1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: help with. 5 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 2: Whether you're going. 6 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: Through a breakup or having issues with your family, or 7 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,520 Speaker 1: maybe you have a question about my personal life. Whatever 8 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: the case is, I want to hear from you. Remember 9 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts in my opinions, and if you're 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 1: suffering from a serious issue or hardship, you should seek 11 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: help from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead 12 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: and leave your message at the sound of the beeB. 13 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 3: Hi tee keys. 14 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 4: My name is Leanna, and I just want to say 15 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 4: I love you so much. 16 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 5: I watched all your reality shows and I just to 17 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 5: admire you so much. I love how genuine and giving 18 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:06,399 Speaker 5: and compassionate you are, and I just love you and 19 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 5: your family. 20 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 6: So I was wanting to ask you. 21 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 4: I recently got engaged to my boyfriend, like longtime high 22 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 4: school sweetheart, and we finally picked a date for the wedding. 23 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 4: I was just wondering, what advice do you give me 24 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 4: going forward for planning, any tips, what not to stress about, 25 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 4: maybe what to splurge on and what you don't have 26 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 4: to splurgeh thank you so much. 27 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:34,120 Speaker 5: I love you. 28 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: Hi Diana, I love your question, and thank you so 29 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: much for watching the reality shows. I think those have 30 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: just given everyone the opportunity to get to know us 31 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: on a different level. 32 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 2: So I really appreciate that. 33 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: And Okay, this is a great question if I could 34 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: do anything different. You know I've had two weddings, right 35 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: for sure. The first wedding, well, I don't you want 36 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: to talk about it anyway. I simplified everything for the 37 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: second one because I wanted to just enjoy myself. So 38 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: you have to remember, the wedding is for you guys, yes, 39 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: but in reality it's for the guests. So I want 40 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: you to really get in the space of I want 41 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: to enjoy my wedding. What is going to make me 42 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: enjoy my wedding because people are going to say what 43 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: they want. Some people will like the food, some people won't. 44 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 1: And what I did with my wedding was I made sure. 45 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: I was like, if I'm going to spend on anything, 46 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm going to splurge on good food, on food that 47 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: I like. Okay, So that's why we went to Havier 48 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: It is one of my very favorite Mexican restaurants here 49 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: in LA and they have one in Vegas, and I 50 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I want to make sure I enjoy 51 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: it before you're thinking of like everyone else, are they 52 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 1: gonna like it or the no, no, no, you have 53 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: to just think of Okay, the food. 54 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 2: Food is so important to me. I don't know. 55 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: To me, food is super important and you have to 56 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: feed people and it has to be something that you're 57 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: going to enjoy. Please make sure you eat. Of course 58 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: you're hosting, but you have to make sure that you 59 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: enjoy your day. Your wedding dress is important. You splurge 60 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: on your wedding dress. That's something you're gonna have forever 61 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: and hopefully God willing give it to your daughter, which, 62 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: by the way, congratulations on your engagement. 63 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 2: I'm sorry I should have started with that. But you need. 64 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: To spend as much as you'd like on your dress. 65 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:31,519 Speaker 1: But also remember to be comfortable. Okay, there's no reason 66 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: in the world that you're gonna have this beautiful, magnificent 67 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: dress but you're not comfortable. You have to be comfortable. 68 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: You have to feel like I can be in this 69 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: dress all night long. Unless you want to change, that's 70 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: perfectly fine. 71 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:42,839 Speaker 2: I did. 72 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 1: But the dress that I wore, I am in love 73 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: and I could probably cut it and make it short 74 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: and wear it today. Like that's how simple I wanted 75 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: it and how comfortable I wanted to fill in it 76 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: the material, So I spend mostly on the dress and 77 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: the food venue is important, but again, like you can 78 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: do that in a backyard. It's all the vibe that 79 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: you're going to bring, the music, the food that's going 80 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: to really make all the difference. So that's the advice 81 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: that I can give you right now, like off the 82 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: top of my head. Remember this is your wedding vib 83 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: You have to enjoy it and just know that people 84 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 1: with an opinion, it is what it is. Don't let 85 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: it bother you, don't even mind it. And take a 86 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 1: deep breath while you're planning because it could be stressful, 87 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: but it could be a beautiful experience as long as 88 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 1: you set that tone when you are planning. If that 89 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: makes sense. But hopefully my advice helped. I'm so excited. 90 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear all about your wedding. When 91 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: are you getting married? Update us please on everything, Send 92 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: us pictures. We love updates here on your cheeky's all 93 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: of us, so I'm so happy, congratulations, Oh my goodness. 94 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 2: And we're something sexy for your husband that night. 95 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 1: Don't get so tired where you're like, oh, everyone gets 96 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,039 Speaker 1: so tired and don't want to consummate the wedding at 97 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 1: the end of the night. So remember to just kind 98 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: of end it early because it's about you and your 99 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 1: man and you guys want to for sure make love 100 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 1: on that night. And that's all, thanks Diana. Okay, guys, 101 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: moving on to eh an anonymous listener. 102 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 6: Let's see, hi, Chiki is My question is how do 103 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 6: you get over the side girl knowing about you and 104 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 6: your partner what my partner cheated. Me and my partner 105 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 6: are in a good place. It has been two years. 106 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 6: She is putting in the work, She's giving me the communication, reassurance, 107 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:34,160 Speaker 6: passwords and everything. I am trying to get pregnant by 108 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 6: an eui. Sadly, I had two fellas attempts, but I 109 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 6: still have that hatred towards that person she cheated on 110 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 6: me with because she knew about me and didn't care. 111 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 6: Please give me some advice on how to get over 112 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 6: because I feel like that hatred and stress is still 113 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 6: affecting me and maybe blocking my way of getting pregnant. 114 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 6: I have forgave my girlfriend only because she has put 115 00:05:56,120 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 6: in the work and she still was by me, But 116 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 6: I still cannot get over the girl. Please help me. 117 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, baby, I get it. I totally totally understand. 118 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: And you said it yourself. You said it, so you 119 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: know that if you don't forgive and let go of 120 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: this resentment that you feel and forgive, truly forgive from 121 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 1: the root, it's going to be very difficult for you 122 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: to get pregnant. Because when we're trying to get pregnant, 123 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 1: we need to be relaxed. We need to cleanse ourselves 124 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: of any bad energy, of anything that we're carrying, like 125 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: resentment and unforgiveness, etc. But you are well aware. It 126 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 1: seems like you're a very connected girl, So I definitely 127 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: think that, especially if your partner is giving you her 128 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 1: all and showing you that she's all in and she's 129 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: all about you. I do believe in forgiveness, and I 130 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: do believe that people can change, and sometimes people need 131 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: to experience certain things like that in order to make 132 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 1: the relationship stronger and to appreciate their partner. Well, honestly, 133 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: I admire you, and I think it's great that you 134 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: forgave her. Now you really have to dig deep. Now 135 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: it's about you. Now you have to let go, because 136 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: if you keep bringing it up, or you're holding this resentment, 137 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: you're going to cause more tension in the relationship when 138 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: it doesn't there. It doesn't have to be any especially 139 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: if your partner is trying, and then you don't want 140 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: to get to the point where your partner feels unappreciated 141 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: and undervalued and you're just constantly bringing this up. I 142 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: don't know if you're doing this, but I'm just telling you, 143 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: don't do it. If you forgive, we have to try 144 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: to forget and move on. I would definitely say to 145 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 1: try therapy, read a book on it. I'm trying to 146 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: think if there's a book that can help. Ooh, I 147 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: mean my Life Coaches book. It's like that's the one, 148 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: Like I just finished reading. The book is called Higher 149 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 1: Self by Mariy Fontanez. There's another part of the book, 150 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: but I can't remember right now. Either way, look it 151 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: up and that can also help you. I think you 152 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: just need to really tell yourself if my person. If 153 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: my girl is still with me, it's because she loves me. 154 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: And that was just a moment thing. And I understand 155 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: it could be hard. 156 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:12,680 Speaker 2: I have been there. 157 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: I get it, and you start thinking all kinds of things, 158 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: but it's thinking, and overthinking is our worst enemy. 159 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: Guys like overthinking. I used to do that so much. 160 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: Now I'm just like literally Mesakuro and I'm just like, 161 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: I move my body. I'm like, okay, I'm releasing and 162 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: I'm surrendering. 163 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 6: This. 164 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: Actually, a better book for you for this situation would 165 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 1: be Letting Go The Pathway to Surrender. Okay, look it up, police. 166 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: This book will help you and show you how to 167 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: release and how to surrender emotions and pass traumas. Oh 168 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 1: my gosh, it's amazing. But literally surrendering, babe and releasing it. 169 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: It does not belong to you. That is in the past. 170 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:54,079 Speaker 1: Don't keep living in the past. That's what causes depression 171 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 1: and it doesn't allow you to move forward. So I 172 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: know it's easier said than done. But you have to 173 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: be intentional with this. You have to constantly when you 174 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: feel that these thoughts are coming in your mind, you 175 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: need to visualize like it's a rock that you're holding 176 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: this person, this situation is a rock and you're holding 177 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: it around everywhere. 178 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 2: It's the rock. 179 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: It's heavy, and the more you hold it around, it's 180 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: going to weigh you downe It's gonna make your hand hurt. 181 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: You're not gonna be able to do other things because 182 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: your hand is occupied with holding this rock. Then visualize 183 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:25,079 Speaker 1: you letting it go, putting it on the grass, giving 184 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: it back to the earth. Thank you for the experience, 185 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: for what I needed to learn from this. I'm gonna 186 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: leave this rock right here because I need this hand 187 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: to do what I need to do. I need it 188 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: free because I need to love, I need to create life. 189 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: I can't hold this rock around, So I'm gonna leave 190 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: this damn rock right here. You have to do it 191 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:46,680 Speaker 1: like visually, maybe even go grab a real rock honestly, 192 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: like it probably sounds crazy, but go grab a real rock, 193 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: something that's heavy, and visualize and leave it there and 194 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 1: put all of this anger and sadness and hate because 195 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 1: that's not good to hate this person. Yes, we're upset 196 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 1: with her, and she knew you know what a yay. Yeah, 197 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,560 Speaker 1: let her learn her lesson and visualize it and put 198 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: all this energy in this rock and then you're gonna 199 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:08,959 Speaker 1: go and leave it somewhere or throw it in the ocean. 200 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: It's gonna help so much. Try it and please let 201 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: me know if it works. Okay, and read the book 202 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: and I'm sure that's going to help you a lot. 203 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 1: Surrender and release, babe, Sending you a big hug. You 204 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: got this, and good luck with the process of having 205 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: a baby. Our next and last question is from Lally 206 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: Hi Tikis. 207 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,439 Speaker 3: I want to say I'm a huge fan of yours 208 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 3: and I have two questions for you. So I'm watching 209 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 3: I Love Johnny right now, and I have to know 210 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 3: are you guys still friends like you and Mikey or 211 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,440 Speaker 3: do you guys still talk to high boy like after 212 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 3: your mom passed and everything. My second question for you 213 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 3: is how would you go about like someone that you 214 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 3: used to be really really close to talk bad about 215 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 3: someone you love? Because my old best friend, my ex 216 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:07,800 Speaker 3: best friend, who I stopping her friend because I found 217 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 3: out she was talking bad mommy saying she was pissed 218 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 3: how I have other friends. And then I found out 219 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:20,840 Speaker 3: that she is talking bad about my dad because he 220 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 3: is in prison right now for her drugs and I 221 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 3: found out that he that she is talking bad about, 222 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 3: how he's a drug addict and all of this until 223 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 3: he's talking bad. And my question for you is, how 224 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:39,960 Speaker 3: would you go about this? How would you deal with this? 225 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:42,959 Speaker 3: Because it really makes me so mad and my family 226 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 3: just told me to ignore it, but I want to 227 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 3: know how you would go about this and how you 228 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 3: would handle something like that. Thank you, I love you. 229 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: Oh Lalie, thank you for watching. I love Jenny, I 230 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: love it. Look at this. Okay, So I don't remember 231 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:02,720 Speaker 1: who Hi boy is thought, remember, I have to rewatch 232 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 1: the episode myself. I was trying to remember as I 233 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:10,040 Speaker 1: was listening to your voice memo. I can't remember, but 234 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: I'll get back to you on that. I owe you. 235 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: I'm sure I'll call Johnny or any of my siblings 236 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: actually and they'll remember. But pertaining to your second question, 237 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: like Mama, people are always going to talk bad about us, 238 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: and I know that it hurts more when it comes 239 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: from someone that you love. It happened to me and 240 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: I had to let go of a friend because I 241 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: had concrete evidence of her speaking bad about me. I 242 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: saw a text message and it broke my heart. Because 243 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: sometimes we put expectations on people that aren't realistic, and 244 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: that's one of the mistakes that we make as human beings, 245 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: is expecting people to be like us, or expecting certain 246 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 1: things from people and they're not capable of it. But 247 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: I know your family's telling you to ignore them. And 248 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: at this point of my life, I don't know how 249 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: old you are. You sound a little young, I'm not sure, 250 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,040 Speaker 1: but at this point of my life, ignoring is the 251 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,760 Speaker 1: best thing I could do for sure. Like there's so 252 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 1: much noise happening right now in my life that I 253 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 1: have no control over, and I'm like, well, a lot 254 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 1: of them are lies, if not all of them, and 255 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 1: it's people that I once loved, and it sucks now 256 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 1: I just ignore it. I'm like, you know what, I'm 257 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:19,120 Speaker 1: gonna go about my day. I know who I am, 258 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 1: I know the truth. I wish I would have known 259 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: this when I was younger, so I know it's a 260 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: lot harder. I don't know if you're getting this information 261 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 1: from other people, if you have concrete evidence of her 262 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:33,080 Speaker 1: saying it. But I think it all depends if she 263 00:13:33,200 --> 00:13:34,640 Speaker 1: said it and you know for sure she said it. 264 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:36,880 Speaker 1: If you know for sure she said it, you have 265 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: to ignore it. 266 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:37,640 Speaker 3: Babe. 267 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: You don't want that in your life anyway. I know 268 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:44,200 Speaker 1: it's hard, but if you know it's not true, then 269 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 1: you don't want those people in your life. It's not 270 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: even worth you giving that person your attention. Now you 271 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: just know, and you have to thank God that you 272 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: know how this person is and they're no longer in 273 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: your life. So it's a blessing in disguise. Now, if 274 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: someone else is telling you she said these things and 275 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: you don't really know and there's no huncrete evidence, then 276 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:04,959 Speaker 1: you need to toughen up and face it and ask her, 277 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,080 Speaker 1: are you saying these things in a way that's not 278 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:11,560 Speaker 1: confrontational through a text message, maybe not to fight, but 279 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,839 Speaker 1: just to get clarity. So it all depends. Those are 280 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: my two ways of helping you. But really, babe, people 281 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: are gonna talk and say so many things about us, 282 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: and unfortunately that's just the way life is. But as 283 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 1: long as you know who you are in your heart 284 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:28,640 Speaker 1: and in your mind, and you know who your dad is, 285 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 1: whether some of it may be true, half of it 286 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: is true or not, you know what other people think 287 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 1: about you is not your business. And I mean it 288 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 1: in the way of like you don't even know me. 289 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 1: I don't want you in my life anyway. So whatever 290 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 1: you say about me, okay, cool, that's your opinion. You're 291 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: entitled to your opinion and by. 292 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. 293 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: So hopefully all of that made sense, and hopefully my 294 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 1: advice can help you. But I wouldn't worry too much, Mama. 295 00:14:57,720 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: You focus on your dad, on being there for him, 296 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: and focus on yourself. And if there are some things 297 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: that she's saying about you that you feel, you know, 298 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: trigger something inside of you, try to figure out what 299 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 1: it is so that you because it's bothering you for 300 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 1: a reason. It all depends what she's saying, and say, Okay, 301 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: where do I have room to change? Look within yourself 302 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 1: so that this doesn't happen again with another friend. 303 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 2: You get me. 304 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 1: So we have to learn from these situations. So that 305 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: is my advice, and I wish you well. Okay, keep 306 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 1: me updated, keep us updated, guys. 307 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I love you guys. 308 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: All the questions and to know that you guys still 309 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: love I love Jenny. I love it too. I need 310 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: to watch it. Actually I need to figure out who 311 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,960 Speaker 1: Hi Boy is. But thank you guys, Thank you guys, 312 00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 1: so much. I love seeing clips on TikTok and just 313 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: reliving those moments, and so I just want to say 314 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 1: thank you guys. And yeah, if you have a question, 315 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 1: please leave it at speakpipe dot com slash Cheeks and 316 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: Chill podcast. I'd love to hear from you, and I'd 317 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: love to give you advice from the bottom of my heart. 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