1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,080 Speaker 1: Buck it up, Hold on tight, we got it for you. 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: Here it is. It is the Strawberry Letter. And this 3 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: is a crazy one. Here subject I like to fight 4 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: and bite because he doesn't act right. Here's Stephen Shirley. Yeah. 5 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. 6 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: At the beginning, everything was perfect. But then I started 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:22,920 Speaker 1: checking his phone and I saw messages between him and 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: a lot of different ladies. He usually text one girl 9 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: more than others, so it seems like he really is 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: trying to get to know her. I questioned him about 11 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: the text messages, and he promised that he would stop 12 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:38,520 Speaker 1: talking to all of the girls. We had a big 13 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: blow up that night, but I let it slide. The 14 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: next night, I was out drinking and when I got home, 15 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:47,599 Speaker 1: I checked his phone and saw that he had been 16 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: texting back and forth with the main girl all day. 17 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: I got so upset that I beat him up. I 18 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: hate to admit it, but I put my hands on 19 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: him three times, and I bait him a few times, 20 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: all because he likes to text other females. Whenever I 21 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: jump on him, he goes to stay at his mom's 22 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: house for a few days. He stayed at his mom's 23 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 1: house for two nights and when he came home, things 24 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: were back to normal until yesterday. I came home from 25 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: work and he was already home and said we needed 26 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,639 Speaker 1: to talk. He told me he's tired of me putting 27 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: my hands on him, and he is moving out. He 28 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: had already packed his clothes and said that there is 29 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: nothing I can do to make him change his mind. 30 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: I told him, if he leaves, our relationship is over. 31 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: He said that he needs space. I suggested that he 32 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: goes stay with his mom instead of moving out. He 33 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 1: is so quick to walk away, So should I fight 34 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: for this relationship? Uh? No, I think you've done enough fighting, Okay, 35 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: more than enough. Uh. Then let us started out with 36 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: I like to fight, blah blah blah. But but seriously, 37 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: I think you're you're abusing this man and you really 38 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: need to stop. I hope he does walk away from you. 39 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 1: I really do, Because who wants to be beat down 40 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: by their girlfriend? Uh? Who likes to fight? Who admits 41 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 1: that she likes to fight and bite? Uh? This is 42 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: serious to me, just as it would be serious if 43 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 1: he were beating you down. If he's cheating, you need 44 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 1: to leave him, not put your hands on him. I 45 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: commend him. You didn't put that in the letter, so 46 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: I'm assuming he doesn't beat you, So I commend him 47 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,799 Speaker 1: for not retaliating and keeping his hands off you. This 48 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: is not a relationship. This is an abusive, uh situation, 49 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: controlling situation here and uh, I'm glad that he's leaving you, Steve. 50 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: Let's beat there up. I mean, she's you know, you've 51 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: been in a relationship three years. In the beginning, it 52 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: was perfect. Then you start checking his phone. You saw 53 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: some messages between him and different people. But he's texting 54 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: his one girl more than the others. You questioned him 55 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: about it. He promised he stopped talking to all the girls. 56 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: And you had a big blow up that night, but 57 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: you let it slide. See that right there as a warning. 58 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: We had a big blow up that night, but I 59 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: let it slide. Now we're about to find out what 60 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:27,519 Speaker 1: happened when she don't. Let's stop slide. Pay attention now. 61 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: Next night wasn't long what let's just slide last night, 62 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: but I'm gonna show you something. Next night, I was 63 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: out drinking. I got home, I checked this phone, so 64 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: that he had been texting back from the main girl 65 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: all day. Nothing nothing not. Let me stop you. It 66 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: was out drinking. Could it be I'm just asking, could 67 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: it be Dad, that after you started drinking and you 68 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: came home then was the same messages from yesterday. You 69 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: got drunk, now you came here. Look at it far 70 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: here that is again. So now he had been texting 71 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: back from man girl. I got so upset I beat 72 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 1: him up. What you just went in now and start 73 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: wailing on it right now, let me let me say 74 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 1: something else to y'all. Here's what could possibly have happened. 75 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:50,919 Speaker 1: Here's what could have possibly happened. Okay, because if you 76 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: can just go in the room and just beat a 77 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:57,600 Speaker 1: man up, I'm assuming you got a little more weight 78 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:02,719 Speaker 1: on you than he do. I'm gonna I'm gonna assume that. 79 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: Y'all don't want me to say that he got hush 80 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: over Jerusalem. I was good. I know what you're saying, 81 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: all right, but let me rephrase it. Then I've been 82 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: texting back forth man girl. I got so upset I 83 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: beat him up. Been dating man three years, everything was perfect. 84 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,559 Speaker 1: Came home one day with it, looked through his phone, 85 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: found out he had been texting a lot of girls, 86 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 1: with one girl in particular more than the others. They 87 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 1: got into it. He promised that he would stop talking 88 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 1: to all the girls. They had a big blow up 89 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: that night, but I let it slide. That was a warning. 90 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: But the next night she was out drinking. Now this 91 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: is when we left that. I'm gonna let it slide 92 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 1: go because I'm full. Now I've been drinking and I'm 93 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: finn'ly gonna do something. I checked his phone, saw that 94 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:01,240 Speaker 1: he had been texting back and for with this main 95 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: girl all day. Okay, hold on, So I got so upset. 96 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: I went its time went? What was answered? I went inside? 97 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 1: Now anger? What my anger working a little bit? I 98 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: beat him up. Wow. Now I thought this might be 99 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 1: a a weight issue. But let me just leave it 100 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: at that. Maybe it ain't. Let me try to read on. 101 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: Then she sounds like a man. I hate to admit it, 102 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: but I don't put her hands on him three times. 103 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: That's a dude statement right there. Hate to admitted man, 104 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:39,599 Speaker 1: but I don't put hands on it three times. And 105 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: I beat him a few times, all because he likes 106 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: to text other females. So now let me ask you 107 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: a question. Is you his woman or is you his 108 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:57,839 Speaker 1: parole office? Because you act like you got rights to 109 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: punish him for latent probation or something. Then they go 110 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 1: right here whenever I jump on him. Let me tell 111 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: you what she wanted to say. Hey, whenever I jump 112 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: on here, he goes stay at his mama's house for 113 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: a few days. You know what I really see in 114 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: this letter? When l I whip his asked his punk 115 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: ass go stay at his mama house. That's what you know. 116 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: Then he's so scared of me. He stayed at Then 117 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: she didn't say this, but he stayed at his mama's 118 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: house for two nights, and when he came home things 119 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: back to normal. I think what this letter say. He 120 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: was so scared. He stayed at his mama's house for 121 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: two nights, and when he came home, things went back 122 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:47,200 Speaker 1: to normal. Until yesterday. Oh it don't take long. I 123 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 1: came home from work, he already at home. He come, 124 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: tell my, we need to talk, he said, tired me 125 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: putting hands on him, and he moving out. He already 126 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: had packed his clothes and said, there's no not can 127 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 1: do to make him change his mind. I told him, 128 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: told him, if he leaves, our relationship is over. It's 129 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: already over. Y'all ain't in a relationship. Y'all in a 130 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 1: fight club. He said he needs space, he needs to heal. 131 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 1: He don't need space, he needs to heal. He can't 132 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: keep going down into his job. Tohow, he ran into 133 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: a don you just in here? Busting him up? I 134 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 1: suggested that he goes stay with his mom instead of 135 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 1: moving out. He is so quick to walk away? What 136 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 1: what he is so quick to walk away? Hell, it's 137 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: called running. He didn't walk away, he ran and stay 138 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: to his mama's house. He's scared of you. Should I 139 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 1: fight for this relationship? All you wanna do is fight? 140 00:08:55,600 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 1: Huh oh? You want to fight for the relationship. You 141 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 1: want to fight after you come here from drinking. You 142 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: want to fight. If you go through his phone, you 143 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 1: want to fight. If he go over his mama's house. 144 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: You just want to fight me. And fighting ain't good 145 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: enough you. You You won't buy some damn body. Now? He 146 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: got bite marks all over in black eyes? Dog? What 147 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 1: is happening to you? This is ridiculous? This is this 148 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: is ridiculous. You're being beat up by this woman. This 149 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: is domestic violence, Yes it is, Yes, it is. Women 150 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: women can be accused of domestic violence just like wive 151 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: and you are an abusive woman and he should leave you. 152 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: What he really needs to do since you're abusive, he 153 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: needs to go and get with somebody. See, he gonna 154 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: move out so he can start texting who he wanted. 155 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: Because the mother girls ain't jumping on him. You're jumping 156 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: on and beating him up, drinking, beating texas. You ain't 157 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: moving nowt go stay with your mama. You know how 158 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:06,719 Speaker 1: this go. Now, let's let's get a little serious with 159 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: this because all jokes aside, this is domestic violence, and 160 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: I think you have some statistics that layout so what 161 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: people to know this is kind of crazy. Women can 162 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: commit domestic violence. Not normally it's the other way around. 163 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: But there are lots of cases of women who are 164 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: guilty of domestic violence. Lots But then what man is 165 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: gonna go report that? Absolutely? Steve, You're right, you know 166 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: this is sad. So let's just say in this letter, hey, Steve, 167 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 1: can we get serious for a moment since it's domestic 168 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: awareness and I just wanted to give like a couple 169 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:49,599 Speaker 1: of statistics if we had time, that's you should that 170 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: will help just let out Uh, you know, Steve, This 171 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but it's also domestic Violence 172 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: Awareness Month, and I just wanted to throw out a 173 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: couple of statistics. You know, Uh, only five percent of 174 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: domestic violence instances or encounters are reported, and estimated, one 175 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 1: in four women and one in seven men aged eighteen 176 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: plus in the US have experienced domestic violence in their lifetimes. 177 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: And every nine seconds, a woman in the US is 178 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: assaulted or beaten. So this is you know, this is 179 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: pretty serious, this letter and domestic violence in general. And 180 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 1: you know something, Shirley, five percent of people who this 181 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 1: happens to report it because it's just like assaulting a woman, 182 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: you was, sexually assault a woman. They don't want to 183 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: report it. You saw what happened with the Kavanaugh hearing. 184 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: You come and you say, this is what happened, and 185 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, the President of the United States 186 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 1: is talking about it's all the hoax. That's so crazy. 187 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: How they do women. That's right, that's absolutely right. If 188 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 1: you want more information, UH, go to the Alma G. 189 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: Dave This Foundation dot org Alma G. Davis Foundation dot org, 190 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: or you can simply call six seven eight nine five 191 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: seven nine four six four. All right, thank you Steve, 192 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: Please email us or Instagram what's your thoughts on today's 193 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM or at My Girls Shirley, 194 00:12:16,520 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 1: you're listening to the name Harvey Morning Show.