1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: All right now, guys, it is time for the Strawberry Letter. 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 1: And if you need advice on relationship, dating, work, or sex, 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: Harvey f M and click submit Strawberry Letter and we 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air, just 6 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:21,639 Speaker 1: like this one. Tommy, hold on tight. We got it 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Subject. 8 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: I can't call her husband daddy. Dear Stephen Shirley. I 9 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: am a twenty eight year old female and I have 10 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 1: a fifty seven year old male mentor that I work with. 11 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: He has given me great advice and helped me through 12 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:41,520 Speaker 1: some obstacles in my life. This is the first man 13 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: that has ever treated me with respect and did not 14 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: try to sleep with me. He is like a father 15 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: figure to me, and I call myself his play daughter. 16 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: The only problem is his wife. He knew that I 17 00:00:55,520 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 1: should not have. The only problem is his wife know 18 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: that I did not have any plans for Thanksgiving dinner, 19 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: so he invited me to his home. He never talked 20 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: much about his wife, but I figured she would be 21 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: just as sweet as he is. I took a bottle 22 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: of moscato with me as a thank you for the 23 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 1: dinner invitation. His wife greeted me, and she was polite, 24 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: but not very talkative. She was finishing up dinner while 25 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 1: my play dad and I had a glass of wine 26 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: and watched the game in the din. I must have 27 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 1: given off the wrong vibes because his wife seemed to 28 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: get irritated with me quickly. It didn't help that I 29 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: had on a crop top and leggings and they were 30 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: dressed nicely. The next thing I knew, his wife stormed 31 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: into the din and started going off. She started with 32 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 1: what is this playdoor to mess? It went downhill from there. 33 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: My play dad did not defend me. Instead, he fixed 34 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: me a to go plate and asked me to leave. 35 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: I was shocked and hurt, and I can't believe he 36 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: let her go off on us like that. I think 37 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: she owes me an apology. Now he's been distant at 38 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: work and I don't know what to say to him. 39 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: I hope that we can still have a cool relationship. 40 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: Steven Shirley, how should I handle this all? Right? Now? Listen, 41 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: I know you're young, You're only twenty eight years old, 42 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: but really, though you know the letter you wrote made 43 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: you sound pretty innocent and sincere in the fact that 44 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: you feel he's a play dad to you. I'm gonna 45 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: give you the benefit of the of the doubt for that, 46 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 1: but you're going about this in the entire wrong way. Okay, 47 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 1: you don't go to another woman's house dressed like that, 48 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 1: a crop top and leggings. I mean, it was dinner, 49 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: Come on, not just any dinner. This was Thanksgiving dinner. 50 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: People usually dress up, you know, if they invite you out, 51 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: you look presentable. Haven't you heard the saying first impressions 52 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:52,839 Speaker 1: or lasting and all of that. What was his wife 53 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:55,239 Speaker 1: supposed to think? Which you looking like that? I mean, 54 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: as my mother would say, fanning around her husband. And 55 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: then you go to the din with him to watch 56 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: the game, just the two of you. No, no, Well, 57 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: why weren't you in the kitchen with her, you know, 58 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: at least trying to help her out? Why didn't you 59 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,839 Speaker 1: offer even if she said no, you stay with her, 60 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: you know. And what she did is what a lot 61 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,239 Speaker 1: of wives would have done, quite frankly in this situation, 62 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: because it just doesn't look right. You guys in the 63 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: din watching the game while she she owes you nothing 64 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: she doesn't owe you an apology. You're not going to 65 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: get one, so stop looking for that. And you can 66 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: believe he got an earful after you left about who 67 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: are you? What's his play daughter? Mess? I bet you 68 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 1: are playing with her. You're all of that, playing around 69 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: all of that. That's why he's been distant at work. Okay, 70 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: And he will probably say that way if he knows 71 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: what's good for him. So for your sake, I hope 72 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: this was a lesson learned about you know how to 73 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: act around someone's wife. Okay, Steve, Okay, surely everything you 74 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: see correct. As a matter of fact, you told her 75 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: the correct way to behave you gave her some good 76 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 1: advice clothing wise. Where this said, all right, come on now, 77 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:20,840 Speaker 1: let's just go on. Tell the truth. This old ass, 78 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: out of shape woman, jealous insecure you over here with 79 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 1: these leggings. She can't find no leggings that she can't well, 80 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: that looked like the ones you had, She can't find it. 81 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: You know about your ass over here own thanksgiving? He 82 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: like a father figure to you. He fifty seven, she 83 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: probably the same age, A little lot of shape. Ain't 84 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: what she was mad about it? So now he invited 85 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:00,679 Speaker 1: you to his home. He ain't said nothing by his wife. 86 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: Most men don't bring up crazy people. Yeah, we don't go. 87 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: Man show enjoyed talking to you because this helper our 88 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 1: live with. He would never say that, but I figured 89 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: she would be just as sweet as he was. I 90 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: took a lobott of moscatto with me to took a 91 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: botta moscatto with me as a thank you for the 92 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: dinner invitation. Now let me explain something to hood. People 93 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: ain't really up on moscatto. You had to take something else, 94 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: Morgan David Man of chev Andy Greens, Harvey's Bristol Creek. Yeah, 95 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: something like that. Yeah, some Harvey Bristol cream cold up. Yeah, 96 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: it takes some spanyard. Oh I heard that span Yard. 97 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: You had to take something that's really somewhere. She would 98 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: go O wine in a box? Right, you know you 99 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,599 Speaker 1: over there with your little up andy cute ass telling 100 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: about some bottle muscato. Don't nobody in here drake mosquito? Stupid? 101 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: We never had no mosquito before. What she gotta be that? 102 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: Where you get this from? Get her gonna bring a 103 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: bottle mosquito with the tight as pants on you can't 104 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: get a mosquito between them parts and your ass either. 105 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, A right, we'll come back from part two. 106 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: I think at twenty three after the hour. The subject 107 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: is I can't call her husband daddy right after this. 108 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: You're listening, all right? Come on, Steve, let's recap today's 109 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:02,559 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. Subject you can't attitude. This letter is about 110 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: nasty attitude from a certain woman. And I'm just trying 111 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: to draw attention to what I think this attitude. Young 112 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: girl still got it going on stuff, still sitting up 113 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: old and later at the house. Everything to fail. So 114 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: don't get mad at me because I'm in here giving 115 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 1: you another angle. This is an angle of a strawberry 116 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: letter that I'm doing. My mama was a full figured woman, 117 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 1: so that ain't what this is about. I love my 118 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: mama before I loved anybody. This is about this evil 119 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: health for right Hill che is either because this lady 120 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: thought that he was gonna be sweet just like her 121 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 1: play daddy chief in the be your play mama. Though 122 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: sitting up here, the only problem his wife had invited 123 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 1: y'all the Thanksgiving dinner. He did because he never talked 124 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: about his wife. Because he's scared of them. He lived fifth. 125 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: Why would you bring that up? Why is he afraid 126 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: of his wife's steed? Called something wrong with him. She's 127 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: been sliding off as the years go back. She's only 128 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: fifty seven. Seed. You've seen some fifty seven year olds 129 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 1: and look eighty eight. You've seen a lot of fifty 130 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: seven year olds. Look seventy. I think that's the case. 131 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 1: I took a bottle of muscato over there. That's way 132 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 1: two bushehood people here. She come in here with this 133 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: bottle of musquitoscott muscato. Ain't nobody bought you no damn 134 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: bottle of mosquito. Let's she thinking of all the wine 135 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: she could have had, any green ball of coat, could 136 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 1: have bought a foty of Mickey's all up agit you 137 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: can set up here, and bought this cheap musquito. His 138 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 1: wife green to meet. She was polite, but not very talking. 139 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:07,680 Speaker 1: She was finishing up dinner while my play Dann and 140 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 1: I had a glass of wine and watched the game. 141 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: And it did you know, we don't watch the game 142 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: to after we eat And you got a glass of 143 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:20,319 Speaker 1: wine and that watching the game. She an't that finishing 144 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: up dinner. She was sitting there at the table eating 145 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 1: another plate. This is my husband, herman know I had 146 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: three servings, three servings. He didn't took your skin. Ass 147 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:41,599 Speaker 1: in there watching the damn game. Leggings and leggings and 148 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 1: a crop talk. Tell me where her belly was out. 149 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: She's sitting up in there. It got a housecoat on 150 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: from Walmart Thanksgiving dinner. Yeah, that you just slide over 151 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: your head. It's a one piece. Sometimes it's a tent. 152 00:09:57,720 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: Now you're not sitting up with your play dad had 153 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,199 Speaker 1: a glass of wine watching the game in the den, 154 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: just the two of them. But they ended den. They 155 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: weren't in the bedroom. They ended damn den. Then she 156 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: said I must have given off the wrong vibe them 157 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 1: tight as pass you damn right, because she's sitting over 158 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: there with a pair of dockers on looking jet light leggas. 159 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: I she said they were dressed nicely. She said, I 160 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: had on a crop topping leggings and they were dressed nicely. Okay, right, 161 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: Because his wife seemed to get irritated with me quickly. 162 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:40,559 Speaker 1: It didn't help that I had on a crop top 163 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: and some legga. They were dressed nicely. Next thing I know, 164 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: she stormed to the den and going off. She stayed 165 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: with what is this play daughter? Mess? Yes, then she 166 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: didn't say, and it went down. What is this played daughter? 167 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: Sugar honey, I sugar horn the ice tea. You ain't 168 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 1: no damn play daughter sitting up in there with your 169 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: own ass playing. It went down here from there, your 170 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 1: play dad did not defend me. He can't can't take 171 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: her for you in her house Tilda and came up 172 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 1: and hit raising hell, what's her name? Tilda? Tilda Tilling 173 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: came in here damn? Then then instead he fixed me 174 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: to go play and asked me to leave right now. 175 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: I told you the food with finnih he didn't got 176 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 1: some fall and made her playing baby baby, you're gonna 177 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: to go go now. I was shocked and hurt because 178 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 1: she invited her to dinner. Man, everybody take it to 179 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: go plate something to remember the date by. I was 180 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:57,680 Speaker 1: shocked and hurt and can't believe he let her go 181 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 1: off on on on us like that. Wait a minute, no, no, 182 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: it was you. He can't stop at What you cannot 183 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: do is defend another woman to your wife. Thank you? 184 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: I think she owes me an apology, and where you 185 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: think she's gonna give you this apology because you're bet 186 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: not take your adds back over there, because all this 187 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: was was a warning shot. You just sat that long enough, 188 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: you'd been you'd have been on the news, you'd have 189 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: been on the ten o'clock news that night. This is 190 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: Houston letter right here. Now. He'd been distant at work, 191 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: told you he was scared of him. And I don't 192 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: know what to say to him. You can't say nothing 193 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:45,679 Speaker 1: to him. I hope we can still have a cool relationship. 194 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 1: That's over, new Stephen Sherley, how should I handle this 195 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: handling like it's over? Never tell you better not take 196 00:12:53,400 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: your add back over there. Top and leggings. For sure. 197 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 1: You go over there in the choir room to get 198 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: that same ass and some doctors immediately right now, don't 199 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: go back over the time about she owe you an apology. 200 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: She ain't an apologize. I've very rarely ever seen old 201 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 1: black people apologize in their house. Now my mama got mad, 202 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: and my daddy one time said, slick, tell tell her 203 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 1: you sick. I ain't telling the sugar hunt. Sugar hunting. 204 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: You want to hear apology? You can't gonna say two damns, 205 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 1: but I ain't finlisha Look, we gotta get out of here. Steve. 206 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: Please only how you asked me. No sugar hunting iced 207 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:43,839 Speaker 1: tea like Please email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts 208 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 1: on today sugar hunting iced t If you won't, that's 209 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM. You're listening show.