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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Sabrina is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named

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Speaker 2: Darren so in a few minutes. So we're gonna call

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Speaker 2: him and see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Sabrina, how

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Speaker 2: long has it been since you heard from Darren?

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Speaker 1: It's been about a week. Yeah, seventy is actually of

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Speaker 1: digital silence.

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Speaker 3: Have you reached out to him?

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Speaker 2: Ah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, actually yesterday I did. I asked him if he

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Speaker 1: wanted to get wine drunk and make bad decisions. But nothing.

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Speaker 3: That's a great text. I love that, But okay, it'd

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Speaker 3: be awesome text to get. Were there any other messages

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Speaker 3: he had sent before that one?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Last week I texted him, like immediately after a date.

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Speaker 1: I said hey, I had a great time and asked

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Speaker 1: if he wanted to do something again.

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Speaker 4: But still nothing.

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Speaker 3: Oh why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 1: So it went super cute. We went to post the

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Speaker 1: place like that. I actually made homemade pasta and my god,

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Speaker 1: the RIGATONI was to die for Yeah, he packed the

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Speaker 1: spot out so points for great taste. He wore this

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Speaker 1: button up that looks like he had ironed it, which

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Speaker 1: is pretty rare these days. Like we talked for hours

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Speaker 1: on top of that, Like he and I just went

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Speaker 1: on and up until closing time. Like the server literally

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Speaker 1: started vacuuming around us. Yeah, you know, I said like,

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Speaker 1: let's maybe get up and go, and he kind of

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Speaker 1: didn't initiate it. But once we did walk to the

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Speaker 1: parking garage together, I mean, we had this moment. I

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Speaker 1: almost though he was going to kiss me, but he

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Speaker 1: just hugged me instead and like held me really tight

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Speaker 1: for a moment and then said dry space. It was

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Speaker 1: really intentional.

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Speaker 3: Okay, did he say anything about seeing you again after that?

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Speaker 1: No, nothing really got broke, like brought up or planned.

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Speaker 1: You know, It's just kind of I felt we left

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Speaker 1: on a great note.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then just nothing after the date.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I like we did great turn taking with talking

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Speaker 1: and I just felt like, okay, I felt like the

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Speaker 1: ball was in his court after he said drive space,

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Speaker 1: Like okay, that kind of meant the follow up was

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Speaker 1: to come the next day. But nothing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel that too.

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Speaker 5: I mean it sounds like everything went really well, especially

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Speaker 5: since you closed the restaurant down. I mean he could

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Speaker 5: have tried to leave at any time at that point.

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Speaker 5: Is there anything that could have happened? Though, that would

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Speaker 5: be the reason why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 1: I have a tendency to overshare, like just a smidge.

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Speaker 1: And we got on the topic of X's which I

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Speaker 1: didn't bring up, by the way, but I accidentally mentioned

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Speaker 1: to answer one.

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Speaker 6: Of his questions that I do have a tad too,

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Speaker 6: and it's my X's name.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, totally due to a to kill the old weekend.

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Speaker 1: I mean, bad decisions all around.

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Speaker 5: Because the only person that's accidentally gotten the wrong tattoo.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it was right at the time, and I.

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Speaker 1: Made it really clear to him that I hate that

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Speaker 1: X right now and I'm in the process of getting

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Speaker 1: it removed. I mean, I'm just not the type of

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Speaker 1: person that gets the name tattooed on them. But, like

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Speaker 1: I said, bad decision. I feel pretty embarrassed by it.

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Speaker 1: But I am also pretty embarrassed. I even like shared

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Speaker 1: about it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, he's a cute little nugget.

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Speaker 5: You know, if you were to see parts of your

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Speaker 5: body at some point and you find.

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Speaker 1: It, right, I guess that's good. To be honest, it's

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Speaker 1: the best policy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well we'll see if there's a tattoo that is

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Speaker 2: the reason you're getting ghosted. Well, play a son'll come

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Speaker 2: back and then call him and see if you'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: And maybe it's your second day if you still want them.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Well, okay, well it's your first day follow up right

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Speaker 2: after this, in the middle of your first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us. Sabrina is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Darren. So

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Speaker 2: in a second we're gonna call him see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date. But first, Sabrina, why don't you break

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Speaker 2: down your date again one more time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I felt like it was a great date, and

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Speaker 1: we were talking until the restaurant was closing, I mean,

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Speaker 1: and had this moment outside in the parking garage. I

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Speaker 1: just don't know what went wrong, other than I could

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Speaker 1: have possibly spilled too much about my tattoo that is

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Speaker 1: of my ex's name.

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Speaker 3: Would you care?

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Speaker 2: Probably not. I don't think I would care. It depends

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Speaker 2: where the tattoo was, how big it was, you know,

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Speaker 2: so you're not.

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Speaker 3: Going to talk to Maybe that was a bad example. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I also can't judge because I have tattoos that yeah,

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Speaker 2: so yeah, that I want to get rid of. But anyway,

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Speaker 2: well we hope it's not that. Yeah, we'll see if

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Speaker 2: it is.

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Speaker 4: All right?

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Speaker 3: Are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Definitely?

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to

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Speaker 3: Darren please.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this is Darren.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Darren, how are you. This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jewbill Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Darren, Amina. Hi, I'm Victoria. My name is Jubel.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, so I'm guessing this is about Sabrina.

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Speaker 3: Huh, yes it is. It's the first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: You know, the segment where if you go somebody, they

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Speaker 2: can email us to call you and find out why

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Speaker 2: are you ghosting them? Sabrina emailed us about you. We

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Speaker 2: talked to her and she said that she thought everything

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Speaker 2: was cool. She really liked you, but now you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 2: Do you have a minute to tell us why?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? She ate off my plate with her bare hands.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 4: What do you mean that's it. Yeah, she reached across

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Speaker 4: the table mid sentence, grabbed a meatball with their fingers

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Speaker 4: and said just one bite, then popped it in her

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Speaker 4: mouth like it was a tic tac and lick her fingers.

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Speaker 3: She grabbed a meatball with her bare hands. Okay, gotta

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Speaker 3: love a meatball. That's enough to go somebody though.

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Speaker 4: Uh for me, it was like watching someone Santa flight

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Speaker 4: mid air, no warning, just boom ball gone.

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Speaker 3: Okay, hold me though, if you can do that, like,

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's impressive to pop a meatball in your

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Speaker 5: But Darian, she told us, you guys like hung out

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Speaker 5: to the restaurant closed. Did you just I don't know,

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Speaker 5: until the end of the.

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Speaker 4: Day, honestly, Yeah, because I wanted to dessert because she

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Speaker 4: ate my food.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, And that's the only reason.

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Speaker 3: Is the meatball tictac incident.

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Speaker 4: You know, I feel like that's a pretty significant thing.

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Speaker 4: Like y'all don't think that's the big deal.

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Speaker 2: I think I would be annoyed if somebody didn't ask

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Speaker 2: and they just reached across and grabbed my off my plate.

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Speaker 4: But not only did she not ask, she did it

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Speaker 4: with her bare hands.

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Speaker 3: Maybe it's not really comfortable with you.

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Speaker 4: I guess. But I didn't even know how to react.

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Speaker 4: I just stared at my plate like it betrayed me.

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Speaker 3: That's a good point. I don't know how I react either.

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Speaker 5: Like French fries, that's fine, like you assume people will

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Speaker 5: grab those, But to take a meat ball with your fingers.

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Speaker 2: Meat ball is an interesting cho It's a little messy.

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Speaker 4: I don't even want anyone touching my French fries.

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Speaker 2: Darren, you might already know this, but Sabrina's on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she has been listening and wants to talk

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Hi Darren, uh hey, Sabrina.

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Speaker 4: Hey.

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Speaker 1: Like honestly, it was a me ball. That was the

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Speaker 1: that was the final trigger for you.

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Speaker 4: Look you didn't even use a pork, You just counce

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Speaker 4: like a lion.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it was one met ball.

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Speaker 4: I was just being playful, thankful. You were shoveling food

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Speaker 4: in your face like a caveman.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I was not. I was being like sexy

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Speaker 1: with the meatball and drawing attention to my mouth with it.

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Speaker 1: You got a caveman from that?

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Speaker 4: That was not sexy at all. That was probably the

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Speaker 4: most unsexy thing I've ever seen.

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Speaker 1: Are you not into girls? Because I would think any

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Speaker 4: Look, I mean, I am in the girls, and you are.

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Speaker 4: You're beautiful and you're nice. But it was definitely a

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Speaker 4: boundary violation. And honestly, I'd barely barely known you an

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Speaker 4: hour and you were reaching across the table for my food.

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Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, that's going far boundary violation. Like, come on, seriously,

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Speaker 1: it was just cute. I mean, if you need me too,

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Speaker 1: I'll get you more.

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Speaker 4: Meanfalls, it's not about the meatball. It's about trust. It's

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Speaker 4: about Sabrina.

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Speaker 1: And this is ridiculous hygiene Like, honestly, because I use

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Speaker 1: my hands, they were clean and it was going into

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Speaker 1: my mouth. There's nothing unhygienic about it.

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Speaker 4: That's why we have forks. You didn't even use a fork?

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Speaker 3: Would you still be ghosting? Or if she would have

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Speaker 3: used a fork instead of her hands.

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Speaker 4: Well, if she had asked first if she could have

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Speaker 4: a meatball and then use her fork, yeah, that would

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Speaker 4: be a totally different story.

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Speaker 5: Wow, So if she promises to use forks from here on, out.

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Speaker 5: Does that change that for you?

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Speaker 3: Or is it correct?

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Speaker 4: You know, I just have some trauma unpack with this stolen.

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Speaker 2: Meata clearly, Hey, would you like another date with Sabrina?

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Speaker 3: Will pay for it? Hmm?

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Speaker 4: Let me think, Do I want to go on another

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Speaker 4: date with the woman who used her bare hands to

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Speaker 4: grab food off of my plate, risking all sorts of

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Speaker 4: dizzy to end end of the world Fiasca, now I'm good?

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Speaker 3: No, no, Darren again.

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Speaker 1: If it was the meatball, then good luck finding someone

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Speaker 1: who can handle your.

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Speaker 6: Deep emotions to use the need of having a fork

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Speaker 6: used every time, and.

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Speaker 4: Good luck learning how to use one.

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Speaker 1: Ju Will's first date follow up