1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:04,920 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An iHeartRadio Podcast. 2 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrub dub dumb. Wait 3 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:18,079 Speaker 1: before we get to anything else we have, there's one 4 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: very important thing we must talk about. What is it 5 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: something you posted on Instagram? Oh? That really? Okay? First 6 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: of all, I did not realize what that was until 7 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: after i'd posted it. What do you mean? I thought 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: it was Batman giving CPR with his butt to Robin's face. 9 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: I thought it was his hand. So it's like this 10 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: trend that's going around on TikTok with like Batman doing 11 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: this thing to Robin, and I thought it was giving 12 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: him CPR. But he's really tea bagging him. Yeah. Yeah, 13 00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: he's certainly tea bagging him. I'm gonna have to look 14 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: this up and see if there's any way you really 15 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 1: could think that he was giving CPR. And you just 16 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: look at it, if you just like look at it, 17 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: it looks like he's just like resuscitating somebody. No, it 18 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 1: sure doesn't. The context of the video too, I was like, 19 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 1: I did not realize that it was a tea bagging 20 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: violent tea bag And I wish you could have heard 21 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: the gasp. I guessed when you saw it. I was like, 22 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: and Robbie goes Beck is really upset about this. When 23 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,320 Speaker 1: she keeps coming back and commenting, I'm like, I've got 24 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,320 Speaker 1: three separate comments from her. First I was just like, Dawn, 25 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:42,119 Speaker 1: your rat. I had nothing else to say. And then 26 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 1: it was like, I'm gonna have to meet you. And 27 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: then later on I had taken an edible and I 28 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: started thinking about it, like laughing, and then I was like, 29 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: I can't believe this is a real thing that's up 30 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: on it. It's only up on Instagram. It is trending. Yeah, 31 00:01:57,280 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: like many people are doing this. Yeah yeah, yeah, so 32 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: you gotta get on what's your tea bagging moment? Okay'll 33 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: not trend. I don't think you have to hopple in 34 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:06,919 Speaker 1: every trend. I don't either. But when the shoe fits 35 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: or in the hands, yeah, when the situation hands itself 36 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 1: to you, when the hands are given CPR like that, 37 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:15,959 Speaker 1: you must do what you must do. You must take 38 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: one hand. Okay, so you're welcome. Okay for the giggles. 39 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: This weekend, it was a lot of emotions that went 40 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: through my mind and body. Um, get ready to plenty 41 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,919 Speaker 1: more where that came from. You know, you know, will 42 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: be stay too looking forward. Everyone was so confused because 43 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: if you don't know trend like, so cap cut is 44 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: this editing app and they'll put out trends that basically 45 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:42,359 Speaker 1: all you have to do is like insert your photos 46 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: and videos and it like basically edits it for you. Yeah, 47 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: and that's a trend where the clip where Batman is 48 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: tea bagging Robin Tromp pops in. So like people who 49 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 1: aren't aware of the trends, I think we're very People 50 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: were like, why did you choose this clip? I was like, 51 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: I thought of some random clip I chose that would 52 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: be really weird. Really, that would just make it super 53 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: weird and this is totally normal. Um, should we start 54 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: with the Meredith goodbye and get it out of the 55 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: way or do we do we wait and hold that off? 56 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: You know, I was thinking, would your chat catch up 57 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: a little then get into our merediths goodbyes? You know? Yeah? 58 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: Should we talk about it? My um hand video girl 59 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: hand modeling? Yeah, what happened to you? I am slam 60 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,399 Speaker 1: my finger in a drawer today? Oh yeah, so they're 61 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: not looking their best right now. Luckily you did the 62 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: video before today. That was you were talking about that, right, 63 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: you told us about that. I don't think I did. 64 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: I think he did. I told you maybe, Oh not 65 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: on the air, Yeah, not on air. So Haley basically 66 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: she wasn't going to direct the video, but it ended 67 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: up being that she had to direct the video and 68 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: it was like last minute and she was like, can 69 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: you I need your hands? And I had a crazy day. 70 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: I was like this because I had I had the 71 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: organizers coming over till a certain point, and then I 72 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 1: had to get my makeup done and I had an event, 73 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: like an industry event and industry event our favorite kinds. Yeah, 74 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: and I had to go. It wasn't like one of 75 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: those industry events where I could be like okay, I 76 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: mean I'll bail. So she's like I really need your 77 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: hands and I'm like really, like you you can't, no 78 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: one else can do it. And she's like no, like 79 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: I want it to be. So I'm like, you know, 80 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: I'm never just for future. Give a Robi's number. Yeah, 81 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: well he does have beautiful man hands. We needed female handy. 82 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: Haley is a lesbian, so we so I like rearrange everything. 83 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 1: It was chaos, and I was like, well, I can 84 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:49,040 Speaker 1: come for an hour week, I can choot as much 85 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: as we can, and then I have to go this 86 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: event and then I can come back. So that's what 87 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: we did. It was chaos. She is such a professional, 88 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 1: like the way she because at the point the video 89 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: was like, okay, so the video is for the song 90 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: called Hungry Heart that she wrote in twenty eighteen. That's 91 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: so crazy as she wrote that in twenty eighteen. Yeah, 92 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,239 Speaker 1: and then m Steve Aoky got it and then Galanta, 93 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,840 Speaker 1: so it was the three of them. They released it, 94 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: and so the video was like a point of view, 95 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: like she's on the date, so you see my hands, 96 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: but it made it look like I was I was 97 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: the camera right, but the way you have to shoot 98 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 1: it like the camera was above my head and I'm 99 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: like squatting under the camera person trying to get any 100 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: video of this there is which will it'll go up 101 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: at some point, And so Haley's never actually looking at me. 102 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: She's having to look at the camera and she's so 103 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,679 Speaker 1: good at like she was just like acting and acting 104 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: like she was like chatting and having a conversation. I 105 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: was like, how do you do this? This is incredible. 106 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: I was just like blown away, like wow, you're really 107 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: good at what you do. And so yeah, we shot 108 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: the video and then it's released and I've been in 109 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,679 Speaker 1: two things for Haley with my hands. So you should 110 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: put that in your what is it resume? I AMDB? 111 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: Oh should our Twitter bio? Like, yeah, I'm not active 112 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: on Twitter, but yeah, oh I'm on Instagram. Yeah one 113 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,920 Speaker 1: of those things. Yeah, something like that. You can't paid 114 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: lots of money these babies. Yeah, I need to get them. 115 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: I need to get them insured probably, but um, as 116 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: of now, they're just not doing well. But if you 117 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: like took care of your hands, you could really you 118 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: could do hand modeling and like make cash money. Yeah, 119 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: once things really go south for me, that might be 120 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: my next plan of action. I weirdly was at the 121 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 1: nail salon one time and there was a woman who 122 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: like scouts out hand and foot models, and she was 123 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: trying to get somebody like next to her to come 124 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: to something. She gave her her car and I was 125 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: trying to like eavesdrop just to see how much like, 126 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: but she didn't give numbers. That feels suspicious. I wonder 127 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: how what that job offer one was really going on, 128 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 1: that was really going on. She seemed nice. Yeah yeah, 129 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: I don't doubt that she wasn't super nice yeah. Um, 130 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: so yeah that was exciting. And then um, I did 131 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: watch I started Love Island, the newest season, so it's 132 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: currently on and there's already like thirty episodes of this season, 133 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: just like I'll know what. I was scrolling like, is 134 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: this the right one because this feels like a full season, 135 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: But no, no, I can't even explain to you. So 136 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:37,239 Speaker 1: we we've never watched any season live in real time 137 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: with the world with America, with the well, it's not 138 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: really That's what stopped me too. Um and so this 139 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: season we were still behind. I was like, oh, we're 140 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: not gonna make it. We're not gonna catch up. And 141 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: we caught up. So we are caught up to present 142 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 1: day what's airing, and like I got a little horny, 143 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: Like I got really excited about it because I like 144 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: want to I was not expecting I want to vote 145 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 1: along with them, Like I'm like, oh my gosh, I 146 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 1: get to vote these Like I was so excited, you know, 147 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: like we can actually participate. Come to find out that 148 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: can't know the UK airs it like two weeks before 149 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: the United States even gets it, so we can't vote 150 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: No matter what I was going to ask you about that, 151 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: if people can vote from like that are watching in America? No, 152 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: we're behind. So that was a real high and a 153 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: real low. And a matter of twelve hours, the morning 154 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: has just dissipated. I was like, um, yeah, so I 155 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: have a few notes, but you're gonna keep going? Are 156 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: you into it? A lot of scrubbers watch this show, 157 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:48,959 Speaker 1: wasn't I mean, I think it's a very universally love show. Um, 158 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:50,960 Speaker 1: I liked it more than the season five I tried 159 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: to watch like I was a little more interested. Okay, 160 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 1: um yeah, maybe if like, yeah, I could see myself 161 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: watching it. The narrator bug, Okay, I find him hilarious, 162 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: which makes so much sense because we have very different humor. Yeah, 163 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 1: so like the fact that you find hilarious. I'm like, 164 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: if if I could like eliminate one thing from this, 165 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: it might be that's so funny. Yeah, no, I don't 166 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: think so. Sometimes it's very funny, And then like the 167 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: way everything about it kind of like makes my feelings 168 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: hurt for everybody, it's kind of cutthroat. It is cutthroat, 169 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:31,319 Speaker 1: but the way they handle it is miraculous. Like the 170 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 1: one that I was watching as I was getting ready, 171 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: it was they were all playing a game and they 172 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: were like drawing like things to do out of a 173 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: box or something, and it was like make out with 174 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 1: the person or fancy the most, snog. Yeah, snog someone 175 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: other than your partner that you fancy the most. Yeah, 176 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:48,959 Speaker 1: And they just like make out front of the person. 177 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I just don't think I would do 178 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: well with that. Just wait till wait till you get 179 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: to cassa more just way. Okay. So basically, when like 180 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 1: everybody's coupled up in the like feeling good in their couples, 181 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: it comes to just I don't remember. It's like a 182 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:05,319 Speaker 1: certain episode when they do it the boys and the 183 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 1: girls split up and say it's like six and six 184 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: and they bring in six new girls to be with 185 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 1: the guys and six new guys to be with the girls, 186 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:15,839 Speaker 1: and it's like the test to see, like who can 187 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 1: resist temptation? And so do people? New people never stop 188 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: coming in the whole show, correct, So like you could 189 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: literally think, Okay, I'm gonna leave with this person. Then 190 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: someone comes in and they haven't and they flo Yep, no, 191 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: it's so good, you have to keep watching. Okay, please, 192 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 1: I'll give it a shot. I didn't. I enjoyed it 193 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:42,200 Speaker 1: more than the first attempt. Okay, but I do hate 194 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,959 Speaker 1: that there's just never ending amounts of episodes that kind 195 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: of stresses me out. But it's it's like easy. You 196 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: can have it on the background while you're like feeding 197 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: Phoebe or writing an email or you know, writing one 198 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: email or feeding Phoebe. Yeah took me an hour, or 199 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: folding laundry, going through your mail. You know, it's like 200 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: easy background TV. Great. Okay, Okay, nothing makes me happier. 201 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 1: This is what you do for someone you love. What 202 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: did you do for me this week? So apparently I've 203 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:21,560 Speaker 1: watched that fast furious Formula one Formula one show. Yeah, 204 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:27,680 Speaker 1: Easton's favorite series. That's so excited and then disappointed? Yeah? Yeah, 205 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: Amazon Prime? Or what is it? Netflix? No, what's it 206 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: called again? Formula one? Formula one? Yeah, apparently I watched it. 207 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: Apparently I watched it. Did watch it, But Haley and 208 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: Robbie had talked about it, correct, So I go, oh, 209 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:43,840 Speaker 1: let's watch this. I told beck i'd watch it for her, 210 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: and he was like there's a new season that watched it. 211 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's a brand new season that just came out. Well, 212 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: clearly the first one left quite the impression on me. 213 00:11:54,920 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: Your Danny Ricardo, isn't it. You're flame twin for names twin. Yeah, 214 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: Daniel Rickyardo. I don't think it's Rickyardo, but Ricardo? So 215 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: we do. That was part of the game, the game 216 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: who knows each other? Best thing? You remember? Yeah? Yeah? Um, 217 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,559 Speaker 1: so yeah, that he's on there, if that it gives 218 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 1: any motivation. It's his last season on Formula one. Oh 219 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: my gosh. Okay, so we got to watch on the 220 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: season two. So sorry, I did not understand. I misunderstood 221 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: the assignment. You did. Yeah, but you gain knowledge from 222 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: it that you had already seen Fast and Furious. Yes, yes, 223 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:45,719 Speaker 1: in Amazon Prime. Correct? Um are you? Are you a 224 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: vander Pump rules watcher? I am not, and I'm not 225 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: quite a supporter either. Interesting, I don't. And it's like 226 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: kind of the same vibe with the housewives. It's like 227 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: why are we watching all these people fight and be caddy, 228 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: backstab and cheat and like we find this entertaining? Why? 229 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 1: But isn't that Love Island? And like isn't that part 230 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: of those shows? No, because Mark, you just don't get it. 231 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,680 Speaker 1: I know, I don't get it. It's like reality in 232 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 1: general has a lot of that cheating, backstabbing, all this stuff. 233 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: The emotional intelligence, she says, Island has an emotional intelligence 234 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: that is unparalleled to any reality show that you will 235 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 1: watching other reality shows when you're so obsessed with this one, 236 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: that is really no better or worse than any other 237 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 1: reality show. It is better because the cheating is done 238 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: in front of each other. They had conversations about it, 239 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: like to each other in civilized manners, where this all 240 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:50,320 Speaker 1: like I don't know happens in the dms and people 241 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: find photos and it's like, so sketch, does anyone have 242 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: info on how this on a DM? Any info and 243 00:13:56,120 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: how this is found out? The vander Pump rules situally, Yeah, 244 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: how things came to life. I think that Ariana found 245 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: something on Tom's phone. Yeah, I think Roquell Roquet correct. 246 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:12,200 Speaker 1: So she's got a great voice, Hannah, really great voice, Hanna. 247 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 1: We might need you to jim in in a second 248 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:18,680 Speaker 1: on someone else. Um, So basically, what happened if you 249 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: along with us or like us and don't watch the 250 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 1: show Tom senda All was mayor is was is married 251 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: to Ariana. Correct, they are not married. They're just together 252 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: house in Valley Village. By the way, I've also never 253 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: seen the show, but I cannot escape this. Yeah, like 254 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 1: I know everything about it, I just don't know the show. 255 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:52,080 Speaker 1: So Tom and Arianna are together, partners for nine years, 256 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:58,239 Speaker 1: partners part but not apparently not partners. Correct. And Roquell 257 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: is besties with Ariana allegedly was besties. Yeah, and Ariana 258 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: found something on Tom's phone that they had been cheating, correct, 259 00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 1: together having an affair for six months. They've been having 260 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 1: an affair and she found a video on his phone. Yeah, 261 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: like a sex video. Yeah, sexual video like from not 262 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: like the two of them, but like a sexed sext. 263 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: So six months. And then apparently this is from Hanna too, 264 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 1: that Raquel was posting photos with Ariana in this timeframe, 265 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: like talk like as best. They're all like cast mates 266 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: on the show. Yeah, but listen, I'm not going to 267 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 1: go out of my way to post something on Instagram 268 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 1: with the person who I'm cheating with their partener. Yeah, 269 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 1: this Roquel girl seems like not good news. Watch out girl. 270 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: Karma's NAIs yeah, so anyways, we can't escape it. I 271 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 1: don't know, like I didn't know Vanderpump Rolls was still 272 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 1: like live. So all I can see when I look 273 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 1: at Roquell is Lori Laughlin's daughter. I think they look 274 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 1: so much alike Olivia Jade. Yeah, really, yes, don't you 275 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 1: see that resemblance? I don't see that. What yeah, no, 276 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: nobody sees it in this room. I don't see it. 277 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: They look like twins. I don't think look it up 278 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: Sidey's daughter. Why is correct? M Olivia Jade? And then 279 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: Roquell vanderput role O there she is all right, okay, yeah, 280 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: I guess you kind of yeah, I know. I know 281 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: Olivia Jade very well the text and she's in my phone. 282 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 1: She will answer if I text her. I do not. 283 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: This is no Olivia Jade. Let me tell you. That's 284 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 1: all I feel too. They look similar, but I wouldn't 285 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: say there's you say similar, but like, yeah, no, I 286 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 1: literally because I don't watch Vanderpumps. When I was seeing 287 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 1: all these articles, I was like, why is Lorie Laughlin's 288 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: daughter in all this drama with Tom from Manner put 289 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:09,479 Speaker 1: Roy Like that's my thought, And then I was like 290 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:12,639 Speaker 1: her name is not Riquel, No, it's not. No, that's 291 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: where I read the article and discovered it was not 292 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,400 Speaker 1: Olivia Jane. But I do find it this is interesting 293 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 1: because we know so much just by social media and 294 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:27,760 Speaker 1: word of mouth of people talking about this subject, about 295 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 1: this relationship, but we really have no ties to it. 296 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: But we all know about ourselves in the shoes of 297 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: those involved. You know, you can imagine how you would 298 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 1: feel if you found out this was going on and 299 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: for six months, and all of the planning and the 300 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 1: lying and the sneaking that had to be going on 301 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 1: behind your back. You just feel like an idiot. So 302 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:48,239 Speaker 1: I do feel for her. I really feel for her 303 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:51,679 Speaker 1: team Ariana. Yeah, I know nothing. I think I met 304 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:54,879 Speaker 1: her some iHeart events, but like y'all not, don't you 305 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 1: know once they were like close friends met her at 306 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 1: some point too. But yeah, I do feel for her 307 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:09,359 Speaker 1: because yikes, could you imagine could you imagine you just 308 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 1: think your boyfriend's like at the gym? No, ye, he's 309 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:25,080 Speaker 1: getting work out? Sucks? That sucks bad. Yeah. Um, you 310 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 1: know something else that's been just gnawing at you. I know, 311 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: just something that I can't escape, but I'd like to 312 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: wait to hear. Fine, we'll take a break and we'll 313 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: be back. We're back. We were just reminiscing on when 314 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,880 Speaker 1: Mark deleted a show up. I really hope you guys 315 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 1: enjoyed version two of our podcast last week, rolling over there. 316 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: That's rights here baby, here we go a man, don't 317 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: lose leave us again, we man. Do we feel like 318 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: our Taylor Taylor Taylor's Lautner episode was our good Guest interview? 319 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,240 Speaker 1: Did we feel like we did? Okay? I think we did? Okay? 320 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 1: Oh interesting diet in no, I think my our only 321 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: note for myself was, um, maybe you and I get 322 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:32,120 Speaker 1: together prior to the interview and we decide like where 323 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 1: we wanted to start, where we wanted to meet in middle, 324 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: and where we wanted to end, okay, and like what 325 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: topics because sometimes I feel like we try and be 326 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: nice and let each other kind of ping pong, and 327 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:44,879 Speaker 1: we don't really have a cohesive vision Okay, yeah, because 328 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 1: we are very different paths for how we think. Correct. 329 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:50,600 Speaker 1: So so we'll get a cohesive video. But you know, again, 330 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: we're just spitballing. We're getting our brainstorm and starting getting 331 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: our feet back in the Oprah game. And once we 332 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:03,200 Speaker 1: have a guest again. We will try again. I like that. 333 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,439 Speaker 1: I wish I had asked about Taylor Swift because the 334 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:09,880 Speaker 1: fact that he's dated multiple tailors is so funny that alone. 335 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:15,200 Speaker 1: I didn't. I've forgottenuntil like after the fact. It was 336 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:17,199 Speaker 1: too late. Yeah. Should we have them back on and 337 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 1: ask about it? Happy too, Yeah? I think it'd be 338 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 1: happy to be back. I think so too. Yeah. Um. 339 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:26,040 Speaker 1: Something else that I can't escape is m Hailey Bieber, 340 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:30,399 Speaker 1: Selena Gomez, etc. I can't I can't get away from 341 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 1: I can't get away from the opinions. I can't get 342 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: away from the too many details. I just don't want 343 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 1: to know so much about people. We'll get off of 344 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:42,880 Speaker 1: the ically online. I'm chronically on. I'm that person that's 345 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 1: chronically online. You know what that means. No, it's like 346 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 1: when people are just like commenting on things and they're 347 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: like offended by everything, and it's like you just need 348 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: to get offline. Yeah, so just get offline. It's not me. 349 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 1: I'm not offended by any of it. I'm just kind 350 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,320 Speaker 1: of like, man, we're dragging that. We're like these two 351 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 1: women are pitted against each other. You know who the 352 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: problem is? Who? All of us. Yeah, it is all 353 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,520 Speaker 1: of us. It's everybody's feeding into it and about it 354 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:16,119 Speaker 1: and like making videos and videos and videos. It's just 355 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:22,200 Speaker 1: like enough, it's enough. Enough, it's enough. It's a rap, 356 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,640 Speaker 1: it's enough. You're over it. I'm beyond over it. I 357 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,760 Speaker 1: like both of them. I love Selena and I love Haley. 358 00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: What about Justin? I love Justin? I love everybody involved. 359 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 1: You don't think Yeah, Tiny told me years ago she 360 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:41,200 Speaker 1: will never ever bail on Justin Bieber. Is that so accurate? Yeah? 361 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: I mean, look, I think he had his moments as 362 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 1: a kid, and like, I think there's things that happen 363 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:47,919 Speaker 1: when you're a teenage star and that on that level. 364 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: But I think he's grown into a better man. Are 365 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: you not thrown off by like the videos where he 366 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:58,679 Speaker 1: like slams the door in Haley's face when he's like 367 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,639 Speaker 1: getting out of the car and stuff or not. That 368 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: doesn't bug you at all? So as a woman as 369 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,480 Speaker 1: I don't, Well, I haven't seen those videos, and I'm 370 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 1: not as invested as you are in this, Like you 371 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: not invested. I just say these videos pop up and 372 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 1: maybe I said watch them because I'm like, WHOA, I 373 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,639 Speaker 1: have not seen him closing a door. It happens often, Hannah, 374 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: back me up here. True, he's incredibly moody. Yes, he 375 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: looks mad all the time. And I'm like, listen, I 376 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,440 Speaker 1: get it. You don't like the paparazzi in your face. Whatever. 377 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 1: You're the biggest pop star in the world. It's fine 378 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,160 Speaker 1: to have a camera in your face twenty four to seven, 379 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: to just look like you're miserable at all times, like 380 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: it's stay home. Then well he does. I actually don't know. 381 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,119 Speaker 1: I actually have no idea if he does. And I 382 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 1: just feel like Haley was his biggest fan and then 383 00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,879 Speaker 1: she married him, and I just feel I just I'm like, 384 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 1: if this why it hasn't Justin been like everyone just stopped. 385 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 1: I think if Justin was if I was Justin's wife 386 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 1: and he and Haley's getting like dragged on the internet, 387 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 1: I'd be like, why aren't you sticking up for me? 388 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:10,680 Speaker 1: Why aren't you saying something or like at least like 389 00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:14,160 Speaker 1: making it feel like you're on my side. Maybe she's 390 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 1: telling him not to say stuff like we don't that's 391 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: the thing, like we don't know what goes on behind 392 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,439 Speaker 1: closed doors, and she could be like he could be 393 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 1: offering saying I want to let me say something, and 394 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:24,960 Speaker 1: she's like no, She's like, don't add field with the fire, 395 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 1: you know, Like, we don't know. And I think that 396 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:30,919 Speaker 1: nobody really understands. I really think that nobody understands what 397 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 1: it's like to have that amount of fame, especially at 398 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: such a young age, and having to deal with it 399 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,400 Speaker 1: in that way. And so I just extend a little 400 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:45,239 Speaker 1: grace in that area. That's fair. I'll leave it at that. 401 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 1: I won't argue with that, and maybe she should. Maybe 402 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:50,359 Speaker 1: that's the good way to be. Well, no, but I 403 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 1: mean I think at the end, at the end of 404 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 1: the day, that's everything, Like we don't know any of 405 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 1: these people that were talking about it, true roquell is 406 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 1: and who Tom Tom is or was like, we don't 407 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:03,199 Speaker 1: know people based on what we know. When she is 408 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,679 Speaker 1: publicly posting images with her best friend and then we 409 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: find out she's having an affair with her boyfriend of 410 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 1: nine years, I have a pretty good idea of the 411 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: character behind someone who can do that. Agree with right, 412 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: I agree with this Rakale girl. I don't think she 413 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 1: has a good character. And I'm saying that based on 414 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 1: what I've seen on TikTok edits right. The TikTok edits like, 415 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 1: that's the problem. It's like edit to show you like, 416 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,879 Speaker 1: I'm sure somebody could edit videos of me making weird 417 00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,399 Speaker 1: faces on this podcast and be like, Tanya is a 418 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: bit she always has a scowl on her face. It's 419 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,200 Speaker 1: like videos and made me like, I think there's enough 420 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 1: to counteract that, though, you know, I think there's enough 421 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,440 Speaker 1: weird like happy faces and like to counter out. No 422 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 1: one's posting those. I think someone someone, this is the thing. 423 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: Eventually someone would come to the defense and post be like, no, 424 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,120 Speaker 1: that's not Tanya at all, that's just a bad edit. 425 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: Would you come to my defense? Of course? Why would 426 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 1: tell you not to? Because I wouldn't want you to 427 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,600 Speaker 1: get you please her? Right? We shouldn't be judged on 428 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 1: our worst days, right, we all have those bad days, 429 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 1: bad moments. We shouldn't be judged on those entirely, unless 430 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: unless you cheat and then you're I don't know, it's 431 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: like how, I don't know. I think I think that 432 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 1: there was some mean girl action. I think that everyone's imperfect, 433 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: but I also think, like we're there's just been this 434 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,840 Speaker 1: like thing where we've pitted these two women against each other, 435 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:44,880 Speaker 1: and who's the common denominator a man? Correct whatever? Who cares? 436 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,639 Speaker 1: Not my life, not my problem. It's just it's too much. 437 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:50,200 Speaker 1: It's like it just has gone on and on and on. 438 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:54,359 Speaker 1: And I say, TikTok has made things very like explosive 439 00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: in a way that like feels everything's overly talked about 440 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,640 Speaker 1: and a couple of those videos, but like that, that's 441 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:04,160 Speaker 1: not my algorithm. Yeah, because yours like period and cooking 442 00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:07,480 Speaker 1: hashimotos and stuff, a lot of cooking, a lot of hashimotos. 443 00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, Well I like your take. I'll go 444 00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: with work sending grace to everyone involved. But I do 445 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:18,159 Speaker 1: think that it should be like a lot of emotions, 446 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,919 Speaker 1: you know, like it's like, yes, there has been meanal action, 447 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:25,160 Speaker 1: I think, and people get emotional and they get heated 448 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: and they act out of character when you let your 449 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:29,880 Speaker 1: emotions get the best of you. Emotions are a bit 450 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 1: they are, and they can if you let them get takeover, 451 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: they can misrepresent how who you are as a person 452 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,959 Speaker 1: for sure. And they're living under such like a microscope. 453 00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:46,280 Speaker 1: It's like they literally can't do anything under the radar 454 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,680 Speaker 1: unless you're Harry styles and they have a fensta. He's 455 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,439 Speaker 1: a Fensta, I think so does he follow? No? He 456 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,360 Speaker 1: posted something on Instagram and like deleted it right away, 457 00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 1: and so everybody thinks that he thought it was his 458 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 1: Finsta or hit to his close friends, which either one. 459 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 1: I'm thrilled with. What was it? It was a picture 460 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:08,800 Speaker 1: of him in a one direction T shirt that a 461 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 1: fan gave him at a show. Oh wow, But he 462 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:17,480 Speaker 1: took it down how quickly? Within seconds? Seconds? Why? Though, 463 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: that's the question. That's the question. Oh are they going 464 00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 1: to have like a we don't know, I don't know anything. 465 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,320 Speaker 1: It could be nothing. That would be the most if 466 00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 1: they were getting back together, that would be the most 467 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,199 Speaker 1: genius genius he are. But it could just be he 468 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 1: wanted to post to do his close friends and accidentally 469 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,199 Speaker 1: posted everybody and took it right down. Again, that's like 470 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 1: the boring way to think of I like being like 471 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 1: a conspirast and these textsitive things. Absolutely yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 472 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 1: Nothing makes me happier. Why because then he's just like 473 00:27:56,240 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: trolling people, you know, Like, I don't know. I find 474 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:05,520 Speaker 1: it so interesting thinking of Harry Styles chilling in his crib. 475 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,640 Speaker 1: Do people say cripsto, I've not heard that a long time, 476 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:14,359 Speaker 1: but chilling in his house and Harry's house. Yeah, and 477 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:20,439 Speaker 1: just scrolling through watching instagrams and stories. But wouldn't you 478 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: if you were at his level of fame, have a 479 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 1: fence to Yeah, for sure, I can't do anything. Yeah, yeah, 480 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,280 Speaker 1: it's great. Yeah, it makes a lot of sense to 481 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,400 Speaker 1: me that he was. Yeah, you heard it here first. 482 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 1: One direction will be free uniting based on an accidental post. 483 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 1: I also gave homework last week. Thank you. Yes, we're ready, 484 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,200 Speaker 1: So I thought we shall go around and give Meredith 485 00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: Gray the goodbye she didn't get on the show. Do 486 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 1: you want me to go first? Because mine was written 487 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: by chat GPT. Yeah, is from the heart. Nope, I said, 488 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 1: did you let me give you the prompt? Just because 489 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 1: I'm I'm you know, I'm a mixed results with chat 490 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,479 Speaker 1: GPT so far, but this one I think turned out 491 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 1: pretty well. I said to chat GPT, I said, please 492 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,280 Speaker 1: give me a one hundred word farewell to the fictional 493 00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:10,320 Speaker 1: character Meredith Gray from the show Gray's Anatomy. And this 494 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 1: is what chat GPT turned around. As the beloved character 495 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 1: Meredith Gray takes her final bow on Grey's Anatomy. We 496 00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,720 Speaker 1: bid farewell to a character who has left an indelible 497 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 1: mark on the hearts and minds of viewers worldwide. Meredith's 498 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: journey has been one of triumphs and tragedies, of love 499 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 1: and loss, of heartbreak, and healing. Through it all, she 500 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,720 Speaker 1: has remained a symbol of strength and resilience, inspiring countless 501 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,880 Speaker 1: fans to persevere through their own challenges. As we say 502 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,520 Speaker 1: goodbye to Meredith, we celebrate the impact she has had 503 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 1: on the world and the enduring legacy of her character. 504 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,720 Speaker 1: She will be deeply missed, but never forgotten. That's better 505 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:44,920 Speaker 1: than the goodbyes she got on Gray's It's pretty strong 506 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 1: for AI. I thought it's pretty good and they should 507 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: have taken a note from Chatt gpt shadow next. Yeah, well, 508 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,600 Speaker 1: time you wrote a poem, right, I wrote a poem? 509 00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yeah, didn't you tweak it this morning? 510 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 1: This is not what was on the rundown last night. 511 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 1: It was not Wow, I wrote a poem? Did you 512 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:10,040 Speaker 1: read mine? And then you were like, I need to 513 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: up my game. No, So I sent Hannah my goodbye 514 00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 1: on Friday, and I followed it up with a tech 515 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,360 Speaker 1: saying I'm gonna switch. I'm gonna tweak this because I 516 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: didn't love it. I tried to do a play on 517 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,320 Speaker 1: like numbers, you know, I try to do like night. 518 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 1: We saw you through nineteen seasons and six heartbreaks and 519 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,280 Speaker 1: three kids, and I could try to do like a 520 00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:28,040 Speaker 1: numbers thing, and it just didn't really zing the way 521 00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 1: that I wanted it too. So I thought I'd go 522 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 1: back to my roots and write a lyrical poem. Those 523 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 1: are your roots? Yeah, okay, so here we go. She 524 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,040 Speaker 1: comes from lyrical poems. Yeah. I don't know if y'all 525 00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 1: knew this about Tom. Yeah, I did not. Meredith, We've 526 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,520 Speaker 1: watched you for nineteen seasons on this journey started with 527 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 1: five magic interns. You were always in a flurry. You've 528 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 1: been through hospital shootings, bomb threats, and plane crashes. You've 529 00:30:56,360 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 1: been to weddings, survived multiple deaths, and countless house party bashes. 530 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: You gave all of us modern women a key phrase 531 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 1: to remember when life gives you lemons, dancing it out 532 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:11,040 Speaker 1: will make everything better. Thank you for sharing your love 533 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,560 Speaker 1: story with us. It's good. You're saying it's good. I 534 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,200 Speaker 1: was just is it? No? Go ahead? Go ahead? Thank 535 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,840 Speaker 1: you for sharing your love story with us. You taught 536 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 1: me to choose faith over fear, and to always hope 537 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: and trust, to never settle for less than core shaking, 538 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:29,280 Speaker 1: groundbreaking and heart pounding love, to always keep my head 539 00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,480 Speaker 1: down and don't get involved in the drama to rise above. 540 00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:36,120 Speaker 1: Thank you for being our fearless modern woman. Queen. You'll 541 00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 1: never truly understand what your strength and determination and inspiration 542 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: you've been there it is, so let's raise our glasses 543 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,240 Speaker 1: and cheers to you. No one will be able to 544 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 1: fill your shoes at grace low memorial like who Bean, 545 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:14,200 Speaker 1: You'll never truly understand your strength and determination and inspiration 546 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: you've been. Nothing about that, Senten, know what your strength 547 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: you've been, What your strength and determination and inspiration you've 548 00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:36,560 Speaker 1: been works. I liked in the first version at the 549 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:42,240 Speaker 1: end it said ki because I was like kid and 550 00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:47,640 Speaker 1: I was like no that yeah, so one that was 551 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:51,920 Speaker 1: so beautiful. There are some things that didn't rhyme, and 552 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:53,560 Speaker 1: I didn't know that was a choice, but then you 553 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 1: made sure to rhyme Bean with Queen, so which didn't rhyme? 554 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,720 Speaker 1: Like remembering better? You know that that does not sound 555 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:07,240 Speaker 1: journey and flurry. You're not quiet flurry journey and as 556 00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 1: she always in a flurry. They're always like frantic running in. Yes, 557 00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:17,720 Speaker 1: we're in a flurry. All right, let's read yours now, Okay, Becca, 558 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:23,480 Speaker 1: thank you, Okay, just making sure it's all in one. Meredith, 559 00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,680 Speaker 1: Where do I begin. I've grown up with you. I've 560 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,920 Speaker 1: watched you nervously walk into Seattle Grace Hospital almost twenty 561 00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: years ago. I watched you experience love, loss, too many 562 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 1: near death experiences, friendships, wins, losses. But the one thing 563 00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,240 Speaker 1: you taught me is that the carousel never stops turning. 564 00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: You remind me that sometimes the friendships carry you, and 565 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: sometimes love isn't the end all be all, but a 566 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,400 Speaker 1: beautiful thing. But to never lose yourself in someone else. 567 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 1: You taught me that having a voice isn't a bad thing. 568 00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: One of my favorite quotes from you is when you said, 569 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,719 Speaker 1: don't let fear keep you quiet. You have a voice, 570 00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:00,360 Speaker 1: so use it. Speak up, raise your hands, shout your answers, 571 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 1: make yourself heard. Whatever it takes, just find your voice, 572 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: and when you do, fill the damn silence. So I 573 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,839 Speaker 1: want you to know it was an honor growing up 574 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:11,920 Speaker 1: with you. I'm proud of who you are and proud 575 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,160 Speaker 1: of who you are. If nothing else, I hope you 576 00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,399 Speaker 1: always remember they are not the sun you are. See 577 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 1: you soon. It's a good ending. That's good ending. Wow, 578 00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:26,760 Speaker 1: thank you all got a full Yeah, we were thrown 579 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:34,359 Speaker 1: by being like no, one won't be able to fill 580 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:39,359 Speaker 1: your shoes at gracelan memorial like who like who? What else? 581 00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:43,760 Speaker 1: Rise with you? Mike what one of the more common 582 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: words through too. Yeah. Well, anyways, Meredith, we hope that 583 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 1: you hear these and melee and whatever. Take note. Yeah, 584 00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:06,479 Speaker 1: feel free to take ours home with you and we'll 585 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:26,480 Speaker 1: be right back with emails. Okay, yeah, all right, we 586 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:30,640 Speaker 1: are back after that powerful reading. I would just also 587 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:32,760 Speaker 1: to point out this is not coffee that I'm drinking. 588 00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,560 Speaker 1: This is tea decaffeinated got it? Yes, I forgot your 589 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,840 Speaker 1: off coffee for the time being. Drinking mushrooms. Okay, that 590 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: sounds disgusting and I like mushrooms. No it's not. It's 591 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,840 Speaker 1: actually quite delicious. There's a lot of um health benefits 592 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,040 Speaker 1: to drinking mushrooms. Is that right? Sounds like a phase. 593 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,640 Speaker 1: It's like I feel like if I talked to Tanya 594 00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,480 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four, she'd be like, oh yeah, that's right. 595 00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:57,480 Speaker 1: I was drinking mushrooms for a while. Yeah, it's like 596 00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 1: to get me off the coffee because it's still part 597 00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 1: of the ceremony, taste a little like coffee. You doing 598 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 1: the olive oil in the morning, like Ryan suggested, And 599 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,080 Speaker 1: what's that done for? You? Keeps me regular? Oh? Is 600 00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,120 Speaker 1: that right? I have a bottle of olive oil in 601 00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:17,920 Speaker 1: my bathroom in the morning. Yeah, first thing in the morning. 602 00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 1: This is something Ryan suggests, because Ryan is a big 603 00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 1: olive oil proponent. Yeah. Sis, And he's doing it too, 604 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:27,279 Speaker 1: and they both say it's worked. Yeah. Great. I'm so 605 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:31,800 Speaker 1: happy to res I tried to do this thing. Is 606 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:33,359 Speaker 1: like it's supposed to be good for your lover where 607 00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 1: you do like ounce of olive oil or teaspoon of 608 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,440 Speaker 1: tablespoon of olive oil, tablespoon of lemon juice, and then 609 00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:43,279 Speaker 1: cayenn pepper. It was fine. I mean I wasn't like, wow, 610 00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 1: I feel amazing, But yeah, no, I don't feel amazing. 611 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,640 Speaker 1: It's just keeping me going to the bathroom. That's greatly 612 00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,160 Speaker 1: all right. This is Rachel in Atlanta. This is kind 613 00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:54,960 Speaker 1: of a long one, so I'll sum it up. She says, 614 00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,239 Speaker 1: you know the movie Monster in Law. While I'm jez 615 00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,160 Speaker 1: and I don't know how to confront my Jane Fonda. 616 00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,160 Speaker 1: I've been with my fiance four years. Our relationship is amazing. 617 00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,040 Speaker 1: I've made enormous strides to build a relationship with his mom, 618 00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:10,120 Speaker 1: but she never reciprocates in which she does. It feels cynical. 619 00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:13,040 Speaker 1: First time I met her, never asked me any question 620 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: to get to know me, act like I wasn't even 621 00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,480 Speaker 1: in the room. Interrupted our first New Year's Eve kiss. 622 00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,680 Speaker 1: We FaceTime. Definitely we got engaged. She ended the conversations 623 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:25,719 Speaker 1: in less than a minute and never said congratulations. Told 624 00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:31,080 Speaker 1: my fiance our engagement photos are stupid. I've lost twenty 625 00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:33,279 Speaker 1: five pounds. She has not acknowledged that, even when people 626 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 1: compliment me in front of her. I took a three 627 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,719 Speaker 1: mile run. I came back to drenching sweat, and she said, 628 00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:40,560 Speaker 1: how is your walk? We recently bought a house I've 629 00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,239 Speaker 1: been decorating. She never compliments anything anyway. I would like 630 00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:44,799 Speaker 1: to be treated with respect and hope to have a 631 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:48,280 Speaker 1: great relationship one day. My fiancee acknowledges her negative behavior, 632 00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:50,440 Speaker 1: but thinks saying something will make it worse and she 633 00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,920 Speaker 1: will just deny it. Should I confront her about how 634 00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,400 Speaker 1: she's made me feel, or should I not say anything? 635 00:37:56,600 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: I think you're fiance say he needs to. I do, 636 00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:03,799 Speaker 1: because I think he can do it in a way 637 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,040 Speaker 1: where he's like that it's not like, oh, she told 638 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,000 Speaker 1: me you were saying this stuff, or she wants to 639 00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,200 Speaker 1: feel this way. I think if he witnesses it, he 640 00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,440 Speaker 1: can be like, hey, mom, I feel like sometimes you 641 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,520 Speaker 1: say things that are a little bit, you know, rude 642 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 1: or disrespectful to Rachel, And it would mean a lot 643 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,560 Speaker 1: to me if you know you didn't say those things, 644 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,240 Speaker 1: because I don't want her to get the wrong impression 645 00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:31,480 Speaker 1: of you. So here's the thing, Rachel. You cannot change 646 00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:34,080 Speaker 1: your mother in law, like you can't change the person 647 00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,640 Speaker 1: that she is. So in order to get along with her, 648 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 1: you're just gonna have to set boundaries and set your 649 00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:50,840 Speaker 1: expectations low and not care as much when rude things happen. 650 00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:54,319 Speaker 1: I know it sounds crazy, but I feel like having 651 00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 1: him get involved is not great because then it's like 652 00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:01,760 Speaker 1: he's between his wife and his mom, and that's horrendous. 653 00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,279 Speaker 1: I know somebody that's happened does has happened too, and 654 00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:09,360 Speaker 1: it's horrendous. It's like hell. So, I feel like putting 655 00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,200 Speaker 1: him in the middle is not the move. I feel 656 00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:17,440 Speaker 1: like setting boundaries and having expectations for yourself about this 657 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:21,440 Speaker 1: relationship is the way to go. I think I think 658 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,319 Speaker 1: he should confront the mom, and I think she can 659 00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:24,480 Speaker 1: do it in a way. I mean, I don't know 660 00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:26,360 Speaker 1: it's between him and his mom. I don't know their relationship, 661 00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:28,080 Speaker 1: but she should not be involved that she should not 662 00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,480 Speaker 1: be around meaning Rachel right, this should be mom and 663 00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,680 Speaker 1: sun her together somehow the web comes out. By the way, Mom, 664 00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:37,040 Speaker 1: you're really rude to her a lot or did she 665 00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,120 Speaker 1: say something? No, I notice it. I see it with 666 00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,080 Speaker 1: my own eyes. I see what you do to her, 667 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:42,839 Speaker 1: and I think you need to stop that. Otherwise it's 668 00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,759 Speaker 1: going to create a problem over time and the next thing, 669 00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:46,760 Speaker 1: you know, we're gonna see it. Thanks you again Christmas, 670 00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:49,319 Speaker 1: and that's hip. So what if he tells her that 671 00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,359 Speaker 1: and she doesn't change, well, then yeah, then I think 672 00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,120 Speaker 1: it's boundaries set and it becomes a Christmas Thanksgiving only 673 00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,080 Speaker 1: kind of a situation because she lists far away, which, 674 00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,520 Speaker 1: by the way, it sounds like a blessing. Yeah, yeah, 675 00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:02,200 Speaker 1: I agree. I don't think him being in silence saying 676 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:03,719 Speaker 1: it's gonna be worse. I don't think he has to 677 00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:06,040 Speaker 1: bring Rachel's name into it. I mean, I don't think 678 00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:08,040 Speaker 1: he needs to be like Rachel's feelings have been hurt. 679 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:09,520 Speaker 1: I think he just says like I've seen it, have 680 00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:14,200 Speaker 1: heard it, and I don't think it's fair. I think 681 00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:17,640 Speaker 1: if if you were in the situation, you would expect 682 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,800 Speaker 1: Robbie to step in and say something. I would expect 683 00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:24,479 Speaker 1: Hayley to say something if I were in the situation. Yeah, yeah, 684 00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: I guess I would. But I just feel like, and 685 00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,200 Speaker 1: then what happens. If it doesn't change, the behavior doesn't change, 686 00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:35,640 Speaker 1: then let us know. Hello, we gotta start, Yeah, we 687 00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:38,840 Speaker 1: gotta start with square one. And that's him having a 688 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:43,400 Speaker 1: conversation with her. The mother son relationship is an interesting dynamic. 689 00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:47,480 Speaker 1: Oh oh, I could write a thesis. Yeah really, yes, Yes, 690 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:51,040 Speaker 1: it's fascinating. It's Robbie. I don't know if Robbie experiences 691 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,120 Speaker 1: it because he's two boys. Two boys, Yeah, so it's 692 00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:56,800 Speaker 1: like two of them. But when it's your only son, Yeah, 693 00:40:56,840 --> 00:41:00,200 Speaker 1: when there's an only son, which is what this sounds like, 694 00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,839 Speaker 1: it's very interesting. So I was raised believing I could 695 00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,440 Speaker 1: walk on water. I was the greatest human that has 696 00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,000 Speaker 1: ever been on planet Earth, and that didn't really do 697 00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,120 Speaker 1: me any favors as I launched into adulthood, going in 698 00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:15,080 Speaker 1: there with this inflated self of sense worth, inflated sense 699 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:19,120 Speaker 1: of self worth. But the mother's son and the father 700 00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,319 Speaker 1: daughter is similar. It's not quite the same thing. But 701 00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:24,200 Speaker 1: the daughter can get away with anything. She's wrapped around 702 00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:26,920 Speaker 1: He dad's a little finger. That whole relationship. Daughters can 703 00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,279 Speaker 1: never do anything wrong to their dad. Sons can never 704 00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:31,920 Speaker 1: do anything wrong as far as their mom goes. I mean, 705 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:33,439 Speaker 1: you see it in the news. You know, a guy 706 00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:35,680 Speaker 1: is accused of horrible crimes, and I was like, oh, 707 00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:37,839 Speaker 1: he's such a good boy. Oh that's nonsense. That would 708 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:39,799 Speaker 1: never happen. He would never do that, right, because their 709 00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:42,640 Speaker 1: son is perfect. It's kind of similar to fathers and daughters, 710 00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:48,080 Speaker 1: but the opposite. The same sex parent child relationship is harder. 711 00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,600 Speaker 1: Moms are harder on their daughters. Dads are harder on 712 00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:54,040 Speaker 1: their sons. You see it on baseball games, little League 713 00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,920 Speaker 1: baseball games. Dad's yelling at their kid because it seems 714 00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,120 Speaker 1: like you're trying. You want your kid to be better 715 00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:01,280 Speaker 1: than you were. You want them to have a better 716 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,359 Speaker 1: life than you had or something, right, could you see 717 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:08,400 Speaker 1: yourselves more in the same sex child? And I just 718 00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,239 Speaker 1: have girls, so it's great. I can just they're just 719 00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,680 Speaker 1: the greatest and their princesses and I love them, and 720 00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:16,120 Speaker 1: that's wonderful. If I had sons, I don't know, maybe 721 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:17,799 Speaker 1: every hard and my dad wasn't that hard on me, 722 00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:20,880 Speaker 1: but I think generally speaking, that is true. Yeah, my 723 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,880 Speaker 1: dad's going through this phase right now where he's watching 724 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,000 Speaker 1: all like old home videos and he's constantly sending me 725 00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,880 Speaker 1: videos of when I was a kid. It's really cute. 726 00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:33,880 Speaker 1: You're so yeah, you were literally the exact same person. 727 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,839 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, Tanya, this is confirmed. Tony has 728 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:41,960 Speaker 1: been the same forever. The bangs were cute, the bangs 729 00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,719 Speaker 1: were cute, I would not leave them. Yeah, yeah, all right. 730 00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:48,279 Speaker 1: Anonymous says I'm stuck in an odd situation. I married 731 00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,359 Speaker 1: my husband a year ago. We've been together four years. 732 00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,879 Speaker 1: We have a great relationship. We communicate well, he does 733 00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,480 Speaker 1: any end everything for me. About a year ago, I 734 00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:57,520 Speaker 1: went and saw my college best friend in New Mexico. 735 00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,319 Speaker 1: This girl and I have been friends for like five 736 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,520 Speaker 1: years now, rushed together, joined the same sorority together. We've 737 00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,360 Speaker 1: been through a lot. During that visit, we were drinking 738 00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,319 Speaker 1: and we ended up making out and then some It 739 00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,759 Speaker 1: was the most passionate and best kiss I've probably ever 740 00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,279 Speaker 1: had in the night, was so enjoyable. The next day 741 00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,160 Speaker 1: we never really addressed it when we were sober, so 742 00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,960 Speaker 1: I figured it was just one of those drunk things 743 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,200 Speaker 1: that happens. Well, the other night, she got drunk and 744 00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,360 Speaker 1: sent me multiple texts about how she understood we were 745 00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,200 Speaker 1: both married women, but she thinks about that night all 746 00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:25,319 Speaker 1: the time and she feels like there could be something 747 00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:28,000 Speaker 1: between us. I never responded. I'm so confused. I've never 748 00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:29,719 Speaker 1: felt like I was gay or buy or anything, but 749 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:33,360 Speaker 1: that night was different. She texted me again when sober 750 00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:35,719 Speaker 1: and said she meant everything she said and when as 751 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,360 Speaker 1: far as saying glitch by Taylor Swift's how she feels. 752 00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:41,719 Speaker 1: I know I need to reply and address this, but 753 00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:43,799 Speaker 1: I'm so confused. How do I move forward from here? 754 00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:47,080 Speaker 1: We're both married, but she obviously feels something, and I 755 00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:51,839 Speaker 1: don't even know how to feel. Well, it's very incoded. Yeah, yeah, Well, 756 00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,520 Speaker 1: the thing is is that you're both married, so cheating 757 00:43:54,680 --> 00:44:00,640 Speaker 1: is cheating? The genders out of this. Yeah, genders don't 758 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:05,920 Speaker 1: matter when you cheat. They it's the same thing. So 759 00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:09,040 Speaker 1: I think I personally think you need to have a 760 00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:11,600 Speaker 1: conversation with your husband about what happened, which I know 761 00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:15,839 Speaker 1: is probably not what you want to hear. And I 762 00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:18,279 Speaker 1: think that maybe you just need to tell your friend, like, hey, 763 00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:22,560 Speaker 1: we're both married and I'm not. I was not expecting that, 764 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,440 Speaker 1: and I'm navigating my feelings about it. But you know, 765 00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:29,160 Speaker 1: I think the most important thing is figuring out my 766 00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:36,880 Speaker 1: marriage and my situation. But that's very complicated. Yeah, I 767 00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:41,239 Speaker 1: think you have to definitely tell your husband. And I 768 00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,359 Speaker 1: also think, because you said the last line, I don't 769 00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,799 Speaker 1: even know how to feel, meaning you are feeling a 770 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,319 Speaker 1: lot of things and you're not processing those things. So 771 00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,399 Speaker 1: I think sitting with yourself and figuring out exactly how 772 00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:55,239 Speaker 1: you're feeling, what you're feeling, and how you want to 773 00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:58,479 Speaker 1: approach that might be best to do first, and then 774 00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:01,280 Speaker 1: talk to your husband about it, tell them what happened, 775 00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:06,839 Speaker 1: and then go from there, because maybe you're it's time 776 00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:10,879 Speaker 1: for your marriage to be done. I can't answer that. 777 00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,040 Speaker 1: I do think taking time to sit with how you 778 00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:17,440 Speaker 1: feel and like processing your feelings because you said I 779 00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,000 Speaker 1: never felt like I was gay or bye, but that 780 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,520 Speaker 1: night was different. I think, like you feeling things is 781 00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:26,640 Speaker 1: something that you need to navigate because I think especially 782 00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:34,000 Speaker 1: there's a lot of like fetish fetistization. There's a lot 783 00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:37,600 Speaker 1: of fetishing that goes on with like women having any 784 00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:41,759 Speaker 1: form of physical intimacy, and I think that sometimes it's like, oh, 785 00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:43,560 Speaker 1: I just you know, people will be like, I'm not 786 00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,239 Speaker 1: I don't have I'm not attracted to woman, but I 787 00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:49,080 Speaker 1: love kissing my girlfriends. But if you had that experience 788 00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:50,840 Speaker 1: and you felt something, I think that's something that you 789 00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,120 Speaker 1: need to navigate within yourself and process. But I think 790 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:57,080 Speaker 1: it's a conversation with your husband first, because I think 791 00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,799 Speaker 1: if you were to take you both being women, if 792 00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:01,680 Speaker 1: this was a man that you did this with, this 793 00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:07,960 Speaker 1: would be a I think, a very different approach. Yeah, 794 00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,640 Speaker 1: and then navigate, like Tanya said, how you feel. I 795 00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,319 Speaker 1: don't know if it means your marriage is over, but 796 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,319 Speaker 1: I think it's something to discover about yourself and to 797 00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:21,759 Speaker 1: navigate with your husband that you're married too. Yeah. If 798 00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:23,719 Speaker 1: we've leared anything on this show over the years, is 799 00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:26,000 Speaker 1: that there's no need to label gay. Bye. Anything you're 800 00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:27,799 Speaker 1: attracted to, who you're attracted to, you, and there's clearly 801 00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:31,400 Speaker 1: an attraction to this woman that you've got to deal with. Yes, yeah, 802 00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,839 Speaker 1: you can't help who you have feelings born. I don't 803 00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:37,120 Speaker 1: think you went to visit your best friend thinking that 804 00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:41,320 Speaker 1: would ever happen, but I do think it has happened, 805 00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:44,479 Speaker 1: and now you have to navigate what happens next. But 806 00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:50,839 Speaker 1: good luck. We will be back on Thursday. We will 807 00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,640 Speaker 1: be back on Thursday because we have an episode where 808 00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:58,400 Speaker 1: it's just me and Tanya answering questions from you guys, 809 00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:03,280 Speaker 1: why are you what you're scared about? We'll be back okay, 810 00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:07,359 Speaker 1: and just remember it doesn't matter where you go. It 811 00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:12,680 Speaker 1: only matters where you've been. I was like, where's she 812 00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,640 Speaker 1: going with this? I don't know. Um, we love you all, 813 00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,040 Speaker 1: See you Thursday