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Speaker 1: I saw the first little clip, y'all, I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I really want to call and be like, I thought

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Speaker 1: y'all show about? We talked back, listen, we thought we

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Speaker 1: An episode was like, are we only holes on Black Effect?

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Speaker 1: And they may be ho hoes, but were like one

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Speaker 1: whole you like Christmas? Wait, y'all only half and half? Yeah, together,

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Speaker 1: us about uh your whole ways. I mean, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: they're not gonna enough. My god, that movie could have

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00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 1: never came out to this, like why that thing isn't ablematic?

423
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: I was watching it like this really was like the

424
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:19,120
Speaker 1: Ship And if you like I missed that, bro, you're

425
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 1: gonna watch the movie and be like you're gonna look

426
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: around like you and trouble watching it? Bro, I remember it?

427
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 1: Would you be bad that you laugh at the ship?

428
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: You laugh? That was problematic? And okay, kids, I'm sticking

429
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 1: at ship too. I just watched The Wedding Planner and

430
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: me and my woke ship. I was like, they made

431
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: her Italian. She's clearly Latina. I was like I was

432
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 1: on Twitter, It's like I cannot believe this, and she

433
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: agreed to it. But it's like I was, where you

434
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,120
Speaker 1: gonna get baby, That's why you don't like her saying

435
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 1: the N word. J Loo says, Nigga, Oh yeah, yeah, sorry,

436
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: that fun name. I remembers my thing. This is why

437
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: I want to have a policy black. It's the culture.

438
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily a nature nation of people. So black

439
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 1: is like a culture. So she probably feels like she's

440
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: of the black culture. So she can say naked. But

441
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: you wouldn't say that if white people are saying it

442
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,159
Speaker 1: and they grew up in a hood. No, well, I

443
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 1: don't know. That's why I don't think black. Black is

444
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: not a culture, bro? What is it is a culture?

445
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 1: It's color. It's definitely a color. You have Africans who

446
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,439
Speaker 1: don't consider themselves just black. I mean I think that

447
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: that's why even when they we have, well, when we

448
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: have the in word discussion, and I know Kyrie Irving

449
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: just came out and doesn't want it to even be reclaimed,

450
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 1: He's like, we need to completely stop saying it. I

451
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: think that's why even using the term black, I like

452
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 1: to dissect it as just African American. I don't like

453
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: African American. I like to but I like to add

454
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: that that's interesting that you're like, I don't. But to me,

455
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 1: there has to be an American, just an American. That's

456
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 1: what I feel like. Yeah, but I feel like Black Americans.

457
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,400
Speaker 1: If you want to take out the African, then Black

458
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: Americans have such a different um I think, experienced, experienced

459
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 1: culture from everybody in the world, even blacks from Africa.

460
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: Blacks from the Africa then just don't consider themselves black.

461
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:19,479
Speaker 1: They're Nigerian, They're but you understand it because there's no

462
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,160
Speaker 1: one against right, we need to identify ourselves so much

463
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,719
Speaker 1: because the person in the room're gonna look like us

464
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: nine out of ten, right, I think what percent of

465
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 1: the population is black? That's sucking insane. Soto finding what

466
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 1: you're you know, checking your genealogy, talking to the elders

467
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 1: in your family, and figuring out who the funk you are.

468
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 1: So like, I'm from Charleston, South Carolina, where Geichy people.

469
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: There's a whole Indian indigenous tribe o Geeche Indians. So

470
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 1: white people have a way of telling you a lie

471
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: and the truth at the same time, so you can't

472
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 1: depend on them for your primary research. We're trying to

473
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,719
Speaker 1: figure out who the funk you are so that you're

474
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 1: not just calling yourself black because Negro was on the

475
00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: census up until so what are you? I don't want

476
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: to be black. I don't want to be African American.

477
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 1: I definitely don't want to be Negro. Figure out who

478
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 1: the funk you are as a nation of people if

479
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: you want. So, we're going the whole right, and we're

480
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: going to do we want to get Yeah, yeah, black ass.

481
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 1: Floyd or need you love? The political with your line

482
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: has talked about I don't want to be you want

483
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 1: to be politically correct. Okay, let's get into some fun.

484
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,199
Speaker 1: You have to beat people to funk up. That's what

485
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 1: I want. Doesn't heal? Is what you said? Um, and

486
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 1: this is the clip. This is how I found We

487
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: talked back and literally I think my Instagram just like

488
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: when Ho pops up and I'm just like, oh, just

489
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: say you all. It goes right to me. But let's

490
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 1: play your clip. Let's see a Friday here we go.

491
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: Does not heal because at the end of the day,

492
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: you're just letting somebody else use your vagina, you know,

493
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: so you gotta stop thinking about your vagina using it.

494
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: It's yours, so you use it how you want to.

495
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: You don't let them use it. You use their dick,

496
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: not use your vagina. But you literally let somebody go

497
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: inside your body, right, So because you choose it though,

498
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: because you choose it, you take you when you said

499
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: when choose that day giving them power over your vagina. No,

500
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: your vagina has the power and you're using it how

501
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: you know. Let's say you're going through a breakup and

502
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: it's over. Sometimes that a v dick is like good

503
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: to get through and just people after this breakup, as

504
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: long as you're doing it responsibly and safe. You know,

505
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: you're a grown woman. I don't agree with transferring energy

506
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: like that with so many people, but if you decide

507
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: to do that, that's your prerogative. I'm not mad. So

508
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: it went on, but yeah, I would say, do you

509
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: not think that to get over somebody getting under someone

510
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 1: is do you think that's completely not true? Let's talk

511
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: about that like this really not hell. I feel like

512
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 1: it's possible, it's possible to get with somebody to get over,

513
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: but I think it's more important to me, Like I

514
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: want you to pitching me rolling like on some tupaction

515
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: when we break up. I want to be looking better,

516
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 1: I want to have more money. I want to be

517
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 1: driving nice when you see me. Can just sucking a

518
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 1: naken do that if he is, get you a new

519
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: car and more money, and like, it's not everyone can

520
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: just level up after a breakup. A lot of people

521
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: combine households or combined incomes and really go through shipped

522
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 1: together that when a breakup happens. Sure you can go

523
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: get a haircut, Sure you can go take a picture

524
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: in some lingerie. But the idea that you're speaking of

525
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: after a breakup short you can level up inside. But

526
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 1: the idea that after I break up, I'm leveling up

527
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: by getting a new car. Maybe No, that's not what

528
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So and the breakup I'm comusing on it

529
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: doesn't have to do with another with a man me

530
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 1: jumping on somebody else days something that need to handle internally.

531
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: This is fine because I don't know the first thing.

532
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it like it's somebody else after

533
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: the breaking evening. Sometimes I don't I just be like yo,

534
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 1: I need to get que I need to go out

535
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: and I need to have somebody else be all because

536
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: generally in a breakup, I'm feeling so worthless, right even

537
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: if I'm the one who does it, I'm like, damn,

538
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: something's making me feel not invalid invalidated. But you know

539
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say, like invalidated devalidated. Deal. Yeah. Now,

540
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 1: whether that's healthy or not, I already know something y'all

541
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: feel like it isn't, But I'm not going First, I

542
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: do like going on a date and like, yes, I

543
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: love that you didn't compliment last time I was with you,

544
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: and then that's not fucking oh no. But I'm like

545
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: I depend on and they're like fucking to me. It's

546
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: exciting and fun, and I love those first experience as

547
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: a sucking someone new, Like, don't get me wrong, I'm

548
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: a sucking the same nickel for a long time, but

549
00:31:56,040 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: new dick do be like yeah, yeah. And I think

550
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 1: that sometimes sex can bring intimacy and exciting excitement that

551
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 1: you haven't felt in a while, especially when you've been

552
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 1: down in the dumps with somebody. Break clubs are rough,

553
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 1: especially when you've been used to sucking one person. It

554
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: is nice for someone else to see you naked for

555
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 1: the first time and feel sexy again. A lot of

556
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: women may have some body image issues in a in

557
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: a breakup right, not feeling good about that. When someone

558
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: new funcks you, they just be like, damn every beautiful yo.

559
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: My mom's like, oh didn't I don't give a funk.

560
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: They'd be ready Garfield, you know what I mean, let

561
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: me get that. Now tell me what y'all think. Have

562
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: you ever fucked and it went the opposite away or

563
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 1: it didn't heal you or something. I mean I brought

564
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: up when all of my friends break up or have

565
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: a heartbreak, I'll be the first be like, girl, let

566
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: me get you a new nigga. Right, let's have some

567
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 1: fun service. You sent me some way. Yeah, it was

568
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: like Ubert did. I was like, I know a guy

569
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: and what was that? Wait? Wait, I grew up and

570
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: now I just get my friends flute out and that's

571
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: kind of cool. But wait, you you hubered? You just okay?

572
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: Wait was this the guy that you had that you

573
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 1: had had sex with previously? Yeah? I mean figure if

574
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: you knew it was good? Wait, so you now that's

575
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: the t for the man listening you. I used to

576
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 1: tell you y'all never did that before, like, Dan, girl,

577
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: you should this nigga? Yeah, actually done when I'm over one.

578
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: Even when I was seven, Like if he would travel,

579
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: I would be like I would tell my friend, like, girl,

580
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 1: this nigga in your city. It's good. You won't I mean,

581
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: And I think even now with my partner, it's more

582
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: like you want to join this. I'm trying to think

583
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: I do this with three sons all the time, but

584
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: I did used to do it. Yeah, I have so

585
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: wait a second, So you did he know that you

586
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 1: were sending him? Yeah? I say hey, I said, oh,

587
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:01,959
Speaker 1: we're literally on the phone. I'm like, hold on, let

588
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: me texting. I was texting. I ain't gonna say when

589
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: he was always take what was that text message? Like?

590
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 1: What you doing? You busy? I got for you? I

591
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 1: was like, girl, I need to get fucked. Shut the

592
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 1: fun over he was keeping. I was like, So when

593
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: she said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,

594
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,399
Speaker 1: I'm nervous now because I was like doing girl, do it.

595
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 1: And then when he said he was coming, I was like, oh, ship,

596
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: stranger is about to come over. Here? Was it good? Dick?

597
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 1: It was dick to get wasted like all right. So

598
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,359
Speaker 1: when he came he came in, he was nervous too,

599
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 1: So that made me a little bit less nervous because

600
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: he didn't just come in there like, hey, pull your

601
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 1: pussy out right now. He wasn't like that. So we

602
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 1: smoked and were drink and I got to know. I mean,

603
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: he seemed like he had good morals and nice man

604
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: like rooms. Yes, he was a nice just the dick

605
00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: over to her house and he's an African Muslim. I

606
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: learned about we're talking. We talked about right now, like

607
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: you are so me like before I want to get

608
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: sloppy on the jack, I'd be like no, but like

609
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: I too, like love crystals and stuff. And then there's

610
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: no cork in my fridge. We're gonna have a great time.

611
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 1: Exactly what did happen? How long did y'all connect before

612
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 1: y'all started? It was like maybe an hour and a half.

613
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: We said yeah and just smoked and I learned about

614
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: his family and Africa and his education. We talked about

615
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff before and then and then he's

616
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 1: like used the bathroom. He went in the bathroom, and

617
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:43,799
Speaker 1: I went in the room and got naked. So when

618
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 1: he came out, of the bathroom, was like, come in here,

619
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: and that's how it happened. And but yeah, he just

620
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: in the nigger for the next four days. I'm like,

621
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: you dick off. Do you like him? You looked at

622
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 1: that cooking for him within a week, sitting her pictures

623
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: of us and having champagne and Sammy child. You know what,

624
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: this made me think of Mandy and I so much

625
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: because I went through a breakup and me and he

626
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: looked me up with this dude. I flew we fucked.

627
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: But we have been talking for a while because I

628
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: was really nervous after that. The next time he was

629
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 1: coming to Orlando, was staying at my house. He's watching

630
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 1: my She was like, you're not supposed to do this, right?

631
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: We like this watch? I was like, I know that,

632
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: Like we're She was wiping the up. What are you

633
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 1: doing in the work. He didn't leave me some African sandals.

634
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: I was sitting me to aj with my African sandals, like, Ben,

635
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:46,800
Speaker 1: you got got me some gifts? Like why videos? You

636
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 1: know what? No? I actually him back to the streets.

637
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: He started getting to but she was cooking, like no

638
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: relationship relationships? Why he was cooking for him? Then we

639
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 1: had to eat all right, work upside South Carolina. So

640
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: what is this cheating episode you guys have? What is

641
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 1: that common theme you learned from the episode? Tell us

642
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 1: about this cheating episode you guys did our first episode

643
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: it said with three men you did it with? Yeah,

644
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: tell us about that cheaters? What is the cheaters? Never win?

645
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 1: Winners never cheat? So we had, yeah, a couple of

646
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: guys calling and basically tell why are the reasons why

647
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: they chat? Because I feel like women need a reason.

648
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 1: Men just need a time and a place to get

649
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 1: that pussy. So, yeah, opportunities. So we wanted to find out,

650
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:36,479
Speaker 1: like why they cheat? Um, what gives you permission to cheat?

651
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 1: What you find out? That's that's how you said, everyone,

652
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: That's how we found out. The Witness Protection ship over

653
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: their voice so they could be you know, candidate. Yeah,

654
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 1: so they could be honest and they just told a

655
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:54,439
Speaker 1: ship we already knew honestly. Then. So the first guy

656
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 1: was a younger guy and he was like, uh in

657
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 1: the music industry. He had like money and he was

658
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: taking care of two different women. His man girl was

659
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: like thirty one of traveler nurse and he said she

660
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 1: was boring and then he had a twenty four year

661
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: old fashionyone is young. First off, Ye, you know my

662
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: pussy snap different now that I'm thirty. I ain't gonna

663
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: hold you. It'd be snapping brow. That's the rest tap

664
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:30,760
Speaker 1: of baby. When I tell you I thought my pussy

665
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: was women, when you get real like up god, I'm

666
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 1: not gonna like, I will say what you just said.

667
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: I think we've talked about women do cheat as well,

668
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: and I think that to be very fair, we get

669
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: opportunity as well, and sometimes we don't have to have

670
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: a reason. That's why I think hohen hills because when

671
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 1: you cheat, you just be that nigga like probably is

672
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 1: emotionally not filling you up, and you're like, you know what.

673
00:38:54,960 --> 00:39:00,479
Speaker 1: Some it may not be emotional, but it could also

674
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: be sexually. Maybe I'm not being pleased sexually when I cheating,

675
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 1: when actually I I'm ready to leave. I lit a

676
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: naked cheating please and be himself in peace and tell

677
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:09,800
Speaker 1: I'm really ready to get the fun you believe in

678
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: that respectfully. Cheating, Yes, yes, that's a making myself unhappy

679
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 1: or hurting my own feelings, But isn't not just ignoring it.

680
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: That's just ignoring it. That's because something you don't know about.

681
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 1: How you ignoring it if you're not if you out

682
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: here searching for it, going through, but you're telling me

683
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: if you think he's cheating, you choose not to look. Oh,

684
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about before the phone is just there.

685
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 1: You genuinely feel like this person next to you is

686
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 1: I have been in the phone maybe twice in life. Okay,

687
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: you know the phone. You're gonna find all this ship

688
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 1: you want to see? No girls in black pad and

689
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 1: the emails I had boyfriend iPad logged in when he

690
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: went to prison, back when you know, you just watch

691
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,720
Speaker 1: movies and ship. So he had to go to practice.

692
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 1: Left iPad the movie we were watching. As soon as

693
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 1: he left, went straight to the emails. There was a

694
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: car service for a bit and the next city he

695
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: was going to. Oh, I did the name and everything? Shame?

696
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: Did you tell him? So? Of course I didn't tell him.

697
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,720
Speaker 1: I found out. I say, you know, I know everything,

698
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 1: you know, I got eyes everything, But I didn't exactly

699
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 1: what you know? He found. I told him later down

700
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 1: the line That's how I knew. But other than that,

701
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I keep it. You know how many

702
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 1: people I know? I knew everything because I have a question.

703
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 1: So cheating is a deal breaker for you, it's not.

704
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 1: I mean, but we're not monogamous in our relationship. We

705
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: had a show with open relationships as well. I saw

706
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: that you had Polly marriage um as one of the

707
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: things that Dwayne left for us about your show. But

708
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: I do want to talk about the differences with that. Yeah,

709
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,479
Speaker 1: talk about that. So we had a guy on the show,

710
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,440
Speaker 1: Dylan Dylan Lane. He's a guy he does in Charlotte

711
00:40:54,800 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 1: Lane Lane. Okay, Okay, yeah, Brot, that's the old that's

712
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,840
Speaker 1: only an Asian last name. Ling. Maybe it could be

713
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: Italians Italian? What do you said, Ling? I'm like, damn, maybe,

714
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to say. I used to get mad

715
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 1: they used to tell me I was Spanish because they

716
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: said Amanda is actually a Spanish name. And I was like,

717
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 1: bro it's white and it's Amanda, and I also Amanda

718
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 1: the panda. That's Florida Hospital mascot. Okay, that's where I

719
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:34,400
Speaker 1: got my fame. You're fucking serious. My mom put in,

720
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 1: then my middle name is my cousin's name. Zero thought

721
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: into my name as if I didn't come after two abortions,

722
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: I should have really had a real name. Your name

723
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: is after the hospital, the hospital mascot, and and my

724
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: middle name is my cousins. All I could think of

725
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,439
Speaker 1: it's Tammy. Who's her mother's name? My mama, like, damn,

726
00:41:53,480 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: we gotta name it right, baby, literal nigh and just

727
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: walked back the man. That's how I command Amanda depends.

728
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 1: Are you serious? I'm not lying at Florida Hospital, the

729
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 1: mascot is Amanda the panda. Damn, y'all are laughing because

730
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 1: my name means it actually means love. That is what

731
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: my my my name means love. Now you've been rejecting

732
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: it until you turn thirty, man, but now I love

733
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: y'all love anyway, though, hold on, I'm trying to find

734
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: the panda. It's just a bunch of Caucasians. I'll find.

735
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: I have my mama show you the birth. So we

736
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: got an open relationship. So we had a guy on

737
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 1: he's in a five year relationship and they've been married

738
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: for two years since two or three years away in

739
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 1: an open relationship, and he went through the different steps, um,

740
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: the different things that they went through, the different ways

741
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 1: they did the open relationship. So first it was like

742
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: don't ask on. And then second they had like this

743
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:04,839
Speaker 1: thing called church, which was like calendar that they would

744
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:09,800
Speaker 1: put on like when me too, I like church, but

745
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: they didn't. They hated like church because it was passive

746
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 1: aggressive for this. Yeah, I could see that, And so

747
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 1: he just basically got to the point to where he's saying, like,

748
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,320
Speaker 1: having an open relationship with your partner makes it easy

749
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,919
Speaker 1: to communicate with anybody in the world, Like you don't

750
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: you know, you don't liking your job. You could talk

751
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: to your boss like listen, you're not paying me enough,

752
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 1: bitch or whatever. The only thing that I know open

753
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 1: relationship has done that. I would say, Um, it's counteractive

754
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,479
Speaker 1: with what I expected to happen, and it's okay because

755
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 1: we work through it. But it's blurred some lines because

756
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: through non monogamy. Um, for example, I want to know everything,

757
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:47,439
Speaker 1: you don't want to ship, you know what I'm saying.

758
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: So when you have a nigga that lets you funk

759
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 1: the niggas but wants to know nothing, um, and you

760
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: want to know everything, then he's kind of like, yo,

761
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 1: but I don't ask you questions, you know what I mean? UM.

762
00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: I think the other issue is like the things that

763
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: may make me angry. He gets very confused about why

764
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: do you want to know? Though? I want to know

765
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:12,359
Speaker 1: because I think that for one, it's ego. And when

766
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: you say you want to know, do you want to

767
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: just know when he does it? Or do you want

768
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: to see the girl's instagram? Do you want to know

769
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 1: what she looks like? I want to know? Does you

770
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 1: do want to know? But yes, physically you want to

771
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: be able to see who she's um. The only thing

772
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: that we've had issue with two is there's a bit

773
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: of a jealousy issue because he knows that I just can't.

774
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 1: He's never had an emotional connection ever to someone who

775
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 1: slept with that since we've been together. Right, Like, it's

776
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: just super like whatever. There's a bit I like the

777
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 1: who am whereas? And he likes it and they like it,

778
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 1: and like they're respectful about it too, like they get

779
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: the vibe and I'm cool with that. But on the

780
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 1: other end, with me, it's like mine is a little

781
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 1: more premeditated and like I'm going to l a this weekend,

782
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 1: so you already know, and I'm going to eat at

783
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 1: this place and you know I'm not paying for it

784
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 1: because it was taken me out and you know that

785
00:44:57,840 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 1: this is going on, and like there's a little more

786
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: thought to it opposed to him. It's just like, oh,

787
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: I didn't need to suck this bitch this weekend. It

788
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 1: was just because I felt like it, Whereas the mine,

789
00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: I'm like learning calculated in that way and I'd like

790
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,280
Speaker 1: to do ship like that. So I think that's probably

791
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 1: the blurred line of like he was like, I just

792
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 1: kind of thought this was gonna be some shoop when

793
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 1: but you were out there, you're out there. I didn't

794
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 1: know he was looking for the nigga, And I was like, oh,

795
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 1: he just thought it was just supposed to happen. I

796
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: think because his was spontaneous. You know mine also yours

797
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,479
Speaker 1: be a replacement, like if you were to find somebody else.

798
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: Mine is just a little more. It requires some maintenance

799
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 1: to where his doesn't like he's gonna suck whatever he

800
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: wants to, that's just the truth, whereas mine is like

801
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: sometimes I behave when I'll send you a little vacation,

802
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 1: pigg do you like the beach? No? But I mean

803
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 1: I think that's also just me. I'm kind of emo,

804
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:55,359
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I'm I really haven't

805
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: had a situation where I've seen a nigger and just

806
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,279
Speaker 1: wanted some dick because I think about my nigga, But

807
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 1: really it happened that way. So I think those blurred

808
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 1: lines of like Philip finding out what you're comfortable with,

809
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 1: you need to explore a lot in open relationships, and

810
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: it could make or break you. But once you get

811
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 1: past that hurd or it's cool and it's not for everybody,

812
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But when I say men

813
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:20,160
Speaker 1: aren't with open relationships, we go open. I mean, we're

814
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: not open. But I this is the first guy and

815
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 1: I I tell him, I like, damn, why I ain't

816
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: meet you when I was really a home because what

817
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 1: the things you say would have been music to my ears.

818
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 1: Like he know I'm going to Jamaica and he's like,

819
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: I know what happened in Jamaica. I'm going with my

820
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:39,439
Speaker 1: my home girl's birthday. But he's like, if you want,

821
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: like to have fun out there, like have fun, like

822
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 1: get you like And I'm just like, oh, but I

823
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 1: don't want any like. Bro, he just came ten times

824
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,359
Speaker 1: this morning. I'm good, he'd be I'm good, y'all talk

825
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 1: about being homes but y'all not really hols, like for real,

826
00:46:54,280 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 1: you know, on vacation. I'm not getting no vacation. Mandy

827
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: is in love right now. Don't let her do this.

828
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:07,319
Speaker 1: She let me tell you something. Let me just y'all

829
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 1: might be one hole together like us. Hold this is

830
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: a hold down. You're Mandy bro Chill, bro, because we

831
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 1: don't do this because I'm anna hope for my man. Bro.

832
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 1: Let me just say I am. I let him fun

833
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 1: me with another dick in his hand. Mandy, that's not

834
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 1: a real home. She's been in love. You called this

835
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 1: your first real boyfriend. You've used that was the one

836
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 1: in high school account so I think to not have

837
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 1: that for ten years or maybe even twelve years if

838
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: you count in high school. I think this is why

839
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: it's really weird to associate hole with you. But what

840
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 1: I'm hoping happens is you come to your whole. We

841
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 1: go to the second club every weekend, like hope this

842
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:05,719
Speaker 1: It was gripping that bitch oping. What I mean is

843
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 1: there was once upon a time where she too was

844
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: and now I feel like I have to hold it

845
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:14,359
Speaker 1: down on my own. Do you hear this right? Bail

846
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: going to the sex club every weekend. Now my whole

847
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 1: car both it's you're not even seeing Jamaica as a

848
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 1: big dick opportunity, bitch. But think I got a big

849
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: dick and then he fucked me with King Duars dildo.

850
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 1: That's a big dick. All right, Let's go say home, mail,

851
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 1: Let's find a real going to Jamaica to dream my

852
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:39,800
Speaker 1: size bit. You ain't act like you've been to Jamaica.

853
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 1: Striping guinnis for me. Thank you? All right, Let's try

854
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: to help this whole out. Hey, ladies, not Mandy. Your

855
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: podcast has been the main sex podcast that's helped me

856
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 1: through a very dark period of life. I've been healing

857
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,280
Speaker 1: from sex trauma the last couple of years through therapy,

858
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 1: support groups, and focusing on my health. My question is

859
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 1: how can I get out of my abstinence while depression

860
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: is still lingering. I feel like a j might can

861
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: help us with this. Men want a fun woman or

862
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: a woman who's at least happy, and while I do

863
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 1: have my happy moments, my mental health is a journey

864
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 1: and I want to embark into another whole phase. I

865
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:17,919
Speaker 1: feel like I need it in order to fully heal

866
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 1: and feel empowered and integrate my sexual trauma, healing work.

867
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: The only whole phase I went through was in art school,

868
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:26,919
Speaker 1: but it was all low life drug addicts or poor

869
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: dick that never treated me right. Now, in thirty one,

870
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,840
Speaker 1: I want to just be treated well. Capital cists I

871
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 1: deserve and I'm successful. I have a podcast about mental health,

872
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: I do yoga. I'm a writer and a speaker and

873
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: have a lot of things going for me. And I

874
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 1: want a guy to spend on me for once. I

875
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: need sugar daddy attention. But I want to start sucking,

876
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: and I'm terrified. I think I have a kink and

877
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 1: it probably comes from trauma. Is that I need to

878
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 1: be in control. Tell the guy that I want to fuck.

879
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: Once we're done, they gotta go. I want no emotional connection.

880
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 1: I just want to hold it out and reinvent myself.

881
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 1: But my depression trauma is blocking me. How can I

882
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 1: get out of this mental block? I got something to say,

883
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,479
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna let you start h So, so she's

884
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 1: a whole she wants to so Okay. I feel like

885
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: in order to be a healthy home, you gotta be

886
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: whole with yourself. So she's in like some type of

887
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 1: the state of depression, like How is dick really gonna

888
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 1: help with that? If she has to be whole first,

889
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 1: and then I feel like it would be more fun

890
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 1: once you sucking all the day. I feel like that too.

891
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 1: I feel like it's when I'm to be happy to

892
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: have sex. Now you're kink of one of the kick

893
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: nigs out after you're done fucking, Like if you really

894
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: wanted to do that. Anonymous tex sex type ship like

895
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 1: you definitely could. Fat life like a lot of grinder

896
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 1: ship is anonymous sex. But I actually think you may

897
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 1: feel worse. I think she and I normally don't think that.

898
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 1: It's only because you're already feeling I think she to

899
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 1: reread her email. So the clip you you read contradicting, Yeah,

900
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: what is I was saying? Like, if you're already in

901
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 1: a down place and you just out here fucking, That's

902
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You need to recognize what's going on

903
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 1: in your life when you just start picking up all

904
00:50:58,000 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: these dicks just having sex for no reason? What what's

905
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:01,759
Speaker 1: going on with you? But she still needs to get fun?

906
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 1: Can we not all agree with that? Um No, don't

907
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: look at me like that, because you know I'm I'm

908
00:51:07,560 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: gonna guys, I am no longer Mandy, I don't know

909
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: who I am. Okay. So when you've read that, risk

910
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:27,720
Speaker 1: not bobile baby. Okay. So as you were reading the email,

911
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:30,560
Speaker 1: I took two things from it. Hey, if she reads

912
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 1: it back outside of the depression, the anxiety, her low

913
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 1: point wherever she's at right now, she was contradicting and

914
00:51:36,760 --> 00:51:40,319
Speaker 1: even what she wanted. So in the one sense, she said,

915
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: I want to be a hope, but I wanted to

916
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 1: I want to be treated well. Then at the very

917
00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 1: end she says, I want to be a hoe, but

918
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: I want to just tell them. I want to sun them.

919
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: Then I want them to leave. So there's it's conflicting

920
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 1: because to be treading well as a woman ship, we

921
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 1: do want the intimacy, we want someone to be there

922
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 1: to listen, to speak. And then on the opposite and

923
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 1: she's like, no, but I really just want to get

924
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:06,560
Speaker 1: fucked and then tell them to go on their married way.

925
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 1: She also mentioned sugar babies, sugar daddies. They will kick

926
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 1: like there's a dynamic there where you don't have the

927
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:17,320
Speaker 1: power that maybe you even think you want. There's a

928
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: lot of things in that email that conflicted with each other.

929
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 1: So I think that she doesn't know what she wants.

930
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:25,839
Speaker 1: I think that she is in a very low place

931
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 1: to where she thinks that the different things of this

932
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: can resolve this depression that she's in. And I'm not

933
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 1: gonna lie myself a lot of my friends, There's been

934
00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:36,640
Speaker 1: times where I've had sex. I mean, just even with

935
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 1: my man in fucking in January, I was at such

936
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: a low point. I got up from the bed and

937
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 1: just started crying, and I was just like, and I

938
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,439
Speaker 1: just went back to the bed fighting because one doesn't

939
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:51,880
Speaker 1: heal for what reason. Now, what I'm saying is it

940
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 1: breaks up a break up, but don't already know who

941
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 1: you want to try to hold fucking you. I don't

942
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 1: know who you want to. I don't know you want

943
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 1: to fun. I know who's d M. I'm gonna slide

944
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 1: into it. That's the same, you know. Yeah, I don't know.

945
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 1: If he don't let me funk him, I'm just gonna

946
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: shoot that's the fun. So I think this is a

947
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 1: great email to do in this episode. It kind of

948
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 1: wasn't on purpose to be real with you, but two

949
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 1: different types of healing, because this totally agree with what

950
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,800
Speaker 1: you're saying. When you're mentally and like seriously depressed. But

951
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 1: it's not it's not it's not gonna heap or or

952
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 1: I know, because it's another person's energy. And you don't

953
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 1: make who said it in the clip that they don't

954
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 1: believe that sex transfers energies. We said so, yeah, and

955
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 1: that's the thing when you're dealing with some sort of trauma,

956
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 1: is dealing with trauma or you Yeah, the piece that

957
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 1: you didn't put in there, When you're dealing with some

958
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:55,239
Speaker 1: ship and you're letting man literally ejaculate his problems into

959
00:53:55,360 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 1: your womb, imagine how this comp girlsulate, you know, another thing,

960
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: Like I'd rather not have sex. I don't like I've

961
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: been and it has to be And I'm like, I

962
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 1: want this, you want one, and I haven't been, bro

963
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 1: it's just a big wide, meaty dick, and I doesn't

964
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:30,759
Speaker 1: want like a hamburger like hamburger like me the other

965
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,840
Speaker 1: day slowly and told me because he needed to stretch

966
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:34,839
Speaker 1: my pussy out and I want to be like it up,

967
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: but I did because I'm a respectful how anyway, No,

968
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:44,240
Speaker 1: I'm I think depression and the healing has to be different.

969
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: I think breakups definitely definitely going to get Yeah, because

970
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 1: men women get dick thrown at them all day long.

971
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 1: We got to turn it down. We want to be

972
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: a hool, so we want to funk people and men

973
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 1: may as for breakups, and I don't care, genuinely, I

974
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 1: really don't care who thinks it's unhealthy. You really feel

975
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: like you'll never get someone again. Sometimes in a breakup

976
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 1: you feel like there's nobody else that exists, Like I've

977
00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 1: felt that. You know, I'd be like, I'll never fun

978
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 1: someone else again. There's no other niggas out here, And

979
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 1: when you finally me, you'll be like, oh yeah, I

980
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 1: don't feel like it's always niggas out here. What are

981
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 1: you talking about? And so dick is in plethora. They

982
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 1: will suck a chicken sandwich, so you know what I mean?

983
00:55:25,520 --> 00:55:27,759
Speaker 1: I like. Choosing love is like I like somebody who

984
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:31,279
Speaker 1: can get bitches but ain't accessible to all of it.

985
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 1: You'll never know j is so picky. You might need

986
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:39,400
Speaker 1: to pick your wig back up and nigh. That's what

987
00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 1: I told her choosing I need this and I like

988
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 1: and I need to get paid and I need to

989
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: get sucked. Right. They don't want to conduct ship and

990
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:52,279
Speaker 1: get back, you know what I mean? All right, let's

991
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 1: tell the people where they can find you. Um, we

992
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 1: know you're on the Black Effect Network, but yeah, tell

993
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 1: us where we can find your socials. Know you asked

994
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 1: me a question earlier, and I think you forgot about it.

995
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: What was it you asked us? How do we know Challemagne?

996
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 1: And how did we ask that before we started? Okay?

997
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 1: So I know Charlemagne from Columbia, South Carolina. This is

998
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:16,440
Speaker 1: a funny story. He was working at the radio station

999
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:19,279
Speaker 1: and he was doing a remote in front of a barbecue,

1000
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:22,320
Speaker 1: a barbecue restaurant, and I was going to get me

1001
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: a rim sandwich and he was out there and I

1002
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: was like, he had like the setup, you know, the

1003
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 1: DJ and ship. So I went over and I tried

1004
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,239
Speaker 1: to get me some free tickets to a concert. And

1005
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 1: I always want to ask for something free, don't they

1006
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: get some tickets and some posters? So that's how old

1007
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:43,600
Speaker 1: you know it is? That's real, that long long time ago.

1008
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:45,879
Speaker 1: And then we've been friends ever since. Did you get

1009
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:47,919
Speaker 1: the free ticket he did? He gave me talking about

1010
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:54,840
Speaker 1: when I was Yeah he was, I mean he was

1011
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: might have been. So he worked at I need three

1012
00:56:58,040 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 1: in Charleston, South Carolina, and I won ticket to go

1013
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 1: see Nas. It was Naws at the house and boozing

1014
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:05,760
Speaker 1: Myrtle Myrtle Beach, South Carolinas. I called in one tickets

1015
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 1: and him and his now wife they were on a

1016
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 1: trip to so we rolled like a stretch navy stretching. No,

1017
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: I forgot the whole thing for the little radio, the

1018
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 1: radio associate. So we drove the navigator down there, me

1019
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: and a friend. I even altered my driver's license to

1020
00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: put eight teams. But you you wrote it down, I

1021
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 1: kind of scribbling older. Did you just write a new

1022
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 1: date on? And now you've been scratch into the plastic

1023
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 1: and they used the red pen. Remember that could be eighties,

1024
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:39,720
Speaker 1: so I could change the date of I was anyway

1025
00:57:41,080 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 1: put you to We all already friends. We met at

1026
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 1: college in college, so me and Charlemagne have been friends

1027
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 1: since back home because he's from Monst Corner, which is

1028
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 1: like outside of Charleston. So I met me and tam

1029
00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 1: Man in college college in South Carolina. The Tigers. Yeah

1030
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:03,920
Speaker 1: today was now dog shit. As much as I have

1031
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 1: no concert happening exactly, something exclusive going on, as much

1032
00:58:07,600 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 1: as I'd be on Brent fire as Dick and I

1033
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 1: know Charlemagne. What the funk I'm telling you? When they

1034
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: haven't met the breakfast club. I need to be in

1035
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: the background taking I'm Taylor for the day, Taylor Chicken.

1036
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:21,120
Speaker 1: She just wants to give out, honestly, And you know,

1037
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. Have you ever heard me talk about

1038
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 1: a rapper or anybody like that? I don't even want to.

1039
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 1: I mean I have, really am I supposed to just

1040
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 1: start saying, Nate one that I fucked? I mean you did.

1041
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: I've never sucked a rapper, though you did fund on

1042
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 1: his dick or pillow or something too right, But isn't

1043
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 1: that badly? Don't count? I was like nineties, still is

1044
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 1: saying four years later she didn't have anal sex because

1045
00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 1: she said the whole shaft didn't go in. But happened, Bro,

1046
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 1: It happened, Bro. She'd be loving saying, don't but like

1047
00:58:56,040 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 1: one that I really wanted. I don't care you didn't

1048
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 1: cry it down it maybe it doesn't Wait if what

1049
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 1: if it don't come? Put me on Southwest bro Southwestern bags,

1050
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 1: though you get to check to what's it's free bag?

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Speaker 1: My thing is I don't like how bitch, don't get

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Speaker 1: no seats, so now you like get in like we

1053
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 1: did Molly all night. So I missed my flight. When

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Speaker 1: you're driving off to the airport and Atlanta Hartfield, I

1055
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 1: was like, Oh, they're gonna make me pay to do

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Speaker 1: another one and he was like okay, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: you need to turn around. It's what I'm saying. We're

1058
00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:38,960
Speaker 1: no cash happing shaped back then, So what's crazy? I

1059
00:59:39,040 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: remember now because used to Western Union me bitch, Western

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Speaker 1: Union money. When you think of how being a hole

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00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 1: used to be back in the day, Now I got

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Speaker 1: fluid out of being funny on Twitter. Nigger. All I

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Speaker 1: had was one picture. I got fluid out off being

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Speaker 1: was on Twitter like this. If you don't know what

1065
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Speaker 1: we're talking about, please check YouTube. Anyway, what YouTube, y'all,

1066
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Speaker 1: y'all we talk back. We're so happy to have our

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Speaker 1: first Black Effects podcast on here with us. Um. I'm

1068
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 1: not saying we're coming to South Carolina, but you know,

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Speaker 1: shout out to Charlotte. Did one of our last live

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Speaker 1: shows before COVID hit in Charlotte and they were amazing.

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Speaker 1: They came out on a Wednesday night, packed out the house.

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Speaker 1: So just shout out to show. Shout out to thank

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01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 1: you for listening to our show if you are tired

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01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:39,440
Speaker 1: of us having guests, even though these guests were fun. Patreon,

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01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:42,640
Speaker 1: we are damn near almost have solo episode. So I

1076
01:00:42,760 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 1: need y'all to understand that, because I feel like y'all

1077
01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:48,120
Speaker 1: be like, who's gonna be here to leak now if

1078
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:51,800
Speaker 1: you don't like them? For real, Not y'all. I'm just saying, hey, look,

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01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: listen to us alone and if you want to join

1080
01:00:59,320 --> 01:01:01,520
Speaker 1: in the convo. Once a month on Patreon, we do

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01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 1: live town Halls. Mandy and I are now doing four

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Speaker 1: episodes a month, and we have a new tier where

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Speaker 1: you can watch behind the scenes fitted even behind the

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Speaker 1: scenes for from today on our new tier, So go

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Speaker 1: to patreon dot com slash Horrible Decisions what else? Um. Yeah, Also,

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01:01:15,720 --> 01:01:18,440
Speaker 1: we are working. We're gonna discuss uh. I know a

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Speaker 1: lot of you guys y'all here in Spanish ads now

1088
01:01:21,560 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 1: and ship, but we are gonna probably possibly try to

1089
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: work on getting some ad free episodes over there for y'all. Well,

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01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: our Patreon episodes are ad free. You can go over

1091
01:01:30,960 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 1: there and listen and sometimes Wheezy just be wanting to

1092
01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:36,200
Speaker 1: stay talking to me. So we even got like our

1093
01:01:36,440 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 1: plus episodes over there, so if y'all want to go

1094
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: listen over there. Um and like like you said, also

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Speaker 1: a lot of you guys see these mugs. Y'all have

1096
01:01:44,360 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 1: been asking where can I get these mugs? If you

1097
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: like these mugs. These are actually for our top tier patrons,

1098
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Speaker 1: So fifteen dollar patrons get a little cute things like

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Speaker 1: this every in the canvas in the back behind and

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Speaker 1: the campus and there's t shirts, there's sweatshirts and we're

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Speaker 1: getting new designs for that. Also, if you guys are

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Speaker 1: all caught up with us on both Patreon and our

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01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 1: regular episodes, feel free. On Mondays you can also listen

1104
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,960
Speaker 1: to Periods this which is my other podcast. It's a

1105
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 1: very short form uh edutainment type of podcasts of storytelling,

1106
01:02:17,240 --> 01:02:20,440
Speaker 1: um tales of womanhood. So it's various women sharing their

1107
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Speaker 1: tales of their health, journeys and everything else. And then

1108
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 1: on Tuesdays you can listen to me for goddamn to

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Speaker 1: three hours goddamn on. See the thing is when my

1110
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Speaker 1: girl Bridget Kelly and we have our friends with benefits

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01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 1: joining us. Yes, Also on Tuesdays we've got for fact

1112
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Speaker 1: sake with Me and Eddie Doll Seppy. Y'all go see

1113
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:39,160
Speaker 1: him film. Yeah, he's coming in two weeks. He was

1114
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Speaker 1: so funny. He's like, I don't know if Mandy likes me.

1115
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 1: He was like, why do you think that? Because when

1116
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Speaker 1: he was on the episode, he's white presenting, so he

1117
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: was telling the story and you were like, what are

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Speaker 1: you talking about? You don't remember that he said your

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Speaker 1: life with a Loving hip Hop movie. He's like, I

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Speaker 1: don't think she liked that was what you used to

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Speaker 1: do that? So I felt like maybe hip hop used

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Speaker 1: to say I dressed like loving hip hop on the tour, Bitch,

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Speaker 1: you did? You had all glitter, everything is fabulous. I

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01:03:05,360 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: didn't say it was it and it was lost. I

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01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 1: never said it was. But there's a hip hop tire

1126
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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna explain what it is that was never shade.

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01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:18,040
Speaker 1: Loving hip hop is over the top for every occasion

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Speaker 1: when they go to have their friends over, they are

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01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:24,880
Speaker 1: fully dressed, full makeup and whatever. Mandy is that bitch

1130
01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:31,680
Speaker 1: day we got Woja cat move, bitch, sure you wish?

1131
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Speaker 1: What do you think now? What do you think that?

1132
01:03:37,360 --> 01:03:44,920
Speaker 1: Did you see how she took it a shade? It was.

1133
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:47,200
Speaker 1: It was in the auto you see what I mean.

1134
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 1: You fucking check out the five minute motherfucking bonus play.

1135
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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to Yeah another episode of

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Speaker 1: Poor but Decisions. Make sure you'll talk. Make sure you'll

1137
01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 1: check out we talk back and what you thout. We're

1138
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Speaker 1: every Thursday and we talk about yes on Instagram. I'm

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Speaker 1: a j Holiday two point oh on Instagram. I'm tam

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Speaker 1: Bam official tam Bam on Instagram. And we'll have that

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Speaker 1: in the description so y'all can click and talk them.

1142
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Speaker 1: Sorry that we kind of just talked all over that Edin,

1143
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Speaker 1: but if you could catch all them notes, that would

1144
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Speaker 1: be great. Thank you, sir, by God, say bye, ed

1145
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:28,200
Speaker 1: and say bye to the people I feel like they

1146
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 1: don't want to hear me say by it comment by

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Speaker 1: What other qualities do you think should be deal breakers

1148
01:04:42,400 --> 01:04:45,960
Speaker 1: for non negotiables in order for it to make sense

1149
01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 1: to move forward outside of the looks? If if if

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01:04:50,320 --> 01:04:52,439
Speaker 1: they're in the position where you are, where I really

1151
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 1: want a boyfriend, I really want a man, what other

1152
01:04:56,240 --> 01:05:00,680
Speaker 1: qualities should they have outside of looks? If you have

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01:05:00,800 --> 01:05:03,760
Speaker 1: to still have look you, well, I think first thing

1154
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Speaker 1: and I think this is the question I've asked, so,

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01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:07,840
Speaker 1: what's what's today's Saturday? So it's almost been seven days

1156
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:11,200
Speaker 1: of reflection. Asked started with asking yourself what is it

1157
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 1: that you want? And being very clear and what it

1158
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:17,160
Speaker 1: is that you want? Right, because I think as women

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01:05:17,240 --> 01:05:19,600
Speaker 1: sometimes we don't define what it is that we want.

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Speaker 1: And once I define that, I was able to kind

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Speaker 1: of I think I'm getting more clarity on what it

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Speaker 1: is I need out of a man based on what

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Speaker 1: I want, right, and those those things didn't involve looks,

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Speaker 1: So to achieve the goal I want to achieve. Now

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01:05:34,520 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so it's like reverse engineering, right, So

1166
01:05:38,400 --> 01:05:40,520
Speaker 1: now I'm starting to do that and I am having

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Speaker 1: like even conversations with you. Last night it was like, yo,

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Speaker 1: I probably gotta cut off like al ten of these

1169
01:05:45,200 --> 01:05:48,040
Speaker 1: dudes and maybe focus on you know, and if none

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Speaker 1: of them were none of them fit what I've now

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Speaker 1: defined as what I want or can get me there,

1172
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Speaker 1: they gotta go. Do you listen to Kevin Samuels? So

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Speaker 1: the new one has me listening to Kevin Samuels. So

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Speaker 1: I only say that because is youret And I think

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Speaker 1: it's also clear that you still don't really know what

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01:06:07,960 --> 01:06:12,520
Speaker 1: you want? Mhmm. And a lot of the women that

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Speaker 1: call in to Kevin Samuel's show, sorry guys. He asked

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01:06:20,920 --> 01:06:25,640
Speaker 1: them so many questions and it feels like it trips

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01:06:25,720 --> 01:06:29,160
Speaker 1: them up, and he's able to completely control the narrative

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Speaker 1: on who they are and why they don't have what

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Speaker 1: they want, simply off the fact that a lot of

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01:06:36,400 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 1: them don't know what they want. I remember one woman

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Speaker 1: was like, I mean, I have kids. I guess if

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01:06:43,440 --> 01:06:47,280
Speaker 1: my partner wants kids, sure I'll have them or and

1185
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 1: I was engaged, but I called it off and I

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01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:54,680
Speaker 1: can't really tell you why. He just wasn't it. And

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of women who date that way. They

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01:07:00,760 --> 01:07:04,840
Speaker 1: date knowing that they want a partner, but not knowing

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Speaker 1: what they need fully from another half. And that's what

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Speaker 1: that's that's what I just said. I had to reverse

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Speaker 1: engineer this baby, right, said what do you want? And

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Speaker 1: I was very clear with you, I want to be married,

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Speaker 1: I want to have kids, so okay, cool, but what

1194
01:07:19,480 --> 01:07:22,600
Speaker 1: you're doing and how you're acting isn't aligning with that, right.

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01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:26,240
Speaker 1: So it was more of a self check with myself,

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Speaker 1: like you actually got align with what you say you

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Speaker 1: want because I'm very clear that I want that because

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Speaker 1: the relationship I just got out of I was also

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Speaker 1: raising five kids, and you know, I want my mom.

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Speaker 1: I was a step mom and I and i'm and

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Speaker 1: I'm very much a maternal human being. So I just

1202
01:07:44,120 --> 01:07:46,120
Speaker 1: have to walk in what I say. I want. You

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, and it's and it's I think

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Speaker 1: I get distracted, you know what I'm saying, And like

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Speaker 1: like you, I'm also career focused and I'm busy, so

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Speaker 1: sometimes it's easy to have like whatever basic conversations because

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01:08:00,320 --> 01:08:02,920
Speaker 1: I don't have time and the mental capacity to deal

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Speaker 1: with a whole lot more for the longest fucking day.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, And I know you feel

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Speaker 1: that that's what But like I think your person allows

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01:08:11,960 --> 01:08:14,320
Speaker 1: you a positive escape from that, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Where is situations that may not be right, don't right.

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Speaker 1: But also the fact, like you said that a as

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01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:25,679
Speaker 1: career driven women, we want an escape from our partner.

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Speaker 1: So that's why what I brought up earlier in the

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Speaker 1: episode about all of the negative connotations of relationships then

1217
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Speaker 1: being hard them not being easy than being hard work.

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Speaker 1: We work so hard in our day to day life.

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Speaker 1: I can't. I can't have a relationship that feels like

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Speaker 1: another job period. At this point, I know I can't

1221
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Speaker 1: do it. And I think that that's probably what works

1222
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Speaker 1: against a lot of career driven, very busy women, is

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01:08:55,920 --> 01:09:00,920
Speaker 1: that if you go down the gender roles, the patriarchy,

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01:09:01,000 --> 01:09:03,200
Speaker 1: which a lot of people still want to kind of

1225
01:09:03,400 --> 01:09:06,920
Speaker 1: uphold a little bit, it takes a lot to run

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Speaker 1: a business, to be an employee, to to be an entrepreneur,

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01:09:12,520 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 1: and then no, fuck, I have to go home and

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01:09:15,479 --> 01:09:20,320
Speaker 1: cook and clean, bold fuck suck and and make sure

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Speaker 1: that I'm everything that a wife, because being a wife

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Speaker 1: and being a mother, those are also jobs.