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Speaker 2: On this week's episode in her Space.

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Speaker 3: I have kind of procrastinated, like a lot of us do.

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Speaker 3: I initially started grad school and was saying, Okay, I'm

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Speaker 3: not gonna be on internship working on my dissertation. I

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Speaker 3: let life happen. I procrastinated, and I ended up on

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Speaker 3: internship working on my dissertation. So at that point I

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Speaker 3: knew I have no choice but to get this done.

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Speaker 2: I have a similar experience down. It was my first

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Speaker 2: year in school and it was chaotic, like family life

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Speaker 2: was crazy.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women

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Speaker 3: like you. We're your hosts Doctor Dominique Broussard, a college

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Speaker 3: professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where

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Speaker 2: black women can just be.

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Speaker 3: Today's topic is time management. Our quote of the day.

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Speaker 3: Most of us spend too much time on what is

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Speaker 3: urgent and not enough time on what is important. Quote

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Speaker 3: came to us from Stephen Covey, the author of Seven

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Speaker 3: Habits for Highly Effective People. And I'll say that quote

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Speaker 3: one more time for us. Most of us spend too

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Speaker 3: much time on what is urgent and not enough time

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Speaker 3: on what is important. You ready to dive into.

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Speaker 2: I'm ready to dive in.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: What does that quote mean to you? I just want

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Speaker 3: That quote really speaks to really looking at and understanding

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Speaker 3: how do we allocate our time. I think that a

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Speaker 3: lot of us tend to allocate our time on like

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Speaker 3: he's saying, like the urgent things right, and not enough

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Speaker 3: time on the things that are important to us, which

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Speaker 3: then ends up leading us feeling stressed. I look at

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Speaker 3: that as urgent is I have a test tomorrow that

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Speaker 3: a hobby that really adds value to my life, that

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Speaker 3: really adds meaning to my life, but I'm not spending

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Speaker 3: any time on it, so I have no fulfillment in life.

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Speaker 2: That's good. That's good. Honestly, I'm going to be upfront.

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Speaker 2: So when you first share the quote, I was like, wait,

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Speaker 2: what does this mean? And then I thought about it,

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Speaker 2: and as you begin to share your thoughts, it makes

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Speaker 2: me think about how sometimes in life we can be

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Speaker 2: reactive instead of proactive. Right, so instead of like taking

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Speaker 2: a step back and planning out your life and figuring out, Okay,

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Speaker 2: what's important to me, what do I want to make

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Speaker 2: time for, what do I want to sort of optimize for,

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Speaker 2: It's like you're just you're just so so busy kind

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Speaker 2: to focus on. So that's kind of what it means

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Speaker 2: to me now that I think about it. Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: good quote.

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Speaker 1: I like it.

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Speaker 3: That makes perfect Yeah, that makes perfect sense that we

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Speaker 2: And I feel like sometimes time management can be hard

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Speaker 2: so it's like we are we have all these things

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Speaker 2: to know, don where did you learn how to manage time?

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Speaker 2: And like what experiences have taught your face?

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Speaker 3: If you could see my face right now, I'm making

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Speaker 3: And so I started doing a little digging, and I

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Speaker 3: The example that readily comes to mind for me is

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Speaker 3: And so at that time I used to love watching

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Speaker 3: So I was eating dinner and watching Young and Wrestlers.

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Speaker 3: That was my break. By eight o'clock I was writing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, question for you, when did you actually map out

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Speaker 3: So usually what I would do is I would map

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Speaker 3: I knew I have no choice but to get this done.

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Speaker 3: I know that I'm my goal is to graduate on time,

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Speaker 3: and so if I'm going to graduate on time, here

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Speaker 2: That's a great idea, and I honestly I have a

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Speaker 2: really good point when you talked about planning backwards. So

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Speaker 2: I don't play sports, but I feel like we can

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Speaker 2: all kind of relate to this analogy here. So I

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Speaker 3: And then once you take, once you're on halftime, and

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Speaker 3: right right now, what you're doing.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I mean, it's true. So I love to talk

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Speaker 2: about I know you did some research. I love to

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Speaker 2: talk about some tips and tools on how we can

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Speaker 2: And girl, you just made me think of a good one. Okay,

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Speaker 2: then get ready. This is a pro tip right now.

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Speaker 2: So the one thing I noticed about myself is that

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Speaker 2: I'm always that person at work where we have, you know,

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Speaker 2: Labor Day, just random mondays off throughout the year, and

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Speaker 2: I'm always that person that the Friday before everybody's like,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, I'm off on Monday, and I'm like, oh damn,

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Speaker 2: I forgot to take off because I don't plan ahead

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Speaker 2: when it comes to vacation and looking at my calendar,

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Speaker 2: then let me tell you what I'm going to do

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Speaker 2: this year in twenty nineteen. So I've already looked at

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Speaker 2: the calendar, and I've looked at the days that we're

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Speaker 2: going to have those long weekends, so my behind can

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Speaker 2: take off on that Friday and have a longer weekend

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Speaker 2: and request off before any one else does. Okay, yes,

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Speaker 2: there you go, pro tip. Yes, that's right, all right.

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Speaker 3: So our final no, I'm sorry, we have two more tips.

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Speaker 3: So our next tip is don't watch much TV. And

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Speaker 3: I know for a lot of us that is hard

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Speaker 3: with cable networks having I think over two hundred channels.

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Speaker 3: Now there's something on TV twenty four to seven for

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Speaker 3: every interest with Netflix, and Netflix has been changing the game.

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Speaker 3: Netflix has so much original programming that is way better

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Speaker 3: than most things that are on regular TV. Oh, how

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Speaker 3: do you keep up with all of it? Well, according

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Speaker 3: to our Business Insider, you don't. You don't. The people

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Speaker 3: who are making the most out of their time management

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Speaker 3: and are the most successful aren't watching a lot of television.

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Speaker 3: And if they do watch TV, they are very strategic

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Speaker 3: in what they're watching and when they watch it.

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Speaker 2: And you know what, I used to be one of

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Speaker 2: those people that watched a lot of TV, but I'm

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Speaker 2: just literally so busy lately. I don't have time. We

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Speaker 2: don't have cable number one and the only reason I

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Speaker 2: think we have a TV is because my husband watches

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Speaker 2: the game and he watches shows. But I personally I

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Speaker 2: don't watch a lot of TV. I like podcasts, and

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Speaker 2: so when it comes thing I was just going to

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Speaker 2: say something, I totally it totally left me down.

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Speaker 3: Oh no words, it's all good. I you know. I

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Speaker 3: remember when I was in high school, my English teacher

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Speaker 3: told us that she didn't watch TV. And I remember

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Speaker 3: in high school thinking to myself, that's strange.

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Speaker 2: She's weird exactly.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy to watch. To not have TV, she's missing

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Speaker 3: out on the world. But I guarantee you that she

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Speaker 3: was getting a lot accomplished and she knew a lot

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Speaker 3: about things that the rest of us were completely unaware

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Speaker 3: of because she wasn't watching TV.

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Speaker 2: I remember what I was going to say, down, that's

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Speaker 2: a good point. But yes, I get so much done

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Speaker 2: because I don't watch TV. And what I was going

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Speaker 2: to say is, sometimes I feel like certain TV shows

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Speaker 2: I definitely do make time for, like Dear White People

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Speaker 2: on Netflix. That's the show. But sometimes there are shows

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Speaker 2: where you may catch the highlights, Like I catch the

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Speaker 2: highlights of some shows because it's a good conversation starter.

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Speaker 2: So when i'm talking to someone else, if I'm traveling

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Speaker 2: or at a conference, we can always talk about the

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Speaker 2: show because I've heard the highlights from someone else. So

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Speaker 2: I think sometimes TV could be great to like bridge

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Speaker 2: the gap or connect with people. But that doesn't mean

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Speaker 2: that you have to actually watch every episode and be,

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Speaker 2: you know, in the know of what's going on with

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Speaker 2: the show.

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Speaker 3: Right, So at a minimum, just being aware that that

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Speaker 3: show exist and what the show might be about. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you know, I think there are a lot of shows

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Speaker 3: out there that are what they call cult favorites that

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Speaker 3: I've never watched, and I'm okay with that, but I've

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Speaker 3: heard of it and so I can speak enough on

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Speaker 3: it too. I can acknowledge that, oh yeah, I heard

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Speaker 3: that that was a good show. So our last tip

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Speaker 3: multitask the right way. And we've kind of talked about

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Speaker 3: it a little bit through some of our other tips,

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Speaker 3: but I want to kind of dive in a little

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Speaker 3: bit more on this one. So multitasking the right way.

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Speaker 3: All of us say, oh, I'm great at multitasking, but.

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Speaker 2: Really, are you really not?

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Speaker 3: No, No, we are not. I know. I'm guilty of

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Speaker 3: walking somewhere and I have my cell phone on it

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Speaker 3: like I'm reading text messages, replying to text messages, and

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Speaker 3: thankfully I haven't done this yet. I've seen people do

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Speaker 3: it where they trip and fall or they run into

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Speaker 3: something because they're on their phone trying to multitask. Multitasking

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Speaker 3: the right way looks like you have kids, and you

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Speaker 3: know that you have a busy schedule and you want

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Speaker 3: to spend time with your kids, but you also know

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Speaker 3: that you haven't had a chance to exercise this week,

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Speaker 3: so you take your kids on a walk to the park.

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Speaker 3: So now you're exercising and you're getting in that quality

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Speaker 3: family time. Terry, the example you gave a few moments

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Speaker 3: ago was you're in the car and maybe you're taking

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Speaker 3: a long road trip, or maybe you're like most of

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Speaker 3: us and you have a long commute. So to make

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Speaker 3: the most out of your commute, you're on your Bluetooth

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Speaker 3: or your hands. It's free because we don't advertise or

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Speaker 3: we don't condone texting and driving. We don't condone holding

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Speaker 3: your phone up to your ear. So if you're safely

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Speaker 3: able to do it, having those conversations catching up with

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Speaker 3: friends and family while you're driving can be an effective

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Speaker 3: way to Malsie tasks.

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Speaker 2: Yep, that's right. And I know for me, we're all

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Speaker 2: busy women, right, So what I usually try to do

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Speaker 2: as well is like organize people that are like minded

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Speaker 2: to come together so we can all hang out. So

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Speaker 2: if I can't hang out with everyone individual that I

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Speaker 2: want to hang out with, we just meet with a

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Speaker 2: group of people that I know will probably mesh together

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Speaker 2: and you know, kilty birds of one stone that.

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Speaker 3: Way, networking and socializing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right. These were some good tips time. Thank

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Speaker 2: you so much for getting our life with these awesome

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Speaker 2: time management tips. I do want to say that time

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Speaker 2: management is definitely a process. We are again, we are

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Speaker 2: all a work in progress, and so we have to

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Speaker 2: be gentle with ourselves as we try to map out

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Speaker 2: our time and manage it wisely. And I think it's

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Speaker 2: all I think accountability is really important too. We didn't

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Speaker 2: really touch on that, but I think accountability is important.

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Speaker 2: So being able to touch the base with people that

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Speaker 2: are going to hold you accountable to the goals that

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Speaker 2: you have. And I think it's all about, like you said,

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Speaker 2: being proactive and planning ahead because you know, they say

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Speaker 2: if you fail to plan, you plan to.

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Speaker 3: Fail, right, Well, lady, thank you for joining us today,

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Speaker 3: and just to quick review our seven tips in no

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Speaker 3: particular order. Number one toughest task for early in the morning,

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Speaker 3: Number two, take real breaks, number three, plan ahead, number four,

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Speaker 3: make time for exercise, number five, don't watch much TV.

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Speaker 3: Number six, multitask the right way, and number seven take

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Speaker 3: advantage of unexpected moments.

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Speaker 2: So now next week, I have got to share with

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Speaker 2: you this goal mapping system that has allowed me to

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Speaker 2: really up level my goals and achieve most of the

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Speaker 2: goals that have really contributed to my career growth. So

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Speaker 2: I'll share those tips with you next time.

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Speaker 3: All right, I'm looking forward to it. Thanks for joining

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Speaker 3: us today in her space. Please note that our show

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Speaker 3: may contain conversations about self help, advice, self empowerment, and

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Speaker 3: mental health, but it is by no means meant to

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Speaker 2: and Twitter at her space podcast or check out our

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Speaker 2: website at herspacepodcast dot com. And before we meet again,

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Speaker 2: repeat after me, I am not defined by where I

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Speaker 2: come from or what happened to me. I get to

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Speaker 2: create my own destiny.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for joining us. We'll see you next week, lady