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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry letta subject your online

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Speaker 1: although this may not be your area of expertise. I

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Speaker 1: of the online group, my partner and I have mutual

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Speaker 1: Sometimes my partner's comments can look a bit flirtatious too.

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Speaker 1: just overreacting, and it's innocent. Our relationship is good, but

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Speaker 1: in this age of online dating and quick hookups, this

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Speaker 1: but I feel like there is too much going on nowadays,

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Speaker 1: But our relationship was going great until this other person

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Speaker 1: and there is no way that I'm going to sit

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Speaker 1: Called I'm nix. Yeah you are, but I got to

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Speaker 1: taking your feeling seriously. And not only that, your so

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Speaker 1: You're taking it way more seriously than your partner is Steve. Yes,

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Speaker 1: of expertise. Now. I kept waiting on Shirley to say

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Speaker 1: And Shirley's absolutely right. It's sounds as though these are

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Speaker 1: It's a relationship, Steve. Okay, but you know I have

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Speaker 1: to be honest because I don't I don't know the parameters.

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Speaker 1: I ain't got much time to give it. Today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: And Steve, we want to hear part two of your response,

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Speaker 1: the subject your online friend is overstepping boundaries. Well, this

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Speaker 1: in them them have um Steve Harvey what spit it out? Uh?

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Speaker 1: so you do just went So where'd you do this? Hell?

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Speaker 1: you ain't you keep on him, keep on him. That's

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Speaker 1: you that you're just overreacting, that this is innocent. Now,

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Speaker 1: getting on my last nerve. Then you come back and

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Speaker 1: you say, I do trust my mate. Okay, there, what's

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Speaker 1: the letter? Right? You're confusing me, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: lot of drama. Drama to see that ain't win? All right,

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Speaker 1: let me just keep going. But our relationship was going

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Speaker 1: just in your face. Wood it your partner and and

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Speaker 1: It did function, but there's no way I'm gonna sit

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Speaker 1: let's get with it. It's the monkey show. The monkeys

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Speaker 1: You know what you gotta do? Dog? When you get

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Speaker 1: who whoop? It not. What you're gonna do is not

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Speaker 1: on my girl. Y'all say this just relationship, right? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a fight. Now, you pressing up on mine, I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't ask you not to, and you keep on. So

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Speaker 1: I guess you are. I'm just imagining you don't have

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Speaker 1: I didn't like it, and I want to stop. You're

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Speaker 1: I'm coming in with flats. I got some doche slippers.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just turn this corner and just it is

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Speaker 1: what it is, all right, Steve, we gotta get out

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Speaker 1: So you at the functions, Steve right there. So you're

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Speaker 1: at the functions, You're listening to the Day Harvey Morning Show,