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Speaker 2: Alicia is on the phone today for our first Date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jason.
Speaker 2: So in a little bit we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Alicia, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Jason?
Speaker 3: Hi, guys, it's been like like two weeks.
Speaker 1: Have you tried to reach out to him?
Speaker 3: I've tried like once or twice.
Speaker 4: Like I don't want to seem crazy or anything, but yeah,
Speaker 4: I've tried a little and just nothing in response.
Speaker 5: Well, why don't you tell us about the date and
Speaker 5: how you guys met.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so we.
Speaker 6: Met on him, you know, as most people do these days.
Speaker 7: I which outed for a good minute, Like it was back.
Speaker 3: And forth for like a couple of weeks. Actually, he
Speaker 3: suggested we do like a traditional date to dinner, which
Speaker 3: he paid for. It was very nice.
Speaker 4: We didn't get drinks afterwards, we just sort of went
Speaker 4: our stuff ways.
Speaker 3: So I don't know, I felt like it was really positive.
Speaker 7: We did tiss just a little bit, very small very nice,
Speaker 7: and he texted to make sure I got home, which
Speaker 7: felt like a positive sign. And yeah, that was the
Speaker 7: last thing i'd heard from him.
Speaker 5: So what was going on during like the dinner, Like,
Speaker 5: what were you guys talking about? Did you feel like
Speaker 5: you guys were flirtatious? Because I mean, to be honest,
Speaker 5: it sounds a little bit dry from you know, just
Speaker 5: that was that. I mean maybe I mean for both
Speaker 5: of you, even not just him.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 3: I mean I thought in the conversation, like I don't.
Speaker 6: Want to be again, I don't want to sound.
Speaker 4: Crazy, but I thought this guy was really perfect. He
Speaker 4: really checked all of my boxes and he was so
Speaker 4: he was so flirty over like the hinge messages and everything,
Speaker 4: and when we were texting, he was super flirty and
Speaker 4: I was really excited.
Speaker 3: So maybe that's why I'm sort.
Speaker 6: Of downplaying it now because I was a little.
Speaker 3: I was just so sweet and I felt like the
Speaker 3: conversation good.
Speaker 4: I mean, obviously now I'm replaying it and I have
Speaker 4: like a million like, oh my god, what did I
Speaker 4: do wrong? But yeah, I'm just kind of shocked that
Speaker 4: he hasn't. I wonder if he felt the same way.
Speaker 1: How did the kiss happen.
Speaker 3: Oh it was sweet.
Speaker 4: He like walked me to my car and we were
Speaker 4: just having a nice little conversation about something completely unrelated,
Speaker 4: and then he was.
Speaker 3: Like, can I kiss you? Which also we love consent
Speaker 3: love that he asked, do yes?
Speaker 7: We do?
Speaker 3: Also also like a really like a green flag, Like
Speaker 3: I thought that was a really like mature, like grown.
Speaker 6: There kind of thing to do.
Speaker 3: So yeah, another positive with a moment from the date.
Speaker 2: Okay, is there anything you can think of that like
Speaker 2: an awkward moment or something like that that could have happened.
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't, Like I said, my ego is
Speaker 4: just probably a little bit bruised by this.
Speaker 3: So I'm automatically looking at myself in the mirror being like,
Speaker 3: am I not.
Speaker 4: Cute enough for this guy? Or honestly, I'm like did
Speaker 4: my breath think a little like did I eat something
Speaker 4: stinky at dinner? Because it was like it was like
Speaker 4: a quick kiss. It wasn't like prolonged and drawn out,
Speaker 4: so I thought, oh god, what if.
Speaker 3: My mouth is stinky? For some reason?
Speaker 4: She could have been more passionate probably, I don't know,
Speaker 4: or like we talked about work.
Speaker 3: That was a good thing.
Speaker 4: He's got like a really great stable job in finance,
Speaker 4: and I'm a server right now. I mean, I do
Speaker 4: a lot of things, but I'm a server's sort of.
Speaker 3: My main source of income. And I wonder if maybe
Speaker 3: that was off putting to him.
Speaker 6: I'm not sure did he.
Speaker 1: Say anything when you told him that.
Speaker 4: No, he wasn't like overt me, like judgmental or anything.
Speaker 4: I mean, I mostly consider myself a creative, like I
Speaker 4: have like a multi hyphenate, like I have a lot
Speaker 4: of things that I do, So it's you know, I
Speaker 4: think I saw myself.
Speaker 3: Pretty well in that regard, and hopefully he wasn't like
Speaker 3: off put by. He seemed like supportive of it. He
Speaker 3: was like, oh, that's great, like seeing like that was admirable.
Speaker 4: For me to be, you know, juggling so many things
Speaker 4: at once and then being a server.
Speaker 3: So I was off with by it.
Speaker 6: He didn't, he didn't really let all.
Speaker 5: You know, maybe it was more like intimidation than a
Speaker 5: negative thing. You know, maybe it's just like, wow, she's
Speaker 5: creative and can do so many things.
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm so linear and whatever. I don't know
Speaker 1: if he is. I don't really know what he does, but.
Speaker 3: I don't know yeah.
Speaker 4: I mean, I definitely ask him a lot of questions
Speaker 4: about it, Like I think, you know whatever, everybody's job
Speaker 4: is interesting.
Speaker 3: I like people are passionate about so. But then I'm
Speaker 3: also like, did I ask too many questions?
Speaker 6: You know what I like?
Speaker 3: And you know?
Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's see if we can figure it
Speaker 2: out for you so you can get out of your
Speaker 2: head on the whole thing.
Speaker 1: I get it though.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if it tellus why is ghosting you, and
Speaker 2: maybe get you another date? Okay, okay, guys, thanks, all right,
Speaker 2: we'll play a song come back, get your first say,
Speaker 2: follow up the next right in the middle of your
Speaker 2: first day, follow up if you're just joining us. Alicia
Speaker 2: is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a
Speaker 2: dude named Jason. So we're about to call him and
Speaker 2: see if it tell us why he's ghostinger and hopefully
Speaker 2: get her another date if she wants one. But first, Alicia,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I went out with this guy, Jason. We
Speaker 3: met on Hinge. We talked for a little bit before.
Speaker 4: I haven't heard from him in two weeks and I
Speaker 4: am totally spiraling about.
Speaker 3: We did kiss on the date, but it.
Speaker 4: Was brief and I wonder if my breath was stinky
Speaker 4: or if I was on the date.
Speaker 3: That's the recap.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hi, maswek to Jason. Please. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is hey Jason. How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 5: Hi, Jason, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 1: Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, no, I know you guys. You why are
Speaker 3: you calling me?
Speaker 1: Sweet? We're calling you because somebody emailed us about you.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I don't know if you know the segment
Speaker 2: we do, the first day follow up. That's where if
Speaker 2: you go out on a date with somebody and then
Speaker 2: end up ghosting them, they can email us to get
Speaker 2: you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting? Okay,
Speaker 2: So is there anybody that you can think of that
Speaker 2: you're ghosting?
Speaker 3: I mean not really, I don't know.
Speaker 8: I mean, like, you know, online dating, it's like you
Speaker 8: have like seven conversations going, you know, and it's like
Speaker 8: kind of hard to remember sometimes, like who is.
Speaker 1: Somebody who actually went on a date with.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean, you know, it's so rare that like
Speaker 8: you actually meet somebody on the apps that like is
Speaker 8: actually worth going out with. And so I don't always
Speaker 8: like get out on a date with somebody, So like, yeah,
Speaker 8: I don't really been on a lot of dates through HIMS.
Speaker 8: It's probably like one like lately.
Speaker 6: That I can remember.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it was a it was a Leisha Ye
Speaker 1: got it correct, That is it.
Speaker 2: That's who emailed us. She wasn't a wire ghostinger, she says.
Speaker 2: She tried to reach out to you a few times.
Speaker 8: Uh yeah, I mean I don't know, you know, like
Speaker 8: sometimes people are like really really good like communicating in
Speaker 8: one style and then not so good.
Speaker 3: And another one.
Speaker 8: You know, like all right, she's kind of a chat
Speaker 8: when you know what I mean, she's great, like great
Speaker 8: at chatting on the app, right, and like the conversation
Speaker 8: was super flirty and like, you know, it was like
Speaker 8: we were both like you know, never like leaving each
Speaker 8: other on red. Like there was a lot of just quick,
Speaker 8: quick back and forth.
Speaker 3: And it was going really good.
Speaker 8: And I don't know, like I mean I feel like
Speaker 8: the maybe that set things up a little like the
Speaker 8: bar a little bit too high because then like when
Speaker 8: we got in person, it wasn't as fun. But I mean,
Speaker 8: and that was okay, but like the real deal breaker
Speaker 8: was like she says she wanted a baby, and I am.
Speaker 1: Like so not ready for that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: No.
Speaker 8: So we're sitting across from each other in the boots
Speaker 8: in the restaurant and she points over my shoulder and
Speaker 8: she goes, I want one of those so bad, And
Speaker 8: I turn over my shoulder and there is this like
Speaker 8: mom with like a toddler, like you know, she's like
Speaker 8: you know when it's says, and I'm just.
Speaker 2: Like, I mean, I feel like that's a little bit
Speaker 2: much on a first date. I think it's actually like
Speaker 2: I want one of those so bad.
Speaker 1: Put one in me right now.
Speaker 5: Oh I mean, I'm not saying put one in me
Speaker 5: right now, but I think it is important to have
Speaker 5: that conversation early on a date because that way you
Speaker 5: save each other time. If you're a hard no and
Speaker 5: she's a hard yes, Like why you even bother having
Speaker 5: a second date? This this ghosting makes sense then yeah.
Speaker 8: I mean's like I was totally going to take her
Speaker 8: back in my place, but like after like that happened,
Speaker 8: like I don't want to risk be hunting up father
Speaker 8: right now, so.
Speaker 3: Like that was great? Okay, Sorry, Hi Jason, Hi, it's
Speaker 3: really I need to arify something.
Speaker 2: Alicia is on the phone listening and wants to talk
Speaker 2: to you. If you haven't figured that out.
Speaker 3: Yet, yeah, of course you Okay, okay, Hi, Hello, I
Speaker 3: hope you're doing well. You Oh my gosh, I what
Speaker 3: are you talking about. I definitely do not want a baby.
Speaker 3: I did not mention that I wanted a baby on
Speaker 3: the date.
Speaker 7: Are you?
Speaker 3: I'm like crazy?
Speaker 8: You You pointed over my shoulders, said I want one
Speaker 8: of those so bad, and there was like a mom
Speaker 8: with her toddler sitting right mine.
Speaker 4: I said, no, I was pointing at the drink on
Speaker 4: somebody's table. I don't want a baby.
Speaker 1: It wouldn't be weird if you did.
Speaker 3: But okay, are you serious? It wasn't. It wasn't the
Speaker 3: mom and the cooing baby behind us. No, it was the.
Speaker 4: Drink that was at the chief of some eur us.
Speaker 4: I'm so embarrassed that you thought I was talking about
Speaker 4: that on a first date.
Speaker 8: I mean I turned around and all I saw was
Speaker 8: mom and baby and like my, like my stomach dropped
Speaker 8: and then you're kidding me right, it was a cocktail.
Speaker 5: Be sure you don't want a baby, because you know,
Speaker 5: you see what you want to see and say what
Speaker 5: you want to say.
Speaker 4: Oh man, I definitely maybe was a little quiet on
Speaker 4: the first day.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I get service on first dates, but I definitely
Speaker 3: would not have pointed at a child said I want
Speaker 3: a baby.
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, good, now that.
Speaker 2: We got that figured out, Jason, would you like another
Speaker 2: date with Alicia?
Speaker 1: Will pay for it?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 8: I mean like everything was pretty solid until that moment,
Speaker 8: and now that I know that, I completely missed that one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that sounds great.
Speaker 8: God I am I am so sorry I didn't ask
Speaker 8: from what you were talking about.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would.
Speaker 8: If you're down, I would love to take you out again.
Speaker 4: That that is completely okay, and I would love to
Speaker 4: go out with you again.
Speaker 3: Thanks for thanks for the second chance.
Speaker 6: And to be fair, I think.
Speaker 4: You also mentioned something about taking me home that night
Speaker 4: because I was listening to everything you said.
Speaker 6: So maybe you can make that.
Speaker 8: Now that I know where you stand on babies.
Speaker 3: You will's first date.
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