Speaker 1: Yet you know, boys, it's back and reoated all in
Speaker 1: your mind. Yeah, not deep throating. This is for the streets,
Speaker 1: the reel, the railroading, the distant franchise, the truth escape douting,
Speaker 1: And they ain't know when we speak the truth, so
Speaker 1: they quoted because we wrote it. The North South East
Speaker 1: coach is the g be my keeping your head bobbing.
Speaker 1: It ain't no stopping and wants to be drops head
Speaker 1: by then the system is so corrupt they throw the
Speaker 1: rock out their heads and then blame me. Do uther be,
Speaker 1: don't get it twisted on code and me and danced
Speaker 1: for now buttament biscuits. I watched a few clips of
Speaker 1: Kevin Samuel's uh the other day were actually earlier today,
Speaker 1: and uh, this is what I came back with. And
Speaker 1: I want you guys to anybody can just jump in
Speaker 1: and and and answer, uh, give your thoughts on this.
Speaker 1: A woman said that she had a baby with a
Speaker 1: man who was not good enough for her. She said
Speaker 1: he was not good enough for her, but she had
Speaker 1: the baby with him anyway, And and she ended up
Speaker 1: the voicing this guy uh and Kevin's she said, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, well I I'm on I allowed to make mistakes,
Speaker 1: and Kevin said, you're allowed to make mistakes, but the
Speaker 1: world does not owe you understanding. Anybody got p with that? Okay,
Speaker 1: here's another one. Woman said her boyfriend of two weeks
Speaker 1: has trust issues, so she shares her location with him. Uh.
Speaker 1: And her boyfriend, uh, she has gone out with just twice.
Speaker 1: This is the guy she only has been out with twice.
Speaker 1: She said, she goes out, she she shares the location
Speaker 1: so that he can feel comfortable. Kevin said. Kevin said,
Speaker 1: it's crazy. And then he said, uh, have you had
Speaker 1: therapy and and she said yes, And he said you
Speaker 1: need to go back. You gotta with that. Okay, alright, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: The woman a woman, uh was okay being petty being pretty.
Speaker 1: Woman said being pretty is not enough for a lot
Speaker 1: of men, because I'm pretty and I'm still single. Kevin said,
Speaker 1: what do you want? The woman said, I don't know,
Speaker 1: because a lot of men don't know what they want.
Speaker 1: Kevin said, uh, just in the little time talking to you,
Speaker 1: it's been chaotic. He cut off and said, you can't
Speaker 1: make this ship up people. Anybody got a problem with that?
Speaker 1: He cut off. She said, she said she don't know
Speaker 1: what she was, I don't know what I want, and
Speaker 1: he said, just in this a little time talking to you.
Speaker 1: It's being chaotic, and he cut off the cutting off part. Yeah, definitely,
Speaker 1: and said, you can't make this ship up. People just
Speaker 1: cut off, cut off. He's also teaching men how to
Speaker 1: deal with women when they're being them, when they're being
Speaker 1: disperspectful and talking over you. You get up and walk
Speaker 1: out of the room when they cut you, cut them off,
Speaker 1: and you move on. Because a lot of men these days,
Speaker 1: especially single mother raise boys who have been raised by
Speaker 1: their minds. They'll argue back and forth with you like
Speaker 1: they're a woman. I know, and each and every woman
Speaker 1: in this room, if you're in, you've dealt with a man,
Speaker 1: and you know your mother must have raised you because
Speaker 1: you sound just like her. Whereas what men are supposed
Speaker 1: to do, it's a I said, would have to say,
Speaker 1: you said, Jed, say there's no need to get emotional
Speaker 1: about it, and you move on. That's foreign to a
Speaker 1: lot of these young men, and so what they saw
Speaker 1: him doing is dealing with disrespectful women who you're not
Speaker 1: gonna get a positive outcome from. Just you walk away
Speaker 1: from that, because otherwise it just escalates. Your ladies know
Speaker 1: how it goes. And when you get men and women
Speaker 1: and relationships and they escalate, women oftentimes don't know how
Speaker 1: to stop because women, I think, just didn't understand his
Speaker 1: approach and his response. And so it's not that they
Speaker 1: were rebutting to be disrespectful. They were trying to get
Speaker 1: their part out. You know, well X and we and
Speaker 1: they were because they, I mean, we're in a conversation,
Speaker 1: were right, And he did ask a question. There are
Speaker 1: times where he asked a question, and so I don't
Speaker 1: think that sometimes he was fair in allowing the female
Speaker 1: to fully answer the question without the cutting off. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. He was always fast. He was always he
Speaker 1: always when they when they start, when they said they
Speaker 1: came with like nonsense. No's when they were cute, and
Speaker 1: he would give him a little bit more leeway. Now
Speaker 1: I've watched I se him. I've seen him cut a
Speaker 1: lot of nice look out he was if you if
Speaker 1: you were nice looking, he would he would, he would,
Speaker 1: he would give you a little leeway. But if you
Speaker 1: was ugly, he was gonna stink it. Okay, moving on,
Speaker 1: here's another clip. There's a woman wants to divorce. A
Speaker 1: woman divorce, wanted to divorce her husband and get back
Speaker 1: with her ex because he's a high value man in
Speaker 1: terms of his money, social status, and how he looks.
Speaker 1: Kevin said, and what would people say about that? Woman said,
Speaker 1: it would say he got back with the woman he
Speaker 1: always wanted. Kevin says, she belongs to the streets and
Speaker 1: cut off the world. Yeah, he said, okay, wanted to
Speaker 1: go to the woman, the woman. The woman wanted to
Speaker 1: woman wanted to divorce her husband and go back with
Speaker 1: her ex, her ex, get what her ex because now
Speaker 1: her ex is a high value man in terms of
Speaker 1: his his social status and how he looks. And Kevin said,
Speaker 1: and what would people say about that? And she said
Speaker 1: the woman said, it would say he got back with
Speaker 1: the woman he always wanted. And then Kevin said, she
Speaker 1: belongs to the streets and cut off. No problem with
Speaker 1: that problem. Do anybody have a problem with the woman's
Speaker 1: a woman's the woman saying it would uh, it would
Speaker 1: say that he got back with the woman he always wanted. Yes,
Speaker 1: I have a problem with that. That's not what it
Speaker 1: was the fact that married behind called the show right,
Speaker 1: everybody see the money. It was so another woman called
Speaker 1: and said she got married so she could have kids,
Speaker 1: and when her husband found out he couldn't have kids
Speaker 1: anymore after they got married, she divorced him. She said,
Speaker 1: now I'm actively looking, and Kevin says, comments a bit,
Speaker 1: how do you know you're gonna be able to carry children? Uh?
Speaker 1: Turn to turn. The woman said, it is terrible. I know,
Speaker 1: I know. And then Kevin said, uh, the shot you
Speaker 1: say uh? Let me said, going on the shot you
Speaker 1: say people at Oh He said that the ship you
Speaker 1: say around people who let you believe it. So this
Speaker 1: woman is see what I saw a lot of times
Speaker 1: is when when women would get on there and they
Speaker 1: be delusional. He didn't have patience for delusional women, Like
Speaker 1: if you were talking out the side of your neck
Speaker 1: off yea, I think that is delusional. I think I
Speaker 1: think it's very delusional to to to to uh, to
Speaker 1: marry uh, to marry a man for kids. I think
Speaker 1: you want, you want kids, you till you're gonna marry
Speaker 1: this guy, and then after you get married, you find
Speaker 1: out that the guy can't have kids, and and now
Speaker 1: you no longer want to be married to the guy,
Speaker 1: so you divorce him, and now you're out there looking
Speaker 1: you divorce a guy that's otherwise a good guy. So
Speaker 1: you're out there now you're looking, and you're not even
Speaker 1: sure that you can carry a child to turn so
Speaker 1: you haven't even thought that ship all the way through.
Speaker 1: There's more men that leave women because they don't want
Speaker 1: to have children anymore. But we have to have those kids,
Speaker 1: and we don't want to have them anymore, but you
Speaker 1: still want kids. There's more men. But they went into
Speaker 1: a marriage. Hold on, they went into a marriage saying
Speaker 1: that they were going to have children, and then later
Speaker 1: on trying to exactly because but it was clear if
Speaker 1: you were if you're married, if men, and if I'm married,
Speaker 1: and we came into this relationship like you know, we're
Speaker 1: gonna have five kids, and after two I say I
Speaker 1: can't have no more. I'm done. It's a breach of contract.
Speaker 1: And that man wanted to if he wanted to leave
Speaker 1: me because because but but it was still a situation
Speaker 1: that they came in together. If she would have known
Speaker 1: beforehand that he couldn't have because she wouldn't have married,
Speaker 1: you know, with you present on that because vice versa.
Speaker 1: So I marry you and I said I want to
Speaker 1: have one kid, and you can come home with another,
Speaker 1: and no, you come on with another. Come on, I
Speaker 1: want if I say, me and you we agree and
Speaker 1: we have a one kid and ship be good, and
Speaker 1: you're like yeah. And then I come home one day
Speaker 1: and it happened to my brother. He came home and
Speaker 1: his wife said, we sick. I mean we's pregnant. He's like,
Speaker 1: now we's not pregnant. Pregnant because we had agreed that
Speaker 1: I only want to have one kid, and now you
Speaker 1: have another. So I agree with you on that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: If you and I married and I say, and I
Speaker 1: say this, I said, listen, you have we want to
Speaker 1: have we don't have one kid, and you agree with
Speaker 1: you agree with we're just gonna have one kid and
Speaker 1: you get sick. Is that her fault because you read
Speaker 1: and you should have taken you Why women one conversation?
Speaker 1: We never had a kids. It's my fault too. So
Speaker 1: if it okay, okay, that's cool. So you say, okay,
Speaker 1: well you have something to do and to do with this, right,
Speaker 1: So if my shortcomings come, you know saying, say, for instance,
Speaker 1: you you went out and you said I should check myself, right,
Speaker 1: so I shouldn't trust you in that regard, because if
Speaker 1: I asked me, if you don't, if you don't, if
Speaker 1: you're not kicks, if you're not come, if you if
Speaker 1: you and you agree upon that we don't want one key,
Speaker 1: but you have a kid, and you should say, well,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't trust me. You should have protected yourself. Right, well,
Speaker 1: supposed I go out and give you, come back and
Speaker 1: give you a Nereogdamn. Right should I say to you
Speaker 1: when you should have protected yourself? Interesting? Different focus? Trust
Speaker 1: if you trust? If I'm trusted, so you don't, I
Speaker 1: don't have to trust you with holding up your end,
Speaker 1: but you have to trust responsibility to make sure responsible
Speaker 1: when we're oulating, you know, we're not. Women cannot get
Speaker 1: their tubes tied after one kid. We can't. Unless you can't,
Speaker 1: they will not allow you to try. So, Dennis, Dennis,
Speaker 1: how do you seem like voice, I'm just not touching
Speaker 1: the relationship and stuff. I'm just but but I really
Speaker 1: want to know, like you heard, fundamentally, they just disagree
Speaker 1: on responsibility when it comes to sex, you know, like
Speaker 1: whose responsibility is it to make sure that I don't
Speaker 1: get pregnant or I don't get Venario disease, Like we
Speaker 1: can't even agree on ship like that, Like, how do
Speaker 1: we get to a point, How do we get to
Speaker 1: a point to where we get on the same page
Speaker 1: and that we can we can get back and grow,
Speaker 1: because you know, we have survived many battles, We have
Speaker 1: survived many wars, but one war we cannot survive as
Speaker 1: a gender war. We cannot win. We cannot win every
Speaker 1: we cannot win. We cannot a gender war. Forever we've
Speaker 1: in the black community, we've always had each other, men
Speaker 1: and women have We've had black men and black women,
Speaker 1: black women, black men, no matter what kind of chaos
Speaker 1: was going on around us. And but now, especially over
Speaker 1: the last several years, it just seems like so many
Speaker 1: fucking vices are out there pitting us against one another,
Speaker 1: like and we're grown as people and we're fathering for
Speaker 1: this ship, like this is why you know on my platform, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: but listen, No nobody can come to my platform, period.
Speaker 1: I don't care who you are. You can't come on
Speaker 1: my platform and talk down and disparage black women, period.
Speaker 1: You can't come on my platform and disparage black men, period.
Speaker 1: I don't play that ship because I understand that we're
Speaker 1: in a motherfucking struggle for our survival, a very existence.
Speaker 1: Now we don't even understand. Man, we had motherfucking war.
Speaker 1: Everybody nobody likes us, okay, and that's fine with me,
Speaker 1: But god damn, we gotta like each other. We gotta
Speaker 1: love each other. So how do we get that? All right?
Speaker 1: Let me let me let's let's look at it like
Speaker 1: let's let's look at the infrastructure that we're dealing with.
Speaker 1: You have a group of people who are descended from
Speaker 1: people who were kidnapped and brought from Africa who developed
Speaker 1: their own culture. We refer to them as African Americans,
Speaker 1: Black Americans. Some people refer to them as a dos
Speaker 1: to f b A. That's a group of people were
Speaker 1: talking about. Now you have amongst this population of forty
Speaker 1: five million black people in the United States, only about
Speaker 1: seventy five of them are what you would consider f
Speaker 1: BA or ados. That population is shrinking. The question is why,
Speaker 1: because you have Africans coming from overseas, you have Africans
Speaker 1: coming from the Caribbean, So that particular culture that we
Speaker 1: referred to as Ados is dissipating. That's what you're talking
Speaker 1: about now. In that culture what you have is a
Speaker 1: situation where black men and black women don't get along.
Speaker 1: That wasn't me that said that. That was movie Obsidian Ali,
Speaker 1: who was a famous YouTuber, and he pointed that out
Speaker 1: back in wrote a book about it. I said, wow.
Speaker 1: He said, the fundamental problem that we had as black
Speaker 1: people going into the twentieth century was racism. The fundamental
Speaker 1: problem we have going into the twenty one system one
Speaker 1: century is that black people, black men, and women don't
Speaker 1: get along. The question is why now A lot of
Speaker 1: people pitched us as a gender a war with Kevin
Speaker 1: Samuel's and many of us who have been in and
Speaker 1: out of the manisphere and listen and study this, and again,
Speaker 1: Kevin is much more. He was much more versing, and
Speaker 1: he was willing to talk to people. That's how you know.
Speaker 1: He loved black women and he loved black men. But
Speaker 1: what we've realized is that this is not necessarily a
Speaker 1: gender war. This is a renegotiation of the social contract. See.
Speaker 1: Prior to nineteen fifty five, black Americans were the most
Speaker 1: married group of people in America, more than white people.
Speaker 1: After nineteen fifty five, with the onset of feminism and
Speaker 1: white feminists came to the black community and say, hey, girl,
Speaker 1: come help us and walk with women's will give you
Speaker 1: a job, will give you these benefits. Just leave that
Speaker 1: man alone. A matter of fact, he's oppressing you. It's
Speaker 1: like our white man is oppressing us. But the black
Speaker 1: man has never been in any control of any institutions
Speaker 1: in the United States. We don't control what you eat,
Speaker 1: we don't control where you vote, we don't control where
Speaker 1: you to school, where you live, or any of that.
Speaker 1: So to try to equate black men fighting with black
Speaker 1: women and black women fighting with black men as oppression
Speaker 1: at the same instance in white folks. If white men
Speaker 1: have put upon white women is disingenuous. Kevin understood that.
Speaker 1: So black women were fooled. And here's the thing, because
Speaker 1: they've been empowered. You're not going to give up that power.
Speaker 1: And here's the other thing you have to understand. For
Speaker 1: the past fifty years, black women have been given the
Speaker 1: bullhorn to complain and scream and yell about all the
Speaker 1: horrible things that black men have done. But over the
Speaker 1: past ten years, black men have developed an independent voice,
Speaker 1: largely because of social media. And so what are we
Speaker 1: doing now? You heard their side for the first forty years,
Speaker 1: and now you're had black men speak for the next
Speaker 1: the last ten years. This is a renegotiation. There was
Speaker 1: a time when marriage was necessary. You needed to be
Speaker 1: married because there were wolves and bats and bears and
Speaker 1: and and all sorts of things out there, and the
Speaker 1: duties needed to be divided. You need you what you
Speaker 1: get as a as as a as a in exchange
Speaker 1: for protection and provision. You've got submission and cooperation from
Speaker 1: your woman. You got respect from your family. Women don't
Speaker 1: need men anymore. And I hate to say that, but
Speaker 1: they don't need us. That they can go to the
Speaker 1: grocery store. They can get a job. They can they
Speaker 1: can get it, they can make more money than you.
Speaker 1: They can get an education. So we're renegotiating the contract.
Speaker 1: And the question is what are the terms gonna be.
Speaker 1: That's what we're dealing with. So and here's and and
Speaker 1: going back to that that that infrastructure you got more
Speaker 1: africanare always gonna be Africans on this planet. They're always
Speaker 1: gonna be Africans in America. But the question is is
Speaker 1: this f b A, this ATOS culture isn't gonna slowly shrink, shrink,
Speaker 1: shrink because we don't get along That's why you see
Speaker 1: young black men, especially middle school You guys who have
Speaker 1: children who are middle school age, are they dating black girls?
Speaker 1: Ask yourself that we gotta you see young black girls.
Speaker 1: They're dating all more so, you see this culture dissipating.
Speaker 1: So Kevin realized that he realized he loved black people.
Speaker 1: He has a black daughter who's twenty one years old
Speaker 1: and a black mother, and he's watched her board. The
Speaker 1: man had twelve siblings. His daddy had twelve other children
Speaker 1: by I believe twelve other different women. He saw what
Speaker 1: his mother had to go through. He wanted her to
Speaker 1: do better. He wants his daughter. He wanted his daughter
Speaker 1: to do better. He was screaming in Holland, and he
Speaker 1: wanted to get married himself. The reason the man took
Speaker 1: got married a couple of different times because he still
Speaker 1: had hope. Even now, the man had hope. You see
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, And it was only recently said I
Speaker 1: just I need to He started dating out more, you see.
Speaker 1: And so what I'm saying is, and I hate to
Speaker 1: be like this. They're always gonna be black people on
Speaker 1: this planet. But this culture that we have called atos,
Speaker 1: it's toxic right now and we don't get along. And
Speaker 1: until you have more people who genuinely love black people
Speaker 1: and who are really to scream at us and holler
Speaker 1: at us and fuss at us and hurt our feelings,
Speaker 1: it's gonna dissipate. You said something that was very profound.
Speaker 1: It's like about the duty and and and it was
Speaker 1: even probably like two years ago. Women always hurt. Women
Speaker 1: say I need a man to court me, I need
Speaker 1: a man to date me. They use its anonymous right
Speaker 1: courting date. So I went and looked at both words,
Speaker 1: and I looked at I looked. I looked at both words,
Speaker 1: and I looked at the history of courting and dating.
Speaker 1: And I didn't realize that dating was a new phenomena
Speaker 1: like the latter part of the fifties. So women were like, well,
Speaker 1: I need a guy to be I need to be
Speaker 1: courted and dating two different things, because courting was what
Speaker 1: you were saying. So our grandmothers and and great grandmothers
Speaker 1: they were courted and courted men. I met your father,
Speaker 1: I liked you, I liked your family. Hey, you come
Speaker 1: over my house. We're gonna cook for the man. And
Speaker 1: it almost interviewed the family for the woman. Yeah, this
Speaker 1: dating ship didn't start into the late fifties early sixties,
Speaker 1: even with white women, because what people had is what
Speaker 1: he said, there was in power that had more money,
Speaker 1: that would been moving around more. And then me and
Speaker 1: came back from from the war and they had disposable income,
Speaker 1: so they can go out more to dinner. Well before
Speaker 1: and then when a woman said I'm old school, old
Speaker 1: school was even you would even me. And if I
Speaker 1: had a daughter and I wanted him to her the
Speaker 1: date him, I would even send her to his house
Speaker 1: to clean up. Now, so now when women say I
Speaker 1: want old school dating, I'm like, well, come on over
Speaker 1: in my career, because that's either that or do your history.
Speaker 1: Because that was courting right that into the late agree
Speaker 1: that it was a whole different duty, as my man said, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: he repeated, Kevin, it was a whole different duty. Right,
Speaker 1: So we first have to even know what we're saying,
Speaker 1: because you know, I hear women say, oh I need
Speaker 1: to be courted, well really, well, okay, well I need
Speaker 1: you to watch these clothes. So I mean, because that
Speaker 1: was part of course, it's the exchange. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: part of it was part of court. I agree. I
Speaker 1: think that there are women that are not responsible in
Speaker 1: dating or courting whichever word that we're going to use,
Speaker 1: is like their women have a responsibility also in the
Speaker 1: dating process. And I don't think a lot of women
Speaker 1: even in marriage sometimes a lot of women don't don't
Speaker 1: bring it, you know. And Chirsteve Harvey say that it's
Speaker 1: already as yesterday he said, ends to a woman, it's
Speaker 1: eighty five the woman and the man get fifteen. I
Speaker 1: was like, no, he said, when you're in the marriage,
Speaker 1: so you know, men and people sometimes say it's fifty
Speaker 1: fifty or whatever. He was like, no, he was like
Speaker 1: he was saying that. He said that it's eighty five.
Speaker 1: The woman, she gets eighty five ship out of the
Speaker 1: marriage and you get fifteen. When I believe a marriage
Speaker 1: should be fluent because in some instance you might get
Speaker 1: the woman might get eighty five, right because whatever that is,
Speaker 1: I might be provided a certain thing, but then sometimes
Speaker 1: I might get so hundred on most sides, you know.
Speaker 1: That's that's that's why Kevin Samuels was so effective because
Speaker 1: of sempass niggas like exactly, Steve, That's why he was
Speaker 1: That's why he was so expect we want men want
Speaker 1: to Men want to hear men, men want men want
Speaker 1: to hear men talk about women like men talk about
Speaker 1: women like not how simps talk? Were men want to
Speaker 1: hear men have real conversations about relationships. It ain't not true.
Speaker 1: It's not true. You don't want to hear it, Broods
Speaker 1: revoting podcast will be right back after Street tell us
Speaker 1: about some of the positives and you know what, you
Speaker 1: know what I'd rather get it? Direct this to the women.
Speaker 1: Do you are there any positives that came from Kevin's
Speaker 1: uh information that he imparted on on us? Did you
Speaker 1: get any did you did you bring back any positives
Speaker 1: conversations like these, I think that starting the conversation for
Speaker 1: us to really sit down and do the dirty word
Speaker 1: amongst those close to us are in our own communities
Speaker 1: is important. So I think just starting the conversation so
Speaker 1: we can begin to understand each other, and you know it,
Speaker 1: guys from there, because right now I agree with you
Speaker 1: is not okay? That was good? I think I would say,
Speaker 1: I would say just a lot of young men who
Speaker 1: came up without a father definitely looked up to him
Speaker 1: and relied a lot on his opinions and how he
Speaker 1: felt as well as there's a lot of women Black
Speaker 1: women who came from single parent homes so I didn't
Speaker 1: have that father figure and are looking for advice and
Speaker 1: genuinely just don't know what to do. And I think
Speaker 1: when it came with setting expectation of just being realistic,
Speaker 1: I think that was definitely relatable in that regard, But
Speaker 1: I still feel the delivery could be a little bit
Speaker 1: every We'll stick to the positive. Yeah, I agree. I
Speaker 1: think he brought some intent to hold people accountable um
Speaker 1: to what they were seeking and what they were asking for,
Speaker 1: what they were expecting in relationships. But again I just
Speaker 1: I don't agree with the mean dad. I don't agree
Speaker 1: with it Erica and what she said. I agree that
Speaker 1: it made people have to really look at themselves, which
Speaker 1: is something that they didn't because you know, like you said,
Speaker 1: you think you a hundred, and you think you are
Speaker 1: a hundred and sometimes you're not. But he pointed out
Speaker 1: outside of just looks, why you might not be that hundred.
Speaker 1: So you just can really see who's what's your market
Speaker 1: is in a man that you need to be looking at.
Speaker 1: So yeah, Dennis uh Well, Kevin prided himself from being
Speaker 1: accurate and effective. And when I said effective, he got
Speaker 1: people to get married, He got people to stay with
Speaker 1: their husbands and not get get divorced. He got ladies
Speaker 1: to go back with their baby daddy's. And the reason
Speaker 1: I know is because I've and receiving testimonies from hundreds
Speaker 1: and hundreds of people who said I listened to Kevin
Speaker 1: Samuel's and I stayed with my baby's father. I just
Speaker 1: it made me re evaluate my women. I reevaluated my
Speaker 1: my marriage and decided to stay. I myself was through
Speaker 1: with American women, not just black, all American women. Yes,
Speaker 1: the system that we live in is unfair. Truth. Why
Speaker 1: would I get married and then risk half my wealth
Speaker 1: and then have to go through another divorce again? It's
Speaker 1: not worth it. But so so what I'm saying is
Speaker 1: now because of Kevin Samuel's I've gotten engaged and I
Speaker 1: was done. You see, I mean, I'm telling you when
Speaker 1: I was done, I would I had a fifty thousand
Speaker 1: dollars airline bill fifty dollars because I didn't even want
Speaker 1: to be here anymore. I dropped out of the dating
Speaker 1: scene and used in as a nice dating thing. Right.
Speaker 1: But but my whole point is he's giving man, he's
Speaker 1: giving person. He's giving men hope again, men who have options,
Speaker 1: who have the world at their feet, that they're fit,
Speaker 1: beautiful women. What do you call FBI fit beautiful? Is?
Speaker 1: I couldn't keep up with these academs if I want,
Speaker 1: But you know what I mean, And so you know,
Speaker 1: I said, I'll give it a shot. I joined this
Speaker 1: mixed Facebook group and next thing you know, he was
Speaker 1: on the Facebook dating same time man. I wasn't on
Speaker 1: the day I was done. But he got him a
Speaker 1: white woman. Absolutely not she she's she's black and black
Speaker 1: as me. You know what I mean. But but bottom
Speaker 1: line is, I'm not the only one this man has
Speaker 1: putting people back together again. You know, he by putting
Speaker 1: other people back together again. And I talked to his
Speaker 1: best friend Jeff, probably like ten times over the past week.
Speaker 1: He was proud of what he did, putting people active.
Speaker 1: And it's not just black people. I got people from
Speaker 1: Australia saying I stayed in my marriage. I got people
Speaker 1: from India calling me saying I got back with my husband.
Speaker 1: I have a better understanding of men now I see
Speaker 1: it from the man's perspective. I'm a young man, He
Speaker 1: told me to get off my button start working eighty
Speaker 1: hours a week if I had to stop waiting around
Speaker 1: and be the best man I can be. He called
Speaker 1: him Henry's men, young men who are a blue collar
Speaker 1: electric and he loved blue collar guys. He said, look,
Speaker 1: you know, white collar guys, y'all ain't nothing. That's the
Speaker 1: blue collar men that make this world keeping. The ladies
Speaker 1: need to stop passing these men up. These are good,
Speaker 1: solid man and you're pass them up because they made
Speaker 1: a lot of money too. And whether you like it
Speaker 1: or not, he was effective. He worked and had he
Speaker 1: been able to continue going more years, he had been
Speaker 1: more effective. But you know, the most high took him.
Speaker 1: It is what it is, and it's left upon us
Speaker 1: to continue his legacy and protect it so that others
Speaker 1: don't come along and malign him because what he did
Speaker 1: that was effective will go away and be diminished. And
Speaker 1: we allow these outsiders who are angry because their feelings
Speaker 1: are hurt. Right, And then so we said, well we
Speaker 1: can't listen to him anymore, you see. So this is
Speaker 1: where we are. And on top of that, man, like
Speaker 1: I said earlier at the top of the broadcast, here,
Speaker 1: the man had plans for making hundreds of millions of
Speaker 1: dollars and revitalizing you know what was once Wall Street.
Speaker 1: This man from Oklahoma, he knows very well what happened
Speaker 1: in the Tulsa race riots. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: What were some of those plans, you guys? O man,
Speaker 1: We went up to New York and look, I don't
Speaker 1: just go because people call me. We went to New York.
Speaker 1: We went to New York and we met Jose's Anega.
Speaker 1: He's a famous YouTuber. His brother is a lawyer. He
Speaker 1: has his whole family working in a warehouse in Brooklyn,
Speaker 1: multimillion dollar complex that they read. He started off in
Speaker 1: his mother's house in Florida doing YouTube videos, moved forward
Speaker 1: in his college dorm room, did that, and basically what
Speaker 1: he's done, he's been advertising hey, building himself up in
Speaker 1: his popular alreity on YouTube. His brother went to law school,
Speaker 1: he came back, and now they got this complex in
Speaker 1: Brooklyn that they revitalized and they mark it to the
Speaker 1: same people that have been watching them on YouTube for years,
Speaker 1: making tens of millions of dollars a year. And this
Speaker 1: is the same thing Kevin had in mind for us.
Speaker 1: The members of the black YouTube Black Mannisphere. He brought
Speaker 1: me in for infrastructure purposes, and he had two other
Speaker 1: guys engineers, another attorney, and and basically we were gonna
Speaker 1: put this together. But you know, he's dead, you know,
Speaker 1: and so nothing's gonna happen. But this is something that
Speaker 1: that could have happened. I mean, you know, so, is
Speaker 1: there anything that you can share with us about his memorial?
Speaker 1: I would prefer not to because this know, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of quacks out there on the internet, you know,
Speaker 1: but I know it's gonna be private, and I just
Speaker 1: want to. I wanted his mom to be able to
Speaker 1: get through this. I want his daughter to be able
Speaker 1: to get through this. Um. You know, they they're very
Speaker 1: they're strong women. I mean they're a good, strong Oklahoma
Speaker 1: raised sisters, you know, and um, you know, I just
Speaker 1: I just feel really bad for his mom. I didn't
Speaker 1: reach out to them. His best friend, Jeff called hit
Speaker 1: me up on my office line, and you know, I'm
Speaker 1: still sulking in kind of in mourning. He said, I
Speaker 1: need help. You know, you got these people calling and
Speaker 1: they're trying to talk to his mother and she's frantic
Speaker 1: and the little girl is crying and I'm just trying
Speaker 1: to figure out what to do. Is my best friend.
Speaker 1: We never met before, but he talked about you and
Speaker 1: some of his other friends, and so he reached out
Speaker 1: to help me. So, you know, I started making phone calls.
Speaker 1: I put the notice out, hey, don't call this woman,
Speaker 1: call me. And some of the people who did call,
Speaker 1: like some of the newspapers. You know, I gave him
Speaker 1: a few choice words, you know, legal words, of course,
Speaker 1: no threats, and UH made him back down, you know,
Speaker 1: because they need time to to to breathe. But as
Speaker 1: far as memorial service, the thing you need to understand
Speaker 1: is that Kevin has been returned home to his mother.
Speaker 1: Is his worldly assets are with his mother. Everything is
Speaker 1: with his mother and his daughter. And what we need
Speaker 1: the public to do is just to leave these people alone.
Speaker 1: You can argue with Kevin about the merit to what
Speaker 1: he said, He would argue to to death. He believed
Speaker 1: in what he was doing. But leave this woman alone.
Speaker 1: Let this old woman who had one son who died,
Speaker 1: leave her alone. Who wants to die, who wants their
Speaker 1: children to die before them? Put yourself and out. You
Speaker 1: say you love black women, all these black women's I
Speaker 1: love black women. Why are you doing this black woman
Speaker 1: like that? Because you don't know what your son is
Speaker 1: gonna do. You don't know what you don't know what
Speaker 1: what just and and Kevin didn't have a criminal record.
Speaker 1: Why we don't have the same energy for Dylan Ruf.
Speaker 1: We don't even know who Dalan Ruf is anymore. Why
Speaker 1: we don't have the same roof for that boy who
Speaker 1: shot that man who shot Trayvon Martin? Where is that
Speaker 1: energy for this? You're attacking this black man who didn't
Speaker 1: often but love you guys enough to scream and how
Speaker 1: let you and say getting married? Lawyer expectation, that's what
Speaker 1: I want to know. That's that's I hope will be
Speaker 1: his legacy. Maybe not lawyer expected, have realistic what's the difference,
Speaker 1: But that's that's I don't want to you know, that's
Speaker 1: it part right there that you shared. Everybody won't get
Speaker 1: the luxury of knowing that part where this is all
Speaker 1: premises from, like where it all started from, you know,
Speaker 1: and listening to you speak about it, I think can
Speaker 1: impact the way people receive him because he definitely didn't
Speaker 1: expel or expose that part of him, you know, because
Speaker 1: in listening to you and talking about like his relationship issues.
Speaker 1: It sounds to me like there's a place of hurt
Speaker 1: where a lot of this is could be coming from
Speaker 1: um where the intent is good. He's heard just like Willie,
Speaker 1: he sees our culture agreement, I mean, And so his
Speaker 1: voice is used in a way to help to be
Speaker 1: expressive and to motivate women to do better based off
Speaker 1: of his hurt and his past and what he's seen
Speaker 1: and what he's experienced. But I don't think a lot
Speaker 1: of people will have no, not necessarily you don't. But
Speaker 1: I based on what I'm hearing, I'm only speaking off
Speaker 1: of what I just I'm speaking from what it sounds like,
Speaker 1: you know, and it makes it makes sense, It makes
Speaker 1: it makes sense. We won't get the same all of
Speaker 1: all Black Americans. That's why he had the man advocated
Speaker 1: therapy so much. All Black Americans are dealing with some
Speaker 1: sort of trauma degree, especially growing up in the past
Speaker 1: fifty or sixty years. Most of these men have not
Speaker 1: had their fathers and not had decent men around them
Speaker 1: to teach them how to deal with their emotions. They
Speaker 1: don't know anything about themselves, much less a woman. And
Speaker 1: so you know, the man said get therapy. But you know, like,
Speaker 1: here's a crazy thing, and I'm I'm gonna say this.
Speaker 1: It seems like people from other races and ethnicities they
Speaker 1: understood him better than his own. Hmm. That's what I
Speaker 1: find And that was probably one of the most disturbing
Speaker 1: things to him. But you have to understand that there
Speaker 1: was no explanation. It was just coming out the gate um,
Speaker 1: you know, reacting to women and telling women this in
Speaker 1: an aggressive way. You used. You can't talk about a
Speaker 1: lot of his own personal experience, so it's hard to
Speaker 1: really give someone the benefit of the doubt that they're
Speaker 1: intend is good or just listen to what you got
Speaker 1: to say. Yeah, and most people did. I would say
Speaker 1: they did listen. But when it's offensive sometimes and but
Speaker 1: it's coming from a good place. Sometimes having that background
Speaker 1: is helpful because people listen with different years, it's not
Speaker 1: so offensive. At this point, you can say the exact
Speaker 1: same thing. But because I know where you're coming from,
Speaker 1: it's it's really not going to bother. So let me
Speaker 1: ask you a question. I educated women right with with
Speaker 1: with what was the highest level education you've achieved? I
Speaker 1: have a bachelor Okay, so you've had professed that you
Speaker 1: probably didn't like right. You might not have liked that.
Speaker 1: I had plenty of professors I didn't like. I didn't
Speaker 1: like their tone, I didn't like the way they came across.
Speaker 1: They might have been had a bad day, they might
Speaker 1: be racist. Whatever. I go in front of judges all
Speaker 1: the time and I don't like what they say. But
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter because I'm a grown up and I
Speaker 1: understand that I have to separate the bones from the
Speaker 1: meat and take and do what I No. It's not
Speaker 1: just it's about being an adult, and it's about having
Speaker 1: an adult conversation, and so we have to be more mature.
Speaker 1: So it's not just to accept that right because that's
Speaker 1: how you pay your bills. I don't. I could quit.
Speaker 1: You could, but it would impact your life significantly. I
Speaker 1: could if it meant that much to me, I could.
Speaker 1: But if it's helping me achieve my goal, and that's
Speaker 1: what he was trying to you, it's not just about
Speaker 1: that because they are police officers. The police officers, it's
Speaker 1: just like being a business for yourself. There are police
Speaker 1: officers that will pull you over on the side of
Speaker 1: the road and they will purposely try to prove, and
Speaker 1: what we as black men of learning is that we
Speaker 1: can't respond to otherwise we might get shot or billy
Speaker 1: club At some point. You have to just listen and
Speaker 1: follow instruction. I get that, But we're talking about a
Speaker 1: man trying to get married personality that you're talking You
Speaker 1: call him for advice, right, I get that, that's part.
Speaker 1: I get that you and he and you don't like
Speaker 1: the way he's giving you that advice. What I'm saying,
Speaker 1: when people know where it's coming from, it's easier to hear.
Speaker 1: Are always going to hit everybody differently, and again they're
Speaker 1: not for everybody. But the good thing is his messages
Speaker 1: are still there. So for those of us that didn't
Speaker 1: hear everything, we can go back and listen, you know.
Speaker 1: But again, it started these conversations, which for a man
Speaker 1: that says this was of such importance to him and
Speaker 1: he was pushing this movement and there was this bigger picture,
Speaker 1: then it's still there for us to go back and
Speaker 1: revisit these conversations. And so I can have different conversations
Speaker 1: with women when they are like, oh I don't like him,
Speaker 1: I can I can bring something to that conversation. Now
Speaker 1: that's a little more valuable, and and that's what these
Speaker 1: conversations can do is help us really press his intent
Speaker 1: and really kind of stabilize how women are thinking about him,
Speaker 1: because I think it's it's it's being perceived very negative
Speaker 1: and it doesn't have to be. Podcast will be right
Speaker 1: back after. I want to ask a quick question. So
Speaker 1: you say, you listen to Kevin, right, and you've got
Speaker 1: some out of it, right, So what is it that
Speaker 1: Kevin Sammus least for all the one they said they listened,
Speaker 1: What did he say that you will apply to your
Speaker 1: life now dating life? And I don't have an answer
Speaker 1: for you. I just said that I didn't disagree with
Speaker 1: a lot of things that he said. So you don't
Speaker 1: learn anything from what he said. That's nothing that you learn.
Speaker 1: Where you could say, I will now apply this, or
Speaker 1: I would when I look at it man, or I'll
Speaker 1: you know this will helped me through this, I'm already
Speaker 1: applying it, I would say, I'm I'm already applying those
Speaker 1: things right, just in general, even from what I said earlier.
Speaker 1: As far as you know, you you date, who you're among,
Speaker 1: you know, So example, she she may not know all
Speaker 1: the people she's not in my circle. She's not around
Speaker 1: the people that I know, so she can we can
Speaker 1: have the same job, we can both be tens, you
Speaker 1: know whatever. But because we're not in the same circles,
Speaker 1: she might date, you know, somebody else, and I might
Speaker 1: date you know, like, the people that we date are
Speaker 1: going to be different. I'm aware of that. I know that,
Speaker 1: and I so I'm going to carry myself a certain
Speaker 1: type of way, and I'm going to expect a certain
Speaker 1: type of sing I've never said you was like a number. No,
Speaker 1: I never said I gotta have somebody that's making you
Speaker 1: know this million dollars, but you definitely have to match
Speaker 1: me or more. Period. That's a number. I think you
Speaker 1: should be real. I think you should if you learned
Speaker 1: anything from him, you should live in that truth. That
Speaker 1: is my trip and saying that you just you don't
Speaker 1: have to make a certain number, but you require a
Speaker 1: certain type of lifestyle. You've already established I have a
Speaker 1: great lifestyle. I don't need that. That's that's not what
Speaker 1: I need to accomplish. When you say fial, match doesn't
Speaker 1: exactly match does not have to be all about money.
Speaker 1: So she her lifestyle because you're so so saying keeping
Speaker 1: this because this is one of the things that my
Speaker 1: platform talks about, is that with a lot of themselves
Speaker 1: every day, and that's why you can't get where you
Speaker 1: need to get. If you date a guy, you should
Speaker 1: have some number in place. And listen, I got sisters
Speaker 1: and I tell them all the time, you should have
Speaker 1: a number in place because that allows you to know
Speaker 1: what what you know, where you need to be. It
Speaker 1: focuses what you where you need to go. And if
Speaker 1: you're saying, well, I don't have to have a guy
Speaker 1: make more money than less, he could make less than
Speaker 1: me because he asked you said, he has made as
Speaker 1: much as you are more than she chimed in with
Speaker 1: a good girl. They mean, I don't know how men
Speaker 1: call hypergamy. Hypergam that's the term all that's when women's
Speaker 1: when women date up as opposed to down. You would
Speaker 1: not as a woman, we would not as a human race,
Speaker 1: have survived that women picked men who were lower than
Speaker 1: them in status and wealth and the ability to provide
Speaker 1: your designed to date up accepted. If you didn't, we
Speaker 1: would have died off a matter of fact, in the
Speaker 1: Black community. And I think if Kevin was here, he
Speaker 1: would agree with we need more hypergamy. We need women
Speaker 1: to choose to date up as opposed to down. But
Speaker 1: but the problem, the problem is, the problem is if
Speaker 1: you're average, right, or if you're a woman who and
Speaker 1: this is where this is where the controversy came in,
Speaker 1: Like this is it. This is the problem. The crux
Speaker 1: of the problem is no woman has a problem with hypergamy.
Speaker 1: They have a problem when they're locked out of the
Speaker 1: top level of men because they have children outside of wedlock,
Speaker 1: because they have weight issues, because they have made certain
Speaker 1: decisions in their life that have caused for them to
Speaker 1: finally be able to date. But there past a certain age.
Speaker 1: That's the problem. The women who have locked out of
Speaker 1: that high level of men are have a problem with it.
Speaker 1: So he's saying, look, don't believe what these feminists told you.
Speaker 1: You're gonna find you a husband your years from eighteen
Speaker 1: to twenty two. You need to be finding the best
Speaker 1: man you can possibly find. Don't wait till you thirty five.
Speaker 1: And you got it with a PhD. You got a PhD.
Speaker 1: And now but that's my issue though, because if you
Speaker 1: don't be honest with yourself, I think one of the
Speaker 1: probably want to get married and I think the biggest
Speaker 1: problem with women that they're not honest with them. Says
Speaker 1: the woman that you're speaking of, that thirty PhD and
Speaker 1: the dog right if she wants to get married, are
Speaker 1: her choicest slimmer because of all those things that she had.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I think what I think what Kevin
Speaker 1: was pointing out is doesn't really help qustions lest in
Speaker 1: the sexual marketplace about about don't don't If a man
Speaker 1: had a PhD and that translated to him making more money,
Speaker 1: that probably would help him, But as far as the woman,
Speaker 1: it doesn't really help. You don't believe these lies the
Speaker 1: society has told you you being fit, feminine, sweet, beautiful,
Speaker 1: cooperative and intelligent and having a PhD. Oh, that's awesome
Speaker 1: if if you're at a certain age. But if you're
Speaker 1: fifty with a PhD and you're not get treated like
Speaker 1: and all those other things, you know, well, if you're
Speaker 1: fifty and you're with a PhD, you're not gonna get
Speaker 1: treated like and you're making a hundred fifty thousand dollars
Speaker 1: a year, you're not gonna get treated like a man
Speaker 1: who's fifty PhD making dollars a year. This doesn't matter
Speaker 1: to you. Then, Um, Let's say a woman is between
Speaker 1: the age of thirty five and she's doing pretty good.
Speaker 1: Let's say she makes like sixty Yeah, she's okay for
Speaker 1: just her right? Yeah? Does getting her body done enhance
Speaker 1: your interest in her? Or does it subtract is natural?
Speaker 1: Does natural still matter? Yeah? I think you know it
Speaker 1: depends on you know, I mean, right pace? Does that
Speaker 1: enhance the mark? More checks now look different on social
Speaker 1: media alone? A lot of it is not the gym
Speaker 1: body fit, right, I'm asking just natural matter anymore? Or
Speaker 1: as long as you have this society standard of what
Speaker 1: beautiful is? I think I think that that's a good question.
Speaker 1: But I think that's more on the guy. I think
Speaker 1: that's a matter. That's something that like that whole made up,
Speaker 1: you know, Nicki Minaje, Cardi B. And why is we
Speaker 1: trying to put people's names in this. I'm not saying,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying overly done. But for a lot of women,
Speaker 1: they feel they need to keep up up, who have
Speaker 1: what point? Here's the thing, Here's here's what you're saying.
Speaker 1: They have to have that surgery because they're trying to
Speaker 1: keep up, because they've lost ground. Over the past fifteen
Speaker 1: years from you know you're having a certain let's say
Speaker 1: they have it at thirty five. They're not the same
Speaker 1: person they were at twenty or twenty five. That's what
Speaker 1: they're trying. They're trying to keep up. Well, I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's not honest with yourself.
Speaker 1: This is what honest and what you actually can't have.
Speaker 1: And I think that's worth women. Missy miss him said,
Speaker 1: that's why they're unhappy. Like, that's why a lot of
Speaker 1: women are unhappy. When I asked his sister, because she
Speaker 1: what she did to do that makes fifty thou kept
Speaker 1: talking around it, right if you don't, but something that
Speaker 1: makes every black man makes it album. You said you
Speaker 1: didn't have a number, So that's a number, right, No,
Speaker 1: I said more than member. That's her number. Right, So
Speaker 1: she does have a number, and we know it starts
Speaker 1: at overtollars. No, the thing is an average black man
Speaker 1: in America makes forty two dollars a year. Average man
Speaker 1: that the average white man in America makes fifty one
Speaker 1: dollars a year. How so that's value. No, that's an average,
Speaker 1: isn't the average? Guys? Because that's on the spot and
Speaker 1: because then we're gonna in that be simone category, like
Speaker 1: we're like shipping on the average man. Or I think
Speaker 1: that's not you're not shipping on the average man. If
Speaker 1: you're honest with yourself about saying you need an average man,
Speaker 1: maybe you need an average man, that's what he was saying.
Speaker 1: If you be honest with yourself, you might be like
Speaker 1: I might not mean average around a woman average. You
Speaker 1: go around and asked women the magic numbers six figures.
Speaker 1: Most women have six figures in their head. They may
Speaker 1: not say it, but they need would don't belong to you?
Speaker 1: How gonna give you that right? But most women? But
Speaker 1: if that's what most women, I might. But if that's
Speaker 1: what you're looking that's what you're looking for. Never be settled.
Speaker 1: You'll never be settled for less. If you always wanted
Speaker 1: something that you can't have, you'll never be really comfortable
Speaker 1: with something less. If you're honest with yourself and say this,
Speaker 1: maybe where I need to be right like her her situation,
Speaker 1: she might need to mess with her brother to make
Speaker 1: fifty bucks right, because that might be the dude that
Speaker 1: works well in her situation. Because if you because if
Speaker 1: you mess with the dude. They say, make a hundred
Speaker 1: and sixty Do that make a hundred and fifty bucks
Speaker 1: or two hundred bucks? Then that that guy, that guy,
Speaker 1: that guy has more women coming at him because everybody
Speaker 1: wants that. And the more you check those boxes, the
Speaker 1: more women are in his pool. So you saying, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go in with the pool with all the
Speaker 1: women if you six four, two hundred fifteen pounds, make
Speaker 1: five hundred grand of the year, you know, saying, have
Speaker 1: a nice will educated. You know what I'm saying, You're intelligent.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Everybody want that dude, right,
Speaker 1: everybody won't that dude. I know that for show. Everybody
Speaker 1: want that dude. So if you go after that dude,
Speaker 1: his pool is this big right where you where your
Speaker 1: pool go down. You know what I'm saying, you might
Speaker 1: need to be fishing in the pool, just like speak.
Speaker 1: But most women like them shales about what they want.
Speaker 1: You know what, those people don't even try to talk
Speaker 1: to me. And he said that too, He said, what
Speaker 1: the under they don't even I don't want to say that.
Speaker 1: I don't where you ain't normal places. I go to
Speaker 1: Davenport most of the cat said that makes it be
Speaker 1: some unders what I said, most of the I don't care.
Speaker 1: How do you know when you look at them? Man?
Speaker 1: How much money he may really? Hedn't say that. I said,
Speaker 1: who tries to talk to me? I know the people
Speaker 1: who who try to talk to me? So with me,
Speaker 1: no on who's trying to talk to me? I know
Speaker 1: who you are. Those people don't even approach me. And
Speaker 1: I'm not saying what do you think? Is the what
Speaker 1: do you think of this percentage? Its father? The women
Speaker 1: of men that make a hundred bucks more a hundred thousand,
Speaker 1: it's not a lot like what just anywhere? Just what
Speaker 1: I don't know about to ask you to guess, I
Speaker 1: can't tell you what you know? What do you think? Women?
Speaker 1: I always do that. We'll just ask a lot of
Speaker 1: a little bit. What do you think? What do you think?
Speaker 1: What do you think? What do you What do you think?
Speaker 1: But I think it's probably in the middle. I'd say,
Speaker 1: what do you think? What do you think? The proceeding
Speaker 1: if you had to get my family were talking about population.
Speaker 1: We're talking about it general population. Maybe the proceedings the
Speaker 1: now should know percentages about nine percent nine percent? So
Speaker 1: if you think it is thirty percent. You I know
Speaker 1: because they bring the W two and sure I know
Speaker 1: what they make. Most of guys don't make a hundred bucks,
Speaker 1: so there's only nine percent. Everybody wants someone that makes
Speaker 1: more than fifty k. I've never approached the man I said,
Speaker 1: you approached me, So you're saying that nationally that has
Speaker 1: never So I'm not whatever problem not you're saying percent
Speaker 1: of the male population you've got left. So I want
Speaker 1: to see that. I want to see I want to
Speaker 1: see that Google, because there's a lot of now, not
Speaker 1: nine of the people. You know, I'm not talking about
Speaker 1: hustle cats. Ain't something about there's a lot of drivers
Speaker 1: make you have how many team talking about on Black
Speaker 1: demographics dot com? He's correct, are you on it? Nine
Speaker 1: percent of black men make a hundred men in the world?
Speaker 1: It might be I think the number might have rose
Speaker 1: risen to about thirteen percent of all men make of
Speaker 1: all the men in America, thirteen percent of them making
Speaker 1: a hunder grand, hundred grand or more, a hundred grand
Speaker 1: or more. If we we as black people only make
Speaker 1: up twelve thirteen percent. So if you're saying that most
Speaker 1: of the dudes that you met, make a hunted books.
Speaker 1: Not the question. You said that approach you make a
Speaker 1: honey bunk. You said that the lower ones don't talk
Speaker 1: to you. That's what all she All she addressed was
Speaker 1: the lower She never addressed anything regarding her number lord
Speaker 1: than her doesn't approach, That's what I said. So he
Speaker 1: said that, now you're just talking something. I don't know
Speaker 1: how you quantify that did because I'm like, if you
Speaker 1: can somebody walk up to you and they started talking
Speaker 1: to you, you'll be like what you looking? He was not.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I said, I'm just I said, I'm guessing,
Speaker 1: and she is to be guessing. She saw W two.
Speaker 1: You know how, I date pretty much every man that
Speaker 1: I've ever dated. For it, right, I've met them through someone.
Speaker 1: That's the only for only those are the four dudes
Speaker 1: that I talked to. Wait, wait and now you you
Speaker 1: we've been around each other every time. Wait, every time
Speaker 1: we've been out. I'm around what a group? Right, Nobody's
Speaker 1: gonna approach me when I'm with this group, and I
Speaker 1: don't talk to none of them. I keep when I go,
Speaker 1: when I go, am I lying when I go out somewhere.
Speaker 1: So you don't when I go out me, I'm talking
Speaker 1: about me. I'm not talking about nobody else. When I
Speaker 1: go out, I surround myself with the people that I
Speaker 1: feel comfortable with going out. You know who I beat with?
Speaker 1: You know, Okay, No, they're not toppoach you because no one,
Speaker 1: thank you associate exactly because of association. They don't because
Speaker 1: of what they're associated with you, Like they can't exactly.
Speaker 1: So it has nothing to do with what I would accept.
Speaker 1: What intimidation okay, let yeah, yeah, not even no no
Speaker 1: no no no no, not with me, No no no,
Speaker 1: not not eximidad with me. No, not attimidated with me,
Speaker 1: not with me, with the situation I'm in. That's a
Speaker 1: difference now that she's weird. Like I said, I'm not
Speaker 1: saying it's like I'm not gonna it's like family, I'm
Speaker 1: never whatever, but I've never t I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't like to go out. That's why always, always never,
Speaker 1: But you are around were not exactly like because you
Speaker 1: don't know who I always and I'm not with anyone,
Speaker 1: but you just don't know, so not like oh you
Speaker 1: look scary? Are you got? And it's nothing has nothing
Speaker 1: to do See, this is what I'm talking about. That
Speaker 1: is what I'm talking about. Hate UM. Kevin Samuel's death
Speaker 1: has sparked the conversation among people all over the world,
Speaker 1: and specifically men and women, about the harsh realities of
Speaker 1: dating and relationships. R I P. Kevin Samuel's no more talk.
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