WEBVTT - Adult Education: Coaching a Comeback

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so this week's adult education which, by the way, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>we're back from hiatus Enid, Oklahoma. Any things you want

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<v Speaker 2>to call out about Enid, Babe.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll get a show out to the Italian restaurant which shaved,

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<v Speaker 1>which saved my nutrition every day.

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<v Speaker 2>It was lovely. It was called Napoli not Police. Yeah, Police,

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<v Speaker 2>great Italian place you.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I salmon with no butter and no oil.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, that was a tricky one, is en We

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<v Speaker 2>knew what to expect. Yeah, it was a It was

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<v Speaker 2>a cute little time which we chatted about it this

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<v Speaker 2>week with the girls too. But it was really sweet

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<v Speaker 2>and happy to be back. I'm kind of a psycho

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<v Speaker 2>when I get back from filming. Uh I just I

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<v Speaker 2>love to be home, which is nice and so just

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<v Speaker 2>getting back into the grind of things and go in

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<v Speaker 2>and work in. But speaking of working, you have been

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<v Speaker 2>working with our next guest who is he's ginormous huge,

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<v Speaker 2>He's huge. He's a he's an author, speaker, counselor. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean he has worked with some of the biggest names,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean in this industry from you know, business Moguls,

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<v Speaker 2>professional athletes. He's worked with, Robert Downey Junior, Charlie Sheen,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, Kanye West, so many people.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the kind of the dynamic of our relationship

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<v Speaker 1>is he's almost like a business type mentor for me. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>although but he'll naturally, he will naturally delve into because

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<v Speaker 1>he wants to get to know you and he needs to.

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<v Speaker 1>He'll delve into the personal side of your life, which

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<v Speaker 1>then complements the business ideas that it has. And the

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<v Speaker 1>way he structures your vision old my vision, but he

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<v Speaker 1>helps me structure. So yeah, almost like a business mentor.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's incredible, like you just you could talk to

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<v Speaker 1>him for hours.

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<v Speaker 2>He really is. I Mean we met him through a

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<v Speaker 2>mutual friend and I've known his work for a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit and watch some of his stuff, but I mean

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<v Speaker 2>he's just we got to watch him speak and it's

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<v Speaker 2>just the impact. And then I just love that y'all

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<v Speaker 2>have been able to create a really great friendship too,

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<v Speaker 2>And because I think it's really nice to have that

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<v Speaker 2>mentor in person helping guide guide you along, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>pass where you might need a little motivation or a

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<v Speaker 2>mentorships and or a mentor, you know, mentoring on.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So, but his name is Tim Story. He's phenomenal. Do

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<v Speaker 2>yourself a favor and follow him on Instagram. But he's

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<v Speaker 2>got some coaching programs too that we'll talk to him about,

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<v Speaker 2>like Alan is doing with him. But let's get Tim's

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<v Speaker 2>story on. Let's not let him wait another minute. Hi, Tim, good.

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<v Speaker 4>To see you. Thank you for wearing your glasses today.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know, I just really wanted to channel

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<v Speaker 2>Tim and so I thought, you know, and I just

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<v Speaker 2>want to see you better too.

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<v Speaker 4>So there's that it's working.

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<v Speaker 2>We're so happy to have you on. So we'll just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of jump right into it. But you and Alan

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<v Speaker 2>have actually you guys have been working together.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, we like besties, are No.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that because it's you know, it's we We

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<v Speaker 2>got to have the honor to see you speak. And

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<v Speaker 2>I've obviously known about you for a long time. We

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<v Speaker 2>share a mutual friend and I finally got to I've

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<v Speaker 2>seen your you know stuff online and uh, but I

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<v Speaker 2>got to actually see you in person. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to be such a motivating person to so many other people,

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<v Speaker 2>I always like to know where do you personally have

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<v Speaker 2>to motivate yourself in your daily life, Like where is

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<v Speaker 2>that like? Because I even like when I look at

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<v Speaker 2>my therapist, I'm all right, where do you struggle? I

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<v Speaker 2>need to know where we can like be on the

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<v Speaker 2>same page and know that I'm you know that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not the only person that's struggling here having a tough time.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's when you're out motivating. Is there ever that

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<v Speaker 2>piece of you like you're still trying to find something

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<v Speaker 2>to motivate you?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, so great question. I think that for some people

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<v Speaker 4>it's innate, it's inside them to just be full of

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<v Speaker 4>inspiration and see things positive. I was fortunate enough to

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<v Speaker 4>get that gift. So like when I was a kid,

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<v Speaker 4>I was a first one up of the five children,

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<v Speaker 4>I was the youngest. I was up super early because

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<v Speaker 4>I wanted to get the television so I could watch

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<v Speaker 4>my cartoons. I was very motivated to do my homework.

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<v Speaker 4>So there's there's a lot of just inside inspiration that's there.

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<v Speaker 4>And then the second thing is I've been very, very

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<v Speaker 4>fortunate to have a lot of male friends around me

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<v Speaker 4>since I was a child that really have had my back,

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<v Speaker 4>that really check on me see how I'm doing. And

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<v Speaker 4>I think that that has been a real strength to

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<v Speaker 4>my life, so I never get too depleted because I

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<v Speaker 4>always find that there's people around that want to lift

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<v Speaker 4>me up.

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<v Speaker 2>I also it's interesting for me too because we've had

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of these conversations where baby, you've said that

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<v Speaker 2>you're very cynical.

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<v Speaker 4>I can be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And you know, when we were leaving that Aspire

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<v Speaker 2>workshop and you know, hearing some of the speakers, you

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<v Speaker 2>know a lot of times it's like, you know, stand

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<v Speaker 2>up if you believe it, or clap you and it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>though I want to believe it. It's like, is me

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<v Speaker 2>standing up right now saying all this stuff? I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>is there am I going to get that part that

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<v Speaker 2>I really want I if I or is this just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of luff to make me feel better? Like that's

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<v Speaker 2>the cynical part of me that goes, Okay, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>love it and I'm motivated, but it's been ten years.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't been back on a show that I really

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<v Speaker 2>want and then like, I can do this till I'm

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<v Speaker 2>blue in the face, but like, I don't know, And

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<v Speaker 2>then that's where I kind of can relate to the

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<v Speaker 2>cynic side that you sometimes go to bed.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Yeah, So I think the caveat to that is

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<v Speaker 1>so I do have a little bit of cynicism, and

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit I lack trust in certain people in situations,

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<v Speaker 1>probably in business more than anything. So I think the

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<v Speaker 1>positive spin on that is when someone comes along in

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<v Speaker 1>your life that you feel that can be a real

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<v Speaker 1>mentor that you feel that you can improve with every

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<v Speaker 1>word that they say and every word that you say

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<v Speaker 1>to them, then that's even more important and even more

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<v Speaker 1>powerful because as a slight cynic I don't always get

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<v Speaker 1>people like Tim involved in my life where I look

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<v Speaker 1>forward to the sessions and when I come out of

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<v Speaker 1>the sessions, I feel energized and ambitious and hungry and

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<v Speaker 1>ready to go and work. So the part of the

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<v Speaker 1>part where I think the cynicism can almost be a

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<v Speaker 1>powerful thing because when the because you don't get drawn

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<v Speaker 1>in by everyone, if you're a if you're a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit cynical, but when the person, when people do come

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<v Speaker 1>along that are right for you in your life at

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<v Speaker 1>that time, that particular time and for that phase, then

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<v Speaker 1>you embrace them and they empower you and hopefully you

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<v Speaker 1>empower them. And that's just this kind of what what

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<v Speaker 1>Tim's like for me. He's like a mentor like a

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<v Speaker 1>business exactly. It's just everything that I need to bounce

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<v Speaker 1>my ideas off of and my thoughts they go through

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<v Speaker 1>they go through him in those sessions, and it's not

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<v Speaker 1>it's not very often I embrace people. But with Tim

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<v Speaker 1>has an aura and a natural energy around them where

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<v Speaker 1>you want to extract his energy. His information has guidance everything.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, and and yeah, and it's like yes, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 2>and then it's about how do you like that get

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<v Speaker 2>up and clap and like if you believe it? Is

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<v Speaker 2>that just to like get the people to feel something.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, So number one, thank you for the compliments that

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<v Speaker 4>you're giving me. So I think that in life, we're

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<v Speaker 4>all going through recovery and discovery at the same time.

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<v Speaker 4>So if there's three thousand people there, everybody is going

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<v Speaker 4>through recovery of something and hopefully discovery of something else.

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<v Speaker 4>So it could be recovery from a health issue, or

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<v Speaker 4>maybe something has happened to their parents, or they're going

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<v Speaker 4>through their own challenging situations financially or even in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>So the way I come across as a person that

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<v Speaker 4>is speaking and working with people, I first am looking

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<v Speaker 4>after those people in the recovery zone. So I'm definitely

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<v Speaker 4>not trying to hype somebody that's in a hospital. So

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<v Speaker 4>what I what I am doing is I am being

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<v Speaker 4>my authentic self. Like in sports, I was a captain

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<v Speaker 4>of every team I've ever been on, even if I

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't the best athlete. So I'm a natural born leader.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a natural born cheerleader. So what I am saying,

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<v Speaker 4>let's clap, It's truly coming from who I am, because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like that in my daily life. Like I could

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<v Speaker 4>go to CBS and the lady behind the counter will say,

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<v Speaker 4>do you know how I look forward to when you come?

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<v Speaker 4>And I asked her the other day why she goes?

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<v Speaker 4>Cause you just are always giving me compliments. You even

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<v Speaker 4>notice my hair. That's just been me since I was

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<v Speaker 4>a kid. So but in the idea of inspiration motivation,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm very careful with people because again, someone could be

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<v Speaker 4>in deep recovery. I'm definitely not trying to clap them

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<v Speaker 4>out of it.

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<v Speaker 2>M Okay, that makes and I love that. Like recovery

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<v Speaker 2>and a good discovery like that is it's set so true.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think your recovery discovery is?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Does does everybody have like it. Everybody has one right

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<v Speaker 2>in the moment that they're in.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. So I think I think for your husband, before

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<v Speaker 4>he even answers, the discovery is finding you. I think

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<v Speaker 4>that you guys found each other and you have this

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<v Speaker 4>nice alignment as two bright people that are doing great things.

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<v Speaker 4>I think the recovery would would be some of the

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<v Speaker 4>challenges that he's faced in the past, maybe in relationships

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<v Speaker 4>or even stepping into what his profession is now, because

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<v Speaker 4>in getting to know him, when you have so many talents,

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<v Speaker 4>it's which one do we do now? And so I

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<v Speaker 4>think that there is some recovery and discovery going on

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<v Speaker 4>at the same time. But that's a beautiful place for

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<v Speaker 4>him to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Agreed, Yeah, because I think when we've discussed and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're open to sharing, where you just there's so

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<v Speaker 2>many things like so when you have so many directions,

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<v Speaker 2>you almost feel lost in that because it's like what

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<v Speaker 2>do I do? Which direction do I go? And that

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<v Speaker 2>that's a that's a tough place too, And that's.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes down to. It comes down to prioritize and

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<v Speaker 1>like I've explained to you many times, it's like I've

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<v Speaker 1>got these ten plates spinning above me, which one do

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<v Speaker 1>I grab and bring down and embrace and prioritize and

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<v Speaker 1>focus on. And that's that's that's the difficult part. And

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<v Speaker 1>that leads to the sessions with Tim, where's okay, this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is the direction, and this is this is

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<v Speaker 1>how we move old. It's tough when you when you

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<v Speaker 1>have a few different options to prioritize because it's so

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<v Speaker 1>difficult to do so many things properly, really really properly

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<v Speaker 1>well said.

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<v Speaker 4>So there's a book by a guy named Keller called

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<v Speaker 4>The One Thing, and so as he's saying that when

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<v Speaker 4>you feel like you have these spinning plates going, the

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<v Speaker 4>strength that he has to have at this stage of

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<v Speaker 4>his life is to go after that one thing. So,

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<v Speaker 4>but there's a one thing in many parts of our life,

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<v Speaker 4>because our life is many things. It's relationship, it's you

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<v Speaker 4>guys have children, it's his business side, it's your business side.

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<v Speaker 4>But really going after that one thing and mastering that thing.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is part of the blind spot of many

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<v Speaker 4>UH creatives that I work with, is that they don't

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<v Speaker 4>really stick with that one thing. So they don't cultivate

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<v Speaker 4>the land and dig deep and pull out the best

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<v Speaker 4>of it. They move too quick.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, what's next. I feel that. Yeah, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I did the It's like, all right, cool, did

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<v Speaker 2>that singing? Okay? Check? Now, let's all right. Now I

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<v Speaker 2>get to create this thing and it's and then it's

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<v Speaker 2>just which It's like, I don't think I've mastered truly

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<v Speaker 2>any of them besides Motherhood, and I still haven't mastered that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just the you know what, I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>do the best at.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>When you think of yourself, Jane, because you have so

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<v Speaker 4>many sides to yourself, you know, you have the act inside,

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<v Speaker 4>the singing side, the writer side, the podcaster side, the speaker.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you could do anything that's in art in

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<v Speaker 4>my opinion. Okay, So for yourself, what do you think

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<v Speaker 4>is like one area that you want to really go

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<v Speaker 4>after in twenty twenty five? Have you thought about it?

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<v Speaker 4>And if so, maybe do you want to even share it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I think I this year, I think I hold

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<v Speaker 2>myself well. I I feel like I hold myself back

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<v Speaker 2>in a lot of the things that I do because

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<v Speaker 2>I create a scenario like, oh I can't do that

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<v Speaker 2>because you know it wouldn't be a success or I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not good enough for that. And so I put my

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<v Speaker 2>own limitations of what I believe myself on the things

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<v Speaker 2>that I want to do, of why it wouldn't be successful.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that's my achilles heel. Is that the

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<v Speaker 2>word that's the negat thing for me, where I just

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<v Speaker 2>for example, like I have an audition today, I'm already

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<v Speaker 2>walking in the room going, I'm not going to get

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<v Speaker 2>it because I'm not the age they want, the you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the look they probably want. And so what I'm trying

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<v Speaker 2>to do is because I want to well, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to get back on a you know, a

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<v Speaker 2>TV show. And that's like what I'm just like, my my,

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<v Speaker 2>that's my gooseag, Like that's what I want so badly

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<v Speaker 2>to be back on a show and and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>doing the show that I love and acting and not

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<v Speaker 2>just you know Christmas movies all the time and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like that. Like I just and but I have to

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<v Speaker 2>somehow find the belief that I'm a capable of it

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<v Speaker 2>and that I that I can do it and that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to find it. It's just in this industry,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it's just so hard because you get so

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<v Speaker 2>close and things get ripped from you, and it's like

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I had it last year and then it

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<v Speaker 2>got you know, I lost the test and it's just so,

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<v Speaker 2>but I have to find somewhere the belief in myself

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm good enough to be able to get the

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<v Speaker 2>thing that I want. And that's what I think it

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<v Speaker 2>has been holding me back for a long time. And

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<v Speaker 2>that's where I kind of go, oh, I've been so

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<v Speaker 2>like with the music, Okay, I got a few awards,

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<v Speaker 2>a few platinum albums, great, check that off, because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to. I did good enough that I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to continue to go and then fail. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>proud of myself for what it did. Now I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to go onto the next thing. And so that's just

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<v Speaker 2>where I feel like I'm my worst self. I hold

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<v Speaker 2>myself back the most.

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<v Speaker 4>So in life coaching, we look at it in quarters.

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<v Speaker 4>So you have like birth to age twenty, then you

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<v Speaker 4>have age twenty to age forty, then age forty to

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<v Speaker 4>age sixty, then age sixty to eighty, and then eighty

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<v Speaker 4>tow one hundred is what we call like the bonus. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>So when I'm coaching people like birth to twenty, so

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<v Speaker 4>like seventeen eighteen, nineteen twenty people are just trying to

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<v Speaker 4>figure it out. Okay. I find that twenty to forty,

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<v Speaker 4>about thirty five to forty is when people really start

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<v Speaker 4>hitting hard and they're like, okay, what's going on? When

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<v Speaker 4>people slide into the forties, if they're not careful, they

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<v Speaker 4>can almost get a little fearful because they feel like

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<v Speaker 4>they're playing catch up rather than just kind of gain

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<v Speaker 4>going in that flow. They feel like they're trying to

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<v Speaker 4>catch up. So when either one of you look at

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<v Speaker 4>your life through that lens a birth to twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 4>to forty and the thought of forty to sixty, what goes.

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<v Speaker 2>To your mind, Well, forty to sixty just sounds really old.

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<v Speaker 2>If I'm not going to lie like that first, So

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, like, I haven't actually accomplished the

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<v Speaker 2>things I want to accomplish yet. And then that just

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<v Speaker 2>almost gave me a little anxiety. Fucking totally honest.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I feel forty to sexty. I certainly forty

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<v Speaker 1>to fifty. I'm now at the stage where I're like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you've done It's almost like being at university. You've done

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<v Speaker 1>your studying. Now you need to really hone in on

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<v Speaker 1>I explained this to you yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Tim.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like also, it's like my business is like a

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<v Speaker 1>mystery to a lot of strikers because I'd never publicize

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<v Speaker 1>what I do. I don't really show any sort of

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<v Speaker 1>psychology stuff. Proper nitty gritty of the drill is nothing

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<v Speaker 1>the mindset stuff. And now I've been really private up

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<v Speaker 1>to that point. But I feel now I'm at the

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<v Speaker 1>point where Okay, things are peaceful and stable enough, and okay,

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<v Speaker 1>now is the point where you start to for the

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<v Speaker 1>next to at least two or three years, Now you

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<v Speaker 1>start to really show people who you are and what

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<v Speaker 1>you do. I never wanted to do that from thirty

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<v Speaker 1>to forty. I just wanted to grind and study and

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<v Speaker 1>graft and get to the point where I was deemed

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<v Speaker 1>as one of the best of what I do, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was always private around it. Now I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is now the phase where you show

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<v Speaker 1>people your knowledge, you give them an unsay and to

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<v Speaker 1>and too you and your program and what you do

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<v Speaker 1>with players.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's part of my life. Almost feels like Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go, let's let's let's do yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but again, men many times process things different than

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<v Speaker 4>a woman does. So Janna, you have different moving parts

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<v Speaker 4>than he does, even though you're married, because you're you're

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<v Speaker 4>the mother, right and you have other responsibilities. But so

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<v Speaker 4>I think that that's the challenge many times of being

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<v Speaker 4>multi talented, where you have these different things that you

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<v Speaker 4>can do, like when you're saying, like, my music hit

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<v Speaker 4>these levels, which I'm well aware of because I've known

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<v Speaker 4>of you for many, many years. So I think that

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<v Speaker 4>with the music, you're still just scratching the surface. I

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<v Speaker 4>think that as you mature, and even on the songwriting

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<v Speaker 4>side and the lyrics side and the musical side, I

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<v Speaker 4>think we'll see you really elevate in a beautiful way

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<v Speaker 4>on that side. But then on the acting side, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>going to give you three quick words. Number one is revelation.

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<v Speaker 4>Secondly is conviction. Thirdly is action. Before somebody takes a

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<v Speaker 4>very strong action, they have to have a revelation of

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<v Speaker 4>something like Oprah would say, an aha moment. So it's

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<v Speaker 4>that feeling when you know that you know that you know,

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<v Speaker 4>like duck on it, I am a really great actor.

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<v Speaker 4>And you don't say that to everybody, but you say

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<v Speaker 4>it to your green room, your inner circle. So you

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<v Speaker 4>have the revelation. The revelation leads to conviction that you

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<v Speaker 4>know that you know that you know. So when you

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<v Speaker 4>are going into auditions, you're like, I'm pretty hard to beat.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't tell everybody, but you could tell us because

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<v Speaker 4>we're in your inner circle. But it's that revelation conviction

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<v Speaker 4>that leads to action. And I think that that's when

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<v Speaker 4>you would see like the al Pacinos of life, the

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<v Speaker 4>Meryl Streeps of life, where they just dog on have

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<v Speaker 4>a revelation that they know who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to take that into an audition. Today's kill it.

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<v Speaker 4>WHOA, It's you've done work.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you both work.

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<v Speaker 4>You've gone to acting classes, you've done one on ones,

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<v Speaker 4>you've done groups, You've been on things that you enjoyed

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<v Speaker 4>doing other shows maybe not as much, but you've done

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<v Speaker 4>the work. It's like before I go speak on a stage,

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<v Speaker 4>like a lot of guys, they have like headphones on

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<v Speaker 4>and they're like, you know, really getting in the moment.

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<v Speaker 4>Some people are meditating, others are yelling at themselves. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>joking with people. I'm joking with the sound guy, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>joking with his kids, I'm asking his wife questions and

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<v Speaker 4>they'll say, like, Tim, you're on in five minutes. Igh,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good, Tim. Seriously, you're on in two minutes ago.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good because I've already done twenty hours of studying

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<v Speaker 4>for a forty five minute speech. I'm not cramming for a.

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<v Speaker 2>Test, right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So I have such a revelation of what I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to do on that stage that it's almost like like this,

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<v Speaker 4>like I'm kind of excited.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. When you're working with people, what would

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<v Speaker 2>you say is the number one thing that does hold

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<v Speaker 2>them back?

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<v Speaker 4>Believing in themselves? Truly? Truly? Not where or they have

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<v Speaker 4>said they believe in themselves to so many friends, but

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<v Speaker 4>behind closed doors, do they really believe in themselves? And

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<v Speaker 4>so I think that so many people, they hinder themselves

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<v Speaker 4>from moving forward because there's an imposter syndrome that hits

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<v Speaker 4>many Many people just block some of the good doors

0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:32.600
<v Speaker 4>that are open for them because either they don't think

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<v Speaker 4>they deserve it, or they just don't think that they're

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<v Speaker 4>equipped to step through. This is an interesting thing. So,

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<v Speaker 4>because I get to work with a lot of high

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<v Speaker 4>profile people, I would say to them, while we thought

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<v Speaker 4>you were amazing, did you ever feel like you kind

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<v Speaker 4>of sucked. And I use that word, and this one guy,

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<v Speaker 4>famous famous athlete, started laughing. He goes, only you would

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<v Speaker 4>add that.

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<v Speaker 5>He goes, I totally felt like I sucked, he said

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of the times, I said, so even as

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<v Speaker 5>we saw you as like just dominating, could not be stopped.

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<v Speaker 4>He goes, yeah, because I looked at my weaknesses and

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<v Speaker 4>I wasn't like a perfect father, and I wasn't a

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<v Speaker 4>perfect husband, and so I didn't just see myself on

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<v Speaker 4>the court. This was a basketball player. But is the

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<v Speaker 4>same thing with famous actors that say to me that

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<v Speaker 4>even at their height, whether they're they're still or not

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<v Speaker 4>there now, they would say, I still felt less than

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<v Speaker 4>which is interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 2>What is the like how do you get It's like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>how do we believe in ourselves? Like what is the

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<v Speaker 2>what is it the tool or tip that you give

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<v Speaker 2>them to have that because or is that something that

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<v Speaker 2>you can't give them and they just have to find

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<v Speaker 2>it themselves.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh no, you could, you could one hundred percent work

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<v Speaker 4>through it, because I think too many times we're thinking

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<v Speaker 4>through the lens of our faults, our flaws, and our failures.

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<v Speaker 4>So even in an audition, like false flaws failures or

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<v Speaker 4>him soccer slash football false flaws failures. So it's important

0:25:21.280 --> 0:25:25.719
<v Speaker 4>that we don't look through that lens of false flaws failures,

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<v Speaker 4>but look through a different lens. And that takes time

0:25:30.440 --> 0:25:34.040
<v Speaker 4>to apply that lens and then learn how to look

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<v Speaker 4>through that lens in a different way. And part of

0:25:37.560 --> 0:25:41.080
<v Speaker 4>that is is that, hey, I may not be what

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<v Speaker 4>I want to be, but thank goodness, I'm not what

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<v Speaker 4>I used to be. Like I'm a work in progress.

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<v Speaker 4>I am better than I was. That's a good place

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<v Speaker 4>to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's true. I mean I feel like I walk

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<v Speaker 2>into a lot of things and go, I'm good but

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<v Speaker 2>not good enough. Like even with auditions, like I get close,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good, but I'm just not good enough. And it's

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<v Speaker 2>like that's the piece that it's like I haven't been

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<v Speaker 2>able to and I feel like that's I've carried that

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<v Speaker 2>with a lot of things and just it was a

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<v Speaker 2>good really but not good enough. I mean obviously now

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<v Speaker 2>I've the relationship piece that's different now, But it's just you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, Tim, what do you think the difference is between

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<v Speaker 1>And this goes back to your point as well, but

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<v Speaker 1>not believing in yourself at times, So you have people

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<v Speaker 1>who won't believe in themselves in certain situations, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>on an addition or whether it's they're on set. And

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<v Speaker 1>then you have people who, certainly, in my realm of work,

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel is I believe in myself, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>got a problem with perfectionism. So therefore, when I when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm critical of myself, it's not because I don't believe

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<v Speaker 1>in myself, it's because what could have been a bit

0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:48.720
<v Speaker 1>better or I could have done this instead. So what's

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<v Speaker 1>the difference between lack of belief and because they must

0:26:53.160 --> 0:26:55.320
<v Speaker 1>be they must be connected the lack of belief but

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<v Speaker 1>also that the ability to like the perfectism thing as

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<v Speaker 1>both a weaknesses is guess what I'm trying to say.

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<v Speaker 4>So what psychologists would say is we are minimized many

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:16.840
<v Speaker 4>times by our mentors. So I think, all three of us,

0:27:16.920 --> 0:27:19.760
<v Speaker 4>we have to see who are our mentors like? What

0:27:19.840 --> 0:27:24.040
<v Speaker 4>were our parents like? What were our siblings like? What

0:27:24.080 --> 0:27:28.760
<v Speaker 4>were our teachers like? Were we minimized by religion or

0:27:28.800 --> 0:27:31.760
<v Speaker 4>maximized by religion? So a lot of people that I

0:27:31.920 --> 0:27:36.960
<v Speaker 4>work with, they were minimized by their mentors. So I

0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:42.280
<v Speaker 4>know grown men that are still afraid of their father

0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:47.000
<v Speaker 4>and the father's opinion, and the father is like so old.

0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:51.760
<v Speaker 4>And so these are things that we need to think about,

0:27:53.200 --> 0:27:57.359
<v Speaker 4>like what kind of response did we get when we

0:27:57.440 --> 0:27:59.800
<v Speaker 4>really did well when we were children?

0:28:00.320 --> 0:28:02.680
<v Speaker 2>Huh? Mine was just not good enough? There we go.

0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:04.920
<v Speaker 2>What was yours?

0:28:05.960 --> 0:28:09.199
<v Speaker 1>It was a mix? Really, yeah, yeah, it was a

0:28:09.240 --> 0:28:12.800
<v Speaker 1>mix of getting the praise and.

0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:19.439
<v Speaker 2>Not getting the priests, which is yeah.

0:28:18.320 --> 0:28:24.080
<v Speaker 4>But for Janna, I mean, and for real, this gets

0:28:24.359 --> 0:28:28.480
<v Speaker 4>down deep into us. It's almost like if you're walking

0:28:28.760 --> 0:28:31.600
<v Speaker 4>through New York and it's cold and it gets so

0:28:31.800 --> 0:28:36.280
<v Speaker 4>cold it gets into your bones. This gets really into

0:28:36.359 --> 0:28:42.160
<v Speaker 4>our bones of this idea of not being good enough.

0:28:42.240 --> 0:28:45.160
<v Speaker 4>So then what do we have to do. We have

0:28:45.320 --> 0:28:50.040
<v Speaker 4>to unlearn what we've learned, and we have to change

0:28:50.160 --> 0:28:54.640
<v Speaker 4>our mindset. And so as we know, our mindset is

0:28:54.680 --> 0:28:58.360
<v Speaker 4>ours to set. So what I would do if I

0:28:58.400 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 4>was working with you one on one is I would

0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:08.840
<v Speaker 4>have you read books that really help you to change

0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:13.360
<v Speaker 4>your mindset, because that's going to change your perspective and

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:15.680
<v Speaker 4>even how you look at your self.

0:29:17.680 --> 0:29:20.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, can we get on that. Let's do that. You

0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:24.480
<v Speaker 2>now have two clients in this household, two bank customers,

0:29:24.680 --> 0:29:26.040
<v Speaker 2>one and two.

0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:29.920
<v Speaker 4>Two brilliant ones that in my opinion, and this is

0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 4>not just fluff, I know when I when I feel it,

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:41.040
<v Speaker 4>I remember meeting like different stars before they became stars,

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 4>like ones that if I named that everyone would know

0:29:45.280 --> 0:29:48.280
<v Speaker 4>them like I met them like at fifteen or seventeen

0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:50.920
<v Speaker 4>and you knew it, or even people at thirty five

0:29:51.280 --> 0:29:53.360
<v Speaker 4>when I knew they were going to the next level.

0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:57.000
<v Speaker 4>So I think that I think that life is speaking

0:29:57.040 --> 0:30:01.360
<v Speaker 4>to both of you that I call it. Your calling

0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:05.840
<v Speaker 4>is calling you. So there's a difference between a career

0:30:05.880 --> 0:30:09.320
<v Speaker 4>and a calling. The career is not what you guys

0:30:09.320 --> 0:30:12.400
<v Speaker 4>are looking for. You've done the career. Now you want

0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:15.680
<v Speaker 4>to step up into your calling, and that is to

0:30:15.760 --> 0:30:19.240
<v Speaker 4>live out your purpose and also through your purpose, help

0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:23.320
<v Speaker 4>change a whole lot of people's lives. So when you're

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:27.840
<v Speaker 4>in that place, that's a beautiful place to be because

0:30:27.880 --> 0:30:32.320
<v Speaker 4>now we are doing and growing and living for more

0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:33.440
<v Speaker 4>than just ourselves.

0:30:35.120 --> 0:30:50.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, has a celebrity ever come up to you, because

0:30:50.520 --> 0:30:53.000
<v Speaker 2>obviously you've worked with a lot and you just go,

0:30:54.040 --> 0:30:56.880
<v Speaker 2>I can't like, because it's your time. Your time is

0:30:56.960 --> 0:31:01.440
<v Speaker 2>very valuable, It's precious, and I know business is business,

0:31:01.440 --> 0:31:02.880
<v Speaker 2>but at the same time, or there are just people

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 2>that you're like, I just can't I can't even give

0:31:06.160 --> 0:31:09.520
<v Speaker 2>my energy to it, or do you think or are

0:31:09.520 --> 0:31:13.240
<v Speaker 2>you just like I want to help everybody in all No,

0:31:14.360 --> 0:31:15.000
<v Speaker 2>I say no.

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:18.440
<v Speaker 4>And I've said no to probably three of our biggest

0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:23.440
<v Speaker 4>celebrities of all time that are still alive. Yeah, because

0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:29.120
<v Speaker 4>they were not honoring me. So it's like what your

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:33.400
<v Speaker 4>husband's doing with the whole idea of being great on

0:31:33.440 --> 0:31:36.800
<v Speaker 4>the field and being a striker, if he's got like

0:31:36.920 --> 0:31:41.440
<v Speaker 4>some young guy who's not respecting what he knows, and

0:31:41.480 --> 0:31:44.400
<v Speaker 4>he knows that because of the way they're talking to

0:31:44.440 --> 0:31:48.040
<v Speaker 4>them or him or treating them. So three of our

0:31:48.080 --> 0:31:51.840
<v Speaker 4>biggest celebrities I've met with before, and they were making

0:31:51.880 --> 0:31:55.000
<v Speaker 4>it like I'll try it, I'll try it. Well you

0:31:55.080 --> 0:31:58.440
<v Speaker 4>helped him or her, I'll try it. And I said,

0:31:58.440 --> 0:32:02.880
<v Speaker 4>if it's just like trying it, like maybe there's somebody next,

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:07.960
<v Speaker 4>I think we're missing something here. So no, there are

0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:12.880
<v Speaker 4>some people that I did not connect with, but I

0:32:12.920 --> 0:32:16.240
<v Speaker 4>will give it to one of the three. They came

0:32:16.320 --> 0:32:21.360
<v Speaker 4>back around when they're in a better place and said, damn, Tim,

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:24.960
<v Speaker 4>I'm so sorry. I was so full of myself. I

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:29.960
<v Speaker 4>couldn't see straight. Let's go at it. And I've been

0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 4>working with that person now for three years.

0:32:33.520 --> 0:32:37.240
<v Speaker 2>I love that. And what is if there's one thing

0:32:37.400 --> 0:32:40.560
<v Speaker 2>there like this is kind of my mantra that kind

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:43.719
<v Speaker 2>of gets you through tough times or to staying positive,

0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:45.760
<v Speaker 2>believing in yourself. What's the what's the one thing that

0:32:45.840 --> 0:32:47.920
<v Speaker 2>you kind of have on repeat in your in your head?

0:32:48.920 --> 0:32:53.959
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think this idea. In life. We all have

0:32:54.120 --> 0:32:58.680
<v Speaker 4>life interruptions. So we have momentums. We have these times

0:32:58.720 --> 0:33:01.520
<v Speaker 4>where there's momentum in our life and then there's a

0:33:01.600 --> 0:33:04.480
<v Speaker 4>life interruption. And interruption is like a knock on the

0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:07.720
<v Speaker 4>door that we did not expect, Okay, some kind of

0:33:07.720 --> 0:33:11.320
<v Speaker 4>a challenge. When most people have a life interruption that

0:33:11.400 --> 0:33:14.520
<v Speaker 4>I call a set back, they don't know how to

0:33:14.520 --> 0:33:18.000
<v Speaker 4>handle it. They sit in the setback, they settle in

0:33:18.040 --> 0:33:21.400
<v Speaker 4>the setback, and then the third one, they cement themselves

0:33:21.440 --> 0:33:25.240
<v Speaker 4>in the setback, so they constantly talk about what could

0:33:25.320 --> 0:33:29.800
<v Speaker 4>have been, So they settle, they cement. So the mantra

0:33:29.880 --> 0:33:36.200
<v Speaker 4>that I really have in my mind is that you know,

0:33:37.200 --> 0:33:40.920
<v Speaker 4>while I'm feeling the sting of a setback, life is

0:33:41.000 --> 0:33:46.120
<v Speaker 4>already preparing my comeback. So no matter what I'm going through,

0:33:46.360 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 4>I really have that in my heart and in my

0:33:49.480 --> 0:33:52.480
<v Speaker 4>mind while I'm feeling the sting of it, because I

0:33:52.520 --> 0:33:55.959
<v Speaker 4>have felt the sting of setbacks, but I believe that

0:33:56.000 --> 0:33:59.680
<v Speaker 4>life is already preparing my comeback even while I'm feeling

0:33:59.720 --> 0:34:00.920
<v Speaker 4>the sting of the setback.

0:34:01.200 --> 0:34:03.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's probably my favorite thing. I remember you talking

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:06.240
<v Speaker 2>about that, and I'm like, yes, like that is that

0:34:06.400 --> 0:34:09.319
<v Speaker 2>was That was one of the big things that I

0:34:09.360 --> 0:34:11.640
<v Speaker 2>took away from that from when I heard you talk

0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:14.560
<v Speaker 2>about that, because it's just so true and it's it's

0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:18.600
<v Speaker 2>so easy to sit in that setback. But I mean,

0:34:18.640 --> 0:34:21.400
<v Speaker 2>I always believe in such a big believer in like

0:34:21.440 --> 0:34:25.040
<v Speaker 2>next chapters and comebacks, and there's so much that you

0:34:25.120 --> 0:34:26.960
<v Speaker 2>learn that you can then grow and then be the

0:34:26.960 --> 0:34:30.520
<v Speaker 2>best version of yourself. So yeah, I'm all about everybody's comeback.

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:32.839
<v Speaker 2>We all deserve it. We all have it coming too,

0:34:32.840 --> 0:34:35.799
<v Speaker 2>we just have to be open to receiving it.

0:34:36.200 --> 0:34:40.040
<v Speaker 4>Okay, So tell me something that you're excited about of

0:34:40.120 --> 0:34:48.720
<v Speaker 4>getting older the forty to sixty phase. Okay, becoming fifty

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:52.640
<v Speaker 4>fifty two, fifty five, fifty eight. Give me something you're

0:34:52.680 --> 0:34:55.680
<v Speaker 4>excited about in that phase of your life.

0:34:58.480 --> 0:35:01.799
<v Speaker 2>I would just say the first thing that came to

0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:05.960
<v Speaker 2>mind was more peaceful. I'm a little high strung at

0:35:05.960 --> 0:35:10.279
<v Speaker 2>times because I'm just grinding, grinding, grinding, and I hope

0:35:10.280 --> 0:35:14.799
<v Speaker 2>that this grinding and there'll be some massive winds that

0:35:14.880 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 2>I can just be more settled in peace and not

0:35:18.239 --> 0:35:21.120
<v Speaker 2>feel that I have to hustle and I got to support,

0:35:21.200 --> 0:35:26.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm always have that fearful growing up with

0:35:26.080 --> 0:35:29.720
<v Speaker 2>a single mom having to work for everything, then having

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:32.279
<v Speaker 2>that reality and then going, oh crap, I am the

0:35:32.320 --> 0:35:34.560
<v Speaker 2>sole provider. I have to, you know, for my kids

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:37.680
<v Speaker 2>at that time. And then now you know, you know,

0:35:37.760 --> 0:35:40.200
<v Speaker 2>we're obviously married, so I don't feel that pressure as much,

0:35:40.200 --> 0:35:42.719
<v Speaker 2>but I still it's in my bones. It's been there

0:35:42.760 --> 0:35:46.439
<v Speaker 2>since my mom was working three jobs. So I hope

0:35:47.520 --> 0:35:48.720
<v Speaker 2>that's what I would like that piece.

0:35:50.680 --> 0:35:55.480
<v Speaker 4>But that's a beautiful thought, right, that's a beautiful thought.

0:35:55.840 --> 0:35:59.880
<v Speaker 4>I would say that is the gift that I have

0:36:00.200 --> 0:36:02.600
<v Speaker 4>given the last five years of my life is peace.

0:36:03.880 --> 0:36:08.400
<v Speaker 4>In fact, one of my friends who lives in Nashville,

0:36:08.760 --> 0:36:12.040
<v Speaker 4>who is an entertainer, he said to me one day,

0:36:12.320 --> 0:36:16.040
<v Speaker 4>he says, Tim, are you're on medication? And I go, no,

0:36:16.680 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 4>I go, why do you ask? He says, you're so calm,

0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:25.400
<v Speaker 4>it's almost weird. I said, it's the strangest thing. I said,

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:30.680
<v Speaker 4>I just have so much peace in my life. And

0:36:30.960 --> 0:36:33.400
<v Speaker 4>to be honest with you, the piece that is in

0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:37.880
<v Speaker 4>my life now. For a while, it was awkward, it

0:36:37.960 --> 0:36:45.080
<v Speaker 4>felt strange, it felt different, and I was almost waiting

0:36:45.160 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 4>for it to leave me. But I found ways to

0:36:50.280 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 4>have it remain. But to be at peace is an

0:36:54.719 --> 0:36:58.719
<v Speaker 4>amazing place to be. Peace does not mean perfection, but

0:36:58.840 --> 0:37:00.680
<v Speaker 4>it is a state of mind, in a state of

0:37:00.719 --> 0:37:02.280
<v Speaker 4>your spirit that can be amazing.

0:37:03.040 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree with that, Bibe. What about you.

0:37:09.080 --> 0:37:12.719
<v Speaker 1>There's so many things that need to be so many

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:15.279
<v Speaker 1>things that need to be achieved that you know, as

0:37:15.320 --> 0:37:17.440
<v Speaker 1>to a light, we can never set at peace for

0:37:17.520 --> 0:37:20.560
<v Speaker 1>a second. Even when we watch a TV show, there's

0:37:20.640 --> 0:37:23.840
<v Speaker 1>guilt because we shouldn't be watching this need to be

0:37:23.920 --> 0:37:26.560
<v Speaker 1>more productive. So I think the piece part of it

0:37:26.600 --> 0:37:28.080
<v Speaker 1>is something that we've always discussed.

0:37:28.320 --> 0:37:30.319
<v Speaker 2>I don't wear my R ring anymore because it tells

0:37:30.360 --> 0:37:32.719
<v Speaker 2>me I'm stressed twenty four to seven, so I've ditched that.

0:37:34.800 --> 0:37:39.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think I think the next few years will

0:37:39.320 --> 0:37:42.400
<v Speaker 1>still be will be grinding, and we'll be building things

0:37:42.480 --> 0:37:45.040
<v Speaker 1>with the view to fifty two or fifty three, fifty four,

0:37:45.040 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is, or we can take a step back

0:37:47.160 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 1>and trust the fact that we can take two or

0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 1>three days off not have to worry about things. Or

0:37:53.880 --> 0:37:56.000
<v Speaker 1>when you don't get the role that you might have

0:37:56.080 --> 0:37:58.520
<v Speaker 1>hoped for, your fine with it because you know you'll

0:37:58.520 --> 0:38:00.200
<v Speaker 1>get the next one. So I think the piece say

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:06.040
<v Speaker 1>that it is important for me as well. I think

0:38:06.280 --> 0:38:11.799
<v Speaker 1>where I see myself as an elevated, more composed, more

0:38:11.880 --> 0:38:16.080
<v Speaker 1>digitalized version of what I am now, a version that

0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:21.720
<v Speaker 1>people know better. Therefore I'll know myself better, So therefore

0:38:21.800 --> 0:38:24.960
<v Speaker 1>I'll be more peace within our family life, for family dynamic,

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:27.160
<v Speaker 1>but also in our careers as well.

0:38:29.719 --> 0:38:32.279
<v Speaker 4>This is a good discussion. It's almost like Merrital.

0:38:32.080 --> 0:38:35.040
<v Speaker 2>Counseling Tim, we should just put you out retainer.

0:38:36.280 --> 0:38:40.359
<v Speaker 4>No, but because I like this for him. But I

0:38:40.400 --> 0:38:43.200
<v Speaker 4>think that as I'm talking to both you at the

0:38:43.200 --> 0:38:46.120
<v Speaker 4>same time and everyone else is watching us, which is

0:38:46.160 --> 0:38:50.960
<v Speaker 4>a lot of people, is that for Alan's life. He's

0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:55.480
<v Speaker 4>really there's a time right here where you really do

0:38:55.600 --> 0:39:01.359
<v Speaker 4>need to strike like there are open doors you right right,

0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:06.960
<v Speaker 4>you need to just like bam, hit it. I say

0:39:07.000 --> 0:39:11.080
<v Speaker 4>that you know when you when you get that break through,

0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:14.160
<v Speaker 4>it's a breakthrough. It's not a break sit, it's a

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:17.759
<v Speaker 4>break through. So there's a there's an open door, so

0:39:17.800 --> 0:39:21.239
<v Speaker 4>he's got to go after it. But that's only part

0:39:21.280 --> 0:39:25.759
<v Speaker 4>of his day. There's other parts of his day. If

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:30.160
<v Speaker 4>you have one hundred percent tile, then we need a

0:39:30.200 --> 0:39:34.959
<v Speaker 4>couple pieces of that pie of the day where he

0:39:35.080 --> 0:39:39.600
<v Speaker 4>is still, where he's in the moment, where he's okay

0:39:39.600 --> 0:39:42.520
<v Speaker 4>to be in the moment, but when he's working, he

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:45.239
<v Speaker 4>works bam bam bam, gets it done. And then when

0:39:45.239 --> 0:39:48.879
<v Speaker 4>we take off, we we take off and we're very

0:39:48.960 --> 0:39:52.960
<v Speaker 4>Eckard Toll. We're in the power of now, fully present,

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:55.880
<v Speaker 4>fully feeling, and fully alive.

0:39:57.000 --> 0:39:59.400
<v Speaker 2>I love that you've a masterclass out right now? Is

0:39:59.440 --> 0:39:59.680
<v Speaker 2>that right?

0:39:59.760 --> 0:40:00.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:40:00.440 --> 0:40:03.480
<v Speaker 2>Yes, tell tell us everything where our listeners can just

0:40:03.600 --> 0:40:04.560
<v Speaker 2>have a little piece of you.

0:40:05.320 --> 0:40:10.359
<v Speaker 4>I think that I think the best place is timstory

0:40:10.400 --> 0:40:14.080
<v Speaker 4>dot com. So that's s t R e y dot

0:40:14.120 --> 0:40:19.960
<v Speaker 4>com shows what we do. I still executive coach companies,

0:40:20.360 --> 0:40:23.959
<v Speaker 4>work with some people one on one and then on

0:40:24.480 --> 0:40:29.279
<v Speaker 4>Instagram it's Tim's Story Official. And if you're interested in

0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:31.560
<v Speaker 4>working with me in one way or another, just DM

0:40:31.560 --> 0:40:36.640
<v Speaker 4>me and we can chat and see if there's a fit.

0:40:37.640 --> 0:40:41.600
<v Speaker 4>But it's a privilege to get to know both of

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:44.839
<v Speaker 4>you more and I think we're all going to learn

0:40:44.840 --> 0:40:47.040
<v Speaker 4>from each other. And that's the beauty of life.

0:40:47.760 --> 0:40:50.680
<v Speaker 2>It's it's our it's our honor, for sure. We're so yeah,

0:40:50.719 --> 0:40:52.759
<v Speaker 2>we're so grateful that you are in our life and

0:40:52.840 --> 0:40:55.440
<v Speaker 2>just thank you for everything, and we cannot wait to

0:40:55.440 --> 0:40:58.879
<v Speaker 2>see you soon. But yeah, we love you so thank

0:40:58.920 --> 0:40:59.919
<v Speaker 2>you for coming on today.

0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:02.840
<v Speaker 4>Thanks Tim, thank you You're the best.

0:41:02.920 --> 0:41:03.520
<v Speaker 3>I have a great d