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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is number eleven.

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Speaker 1: Joseph is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 1: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Mia. So we're

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted and maybe get him another date if he

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Speaker 1: still wants one. But first, Joseph Hollings, have been since

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Speaker 1: you heard from Mia?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean it's been a couple of weeks now,

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Speaker 4: You're getting worried. Is there a reason why you feel worried?

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Speaker 4: Like about her or about her she's ghosting you?

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Speaker 3: Well, most of are like her. She's ghosting me. It's

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Speaker 3: it's been a little while. And it went so well.

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Speaker 3: This was one of the best days I've ever had.

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Speaker 3: It seems so promising. We actually we had we were sittled.

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Speaker 5: Like that was great, you know, yeah, you missed the

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, we were able to get it, and

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Speaker 3: it's just it's been we ended up missing the opening.

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Speaker 3: Those just felt really good, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, was talking to her, tell us more about it.

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Speaker 4: What did you guys talk about?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 4: You know, do you feel like it was so great?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Well, I mean we went to a pizza place because,

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Speaker 3: than just like coffee. Was great. We end up talking

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Speaker 3: about our careers, our families. We seem to be on

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Speaker 3: Actually we both mentioned that we wanted to check out

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Speaker 3: so like second date right there, it's kind of built

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Speaker 1: Did anything happen on the date wherein an obvious sign?

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Speaker 4: And why she's not on you.

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Speaker 3: Beack, I've got I'm not gonna lie. I've got an

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Speaker 3: Were out, I saw my sister, and you know, my

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Speaker 3: And we've recently talked about how I probably shouldn't talk

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Speaker 4: Wait, so you didn't you didn't talk to your sister?

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Speaker 3: No? No, I just was like, oh God, what do

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Speaker 3: No. I was afraid it was going to make things

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Speaker 1: We'll play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 1: Joseph is on the phone. He's been getting ghosted for

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Speaker 1: Her name is Mia, and see if we can figure

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Joseph, why don't you refresh

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Speaker 3: Sure. Me and I had a great time. We went

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to

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Speaker 1: mea please? Hey Mia, how are you? My name is Jubell.

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Speaker 1: I host a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 5: Oh oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely went

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Speaker 1: Joseph said, you've been ghosting him for like two weeks now,

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Speaker 2: He thought things went really well and he liked you

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Speaker 5: Well, it actually did spurn off really well. We went

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Speaker 5: We were lapping. We were even planning on going to

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Speaker 4: How do you know that was his X? Did he

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Speaker 5: He didn't say that, but it was like he looked

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Speaker 5: I mean he lost would it be you.

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Speaker 2: Know, could it be like his sister or something?

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Speaker 5: Well, why would his sister care if he was touching me?

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Speaker 4: That is a very fair point. But sometimes what we

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Speaker 5: Possibly, I mean, what was not his sister.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you were actually really weird with that girl. It

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Speaker 3: It was very awkward. Yeah, believe it or not, that

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Speaker 6: We have an agreement that I don't, like, I don't

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Speaker 6: while here. Uh, definitely not you know, around my niece

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Speaker 3: I don't really want to like introduce your family on

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Speaker 5: Sorry, I just hansled that. Well, yeah that was Why

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Right, yeah, no, I just kind of wanted to

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Speaker 5: I was really thinking.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh good, I'll just kind of get

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Speaker 5: Yeah you did. I mean, yeah, it was. It was

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Speaker 4: Joseph, you kind of turned into a red flag. I'm

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Speaker 4: really sorry. You're so sweet, and I really wanted this

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Speaker 5: Can't just go, oh god, that's funny.

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Speaker 2: That was for sure.

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Speaker 4: I know sometime, I mean, on a first day meeting family,

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Speaker 4: you just say it's your friend, but yeah, your sister's

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Speaker 4: obviously not going to be But listen, if you're doing

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Speaker 4: that next time.

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Speaker 1: The next time, next time, Well, how would you like

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Speaker 1: think there might be many things like like, yeah, would

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Speaker 1: you like to go on another date with Joseph? We'll

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Speaker 1: pay for it.

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Speaker 5: How many siblings? How many times will this happen? Uh,

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Speaker 5: it's knowing that it's his sister, I actually feel a

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Speaker 5: lot better. It was a little weird. Just tell me

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Speaker 5: next time. But yeah, I actually had a really good

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Speaker 5: time at the pizza place, and I would like to

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Speaker 5: see that zoomed still, So I would totally.

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Speaker 4: Want to go out with you run into his girlfriend

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Speaker 4: at the music Sorry, just kidding. The best