like, I
Speaker 1: want this, you want one, and I haven't been, bro
Speaker 1: it's just a big wide, meaty dick, and I doesn't
Speaker 1: want like a hamburger like hamburger like me the other
Speaker 1: day slowly and told me because he needed to stretch
Speaker 1: my pussy out and I want to be like it up,
Speaker 1: but I did because I'm a respectful how anyway, No,
Speaker 1: I'm I think depression and the healing has to be different.
Speaker 1: I think breakups definitely definitely going to get Yeah, because
Speaker 1: men women get dick thrown at them all day long.
Speaker 1: We got to turn it down. We want to be
Speaker 1: a hool, so we want to funk people and men
Speaker 1: may as for breakups, and I don't care, genuinely, I
Speaker 1: really don't care who thinks it's unhealthy. You really feel
Speaker 1: like you'll never get someone again. Sometimes in a breakup
Speaker 1: you feel like there's nobody else that exists, Like I've
Speaker 1: felt that. You know, I'd be like, I'll never fun
Speaker 1: someone else again. There's no other niggas out here, And
Speaker 1: when you finally me, you'll be like, oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't feel like it's always niggas out here. What are
Speaker 1: you talking about? And so dick is in plethora. They
Speaker 1: will suck a chicken sandwich, so you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: I like. Choosing love is like I like somebody who
Speaker 1: can get bitches but ain't accessible to all of it.
Speaker 1: You'll never know j is so picky. You might need
Speaker 1: to pick your wig back up and nigh. That's what
Speaker 1: I told her choosing I need this and I like
Speaker 1: and I need to get paid and I need to
Speaker 1: get sucked. Right. They don't want to conduct ship and
Speaker 1: get back, you know what I mean? All right, let's
Speaker 1: tell the people where they can find you. Um, we
Speaker 1: know you're on the Black Effect Network, but yeah, tell
Speaker 1: us where we can find your socials. Know you asked
Speaker 1: me a question earlier, and I think you forgot about it.
Speaker 1: What was it you asked us? How do we know Challemagne?
Speaker 1: And how did we ask that before we started? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I know Charlemagne from Columbia, South Carolina. This is
Speaker 1: a funny story. He was working at the radio station
Speaker 1: and he was doing a remote in front of a barbecue,
Speaker 1: a barbecue restaurant, and I was going to get me
Speaker 1: a rim sandwich and he was out there and I
Speaker 1: was like, he had like the setup, you know, the
Speaker 1: DJ and ship. So I went over and I tried
Speaker 1: to get me some free tickets to a concert. And
Speaker 1: I always want to ask for something free, don't they
Speaker 1: get some tickets and some posters? So that's how old
Speaker 1: you know it is? That's real, that long long time ago.
Speaker 1: And then we've been friends ever since. Did you get
Speaker 1: the free ticket he did? He gave me talking about
Speaker 1: when I was Yeah he was, I mean he was
Speaker 1: might have been. So he worked at I need three
Speaker 1: in Charleston, South Carolina, and I won ticket to go
Speaker 1: see Nas. It was Naws at the house and boozing
Speaker 1: Myrtle Myrtle Beach, South Carolinas. I called in one tickets
Speaker 1: and him and his now wife they were on a
Speaker 1: trip to so we rolled like a stretch navy stretching. No,
Speaker 1: I forgot the whole thing for the little radio, the
Speaker 1: radio associate. So we drove the navigator down there, me
Speaker 1: and a friend. I even altered my driver's license to
Speaker 1: put eight teams. But you you wrote it down, I
Speaker 1: kind of scribbling older. Did you just write a new
Speaker 1: date on? And now you've been scratch into the plastic
Speaker 1: and they used the red pen. Remember that could be eighties,
Speaker 1: so I could change the date of I was anyway
Speaker 1: put you to We all already friends. We met at
Speaker 1: college in college, so me and Charlemagne have been friends
Speaker 1: since back home because he's from Monst Corner, which is
Speaker 1: like outside of Charleston. So I met me and tam
Speaker 1: Man in college college in South Carolina. The Tigers. Yeah
Speaker 1: today was now dog shit. As much as I have
Speaker 1: no concert happening exactly, something exclusive going on, as much
Speaker 1: as I'd be on Brent fire as Dick and I
Speaker 1: know Charlemagne. What the funk I'm telling you? When they
Speaker 1: haven't met the breakfast club. I need to be in
Speaker 1: the background taking I'm Taylor for the day, Taylor Chicken.
Speaker 1: She just wants to give out, honestly, And you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Have you ever heard me talk about
Speaker 1: a rapper or anybody like that? I don't even want to.
Speaker 1: I mean I have, really am I supposed to just
Speaker 1: start saying, Nate one that I fucked? I mean you did.
Speaker 1: I've never sucked a rapper, though you did fund on
Speaker 1: his dick or pillow or something too right, But isn't
Speaker 1: that badly? Don't count? I was like nineties, still is
Speaker 1: saying four years later she didn't have anal sex because
Speaker 1: she said the whole shaft didn't go in. But happened, Bro,
Speaker 1: It happened, Bro. She'd be loving saying, don't but like
Speaker 1: one that I really wanted. I don't care you didn't
Speaker 1: cry it down it maybe it doesn't Wait if what
Speaker 1: if it don't come? Put me on Southwest bro Southwestern bags,
Speaker 1: though you get to check to what's it's free bag?
Speaker 1: My thing is I don't like how bitch, don't get
Speaker 1: no seats, so now you like get in like we
Speaker 1: did Molly all night. So I missed my flight. When
Speaker 1: you're driving off to the airport and Atlanta Hartfield, I
Speaker 1: was like, Oh, they're gonna make me pay to do
Speaker 1: another one and he was like okay, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you need to turn around. It's what I'm saying. We're
Speaker 1: no cash happing shaped back then, So what's crazy? I
Speaker 1: remember now because used to Western Union me bitch, Western
Speaker 1: Union money. When you think of how being a hole
Speaker 1: used to be back in the day, Now I got
Speaker 1: fluid out of being funny on Twitter. Nigger. All I
Speaker 1: had was one picture. I got fluid out off being
Speaker 1: was on Twitter like this. If you don't know what
Speaker 1: we're talking about, please check YouTube. Anyway, what YouTube, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all we talk back. We're so happy to have our
Speaker 1: first Black Effects podcast on here with us. Um. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying we're coming to South Carolina, but you know,
Speaker 1: shout out to Charlotte. Did one of our last live
Speaker 1: shows before COVID hit in Charlotte and they were amazing.
Speaker 1: They came out on a Wednesday night, packed out the house.
Speaker 1: So just shout out to show. Shout out to thank
Speaker 1: you for listening to our show if you are tired
Speaker 1: of us having guests, even though these guests were fun. Patreon,
Speaker 1: we are damn near almost have solo episode. So I
Speaker 1: need y'all to understand that, because I feel like y'all
Speaker 1: be like, who's gonna be here to leak now if
Speaker 1: you don't like them? For real, Not y'all. I'm just saying, hey, look,
Speaker 1: listen to us alone and if you want to join
Speaker 1: in the convo. Once a month on Patreon, we do
Speaker 1: live town Halls. Mandy and I are now doing four
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Speaker 1: you can watch behind the scenes fitted even behind the
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Speaker 1: to patreon dot com slash Horrible Decisions what else? Um. Yeah, Also,
Speaker 1: we are working. We're gonna discuss uh. I know a
Speaker 1: lot of you guys y'all here in Spanish ads now
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Speaker 1: work on getting some ad free episodes over there for y'all. Well,
Speaker 1: our Patreon episodes are ad free. You can go over
Speaker 1: there and listen and sometimes Wheezy just be wanting to
Speaker 1: stay talking to me. So we even got like our
Speaker 1: plus episodes over there, so if y'all want to go
Speaker 1: listen over there. Um and like like you said, also
Speaker 1: a lot of you guys see these mugs. Y'all have
Speaker 1: been asking where can I get these mugs? If you
Speaker 1: like these mugs. These are actually for our top tier patrons,
Speaker 1: So fifteen dollar patrons get a little cute things like
Speaker 1: this every in the canvas in the back behind and
Speaker 1: the campus and there's t shirts, there's sweatshirts and we're
Speaker 1: getting new designs for that. Also, if you guys are
Speaker 1: all caught up with us on both Patreon and our
Speaker 1: regular episodes, feel free. On Mondays you can also listen
Speaker 1: to Periods this which is my other podcast. It's a
Speaker 1: very short form uh edutainment type of podcasts of storytelling,
Speaker 1: um tales of womanhood. So it's various women sharing their
Speaker 1: tales of their health, journeys and everything else. And then
Speaker 1: on Tuesdays you can listen to me for goddamn to
Speaker 1: three hours goddamn on. See the thing is when my
Speaker 1: girl Bridget Kelly and we have our friends with benefits
Speaker 1: joining us. Yes, Also on Tuesdays we've got for fact
Speaker 1: sake with Me and Eddie Doll Seppy. Y'all go see
Speaker 1: him film. Yeah, he's coming in two weeks. He was
Speaker 1: so funny. He's like, I don't know if Mandy likes me.
Speaker 1: He was like, why do you think that? Because when
Speaker 1: he was on the episode, he's white presenting, so he
Speaker 1: was telling the story and you were like, what are
Speaker 1: you talking about? You don't remember that he said your
Speaker 1: life with a Loving hip Hop movie. He's like, I
Speaker 1: don't think she liked that was what you used to
Speaker 1: do that? So I felt like maybe hip hop used
Speaker 1: to say I dressed like loving hip hop on the tour, Bitch,
Speaker 1: you did? You had all glitter, everything is fabulous. I
Speaker 1: didn't say it was it and it was lost. I
Speaker 1: never said it was. But there's a hip hop tire
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna explain what it is that was never shade.
Speaker 1: Loving hip hop is over the top for every occasion
Speaker 1: when they go to have their friends over, they are
Speaker 1: fully dressed, full makeup and whatever. Mandy is that bitch
Speaker 1: day we got Woja cat move, bitch, sure you wish?
Speaker 1: What do you think now? What do you think that?
Speaker 1: Did you see how she took it a shade? It was.
Speaker 1: It was in the auto you see what I mean.
Speaker 1: You fucking check out the five minute motherfucking bonus play.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to Yeah another episode of
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Speaker 1: Sorry that we kind of just talked all over that Edin,
Speaker 1: but if you could catch all them notes, that would
Speaker 1: be great. Thank you, sir, by God, say bye, ed
Speaker 1: and say bye to the people I feel like they
Speaker 1: don't want to hear me say by it comment by
Speaker 1: What other qualities do you think should be deal breakers
Speaker 1: for non negotiables in order for it to make sense
Speaker 1: to move forward outside of the looks? If if if
Speaker 1: they're in the position where you are, where I really
Speaker 1: want a boyfriend, I really want a man, what other
Speaker 1: qualities should they have outside of looks? If you have
Speaker 1: to still have look you, well, I think first thing
Speaker 1: and I think this is the question I've asked, so,
Speaker 1: what's what's today's Saturday? So it's almost been seven days
Speaker 1: of reflection. Asked started with asking yourself what is it
Speaker 1: that you want? And being very clear and what it
Speaker 1: is that you want? Right, because I think as women
Speaker 1: sometimes we don't define what it is that we want.
Speaker 1: And once I define that, I was able to kind
Speaker 1: of I think I'm getting more clarity on what it
Speaker 1: is I need out of a man based on what
Speaker 1: I want, right, and those those things didn't involve looks,
Speaker 1: So to achieve the goal I want to achieve. Now
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so it's like reverse engineering, right, So
Speaker 1: now I'm starting to do that and I am having
Speaker 1: like even conversations with you. Last night it was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I probably gotta cut off like al ten of these
Speaker 1: dudes and maybe focus on you know, and if none
Speaker 1: of them were none of them fit what I've now
Speaker 1: defined as what I want or can get me there,
Speaker 1: they gotta go. Do you listen to Kevin Samuels? So
Speaker 1: the new one has me listening to Kevin Samuels. So
Speaker 1: I only say that because is youret And I think
Speaker 1: it's also clear that you still don't really know what
Speaker 1: you want? Mhmm. And a lot of the women that
Speaker 1: call in to Kevin Samuel's show, sorry guys. He asked
Speaker 1: them so many questions and it feels like it trips
Speaker 1: them up, and he's able to completely control the narrative
Speaker 1: on who they are and why they don't have what
Speaker 1: they want, simply off the fact that a lot of
Speaker 1: them don't know what they want. I remember one woman
Speaker 1: was like, I mean, I have kids. I guess if
Speaker 1: my partner wants kids, sure I'll have them or and
Speaker 1: I was engaged, but I called it off and I
Speaker 1: can't really tell you why. He just wasn't it. And
Speaker 1: there's a lot of women who date that way. They
Speaker 1: date knowing that they want a partner, but not knowing
Speaker 1: what they need fully from another half. And that's what
Speaker 1: that's that's what I just said. I had to reverse
Speaker 1: engineer this baby, right, said what do you want? And
Speaker 1: I was very clear with you, I want to be married,
Speaker 1: I want to have kids, so okay, cool, but what
Speaker 1: you're doing and how you're acting isn't aligning with that, right.
Speaker 1: So it was more of a self check with myself,
Speaker 1: like you actually got align with what you say you
Speaker 1: want because I'm very clear that I want that because
Speaker 1: the relationship I just got out of I was also
Speaker 1: raising five kids, and you know, I want my mom.
Speaker 1: I was a step mom and I and i'm and
Speaker 1: I'm very much a maternal human being. So I just
Speaker 1: have to walk in what I say. I want. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, and it's and it's I think
Speaker 1: I get distracted, you know what I'm saying, And like
Speaker 1: like you, I'm also career focused and I'm busy, so
Speaker 1: sometimes it's easy to have like whatever basic conversations because
Speaker 1: I don't have time and the mental capacity to deal
Speaker 1: with a whole lot more for the longest fucking day.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, And I know you feel
Speaker 1: that that's what But like I think your person allows
Speaker 1: you a positive escape from that, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Where is situations that may not be right, don't right.
Speaker 1: But also the fact, like you said that a as
Speaker 1: career driven women, we want an escape from our partner.
Speaker 1: So that's why what I brought up earlier in the
Speaker 1: episode about all of the negative connotations of relationships then
Speaker 1: being hard them not being easy than being hard work.
Speaker 1: We work so hard in our day to day life.
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't have a relationship that feels like
Speaker 1: another job period. At this point, I know I can't
Speaker 1: do it. And I think that that's probably what works
Speaker 1: against a lot of career driven, very busy women, is
Speaker 1: that if you go down the gender roles, the patriarchy,
Speaker 1: which a lot of people still want to kind of
Speaker 1: uphold a little bit, it takes a lot to run
Speaker 1: a business, to be an employee, to to be an entrepreneur,
Speaker 1: and then no, fuck, I have to go home and
Speaker 1: cook and clean, bold fuck suck and and make sure
Speaker 1: that I'm everything that a wife, because being a wife
Speaker 1: and being a mother, those are also jobs.