WEBVTT - FDFU - A Perfect First Date… Until One Awkward Moment Changes Everything

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<v Speaker 1>Normally at this time it's to catch a cheater, but

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<v Speaker 1>because it's Christmas time, we're counting down the twelve first

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<v Speaker 1>day follow ups of Christmas as voted on by you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is number eleven.

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<v Speaker 1>Joseph is on the phone today for a first day

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<v Speaker 1>follow up and he's getting ghosted by Mia. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to see if we can find out why he's

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<v Speaker 1>getting ghosted and maybe get him another date if he

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<v Speaker 1>still wants one. But first, Joseph Hollings, have been since

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<v Speaker 1>you heard from Mia?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean it's been a couple of weeks now,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm getting kind of worried.

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<v Speaker 4>You're getting worried. Is there a reason why you feel worried?

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<v Speaker 4>Like about her or about her she's ghosting you?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, most of are like her. She's ghosting me. It's

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<v Speaker 3>it's been a little while. And it went so well.

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<v Speaker 3>This was one of the best days I've ever had.

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<v Speaker 3>It seems so promising. We actually we had we were sittled.

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<v Speaker 3>We were set up for dinner in a movie and

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<v Speaker 3>we were talking for so long at dinner that we

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<v Speaker 3>ended up missing the movie.

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<v Speaker 5>Like that was great, you know, yeah, you missed the

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<v Speaker 5>whole movie.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean, we were able to get it, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's just it's been we ended up missing the opening.

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<v Speaker 3>Those just felt really good, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, was talking to her, tell us more about it.

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<v Speaker 4>What did you guys talk about?

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<v Speaker 2>Why?

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<v Speaker 4>You know, do you feel like it was so great?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Well, I mean we went to a pizza place because,

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<v Speaker 3>as she had said in the previous conversation how much

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<v Speaker 3>she loved pizza. And I was like, oh great, this

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<v Speaker 3>is kind of casual but also kind of like, uh,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, sort of a dinner, so a little more

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<v Speaker 3>than just like coffee. Was great. We end up talking

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<v Speaker 3>about our careers, our families. We seem to be on

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<v Speaker 3>the same wavelengths.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually we both mentioned that we wanted to check out

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<v Speaker 3>a museum that we had been looking at and maybe

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<v Speaker 3>we could do that sometime. And I was like, oh good, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so like second date right there, it's kind of built

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<v Speaker 3>into it. I just felt really promising.

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<v Speaker 1>Did anything happen on the date wherein an obvious sign?

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<v Speaker 4>And why she's not on you.

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<v Speaker 3>Beack, I've got I'm not gonna lie. I've got an

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<v Speaker 3>idea of what might have happened. Uh see you will.

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<v Speaker 6>We were uh while we.

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<v Speaker 3>Were out, I saw my sister, and you know, my

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<v Speaker 3>my my sister U is married and I go over

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<v Speaker 3>to dinner with her and her family every once in

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<v Speaker 3>a while so I can see my nieces and nephews.

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<v Speaker 3>And we've recently talked about how I probably shouldn't talk

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<v Speaker 3>about my love life, uh, you know around like the

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<v Speaker 3>kids right now, you know, just until things get kind

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<v Speaker 3>of settled, because that way, you know, it'd be kind

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<v Speaker 3>of awkward for them. And when you know, I saw

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<v Speaker 3>it out, I was like, oh no, this is kind

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<v Speaker 3>of awkward, this is kind of weird. How do I

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<v Speaker 3>act in this situation? I wouldn't be surprised if that

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<v Speaker 3>was a little confusing.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, so you didn't you didn't talk to your sister?

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<v Speaker 3>No? No, I just was like, oh God, what do

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<v Speaker 3>I What do I do here? And I probably it

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<v Speaker 3>probably kind of upset how I I spoke to to

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<v Speaker 3>me as well?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you tell me that it was your sister who

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<v Speaker 2>was there, or that you knew each other or anything

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<v Speaker 2>like that.

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<v Speaker 3>No. I was afraid it was going to make things

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<v Speaker 3>even more awkward. And it's like, oh God, if I

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<v Speaker 3>just kind of play this off, let's not even like

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<v Speaker 3>make a thing out.

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<v Speaker 6>Of it because it's one of those the bigger the

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<v Speaker 6>things of the more weird it gets.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna lie. I'm not sure I did a

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<v Speaker 3>great job.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, it sounds like it was kind of weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it sounds awkward. All right, Well, we'll see if

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<v Speaker 2>we can figure it out.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll play a song and then come back and call

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<v Speaker 1>her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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<v Speaker 1>you and maybe get you another date. Okay, Okay, thanks, Next,

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<v Speaker 1>Joseph is on the phone. He's been getting ghosted for

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<v Speaker 1>like two weeks now and doesn't know why. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>about to call the girl that.

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<v Speaker 2>He went out with.

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<v Speaker 1>Her name is Mia, and see if we can figure

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<v Speaker 1>out why he's getting ghosted and maybe get him another date.

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<v Speaker 1>But before we do that, Joseph, why don't you refresh

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<v Speaker 1>everybody's memory about your date with Mia.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure. Me and I had a great time. We went

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<v Speaker 3>to a pizza place, We talked about setting up a

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<v Speaker 3>second date at a museum. We actually were talking for

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<v Speaker 3>so long we almost missed the movie. I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 3>why she hasn't gotten back to me after like a

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<v Speaker 3>couple of weeks. I'm a little worried that it's because

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<v Speaker 3>I was a little awkward when I saw my sister out,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, we'll give her a call right now, ask

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<v Speaker 1>her if she'll ask her why she goes to you,

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<v Speaker 1>and see if she'll tell us and then maybe get

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<v Speaker 1>you another day.

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<v Speaker 2>You're ready, All right, let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to

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<v Speaker 1>mea please? Hey Mia, how are you? My name is Jubell.

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<v Speaker 1>I host a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hima, the show's here too. Are Nina?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi?

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm Victoria?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh Hi, Hi today? Good? Okay, So what's shown.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show. We

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<v Speaker 1>do a segment on our show called the First Day Followup.

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<v Speaker 1>That's where if you go out on a date with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody and then end up ghosting them, they get they

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<v Speaker 1>can email us to get you on the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an email

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<v Speaker 1>about you from Joseph.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely went

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<v Speaker 5>out with a guy named Joseph.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Joseph said, you've been ghosting him for like two weeks now,

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<v Speaker 1>and he wants to know why.

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<v Speaker 2>He thought things went really well and he liked you

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<v Speaker 2>a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it actually did spurn off really well. We went

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<v Speaker 5>and had pizza, and we had a lot of things coming.

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<v Speaker 5>We were lapping. We were even planning on going to

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<v Speaker 5>muse him for the next date. But then we mix

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<v Speaker 5>the movies. He is clearly not over his ex because

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<v Speaker 5>we saw his X there and he he was acting

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<v Speaker 5>really weird. He showed no affection to me. It was

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<v Speaker 5>very awkward. And then after the movies we rushed out

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<v Speaker 5>of there. And so that is why, because he's not

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<v Speaker 5>over his ex.

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<v Speaker 4>How do you know that was his X? Did he

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<v Speaker 4>say that?

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<v Speaker 5>He didn't say that, but it was like he looked

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<v Speaker 5>over at her. He was actually really strange. It just

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<v Speaker 5>it felt like it was his ex. I mean, you

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<v Speaker 5>kind of just don't that's his ex. You know. It

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<v Speaker 5>was awkward because he like stopped touching me. He stopped,

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<v Speaker 5>I mean he lost would it be you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, could it be like his sister or something?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, why would his sister care if he was touching me?

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<v Speaker 4>That is a very fair point. But sometimes what we

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<v Speaker 4>think is happening isn't always happening.

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<v Speaker 5>Possibly, I mean, what was not his sister.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, let's ask him.

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<v Speaker 1>Joseph is actually on the phone listening and wants to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, wow, Hi.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you were actually really weird with that girl. It

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<v Speaker 5>definitely felt like that was your ax. You had your

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<v Speaker 5>hands on my lap and then when you saw her

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<v Speaker 5>you took your hand off and it was just very distant.

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<v Speaker 3>It was very awkward. Yeah, believe it or not, that

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<v Speaker 3>actually is my sister. Yes, I was.

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<v Speaker 6>We have an agreement that I don't, like, I don't

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<v Speaker 6>talk about my ongoing like romantic relationships for a little

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<v Speaker 6>while here. Uh, definitely not you know, around my niece

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<v Speaker 6>and nephews, and it's kind of that couple are like,

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<v Speaker 6>oh god, it's like not time.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't really want to like introduce your family on

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<v Speaker 3>a first date. It was I had.

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<v Speaker 5>Sorry, I just hansled that. Well, yeah that was Why

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<v Speaker 5>did he just say something or text me afterwards? I

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<v Speaker 5>mean we rushed out of the movie beard what we

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<v Speaker 5>just dressed it out and then like it just felt

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<v Speaker 5>very awkward. I mean, if you kind of explain, which

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<v Speaker 5>is kind of weird that you don't want to talk

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<v Speaker 5>about your relationship. But I guess sometimes you don't. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>it was our first date. I got I guess I

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<v Speaker 5>got that, like you don't want to, you know, introduce

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<v Speaker 5>to the family. But that was really weird. He couldn't

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<v Speaker 5>say hi to her or or even say anything to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she say anything?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Right, yeah, no, I just kind of wanted to

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<v Speaker 3>leave the situation.

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<v Speaker 5>I was really thinking.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh good, I'll just kind of get

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<v Speaker 3>out of here. I'll play it off cool. I very

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<v Speaker 3>clearly did a terrible job of that.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah you did. I mean, yeah, it was. It was

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<v Speaker 5>very comfortable, and then almost you saw her and there

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<v Speaker 5>night and day you were affectionate, and then nothing.

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<v Speaker 4>Joseph, you kind of turned into a red flag. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>really sorry. You're so sweet, and I really wanted this

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<v Speaker 4>to work out for you. But you can't just run

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<v Speaker 4>away from a situation. That's im every time something's not

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<v Speaker 4>cool for you.

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<v Speaker 5>Can't just go, oh god, that's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>That was for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>I know sometime, I mean, on a first day meeting family,

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<v Speaker 4>you just say it's your friend, but yeah, your sister's

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<v Speaker 4>obviously not going to be But listen, if you're doing

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<v Speaker 4>in front of kids, you're just like, hey, this is

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<v Speaker 4>my friend Bob. You know, well you could have done

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<v Speaker 4>that next time.

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<v Speaker 1>The next time, next time, Well, how would you like

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<v Speaker 1>to have another awkward situation happened with Joseph? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>think there might be many things like like, yeah, would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to go on another date with Joseph? We'll

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<v Speaker 1>pay for it.

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<v Speaker 5>How many siblings? How many times will this happen? Uh,

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<v Speaker 5>it's knowing that it's his sister, I actually feel a

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<v Speaker 5>lot better. It was a little weird. Just tell me

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<v Speaker 5>next time. But yeah, I actually had a really good

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<v Speaker 5>time at the pizza place, and I would like to

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<v Speaker 5>see that zoomed still, So I would totally.

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<v Speaker 4>Want to go out with you run into his girlfriend

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<v Speaker 4>at the music Sorry, just kidding. The best