Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to this week's episode of
Speaker 1: a Let's Be Real podcast. I'm your host, Sammy J.
Speaker 1: And welcome. This week, I got to chat with the
Speaker 1: incredible Claudia Seluski. She is a YouTube o G. She's
Speaker 1: been on the platform for eleven years. She's done everything
Speaker 1: from vlogs to lifestyle. She's also done some amazing collaborations
Speaker 1: and her newest venture is starring and I Love My Dad,
Speaker 1: which is a movie that just wrapped production a few
Speaker 1: months ago and it hasn't come out, but we talked
Speaker 1: all about that, having a healthy balance with social media, therapy, anxiety, journaling, life,
Speaker 1: her relationship with Phineas, and so much more. I hope
Speaker 1: you guys like this week's episode. Claudia, I'm so thrilled
Speaker 1: that you're in my podcast. First of all, I just
Speaker 1: realized this is like the first time a couple is
Speaker 1: coming on because we had Phineas in season one and
Speaker 1: now you're here in season three. I know, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: I feel like we need to then have a reunion
Speaker 1: where we're all together, the three of us on the
Speaker 1: same conversation. Yeah, we should. And you know what I've
Speaker 1: been I've watched your videos. I sink like five years now,
Speaker 1: so I love your channel. I love the way you
Speaker 1: edit um and you've been on social media for so
Speaker 1: many years, and I know you can relate to this.
Speaker 1: Being on social media at any age can be difficult
Speaker 1: with everything that it's surrounded by. What has it been
Speaker 1: like being on social media for so long, but also
Speaker 1: trying to keep like the same mental health. What's interesting,
Speaker 1: I think is social media changes so much. I feel
Speaker 1: like it kind of didn't really exist when I first
Speaker 1: started making YouTube videos, so I guess thinking about what
Speaker 1: my headspace was and where I thought this was all
Speaker 1: going when it first started versus now is so different
Speaker 1: because when I started YouTube, I'm not sure Instagram really
Speaker 1: existed yet or it had just come into play. TikTok
Speaker 1: didn't exist, and it felt like I think the shift
Speaker 1: was like I treated social media as this thing where
Speaker 1: I'm putting these things out and I am editing cute
Speaker 1: videos and having so much fun in the creation process
Speaker 1: and dumping it somewhere, and now social media has become
Speaker 1: this like bigger beast where you're creating, you are also
Speaker 1: you know, watching and taking in other people's content, and
Speaker 1: you're also communicating. I was talking about this with my
Speaker 1: friend the other day, how like we feel that social
Speaker 1: media breaks are really healthy, right, just just getting off
Speaker 1: Instagram for a few days or whatever. But now there's
Speaker 1: this component where like I have so many people in
Speaker 1: my life that I only DM and that's like our
Speaker 1: source of communication. Interesting, so then what do you do?
Speaker 1: It's like the new text message, it really is. I
Speaker 1: So I just started college, and something I'm realizing is
Speaker 1: everyone they don't ask for your number. They only ask
Speaker 1: for your snapchat, which is so odd to me because
Speaker 1: I just deleted snaptrat Instagram. By the way, I didn't
Speaker 1: delete my accounts. I was just like, I need a break.
Speaker 1: But like it goes to show the people that actually
Speaker 1: care about you will text you definitely, and the people
Speaker 1: that don't really you know, have an interest, will just
Speaker 1: send you random photos and won't even have a conversation.
Speaker 1: It's just it's odd. There is definitely like a difference
Speaker 1: in the platforms. I feel with d m NG exactly
Speaker 1: what you're saying, it's like sharing a photo or commenting
Speaker 1: on something or just giving it a heart, while text
Speaker 1: messaging now is like this commitment where if you've made
Speaker 1: a friend on social media and you exchange numbers, You're like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're going there. It's like a true friendship. And then
Speaker 1: if you go to FaceTime, Oh my goodness, a hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Are you a big facetimer? Do you FaceTime friends every day?
Speaker 1: You know? I think so, because I forget. There's just
Speaker 1: something about it that forces me to be more present,
Speaker 1: because when I'm on the phone and I'm doing something,
Speaker 1: I can so easily be distracted. When I'm looking in
Speaker 1: someone else's face, It's just more personal and I like
Speaker 1: talking to faces instead of just like audio, if that
Speaker 1: makes any sense, What about you? I totally agree. I'm
Speaker 1: such a fan of FaceTime. Phineas is on tour right now,
Speaker 1: so we are constantly facetiming all the time. Although the
Speaker 1: feature of being able to swipe away and still have
Speaker 1: the little person, you know, the little bugs, but it's
Speaker 1: on pause? Is it on pause now? Or can you
Speaker 1: think it is? Because sometimes I'm looking at his face
Speaker 1: and I'm like, you are not, you are not looking,
Speaker 1: You're not, you are not you are reading a text messager.
Speaker 1: So it's when that eye glances Yeah, exactly exactly. Um,
Speaker 1: but I totally agree. I think FaceTime is like the
Speaker 1: optimal prime communication experience. Um. And it's like the closest
Speaker 1: to real life, which is great. And also like I
Speaker 1: mean truly, I feel like I learned this throughout COVID,
Speaker 1: but like everyone is a FaceTime away, and it's crazy
Speaker 1: how connected you can feel after even just like a
Speaker 1: ten minute conversation. It's one button away, put that on
Speaker 1: a shirt. Um. So we love it for that reason.
Speaker 1: But to jump back to like social media and kind
Speaker 1: of maintaining sanity, right and all of that, and I
Speaker 1: think we are just like living in a world where
Speaker 1: we are all sharing our lives, whether you are an influencer, creator, actor,
Speaker 1: you know, whatever is bringing you to social media, or
Speaker 1: if you just mostly like a watch or a listener
Speaker 1: exactly all these things. Um, I don't know, it's tricky.
Speaker 1: I was thinking about this recently about like the contrast
Speaker 1: of like I feel like sometimes we post to feel
Speaker 1: seen or for people to see that we are busy,
Speaker 1: we are doing things, or Hi, look I'm happy and
Speaker 1: I yeah, it's to prove something, yeah, And it's like
Speaker 1: and then there's another version where you know, you you
Speaker 1: have a photo that makes you really happy or you
Speaker 1: are documenting a memory and you want to share it,
Speaker 1: and that's the really pure side of it. It is
Speaker 1: such a double edged sword, and I feel like every
Speaker 1: single day is sort of like a little bit different,
Speaker 1: And um, I think I fall in both categories. I
Speaker 1: think we all do. And yeah, so I don't know
Speaker 1: what the answer is. I'm still figuring that out. I
Speaker 1: think everybody is. But it's hard to when you want
Speaker 1: to post something, but then it's so easy to get
Speaker 1: caught up in the oh my goodness, this didn't get
Speaker 1: any likes. Oh my goodness, I had to delete this.
Speaker 1: Turn off your legs, That's what I did. And you
Speaker 1: just post what you want to post. That's what I say.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to the place I'm trying to
Speaker 1: get to. Have you seen the social Yes, I turned
Speaker 1: off my Instagram and Snapchat notifications since I've watched it,
Speaker 1: and I don't have them on anymore, and I only
Speaker 1: have my like, Gmail and text and that's it. Amazing.
Speaker 1: Same here. I the notification setting that I had on
Speaker 1: before watching that was like anyone who I follow, if
Speaker 1: they comment or like anything, I would see all of it.
Speaker 1: And I just like, do not need to know what
Speaker 1: time someone is liking something like if I am really
Speaker 1: that curious, I can go to the photo and I
Speaker 1: can click on view more under the likes and like, see,
Speaker 1: oh cool, cool cool. I don't need to see the
Speaker 1: moment it's happening, you know, So same here. I'm glad
Speaker 1: that we're all going through that because I feel like
Speaker 1: it's one of those things where I've noticed, just in
Speaker 1: the short time I've been at college, just how much
Speaker 1: time everybody is on their phones, including me. So I'm
Speaker 1: trying to cut back. I'm really in a space right
Speaker 1: now where I'm trying to be the best version of myself,
Speaker 1: where I'm trying to grow. And something I love about
Speaker 1: your channel is you're documenting your whole process. Um, I
Speaker 1: know you've gone into journal journaling, and I'm really trying
Speaker 1: to get into it. What are your tips because I
Speaker 1: have trouble like it's not doing, it's starting to do.
Speaker 1: It's like sitting down designating the time. Does it really help?
Speaker 1: Would you say? Okay? I love it? And honestly, it's
Speaker 1: one of those if you're looking at it as like
Speaker 1: a form of therapy, it is something that can it
Speaker 1: can make you feel different ways, like I think it is. Um,
Speaker 1: it's like untruthful to be like it's going to make
Speaker 1: you feel amazing all the time, because sometimes like the
Speaker 1: times when I really need a journal or when I'm
Speaker 1: at a low point and and then journaling it like
Speaker 1: makes me sadder. But there at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I just like love recording and writing down like where
Speaker 1: I'm at, you know, on a specific day or in
Speaker 1: a specific moment, because I love looking back. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think that's like partially why I've made my YouTube
Speaker 1: channel so personal and and very vlog styles because I
Speaker 1: just love like being able to record these memories. You
Speaker 1: can see your growth as a human, which is awesome.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. It is very trippy to go back on
Speaker 1: videos and see like what I was interested in reading
Speaker 1: and what I'm talking about and the way that I'm speaking, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, we just like change and evolve in
Speaker 1: so many different ways. But I think with journal this
Speaker 1: is what I'll say, um, and I'm like trying to
Speaker 1: do this to myself or for myself with reading right now,
Speaker 1: which is like give yourself smaller hills to climb. So like,
Speaker 1: journaling can definitely feel very intimidating. What do you write
Speaker 1: about how many pages. Like people talk about like do
Speaker 1: morning pages three pages a day. I rarely am journaling
Speaker 1: three pages a day. That is only if I'm like
Speaker 1: on one, I'm like caffeine's running through the veins. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I got so much right. But I think like giving
Speaker 1: yourself um, just like literally the shortest, smallest prompts of
Speaker 1: like one of my favorite things to do is, um,
Speaker 1: let's say it's like at the start of a week,
Speaker 1: I'll just write, I'll write the date, and I'll write
Speaker 1: like more of, less of, and I'll just write more
Speaker 1: of and then just list things that like have brought
Speaker 1: me joy or things that I want to do more
Speaker 1: and then just like less of things that haven't brought
Speaker 1: me joy, you know, less of staying up too late,
Speaker 1: less of you know, whatever it is people pleasing I
Speaker 1: don't know like, And I think giving yourself like a
Speaker 1: few questions like that gives you that format of like
Speaker 1: because sometimes it's you're just like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: to write, and other times I just make a list
Speaker 1: of things that I'm like grateful for, and that puts
Speaker 1: me in a that is definitely like the most rewarding
Speaker 1: I think in the moment, because being grateful, is it
Speaker 1: really just kind of like put things into perspective. Yeah, yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: So I think start like give yourself no expectations on
Speaker 1: like writing pages and pages and pages. That is not
Speaker 1: what it is. I use my journal to write like
Speaker 1: list to do list, like literally anything. Sometimes I draw,
Speaker 1: and I think that's what it's fun, is like dedicating
Speaker 1: a journal to literally dumping whatever you want in it.
Speaker 1: I think also like my like perfectionism wants me to
Speaker 1: like stay in theme with what I am writing, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, well right, You're like, well, if I'm
Speaker 1: going to draw on this journal, then I'm gonna have
Speaker 1: a separate journal for the draw. And it's like you
Speaker 1: just have to release that and be like like I
Speaker 1: literally have my drawl right here. I'm like, this girly
Speaker 1: has everything in it. And the way that I organize
Speaker 1: it in my brain is I'm like, this is my girly.
Speaker 1: Love that, and she stays with me and I write
Speaker 1: whatever I want in it. And I think releasing that
Speaker 1: sort of feeling of like needing to organize really kind
Speaker 1: of like sets you for you a little bit, I know,
Speaker 1: And I think I honestly think we have a lot
Speaker 1: in common because I know you did a whole video
Speaker 1: about being in a funk, and girl, do I relate
Speaker 1: to that because I don't know if it's a combination
Speaker 1: of just like being in a pandemic for a year
Speaker 1: and a half or like just growing as a human.
Speaker 1: But you want to better yourself, but sometimes like I
Speaker 1: saw your video and I related to it and just
Speaker 1: like I feel like I want to get a bunch done,
Speaker 1: but then I don't. I feel worse if I don't. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean that all falls into like giving yourself the
Speaker 1: smaller like hills to climb. I think, Um, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's really tricky, Like I'm I'm personally coming into understanding
Speaker 1: that I for so long have like based my value
Speaker 1: and worth on my productivity. Um, I don't know where
Speaker 1: that came into play with my childhood, but that's certainly
Speaker 1: where I found most worth. And I'm like kind of
Speaker 1: re um, I don't know, I'm like trying to rewire
Speaker 1: in myself and be like no, no, no, that's so
Speaker 1: incredible though that you're doing that. Yeah, And it's I
Speaker 1: think we're just like in this time of life where
Speaker 1: like hustle culture is just like very you know, it's
Speaker 1: seen as like that you are you are killing it,
Speaker 1: if you are busy, if you are productive, if you're
Speaker 1: doing a million things. But I think like finding joy
Speaker 1: and just like doing things for yourself and just letting
Speaker 1: yourself relax, like that's really important, and I for so
Speaker 1: long would feel so guilty about it, or like if
Speaker 1: I have slower periods in life, I'm like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I'm not doing enough. Oh my gosh. And it's like
Speaker 1: always just like remembering to give yourself the perspective of
Speaker 1: just like if things are feeling slower or if things
Speaker 1: are feeling less chaotic, like eventually things will pick back
Speaker 1: up for a season of life and you will look
Speaker 1: back and be like, oh my gosh, I had all
Speaker 1: the time to like get into all those books I
Speaker 1: told myself I was going to read. I had all
Speaker 1: the time to like focus on, uh, doing hikes or
Speaker 1: like whatever. I think. It's just it's like so perspective
Speaker 1: and that's what I'm telling myself. And I think we're
Speaker 1: all experiencing a lot of that, definitely through COVID. I
Speaker 1: think like COVID forced a lot of us to look
Speaker 1: inward and now that we're in this like in between
Speaker 1: where things are opening back up and we're like re
Speaker 1: establishing our relationship to like balancing life. Yeah exactly. Um,
Speaker 1: Like I personally have been like going really crazy on
Speaker 1: like socializing. I'm trying to get I think I'm trying
Speaker 1: to repay all the lost time. And you know that's
Speaker 1: tricky too, because sometimes you just need it yourself. It's
Speaker 1: listening to like your body and what you need, which
Speaker 1: it can be really hard. And I think social media
Speaker 1: exacerbates the household culture because you see everybody coming out
Speaker 1: with a new line or new this or knew then
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, sometimes you just need time for
Speaker 1: yourself to grow. And that's just as productive I feel like.
Speaker 1: And that's to be reminded of a And I think also,
Speaker 1: like back to what I was saying about, like feeling
Speaker 1: the need to post on social media to feel seen
Speaker 1: by others. It's like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: if you are not genuinely happy and feeling just present
Speaker 1: and grateful and fulfilled in all those things, like that
Speaker 1: is where the source should be coming from. Those are
Speaker 1: the questions for yourself to be answering for yourself, not
Speaker 1: for others, you know what I mean. Absolutely, I'm a
Speaker 1: big proponent of therapy. I've been in therapy since I
Speaker 1: was like on and off there was like eight that's amazing,
Speaker 1: and I am so grateful for that because I've learned
Speaker 1: so much about myself and how I grow. You talked
Speaker 1: about the therapy where you put these like electros on
Speaker 1: your Can you please tell me more about this cause
Speaker 1: I'm very curious. I literally just came home from an appointment,
Speaker 1: like I just had it done this morning. Okay, wait,
Speaker 1: please explain. So Okay, So it's called neurofeedback, and it
Speaker 1: is something that like is becoming more widely known, but
Speaker 1: I certainly I have never heard of it, and it's
Speaker 1: sort of you hear it and you're like this little
Speaker 1: life hack, like this sounds like kind of life hack
Speaker 1: right here? It really does, it really does. So I
Speaker 1: got introduced to it through Phineas because his therapist like
Speaker 1: specializes in it. But there's I guess there are therapists
Speaker 1: all around that do it. Like it's definitely becoming more
Speaker 1: and more popular. But basically neuro feedback, there's like two
Speaker 1: stages of it. The first one is they're like taking
Speaker 1: all these little electro things and sticking them all around
Speaker 1: your head because like basically you're different parts of your
Speaker 1: brain obviously are in different locations, and so she kind
Speaker 1: of she's very specific about where she puts everything, because
Speaker 1: every part has a different purpose. And the first thing
Speaker 1: that she does, I'm saying she because his therapists woman,
Speaker 1: and she UM essentially like sends off a very low frequency.
Speaker 1: And at first I was like, this is us. This
Speaker 1: is scary. This does not sound uh safe, but it's
Speaker 1: actually like the amount of UM doesn't our computers exactly exactly,
Speaker 1: and like so the wavelengths that it's sending are so
Speaker 1: low they are like I forgot the the actual number,
Speaker 1: but it is the smallest fraction of what like literally
Speaker 1: these headphones are emitting or a cell phone, and it's
Speaker 1: so low that your brain is able to pick up
Speaker 1: and read on it because all the other devices around
Speaker 1: us are so high that our brain is like no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: we're not at that speed, so we don't care about that.
Speaker 1: So it's low enough for your brain to actually interact
Speaker 1: with the waves. And so like the first the first
Speaker 1: few sessions of it, she's like emitting a very low
Speaker 1: frequency just to see what the brain is sending off,
Speaker 1: and so it catches the size of the wavelengths and
Speaker 1: the speed, which basically shows, um, how how developed you
Speaker 1: are in those areas, and then how hard you're working
Speaker 1: in those areas. And so you're like fully having a
Speaker 1: graph displayed in front of you showing you what areas
Speaker 1: of your brain are least developed. And so in that case,
Speaker 1: it would be like suppression. Um so where like your
Speaker 1: brain has decided, oh, I don't really need to develop
Speaker 1: this area. So for me, like just sort of with
Speaker 1: my childhood and my environment, like, for example, my emotional
Speaker 1: suppression is like the smallest little sliver because at some
Speaker 1: point in my formative years I told myself, I don't
Speaker 1: I need to take after others and not be so
Speaker 1: concerned with my emotions. My emotions don't matter, and so
Speaker 1: my emotional suppression is like this tiny little sliver and
Speaker 1: it's it's wild to see it. It's validating, but it's
Speaker 1: also like, yeah, validates everything you think. It totally does.
Speaker 1: And it's interesting because then like the analytical and critical
Speaker 1: side of my brain was like super super high. If anything,
Speaker 1: it was like hypo suppressed, which was like over the standard,
Speaker 1: so it was like blue. Everything else is like super
Speaker 1: Origin small, super blue. So um. Basically, she explained like, oh,
Speaker 1: you are doing a lot of your emotional processing through
Speaker 1: the critical side of your brain, because you're essentially telling
Speaker 1: yourself how you should be feeling about things. And I
Speaker 1: was like, yes, I do that. I'm always talking myself
Speaker 1: into how I should be feeling about things. So once
Speaker 1: she does all of that, you like learn all of it.
Speaker 1: And now I'm in this process where she's starting to
Speaker 1: tweak the frequencies because essentially, like there is a healthy
Speaker 1: frequency at which your brain should be operating at and um.
Speaker 1: Essentially like she sends it off and then your brain
Speaker 1: listens to that and it decides like, oh I like
Speaker 1: this more, so I'm gonna I'm gonna match this. And eventually,
Speaker 1: if you do it enough, your brain will learn like,
Speaker 1: oh I really like this this speed and I like
Speaker 1: this wavelength. And so what it's eventually supposed to do
Speaker 1: is just sort of like help rewire your brain and
Speaker 1: help remind your brain that it doesn't need to suppress
Speaker 1: these different areas. And what's crazy about it too, is
Speaker 1: like it has helped cure so many different conditions and diseases,
Speaker 1: Like she's had patients that can hear better, or like, um,
Speaker 1: someone used to one of her patients like used to
Speaker 1: know Chinese and like completely forgot it because she blacked
Speaker 1: out her childhood and then one day she woke up
Speaker 1: and like remembered the entire language. It's like, I can
Speaker 1: speak Chinese again. So it's like kind of going into
Speaker 1: your subconscious a little bit. Yeah, Like it's it definitely.
Speaker 1: It's not like creating any superpowers for you, but if
Speaker 1: there's anything that your brain has chosen to hold back,
Speaker 1: like it can help open that door again and be
Speaker 1: like hey, it's okay to you know, like access this again.
Speaker 1: It's really crazy. And so it's it's like helped people
Speaker 1: with memory or yeah, any hearing loss or like site, Um,
Speaker 1: I have really bad um like selective hearing. And I'm
Speaker 1: that's the thing that I am hoping. Like sometimes like
Speaker 1: Phineas and I will just be hanging out and we'll
Speaker 1: be having a full bown conversation. In the middle of
Speaker 1: the sentence, I'm like, oh my god, I have no
Speaker 1: idea what he's talking about. I don't know what what
Speaker 1: why that's happening. But I that is the thing that
Speaker 1: I'm hoping that I can relate to that because so
Speaker 1: I have my learning disabilities processing, so I have dealt
Speaker 1: without my entire life. So I feel you on that.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. It's very frustrating because I'm often having
Speaker 1: to ask people to repeat themselves. And it's not that
Speaker 1: you're not listening. It's just that your brain genuinely can't
Speaker 1: take in the information and process it. But it's like
Speaker 1: you here be you can't process it, yes, all the time,
Speaker 1: and like or I'll hear someone say a word and
Speaker 1: I'm like and I'll be like, wait, did you just
Speaker 1: say blah blah blah? And it isn't an English word
Speaker 1: at all, and they're like, what how did you get
Speaker 1: that from that? Like, I don't know. I feel you
Speaker 1: on that. Okay, we have to take a quick break,
Speaker 1: but when we come back, I want to talk about
Speaker 1: your hobbies outside of acting in YouTube, what you love
Speaker 1: about storytelling, your relationship with Phineas, and so much more.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back and we're back. Something that I've like,
Speaker 1: try to find his outlets to um turning shitty situations
Speaker 1: into something art Like that's how this podcast came about
Speaker 1: came out from my anxiety. Um so that's what I've
Speaker 1: been trying to do. But do you have I know
Speaker 1: you paint. I know you have a bunch of hobbies.
Speaker 1: Is there a hobby during quarantine that you picked up?
Speaker 1: Oh hobby that Oh my gosh. I feel like not
Speaker 1: even specifically like painting creatively, but I did a lot
Speaker 1: of like wall painting the COVID, Like I I decided
Speaker 1: that I wanted to like paint my entire office and
Speaker 1: painting an entire room wout as an individual, and also
Speaker 1: like I think the reason why I didn't want to
Speaker 1: hire anyone to do it because I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't want to take the furniture out and like covering
Speaker 1: and cover it all up like I can do it
Speaker 1: wall by wall, and um I just like d I
Speaker 1: Y queen a d I Y queen. And it was,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it took so long, but also I
Speaker 1: found like so much peace in it, like just when
Speaker 1: you go all out and you get like the big
Speaker 1: roller and like the pan and you're just like it's
Speaker 1: also a workout too. So weirdly enough, I found myself
Speaker 1: painting a lot of walls during COVID. I like also
Speaker 1: painted my bathroom and now I'm thinking of painting our
Speaker 1: master bathroom. I have like the paint can like sitting
Speaker 1: there staring at me every day, and I'm like, what
Speaker 1: if I just cracked it open? But if I just no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I should hire someone. I should just hire someone. But
Speaker 1: what if I just did it myself? Mean what you
Speaker 1: should do? Then? While I was painting what I got
Speaker 1: obsessed with Bob Ross for the pandemic, And of course
Speaker 1: I watched his videos to call asleep. But if you
Speaker 1: go to Bob Ross Incorporated his like website, you can
Speaker 1: buy all his paints, his brushes, his canvases, everything. And
Speaker 1: then what I would do is I'd watch Bob rossors
Speaker 1: and paint with him. Huh. And I actually they came
Speaker 1: out well, like really well, and you use his paints everything.
Speaker 1: But I saw a YouTube video where a girl did
Speaker 1: a Bob Ross painting on a wall, which could be
Speaker 1: fun to do. I saw that, I know, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: that I wish I had the I think for me,
Speaker 1: like I would just feel like that's that's too much
Speaker 1: happening on one wall, Like I like things like so
Speaker 1: clean and minimalistics, or I'll just get the Barbara us
Speaker 1: like kit and paint girl. It's great that Yeah, that
Speaker 1: is really that is like really really good information to know.
Speaker 1: I feel like going into paint vers is very inating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're like acrylic versus oil, satin versus shine versus
Speaker 1: matt and you're just like where do I begin? Yeah.
Speaker 1: And also I'm a perfectionist, so like whenever I get
Speaker 1: stressed about doing a painting, Bob Ross was like, there's
Speaker 1: no mistakes, only happy accidents, and I was like, thanks, Bob.
Speaker 1: He was really calming me down when I was painting. Wow,
Speaker 1: I should really. I feel like I've never like dove
Speaker 1: into that world, but do it. It's so clear. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so clear that it's like only a low risk,
Speaker 1: high reward like experience because they come out beautiful. And
Speaker 1: I've seen like YouTubers do like, yeah, let me see
Speaker 1: your let me see your paintings. I feel like I've
Speaker 1: seen so many YouTubers like painting to Bob Ross and
Speaker 1: it comes out almost exactly to what Keep in mind,
Speaker 1: I'm not a painter. Okay, so this is without having
Speaker 1: ever really painted. This is okay, So this was this
Speaker 1: is for my senior thing. We were drawing on the sidewalk. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I drew this was my first one I ever did.
Speaker 1: It wasn't on the canvas boos that on this sidewalk.
Speaker 1: If you can kind of see stunning the classic trees,
Speaker 1: the classic and that was just with charcoal. That was
Speaker 1: with charcoal. That's crazy. Bob ros is a great teacher. Wow.
Speaker 1: So you were just like following everything but with charcoal.
Speaker 1: Does he have charcoal tutorials? No? I was just kind
Speaker 1: of figuring it out as I went because I need
Speaker 1: something to like drive my brain. Sometimes I find it
Speaker 1: very helpful. Oh my gosh. Well, I'm going to look
Speaker 1: into his website. I mean, Bob Bars not sponsored, but
Speaker 1: Bob Bras. I love you, we love you. Another weird
Speaker 1: parallel we have is that you moved to l A
Speaker 1: when you're eighteen. I just moved here from New York
Speaker 1: and nineteen. And I know you used to do like
Speaker 1: red carpet stuff for Team Vogue. I did that for
Speaker 1: Radio Disney. So I feel like we have this weird
Speaker 1: like similar like parallels happening, parallels happening definitely. And something
Speaker 1: that I've always been really inspired by your videos is
Speaker 1: just how driven you are in your work ethic and
Speaker 1: just getting stuff done because what people don't realize is
Speaker 1: they just see the finished product, but how much work
Speaker 1: it takes into just creating a video. You know, it's
Speaker 1: coming up with the concept, it's producing it, it's editing,
Speaker 1: it's being in it. What is the process like to
Speaker 1: stay so driven and not not loose sight of like
Speaker 1: your end goal because it can be hard when you
Speaker 1: see like fourteen year olds making millions of dollars from
Speaker 1: just doing these dances on TikTok. Definitely, I think like
Speaker 1: that was the evolution of YouTube that none of us
Speaker 1: could really um anticipate for anyone that started way back
Speaker 1: in the day. Because you're an o G. I feel
Speaker 1: like and I feel like right around the time I
Speaker 1: moved out was when we really started seeing like viral
Speaker 1: videos were definitely a thing. Like I think that's like
Speaker 1: what started YouTube, Like the man there was like a
Speaker 1: video at the zoo or something like, but specifically like
Speaker 1: the clickbait culture and like the explosions and like like
Speaker 1: when all of that sort of came into play. I
Speaker 1: think for me because when I when I started YouTube,
Speaker 1: it came from such an authentic place of just like
Speaker 1: this is so fun. For me, this is fascinating, Um,
Speaker 1: I want to do this for fun. Like, I think
Speaker 1: a huge part of me held onto that. I definitely
Speaker 1: understood that it had become my job and I had
Speaker 1: to there were responsibilities with that and taking it seriously,
Speaker 1: but also like, yeah, I think when I started seeing
Speaker 1: that shift, it never felt authentic and like sometimes honestly
Speaker 1: look back and I'm like, damn, maybe I maybe I
Speaker 1: should have jumped on like some of those trends right
Speaker 1: just in terms of like the types of videos that
Speaker 1: we're doing really well or everyone was collaborating, and I
Speaker 1: was always like, that's not you exactly at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, like it's so clear that I didn't
Speaker 1: have interest in it, And looking back at it now,
Speaker 1: I guess like I look at all my videos and like,
Speaker 1: of course I'm younger, and so there's embarrassment in that,
Speaker 1: but like, genuinely, I'm so proud of everything that I've made,
Speaker 1: and I think like holding onto that, I guess like
Speaker 1: integrity for for lack of a less dramatic word, it
Speaker 1: it's like allowed me to be really proud of my
Speaker 1: YouTube videos and be proud of the platform. And I
Speaker 1: think that's helped to maintain this uh like healthy relationship
Speaker 1: that I have with it now where it doesn't feel
Speaker 1: like gimmicky or slimy or like any of these sorts
Speaker 1: of things. You know, and like strictly from a viewer perspective,
Speaker 1: it comes across because you can go through any of
Speaker 1: your videos and you see the common theme, which is
Speaker 1: just you. It's it's you could tell it's not trying
Speaker 1: to be anybody else, and that's refreshing, especially in the
Speaker 1: world where everything is so saturated with the exact same thing.
Speaker 1: So I think it's so great what you're doing. What
Speaker 1: do you love about storytelling? Oh? Um, the thing that
Speaker 1: oh gosh, I mean honestly, like this is where I
Speaker 1: geek out. I feel like I love every single different
Speaker 1: component coming together. I feel that, I think because I
Speaker 1: I really I really like I see myself as an
Speaker 1: editor first, because I just love the editing process, because
Speaker 1: I feel like that is like that is like the
Speaker 1: moment where you're the chef in the kitchen and you're
Speaker 1: like adding and piecing everything together, putting the story together exactly.
Speaker 1: And I often I'll hear sometimes like I'll just go
Speaker 1: through like different because we have to use world two
Speaker 1: free music. I'll go through like world two free websites
Speaker 1: or whatever SoundCloud and I will like find a song.
Speaker 1: This was my process back in the day when I
Speaker 1: made like a lot of look books where I'd find
Speaker 1: a song and I did envision like what I could
Speaker 1: see with it, and then shoot based on the song. Um. Nowadays,
Speaker 1: because my content is more like just personal, I'll kind
Speaker 1: of like cut everything together, find something that feels harmonious,
Speaker 1: like with the footage, and then just like play around
Speaker 1: from there and like cut to the beat and then
Speaker 1: like give every every video a theme and all this stuff.
Speaker 1: And now it's like getting into like acting more and
Speaker 1: stuff Like I find myself like getting so excited about
Speaker 1: that because it's like on this bigger scale with like
Speaker 1: the project I just shot. I'd be like, you know,
Speaker 1: you should really have like this sort of song with this,
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh my god, you're so right and
Speaker 1: so collaboration, you know what, as a YouTube as someone
Speaker 1: who's been yes, you're doing everything alone, and that has
Speaker 1: been like the most I just I love working with people.
Speaker 1: It is really fun to allow yourself to like trust
Speaker 1: others and work on one thing together because get off
Speaker 1: each other totally, totally. It's so refreshing. I think like
Speaker 1: that is definitely what's keeping me, I guess like motivated
Speaker 1: these days and inspired and excited, because if you're yeah,
Speaker 1: it sometimes can feel very like isolating, kind of bouncing
Speaker 1: ideas only with yourself. Um, and I feel like I've
Speaker 1: definitely sometimes I'm like, Okay, well, I could be sitting
Speaker 1: down with friends and like brain storming videos together and stuff.
Speaker 1: But I think when you're just so used to being
Speaker 1: able to rely on yourself for so long, you get
Speaker 1: stuck in that. So it's it's nice to be forced
Speaker 1: to like collaborate and like work with the community of
Speaker 1: people and stuff. And I'm very excited about this film.
Speaker 1: I love my dad because thank you. First of all,
Speaker 1: what people don't realize that I tried to spread I
Speaker 1: have a bunch of friends or actors. Auditioning is the
Speaker 1: full time job in itself, and then if you get
Speaker 1: booked in my brain, but I feel like people, I
Speaker 1: feel like I need to preface that because well, what
Speaker 1: would you say your ratio it's per auditions? How many?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, well okay, truly, I don't even know
Speaker 1: what the ratio would be, but I can I can
Speaker 1: confirm that I've been on like thousands of auditions. It
Speaker 1: is so that whole process is so wild, and you really,
Speaker 1: like I feel like in order to stay we're talking
Speaker 1: about like the sanity of social media. Meanwhile, with auditions,
Speaker 1: that is the bigger beast that I'm trying to tackle,
Speaker 1: and I think it's like it's really I feel very
Speaker 1: fortunate in the fact that, like, I have many different
Speaker 1: things going on, and so I try every time I
Speaker 1: go into an audition for room or if I'm prepping
Speaker 1: for like a self tape, just reminding myself to have fun.
Speaker 1: I think it is so easy to sense that in
Speaker 1: a room, and I genuinely feel like the projects that
Speaker 1: I have booked were the projects that I've gone like
Speaker 1: super far along the process, are the ones where I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have fun. I'm never going to get this,
Speaker 1: you know. And having that approach really helps with the
Speaker 1: constant rejection because that is just the industry that it is,
Speaker 1: and there are so many people going out for the
Speaker 1: same role, and there are so many factors that are
Speaker 1: like outside of yourself, that are not in your control,
Speaker 1: so not about you, and it's so hard to realize
Speaker 1: that too, I know a hundred percent. And it's like,
Speaker 1: so it's it's tricky, It's yeah, there are lots of
Speaker 1: auditions all the time, lots of many many many, um
Speaker 1: and and yeah that is just a part of it
Speaker 1: and accepting that and just being game. I think also,
Speaker 1: like you know, we're talking about how perspective is everything.
Speaker 1: I think too for anyone that is like trying to
Speaker 1: get into acting and um, wanting to take it seriously
Speaker 1: and everything. I think also like looking at every audition
Speaker 1: as an opportunity to show face in front of a
Speaker 1: new casting director or like I just meeting people if
Speaker 1: a thing a hundred percent, and I think like things
Speaker 1: always come full circle. There have been so many moments
Speaker 1: where like there's a project that I that I've recently
Speaker 1: been attached to, I can't realize anything about it because
Speaker 1: I'm like crossing my fingers that it happens. But they
Speaker 1: will manifest manifest. But they had seen like older tapes
Speaker 1: of mind that furroles I never booked, but they were like,
Speaker 1: I loved your tape for this specific thing, and and
Speaker 1: that's how we knew you were the right person for that.
Speaker 1: And so you just never know where your efforts are
Speaker 1: like really going to come back in your direction, you know,
Speaker 1: and it's it's really hard to feel like you're at
Speaker 1: least I feel this way where like you're behind. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we had Wayne Brady on he was that he
Speaker 1: kicked off the season three and he said, um, you're
Speaker 1: right where you're supposed to be. You're not ahead of anyone,
Speaker 1: You're not behind. And that's something that I'm constantly having
Speaker 1: to tell myself because it's so eat. We're in a
Speaker 1: world where it's so easy to compare yourself and especially
Speaker 1: with social immediate and I think if we all just
Speaker 1: realize that we're all on our own path, there's room
Speaker 1: for everybody. Yep, there shouldn't be any competition because we're
Speaker 1: all on our own journey. And also to add to that,
Speaker 1: like don't compare your chapter one to someone's like chapter twenty.
Speaker 1: I think like, especially in the beginning, I used to
Speaker 1: totally look up to like different actresses and think like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I wish I was booking these sorts
Speaker 1: of roles and stuff. And then I look back at
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, they've been acting since they were five,
Speaker 1: and I have been acting for only five years, you know,
Speaker 1: and and remembering that as well, that it's like a dent.
Speaker 1: Everyone is on their own path. Everyone is on a
Speaker 1: different part, in a different chapter of their journey. And like,
Speaker 1: I think you're totally right that there's room for everyone.
Speaker 1: I just in terms of like content opportunities, platforms, mediums,
Speaker 1: like we are at a time where there is so
Speaker 1: much of it, truly, and um, I think that it's great.
Speaker 1: It's very very fruitful and I and it's really encouraging
Speaker 1: because there's, yeah, there's just like so much happening. Okay, Claudia,
Speaker 1: we have to take one more quick break, but when
Speaker 1: we come back, I want to talk to about the
Speaker 1: difference between working alone, like creating YouTube content versus being
Speaker 1: in a movie and working with production teams and having
Speaker 1: that collaborative process Phineas and so much more. While we're
Speaker 1: right back and we're back, we're also living in a
Speaker 1: world where instant gratification is everything. Post you get the
Speaker 1: instant gratification of likes, but when you're working on a
Speaker 1: movie or developing these projects that won't see the light
Speaker 1: of day for a long time, oh my gosh, you
Speaker 1: really have to like practice patients a what has that
Speaker 1: been like for you because you can just post a
Speaker 1: video and then get that instant gratification. But I love,
Speaker 1: I Love My Dad doesn't even have a set release
Speaker 1: date yet, I know it is. Yeah, that is one
Speaker 1: of you know what I think, Um, I think having
Speaker 1: patience for those things. And I often feel like the
Speaker 1: things that take the most time like they're taking the
Speaker 1: most time for a reason. I mean, of course, like
Speaker 1: a YouTube video versus a feature film very different, and
Speaker 1: I think it's just a little bit different. Um, And
Speaker 1: I think like it just it's a sign of like
Speaker 1: how precious it helps. It's exciting, like just having this
Speaker 1: build up because it's it's helping me just like continue
Speaker 1: to appreciate the opportunity and what it is and and
Speaker 1: hopefully what it becomes and what people's reaction will will
Speaker 1: be to it. And I feel like, like, don't you
Speaker 1: sort of feel like in terms of the immediate gratification.
Speaker 1: So there's like posting a photo maybe one of the
Speaker 1: easiest things you can really do right, and you get
Speaker 1: it immediately, and then it's like a YouTube video or
Speaker 1: a pot cast episode, there's like a little bit more
Speaker 1: time and there's a little bit more time into the
Speaker 1: editing and then the release of it and then okay, great,
Speaker 1: now it's here, and it's like, so I don't know,
Speaker 1: I feel like the things that take a long time, Um,
Speaker 1: it's instant gratification kind of goes away because you're kind
Speaker 1: of like okay and just put it out, Like that's
Speaker 1: how I feel at this point. Yeah, and totally and
Speaker 1: like also, don't you feel like with the things that
Speaker 1: do give you immediate gratification you get over it sooner
Speaker 1: because you got it so fast, you know, you're like
Speaker 1: all right, onto the next That's a really good point, Claudia,
Speaker 1: because I'm thinking about it, and I got the most satisfaction.
Speaker 1: The most satisfaction was when we launched season one because
Speaker 1: that was the most length of time it took. My goodness,
Speaker 1: I haven't thought of that. It's sort of like works
Speaker 1: both ways, like it'll it takes the most time leading
Speaker 1: up to it and then like just keeps you so
Speaker 1: fulfilled and like grateful for it also just continuing on
Speaker 1: past its life, you know, like like an album for example, right,
Speaker 1: like it'll take a couple of years to produce, but
Speaker 1: then the shell life is years and years, if not decades,
Speaker 1: which is so great with that. Yeah, what would you say,
Speaker 1: the best piece of advice you've received, Oh, the best
Speaker 1: piece of advice I've ever received. Um, I think like
Speaker 1: the reoccurring theme that I'm having for myself right now,
Speaker 1: or like what I'm reminding myself. And I definitely hurt somewhere.
Speaker 1: I don't know by who, but it's like, at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, all you have is you, like you,
Speaker 1: You are there when you are born, you are there
Speaker 1: every single day with yourself. You are there to the
Speaker 1: end of your days. And I think, like that's really
Speaker 1: important because I find that I like often lose myself
Speaker 1: in my environment and my surroundings, like whoever I'm talking
Speaker 1: to or you know, my relationship or my friendships, like
Speaker 1: I often give so much of I'm a big people
Speaker 1: pleaser and I'm working on it and it's gotten way better. Girl.
Speaker 1: I feel that. See, I knew we had a lot
Speaker 1: in comment. I just knew it. I know we're like
Speaker 1: unveiling all the onions. Layers are unpeeling, I know, and
Speaker 1: I so I just feel that I often lose myself
Speaker 1: and sort of give up all these self sacrifices in
Speaker 1: order to make sure everyone around me is comfortable and
Speaker 1: like that is definitely a great quality to have, but
Speaker 1: knowing where your limit is, um, it's really important. Like
Speaker 1: my therapist, Uh, this is like a few months ago,
Speaker 1: but it just hit me so hard. I one time
Speaker 1: like flipped a question to her and I was like,
Speaker 1: if you're stuck in a position where you know you're
Speaker 1: going to disappoint someone or you can just sort of
Speaker 1: disappoint yourself by like you know, pleasing them, Like, are
Speaker 1: you always choosing to disappoint the other person? And she
Speaker 1: was like, and I was like really like even like
Speaker 1: I know, I'm like, but what if it's like a
Speaker 1: really big deal for the person, Like it, let's say
Speaker 1: it's their birthday or whatever, and you just don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of energy, But it's fine, you can suck
Speaker 1: it up, and you can. And she's like, if you
Speaker 1: keep this pointing yourself, eventually you will just disappoint everyone.
Speaker 1: And that's stuck with me because rights like if you
Speaker 1: keep just giving and giving your time and your energy,
Speaker 1: if you don't give yourself the time to like fuel
Speaker 1: up and and have be full enough to be able
Speaker 1: to give, Like there's a big difference between giving and pleasing.
Speaker 1: Pleasing is like an I lose you in situation because
Speaker 1: I am taking from essentially like just there's nothing of me,
Speaker 1: Like I am just taking pieces of me because there
Speaker 1: is nothing extra in there too. And then on the
Speaker 1: other side of it, giving is like when you have
Speaker 1: enough to share, and it's an eye win you in situation.
Speaker 1: And so I think that is really important, Like our
Speaker 1: relationship with ourselves and what we're saying to ourselves literally
Speaker 1: like affects the way that we are seeing everything and
Speaker 1: like interpreting everything a hundred per scent. And I think that, like,
Speaker 1: I think that is my answer, my very long answer
Speaker 1: to your question, because it impacts like every aspect of life.
Speaker 1: Would you say, now that Phineas is on tour, you're
Speaker 1: having some time to just reflect because I know, I'm
Speaker 1: sure you're going to go to some tour dates, but
Speaker 1: that's that's a whole other thing, because I'm sure you
Speaker 1: want to go to as many shows as you can
Speaker 1: and be a supportive partner and all that, but at
Speaker 1: the same time, I got to focus on you. So
Speaker 1: this tour kind of it's really perfect how it's laid out.
Speaker 1: So I've had like roughly this whole week without him, which,
Speaker 1: like you know, in the moment when you're saying goodbye,
Speaker 1: you're so sad and you're like, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna miss you just since makes the heart grow fonder,
Speaker 1: though exactly, it is so important to have that balance,
Speaker 1: and so I have been high key loving and vibing. Yes,
Speaker 1: having the house to myself, been loving it, just like
Speaker 1: even in terms of like choosing, Wow, what breakfast I
Speaker 1: want to eat? Choosing will show you want to watch?
Speaker 1: We'll show I want to watch, what time I want
Speaker 1: to walk the dog, you know, all these little things
Speaker 1: that usually are very communal decisions for us. Um So
Speaker 1: that has been really fun. And then next week I'm
Speaker 1: flying to Chicago for the Chicago Show since my parents
Speaker 1: lived there, and then after that I have another week
Speaker 1: to myself, which I'm excited about as well. It's like
Speaker 1: the perfect amount of like, yeah, what has it been
Speaker 1: like having such a public relationship. So that's a that's
Speaker 1: a beast in itself, I know, it really is. And
Speaker 1: I truly feel like we got so lucky with each
Speaker 1: other because we were kind of we're talking about this
Speaker 1: the other day and saying, like, it's pretty wild that
Speaker 1: we are both are feeling about like being public about dating,
Speaker 1: Like we're so happy that we're on the same page
Speaker 1: with it. Um, you know, because we have certain friends
Speaker 1: that are in relationships and you just like didn't even
Speaker 1: tell online, which is which is totally fine because it's
Speaker 1: up to personal preference. And I just I think we're
Speaker 1: both like thank God that we are in a great,
Speaker 1: healthy place. And I think at this point too, it's
Speaker 1: like the relationship always comes first. I think that's really
Speaker 1: really important because we recognize like how many life changes
Speaker 1: we've made together in terms of like you know, buying
Speaker 1: this house together and having mortgage that we're splitting, and
Speaker 1: like having a dog. We were literally like talking about
Speaker 1: it on FaceTime. It is very adult of us. It's
Speaker 1: very sexy, and it's so bad. Um. We were talking
Speaker 1: about him FaceTime last night. I was like showing him
Speaker 1: Peaches and I was like, I was like, ah um,
Speaker 1: what did I say? I was like, funny that we
Speaker 1: can never break up for Peach's sake. She deserves better,
Speaker 1: and he's like, You're absolutely right. It's it's all about Peaches.
Speaker 1: It's a child. And so I think it's like the
Speaker 1: way to do it is just to always know that,
Speaker 1: like it's always the relationship first. And there are definitely
Speaker 1: times with posting online where sometimes they can feel like,
Speaker 1: oh gosh, are we like posting too much? Like sometimes
Speaker 1: we'll look at our feets and we're like, is there
Speaker 1: too much couple ee happening on here? Because we often
Speaker 1: will have feelings about some couples that share so much
Speaker 1: and we're like, oh my god, this is too much.
Speaker 1: This is out of control. They need to stopping so gushy.
Speaker 1: And then we're like, wait, but let's I feel like
Speaker 1: for three years in yeah, you tell me, you guys
Speaker 1: post a solid amount, not too much. Not I think
Speaker 1: it's a fair amount. Okay, very sweet, thank you. But
Speaker 1: I also think like whatever you want, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like you shouldn't not because if you don't
Speaker 1: want to, so true, Yeah, take a cute photo post
Speaker 1: it's your feet because at the end, at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, yeah, and he's he's like he's also
Speaker 1: like my best friend. I spent every day with him,
Speaker 1: and so of course I just have more photos with
Speaker 1: him than like anyone else's your life partner. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I like cute in this photo, so like it's going
Speaker 1: to pop the think you broke up if you cropped
Speaker 1: it out to be like what is happening exactly? Um,
Speaker 1: but I think, I guess the other fun thing about
Speaker 1: being public is that like there's never any room for
Speaker 1: anyone to like pry too much in terms of like
Speaker 1: anyone being like, so, what's going on? Because he wasn't
Speaker 1: in your last video, you know, like it's I don't know,
Speaker 1: there's something nice about being like we're we're mom and
Speaker 1: dad of the internet, and everything's great and here we are,
Speaker 1: and um, I like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I just feel so grateful that he is so comfortable
Speaker 1: being in my YouTube videos like that that truly like
Speaker 1: I could never force upon someone or change someone in
Speaker 1: order to tow I guess like not fit that role,
Speaker 1: but just like to be comfortable with it, and like
Speaker 1: he genuinely is all that. He's always like you should
Speaker 1: be blogging this. This is hilarious. Go get your camera.
Speaker 1: You know it's it feels it's so we love a
Speaker 1: supportive boyfriend who is down for it. I love that.
Speaker 1: We love that exactly and encourages. We love a boyfriend
Speaker 1: who supports an independent woman. That's what we all need.
Speaker 1: It is really sweet to know that, Like I I'm
Speaker 1: never feeling like I am like dampening the moment or
Speaker 1: pestering by like asking to film something because I think
Speaker 1: at the day, end of the day, like he also
Speaker 1: recognizes how many like memories were documenting and that's really sweet.
Speaker 1: And like when when we're spending time apart, you know,
Speaker 1: he's like telling me about how he's watching our old
Speaker 1: like Coachella vlog and and just like reminiscing on the
Speaker 1: days and so it's just really sweet. And then it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, fingers crossed, we get married and have kids
Speaker 1: eventually one day and like Manifest and Manifest Manifest, we
Speaker 1: get to show our kids like footage of us looking
Speaker 1: young and hot when you started day we could see
Speaker 1: the journey. I know, Like that's that's such a gift
Speaker 1: you're gonna be able to give that, Like that's awesome.
Speaker 1: My biggest beer is like having a child that is
Speaker 1: like so uninterested in it. Like I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 1: if you want to see what your mom was like
Speaker 1: from thirteen to you know whatever age, it is all
Speaker 1: there and they're going to be like absolutely not. Why
Speaker 1: would I At one point they'd have to be. I
Speaker 1: don't know how you wouldn't be interested in that, right,
Speaker 1: I mean, like, you guys are having a pretty awesome,
Speaker 1: incredible life, but I'm sure something that's so important is
Speaker 1: to stay grounded, which is something that I feel like
Speaker 1: we all need to do more and feel centered with.
Speaker 1: Do you meditate? Oh my gosh, I have been on
Speaker 1: a meditation kick as of lately. I literally meditated right
Speaker 1: before this. Actually, I'm meditate you this morning for the
Speaker 1: first time. You're like reading my mind. Oh my god?
Speaker 1: Did you like it? Did you guided? Did you? What
Speaker 1: do you do? I did a five minute YouTube good
Speaker 1: morning thing. I kind of fell asleep to it though. Amazing. No,
Speaker 1: that is honestly, that's so wonderful to hear, because I
Speaker 1: feel like if you go in too hard and too long,
Speaker 1: like you will not find it. Not sustainable. No, it
Speaker 1: is not sustainable, and it is such a It's the
Speaker 1: same as working out, truly, it's like working out for
Speaker 1: your mind. And like I feel that when I'm in
Speaker 1: a really good, uh whatever like rhythm with meditation, like
Speaker 1: it's easier for me to clear the mind because it's
Speaker 1: all about like just letting thoughts kind of like subside
Speaker 1: and allowing them to just come and go. But when
Speaker 1: you first start, you're like all I can think about
Speaker 1: is what I have to do once I finished this meditation,
Speaker 1: and I have to send this text message and I
Speaker 1: have to do this, and then oh my god, I
Speaker 1: have to pick this up. So it's one of those
Speaker 1: things where like I have not found the answer to it.
Speaker 1: I have not found what works best just yet, because
Speaker 1: I'm constantly like trying different apps. It's a journey. It's
Speaker 1: a journey. Uh. The meditation I listened to just before
Speaker 1: this was by Louise hey Um. She was an author.
Speaker 1: She wrote the book You Can Heal Your Life, but
Speaker 1: you may have heard of. It's like a self helpy book.
Speaker 1: It's a feel good, feel good type of book. But
Speaker 1: her voice is really she's like all about self affirmations,
Speaker 1: which honestly, they make me feel good. So like it's
Speaker 1: like what they're meant to do, so they're doing their
Speaker 1: job exactly, and so it's like a it's kind of
Speaker 1: a long one. It's like a twenty four minute meditation.
Speaker 1: That's impressive that you can do that, but it's guided.
Speaker 1: She's like talking the whole time, so you're just kind
Speaker 1: of laying there and like feeling good is She's like
Speaker 1: sweetly speaking in your ears. Um this silent ones. I cannot.
Speaker 1: I can't do those yet, Claudia. I am so happy
Speaker 1: that you can have my podcast. This was so much fun.
Speaker 1: When I Love my Dad comes out, we got to
Speaker 1: do a part two and yes can come to Yes
Speaker 1: you can talk about all the movie we can talk
Speaker 1: about when it's out and more beautiful. This conversation meant
Speaker 1: so much, So thank you so much taking the time. Oh,
Speaker 1: it was so wonderful meeting you. This was so sweet.
Speaker 1: I truly feel like there's there's clearly just like so
Speaker 1: much we can relate on and we just like met
Speaker 1: in the middle and we're like I see you, you
Speaker 1: see me? And do you know it's real when you
Speaker 1: can make a connection on zoom, I know that's rare. Seriously, Well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for making my day literally this
Speaker 1: was so much fun, goodness and I will be back,
Speaker 1: aren't you coming soon? Ladies and Gen's amazing. Thank you
Speaker 1: guys so much for taking the time out of your
Speaker 1: day to listen to this week's episode. Up the Let's
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Speaker 1: I always love to hear your feedback on episodes. Claudia,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming on. This conversation was
Speaker 1: so refreshing and I genuinely loved it. And if you want,
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Speaker 1: And I will see you guys next week. It's another episode.
Speaker 1: I'll see you later.