WEBVTT - Binge-Free Brain Part 1: Beyond The "White-Knuckle" Trap (Outweigh) 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.560 I won't let my body out be outwait everything that 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:08.000 I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.960 I'm learning love who I am again. I'm strong, I 0:00:13.080 --> 0:00:17.880 feel free, I know every part of me. It's beautiful. 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:24.520 And then we'll always out way if you feel it, 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:27.920 but yours are, She'll some love to the d why 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:31.560 get there? Take you one day? Ana? Did you? And 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:35.000 die out way? 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:35.760 Happy Saturday? 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:40.199 Outweigh Amy here And I'm with Leanne Allington and this 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:42.720 is a new series. It's gonna be five parts and 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:47.480 it is Binge Free Brain, so B F B and 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:51.440 I think that defining binge Leanne is a great place 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.720 to start. And in this first part we're going to 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:59.600 get into mistakes about healing binge eating. And I am 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:04.039 a recover binge eater and I know that my brain 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.520 played a huge role in that, but I never really 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:10.840 knew that until I read Brain over Binge, which was 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:13.520 an impactful book when it came to my healing. So 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.240 I'm very excited about what Leanne has put together for us, 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:18.039 the binge Free Brain. 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:20.320 So let's define binge. 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:22.520 Yeah, I know a lot of women that I talked to. 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.839 The first thing to say is well, it's not necessarily. 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:25.520 An outright binge. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.039 You know, I'm not sitting there and driving through McDonald's 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:30.280 and you know, getting four I've almost haid whoppers, but 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:31.280 that would be big Max. 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:32.080 But you know what I'm saying. 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:35.680 So a lot of times our brain just feels out 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:40.280 of control and it's excessively consuming something or it feels 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:43.360 almost compulsive. So that would be one definition of binge, 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:46.200 even if it's not necessarily in one you know setting 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.760 or the volume that my people think is associated with 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:52.120 a binge. But the other definition of binge that I 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.280 feel like really gives us a lot of clarity around 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:57.640 this is when something controls you more than you feel 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.520 like you control it. And that's where a lot of 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.800 women when it comes to food, and. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:04.120 I know one of the parts of this five part 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:07.000 series we'll be talking specifically about the difference between men 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.840 and women when it comes to this, and men have 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.880 disordered eating as well. They have eating disorders they binge eat, 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.360 but it is interesting where women fall in that, So 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:18.200 we'll get into that in an upcoming week. But what 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:21.519 are some of the mistakes that we're making in this 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:25.280 healing process? And thank you for defining it because you know, 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:28.120 I think that's a great place to start, is knowing, Okay, 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:30.800 if you don't have control over something like even if 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:35.440 you're binging shopping, or you're binging TV or shows over 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:39.160 it and over, why are you just mindlessly going on 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:40.960 to the next And that's how I would feel. It's 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:45.080 almost like this zombie type state where I was mindlessly 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.359 grabbing the next thing from the pantry or next thing. 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.760 I know, yes, I was going through a different drive 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:53.520 through when I just went through a different place and 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:57.200 it was very out of body out I just combined 0:02:57.240 --> 0:03:01.280 three different things, a zombie, out of body, and mindless. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.120 But it feel to find it absolutely and that's why it's. 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:05.960 So I'm glad that you brought up the definition of 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.400 binge because sometimes even just that word we might not 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:10.760 associate with it. But I don't want you to discount yourself. 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:13.040 If you are struggling and you're in that cycle where 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:15.000 you feel like it's almost like an out of body, 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:16.840 out of control experience, this is going to be very 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:19.520 relevant to you. And so there's a few different mistakes 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.720 that people make, but you know, the top three that 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.399 come up are you know, the first one is really 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:26.440 treating it like it's a will power problem. This is 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:29.080 where I tell women like you could be the most strong, 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:33.240 willed and powerful woman that if you experience this specific 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:36.200 firing and wiring in your brain, it doesn't matter, because 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:39.320 willpower will last you for a couple of days, maybe 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:42.240 a couple of weeks if you're really strong. Right, But 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:45.920 willpower is something that we have a finite source of, 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:50.400 and we don't have the ability to just endlessly reproduce willpower, 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.880 and so it eventually runs out right, and so relying 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:57.160 on it for long term change it sets you up 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:00.000 for frustration and really that bounce back, that that update 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:02.840 down in out that binge restrict cycle, because the restriction 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.600 is a lot of times what comes off the back 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:07.600 of the over eating or the mindless eating or the 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:09.000 zombie eating or whatever it. 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:09.520 Is for us. 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.680 But that being said too, like playing food police and 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:15.800 using willpower all the time, it's exhausting. It's no way 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.240 to live, right, And so I don't want people to 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:22.120 think that trying to rely on willpower is the strategy, 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:23.960 because it's no way to live as well. 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.920 Yeah, I experienced that it only got me so far. 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:29.240 To your point, I would be able to go a 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:31.280 certain amount of days. But then I was right back 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:35.960 to my pattern, my behavior, and there was no stopping 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.839 it until I had an understanding of what was happening 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:42.200 inside my brain and I thought, oh, okay, yeah, my 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:43.480 willpower is only going to get. 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:43.800 Me so far. 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.520 Absolutely, And when we think that it's a willpower thing, 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:50.000 but then we aren't able to use willpower against it, 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:51.679 then we think, oh, I'm a failure. 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:52.760 This is just me. 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:53.960 This is how it's always going to be. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:55.560 And it leads into those beliefs that we're going to 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:57.120 cover in a future a week as well. 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:58.760 I'm weak and I this is just how it's going 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:00.440 to be the rest of my life, and this is 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:03.240 just who I am. And I'm the only person that 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.880 is probably suffering in this way or whatever. 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:08.640 And trust me, you're not alone. You're not the only person. 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:10.920 Absolutely, And so that's where we just want to bring 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:13.440 that to awareness of, like, you know, instead of looking 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:16.919 at as a willpower thing, what if the answer the 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:20.360 solution was to actually not fight your sugar cravings or 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:22.080 your food cravings. And I know that might sound a 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.560 little bit counterintuitive, right, but part of it is when 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:26.920 you reprogram your brain and give it what it really 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.520 needs in those moments. And as you're learning, food is 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.839 not what it really needs, it will never fill those voids, 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.120 or maybe you're becoming aware of it. But when you 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:36.440 give your brain what it really needs and fill in 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:40.240 those gaps and be emotionally available to yourself in those moments, 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:44.359 the sugar cravings and the compulsions will disappear eventually on 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:47.480 their own once you feed your brain what it really needs. 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.920 And the hint here is your brain is not really 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:53.279 craving food. It's craving something that's deeper embedded in the 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.440 firing and wiring in your brain, which will also cover 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:56.680 in future episodes. 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.200 Yeah, and also I just feel like this is a 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.359 good point to mention, like these ten minutes on a 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:03.560 Saturday where you're listening to this and this five part 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.920 series isn't a replacement for further care that you may 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:11.479 need or further work. This is to accompany the work 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:15.240 that you're doing and the support that you're receiving from elsewhere, 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:17.240 whatever that may look like. 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.640 So I just want to be clear about that. 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:22.440 And it's also just Leanne and I, I mean, she 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.920 works in this field and she has a stressless leading program, 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:30.200 and it's her life's mission to work with people women, 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:32.960 mostly to try to empower them with the knowledge and 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:37.000 the information to live. I feel like to exhale and 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.400 not have to worry about some of these things. I 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:42.560 am just someone that has experienced it. So at the 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:45.640 end of the day, we're two friends of yours that 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.920 have walked through this ourselves, and we're just trying to 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.720 offer a resource, a tool, stuff to keep in your 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:55.920 back pocket. But again, Land's one doing the work more 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:58.480 on the backside with clients and everything. 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:00.920 So just know, this is just in addition to. 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.080 Right, absolutely, and this is the kind of stuff that 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:05.240 I wish somebody had told me. You know, I went 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.840 to the counselors and the programs, and I went to 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.480 overeaters anonymous, I mean, and you name it. And these 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.600 are the kinds of things that weren't being talked about 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.240 because it was looked at as such a food problem. 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:18.000 And that's actually a really good segue into the next 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:21.080 myth is that when you're demonizing foods in your brain, 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.400 that's another thing that's going to actually make the problem 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.360 harder and worse. And so I think a lot of 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:29.440 times when you're looking at it as a food problem, 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:32.240 we label things as danger foods, or when we're looking 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:34.360 at as a willpower thing, we look at it as 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.280 there's like good, right, wrong, black, white, all or nothing 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:40.360 kind of mentality that we need to use willpower against. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.800 And demonizing that or thinking of things as dangerous is 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:46.480 actually going to further ingrain the problem, and it's actually 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:49.880 going to most likely trigger even more cravings. And so 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.960 trying to commit to giving up certain foods or sugar 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.440 all together, that's a big one. I hear a lot 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:56.679 of women are like, I need to just completely abstain 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:57.560 from sugar. 0:07:57.520 --> 0:07:59.360 Or it's this is all given an example for me, 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:01.520 it was, okay, this is the last day I'm ever 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:03.600 having sugar, and from here on out, I am never 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:07.720 having it again because it is bad and I am 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:10.840 bad today for eating it. But tomorrow I'm going to 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.320 be good and eat the good to foods. And so 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:16.360 I demonize not only myself but also the food I 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:20.760 was consuming, because then when I inevitably would go back 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:23.840 to eating sugar, then I was bad again, and it's 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:25.960 the cycle of good and bad and good and bad. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.120 Yeah, you make such a good point, because we're not 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.680 just demonizing the foods. There's shame in that we are 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:33.760 demonizing ourselves, making ourselves wrong, you know, And that's where 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.240 the shame is. And oftentimes secrecy too, because if we're 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.439 doing something air quotes bad, we think we need to 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:40.160 hide it. And that's why mine was such a source 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.480 of shame as well, Like no one knew that I was, 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.120 you know, binge eating cookies in my closet, so to speak, 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:48.600 my metaphorical closet, because I was trying to show everyone 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.680 that I was ordering salad. So it does become this 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:53.720 kind of personal thing. And so, well, what's the alternative? 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:56.640 And I know it sounds kind of daunting because it's like, leanne, 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:58.680 if I've been thinking about food as good, bad, right, wrong, 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.440 healthy and healthy my entire life, what's the alternative? And 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:03.560 the way I describe it is you've got to teach 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.319 your brain a new language, Like if you've been metaphorically 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:08.160 speaking Spanish, you know, good, bad, right, wrong? 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:08.840 Should shouldn't? 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:11.280 You need to teach it a new way of thinking. 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:14.080 And really, what that looks like is a new decision 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:17.080 making process, right because the good, bad, right, wrong, it 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:20.320 has become a decision making process. Okay, is it good? Yes, 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:23.200 is it bad then it's a no. Or if it's 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.320 bad and it's still a yes, then I'm bad. 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:25.559 Right. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:28.640 So it becomes this decision making process where it's if this, 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:32.400 then that right. So we literally need to redirect and 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:35.480 teach our brain a new way to make decisions, which, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:37.920 in the nutshell of it, it's stop telling our brain 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:40.200 what we think we know and ask it better questions 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:40.600 so that it. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:41.560 Will learn a new program. 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:43.240 It's kind of like a computer, you know, if you 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.480 want to give it a new program to spit out, 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:48.160 you've got to update your software new software, And that's 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:50.720 kind of a metaphor for this. But this time around, 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.400 when you're teaching your brain a new language, make sure 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:55.800 that it's one that gets easier the more you practice it, 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:57.720 and you get better at it, the more you practice it, 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.600 so that you can just practice it less and lessen 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.199 It just be comes your way of thinking versus dieting, 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:05.520 restricting willpower control. It never gets easier, our brain never 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.560 learns it. It never becomes a new way of thinking. 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:10.240 Yeah, I like to use the software thing to I've 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.160 heard a few people reference that recently, and it resonated 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.560 with me for sure, because you wouldn't operate from a 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:21.240 cell phone and whatever system it had from let's go 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:23.880 all the way back to two thousand and six, because 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.880 some people have been living, you know, eighteen twenty twenty 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:30.400 five years with an eating disorder or longer. So let's 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.120 just go back to when cell phones really first came around, 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:35.679 which for me nineteen ninety nine. I know they existed 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:37.560 before that, but it was around that time where everybody 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.200 kind of started to have their own and it was 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:40.520 like a little no Kia or whatever. 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:44.080 Literally the year I was thinking and the no Kio's mind, and. 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:47.080 So act as if we were here in twenty twenty 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:50.640 four operating on what we had available with a cell phone. 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.600 And I think that sometimes we get stuck in that 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:55.800 and we live in that, but you wouldn't ever stay 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:59.760 with that technology. You have advanced and so when we 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:03.240 fault to our old technology and we're just like, well, 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.120 this is just how I'm wired, This is just who 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:08.280 I am. To me when I would behave that way, 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.440 and I can say it now, I was just me 0:11:10.679 --> 0:11:12.920 not wanting to face the music or put in the 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:16.280 work to update my software, to grow to you know, 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:19.840 have new experiences and to live a different type of life. 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.839 And sure I could still be talking on that cell 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.160 phone if I wanted to probably be easier, I would 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:26.640 have to deal with all this other stuff and these 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:28.520 updates and whatnot. But look at what I would be 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:32.440 missing out on and how much faster everything is. And 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.760 when our brains are bogged down by all this other stuff, 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:38.040 we're operating at a slower level. We're stuck in the past, 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.920 and we're not able to be present and live in 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:41.400 the moment. 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.760 And so you know, for me, I don't know. 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.480 It's kind of fun to picture yourself like do I 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.760 want to really walk around with my little Nokia phone? 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:53.360 Which I do want to. On that note, there's some fun, 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.440 There is simplicity in that. So that's a different type 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.800 of analogy of taking it back and maybe not being 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:00.840 dependent on it. But think of our computers and how 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.960 much they've advanced and how much leverage your life is. 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.520 And that's what I want y'all to feel, is like, oh, 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.080 if I upgrade my software, my life is going to 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.280 be more efficient, it's going to be more enjoyable, it's 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:14.240 going to be easier. And so getting rid of some 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:17.959 of these myths, it's a huge or mistakes that we're making, 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:21.720 excuse me, is a huge part in you updating your 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:25.760 software and teaching your brain that new language and getting 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.360 it firing and wiring at the optimal level. 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.720 Absolutely, And like here's the thing. Could I do long 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:33.000 division with a piece of paper and a pen? Absolutely, 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.800 But I'm spending so much brain power doing that when 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:38.360 I could break out my iPhone and do it in 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:41.160 thirty seconds or less then, right, And so it's about leveraging. 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:44.000 I mean, our brain is the most powerful supercomputer there is. 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:47.240 Like talk about technology, it's infinite, right, And so it's 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:50.280 about leverage. It's about really working smarter, not harder, so 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.080 that your brain does the heavy lifting for you so 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:54.120 that you don't have to think about it anymore. Like 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.120 that's what we're talking about, is that freedom that piece 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.200 so you can go use that mental real estate on 0:12:58.280 --> 0:12:59.160 other things. 0:12:59.120 --> 0:12:59.720 Which is huge. 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:01.880 Yeah, because I mean we can probably both have like 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:06.199 a long testimony about how much brain space was taken 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.199 up by food and body image thoughts and how much 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.760 we missed out on because yeah, it took up Everything's true, 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:15.240 and it was so exhausting totally. And so what about 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:17.120 the final and third mistake? 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:19.480 Yeah, It's a perfect segue because you know, what we 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.920 were just talking about is really upgrading your software and 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.520 looking at it like it's a brain solution rather than 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.640 a willpower or food solution. But the other thing, the 0:13:27.720 --> 0:13:29.559 other mistake that I went down was thinking that it 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:33.160 was strictly a psychological problem. And so here's the thing. 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:35.240 The problem, as we were talking about, is deep in 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.679 the brain. It's in our programming, right, It's also in 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:39.520 your nervous system and your beliefs, which we're going to 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.240 talk about in future episodes. And until you address that, 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.440 the other things will keep coming back with a vengeance. 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.240 And so this is also noting that, like, there's so 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.360 many benefits to taking a psychological and a therapy based 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.959 approach to different things, But if all you do is 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.199 look at it like that, you're going to ignore the 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.480 deeper fired and wired patterns in your brain that are 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.679 creating the psychologus, that are creating the physiological that are 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:06.040 creating the emotional components that are happening downstream. We're so 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.280 in it, like, we're so deeply embedded in it that 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.480 we think like this feels physical, this physiological pull that 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:14.359 I have to sugar, or this feels, you know, psychological, 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:17.439 because I feel crazy, But it's the neurological components that 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:20.520 are going higher up in the brain like upstream, that's 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:22.880 what's causing all of this downstream stuff. And if we 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:25.640 look at it just like it's a purely psychological or 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:29.400 even purely physiological thing, we're still going to continue solving 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.680 the wrong problem. And we've got to solve the right 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.960 problem on making sure that that's happening in the brain. 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:35.480 And so what do we do instead? 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:39.640 We instead address the cause and effect root that's causing 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.640 all of this downstream stuff that's embedded in our nervous system, 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:46.120 because even though it feels mental and physical, it's actually 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:46.720 a brain thing. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:48.360 Correct me if I'm wrong. 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:52.200 There could be other components than just the brain thing 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:55.400 in people's lives, depending on what happened in their life 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:59.080 that maybe then food became a tool for them to 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:02.200 get through, like if they're filling the void, like I'm 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:04.520 trying to think of the best way there you go. 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:08.360 That's the word coping mechanism. Food became that. So there 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:11.520 could be other stuff that you need to talk through, 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:15.160 work through. There's talk, therapy, there's different things. But I 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:17.440 see how for me, I can speak to this and 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:19.600 I can see how it's likely the case for a 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:24.880 lot of people. My brain developed a pattern of binging 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:27.000 and then I became dependent on it. But it was 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:30.480 because I was so restrictive in my teenage years when 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.680 my brain was developing, and so then that's where I 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.280 was just constantly living in the animal part of my brain. 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:38.000 So that was my experience. 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:40.280 But again, I guess I'm just cautious because it is 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:42.200 such a sensitive thing, and I know you sure just 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:45.120 too LM that there's there could be many many layers, 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.840 of course, and this is one of them. And depending 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.920 on when and how food came into your life as 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:55.040 this coping mechanism, there could be other things that are 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:58.760 very beneficial for you to work through that are very 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:02.480 personal or that happened specifically to you. That's not just 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:06.400 about the wire wiring is yeah, So yeah, no, this 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:08.120 is no, that's such a perfect point. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:09.840 And I think it's really important what you just said. 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.280 And part of it is like, if there's an emotional 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:15.080 experience that happens and we've learned to use food as 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:18.520 a coping mechanism to fill those voids, until we address 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:20.960 that the residue, so to speak, we are going to 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.440 constantly be having to put fires out, put fires out 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:25.360 without addressing the cause of the fire. So it's not 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:27.960 like just a brain thing. What I'm saying is it 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:31.520 is three dimensional. There is the physiological and psychological components 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.720 to it that have to be addressed. But until you 0:16:33.880 --> 0:16:36.600 address the kind of neurological residue that's gotten left, your 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:38.680 brain will keep doing its thing without you. So it's 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:40.640 like an it's not an either or it's an end. 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:41.040 Yeah. 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:43.560 Well that was what was so fascinating to me years 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:45.400 ago when I read Brain over Binge as she had 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:48.920 done all kinds of therapy as did I, and was 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:52.760 trying to figure out like, oh, well, this that happened 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:54.880 in my life is clearly the reason why I am 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:57.960 doing this, And she kept trying to solve that, and 0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:00.200 it wasn't until she understood the brain that she had 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:03.320 healing exactly. But I will say, everybody's on their own journey, 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:05.600 and it might be that if you get healing in 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.040 a certain area, it clicks and you're like, oh, okay, 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.560 but I think it's important to work on it all. Sure, No, 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:13.640 I'm just probably overlying. No, it's sensitive to making sure 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:15.160 that we cover all those bases. 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:16.280 Yeah, I think it's. 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.520 Great because you're right, it's one of those things where 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.560 it's such a personal experience, you know. And I was 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:23.879 the same way, Like I was psychoanalyzing my problems to 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:26.240 death and until I understood like how things it was 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:28.440 the cause and effect that was causing it all, and 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:30.560 the emotional stuff was a big part of that. It 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:33.240 was like a cocktail almost. I was always going to 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:35.800 be missing the ingredient. I was always going to have 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:39.560 to be kind of mindsetting my way through it until 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:42.640 I was able to address the mindset and the brain 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:44.320 set so that it could my brain could do the 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:46.400 heavy lifting for me without me having to think about 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:46.840 it so much. 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:51.120 Awesome, And we'll be back next Saturday for another chat 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:51.480 about this. 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:52.840 What are we going to be doing next week? 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:54.960 Yeah, we're going to be talking about the binge free 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:58.400 brain beliefs because there's three main beliefs that come alongside 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:00.640 it that you could be doing all Actually a lot 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:02.800