WEBVTT - HOW-TO MINISODE WITH CAIT MADRY: How to raise your bar.

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<v Speaker 1>I am back with cat Madgorie. Y'all heard her on Monday.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about how important the journey of sobriety is,

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<v Speaker 1>how powerful it is. She has a podcast called clear

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<v Speaker 1>Headed Your Sober Self Care podcast. You are in host

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<v Speaker 1>an actor, comedian. You have been in the big middle

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<v Speaker 1>of the entertainment industry as myself. You are almost to

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<v Speaker 1>your sobers congratulations. I am almost a hair sober and

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<v Speaker 1>we just talked about on Monday. If you haven't listened

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<v Speaker 1>to this episode, I highly encourage you to go back

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<v Speaker 1>to it. We talked about all of the feelings you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like getting sober, but the tic tick takes too

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<v Speaker 1>when you know your bomb is about to explode and

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<v Speaker 1>you need to change your life. How it is so

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<v Speaker 1>scary to change your life. But then, what is on

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<v Speaker 1>the other side of sobriety, What is on the other

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<v Speaker 1>side of actually stepping into your full self and looking

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<v Speaker 1>at yourself head on and claiming and owning who you

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<v Speaker 1>are and who you're meant to be and having that

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<v Speaker 1>just like knowing you are capable to live this incredible life.

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<v Speaker 1>But then we also talked about triggers in dealing with them,

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<v Speaker 1>and resources and the realness of it, and it is hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you wake up and you're like, this is absolutely terrible,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want to do this. So I was fine,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really, I don't have a problem, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>or you might not have a problem. Maybe you're just

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<v Speaker 1>tired of being hungover. The whole thing. We covered it.

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<v Speaker 1>You have so much wisdom and resources and so and

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<v Speaker 1>life experience and you did it. You're just a powerhouse

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<v Speaker 1>showing the way, Kate, and it is so awesome to

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<v Speaker 1>have you here. And so you're gonna talk to us

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit today about how to raise your bar

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<v Speaker 1>and not in life, but also like your bark cart

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<v Speaker 1>in your house, Like how can we still have fun

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<v Speaker 1>being sober? Let's talk about it. Oh my gosh, let's

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it. Well, the ritual of drinking is so

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<v Speaker 1>such a big weight in people's um choice to get sober,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that people really miss having a good drink.

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<v Speaker 1>So I want to tell you about how to raise

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<v Speaker 1>your bar in your house so that you can still

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<v Speaker 1>have friends over, you can still do a happy hour,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's going to actually be a happier hour because

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<v Speaker 1>you're not gonna wake up feeling crummy. The next day. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>Number one to a really good bar cart is go

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<v Speaker 1>out and get some really good glassware. C you two

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<v Speaker 1>has amazing glassware. Just treat yourself with two new special

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<v Speaker 1>glasses that you will put on display on your bar

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<v Speaker 1>cart that you make your non out drinks in that

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<v Speaker 1>you love and you look forward to holding and sipping from,

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<v Speaker 1>because really the experience of having a drink is what

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<v Speaker 1>people miss. Um. The second thing is get a really

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<v Speaker 1>good one to one alcohol free replacement. I love free spirits.

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<v Speaker 1>It was crafted in um with like the palette of

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<v Speaker 1>the spirit that it is mimicking in mind. So the

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<v Speaker 1>tequila has the same warmth of tequila. The bourbon has

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<v Speaker 1>the same vanilla aspect to it. Um, do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to say that alcohol free replacements can be triggering, So

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<v Speaker 1>if you feel like it's not your jive, then pour

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<v Speaker 1>it out. Don't worry about it. There are tons of

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<v Speaker 1>other uh alcohol free drinks you can can put on

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<v Speaker 1>your bar cart that don't taste or mimic the taste

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<v Speaker 1>of alcohol, Like can you forks ken is so great?

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<v Speaker 1>It's ken is so good the cans and you can

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<v Speaker 1>take it from the bar cart to the fridge. Go

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<v Speaker 1>get a bunch of cans of some stuff like they

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<v Speaker 1>swaw has cans, kN has cans, Surely has cans. Surely

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<v Speaker 1>is a great alcohol free wine. You have a rose,

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<v Speaker 1>they have a pinot, they have a sparkling m brute.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all great, and all of these bottles just look

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<v Speaker 1>really gorgeous on your bar cart, and you really don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're missing out on anything. You're actually gaining

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<v Speaker 1>so much because you're gaining the memory of the night

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<v Speaker 1>while you're sipping with friends. If you wanna go and

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<v Speaker 1>and check out any other alcohol free alternatives, there are

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of great sites. Buss Slants Bosson is a

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<v Speaker 1>shop that's based in New York, but they do shipping

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<v Speaker 1>as Boisson bo I S S O n Um. They're

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<v Speaker 1>based in New York. They just opened a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>shops in l A. But if you aren't in New

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<v Speaker 1>York or l A, you can check out Better Roads

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<v Speaker 1>b E T T E R R H O D

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<v Speaker 1>E S. They ship all over the US, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>an alcohol free site, so you don't have to go

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<v Speaker 1>into bedmo passa tequila. You can just browse and knowing

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<v Speaker 1>that everything is alcohol free, still really pretty and still

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<v Speaker 1>will help you make a really good drink and raise

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<v Speaker 1>the bar in your house. I love it so much.

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<v Speaker 1>This is such an important conversation we had today. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are anyone like really it's a youth thing, not

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<v Speaker 1>anyone you know. If you feel like you are ready

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<v Speaker 1>to make this change, definitely go listen to our podcast

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<v Speaker 1>on Monday. Kate offers so much wisdom and resources, and

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<v Speaker 1>check out her podcast clear Headed and know that you

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<v Speaker 1>can do this. You are not too far gone. It

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<v Speaker 1>is not too late. Your life is not like you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't blown even if you think you've blown up your life, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can make the change. You can choose this. You

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<v Speaker 1>can have this life and it is terrifying and intimidating,

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<v Speaker 1>but also it's awesome. Like I'm almost a year sober,

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<v Speaker 1>you're almost two years sober, and it is really really

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<v Speaker 1>liberating to live this way. And there's a whole freaking

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<v Speaker 1>community of people who've made this choice and you can

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<v Speaker 1>be in on it. And so just keep exploring this.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're curious, keep getting curious, keep looking for resources,

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<v Speaker 1>keep looking for people who have done it. You can

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<v Speaker 1>do it too. And thank you so much Kate for

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<v Speaker 1>being this beacon, this light, for sharing your journey, for

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<v Speaker 1>sharing your story, for being this voice and this person

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<v Speaker 1>who is showing that there is this other way to

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<v Speaker 1>live this awesome, sober, free life. So check out clear Headed,

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<v Speaker 1>and y'all all get involved with Kate Madjorie and follow

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<v Speaker 1>her journey because you are awesome. Thank you you to

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you so much. This was awesome, and thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for starting to day with me. Yes, absolutely, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for kicking it off. I appreciate your time and

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<v Speaker 1>your energy and I yeah, thank you so much. Right

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<v Speaker 1>back at you, Okay, Kate Madgorie, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay bye,