1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:01,720 Speaker 1: Would I be the a hole if I break up 2 00:00:01,720 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: with my boyfriend after going on a trip with his family. 3 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:06,320 Speaker 2: It's probably a really bad trip. 4 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: Maybe if you get together with the dad, When do 5 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: you give up on a relationship? That is the question 6 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: we're going to be answering in this episode. This comes 7 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:19,280 Speaker 1: from Puff of Purple Cat Milk, who says first time poster, 8 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: I twenty three female and my boyfriend twenty four male 9 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: of ten months went on a four day vacation with 10 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: his family. I was meeting them for the first time, 11 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: and it was overall great. During this four day vaca, 12 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: he started three fights, almost one fight per day. 13 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:34,239 Speaker 2: Wow. 14 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: The first fight was on the first night that rhymes 15 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: when we went down to the river to puff the 16 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: devil's lettuce. 17 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:43,239 Speaker 2: Whoa. 18 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: We were pulled off near a river where people can 19 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: walk and fish. We were a little wais from the car, 20 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: but we could see it from where we were, and 21 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: our backs were to the road behind us. We weren't 22 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: there more than twenty minutes. One car and two police 23 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: had zoomed by, not even slowing down or acknowledging us 24 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 1: in any way. He freaked out on me about how 25 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: it wasn't being careful and that we were suspicious standing 26 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: by the side of a river where tourists and locals. 27 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 3: Usually go to. I mean it's legal, it's it's well, 28 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 3: we don't know where they're at. 29 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 2: That's true. I was about to say, I was gonna 30 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 2: say it is. 31 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: I will The one thing I will give you there 32 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: is standing by a river at late at night doesn't 33 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: look great. 34 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:29,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't look great. 35 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: He continued on, saying that if we got caught, it 36 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: could ruin his life. We are in a state where 37 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: weed is not legal, but THHCA and other cannibinoid substances are, 38 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: so it's not the true stuff, but there are some 39 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: stuff like it that is legal. If someone did pull up, 40 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: I would have chucked my jay into the river without hesitation. 41 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 3: Blick. 42 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: He also tried to put words in my mouth, saying 43 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: I'm sorry I ruined your when I did not think 44 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: or say that. This fight lasted more than forty five minutes, 45 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: almost and at the end of the fight he admitted 46 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 1: to me that he isn't making me happy enough and 47 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: doesn't believe me when I say he makes me extremely happy. 48 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 3: Oof. We ended with. 49 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 1: Me reassuring as much as possible that I love him, 50 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: and I have been the happiest I've been in it 51 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: a long time. 52 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,959 Speaker 3: With him. He sounds like a stick in the mud, 53 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 3: Like a stick in the mud. 54 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 4: He sounds like a stick in the mud, or a 55 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 4: j in the river, stick of the mud in the river. 56 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 2: To two birds. 57 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 3: Of one stone, two things you don't want to be 58 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 3: my friends? Are you okay? 59 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: Two rivers in the wood j river rocks. 60 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 3: In the river. That's the song. 61 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: The second fight was on the third night, also rhymed. 62 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: A family friend staying with us inquired, rhymed, rhyme, but 63 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: it's still arrhyved. It's gonna happen again, and I'm gonna 64 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: say it again. A family friend staying with us inquired 65 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: about my previous polyamorous lifestyle, and afterward my boyfriend started 66 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: up again at me. 67 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 2: He sounds like a stick of the mud. He sounds 68 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 2: like a jaand the river. 69 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 3: Yep. A little backstory. 70 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 1: I had an open relationship before him, and I had 71 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: been very open about that since we met, along with 72 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: and throughout our relationship. Through the relationship, him and I 73 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: are in a monogamous relationship that we both agree to. 74 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 3: He accuses me of missing being with multiple partners and 75 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 3: that I am going to cheat slash leave him in 76 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 3: the future. 77 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 2: It's very insecure. 78 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: Buddy, stop stop, stop that. Just don't be insecure and suck. 79 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: Don't be a jay in the river. Don't river, You're 80 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: looking real soggy. 81 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 2: My guy, Yeah, be a j and the on the 82 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 2: side of the road. 83 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: I tell him that's not true, and I hate that 84 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: I constantly have to keep reassuring him about it, even 85 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: asking if I've done anything to make him question my 86 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: commitment to him. 87 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 3: And he said no. The argument then the argument then 88 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 3: derailed into how he constantly puts his own needs and 89 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 3: wants and desires aside to instead love and dote on me. 90 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 3: He would rather deny himself everything to give me anything, 91 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 3: and still doesn't think he gives me enough or deserves 92 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 3: my love. I told him that what he wants and 93 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 3: needs as a person matters in our relationship just as 94 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 3: equally as mine, but he downplayed everything, just wanting to 95 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 3: make up. I tried pushing the seriousness of our situation, 96 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:45,359 Speaker 3: but he said but he just said, I love you 97 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 3: and went to bed. Mmm mmmm mmm mmmmmm hmm. 98 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 2: Probably went to bed at eight o'clock because he's a 99 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 2: jay in the river like. 100 00:04:55,400 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 3: A loser got him. The third fight was driving back home. 101 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:07,160 Speaker 3: Did not run. I need to stay beforehand that I 102 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 3: hate tesla's. 103 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, when I see one on the road, I usually 104 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 1: flip them off, damn got you and say something mean 105 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: and then move on. I'm not reckless around them, chase 106 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: them or pester them in any way. I would be 107 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: a little worried if. 108 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:29,040 Speaker 2: You, hey, whoa, oh, he just seize the tesla, dries 109 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 2: up to them, flips them. 110 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: Off, and then it's like you shuy, basically unprompted, unprompted. 111 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 3: But but hey, I don't. I don't road rage and 112 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,159 Speaker 3: chase them or try to bump their bumper. 113 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 4: I don't go that far. I just swear at them 114 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 4: and flip them off. Yeah, that's honestly kind of unsafe. 115 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 4: I think. 116 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 2: I think if if road rage can be someone up safe. 117 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,600 Speaker 3: What if the AI become sentient and is like, you 118 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 3: know what, screw you too? Yeah? Got them? 119 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: Watch alleyies and gentlemen. While I was driving a Tesla 120 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:05,679 Speaker 1: on the highway, UH drove past us. I said, hmmm, 121 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 1: I hope you have anal leakage and none of your 122 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: door handles work. 123 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 3: For the rest of your life to the tesla. 124 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 2: Well, okay, okay, okay, very important question. 125 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 4: Is OP making? Like is OP winding down the window 126 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 4: or rolling down the window? 127 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 3: In this case, it seems to OPI is saying yourself. 128 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: But I think in this case it was an innocent 129 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: just like you know, like I like to yell at 130 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 1: the people and the commercials, like insult them. 131 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:37,720 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, horrible things about them. 132 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: Yes, you're not gonna get me this new nursing homes yep, 133 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 1: not today. Why does Riley know all the Florida ads 134 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: I used to watch? My boyfriend snapped and asked me 135 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,160 Speaker 1: why I hate tesla's. 136 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 3: He was. I tried to explain, but he was angry. 137 00:06:56,720 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: Why teslas so much to wish something like anal speak 138 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: and broken door handles on them and more? 139 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 2: Oh my god, what else did you wish on them? 140 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 3: What if they become sentient, babe and have feelings? 141 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 2: What did the tesla do to you? 142 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 3: That's right? I asked why he was taking it so personally. 143 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 3: He said, Elon Musk secretly had in one paper and 144 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. 145 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 2: He said, I want a Tesla. 146 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 3: He said. People with tesla's are the coolest people on 147 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 3: planet Earth. 148 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 2: He said, I have anally, and I don't appreciate you 149 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 2: using that as an insult. 150 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: Imagine, imagine this is really what that's about. You're gonna 151 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: feel like a chart. 152 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 3: I feel like you make you make fun of my ankleage. Hey, 153 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 3: you know what Opie's boyfriend. I love your anally. Okay, 154 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 3: I subparted. 155 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: Anyways, back to the story. He said he wasn't, but 156 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: then continue to ask me if I would hate. 157 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 3: Him or treat him differently if he got one. 158 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 4: Oh my god, he's buying a Tesla. Oh my god, 159 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 4: he's already bought a Tesla. And he's like, is my 160 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 4: wife got a wife? 161 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 3: Girlfriend? 162 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 2: And girlfriend gonna make fun of me? If I drive 163 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 2: around with my Tessie. 164 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: It's no longer my best Deane in Tessie, it's my 165 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: exy test and you know what that rhymes? 166 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 3: Thank you. 167 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: He says he might want to get a Tesla and 168 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: I might quote unquote leave him over it, or treat 169 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: him differently or never drive slash rive in it, and 170 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: was angry that my opinion about Tesla's was stopping him. Well, then, 171 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: in the middle of us going back and forth about 172 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: my hatred for Tesla, he demanded, then I say one 173 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: good thing about Tesla's, babe. 174 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 2: Say one good thing about Tesla's Say it. 175 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 3: And you know what I did. I refused to. 176 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 2: Say, well, good, No, they're good for the environment. 177 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:03,080 Speaker 1: They're leaking. Oh anally, how does that even Devin Oil? 178 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: They have no way yet He's. 179 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 2: Like, He's like for the apartment. 180 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 5: She's like, actually, electric batteries are the long term quite 181 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 5: bad for the apartment. And then just going back and 182 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 5: forth with the endless, endless loop. He continued to demand 183 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 5: that I just say one nice thing about Tesla. Why 184 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 5: do you care, dude, Tesla. 185 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 4: Tesla was my grandfather or wait, nobot that my grandfather 186 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:27,880 Speaker 4: was a Tesla. 187 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 3: I am Nicholas Tesla's son, and I have come back 188 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 3: from staying alive this whole time to wreak vengeance. 189 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 1: Even though I've said in the past and in the 190 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: argument that Tesla had a lot of promise when they 191 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: first hit the market, this is this is just divulging 192 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:53,719 Speaker 1: into a Tesla argument with innovated features. But that didn't count. 193 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 2: Innovative features that you can take right on the road. 194 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 3: Tesla, Bye, Now, are you really doing this on our 195 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 3: on our show right now is like a Honda ad. 196 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 3: Oh interesting. 197 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: The ops are coming on to advertise, say how bad the. 198 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 4: End, and they're like, Tesla's are horrible. My husband tried 199 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 4: to get me to to advertise Tesla, but I wouldn't 200 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:22,400 Speaker 4: compromise with my beliefs. But I'm a Honda lover Threa Food. 201 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,599 Speaker 3: I get the feeling that this is going to be 202 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 3: one of those things where it's like, oh, I hated 203 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 3: it first, and then. 204 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 2: Ooh, so what he is an ad for Tesla. 205 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:35,079 Speaker 3: It's like it's like I've realized the air of my ways, 206 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 3: you know. 207 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 6: Yeah. 208 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: Anyways, he even tried to use my love for planet 209 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: preservation to somehow convince me or change my mind. No, 210 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:47,199 Speaker 1: when I pointed out to him, uh, he said he 211 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 1: wasn't trying to change my mind. But when I asked 212 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 1: him what he was trying to do, he really couldn't 213 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 1: answer me. This fight divolved again to why does he 214 00:10:57,240 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: feel like he has to give up everything to please? 215 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 1: I told him relationships are about compromised, meeting them in 216 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: the middle and understanding and respecting both partners needs. 217 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:07,640 Speaker 3: He doesn't want to do that. 218 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels like he needs to have a control 219 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 2: over every part. That's true of Op's life. 220 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:14,959 Speaker 3: He just thinks his only purpose is to love and 221 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 3: serve me. 222 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 2: His only purpose is to love and serve Tesla to death. 223 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: Him and I haven't talked about it since. Would I 224 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 1: be the a hill if I broke up with him 225 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: over something like this? How would I go about solving this? 226 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: Can it be solved? Any advice would be great. 227 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 3: Thanks. 228 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 1: We have an edit and nothing more after that edit. 229 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: But let's let's answer the question. What should OPI do? 230 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 3: Oh? 231 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 2: I don't know. 232 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 4: It seems like Opie's husband is a as we say 233 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:51,319 Speaker 4: in the business, a j in the river, perhaps a 234 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 4: Tesla out. 235 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 3: Of battery battery, a dead testsie, a dead test, as 236 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 3: they say in the business in the river. Up. So, 237 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 3: boyfriend and girlfriend by the way, right. 238 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: Boyfriend girlfriend? I think that I don't know. 239 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 4: It feels like this isn't working. It seems like they're 240 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 4: fighting over stupid things. 241 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 7: Yeah. 242 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 4: And if you're fighting over literally this small minuscule things 243 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 4: and you can't like you can't even get over those arguments. 244 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's literally like, say one good thing about Tesla. 245 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 1: It's like it doesn't it doesn't matter. 246 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 2: It truly does. 247 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: And she's telling you like you can have a test 248 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: a little bit, like I'm not gonna rag on you. 249 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: And then they go into this like insanely unnecessary rabbit 250 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 1: hole on all of this stuff. So Jac says he's 251 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: trash leave Op. Yeah, yeah, honestly. 252 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:45,559 Speaker 3: Yeah, how long have they been together? Let's uh of 253 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:49,439 Speaker 3: ten boyfriend of ten months? I mean, here's here's I 254 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 3: think the real question. Yes, do they try to do 255 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 3: a couple of ten months? They're young, they're in their 256 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 3: early twenties. Op's twenty three herself. Yeah. 257 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: Do they go for any sort of like dump them therapy, 258 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 1: dump them, dump them? You got time, you can find 259 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: another one, dump or counseling. Is he a jay in 260 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 1: the river or is he a dry puff of fresh air? 261 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 2: Is he a jay in the river, a bird in 262 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:13,800 Speaker 2: the hole? 263 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 3: You never know. That's what they say in the business. 264 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:17,079 Speaker 7: Yea. 265 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 3: As we finish out with this update, oh my god, 266 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 3: my update disappeared from me. No, now it's back. Yeah, 267 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 3: let's dive into it. Edit. 268 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:34,599 Speaker 1: Thank you for all the responses. But I see some 269 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: common questions that I would like to answer. My boyfriend 270 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:40,599 Speaker 1: is not normally this argumentative and irritated. He was just 271 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: in a sour mood because of the trip. I just 272 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 1: took it as stress from being around family, and I 273 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 1: didn't think it was a time or place to ask 274 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:50,079 Speaker 1: him about it. Also, his family knew I brought stuff 275 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:53,680 Speaker 1: and just asked me to smoke away from the rented cabin. 276 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 3: We were not in his family's. 277 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,599 Speaker 1: Homes when I went out to smoke. He insisted on 278 00:13:57,720 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: being with me. I told him that he didn't have 279 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 1: to go with me. His family was on the back 280 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,559 Speaker 1: patio in the basement talking and playing games, so I 281 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: thought it was a good time for me to slip out. 282 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: He just wanted to be in my company. He did 283 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: not smoke the jay with me, just was with me. 284 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,199 Speaker 1: He was the one who wanted to drive us to 285 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: the spot and back. If he had not come with me, 286 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:19,680 Speaker 1: I would have been happy to walk to a different 287 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 1: spot and do my business. Addressing my convo with a 288 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: family friend, we were alone on the back patio for 289 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 1: a while. Everything everyone else was asleep. Late that night, 290 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: the family friend asked both of us about our past relationships. Okay, 291 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: so it seems there is a family friend that entered 292 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 1: the chat and some dynamics ensued, and my boyfriend was 293 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 1: fine with me talking about the dynamics of. 294 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 3: Mine, including me being in an open relationship. 295 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: Ah, so this was the family asked about the open relationship, 296 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 1: Yes that OPI previously had. She also asked questions about 297 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: our current relationship. Yes, I see she was being nosy, 298 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: but I consider myself an open book and don't mind 299 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: sharing my experiences when asked. I haven't had the big 300 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 1: conversation with boyfriend yet, but I'm planning to do it 301 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 1: later this week. He works late at night, so I'm 302 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: waiting for his next day off. Again, thank you for 303 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: everyone's comments. And I think the big question is would 304 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: I be the a hole if I broke up with this, 305 00:15:22,160 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: which was the question at the beginning of the edit. 306 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 3: So for you, Sophia, yes, for me, the answer is. 307 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 2: He just seems really no, no, no. If she broke up, 308 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 2: yeah no, I don't think so. 309 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:41,480 Speaker 4: I think there is a world where if it was, 310 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 4: like if she only noticed this behavior on the trip, 311 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 4: then maybe like take a week, I'll be and just 312 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 4: like see if this behavior continues. 313 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's not good not good behavior. 314 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, it just seems like they got in Yeah, three 315 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 1: fights all the fights were so I could kind of 316 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: see like maybe one and then you walk away and 317 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 1: you're like, I was just in a totally wrapaid space. 318 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, my bad on that. I was. That was like 319 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 3: a lot. 320 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:12,880 Speaker 1: But they're all like kind of the same, and like, really, like, 321 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 1: tell me one thing you love about Tesla's. I mean, 322 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 1: why people who love Tesla's Like there's just something not 323 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 1: quite right there. 324 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 2: Like, also, I think Sam is. 325 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 3: In the room. 326 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 4: I think there's like sometimes you're gonna have stupid fights 327 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 4: over stupid things. 328 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 3: Yes, it just happens. 329 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 4: You're like, I'm gonna double down on Cheetos are the best, 330 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 4: and then you get into a fight and you're like, 331 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 4: why are we even fighting about this? Yeah, However, if 332 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:45,480 Speaker 4: it's a continuous issue, and also he seems like he's 333 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 4: being kind of weird about her past relationships, yeah, maybe 334 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 4: consider waking up. 335 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's asked. 336 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 4: It's not like we're just saying you should dump him. 337 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 4: She's asking would be okay to dump him? Yeah, So 338 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 4: I feel like if she's even asking that, then yeah. 339 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 3: Here's a more specific question. 340 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: Uh, would she be the ale if she dumped him 341 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: on the family trip instead of waiting until the trip 342 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: is open maybe maybe. 343 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 2: You know, an awkward ride home maybe. 344 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 1: After Yeah, because also it's four days long. Yeah, yeah, 345 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: so like you can I think wait out the four 346 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 1: days and that's better for you because you don't have 347 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: to be in the awkward car ride and like with 348 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: the family, like, yeah, i'd be yeah, don't do it. 349 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,119 Speaker 3: On the thing. Pretty tortuous, pretty tortous. But there you 350 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 3: have it, ladies and gentlemen. And what was the question 351 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 3: this episode is the. 352 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 2: Christian is Asia? When should you give up on a relationship? 353 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 1: When should you give him on a relationship? I think 354 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 1: when he's a jay in the river. When he's a 355 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 1: jay in the river, I think leakage. 356 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:43,080 Speaker 3: This was like ten months. 357 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:47,199 Speaker 1: He was being pretty whack, Like I think this seems 358 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 1: to be inappropriate time. Ten months, that's the first marker. Yeah, 359 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: ten months was the first marker of the first story. Yeah, 360 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:59,640 Speaker 1: but we have another and we have a plan switch out, 361 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 1: which is me all right leaving good bye, everyone's you 362 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:07,680 Speaker 1: soon and hello everyone see you now? 363 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,879 Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for divorcing my wife because 364 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 2: I like being single? 365 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:13,120 Speaker 3: More? 366 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 7: Dude, Single is big is fun, Single is great. If 367 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 7: you watch Sex in the City, single litt neess sounds fun. 368 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:21,200 Speaker 6: Wait, how do you like being single? 369 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:22,879 Speaker 3: Sam? It's great? 370 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 4: Or or thirteen going on thirty thirty flirty and thriving 371 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 4: thirty flirty? 372 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it. Yeah, that's what she goes. She goes, 373 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,879 Speaker 2: I want to be thirty flirty. I'm thriving. She's like thirteen, 374 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 2: She's like, I want to be thirty thirty and thriving. 375 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 3: And then she gets a thirteen year old want to 376 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 3: be thirty? 377 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,760 Speaker 4: The thirteen year old and thirty thirteen going on thirty? 378 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 4: Does let's get into the story. So interesting? King eighty 379 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 4: four says, throw away account because family follows me in 380 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 4: my principle and they already think I'm the a hole. 381 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:03,199 Speaker 2: And to prefaces Sam, the question of this episode. 382 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 7: Yes, give me the question when do you give up 383 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 7: in a relationship? Oh wow, when do you give up? 384 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 7: What do you give up on a relationship? 385 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 2: When you give up? 386 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:14,200 Speaker 3: When it sucks too much? When it sucks? 387 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 4: Anyways, So I thirty two male, have been married to 388 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:21,680 Speaker 4: my wife thirty three female for almost six years, and 389 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 4: we have a three year old son that is my 390 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 4: entire world, and I make most of the income. 391 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,120 Speaker 3: Let's go Okay, SLAYOPI now. 392 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:33,760 Speaker 4: For some context, I work from six am to four pm. 393 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 4: I come home around around two hours before her. She 394 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 4: works from nine to six, so I start cleaning the 395 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,399 Speaker 4: house and cooking, since I like taking care of it. 396 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,399 Speaker 4: During all this, I try to include my son and 397 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 4: play with him. Then I normally take a nap until 398 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 4: my wife comes home. We eat together and she leaves 399 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:53,679 Speaker 4: to her. Jim and her girl nights until around eleven 400 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:54,600 Speaker 4: PM to one am. 401 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:56,399 Speaker 2: Oh during the. 402 00:19:56,480 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 6: Day, I guess so No, Yeah, me and John be 403 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,400 Speaker 6: out to like nine or ten some nights working out, 404 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:05,240 Speaker 6: but Laura. 405 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,160 Speaker 3: Nights until one am every day. 406 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 2: No, I don't think every day. I think it's either 407 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:12,760 Speaker 2: Jim or girl nights. I'm not quite sure, huh. 408 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 4: During those hours, I put my scent to bed, cook 409 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:17,880 Speaker 4: dinner for me and her. I also cooked the lunch 410 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 4: for both of us and tried to relax before hitting 411 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,719 Speaker 4: bed around twelve am. I also try to be there 412 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,840 Speaker 4: for her, treating her to dates every weekend, saying how 413 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:30,399 Speaker 4: much I love her, showering her with gifts, et cetera. 414 00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 3: Sounds like it was every day, girls night every day 415 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 3: or Jim. 416 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 2: Maybe maybe it's Girl's night or Jim. 417 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 4: Every day I'm sensing a theme of ohpee, maybe putting 418 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 4: a lot of relationship into sorry, a lot of work 419 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 4: into the relationship. 420 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,560 Speaker 7: And the partner or not and the partner or not. Yeah, 421 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 7: I think she's putting a lot of work into another 422 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:57,639 Speaker 7: relations Oh, I think she's cheating. I think she'd be cheating. 423 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,639 Speaker 3: I m is the Reddit nose, the Thomas going to 424 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 3: be right, Empy. 425 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 4: I always like this because I love feeling I'm doing 426 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:09,679 Speaker 4: something and making other people happy. 427 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,440 Speaker 2: But around you. 428 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 4: Three months ago, I discovered that my wife was having 429 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 4: an affair with some random dude at the gym. 430 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,200 Speaker 3: It's always Jim. He strikes again, Jim vains. 431 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 4: I was checking some photos she wanted me to see, 432 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 4: and I came across a video. 433 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,959 Speaker 3: Of a dude. How do I say that railing? 434 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:33,680 Speaker 2: Well, I know how to say it. I was trying 435 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:39,119 Speaker 2: to think of a better way, okay, railing him her railing. 436 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 4: Of course, this made us argue, and after a lot 437 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:46,800 Speaker 4: of tears and begging, I decided to give her another chance. 438 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 3: Oh, I don't think I would not with a video 439 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 3: like that on her phone. Yeah, And it's like, you know, 440 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 3: that's not. 441 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:57,880 Speaker 7: The only video like you don't record your first bang, 442 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 7: Like that's like a couple bangs deep. 443 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 3: And how long have they been together? 444 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 2: Well, they're married now six years and they have a 445 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:07,360 Speaker 2: three year old son. 446 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, so like that's like two max. Sorry. 447 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,679 Speaker 4: And she told me I had a hall pass anytime 448 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 4: I wanted, like forever, continuous hall passes. 449 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 3: I guess. 450 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 4: So, okay, I'm not proud of it, but I use 451 00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,760 Speaker 4: them because I wanted her to feel sad. 452 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 2: But this has made me open my eyes. 453 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:31,879 Speaker 7: This is a terrible relationship. This is terrible. This is terrible. 454 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 7: You should have broken up, yeah beforehand. If you are 455 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 7: hooking up with other people to make your partner feel bad, 456 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 7: this is a toxic relationship and you should live. 457 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's over. 458 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,239 Speaker 4: I feel so good when a girl compliments me from 459 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 4: my body. I do all the chores daily and when 460 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 4: she goes out, I go for a walk with my kids. 461 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:55,400 Speaker 2: So I have a nice body. Yeah, own it, that's 462 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 2: what I do. 463 00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 3: No comment, they're. 464 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:04,440 Speaker 6: Rude, You look great, Sophia. Rude, you look great. 465 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 4: Just a little chubby, maybe around three kilograms over my 466 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 4: normal weight. Since she said I was fat. Uh, and 467 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,200 Speaker 4: that's one of the reasons she cheated. 468 00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:17,960 Speaker 3: Oh wow, Oh that is. 469 00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 7: A terrible like, babe, I know I cheated, but it's 470 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 7: because you're fat. That's like, that's the worst thing you 471 00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 7: could say. 472 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 2: That's awful. 473 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 4: They also say I'm great for doing what I do 474 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 4: in the house and how I take care of my kid. 475 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 4: I tell them that I'm in an open relationship with 476 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 4: my wife and a bit about what I do. Oh, 477 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 4: and I realized how much I liked actually being valued 478 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:40,440 Speaker 4: though I asked my wife. 479 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 3: For a divorce. 480 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, which is which that should have been the 481 00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 7: thing that you did when you watch your wife get railed? 482 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 7: That that is a quote from the story Sorry, watch 483 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:54,240 Speaker 7: your wife get railed. 484 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 4: Now, her and both our families are constantly insulting me 485 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 4: for what I'm doing, saying that I betrayed her. Did 486 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,919 Speaker 4: anyone tell them what she did? And that I'm going 487 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 4: to regret what I do. And I feel guilty because 488 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 4: the divorce petition was seemingly out of nowhere. One day 489 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 4: We're working in our relationship and the next day I'm 490 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 4: asking for a divorce. 491 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 2: So reddit, am I the a hole? 492 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 4: Uh? 493 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:24,680 Speaker 7: Yes, yes you are. You are completely the a hole. 494 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:29,040 Speaker 7: Yes he is, he is the a hole. If you 495 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,880 Speaker 7: are hooking up with other people to make someone feel bad, 496 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 7: you are an a hole. I like, yes, it was 497 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 7: a bad move for her to quote unquote rail get 498 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:43,200 Speaker 7: railed by another dude, and wait, I don't want. 499 00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,680 Speaker 2: To Okay, Well, in that case, it's just everyone's a hole. 500 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but I don't think he's Nee were saying, 501 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 3: he's not the a hole. 502 00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 4: Well no, but the second that he realized that, he 503 00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:55,840 Speaker 4: was like, I realized what I'm doing, and so I 504 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:56,399 Speaker 4: divorced her. 505 00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,160 Speaker 7: Yeah, but he he used the more that he used 506 00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 7: it multiple times, James, he used he used the hall 507 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 7: pass multiple times to make his wife feel bad. That's 508 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,720 Speaker 7: an a whole move. But he recognized it, and so 509 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,400 Speaker 7: he yes, Yes, which which is a Which is a good? 510 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:13,239 Speaker 2: I guess I guess it's. 511 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:16,240 Speaker 7: I mean, there's moments of a holary everyone's in everyone's 512 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 7: an a hole in this story. He's an a hole, 513 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 7: she's she's definitely an a hole. I guess the kids done, 514 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:22,880 Speaker 7: like everyone else is there? 515 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:23,440 Speaker 1: We go, here, we go? 516 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:25,200 Speaker 3: Would I be the hole? If I didn't get you 517 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:25,680 Speaker 3: a fork? 518 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 6: What to make you feel sad? Sofia asked me earlier, 519 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 6: can you give me a fork and I almost said no, 520 00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 6: but I didn't. 521 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:33,760 Speaker 2: You did say no and then you have it. Yeah 522 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:35,720 Speaker 2: I was. I was actually really saddened by it. 523 00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 6: But let's say I did that, I said no just 524 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,000 Speaker 6: to make you sad. Would that make me the a hole? 525 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:42,000 Speaker 3: Yes? 526 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 2: I think everyone. 527 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 6: I said no to your spood just to make you sad. 528 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 6: Am I the a hole? 529 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 7: Yes? 530 00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 2: Okay, because for a moment I thought you weren't kidding 531 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:52,919 Speaker 2: me up. 532 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,639 Speaker 7: So like, I think, if you do anything just to 533 00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 7: upset someone, you're being an a hole. 534 00:25:58,040 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 3: Thank you, Sam. 535 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:02,760 Speaker 7: So like, I guess what he did is he hooked 536 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,880 Speaker 7: up with these people not because he wanted to hook 537 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,119 Speaker 7: up with them. He did it because he knew it 538 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,159 Speaker 7: would make her feel bad. He knew it would make 539 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,399 Speaker 7: her feel bad, and that is the reason he's an 540 00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 7: a hole. If he just did it because he wanted 541 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 7: to and she was okay with it, and he just 542 00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 7: did it because he wanted to and had permission, that's 543 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:21,280 Speaker 7: a different story. But he did it because I wanted 544 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 7: her to feel bad. 545 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:22,920 Speaker 2: Everyone sucks here. 546 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 3: I think sex less than her. 547 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,240 Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, see that's what I thought you were saying. 548 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,439 Speaker 2: He sucks more. I think he sucks. He sucks less, 549 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:30,800 Speaker 2: baby still sucks a little. 550 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 3: You asked me, do I think op he's the A hole? 551 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,480 Speaker 2: And I think, yeah, okay, interesting. 552 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:39,200 Speaker 7: Gabe Elijah says intentions make him the A hole. Jellyba 553 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 7: says he used it as a weapon. 554 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:42,040 Speaker 2: That's fair. 555 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,680 Speaker 7: He's not the a hole for the divorce though. Yeah, 556 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 7: the divorce actually was the most I think he could 557 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:47,600 Speaker 7: have done. 558 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,560 Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking that you were saying at first. 559 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:51,600 Speaker 4: But I understand what you're saying, and I think, yeah, 560 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,320 Speaker 4: I think he's not a nail for getting a divorce. 561 00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, it sucks for for using it. 562 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,439 Speaker 4: I think intentions because if you're going I guess, if 563 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 4: you're going to you agree to the terms. 564 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,800 Speaker 2: Then you have to like, yeah, agree to them. 565 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:09,200 Speaker 3: Well, what an unhealthy relationship we witness? Disgusting? Yeah? Gross? Yeah, 566 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,399 Speaker 3: who is the worst? Opie's wife? Yeah, for sure Opie's 567 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,480 Speaker 3: wife is. Yeah. Also, she probably was cheating like a 568 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,640 Speaker 3: ton for a long time.