1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,400 Speaker 1: Bugg aout, hold on tight, we got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, subject I want to live 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: with all folk women dis Stephen Sherley. I'm a single 4 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: man that's just enjoying life, and I need some advice. 5 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: I have four women who all love me and want 6 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: to be with me. I have a child by each 7 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: one of the women, and I love all of them, 8 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: but I find it hard to pick one to settle 9 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: down with because they are all so good to me. 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: I rotate my time with them by going on dates 11 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:41,480 Speaker 1: and having sex with them regularly, and they don't seem 12 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: to have a problem with it. One of them has 13 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: a few cars, so she lets me keep one of 14 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: her cars, the other one buys most of my clothes, 15 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 1: one lets me live rent free in one of her 16 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: rental houses. And one of them is pregnant by me again, 17 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: so I've been supposed to be spent most of my 18 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: time with her lately. I don't know how to tell 19 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: the other three that I'm having another child. See, all 20 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: these women are like my best friends, and I can't 21 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: imagine my life without them. So I have an idea 22 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: that I want to talk to them about. I was 23 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 1: thinking it would be great if we could be one big, 24 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: happy family. Yeah, they all get along and they all 25 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: love me, So we could have one house and raise 26 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: the kids together. Hight we could raise the kids together. 27 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: I don't know how to bring up the idea to them, 28 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: especially since a new baby is on the way. I 29 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: know people may judge me, but these are good girls 30 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: and I treat them all with respect. It would be 31 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:15,959 Speaker 1: easier for me financially to have everyone together. It would 32 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: be easier for me financially to have everyone together, and 33 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have to run around spending time with each 34 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: one of them. Do you think it would work? Or 35 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: am I crazy to even asked them to do this. 36 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:31,679 Speaker 1: I'm just a father that's trying to do the right thing. 37 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: Please advise. Come on, shut up, man, so right, you're 38 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: just a father trying to do the right thing. No 39 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: you're not. No, you're not. You have a relationship with 40 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 1: four women, and you have four children and one on 41 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: the way, and you're just using these women for sex 42 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: and you're keeping them around without a commitment. You these 43 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:03,239 Speaker 1: women are just settling for your foolishness. They're letting you 44 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: drive your cars, letting you live rent free, I mean, 45 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: and these women, they are professionals, they got property and cars. 46 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:16,640 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, they're hard working women. And you say 47 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: you treat them with respect and you want them to 48 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: live under one roof and be sister wives. That's what 49 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: you basically, that's basically what you're trying to do. And 50 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 1: you're not being fair. You're not being fair to your 51 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 1: baby mamas or to your children. You are lying to 52 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: these women making more babies. You're scared. You're scared to 53 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: tell them that you got another baby on the way, 54 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: but you want them to all live together. This is 55 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: not going to end well because it's just gonna keep happening. 56 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: You're gonna just keep lying and making more babies and 57 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: then you're still trying to make them sister wives. You, 58 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: my friend, sir, You've got to do better. You are 59 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: being selfish and you can't be as you say. You 60 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: say you want to be a good father. You can't 61 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: be a good father being selfish. If you want your 62 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: cake and eat it too, you're wrong for that. You 63 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: need to grow up, be a grown man, take responsibility, commitment. 64 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: Very good, All right, let's go here go subject. I 65 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: want to live with women, boy, I love I love 66 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: the subject. I love I love it where you wrote 67 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: this letter. Two dude, I want to just command you 68 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: on the way you wrote the letter. But boy, I'm 69 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 1: a single man that's just enjoying life and I need 70 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: some advice. See right there, I'm a single man just 71 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 1: enjoying life and I need some advice. Right there, that's 72 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 1: a crazy statement. I have four women who all love 73 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: me and want to be with me. I have a 74 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: child by each one of these women, and I love 75 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: all of them. But I find it hard to pick 76 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 1: one to settle down with because they are all so 77 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: good to me. How's a condom? Cross? Hill? Man? Come on, 78 00:04:56,839 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: I mean, dog jes, I mean everybody in your life 79 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: got a baby, and now you got another one on 80 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: the way. Has a condom ever cross your mind? While 81 00:05:07,839 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 1: you're a single man just enjoying your life. You got 82 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: folk babies? Man, that's folk child support payments. How good 83 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: can you possibly be enjoying your life and all your 84 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 1: money is in child support? I rotate my time with 85 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: him by going on dates and having regular sex with them. 86 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: They don't seem to having problem with it. You know 87 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: why the ain't doing because you're telling each one of 88 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: them they the one. That's why I know what you're 89 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 1: telling them. Dog, you can't keep folk women on the 90 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: strain without saying that. One of them got a few calls, 91 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: so she let me keep a car, one by most 92 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 1: of my clothes, one let me live, went free on 93 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 1: the rental house, and one of it is pregnant by 94 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 1: me again. Hold, let me go back down to this line. 95 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: It would be easier for me financially to have everybody 96 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: live together. I wouldn't have to run around spending time. 97 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 1: Be easy for you financially. You got a free car, 98 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: free rent reclose, and you stay what what's your puck ass? 99 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: Need some more financial freedom? The hell is you talking about? 100 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 1: We got part two? Come on, let's recap today's crazy 101 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 1: crazy strawberry. I got this signy ass man and low 102 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,839 Speaker 1: end yes telling me that he a single man enjoying 103 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 1: his life. He needs to me in by he got 104 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: four women all in love with him, and they got 105 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 1: a baby by each one of the women, and he 106 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: finding it hard to pick one to settle down with 107 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 1: because they all good to me. I rotate my time, 108 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,239 Speaker 1: I go on dates, I have sex with him regular 109 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: and they don't seem to have a problem, I pointed 110 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: out earlier. They don't have a problem because you are 111 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 1: telling each one of them they the one that you 112 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: that they they favored. If you're going that far, which 113 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: I don't think you are, you've told each one of 114 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 1: them they to one. They don't have a problem with 115 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: it because you're not telling them how eat deep you 116 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: in with each other. You ain't told the one that's 117 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,159 Speaker 1: giving you free clothes that the other one giving you 118 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 1: a free car. You ain't told the one that's giving 119 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: you a free car that the other one give your 120 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: ass free rent. You ain't saying I promise you boy, 121 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 1: you ain't said this to the reason they're doing this 122 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: is because they think they're helping you with the hopes 123 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: that you and they baby gonna one day be a family. 124 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: So now one of them is pregnant by you again 125 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: once again, just let me stop. I don't know what 126 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: sex class you took in junior high. They have in 127 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: elementary school. It's called a condom. Yeah, there's a section 128 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: in the store you can walk down. They so popular 129 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: now they lock them up. Yeah, yeah, it's called a condom. Now, 130 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 1: I don't know how to tell the other three that 131 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: I'm having a child. Wait a minute, excuse me. You 132 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,480 Speaker 1: just said you have sex with all of them regularly 133 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: and they don't seem to have problem with it. You 134 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,640 Speaker 1: just said that. Now you come back down here and 135 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: say you don't know how to tell them. You tell them, 136 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: tell them what telling them, Tell them that your hair 137 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: sex with them regularly and they're cool with it. Everybody 138 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: know what happened when you have sex regularly without no condom. 139 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: So they already got babies. They're not gonna be surprised. 140 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 1: All of these women are like my best friend. I 141 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: can't imagine my life without them. I guess you can't 142 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: because you ain't got no life without them. You ain't 143 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 1: got no car, you ain't got no house, and your asses, 144 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:36,680 Speaker 1: you ain't got no clothes. I was thinking, so I 145 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: have idea that I won't talk to him about. I 146 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: was thinking it would be great if we could be 147 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: one big, happy family. Okay, that's what you're thinking. That 148 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: that's what you can come up with. I wish you 149 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: would go in now. They all get along and they 150 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: all love me, so we could have one house and 151 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: raise the kids together. Now calling to hit this on head. 152 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: So now you thank you white, right, you think you 153 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: live in you talk and you think you on HBO 154 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: with a show called Sister Why and then and then 155 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 1: and then, and he said, do you think it would work? 156 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: On my crazy? Let me ask you that these black women. 157 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: Do I think this will work? Let me ask you 158 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: that it's these black women the hell you think? Go 159 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: ask your sister with this work. Go ask one of 160 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: your aunts, ask your mama, get your grandmama in the 161 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: room and run this by. Do I think it will work? 162 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: It's these women black? Joe punk Age. Now let's get 163 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: on back up to this letter. I don't know how 164 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: to bring up the idea to him, especially since a 165 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: new baby is on the way. Now, hold on, partner, 166 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: They all get along, see you lying in the matter. 167 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: They all know each other. David, you dog. Now, I 168 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: know people may judge me, but these are good girls 169 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 1: and I treat them all respect. First of all, young man, 170 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: what you really need to do is you need to 171 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:07,320 Speaker 1: go get your dictionary. You need to sit down, and 172 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: I need you to look up to what the definition 173 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 1: of respect is. Respect is treating a person the way 174 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:18,319 Speaker 1: you would want to be treated yourself. Respect is honoring 175 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: a person's wishes, even even if they defy your own wishes. 176 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: That's what respect is. Respect is honoring a person's will 177 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: to have a right to do their choice in life, 178 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: and you accepting that in spite of That's what respect is. 179 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:41,439 Speaker 1: You don't know what it is. It would be easier, man, 180 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 1: for me financially to have everybody together and I would 181 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 1: have to run around spending time with each other. See 182 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: you're tired, ain't you? Yeah? Oh yeah, yeah. See this 183 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 1: is this that you just describe to me, Tommy and Junior. 184 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 1: This is a wear your ass out. You have any 185 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: idea how hard it is to please one woman, man, boy, 186 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 1: Your job the job of raising a happy family, one 187 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 1: woman with folk kids. You got four women with folk 188 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:26,839 Speaker 1: kids and one on the way. Boy, you don't know 189 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: who you wrote this letter too. Then you said at 190 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: the end of the letter, I'm just a father that's 191 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:37,719 Speaker 1: trying to do the right thing. Please, here's what the 192 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,680 Speaker 1: father trying to do the right thing does. He takes 193 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: care of his children. You are now about to be 194 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 1: the father of five. I have probably a little bit 195 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 1: more than you do, man, brother, Just take care of 196 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: them kids. Be a man, pick you a woman, treat 197 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: her like a queen. Because like Tommy said, how would 198 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: you like if they came and told you they had 199 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: full extra dudes? Come on running right he say? 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