WEBVTT - The Secret to My Success

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Secret of My Success, an inspiring journey

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<v Speaker 1>into the minds and experiences of those who've made it.

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<v Speaker 1>This is where curiosity meets wisdom. Brought to you by

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<v Speaker 1>the Hartford Small Business Insurance, we dive deep with creative

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<v Speaker 1>business owners, unlocking the stories behind their road to success.

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<v Speaker 1>It's about sharing, learning, and inspiring. So whether you're dreaming

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<v Speaker 1>of launching your own venture or seeking a spark to

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<v Speaker 1>push you further, check out these candid conversations, insights, and

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<v Speaker 1>strategies that transformed passion into profit, with real life tales

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<v Speaker 1>from the owners themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, everyone, Welcome back. How's your jones on third It's

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<v Speaker 2>my favorite place, one of the places that I always

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<v Speaker 2>have to hit when I come back to LA. They're cookies,

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<v Speaker 2>the best cookies in the entire world. So up next,

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<v Speaker 2>we have a guess from the hottest zip code in

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<v Speaker 2>all of America from the nine two one MG podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>one of the creative forces behind the highly successful QBC

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<v Speaker 2>home decore line of products called.

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<v Speaker 3>The BFF Collection. Everybody welcome Jenny Garth.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hi, Ray, Oh my gosh, this is so fun.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm here.

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<v Speaker 5>Wait a second, you're not Tori spelling?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Bad news is Tory couldn't make it, so wells is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna fill in.

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<v Speaker 3>We're so sorry, but.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm here, so let's have some fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we are so happy. I'm gonna say we we wells.

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<v Speaker 1>And I were so happy to be here with everybody

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<v Speaker 1>and talking about small businesses and all the innovative ways

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<v Speaker 1>that in creative ways that you guys have ventured into

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<v Speaker 1>small businesses. And I love to hear these stories and

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<v Speaker 1>so excited to you know, share some of my journey.

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<v Speaker 3>Are this is weird?

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<v Speaker 5>Our journey?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you Tory spelling?

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<v Speaker 5>And answer any questions that you have?

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<v Speaker 3>So just happy to be here.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, listen, I'm sad that Toy is not here, but

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<v Speaker 6>I'm so freaking excited because I grew up in the nineties.

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<v Speaker 3>And wait, what year were you born?

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<v Speaker 6>Nineteen eighty four?

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<v Speaker 4>I watched I didn't see that.

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<v Speaker 6>I just look good, all right, Like you don't understand

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<v Speaker 6>like I grew up on Nano two and O on

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<v Speaker 6>Melrose Place, say by the bell Fresh Prince, And so

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<v Speaker 6>I'm so excited, and I know I want to talk

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<v Speaker 6>about like your podcast and like your side projects, but

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<v Speaker 6>I have to ask some questions about Nana two and

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<v Speaker 6>oh is that okay?

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<v Speaker 4>Hi?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait?

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<v Speaker 7>Hello?

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<v Speaker 6>Well there's people up there?

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<v Speaker 4>Hello?

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<v Speaker 5>How is it up there?

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<v Speaker 4>You like?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Good?

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<v Speaker 4>You happy? Okay?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay. When did you start working on the show?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 6>How old were you when you started doing nine O

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<v Speaker 6>two and nine?

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<v Speaker 5>I think I was seventeen.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I had my driver's license, so I was

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<v Speaker 1>either sixteen or seventeen.

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<v Speaker 6>But that's a weird thing. So you're in high school

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<v Speaker 6>playing a high schooler.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not in high school. I left high school

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<v Speaker 1>to pursue a dream of acting, which I didn't even have.

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<v Speaker 1>I just stumbled into it. And then working and having

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<v Speaker 1>school at the same time wasn't as easy as it

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<v Speaker 1>needed to be. So I got my ged and started

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<v Speaker 1>working adult hours and paying adult bills real early.

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<v Speaker 6>So did you ever go to prom or like Sadie

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<v Speaker 6>Howkins dances? Like did you do like normal high school stuff?

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<v Speaker 4>I did on TV?

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<v Speaker 6>That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But I feel like I really experienced all that

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to experience from those interactions, and.

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<v Speaker 5>They were you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean so often when you go to high school,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't stay in touch with the people that you

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<v Speaker 1>were in school with. But I have been given the

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<v Speaker 1>great opportunity to stay in touch with all the people

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<v Speaker 1>that I went to high school with and to college with.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel, you know, really blessed by that when.

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<v Speaker 6>You look back on that time, What is like your

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<v Speaker 6>fondest memory of doing that show?

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<v Speaker 5>Gosh, or do you like?

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<v Speaker 6>So? My wife is was on Modern Family and we'll

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<v Speaker 6>be watching the show and she'll go, I have no

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<v Speaker 6>recollection of doing this, and I wonder if you have

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<v Speaker 6>that too.

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<v Speaker 1>Kinda yeah, because there was so much There's always so

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<v Speaker 1>much going on, and you meet so many people, there's

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<v Speaker 1>so much in your head at all times that it's

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<v Speaker 1>really hard to remember everything, all the little things. But

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<v Speaker 1>that is the coolest part of n Jump right into

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<v Speaker 1>the nine O two one OG real quick. Yeah, Tory

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<v Speaker 1>and I do a podcast called nine O two on OMG.

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<v Speaker 1>That's on iHeart, and we are watching the show back

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<v Speaker 1>from the very beginning, the first episode, all the way

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<v Speaker 1>through what will be the ten seasons of the show.

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<v Speaker 1>And yes, that's right, my heart. You will be picking it.

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<v Speaker 6>Up on right now.

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<v Speaker 3>We're on five okay, wow.

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<v Speaker 1>But we we're watching it for the first time and

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's enlightening. It's because I don't remember. I never

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<v Speaker 1>watched it. I was always busy making it. We had

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<v Speaker 1>these crazy, insane hours that we worked, and there was

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<v Speaker 1>never time to sit down in front of the TV.

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<v Speaker 1>Not to mention, I had a baby at twenty three,

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<v Speaker 1>so I was had a lot of balls in there.

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<v Speaker 1>But now going back and watching the show, it has

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<v Speaker 1>given me just a new respect, a new.

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<v Speaker 5>Love for it.

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<v Speaker 1>I swear to you, I'm a fan of the show now,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm watching it from fan eyes, and I get it,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I get why people love the show so much,

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<v Speaker 1>and I get why it was so important to them,

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<v Speaker 1>because when you watch it, we watch it week by week,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's how you used to watch television, if you guys, remember,

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<v Speaker 1>you had to be in front of the TV.

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<v Speaker 5>Of whatever night it was, at whatever time it was.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and now through we don't have to do that anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>But that makes it more exciting and somehow more meaningful.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm just really loving watching it and getting to

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<v Speaker 1>know that girl that played Kelly Taylor and getting to

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<v Speaker 1>look at her me through such a different lens and

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<v Speaker 1>have a deeper understanding and appreciation for even myself and

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<v Speaker 1>all those experiences that I got to have.

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<v Speaker 6>I wonder if there was a character arc while you

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<v Speaker 6>were doing it that you didn't love, But now watching back,

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<v Speaker 6>you're grateful for.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 1>For years, I thought that I was a bad person

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<v Speaker 1>via Kelly because I stole Brenda's boyfriend Dylan. But I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>It didn't happen that way. They were broken up and

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<v Speaker 1>she was away, they were on a break. So I've

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<v Speaker 1>given my forgiven myself slash Kelly for that.

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<v Speaker 6>Now, are there storylines that never happened that you wish had?

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<v Speaker 3>Looking back?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that there is no storyline that we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>do in those ten years. Specifically, my character was somehow

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<v Speaker 1>the butt of all the drama. She was you know,

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<v Speaker 1>shot in the parking lot, she was in a cult,

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<v Speaker 1>she had a lesbian stalker, almost raped, burned in a fire.

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<v Speaker 3>There's so many and look at you today.

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<v Speaker 1>I made it proof that you can do any you

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<v Speaker 1>can get through anything.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, So you guys are watching the show back in

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<v Speaker 6>real time, the listeners are watching it with you. I imagine

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<v Speaker 6>you're having guests from the show come on as well

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<v Speaker 6>and have their unique taken experience from it. What's that like?

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<v Speaker 6>Kind of like re reconnecting with some of these these

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<v Speaker 6>friends that you had back then.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we've been mostly focusing on our supporting cast members

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<v Speaker 1>because the show really launched so many young actors' careers

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<v Speaker 1>back in the nineties, and so we're going back and

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<v Speaker 1>touching base with a lot of the people that were

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<v Speaker 1>the supporting cast members. And that's really fun because they

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<v Speaker 1>came into that experience, like you know, with just flabbergasted

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<v Speaker 1>by getting to be on the show, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>such a hit and we were in it, so it

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<v Speaker 1>didn't feel that way to us. But now being able

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<v Speaker 1>to hear their stories of their experiences of being on

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<v Speaker 1>the show, it's it's pretty cool. And getting to know

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<v Speaker 1>them now as adults, you know. I mean, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>a different ballgame.

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<v Speaker 6>Who is the least like their character from the show

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<v Speaker 6>in real like their character?

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<v Speaker 5>You know what.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, in the very beginning of the show, if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are fans of the show, you know that the

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<v Speaker 1>show started out very stereotypical. The characters were kind of

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<v Speaker 1>one dimensional, and everybody started to purpose. My character, in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>was the bitch from Beverly Hills with a nose job

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<v Speaker 1>in the BMW, and that's how they.

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<v Speaker 5>Saw this character.

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<v Speaker 1>But as the writers got to know each of us

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<v Speaker 1>actors individually and we spent a lot of time together,

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<v Speaker 1>they started to do something that was pretty ingenious, which

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<v Speaker 1>was bringing in so much of who we were personally

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<v Speaker 1>as humans into those characters and sort of threading those

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<v Speaker 1>fibers into the characters. And I think in doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>the reason that I feel it was so genius was

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<v Speaker 1>because it made these characters so relatable to everybody out

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<v Speaker 1>there watching it, whether they were from Beverly Hills or

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<v Speaker 1>whether they were from you know, the Ukraine or wherever.

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<v Speaker 5>There was fans everywhere and so.

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<v Speaker 1>And also this was the first time that people out

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<v Speaker 1>there had the chance to see what living in Beverly

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<v Speaker 1>Hills was like. And we didn't have the Internet. Then

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<v Speaker 1>there was no let me google it. You know, they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't they didn't know what it looked like. So we

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<v Speaker 1>got to take them into this exclusive, you know, glitzy,

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<v Speaker 1>glamorous world for the very first time, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>just it just sucked you in.

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<v Speaker 3>Listen.

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<v Speaker 6>I could talk to you about this show like all

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<v Speaker 6>night long, but I know that there are other speakers,

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<v Speaker 6>so I think that this whole night is about talking

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<v Speaker 6>about you. Know, side hustles and small businesses, and you've

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<v Speaker 6>you've taken this this career that started on this wildly

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<v Speaker 6>successful show that was a cult phenomenon, and then you've

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<v Speaker 6>been able to kind of like build this kind of

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<v Speaker 6>crazy brand from it. So I wanted to talk about

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<v Speaker 6>the BFF Collection if we could.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean it's interesting because we I didn't ever think,

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<v Speaker 1>as a young actress, or even a middle aged actress,

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<v Speaker 1>that I could build my own brand and do something else.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I think it hasn't. It wasn't until honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I was in my late forties, early fifties, I'm fifty

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<v Speaker 1>one now that my eyes kind of pivoted and my

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<v Speaker 1>reality sort of shifted and I saw all the things

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<v Speaker 1>that were that.

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<v Speaker 3>I could do other than acting.

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<v Speaker 1>And thank god, now with the strikes and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>all the things that have happened, it's getting work is

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<v Speaker 1>not as easy as it used to be as an actor.

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<v Speaker 1>So pivoting has been really good for me. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think I didn't never think at fifty one that I

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<v Speaker 1>would be having my own small business with my best friend,

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<v Speaker 1>starting up my own a separate small business that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing right now, creating a brand of my very own,

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<v Speaker 1>and just to know that, you know, it's never too

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<v Speaker 1>late to sort of do what you always wanted to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm an idea person. I have these embarrassing whiteboards.

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<v Speaker 5>Up on my wall in my office.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like people to see them because they're embarrassing

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<v Speaker 1>because it's all my like my genius ideas like listed out,

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<v Speaker 1>and some of them aren't so genius.

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<v Speaker 5>But I stare at them all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've spent many years thinking what am I, how

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<v Speaker 1>am I going to what am I?

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<v Speaker 3>How am I going to make this happen?

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<v Speaker 1>Or I can't do this, or letting all those voices

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<v Speaker 1>inside my head keep me from just trying, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was basically just fear, and was something about

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<v Speaker 1>turning fifty to fifty one that I just decided that

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't going to be afraid anymore because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have much time left and I just wanted.

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<v Speaker 5>To go for it, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So that brought Tory and I to this sort of

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<v Speaker 1>the same place of loving working together and creating projects

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<v Speaker 1>that we could do together, and creating a brand that

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<v Speaker 1>we felt would speak to a lot of our fan base,

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<v Speaker 1>which is women, our age, some younger, some older, and

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<v Speaker 1>we partnered with QVC and we brought to life this

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<v Speaker 1>cute well brand called the BFF Collection and we've just

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<v Speaker 1>had such a great time creating these products. There are

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<v Speaker 1>some of our products up here.

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<v Speaker 6>I know everything up here except the chairs, right yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard is our number one fan as customer ever.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have a lot of our products up here

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<v Speaker 1>because we're very proud of them. And it's been doing

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<v Speaker 1>really well on QBC and the partnership's going really well.

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<v Speaker 1>We had three drops in twenty twenty three. January was

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<v Speaker 1>our debut. We came out with our home decore line,

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<v Speaker 1>which was the Ottomans, the bar cart, the Hurricanes, the trunk,

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<v Speaker 1>all kinds of things like that. Then in July we

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<v Speaker 1>did a big event for QBC their Christmas in July.

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<v Speaker 5>They call it CIJ.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very popular with the QVC ladies and they buy

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<v Speaker 1>all their Christmas stuff. That sold out on air while

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<v Speaker 1>we were on air, which was great, so exhilarating and

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<v Speaker 1>exciting to be having that happen. And then we had

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<v Speaker 1>our last drop in September, which was our Culinary Collection

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<v Speaker 1>and those are some of the pieces over there. The

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<v Speaker 1>cakestand those beautiful chargers you see up there, the bread basket,

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<v Speaker 1>the picture of the pan, it's all here for you

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<v Speaker 1>guys to look at.

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<v Speaker 3>We're kind of proud of it.

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<v Speaker 6>So what up there is yours? And what up there

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<v Speaker 6>is tories? Or is it like an amalgamation of both

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<v Speaker 6>your aesthetics?

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<v Speaker 1>It is that it is a combo of everything. So

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<v Speaker 1>we'll bring an idea to the table, and that's that's what.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a collaborator, like I love when other people bring

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<v Speaker 1>me ideas on top of my ideas, ideas that are

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<v Speaker 1>going to make my idea better.

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<v Speaker 5>And so that's how Torri and I kind of work.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll say, hey, let's do a bread bull and then

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<v Speaker 1>we'll both bring our inspiration to the table and just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of meet in the middle.

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<v Speaker 5>And usually without fail.

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<v Speaker 1>Our our instincts are the same direction. We are kind

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<v Speaker 1>of picking the same things and and it's worked out

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<v Speaker 1>really well. We haven't had any big fights about like.

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<v Speaker 6>Well I want it to be blue and you know,

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<v Speaker 6>so how.

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<v Speaker 7>You no no drama, no drama.

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<v Speaker 6>Obviously you can get this stuff on QBC, but if

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<v Speaker 6>people want to go find out more about it, is

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<v Speaker 6>there a website?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, it's the BFF collection dot com. Easy enough.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm supposed to. I'm playing the part of Tory

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<v Speaker 6>spelling today. They took the books away. I have a

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<v Speaker 6>bunch of books out. That's I put out a lot

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<v Speaker 6>of books. You did, They're great.

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<v Speaker 5>You've written how many books?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it seven or eight? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>There's a children's book. I know that, really.

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<v Speaker 3>I googled it.

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<v Speaker 6>There you might be, so there's that. But you also

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<v Speaker 6>are doing like like obviously i'm writing books seven or eight,

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<v Speaker 6>one's a children's book, But you're also doing stuff on

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<v Speaker 6>your own as well. And I want to talk about

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<v Speaker 6>your clothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Line, right, Yeah, that's I think by doing the BFF Collection,

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<v Speaker 1>it sort of gave me that courage and confidence to

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<v Speaker 1>branch out on my own.

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<v Speaker 5>And I have to tell you that the collection.

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<v Speaker 1>The brand that I'm starting is called Me by Jenny Garth,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is it spawned from something a long time ago,

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<v Speaker 1>which my character actually said a lot that was written

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<v Speaker 1>by the late Jessica Klein, who was one of my favorite.

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<v Speaker 5>Writers on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>She wrote a very profound line and I didn't really

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<v Speaker 1>understand the depth of it when I was whatever in

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<v Speaker 1>my early twenties. It was the moment when Kelly was

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<v Speaker 1>deciding between Brandon and Dylan. They came up to her

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<v Speaker 1>in the peach Pit parking lot and made her decide,

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<v Speaker 1>and in that moment she said, I choose me. And

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<v Speaker 1>that has resonated me through the years and impacted me

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<v Speaker 1>on such a deeper level. And now that I'm older

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<v Speaker 1>and wiser and I have young adult women that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>guiding in this life, I say that to them a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>Choose you.

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<v Speaker 1>Put you first, because when you take care of yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>you are more available to everybody in your life. And

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<v Speaker 1>we all know that old saying on the airplane when

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<v Speaker 1>the oxygen drops, you put on yourself first and then

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<v Speaker 1>you take care of the person next to you. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's kind of the backbone of my brand, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just encouraging women, young girls, anyone really to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>themselves and choose to listen to themselves first instead of

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<v Speaker 1>other people. So my brand is Me by Jenny Garth,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've started just very preliminarily just doing some merch

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<v Speaker 1>with the slogan.

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<v Speaker 5>On it that I Choose Me.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of stuff like this, just reminding me and

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<v Speaker 1>other people that this is an option you can choose

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<v Speaker 1>you it's not selfish, and I feel really good about it.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something that's percolated in my mind a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>and people always said. I remember I got my horoscope

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<v Speaker 1>reread once and they said, you're supposed to use whatever

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<v Speaker 1>platform it is, you know those things they say, if

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<v Speaker 1>you're in aries, you're more apt to be an entertainer

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<v Speaker 1>or someone in the spotlight or a public figure or whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what they said to me. I was like, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>what do I do with that?

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<v Speaker 5>And they also said you're supposed to help other.

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<v Speaker 1>People in doing that, And I always thought, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>an actress.

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<v Speaker 5>How am I helping people?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, I get it that they relate to the show,

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<v Speaker 1>they relate to the characters that I've played, and that

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<v Speaker 1>moves them and touches them and makes us, you know, closer,

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<v Speaker 1>But I didn't really understand what I was doing.

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<v Speaker 5>And now I really do feel like this is.

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<v Speaker 1>A calling for me to teach these lessons to women

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<v Speaker 1>that need to hear them. This is a message that

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<v Speaker 1>women need to hear, that everybody needs to hear. So

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<v Speaker 1>this is the merch part, is just the first branch

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<v Speaker 1>of the Me by Jennigarth line and coming out with

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<v Speaker 1>a clothing line for QBC as well, which is also

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<v Speaker 1>very exciting. It'll be out next year and I just

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where it's going to go, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really excited about the options and the doors that are opening.

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<v Speaker 1>And then they wouldn't have opened if I hadn't looked

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<v Speaker 1>that fear right in the face and said no more

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<v Speaker 1>with you. I don't trust you anymore. You're a liar,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to.

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<v Speaker 5>Do what I want to do.

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<v Speaker 6>I love that I choose me.

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<v Speaker 3>That's good. That's great.

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<v Speaker 6>Ashley and John are out in the audience. Do you

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<v Speaker 6>guys have any questions for Jenny?

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<v Speaker 2>I know John does right now, and then if you

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<v Speaker 2>guys do, raise your hands and we'll get to you

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<v Speaker 2>right after him.

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<v Speaker 3>Awesome.

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<v Speaker 5>Goodbye, Tory.

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<v Speaker 3>Children, Go write a book right quick.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, So Jenny talking about choosing you a little bit.

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<v Speaker 8>One of the questions we get a lot on our

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<v Speaker 8>podcast is about small business owners kind of being in

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<v Speaker 8>their head and needing to take time. How do you

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<v Speaker 8>choose you or what are some things that you do

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<v Speaker 8>to kind of in your very busy schedule to make

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<v Speaker 8>sure you're taking care of yourself and that your focus

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<v Speaker 8>is a priority.

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<v Speaker 1>I am a calendar girl. I write it all on

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<v Speaker 1>my calendar. It's color coded. Everybody has a color on

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<v Speaker 1>my phone, so I know who's where and when and what,

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<v Speaker 1>all the addresses and everything.

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<v Speaker 5>So I live by my.

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<v Speaker 1>Calendar, and I schedule in time for myself, and those

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<v Speaker 1>blocks of an hour a day, three days a week

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever it is, those are the times when which

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<v Speaker 1>I've used that time recently to focus on my physical

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<v Speaker 1>health as well as my mental health. And the impact

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<v Speaker 1>that just setting aside that time for myself has had

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<v Speaker 1>on my well being general well being has been incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just feel like I'm in such a different

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<v Speaker 1>place because I've decided to choose myself sometimes.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm still a mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I still have, you know, three my oldest is twenty six,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty and seventeen, and they need me all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>like girls always need their moms. And it's a constant

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<v Speaker 1>like skype or zoom or phone call or texting at

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<v Speaker 1>all times with the girls. But I still have carved

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<v Speaker 1>out that time for myself. And the great thing is

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<v Speaker 1>once you carve out that time for yourself, and you

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<v Speaker 1>seek set it taking that time for yourself and you

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<v Speaker 1>do something for yourself.

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<v Speaker 5>The rest of your day is just like, whoo, I

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<v Speaker 5>got that check.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, there you go.

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<v Speaker 8>And then one other question and more on the note

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<v Speaker 8>of having a partner. So you and Tori are best friends,

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<v Speaker 8>you known each other a long time. How do you

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<v Speaker 8>find balancing being friends and being business partners? And what

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<v Speaker 8>advice might you have for people who are trying to

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<v Speaker 8>start something with someone that they're really close to in

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<v Speaker 8>a different capacity in their life.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a really good question because sometimes you.

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<v Speaker 2>Hear don't start businesses with your friends because it gets

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<v Speaker 2>too muddy.

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<v Speaker 3>I think with your family.

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<v Speaker 5>I haven't done that, but it can be tricky waters

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<v Speaker 5>to navigate.

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<v Speaker 1>That has to be an underlying, you know, unspoken trusts there.

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<v Speaker 1>Toy and I always have each other's backs when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to speaking in public or being you know, best

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<v Speaker 1>friends and protecting one another. And I've always felt that

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<v Speaker 1>with her, and I know she feels that as well.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think, you know, putting us aside.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me, I just started my new brand

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<v Speaker 1>with a woman named Lisa Klein, and in our first meeting,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, look, I am completely open. I'm very straightforward,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just want you to know never lie to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I will never lie to you, and never lie to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me, even if you think it's gonna upset me,

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<v Speaker 1>because transparency is so important and honesty. If you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have that, then you just don't have a solid footing

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<v Speaker 1>for a business, and you need that, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a question down here, Hello, what's your question

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<v Speaker 2>for Jenny?

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<v Speaker 3>So my question was when is the next QBC drop?

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<v Speaker 5>And what is it going to be?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it going to be home?

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<v Speaker 4>Is it going to be.

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<v Speaker 3>Food?

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<v Speaker 5>What's it going to be Hi?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, the next I don't think we have

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<v Speaker 1>another official drop in twenty twenty three, but we will.

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<v Speaker 1>We're already developing Christmas in July for twenty twenty four

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<v Speaker 1>and it's so beautiful. I cannot take it. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>are don't love it? So many sparkles involved. And other

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<v Speaker 1>than that, I've just been working on me by Jenny

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<v Speaker 1>Garth for QBC, developing the clothing, which is just a

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<v Speaker 1>whole new world for me, and it's been really fascinating

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<v Speaker 1>and working with all the in house design team at QBC.

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<v Speaker 5>They're so great there and so to answer your question.

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<v Speaker 5>I believe it might be.

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<v Speaker 1>January twenty twenty four for BFF and then July for JG. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing my website right now for me by Jenny

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<v Speaker 1>Garth and learning so much about all the little steps

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<v Speaker 1>because when we started BFF, I had Tory and we

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<v Speaker 1>had each other, and we pushed a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>minutia work to our teams and everybody was helping us

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<v Speaker 1>and with my brain, and I'm just like, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be I'm the boss, and I want to be

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<v Speaker 1>the boss at every turn. And I not that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't need help, because I absolutely do, and I seek

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<v Speaker 1>the right people to help me. But I'm developing the website.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning about, you know, all the things that you

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<v Speaker 1>have to do and all the legalities and the trademarks,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, there's so much that goes into it

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<v Speaker 1>that you really don't think about until you're in it.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you just write a list and you check

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<v Speaker 1>it off, and you check it off and you check

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<v Speaker 1>it off and you get it all done.

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<v Speaker 5>So website's coming.

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<v Speaker 3>We have a question right here. What's your name, Mary, Mary?

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<v Speaker 2>Mary?

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<v Speaker 3>What's your question for Jenny? Hi.

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<v Speaker 9>I've actually been so inspired by your fitness posts lately

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<v Speaker 9>and your your eye choose me that you've kind of

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<v Speaker 9>blinked in with that so much so that I actually

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<v Speaker 9>wrote a song about it.

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<v Speaker 10>But I was curious song wait a second, yeah, but

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<v Speaker 10>I was curious if you want to sing it, but

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<v Speaker 10>I was curious if you were thinking of of doing it.

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<v Speaker 10>I know you have so many side projects, but another

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<v Speaker 10>side project that's like more fitness space, because if you

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<v Speaker 10>had something like that, I mean I'd sign up for.

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<v Speaker 9>In a day.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know everyone else had.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you remember, but in ninety yeah something,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a little exercise video right on the shelf

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<v Speaker 1>there next to Jane Fonda.

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<v Speaker 3>It was great.

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<v Speaker 1>It was called Body and Progress and yeah, I've toyed.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't make exercise.

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<v Speaker 10>Videos are Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's a different landscape now, and just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>sort of figure out how to work that in because

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<v Speaker 1>it certainly does live in the same world as the

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<v Speaker 1>whole brand, you know, just being able to choose yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and take physically care of yourself, mentally take care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just started, you know, I started exercising for

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<v Speaker 1>myself and I just started having my train to film

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<v Speaker 1>it and we'd throw it up and then people started

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<v Speaker 1>to really respond to it, and I thought, oh, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a great way to connect with my fans, the

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<v Speaker 1>people out there that are like me who want better

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<v Speaker 1>for themselves, but they don't have that motivation. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what to do, they don't know how to start,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't know what to eat. So I've just sort

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<v Speaker 1>of been, you know, lacing that into my feed and

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<v Speaker 1>seeing how it does and people really responding to it.

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<v Speaker 1>And the thing about it is they they say I'm

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<v Speaker 1>inspiring them, But there you all are inspiring.

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<v Speaker 5>Me when you comment and you like it or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>I read those comments and I and they move me

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<v Speaker 1>and touch me and they keep me going. So if

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<v Speaker 1>if you're keeping me going and I'm keeping you going,

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<v Speaker 1>then it's all working the way it's supposed to work.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, Well they're amazing. Thank you. I have one

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<v Speaker 3>right here. Let's see what's your name? Hello, Hello, my

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<v Speaker 3>name is Michael.

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<v Speaker 11>First of all, we love your charger plates, the gold

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<v Speaker 11>charger plates.

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<v Speaker 3>They pretty Uh.

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<v Speaker 11>We actually own a luxury venue in downtown LA and

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<v Speaker 11>we saw those and we actually carry something like this,

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<v Speaker 11>not as amazing as that, and we were just thinking

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<v Speaker 11>like it's so amazing and great, but what was your

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<v Speaker 11>biggest challenge creating this line and going through the process, Because,

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<v Speaker 11>like you said earlier, you have a lot of things

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<v Speaker 11>going to your head and clouding you, but you have

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<v Speaker 11>to stay the course, stay the you know, whiteboard.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, well, I think specifically with the BFF collection

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<v Speaker 1>going into it, we had never done home decorps. We

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know our customer well enough, we didn't know our

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<v Speaker 1>price point well enough.

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<v Speaker 5>So our January launch.

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<v Speaker 1>Wasn't as successful as it could have been straight out

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<v Speaker 1>of the gate. It's had success now living online and

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<v Speaker 1>being available, but so there was a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a deflated feeling after we debuted it because it didn't

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<v Speaker 1>sell like hotcakes like we were hoping, you know. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think that it's about knowing your audience, knowing your customer,

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<v Speaker 1>and really be thinking about them when you create the products,

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<v Speaker 1>and so for me, that has been what I try

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<v Speaker 1>to focus on. It is definitely what I'm focusing on

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<v Speaker 1>now with apparel line for QVC, thinking about all the

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<v Speaker 1>different bodies that are going to be wearing these clothes

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<v Speaker 1>and for me, just really focusing on what I want

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<v Speaker 1>women to feel when they wear these clothes and just

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<v Speaker 1>keeping that as the through line of all my efforts.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I saw one hand over here, I want

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<v Speaker 2>to get to and get to a couple more questions.

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<v Speaker 5>Hello, what's your name Russia? I'm Rassia, Thank you, hav

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<v Speaker 5>Hello Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>My question for you is, as you made your way

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<v Speaker 1>into a small business, especially in this product line, what

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<v Speaker 1>would you say was one of the biggest risks that

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<v Speaker 1>you took. Well, people think that celebrities whatever actors are rich,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is not the case all the time. So

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<v Speaker 1>for me, very frankly, the biggest fear was committing my

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<v Speaker 1>own money to it, to starting up a business. And

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<v Speaker 1>it took the right message from somebody in my life

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<v Speaker 1>that said, you can't win if you don't risk. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you never know unless you try. So give yourself a

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<v Speaker 1>budget of how much you're willing to let go of

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<v Speaker 1>and then see what happens. So and also learning to crawl, walk, run,

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<v Speaker 1>because I want to run right away, and you really

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<v Speaker 1>do need to take the time to, you know, experience

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<v Speaker 1>each of those stages because you learn so much in

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<v Speaker 1>every stage when you're starting your own small business.

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<v Speaker 3>That was awesome advice, really I'm going to take that

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<v Speaker 3>home with me. Hello. What's your name? My name is Katie. Hi.

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<v Speaker 12>Hello, My sister launched her porcelain brand Home to Course.

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<v Speaker 12>She's right here, cassanoid us. I have what can you

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<v Speaker 12>give her?

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<v Speaker 5>As an advice?

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<v Speaker 3>She just started, so that's it. Yes, I was. I

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<v Speaker 3>think I was a little bit too embarrassed to ask

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<v Speaker 3>the questions.

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<v Speaker 5>So she went ahead and did it for me.

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<v Speaker 13>So as somebody who also launched their own homeware and

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<v Speaker 13>dinnerware brand, I wanted to ask.

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<v Speaker 5>You, what.

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<v Speaker 13>How do you separate what you like, for example, versus

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<v Speaker 13>what is going to sell or what the customer base likes,

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<v Speaker 13>because those are two very different things, very different. And

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<v Speaker 13>you think that everything is beautiful and everybody's gonna love everything,

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<v Speaker 13>and some people are like, no, not that one.

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<v Speaker 4>You're like, are you nuts?

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, so it just the you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge that everybody is in it for something different, like

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<v Speaker 1>we all different tastes, different opinions, different lifestyles, everything.

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<v Speaker 5>And I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Knowing your customer like I was talking about before, knowing

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<v Speaker 1>your price point, it's really important and ultimately going with

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<v Speaker 1>your gut, like listening to yourself and putting yourself in

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<v Speaker 1>their shoes and thinking what would you want as your customer.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, quality, top of top of the list.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's a you know, economic top of the list,

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<v Speaker 1>like things that are important to comfort all the things,

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<v Speaker 1>and for me also too. It's just a general like,

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<v Speaker 1>how do I want people to feel when they're in

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<v Speaker 1>my clothes or sitting on an automan.

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<v Speaker 5>I want them to feel good about it and feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Good about that purchase, because I know that money doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>grow on trees and people especially, we have the most

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<v Speaker 1>incredible fan base from nine o two one zero, and

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<v Speaker 1>all those loyal fans support us. They spend their hard

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<v Speaker 1>earned money on the thing that we're making and selling,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're doing.

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<v Speaker 5>It for them.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's also you know, it's also our livelihood too,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's so reciprocal. And just really appreciating your customer,

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<v Speaker 1>I think on such a deep level and having respect

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<v Speaker 1>for them, I would say, is really important.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys are asking such good questions. We have time

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<v Speaker 2>for one more, so I'll go for here. Hello, what's

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<v Speaker 2>your name?

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<v Speaker 3>What's your question?

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<v Speaker 14>My name is Summer and I was your clothing line

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<v Speaker 14>When you were talking about it, it really it made

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<v Speaker 14>me think of my students. I'm an elementary school teacher,

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<v Speaker 14>and I know that your line thank you the message

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<v Speaker 14>that you're sending at. You know, I'm assuming that your

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<v Speaker 14>audience is you know, your fans like me who watched

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<v Speaker 14>your show, But I think your message reaches much further

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<v Speaker 14>than that. And I was thinking about, you know, obviously

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<v Speaker 14>you're just launch, but once you're established in your brand,

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<v Speaker 14>would you ever consider bringing it down into the children

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<v Speaker 14>to children, because I know so many kids are struggling

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<v Speaker 14>right now with you know, emotional things and mental health

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<v Speaker 14>and all of that.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that message.

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<v Speaker 14>Especially for little girls, but for boys as well, but

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<v Speaker 14>especially the young girls, would be amazing And like nonprofit

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<v Speaker 14>side of your.

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<v Speaker 1>Business, and absolutely my parents are both teachers first of all.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have such a respect for you and what

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<v Speaker 1>you do, and I see it intertwined, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>see me doing what I have passion for, like I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking about before, and figuring out what that message

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<v Speaker 1>was that I wanted to put out there, and I

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<v Speaker 1>see how it can affect multi generations. And in fact,

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<v Speaker 1>I've had I think we've only sold the me by

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<v Speaker 1>Jenny Garth Merch at the nineties cons so far this

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<v Speaker 1>year while we've been working to get the to the

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<v Speaker 1>line up and the website up, and I've had a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of responses from women just like you who say

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<v Speaker 1>either they want to take this home and give it

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<v Speaker 1>to their kids and encourage their kids, or they want

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<v Speaker 1>to use it in their classrooms. And that has opened

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<v Speaker 1>up a whole new like brain for me of what

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<v Speaker 1>I can do with this message. And it doesn't just

0:35:23.080 --> 0:35:26.759
<v Speaker 1>have to be you know, my audience, my demographic. It

0:35:26.800 --> 0:35:29.239
<v Speaker 1>can be for everyone. And I think that you're it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's so much deeper than that. So thank you, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. I think, right, we don't have that time.

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<v Speaker 4>That's it.

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<v Speaker 3>That was so amazing. Thank you so much. That was

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<v Speaker 3>a wealth of knowledge. It is amazing. Thank you, Jenny.

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<v Speaker 5>You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm leaving now, Okay, bye, see soon.

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<v Speaker 2>Our next guest is passionate about everything she takes on,

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<v Speaker 2>whether it's how she turned her small business into truly

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<v Speaker 2>one of the most lucrative brands in the entire world.

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<v Speaker 2>I am so excited to introduce our final speaker. Do

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<v Speaker 2>you want to only Bethany Frankel.

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<v Speaker 4>Hello, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 15>She just gave away my secret. I was thinking backstage,

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<v Speaker 15>what is my secret? I didn't know I was gonna

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<v Speaker 15>have to tell the secret, and she just said that

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<v Speaker 15>I put everything into everything I do, So that's the secret.

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<v Speaker 4>I gotta go have fun. Okay.

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<v Speaker 15>So I was actually thinking. The people with me here

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<v Speaker 15>were like, what is your secret? Like, do I have

0:36:31.840 --> 0:36:33.359
<v Speaker 15>a secret? And it's a secret. If it's a secret,

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<v Speaker 15>why am I going to tell you?

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<v Speaker 4>Guys? It's a secret. I think that.

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<v Speaker 15>Everyone's secret to their success is different because it's a

0:36:41.840 --> 0:36:45.360
<v Speaker 15>different formula. Like we all you know what your skill

0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:47.440
<v Speaker 15>set is and you know where you thrive, and you

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<v Speaker 15>also have to stretch to try to be good at

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<v Speaker 15>different things. To fail, I think to succeed, you really

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<v Speaker 15>do have to fail.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a woman who.

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<v Speaker 15>I don't know why, but likes to try to elevate

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:03.440
<v Speaker 15>herself by always bringing up things that I've done that

0:37:03.480 --> 0:37:03.920
<v Speaker 15>have failed.

0:37:03.960 --> 0:37:06.280
<v Speaker 4>And there are so many, and I really do.

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<v Speaker 15>I'm proud of my failures because I wouldn't be successful

0:37:11.040 --> 0:37:14.360
<v Speaker 15>without them, and maybe that is maybe that's one of

0:37:14.400 --> 0:37:18.600
<v Speaker 15>the secrets. I think that Jenny Garth's secret is that

0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:20.360
<v Speaker 15>Tory spelling is in the trunk of her car and

0:37:20.400 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 15>now she has one hundred percent of that business. So

0:37:22.640 --> 0:37:25.040
<v Speaker 15>I think that's the secret because I can't imagine getting

0:37:25.040 --> 0:37:27.240
<v Speaker 15>into business with my best friend. But that's one secret.

0:37:27.520 --> 0:37:31.960
<v Speaker 15>And Tyler Florence has never used an air fryer. It's

0:37:32.000 --> 0:37:35.680
<v Speaker 15>fucking twenty twenty three. That's Tyler Florence's secret. So I'm

0:37:35.680 --> 0:37:38.160
<v Speaker 15>going to tell other people's secrets while we try to

0:37:38.200 --> 0:37:41.160
<v Speaker 15>figure out what mine is together. Because another secret about

0:37:41.160 --> 0:37:44.120
<v Speaker 15>Amy Sugarman, who produced my podcast and as a star

0:37:44.440 --> 0:37:47.200
<v Speaker 15>producer for iHeart. We were out to dinner last night.

0:37:47.239 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 15>I flew on a plane on a car I flew.

0:37:51.239 --> 0:37:53.960
<v Speaker 15>I have a special flying car. I forgot to mention that. Yeah, no,

0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:56.040
<v Speaker 15>I flew on an airplane. You've ever heard of one?

0:37:56.120 --> 0:37:58.600
<v Speaker 15>So I flew on an airplane. And I come and

0:37:58.640 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 15>I get ready and we go to this dan that

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:02.759
<v Speaker 15>we've been planning. It's twenty five people, and today I

0:38:02.800 --> 0:38:06.000
<v Speaker 15>did six podcasts in one one sitting.

0:38:06.920 --> 0:38:08.719
<v Speaker 4>Have you done? What have you guys done? Today? So

0:38:08.760 --> 0:38:11.480
<v Speaker 4>I did that? And where else did they take me off?

0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:11.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh?

0:38:11.719 --> 0:38:14.400
<v Speaker 15>My other partner took took me to Culver City to

0:38:14.760 --> 0:38:17.400
<v Speaker 15>you know hawk my mocktails which are out in the lobby,

0:38:17.440 --> 0:38:20.120
<v Speaker 15>which are phenomenal but I've talked about them so much

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:21.880
<v Speaker 15>today that I'm I'm full.

0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:24.399
<v Speaker 4>So I had a quite full day.

0:38:24.760 --> 0:38:27.319
<v Speaker 15>And last night we're just sort of all drinking and

0:38:27.360 --> 0:38:29.600
<v Speaker 15>hanging out and it was late, probably like almost ten o'clock,

0:38:29.640 --> 0:38:31.680
<v Speaker 15>and she was like talking to somebody else, not me,

0:38:32.440 --> 0:38:35.640
<v Speaker 15>and she goes, yeah, she's tomorrow. She's talking for twenty minutes,

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:37.319
<v Speaker 15>doing a whole thing about her.

0:38:37.239 --> 0:38:38.080
<v Speaker 4>Success or whatever.

0:38:38.120 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 15>And then after I'm like, wait a second, I thought

0:38:39.600 --> 0:38:42.200
<v Speaker 15>we're doing just a Q and A in a moderated

0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:45.520
<v Speaker 15>This is my moderator, it's my this is my toy

0:38:45.560 --> 0:38:47.879
<v Speaker 15>spelling right over here. So I was like, oh, Amy,

0:38:47.920 --> 0:38:49.399
<v Speaker 15>when were you gonna tell me? She goes, no, it's

0:38:49.440 --> 0:38:51.560
<v Speaker 15>just like a quick twenty, which I guess in comedy

0:38:51.560 --> 0:38:52.920
<v Speaker 15>they'd like to do a quick three.

0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:54.200
<v Speaker 4>I was like, a quick twenty.

0:38:54.680 --> 0:38:56.440
<v Speaker 15>So then I was thinking, today they're talking about the

0:38:56.480 --> 0:38:58.000
<v Speaker 15>secret of their success, and I was like, I really

0:38:58.040 --> 0:39:00.640
<v Speaker 15>don't know what might do I have a secret, So

0:39:00.680 --> 0:39:02.200
<v Speaker 15>I want to go through it with you guys, because

0:39:02.200 --> 0:39:04.880
<v Speaker 15>one of the things I do do in business is crowdsource,

0:39:05.239 --> 0:39:07.440
<v Speaker 15>So let's try to workshop this together.

0:39:08.080 --> 0:39:08.959
<v Speaker 4>One is.

0:39:10.400 --> 0:39:13.000
<v Speaker 15>Ashley did say, I throw my whole body into everything

0:39:13.080 --> 0:39:15.440
<v Speaker 15>that I do, and didn't you say that or something?

0:39:15.480 --> 0:39:20.640
<v Speaker 15>What did you say?

0:39:20.719 --> 0:39:22.879
<v Speaker 4>Nice? I don't even know you. Nice to meet you,

0:39:23.080 --> 0:39:23.600
<v Speaker 4>all right.

0:39:23.800 --> 0:39:25.960
<v Speaker 15>So she's this is by the way, this was cause

0:39:26.000 --> 0:39:27.920
<v Speaker 15>today when I got in the dressing room, I was like,

0:39:29.320 --> 0:39:30.480
<v Speaker 15>let me figure out my secret.

0:39:30.480 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 4>I can't even read my own writing.

0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:35.400
<v Speaker 15>So that's another secret on my Honda napkin. So I

0:39:35.520 --> 0:39:38.040
<v Speaker 15>do throw my entire body into everything that I do.

0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:41.319
<v Speaker 15>If I do it, like people always talk about work

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:45.800
<v Speaker 15>life balance, and I'm incredibly present in what I'm doing,

0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:47.920
<v Speaker 15>like I'm very happy to be here and this is

0:39:47.960 --> 0:39:50.080
<v Speaker 15>my you know, unless there was an emergency, I'm not

0:39:50.239 --> 0:39:53.080
<v Speaker 15>here to talk to my daughter like I'm here to

0:39:53.080 --> 0:39:55.239
<v Speaker 15>be with you, and went in with my daughter. I'm

0:39:55.320 --> 0:39:57.839
<v Speaker 15>very present in being with her. But I did this

0:39:58.000 --> 0:40:01.000
<v Speaker 15>game show last week with David Spade, and I was

0:40:01.080 --> 0:40:04.000
<v Speaker 15>kind of just like, you know, sleepwalking through.

0:40:03.800 --> 0:40:04.719
<v Speaker 4>The idea of doing it.

0:40:04.760 --> 0:40:07.080
<v Speaker 15>And I got there and it was this woman next

0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:08.960
<v Speaker 15>to me, and I sort of as we started doing

0:40:08.960 --> 0:40:10.719
<v Speaker 15>it realized like what we were doing, and it was

0:40:11.080 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 15>she wanted to go to Dolly World or her family,

0:40:13.080 --> 0:40:14.480
<v Speaker 15>and I was like, all of a sudden like part

0:40:14.480 --> 0:40:16.440
<v Speaker 15>of her family and we were all going to Dolly World.

0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:19.680
<v Speaker 15>And then we had to think of these business what

0:40:20.080 --> 0:40:24.560
<v Speaker 15>business is snake oil and what's not? And then the

0:40:24.600 --> 0:40:27.080
<v Speaker 15>money got it kept going higher, and she kept betting

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:29.920
<v Speaker 15>everything on me, and I was like, I was screaming,

0:40:30.000 --> 0:40:32.000
<v Speaker 15>Like the price of Ride in nineteen eighty eight.

0:40:32.120 --> 0:40:35.440
<v Speaker 4>I was like, just oh my god. I was so excited.

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:37.760
<v Speaker 15>And I won her two hundred and twenty thousand dollars

0:40:37.800 --> 0:40:41.600
<v Speaker 15>and she's going to Dolly World times five. So no

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:44.719
<v Speaker 15>matter what I'm doing, I do it like if it's

0:40:44.760 --> 0:40:47.120
<v Speaker 15>making a piece of chicken at home or something like,

0:40:47.200 --> 0:40:51.400
<v Speaker 15>I'm obsessed with everything. Everything is a full blown investigation.

0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:53.960
<v Speaker 15>So that's a working model for maybe why I'm successful.

0:40:54.000 --> 0:41:00.840
<v Speaker 15>That's one. Another one could be that I know what

0:41:00.880 --> 0:41:01.600
<v Speaker 15>I know and I know it.

0:41:01.800 --> 0:41:02.400
<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

0:41:02.800 --> 0:41:05.560
<v Speaker 15>You guys are all small business owners right here. You're

0:41:05.600 --> 0:41:08.200
<v Speaker 15>all good business owners. Because I heard there was forty

0:41:08.280 --> 0:41:09.640
<v Speaker 15>dollars to come here, and I heard you got a

0:41:09.719 --> 0:41:12.520
<v Speaker 15>lunch from Jones on third Is that true? What the

0:41:12.960 --> 0:41:15.520
<v Speaker 15>That's like the sickest group on ever. There's like a scam.

0:41:16.160 --> 0:41:18.239
<v Speaker 15>You could go to Airwine. You guys were definitely talking

0:41:18.239 --> 0:41:19.759
<v Speaker 15>to each other. You're like I should have should have

0:41:19.840 --> 0:41:21.840
<v Speaker 15>bought four tickets and got jones On third meals for

0:41:21.920 --> 0:41:24.120
<v Speaker 15>all my friends, because forty dollars.

0:41:24.640 --> 0:41:25.359
<v Speaker 4>This one.

0:41:25.480 --> 0:41:28.520
<v Speaker 15>This girl I have with me backstage, she orders what's

0:41:28.560 --> 0:41:31.080
<v Speaker 15>this do? She plays to get air one and I

0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:32.880
<v Speaker 15>like it. The Hailey Bieber. I know you drink a

0:41:32.880 --> 0:41:35.839
<v Speaker 15>smooth You're gonna like Haley Biber buy that bullshit. So

0:41:35.920 --> 0:41:39.319
<v Speaker 15>she every day fifty four dollars because Postmates to bring

0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:41.680
<v Speaker 15>the smoothie to her house. I got an Asie bowl

0:41:41.680 --> 0:41:44.120
<v Speaker 15>in Venice last week. It was twenty one dollars out

0:41:44.200 --> 0:41:46.120
<v Speaker 15>the door. So this is a deal. If I were

0:41:46.200 --> 0:41:48.439
<v Speaker 15>drooling up here, you got a Jones On third meal,

0:41:48.719 --> 0:41:50.799
<v Speaker 15>that's already. You guys are good business people, so let's

0:41:50.800 --> 0:41:53.560
<v Speaker 15>just start with that. And I'm expensive, so there's a

0:41:53.560 --> 0:41:57.279
<v Speaker 15>lot of value here. So what was I saying? How

0:41:57.280 --> 0:41:58.160
<v Speaker 15>did we get into that thing?

0:41:58.160 --> 0:41:58.759
<v Speaker 4>What did I just say?

0:41:58.760 --> 0:41:59.960
<v Speaker 15>What was the second thing that was good about me?

0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:02.080
<v Speaker 15>Oh that I know what I know and I know

0:42:02.120 --> 0:42:04.840
<v Speaker 15>what I don't know. Okay, that's number two. Let me

0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.680
<v Speaker 15>think if there are any other things. I am very honest,

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:10.439
<v Speaker 15>but that doesn't work for everybody else. Look at Charlie

0:42:10.520 --> 0:42:13.800
<v Speaker 15>Sheen he's like, you know, like in a box somewhere

0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:16.160
<v Speaker 15>in his house, talking to himself, like it didn't work

0:42:16.200 --> 0:42:18.440
<v Speaker 15>for him, So it has to be that that works

0:42:18.480 --> 0:42:22.279
<v Speaker 15>for you. And you know, you have to know the

0:42:22.320 --> 0:42:24.719
<v Speaker 15>temperature of the room. Is it going well right now?

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:28.759
<v Speaker 15>Because I don't know the temperature. It feels like seventy eight.

0:42:28.800 --> 0:42:31.080
<v Speaker 15>It's not like I'm getting a hundred right now. So

0:42:33.239 --> 0:42:34.920
<v Speaker 15>would you like to hear me talk about skinner girl?

0:42:34.920 --> 0:42:36.719
<v Speaker 15>I feel like you know about that. I'm excited for

0:42:36.760 --> 0:42:38.080
<v Speaker 15>the Q and A because I want to hear what

0:42:38.160 --> 0:42:38.759
<v Speaker 15>you want to know.

0:42:39.239 --> 0:42:39.800
<v Speaker 4>And then.

0:42:41.200 --> 0:42:43.080
<v Speaker 15>Before you ask your question, will you tell me what

0:42:43.160 --> 0:42:45.319
<v Speaker 15>you think the secret is? Because I, first of all,

0:42:45.320 --> 0:42:47.440
<v Speaker 15>I may not tell I may want to keep it

0:42:47.440 --> 0:42:49.720
<v Speaker 15>to myself. I don't know, but I don't know the secret,

0:42:50.280 --> 0:42:53.120
<v Speaker 15>so I hope we can work it out together. I

0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:55.880
<v Speaker 15>think that the being present in the different areas of

0:42:55.920 --> 0:42:59.160
<v Speaker 15>your life is critical. I also know that the whole

0:42:59.280 --> 0:43:02.640
<v Speaker 15>entire business journe is a road. And I think that

0:43:02.920 --> 0:43:06.040
<v Speaker 15>younger people right now are really so obsessed with knowing

0:43:06.400 --> 0:43:08.200
<v Speaker 15>what they're supposed to be doing with their lives, Like

0:43:08.200 --> 0:43:10.000
<v Speaker 15>don't you feel like the pressure which shows like shark

0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:13.480
<v Speaker 15>tank and billionaires in their garages from tech ideas that

0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:16.160
<v Speaker 15>you feel like exasperated, like you're supposed to be where

0:43:16.160 --> 0:43:18.880
<v Speaker 15>you're supposed to be. And I was a late bloomer.

0:43:19.080 --> 0:43:22.440
<v Speaker 15>I was thirty eight years old. I was still I

0:43:22.440 --> 0:43:24.560
<v Speaker 15>had a money. I mean, I was very I was very,

0:43:24.719 --> 0:43:29.719
<v Speaker 15>very stressed, very worried I would I couldn't afford a

0:43:29.760 --> 0:43:31.800
<v Speaker 15>taxi downtown in New York City when you live in

0:43:31.800 --> 0:43:34.480
<v Speaker 15>New York City. And I don't know why I stayed

0:43:34.480 --> 0:43:36.120
<v Speaker 15>living there when I really couldn't afford to be there,

0:43:36.160 --> 0:43:38.359
<v Speaker 15>but it was very anxiety producing and I didn't have

0:43:38.719 --> 0:43:42.799
<v Speaker 15>any safety net, but I always had something inside where

0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:46.319
<v Speaker 15>I knew. I knew I was on a road and

0:43:46.440 --> 0:43:48.160
<v Speaker 15>I felt like it was going somewhere. And you can't

0:43:48.200 --> 0:43:50.000
<v Speaker 15>often know if you're swimming in the right direction. To

0:43:50.040 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 15>be honest, like you fit, you know, you have a hit,

0:43:52.600 --> 0:43:54.880
<v Speaker 15>something happened, something in one of your business is successful.

0:43:55.120 --> 0:43:57.400
<v Speaker 15>Then you get set back so far and you don't

0:43:57.440 --> 0:44:01.120
<v Speaker 15>know whether a turnback or to keep going. And you

0:44:01.200 --> 0:44:03.160
<v Speaker 15>have to really have a good gut instinct. You have

0:44:03.200 --> 0:44:05.600
<v Speaker 15>to just have that sense, and you have to know

0:44:05.640 --> 0:44:08.480
<v Speaker 15>if like it's really served you. And you also have

0:44:08.480 --> 0:44:11.560
<v Speaker 15>to know whether you should be a crowd sorcer, whether

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:13.920
<v Speaker 15>you should I am a crowd surcer. I ultimately make

0:44:13.960 --> 0:44:16.239
<v Speaker 15>the decision. When you sign something on a contract, it

0:44:16.320 --> 0:44:19.759
<v Speaker 15>is you signing it, and that is critical. But I

0:44:19.960 --> 0:44:22.280
<v Speaker 15>like to sort of get a lot of different ingredients

0:44:22.280 --> 0:44:24.120
<v Speaker 15>and then make the recipe myself. I do you know

0:44:24.160 --> 0:44:27.880
<v Speaker 15>little Tyler Florence reference. I like to ultimately make the decision,

0:44:27.920 --> 0:44:31.200
<v Speaker 15>but I am a crowd sorcer, and I think that

0:44:31.280 --> 0:44:33.279
<v Speaker 15>you have to determine whether you're somebod who works best

0:44:33.320 --> 0:44:37.480
<v Speaker 15>alone to the Tory spelling you know, Jenny example, or

0:44:38.000 --> 0:44:40.840
<v Speaker 15>whether you're better in a corporate environment or on a

0:44:40.880 --> 0:44:43.520
<v Speaker 15>team like And it doesn't mean either is wrong. It

0:44:43.600 --> 0:44:45.040
<v Speaker 15>just means you have to kind of get a sense

0:44:45.480 --> 0:44:49.719
<v Speaker 15>of where you really thrive, what environment you really thrive in.

0:44:50.120 --> 0:44:53.880
<v Speaker 15>And I've always always understood that it's a road and

0:44:53.920 --> 0:44:56.000
<v Speaker 15>you could hit a roadblock, and you could get run

0:44:56.040 --> 0:44:57.799
<v Speaker 15>at a gas and you could have to make a

0:44:57.880 --> 0:45:03.560
<v Speaker 15>U turn, but that everything you're learning is taking you

0:45:03.640 --> 0:45:06.440
<v Speaker 15>further and you don't realize until later. That's why I

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:10.880
<v Speaker 15>mentioned the failures, because you don't realize until later how

0:45:11.000 --> 0:45:13.920
<v Speaker 15>all of those weird windy turns and all the discomfort

0:45:13.960 --> 0:45:15.440
<v Speaker 15>and the loss in your life and the stress and

0:45:15.480 --> 0:45:17.319
<v Speaker 15>the time away from your family and things like that,

0:45:17.719 --> 0:45:21.400
<v Speaker 15>how you learn from it and all of those experiences

0:45:21.400 --> 0:45:25.120
<v Speaker 15>and failures and things that do work and challenges. Those

0:45:25.160 --> 0:45:28.120
<v Speaker 15>are like case law, like, so you try future business

0:45:28.160 --> 0:45:30.520
<v Speaker 15>cases and you just get older and wiser and you

0:45:30.600 --> 0:45:32.919
<v Speaker 15>just are saying, well, no, we can't do that, because

0:45:32.960 --> 0:45:34.799
<v Speaker 15>remember when we do that other thing, but if we

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:37.640
<v Speaker 15>tweak that thing a little, then the next thing will

0:45:37.680 --> 0:45:39.279
<v Speaker 15>be better. And you do find that as you get

0:45:39.320 --> 0:45:43.279
<v Speaker 15>more successful, the stakes are higher. So while you may

0:45:43.320 --> 0:45:45.320
<v Speaker 15>be doing well or fine, or you're not where you

0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:48.040
<v Speaker 15>want to be, it's kind of like good to spill

0:45:48.080 --> 0:45:49.800
<v Speaker 15>something on yourself the minute you get in the car,

0:45:49.840 --> 0:45:51.520
<v Speaker 15>because it's going to happen, you might as well get

0:45:51.560 --> 0:45:53.840
<v Speaker 15>it out of the way. It gets more expensive later,

0:45:54.280 --> 0:45:56.439
<v Speaker 15>you know, and you kind of have to do plan

0:45:56.560 --> 0:46:00.399
<v Speaker 15>for anything to happen. Whatever you are estimating, it's going

0:46:00.440 --> 0:46:05.440
<v Speaker 15>to be way more expensive. And it's like getting married

0:46:05.480 --> 0:46:07.560
<v Speaker 15>without a prenup. You kind of have to just like

0:46:07.800 --> 0:46:10.560
<v Speaker 15>prepare for the worst in any situation. You have to

0:46:10.680 --> 0:46:13.440
<v Speaker 15>just be have the hurricane insurance, have the prenup like

0:46:13.480 --> 0:46:18.000
<v Speaker 15>you have to just you know, everybody's got a plan

0:46:18.080 --> 0:46:20.160
<v Speaker 15>until you get punched in the face, and you will

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:22.840
<v Speaker 15>get punched in the face in business or onto housewives.

0:46:22.840 --> 0:46:23.960
<v Speaker 15>If you do that, you get a punch in the

0:46:23.960 --> 0:46:26.560
<v Speaker 15>face earlier and get that out of the way. But

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:29.400
<v Speaker 15>it's one of those things where the road is really

0:46:31.880 --> 0:46:36.279
<v Speaker 15>it's really the the ultimate educator. And while it's great

0:46:36.280 --> 0:46:40.319
<v Speaker 15>to have mentors and people to look up to and

0:46:40.360 --> 0:46:44.320
<v Speaker 15>to listen to, it's lonely. It's lonely because you really

0:46:45.280 --> 0:46:47.480
<v Speaker 15>you have a community and you establish a community, but

0:46:47.560 --> 0:46:49.800
<v Speaker 15>like if you're an entrepreneur, if you're a true entrepreneur,

0:46:50.239 --> 0:46:54.640
<v Speaker 15>it's very lonely, like you're alone. And it's funny because Amy,

0:46:55.200 --> 0:46:58.880
<v Speaker 15>who I was talking about earlier, says to me, like

0:46:58.920 --> 0:47:01.120
<v Speaker 15>the thing about you is you give a shit. It's

0:47:01.120 --> 0:47:03.719
<v Speaker 15>what I was saying before about like that woman, I

0:47:03.800 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 15>walk in like what are we doing? I don't know

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:06.680
<v Speaker 15>where I am, and then I'm like, all of a sudden,

0:47:06.800 --> 0:47:09.719
<v Speaker 15>like in it. So if you do it, you have

0:47:09.800 --> 0:47:12.200
<v Speaker 15>to do it like just fully all in or don't.

0:47:12.200 --> 0:47:16.799
<v Speaker 15>And business is all in. It's just it's just I've

0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:20.359
<v Speaker 15>interviewed too many people on my podcast that are very

0:47:20.360 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 15>successful and like very like billionaires, people like Mark Cuban

0:47:23.640 --> 0:47:26.800
<v Speaker 15>and people like Jeffrey Katzenberg, leaders of industry game changers.

0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:31.719
<v Speaker 15>Cheryl Samberg was, you know, Mark Zuckerbird's number two. None

0:47:31.719 --> 0:47:34.200
<v Speaker 15>of them are motivated by money, Like money's great and

0:47:34.320 --> 0:47:38.319
<v Speaker 15>I like nice things, and money's just a scorecard. It's

0:47:38.360 --> 0:47:41.399
<v Speaker 15>not if you're it won't you won't have to drive

0:47:41.440 --> 0:47:43.640
<v Speaker 15>if you're motivated by money because it's not it's not

0:47:43.880 --> 0:47:48.759
<v Speaker 15>like it's tangible, but it's not going to give you

0:47:48.800 --> 0:47:52.799
<v Speaker 15>that passion inside that just the idea will give you

0:47:52.880 --> 0:47:57.839
<v Speaker 15>the idea, the process, the chance, the game, like it's

0:47:57.880 --> 0:48:00.760
<v Speaker 15>a game. Business is a game. It's a fun game,

0:48:00.920 --> 0:48:03.760
<v Speaker 15>and you're kind of like watching the board and watching

0:48:03.800 --> 0:48:06.799
<v Speaker 15>other people, but you really should be running your own

0:48:06.840 --> 0:48:09.920
<v Speaker 15>game because it doesn't matter what someone else is doing.

0:48:10.040 --> 0:48:13.480
<v Speaker 15>And to bring back the Mark Zuckerberg, you know, the

0:48:13.520 --> 0:48:17.440
<v Speaker 15>Winklevoss twins claimed that they came up with Facebook, but

0:48:17.480 --> 0:48:18.160
<v Speaker 15>they didn't.

0:48:17.920 --> 0:48:19.200
<v Speaker 4>Execute like he did.

0:48:19.320 --> 0:48:20.799
<v Speaker 15>Even if they did, I don't know, I don't know

0:48:20.840 --> 0:48:22.920
<v Speaker 15>that answer. It doesn't matter, like he was the one

0:48:22.960 --> 0:48:30.440
<v Speaker 15>who executed. So successful entrepreneurs are passionate, like by any

0:48:30.480 --> 0:48:33.640
<v Speaker 15>means necessary, and you're just always thinking about it.

0:48:33.680 --> 0:48:35.279
<v Speaker 4>On some level, it's just who you are.

0:48:35.560 --> 0:48:38.080
<v Speaker 15>And you have to surround yourself with people like that

0:48:38.080 --> 0:48:41.359
<v Speaker 15>that are in their own lanes also thinking about it.

0:48:41.400 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 15>And you gotta be good to your people. You gotta

0:48:44.200 --> 0:48:47.440
<v Speaker 15>be really tough and fair, and you have to make

0:48:47.480 --> 0:48:51.640
<v Speaker 15>them feel valued. And I think that really taking the time.

0:48:51.680 --> 0:48:54.600
<v Speaker 15>Things move quickly. When you're an entrepreneur, it just moves fast.

0:48:54.600 --> 0:48:57.120
<v Speaker 15>It's hard to stop down, especially now. Every day you

0:48:57.120 --> 0:48:58.920
<v Speaker 15>have to be like, let's do a check in, how

0:48:58.920 --> 0:49:01.279
<v Speaker 15>are you feeling? Hows your emotion a well being? You know,

0:49:01.320 --> 0:49:04.000
<v Speaker 15>and you're running a thousand miles an hour. But people

0:49:04.040 --> 0:49:06.399
<v Speaker 15>really do appreciate feeling that they're part of something and

0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:09.640
<v Speaker 15>you being grateful like saying like wow, thank you. And

0:49:09.680 --> 0:49:12.600
<v Speaker 15>people want to be valued and told that they're doing

0:49:12.640 --> 0:49:15.080
<v Speaker 15>a good job, and you have to like that's like

0:49:15.160 --> 0:49:15.880
<v Speaker 15>being a parent.

0:49:15.960 --> 0:49:18.200
<v Speaker 4>You're kind of putting into.

0:49:19.600 --> 0:49:22.359
<v Speaker 15>Your kids what you want to get out, and you

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:25.400
<v Speaker 15>do get it tenfold. Like whatever you put in you

0:49:25.480 --> 0:49:27.239
<v Speaker 15>get out. The same as with your team and the

0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:29.440
<v Speaker 15>same as with your business. So you have to know

0:49:29.480 --> 0:49:32.799
<v Speaker 15>if you're someone who really just likes a very very

0:49:32.840 --> 0:49:37.160
<v Speaker 15>calm and predictable life that it's not that easy to

0:49:37.239 --> 0:49:42.160
<v Speaker 15>be like a maverick business person. There's so many people

0:49:43.920 --> 0:49:46.520
<v Speaker 15>out there that want it. It's like anything else. It's

0:49:46.560 --> 0:49:49.520
<v Speaker 15>like being, you know, an athlete or something else. Like

0:49:49.800 --> 0:49:52.839
<v Speaker 15>there's so much competition, so many people want it, and

0:49:53.080 --> 0:49:56.440
<v Speaker 15>only the strong survive. But there are so many different

0:49:56.440 --> 0:49:58.240
<v Speaker 15>ways to be successful now.

0:49:58.280 --> 0:49:59.920
<v Speaker 4>And I do the one good news.

0:50:00.160 --> 0:50:03.960
<v Speaker 15>I think in the land of social media and filtering

0:50:04.040 --> 0:50:06.439
<v Speaker 15>and face tune and all the bs, the one thing

0:50:06.640 --> 0:50:09.840
<v Speaker 15>I will say is that, uh wait, I literally I

0:50:09.880 --> 0:50:11.839
<v Speaker 15>was gonna tell you the secret. I swear to God,

0:50:11.840 --> 0:50:14.719
<v Speaker 15>I just forgot it. Give me a second. I literally

0:50:15.280 --> 0:50:16.160
<v Speaker 15>it wasn't the secret.

0:50:16.160 --> 0:50:16.880
<v Speaker 2>But what was it?

0:50:16.880 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 13>What?

0:50:17.040 --> 0:50:18.760
<v Speaker 4>Can I just ask you what? I was just saying.

0:50:18.800 --> 0:50:22.480
<v Speaker 15>This happens to me because my brain moves so okay, whoa, oh,

0:50:22.719 --> 0:50:23.080
<v Speaker 15>thank you.

0:50:23.200 --> 0:50:24.640
<v Speaker 4>This is the fucking secret.

0:50:24.920 --> 0:50:27.800
<v Speaker 15>This is the secret. No, this might be the secret.

0:50:27.880 --> 0:50:29.600
<v Speaker 15>I swear to you, I forgot it. It's such a

0:50:29.640 --> 0:50:31.160
<v Speaker 15>secret that I was like, am I gonna tell them?

0:50:31.200 --> 0:50:32.680
<v Speaker 15>Or gatekeep Freud got in the way?

0:50:33.000 --> 0:50:33.400
<v Speaker 4>Okay.

0:50:33.920 --> 0:50:36.160
<v Speaker 15>In the land of face tune and social media and

0:50:36.280 --> 0:50:41.000
<v Speaker 15>all of this stuff, the one secret is old school

0:50:41.200 --> 0:50:45.080
<v Speaker 15>hard work, and it's not your famous it's not you're

0:50:45.080 --> 0:50:46.600
<v Speaker 15>on a reality show. It's not you have a good

0:50:46.600 --> 0:50:49.400
<v Speaker 15>Instagram account, you have a good publicist, you have a gimmick,

0:50:49.400 --> 0:50:51.600
<v Speaker 15>you have a tagline, you have a website. You could

0:50:51.640 --> 0:50:57.200
<v Speaker 15>have nothing. It's the hard work. It's the hard work,

0:50:57.520 --> 0:50:59.520
<v Speaker 15>but not like you're at the gym, you know, standing

0:50:59.560 --> 0:51:02.239
<v Speaker 15>around in like warmers, thinking you're you're working hard, but

0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:05.560
<v Speaker 15>you're not like working smart, like real you know when

0:51:05.560 --> 0:51:08.239
<v Speaker 15>you're like you know when you're sticking the landing, when

0:51:08.280 --> 0:51:12.440
<v Speaker 15>you're like locked in. That is the secret. I did

0:51:12.440 --> 0:51:14.279
<v Speaker 15>not know that was a secret. See we worked it out.

0:51:14.280 --> 0:51:15.680
<v Speaker 15>Do you do you agree that's the secret? Or is

0:51:15.680 --> 0:51:19.319
<v Speaker 15>there another thing I said that's really the secret? I mean,

0:51:19.360 --> 0:51:21.360
<v Speaker 15>don't you all agree that, Like the real secret is

0:51:21.400 --> 0:51:24.000
<v Speaker 15>like the people around you that are I don't care

0:51:24.120 --> 0:51:27.200
<v Speaker 15>if someone knows anything about what we're doing. I only

0:51:27.200 --> 0:51:30.960
<v Speaker 15>care about if they're hard working and loyal. You may

0:51:31.000 --> 0:51:33.200
<v Speaker 15>not even there's a woman who doesn't speak the language

0:51:33.239 --> 0:51:34.920
<v Speaker 15>at all that works and work in my house. I

0:51:34.960 --> 0:51:37.200
<v Speaker 15>mean we can't communicate at all, not one word.

0:51:37.440 --> 0:51:38.160
<v Speaker 4>She works so hard.

0:51:38.200 --> 0:51:40.520
<v Speaker 15>I don't care what she's saying. We can speak the

0:51:40.600 --> 0:51:43.719
<v Speaker 15>language of work, and I love her. And I also thought, like,

0:51:43.760 --> 0:51:45.399
<v Speaker 15>how hard would it be to find a job when

0:51:45.400 --> 0:51:48.040
<v Speaker 15>she doesn't speak any English? But I'm like, she works hard,

0:51:48.120 --> 0:51:51.120
<v Speaker 15>and like, I have such respect for anyone.

0:51:50.920 --> 0:51:51.640
<v Speaker 4>That works hard.

0:51:51.719 --> 0:51:54.960
<v Speaker 15>You could teach your business, but you cannot teach a

0:51:55.000 --> 0:51:58.759
<v Speaker 15>work ethic. You cannot teach loyalty and honesty. And you

0:51:58.840 --> 0:52:01.000
<v Speaker 15>find someone. You find people around you. I had a

0:52:01.040 --> 0:52:05.040
<v Speaker 15>girl that was I was at a party with me

0:52:05.160 --> 0:52:07.319
<v Speaker 15>and I was working for free to cook for the

0:52:07.560 --> 0:52:10.480
<v Speaker 15>owner of Hampton's magazine. Because I used to do everything

0:52:10.520 --> 0:52:12.920
<v Speaker 15>for free. It didn't mattter Ripple, I mean Housewives for

0:52:13.040 --> 0:52:15.040
<v Speaker 15>season one was two hundred and fifty dollars.

0:52:15.120 --> 0:52:16.320
<v Speaker 4>Was like, that's free. Let's be honest.

0:52:16.320 --> 0:52:18.719
<v Speaker 15>We divided out for all the arguments I had. It

0:52:18.760 --> 0:52:21.120
<v Speaker 15>was like arguing for I was paying to argue with people,

0:52:21.760 --> 0:52:25.279
<v Speaker 15>so I was paying to argue. So but I was

0:52:25.320 --> 0:52:27.239
<v Speaker 15>at this party and this girl just was like, I'm

0:52:27.320 --> 0:52:29.799
<v Speaker 15>on it, and she was on it and she I

0:52:29.840 --> 0:52:32.040
<v Speaker 15>didn't make any money, but I said, I'm gonna You're

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:34.160
<v Speaker 15>gonna work for me one day, and I one day

0:52:34.239 --> 0:52:36.880
<v Speaker 15>hired her and she was unbelievable and went on to

0:52:36.920 --> 0:52:39.600
<v Speaker 15>have like a major job. Another girl was a co

0:52:39.760 --> 0:52:41.440
<v Speaker 15>check girl for me when I used to produce events

0:52:41.440 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 15>and MERV Griffin, who I worked for, they wouldn't let

0:52:45.320 --> 0:52:47.080
<v Speaker 15>me hire her, And I said, but she works her

0:52:47.080 --> 0:52:48.280
<v Speaker 15>ass off, Like what's her resume?

0:52:48.360 --> 0:52:49.000
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I don't know.

0:52:49.080 --> 0:52:52.120
<v Speaker 15>She was holding like the co check like she was working,

0:52:52.239 --> 0:52:54.279
<v Speaker 15>you know, for the frickin' un like. She was very

0:52:54.280 --> 0:52:56.920
<v Speaker 15>serious about checking these goddamn coats. Imagine what she's like

0:52:56.920 --> 0:52:59.439
<v Speaker 15>about something that matters. And she went on to work

0:52:59.480 --> 0:53:03.120
<v Speaker 15>for Paul and the founder of Microsoft and for red

0:53:03.120 --> 0:53:06.759
<v Speaker 15>Bull after working for me. So hard work is something

0:53:06.960 --> 0:53:09.759
<v Speaker 15>everybody could do. You could do it if you just

0:53:09.800 --> 0:53:12.600
<v Speaker 15>had like an old rotary phone. And we're still watching

0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:16.040
<v Speaker 15>Jenny's DVD Fitness DVD back when we used to do

0:53:16.120 --> 0:53:24.080
<v Speaker 15>dial up internet and in facts. So that's my secret.

0:53:30.520 --> 0:53:32.640
<v Speaker 2>Who has the first question here? I just heard that

0:53:32.680 --> 0:53:34.520
<v Speaker 2>there's somebody dying to ask a great question.

0:53:34.719 --> 0:53:36.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh you have a great question, A great.

0:53:36.239 --> 0:53:39.000
<v Speaker 3>Question now you know spotlights on. I've been told from

0:53:39.040 --> 0:53:42.200
<v Speaker 3>people back there, what's your name, Kristen?

0:53:42.840 --> 0:53:45.040
<v Speaker 2>My question is how do you quiet your brain at

0:53:45.080 --> 0:53:46.879
<v Speaker 2>night when you have so many things going on? Because

0:53:46.880 --> 0:53:49.400
<v Speaker 2>I don't have anything near what you have going on

0:53:49.440 --> 0:53:50.320
<v Speaker 2>and I can never.

0:53:50.440 --> 0:53:51.080
<v Speaker 5>Shut it off.

0:53:51.160 --> 0:53:53.320
<v Speaker 4>It's well, do you is the phone? Do you have?

0:53:53.440 --> 0:53:54.880
<v Speaker 15>Do you give yourself a discipline at the pot? I

0:53:54.880 --> 0:53:57.280
<v Speaker 15>don't buy the way everything I give you advice is like, well,

0:53:57.640 --> 0:53:58.719
<v Speaker 15>but let's just start with that.

0:53:58.800 --> 0:54:01.239
<v Speaker 4>Do you shut? Do you shut the phone? No?

0:54:01.320 --> 0:54:03.400
<v Speaker 16>I'm watching you on TikTok when you and your honest

0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:04.040
<v Speaker 16>reviews of them.

0:54:04.239 --> 0:54:08.439
<v Speaker 15>And I'm I'm reviewing cottage Sheese doing the lord's work. Yeah,

0:54:08.480 --> 0:54:11.399
<v Speaker 15>I mean it's very important. I'm snatching your face, taking

0:54:11.400 --> 0:54:17.759
<v Speaker 15>your book glasses. Yeah. So I don't take anything when

0:54:17.760 --> 0:54:20.600
<v Speaker 15>I'm traveling. I'll take something like I'll take like an edible.

0:54:20.600 --> 0:54:22.160
<v Speaker 15>I don't know if that's illegal, but I take an

0:54:22.280 --> 0:54:24.840
<v Speaker 15>edible to sleep. I did last night call the cops,

0:54:25.400 --> 0:54:27.960
<v Speaker 15>but I don't. I'm not a person who wants to

0:54:27.960 --> 0:54:29.719
<v Speaker 15>take anything. I don't believe in that unless it's like

0:54:29.760 --> 0:54:31.920
<v Speaker 15>really important. I'm in another country. I have to sleep

0:54:32.480 --> 0:54:34.640
<v Speaker 15>like this is a different country. Flew an airplane. I

0:54:34.680 --> 0:54:40.440
<v Speaker 15>told you at home, I have this this herbal like

0:54:40.560 --> 0:54:43.439
<v Speaker 15>lavender pillow that you put in the mic with not

0:54:43.480 --> 0:54:45.399
<v Speaker 15>on too long and too high. You have to watch

0:54:45.440 --> 0:54:47.239
<v Speaker 15>it like you're watching a pot boil because if it

0:54:47.280 --> 0:54:49.680
<v Speaker 15>goes on too high, it smells like burn herbs. And

0:54:49.680 --> 0:54:52.160
<v Speaker 15>then I'm next to Paul and he's like where am I? Like,

0:54:52.200 --> 0:54:55.000
<v Speaker 15>we're in a freaking forest lavender fire in bed. But

0:54:55.040 --> 0:54:56.800
<v Speaker 15>I don't give a fuck because I have my nightguard

0:54:57.040 --> 0:54:59.759
<v Speaker 15>and it's hot, so and it literally is hot. So

0:54:59.840 --> 0:55:01.920
<v Speaker 15>I take my lavender thing and I put it in

0:55:01.960 --> 0:55:04.640
<v Speaker 15>the mic and I lay down and I pretend like

0:55:05.560 --> 0:55:09.680
<v Speaker 15>I'm in an institution, like okay, little bird. Like I

0:55:09.800 --> 0:55:12.319
<v Speaker 15>lay there and I just meditate and I breathe in

0:55:12.400 --> 0:55:14.799
<v Speaker 15>through my nose and out, and I like do it

0:55:14.840 --> 0:55:18.320
<v Speaker 15>in a circular emotion, because you really can't breathe in

0:55:18.360 --> 0:55:20.480
<v Speaker 15>and out twenty times without falling asleep, like if you

0:55:20.560 --> 0:55:23.640
<v Speaker 15>really do, like a big one and it conned me.

0:55:23.680 --> 0:55:26.759
<v Speaker 15>It's like it's like I've institutionalized myself.

0:55:26.440 --> 0:55:28.120
<v Speaker 3>At the end with essential oils.

0:55:28.239 --> 0:55:30.759
<v Speaker 15>It really works, Yeah, it does. But that's when the

0:55:30.760 --> 0:55:33.319
<v Speaker 15>phone has to Like you can't be like hearing the

0:55:33.320 --> 0:55:36.000
<v Speaker 15>buzz of the phone, like that's you gotta that.

0:55:36.160 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 4>You got to turn the phone off. Phone's evil.

0:55:38.680 --> 0:55:40.839
<v Speaker 15>It's the devil. It's the angel because it helps us

0:55:40.840 --> 0:55:43.560
<v Speaker 15>do all these things. But it's it's an appendage. It's

0:55:43.719 --> 0:55:44.400
<v Speaker 15>it's the devil.

0:55:45.600 --> 0:55:48.920
<v Speaker 4>So get our app log on, listen to our podcast.

0:55:49.760 --> 0:55:52.239
<v Speaker 8>You would ask too, if we had your secret or

0:55:52.280 --> 0:55:54.640
<v Speaker 8>what we thought your secret might be. Right, So, I

0:55:54.680 --> 0:55:57.839
<v Speaker 8>think it's that you're very curious and unafraid to take

0:55:57.880 --> 0:55:59.239
<v Speaker 8>action when you see opportunity.

0:55:59.400 --> 0:56:00.879
<v Speaker 5>Yes, So can you talk a little bit.

0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:02.680
<v Speaker 8>Kind of in the early days of your career when

0:56:02.680 --> 0:56:05.960
<v Speaker 8>you would find interesting ways, like you talked about how

0:56:05.960 --> 0:56:07.840
<v Speaker 8>you would find producers on TV shows or kind of

0:56:07.880 --> 0:56:09.239
<v Speaker 8>pitch yourself for your businesses.

0:56:09.280 --> 0:56:13.560
<v Speaker 15>And yes, I well, it's really I wrote a book

0:56:13.560 --> 0:56:15.680
<v Speaker 15>called A Place of Yes, and I'm a yes person.

0:56:15.680 --> 0:56:17.080
<v Speaker 15>I mean that doesn't mean I'm almost in a good

0:56:17.120 --> 0:56:21.200
<v Speaker 15>mood by any stretch. It means like I'm not really

0:56:21.239 --> 0:56:25.239
<v Speaker 15>into hearing about the this can happen in a roadblock,

0:56:25.360 --> 0:56:28.239
<v Speaker 15>and I'm not really If I think it's possible, then

0:56:28.239 --> 0:56:31.640
<v Speaker 15>it's probably possible. And so I used to I wanted

0:56:31.680 --> 0:56:34.160
<v Speaker 15>to be on a television show. I wanted to be

0:56:34.280 --> 0:56:35.959
<v Speaker 15>on the Food Network, and the head of the Food

0:56:36.000 --> 0:56:39.440
<v Speaker 15>Network told me it would never happen. Bob Tushman can

0:56:39.440 --> 0:56:41.480
<v Speaker 15>call him up as probably in the Yellow Pages where

0:56:41.520 --> 0:56:43.319
<v Speaker 15>he lives now because I think he's not fire, but

0:56:43.640 --> 0:56:45.560
<v Speaker 15>he's not because he didn't put me on. I probably

0:56:45.560 --> 0:56:48.000
<v Speaker 15>would have been canceled on the Food Network with my language.

0:56:48.040 --> 0:56:53.719
<v Speaker 15>But anyway, So I used to watch television and you've

0:56:53.719 --> 0:56:57.200
<v Speaker 15>heard of television right at used to right antenna's. So

0:56:57.280 --> 0:56:59.080
<v Speaker 15>I used to watch television and I would see the

0:56:59.120 --> 0:57:02.080
<v Speaker 15>producers at the end and their names, and I would

0:57:02.120 --> 0:57:05.200
<v Speaker 15>just like call them because they have an office and

0:57:05.200 --> 0:57:06.799
<v Speaker 15>they have an assistant. Not it's not like trying to

0:57:06.800 --> 0:57:09.760
<v Speaker 15>call Obama. It's some schmuck who works in an office

0:57:09.800 --> 0:57:13.480
<v Speaker 15>then produces, you know, schmucky Television's gonna get canceled anyway.

0:57:13.840 --> 0:57:15.200
<v Speaker 15>So I would go in and I would meet those

0:57:15.200 --> 0:57:17.840
<v Speaker 15>schmucks and I would bring them cookies and engage them,

0:57:17.840 --> 0:57:20.320
<v Speaker 15>and like a lot of them actually wanted to do

0:57:20.400 --> 0:57:22.240
<v Speaker 15>shows of me. It was again the guy, the head

0:57:22.280 --> 0:57:24.600
<v Speaker 15>guy said, stop coming in with all these people. But

0:57:24.680 --> 0:57:27.080
<v Speaker 15>the point is most people are accessible, and if you're

0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:30.560
<v Speaker 15>not annoying, like if you find a way in and

0:57:30.560 --> 0:57:32.920
<v Speaker 15>a find to connect and transact and it's an email

0:57:33.040 --> 0:57:36.080
<v Speaker 15>or it's on social media or it's send them something,

0:57:36.280 --> 0:57:39.520
<v Speaker 15>people are accessible and I'm gonna find your way in.

0:57:39.680 --> 0:57:40.880
<v Speaker 4>Kind of gal like.

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<v Speaker 15>I'm gonna figure it out kind of person. You know,

0:57:44.560 --> 0:57:49.280
<v Speaker 15>we had people, I'll I mean, I'll go to the head.

0:57:49.320 --> 0:57:50.280
<v Speaker 4>I'll go Who do I go to?

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<v Speaker 15>Who's the guy I went to the head of snap Yeah,

0:57:51.960 --> 0:57:53.280
<v Speaker 15>I'm like, I'll find out. I don't know that guy,

0:57:53.360 --> 0:57:56.640
<v Speaker 15>the head of Snapchat. And I know, yes, I'm successful now,

0:57:56.680 --> 0:57:58.920
<v Speaker 15>but I acted like this when I was couldn't afford

0:57:58.960 --> 0:57:59.760
<v Speaker 15>the twenty five dollars.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'll figure out.

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<v Speaker 15>Give me an email the head of Snatch and like then,

0:58:04.400 --> 0:58:06.200
<v Speaker 15>I mean, I'll talk to anyone. I went up and

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<v Speaker 15>pitched something last week to Ted Sorando's who runs Netflix,

0:58:09.400 --> 0:58:12.040
<v Speaker 15>one hundred and seventy billion dollar company, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 15>in to meet with.

0:58:12.600 --> 0:58:15.080
<v Speaker 4>Them, Like you gotta grab it. It's there.

0:58:15.320 --> 0:58:16.960
<v Speaker 15>I said to my daughter. I took her to a

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<v Speaker 15>concert last week here to see Adam Sandler perform because

0:58:19.960 --> 0:58:23.720
<v Speaker 15>she lives for him and I know David Spade's manager.

0:58:23.920 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 15>And they were all performing, and I said to her head,

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<v Speaker 15>you're gonna see Adam Sandler. I can't guarantee you're gonna

0:58:28.880 --> 0:58:31.440
<v Speaker 15>meet him. Like I, life moves pretty fast around here.

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<v Speaker 15>I cannot guarantee, And there's only so much of a

0:58:33.840 --> 0:58:35.720
<v Speaker 15>desperate loser. I'm willing to be at a party of

0:58:35.760 --> 0:58:38.880
<v Speaker 15>my peers. Like I was literally next to Ted Serranos

0:58:38.880 --> 0:58:39.439
<v Speaker 15>standing and.

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<v Speaker 5>Be like, am I god.

0:58:40.400 --> 0:58:42.280
<v Speaker 15>I get like I was such a loser. I'm like,

0:58:42.320 --> 0:58:44.880
<v Speaker 15>this is not who I am. But you're a loser

0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:45.920
<v Speaker 15>when it comes to your kids.

0:58:46.360 --> 0:58:48.080
<v Speaker 4>So I said to her, listen, you have a plan.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't be like, oh my god, I love you.

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<v Speaker 15>I said, have a plan of what you're gonna say, Like,

0:58:52.280 --> 0:58:54.160
<v Speaker 15>what do you want to say? What do you think?

0:58:54.200 --> 0:58:55.720
<v Speaker 15>I'm like, here's something. What do you think about this?

0:58:56.120 --> 0:58:57.720
<v Speaker 15>I love how you put your friends and your family

0:58:57.760 --> 0:58:58.280
<v Speaker 15>and your movies.

0:58:58.320 --> 0:58:59.040
<v Speaker 3>She's like, I like that.

0:58:59.040 --> 0:59:01.120
<v Speaker 15>That's so true because he told me that he puts

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<v Speaker 15>his friends in his family and his movies. So I said,

0:59:03.080 --> 0:59:04.080
<v Speaker 15>all right, that's a good hook.

0:59:04.440 --> 0:59:05.040
<v Speaker 4>He'll like that.

0:59:05.120 --> 0:59:07.560
<v Speaker 15>It's not like when people come up to him to

0:59:07.560 --> 0:59:09.160
<v Speaker 15>be like I don't know who you are, but my

0:59:09.200 --> 0:59:11.440
<v Speaker 15>wife likes you, Like, why don't you go fuck yourself

0:59:11.440 --> 0:59:16.360
<v Speaker 15>and get a television? So anyway, she so we were

0:59:16.400 --> 0:59:20.640
<v Speaker 15>standing waiting for Adam Sandler and he was standing there

0:59:20.640 --> 0:59:23.280
<v Speaker 15>and I was like, he's right here, we're I mean,

0:59:23.280 --> 0:59:24.680
<v Speaker 15>I got her in the I got her in the door.

0:59:24.720 --> 0:59:26.200
<v Speaker 15>We're in the door. Now we're in the elevator, so

0:59:26.280 --> 0:59:28.680
<v Speaker 15>you got the person. But he's right there. And I

0:59:28.760 --> 0:59:30.600
<v Speaker 15>was like, just you're a kid, You're so cute. You're

0:59:30.600 --> 0:59:31.240
<v Speaker 15>thirteen years old.

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:33.560
<v Speaker 4>Like it's fine. Kids could do anything. So walk up.

0:59:33.560 --> 0:59:35.240
<v Speaker 4>And she's like no mama, no MoMA, no MoMA, like

0:59:35.240 --> 0:59:35.600
<v Speaker 4>in the mood.

0:59:35.600 --> 0:59:38.440
<v Speaker 15>And then he vanished and I was like, listen, that

0:59:38.600 --> 0:59:39.880
<v Speaker 15>was like the day we were at the beach when

0:59:39.920 --> 0:59:41.360
<v Speaker 15>you saw that girl and you wanted to make a friend,

0:59:41.360 --> 0:59:41.560
<v Speaker 15>and I.

0:59:41.520 --> 0:59:43.520
<v Speaker 4>Said, just go say hello. Who cares?

0:59:43.720 --> 0:59:45.480
<v Speaker 15>And if she's like I don't want to, I'm like

0:59:45.480 --> 0:59:47.760
<v Speaker 15>what if she says you're ugly and a loser, I

0:59:47.760 --> 0:59:49.800
<v Speaker 15>never want to speak to you again. You never see

0:59:49.840 --> 0:59:51.560
<v Speaker 15>her again anyway, But you could be her best friend.

0:59:51.600 --> 0:59:53.840
<v Speaker 15>You could be in her wedding one day. So she

0:59:53.880 --> 0:59:55.600
<v Speaker 15>didn't that day, and she was sad because the girl

0:59:55.680 --> 0:59:57.240
<v Speaker 15>left the beach, and I'm like, you gotta grab it.

0:59:57.640 --> 1:00:01.160
<v Speaker 15>So Adam Sandler walks back in and then and I'm like, Brent,

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<v Speaker 15>I can't.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know what to do. She's like, Mama, go

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<v Speaker 4>get I'm like I can't.

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<v Speaker 15>I can't, Like so he walks back and then he

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<v Speaker 15>comes back out and she walked right up and she

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<v Speaker 15>like landed stuck her landing landed her line. A tear

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<v Speaker 15>came out because he started talking to her, and I

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<v Speaker 15>was like, wait, we got it. So it's like you

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<v Speaker 15>gotta go for it and grab it. People are accessible,

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<v Speaker 15>even Adam Sandler.

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<v Speaker 2>Bethany, you are so not shy, You're so gutsy. What's

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<v Speaker 2>her advice for people who are a little bit more

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<v Speaker 2>just shy when when they're business owners?

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<v Speaker 15>There are people that are introverts that have to put

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<v Speaker 15>it on when they're out, And to be honest, it's

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<v Speaker 15>gonna be scary when you guys hear this. I don't

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<v Speaker 15>go out much. I don't I'm very insular. I don't

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<v Speaker 15>like engage in that much. Like I'm here, I'm fully

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<v Speaker 15>invested in with you guys, but like we're not all

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<v Speaker 15>going to a cocktail party after because my brain will

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<v Speaker 15>explode because I give it all and like I want

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<v Speaker 15>to go get my like fuzzy socks on and my

1:00:59.360 --> 1:01:01.600
<v Speaker 15>lavender pillar that I actually had an Amazon Primes. I

1:01:01.640 --> 1:01:03.920
<v Speaker 15>forgot it and I had toovering a microwave to the

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<v Speaker 15>room because I'm a diva like that about my neck pillow.

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<v Speaker 15>So I think that you have to you gotta grab it.

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<v Speaker 15>My daughter is not a complete extrovert, but like she wanted,

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<v Speaker 15>you want it. You're gonna have to figure out a

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<v Speaker 15>way mustard up in that moment, like you're jumping out

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<v Speaker 15>of that plane. You want Adam Sandler and you want

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<v Speaker 15>that tear to come down your cheek. I can't do

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<v Speaker 15>it for you, babe. You gotta go get it. The

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<v Speaker 15>ring is right there. You gotta grab it, though, So

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<v Speaker 15>like you have to just find your way.

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<v Speaker 4>And also being the loud mouth like me doesn't always

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<v Speaker 4>work out.

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<v Speaker 15>That's not a lot that's not really a winning model

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<v Speaker 15>for many A lot of people really are looking to

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<v Speaker 15>the person that's listening. You know, you can feel someone

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<v Speaker 15>who's really interested or someone who's interesting.

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<v Speaker 4>It doesn't have to be that.

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<v Speaker 17>You know.

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<v Speaker 15>It was funny because that night so many people were saying,

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<v Speaker 15>oh my god, your daughter, and she's so positive, and

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<v Speaker 15>she's so smiling, and she seems so happy, like people can.

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<v Speaker 15>You can be engaging in different ways, and I'm sure

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<v Speaker 15>you just sort of have to find out the way

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<v Speaker 15>that celebrities try to find their pose. I have no idea,

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<v Speaker 15>my secret and I don't know how to pose, but

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<v Speaker 15>people do that. They like look in the mirror and

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<v Speaker 15>figure out their side, their good side through your friends

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<v Speaker 15>and family. Like figure out truthfully and honestly what your

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<v Speaker 15>skill set is. Even if you're an introvert, like what

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<v Speaker 15>you shine at and lead with that. I would say, like, really,

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<v Speaker 15>just figure that out and ask other people.

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<v Speaker 3>We have two huge fans over here.

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<v Speaker 16>What your names and Chanel's t shirts?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, thank you, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 4>Artwork, it's her art, that's beautiful. Thank you really nice.

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<v Speaker 16>Taking your advice and listening to your speech really motivated us.

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<v Speaker 16>And our question is how do we access you and

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<v Speaker 16>pitch to you?

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<v Speaker 4>Take your idea the art? What's your idea?

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<v Speaker 16>Yeah, we have a cosmetic company here in Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 16>I do the artwork on all of the products, and

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<v Speaker 16>our mission is to connect the art and beauty.

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<v Speaker 4>Nice. Yeah, we daughters and artists.

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<v Speaker 5>What's it called Janelica?

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<v Speaker 4>Jenelica?

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<v Speaker 13>What?

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<v Speaker 4>It's a whole line of makeup?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>Who put the money up? I thought you?

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<v Speaker 15>I literally thought, I've been cursing and there are kids

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<v Speaker 15>here and that's your mom. Yes, you guys, I really

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<v Speaker 15>thought there were kids here. I'm like, I'm in so

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<v Speaker 15>much trouble because I asked if I could curse and

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<v Speaker 15>they said, you guys would be cool.

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<v Speaker 4>With cursing, are you It's a weird time to ask.

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<v Speaker 4>Five minutes befoward? Okay, yeah, did you bring the products today?

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<v Speaker 5>No, we brought the fly the studium.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, well wearing products.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, they're wearing the makeup.

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<v Speaker 15>But I know, but I can't rub it off their

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<v Speaker 15>face onto mine. But but I would say, because it's

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<v Speaker 15>happened on a show I was, you can't.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to have that. I have makeup in my car.

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<v Speaker 15>I almost got canceled two weeks ago for having makeup

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<v Speaker 15>in my car because I was giving it away.

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<v Speaker 4>To people at TJ Max.

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<v Speaker 15>But you have to have the makeup with you always,

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<v Speaker 15>like in a little gift bag, like I have literally

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<v Speaker 15>gifts in the back of my car for anyone who's

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<v Speaker 15>nice to me. You knew, did you know you were

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<v Speaker 15>coming to see me today?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, well that's it.

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<v Speaker 15>Well you got to be you're like my daughter with

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<v Speaker 15>that we're here. You could have brought the bag up.

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<v Speaker 15>I would have seen it.

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<v Speaker 4>We would have posted it. So you'll have to send it.

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<v Speaker 15>To us, yes, but being prepared if you have to

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<v Speaker 15>have those products with you at all times, you never

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<v Speaker 15>know who you're going to run into.

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<v Speaker 16>Who went to Shark Tank this season, but you're on

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<v Speaker 16>Shark Tank.

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<v Speaker 5>We went to the casting Oh you.

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<v Speaker 4>Tried to be on okay, but they I think it

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<v Speaker 4>was too weate, it was too late. Did you have

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<v Speaker 4>the products with you there?

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<v Speaker 17>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>You did?

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<v Speaker 15>Okay, Janellica, the name is beautiful. Thank you, really congratulating

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<v Speaker 15>you both looked so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you so much. I appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 8>And one follow up question kind of on the notion

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<v Speaker 8>and not being afraid to kind of go for it.

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<v Speaker 8>So we get a lot of questions from small business

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<v Speaker 8>owners about how to think about content and go on

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<v Speaker 8>social media or they're kind of embarrassed that it's not produced.

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<v Speaker 8>But you've really been clear on this content to the

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<v Speaker 8>people going to move What advice would you I've been

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<v Speaker 8>clear on what sorry like content to the people just

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<v Speaker 8>being like the authentic, getting live, getting in the front

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<v Speaker 8>of people. What advice would you give to people besides

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<v Speaker 8>just do it? When it's kind of thinking about how

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<v Speaker 8>to promote themselves or their businesses on well you.

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<v Speaker 15>Know, it's a very interesting, amazing time now because it

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<v Speaker 15>really is the wild wild West of marketing. I would say,

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<v Speaker 15>for the most part, if you have a small business,

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<v Speaker 15>a publicist would be a waste of money. You could

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<v Speaker 15>be your own publicist, You could be your own marketing team,

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<v Speaker 15>if you have the bandwidth, if you have the I mean,

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<v Speaker 15>if you have the hours in the day, unless you're

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<v Speaker 15>baking all the cookies or whatever the business is. I

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<v Speaker 15>think it's content to the people is really the model.

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<v Speaker 15>I mean, it's so liberating and so freeing to be

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<v Speaker 15>able to if you have something to say, you can

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<v Speaker 15>say it. Just find the same way as you have

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<v Speaker 15>to find your means of connecting and conveying who you are,

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<v Speaker 15>whatever your your strong suit is. I would say, find

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<v Speaker 15>a way to convey and communicate through video, through social media,

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<v Speaker 15>through comedy, through cooking, through makeup videos. I mean, you've

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<v Speaker 15>got it, can click, and it's usually just by not

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<v Speaker 15>trying so hard, like just being yourself, just finding a

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<v Speaker 15>way to be yourself. And if you are insecure, and

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<v Speaker 15>if you are an introvert, talking about that, if you

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<v Speaker 15>are failing and you are struggling, talking about that, when

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<v Speaker 15>you are winning talking about that. I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 15>people want to connect now. And the pandemic was a

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<v Speaker 15>strange time because everybody really got so in got so

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<v Speaker 15>introverted just by nature of I mean last night we

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<v Speaker 15>had a dinner and everyone said.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, oh my god, we're out.

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<v Speaker 15>It's almost like we're still we haven't adjusted back. So

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<v Speaker 15>I feel like people want to connect with each other.

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<v Speaker 15>I'm finding that people want to connect with each other

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<v Speaker 15>a lot. I found that last night, and I was shocked.

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<v Speaker 15>People really want to and everyone wants to talk about

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<v Speaker 15>their business and ideas. So you have to find a

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<v Speaker 15>way to connect and convey. And it's very very powerful

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<v Speaker 15>and no one can stop you, and no one can

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<v Speaker 15>edit you, and no one has to distribute. You don't

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<v Speaker 15>have to watch television and look for those producers to

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<v Speaker 15>call them. I don't need to do that. No matter

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<v Speaker 15>what I want to say, I get to say it.

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<v Speaker 15>And you could say that it's because I already have

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<v Speaker 15>a following, But I started on YouTube with two thousand

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<v Speaker 15>followers a couple of years ago, and that's a whole

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<v Speaker 15>group of other people like I don't. Jennie was talking

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<v Speaker 15>about QVC. That's a different group of people like it's

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<v Speaker 15>just a different audience. There's so many audiences that you

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<v Speaker 15>could find an audience that your friend. You could have

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<v Speaker 15>millions of followers or thousands of followers that your friend

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<v Speaker 15>has no idea what world you're in. That's why it's

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<v Speaker 15>so fascinating. Like, if you're living on YouTube, you're living

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<v Speaker 15>in a different planet. If you're living on beauty Talk,

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<v Speaker 15>you're living in a different planet, food Talk, Instagram, Like,

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<v Speaker 15>it's just so many different choices of how to connect

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<v Speaker 15>and communicate that I think it's really open, but you

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<v Speaker 15>should focus. You can't try to please everybody. If you

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<v Speaker 15>try to please everybody, you'll please nobody.

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<v Speaker 3>We have time for probably two more questions. Hands all right,

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<v Speaker 3>go over here. Hello, what is your name? My name

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<v Speaker 3>is Laura. Hi, Laura. What's your question?

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<v Speaker 17>I wanted to know if you could touch on people

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<v Speaker 17>who maybe want to do something so bad that they

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<v Speaker 17>could come off desperate as opposed to confident, being assertive

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<v Speaker 17>versus being needy when you want things to happen with

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<v Speaker 17>your business.

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<v Speaker 15>It's the same way as it is in dating. If

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<v Speaker 15>you are people can smell the thirst, people can smell

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<v Speaker 15>blood in the water. The person having the most fun

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<v Speaker 15>is the most attractive. The person who's naturally confident. You

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<v Speaker 15>have to find your natural confidence, or just if it's

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<v Speaker 15>like I say about everything, if you don't know what

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<v Speaker 15>to do, sit still so people get can be a

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<v Speaker 15>lot And the best advice is to just take a

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<v Speaker 15>couple of deep breaths and relax and pretend you're in

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<v Speaker 15>a bar, and who do you who would you be?

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<v Speaker 4>Like the person who's.

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<v Speaker 15>Just engaging and having fun and comfortable in their own skin,

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<v Speaker 15>or the person who everybody knows like wants it so badly,

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<v Speaker 15>like you know, whoever you're trying to attract.

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<v Speaker 4>Would they'd be like.

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<v Speaker 15>This bitch wants a ring tonight and I'm scared, you know,

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<v Speaker 15>so I would just chill.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, Yeah, we have one more right over here. Hello,

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<v Speaker 3>not too much. What's your name?

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<v Speaker 4>Mary?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Yes, we talked earlier. Mary. Hello there, Yes, what's

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<v Speaker 3>your question for Bethany?

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<v Speaker 9>Well quick, I just want to make sure that I

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<v Speaker 9>just say your work with be Strong, Doing be Strong

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<v Speaker 9>is the most inspiring thing I've probably ever seen in

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<v Speaker 9>my life, and and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Wanted to make sure someone said it.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, Oh, that's only it's nice.

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<v Speaker 15>We're working where we have a relief effort called be Strong,

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<v Speaker 15>and we work in natural disasters and we did a

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<v Speaker 15>lot in the Ppe crisis, and war is very different

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<v Speaker 15>because there's no end in sight to it, so like

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<v Speaker 15>there's a hurricane. And I know this wasn't your question,

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<v Speaker 15>but I just I'm glad you brought it up because

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<v Speaker 15>it's important time right now where it's great to talk

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<v Speaker 15>about the pumpkin spice latte and TikTok dances, but there

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<v Speaker 15>is a war and it's very divisive and it's very scary,

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<v Speaker 15>and it would be it's like business in the same

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<v Speaker 15>it is not for profit business, but it's as important.

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<v Speaker 4>It's more important than business.

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<v Speaker 15>It's literally life or death and you have to make

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<v Speaker 15>difficult decisions and you have to think about how to

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<v Speaker 15>connect and convey and to write a post about something

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<v Speaker 15>and stay present in it and stay passionate about something

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<v Speaker 15>when every single celebrity is terrified to do so. I mean,

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<v Speaker 15>no one will talk about it. And I know because

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<v Speaker 15>the publicists are saying, shut up, don't say a thing.

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<v Speaker 15>And I'm like that say with thoughts and prayers they

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<v Speaker 15>say it. I'm like, that is baby talk. But it's

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<v Speaker 15>not that easy because you're trying to convey something. You're

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<v Speaker 15>trying to hear every side and you're trying to save lives.

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<v Speaker 15>So it's important for me to talk about what we're doing.

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<v Speaker 15>And it takes a lot of thought. That's when like

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<v Speaker 15>it's as hard as like your business is going under,

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<v Speaker 15>Like you have to hold the steering wheel and not

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<v Speaker 15>hold too tight as you were talking about appearing, but

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<v Speaker 15>you can't let go. You are driving the car and

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<v Speaker 15>you are just trying to, like on a rainy, scary road,

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<v Speaker 15>like control the car but not like go. Like it's

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<v Speaker 15>very hard, and that's what it's been like. But I'm

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<v Speaker 15>sorry that was an interruption to your No, no, it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Not an interruption.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh thank you.

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<v Speaker 9>My question though, is I know you've gone through some

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<v Speaker 9>some tougher times you have followed your career for a

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<v Speaker 9>long time. I'm actually just kind of coming out of

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<v Speaker 9>one myself a couple of years of a really tough

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<v Speaker 9>medical thing, and in that time, I wrote a Christmas

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<v Speaker 9>musical and I'm starting to do better and I'm trying

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<v Speaker 9>to kind of re enter the world again, kind of

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<v Speaker 9>get that moving.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's actually really.

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<v Speaker 9>Hort Like like before I got sick, I was i

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<v Speaker 9>kind of identified with you more. I was very go

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<v Speaker 9>get or very you know, not afraid of anything. But

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<v Speaker 9>it's a little bit a bit harder now. I just

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<v Speaker 9>feel more delicate. And I just don't know if you

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<v Speaker 9>ever dealt with that kind of when you were kind

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<v Speaker 9>of coming out of harder times, if there was things

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<v Speaker 9>that like I don't know, like like mottos or anything

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<v Speaker 9>like that that you had that kind of helped you

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<v Speaker 9>get your like fireback.

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<v Speaker 15>Like I'm glad you asked that because it reminded me

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<v Speaker 15>of something that's really important. Because I am an you know,

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<v Speaker 15>intense passionate person. But the best ideas come. My best

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<v Speaker 15>ideas come between sleep and wake and during times when

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<v Speaker 15>I've been home, like just doing yoga or just relaxing

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<v Speaker 15>or just hanging with my dogs or being with my daughter.

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<v Speaker 15>The ideas come when you allow to relax. So anytime

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<v Speaker 15>someone's going through something, whether they're sick or they had surgery,

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<v Speaker 15>everybody wants to like control the process and like, oh,

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<v Speaker 15>but I can't work out for this long. And I

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<v Speaker 15>always see and this is the this is the real secret.

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<v Speaker 15>That was a scam, that was fake news.

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<v Speaker 4>That other secret. This is the real secret. The real sea.

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<v Speaker 4>I had to work this through with you guys.

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<v Speaker 15>Is that I I when I failed and got knocked

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<v Speaker 15>down so many times when I was when I was

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<v Speaker 15>the runner up on the Apprentice, No, and I didn't

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<v Speaker 15>even make it onto the Apprentice after a week of

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<v Speaker 15>being sequestered, I was always like, knock yourself down and

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<v Speaker 15>brush yourself off. But then I always would be positive

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<v Speaker 15>and make meaning out of the failure or the thing

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<v Speaker 15>or the surgery or the illness, like then I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 15>learn about this, so then this means I'm gonna rest more.

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<v Speaker 15>Then this means my skin's gonna be better because I'm

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<v Speaker 15>not drinking or I'm home breathing and relaxing, like make

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<v Speaker 15>meaning out of what's actually happening, which is really being present.

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<v Speaker 15>And then and that's what the pandemic also did. People

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<v Speaker 15>found instead of panic, like deer in headlights, they shook

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<v Speaker 15>the snow globe up and we're like, where else are

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<v Speaker 15>the fish?

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<v Speaker 4>And this is why the.

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<v Speaker 15>Whole content to the people and why my podcast exploded

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<v Speaker 15>and all because I wasn't like just looking at this

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<v Speaker 15>one thing that had to happen. You know, Stacy's Peeda chips,

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<v Speaker 15>who I bring up all the time was a sandwich cart,

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<v Speaker 15>and they knew that they had to have extra bread

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<v Speaker 15>because that's one thing you can't run out of. They

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<v Speaker 15>could run out of other things, but to make sandwiches, arguably,

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<v Speaker 15>you have to have bread unless you're eating in and

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<v Speaker 15>out burgers and lettuce and then don't calm here, it's nudiculous.

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<v Speaker 15>So because that's not a sandwich. Lettuce and burger is

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<v Speaker 15>not a sand that's not a sandwich. But anyway, we

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<v Speaker 15>could fight that out in the comments. So uh again,

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<v Speaker 15>I forgot I was gonna say it. I was telling

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<v Speaker 15>you a secret. So those are the times when you

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<v Speaker 15>really like, oh so Stacey's. So they ended up making

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<v Speaker 15>the make the bread, the extra bread in the winter

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<v Speaker 15>and to pita chips, and they ended up selling for

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<v Speaker 15>two hundred fifty million dollars because they were looking at

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<v Speaker 15>the sandwiches, but the fish were where the chips are.

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<v Speaker 15>So whatever you're going through, find the fish. Like, you

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<v Speaker 15>don't have to be one hundred percent. You could be

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<v Speaker 15>working smarter, not harder, Like find what this means in

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<v Speaker 15>your life and be present in it and lean into it.

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<v Speaker 15>And you don't need to be who you were before

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<v Speaker 15>the world has changed since before. Anyway, you're who you

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<v Speaker 15>are now, so be present in that and make meaning

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<v Speaker 15>out of it. Like really, when it's a failure, like

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<v Speaker 15>find the yes and the failure, because that's when I

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<v Speaker 15>really thrive. When the ship hits the fan, when we're

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<v Speaker 15>sending thirteen million dollars in Ppe to Cuomo and I

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<v Speaker 15>realized that I think the people are criminals and they're

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<v Speaker 15>scamming us and it's counterfeit Ppe, and I need to

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<v Speaker 15>get myself a diaper deal like Chris Jenner did.

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<v Speaker 4>I Uh.

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<v Speaker 15>I was like, that's when you get like real tight,

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<v Speaker 15>and like that's when you have to solve the problems.

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<v Speaker 15>And that's when you learn when it's like not easy.

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<v Speaker 15>You don't learn when it's going good. You learn when

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<v Speaker 15>it's like, okay, now's a chance to really learn.

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<v Speaker 2>So have they asked you to be a panelists on

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<v Speaker 2>Shark Tank yet?

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<v Speaker 4>I was you were, yeah a couple of times.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, it's been there, done that. Whoops, didn't

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<v Speaker 3>do my research?

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<v Speaker 4>Now, dude, I didn't research you either.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't you are serious?

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<v Speaker 4>Amy didn't tell me I had to.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Well, seriously, you are a legendary boss woman

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<v Speaker 2>and I have been honored to be in your presence

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<v Speaker 2>for this chat. And everybody else backstage, come on out.

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<v Speaker 4>I love this stuff. Thank you so much everybody for coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's gorgeous. I love anything green, obviously, this is

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<v Speaker 2>so pretty.

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<v Speaker 15>Yes, I want this, putting this in my purse. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 15>and I want the picture.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just wanted to wrap this up and say

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<v Speaker 2>thank you to our wonderful guest Jenny Garth, Wells Adams,

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<v Speaker 2>Bethany Frankel, Tyler Loft Syler how to get out of here.

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<v Speaker 3>He had some cooking to do for some other people.

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<v Speaker 15>People Assurance for cooking that giant steak in here. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 15>if this place goes up in flames, I'll be a bed.

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<v Speaker 15>Look for the insurance company.

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<v Speaker 2>From the Hartford Thank you so much for your great

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<v Speaker 2>questions throughout the evening.

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<v Speaker 8>Well, thank you, thank everyone for coming. This is great.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you all of.

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<v Speaker 3>You and everybody watching at home.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you so so much.

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<v Speaker 2>And also thank you to the Hartford Small Business Insurance.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys made this all happen and put out all

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<v Speaker 2>this great and vover all the inspiring and current business

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<v Speaker 2>owners down here in the audience.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you so much, good night, thank you, thanks.

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