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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. This is from Kristen in DeSoto Christian Rights.

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Speaker 1: I'm forty two years old and I'm divorced. I haven't

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Speaker 1: dated since my divorce because my ex wife's mother still

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Speaker 1: lives in my house. My ex says she can only

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Speaker 1: afford a one bedroom place. And I love her mom dearly,

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Speaker 1: So is it my responsibility to keep housing her?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I don't understand. I'll get a divorce the

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Speaker 3: woman I'm divorcing, Mama lea with.

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Speaker 2: Me right right right?

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Speaker 4: What the ex wife is gone with her one room apartment.

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Speaker 2: That's not a divorce.

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Speaker 3: That's how she she can't afford the mama.

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Speaker 4: I know, come get your get your MoMA.

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Speaker 2: I've done the show.

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Speaker 4: Come get your mama period.

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Speaker 2: How you got know how you got in this deal?

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Speaker 2: Right here? How the first day happened? You going to

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Speaker 2: get your mama? Except in all this discussion, y'all ain't

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Speaker 2: y'all ain't know. I ain't nobody mentioned your mama.

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Speaker 3: Everything. I ain't never man that got a divorce that

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Speaker 3: wanted the mother in law. Yes, Dave, I've had people

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Speaker 3: have custody battles over their kids.

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Speaker 2: I've had people have custody battles over their pet.

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Speaker 3: Ain't nobody never said who gonna get the mother in?

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Speaker 3: You packed all your stuff, You loaded everything in your

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Speaker 3: car and left your mama.

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Speaker 1: All right, mama, I see you later, mama. He hasn't

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Speaker 1: dated because of this. Now he's divorced, only forty two

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Speaker 1: years old. He hasn't dated because her mom lives in

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Speaker 1: his house.

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Speaker 3: Still, Hey, let me explain something to you. This man

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Speaker 3: was in a very domineering relationship. They want, very dominian

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Speaker 3: because if she make you take care of her mama.

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Speaker 2: No, you've got to be crazy if you don't get

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Speaker 2: your mom. What the rest of it? She got some

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Speaker 2: other kids.

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Speaker 1: She said, she can only afford a one bedroom apartment.

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Speaker 3: Where where her husband where the mama, husband.

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Speaker 4: And the other kids. Yeah, only fun.

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Speaker 2: She got a one bedroom apartment.

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Speaker 4: One bed, she said, that's all she can afford.

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Speaker 2: Well, you and your mom fee to be tight.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, that's it, sleeper sofa. Come on afford

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Speaker 4: a one bedroom.

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Speaker 2: That's fine. You're gonna come get your mama though, today

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Speaker 2: the last day? All right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Maryland in New Orleans, Maryland, writes, my

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Speaker 1: husband and I rent our house out in Colorado and

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Speaker 1: we moved to New Orleans. My husband told me he

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Speaker 1: had to go check on the house and he's been

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Speaker 1: there a month. Is it a sign that he's cheating?

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Speaker 1: Should I pop up to see what he's up to?

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Speaker 3: Let me do them say? Please don't pop up. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: he said he's going check on something. He been going

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Speaker 3: for a month. It's on he in Colorado. This was

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Speaker 3: a move right here?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what this house up in Colorado?

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Speaker 2: Mood in New Orleans.

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Speaker 3: As soon as we get in New Orleans, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: tell her I'm going to check on the house in Colorado.

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Speaker 4: A month.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you're saying for her not to pop up.

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Speaker 3: You ain't got to check on the house for a month.

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Speaker 3: First of all, these ain't like real, real rich people.

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Speaker 3: So I know the house he went to check on.

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Speaker 4: What is he coming back? Is Is he coming back

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Speaker 4: to New Orleans?

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Speaker 2: That's what I want to know?

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Speaker 4: Is he coming back? Hell?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Would you?

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Speaker 4: And what does rich have to do with this?

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Speaker 3: See?

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Speaker 4: Why did you say that?

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Speaker 2: Well, see, you.

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Speaker 3: Can say you're checking on the house with a whole

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Speaker 3: lot of amenities, but you ain't got to check on

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Speaker 3: the house in Colorada.

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Speaker 2: He went up there. It ain't the house that he

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Speaker 2: checking on.

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Speaker 4: Oh got you that part?

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, okay, all right.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Kalisa and Richmond, Kalisa writes, I had

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Speaker 1: a one night stand and the guy stalked me and

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Speaker 1: showed up at my job. My co worker said it's sweet,

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Speaker 1: but I think it's scary. I did a background check

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Speaker 1: on him, and everyone he knows says he's a good guy.

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Speaker 1: Should I hang out with him again?

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Speaker 2: He turned him. I don't understand these letters.

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Speaker 4: One night stand and then the guy showed up. It's

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Speaker 4: from a job.

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Speaker 2: The job though, not just be one night the folliol

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Speaker 2: You're right after that creep, creep right on up to

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Speaker 2: that job.

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Speaker 1: And her coworkers thought it was a sweet gesture, but

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Speaker 1: she thinks it's a little scary.

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Speaker 3: She said, well, lady, you ain't you ain't you wasn't

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Speaker 3: scared at the one nice thing?

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Speaker 2: Why you scared he at your job? At least the

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Speaker 2: lights is on. You got some witnesses.

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Speaker 3: If you was not scared at the one nice stand,

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Speaker 3: what are you scared the next day at the job?

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Speaker 1: For well, she doesn't want to lose her job to

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Speaker 1: some random guy coming up there.

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Speaker 3: She didn't not what the letter was about. Next, that

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Speaker 3: is not what this letter was about. The letter was

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Speaker 3: about not losing her job. She did a background check

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Speaker 3: and everybody says he's a nice guy. It's her that's

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Speaker 3: the problem. See, she don't know how not to be tricky.

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Speaker 3: First of all, she's done the one night stand before.

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Speaker 3: That's why she ain't used to nobody showing back up. Now,

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Speaker 3: how many one night stands you need to have for you?

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Speaker 2: Fray? Figure out?

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Speaker 3: This ain't really what you do. Now you run up

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Speaker 3: into a good guy and they had one nice stand.

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Speaker 3: You don't even know how to handle that. What is

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Speaker 3: he back over here for? It was for one night?

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Speaker 1: What is.

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Speaker 2: What is you trying to have a relationship for?

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Speaker 4: I like ye? So should she? Should she go out

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Speaker 4: with him again? Now?

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Speaker 3: This girl is in the one night stands and this

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Speaker 3: is what she do Now? This wanting you again is.

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Speaker 4: Confusing to just threw her into something and yeah I.

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Speaker 3: Want somebody after that one night stay.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's not what she does him up?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 4: That's one.

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Speaker 1: Sonya in Tampa writes there have been four men in

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Speaker 1: my life that showed me that men are dogs. I

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Speaker 1: have a hard time trusting the new guy I'm dating

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Speaker 1: because of that. How do I let go of the

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Speaker 1: past and move on?

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Speaker 2: See that's the problem. That isn't that the problem?

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Speaker 3: You can't drive your car looking in your real view

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Speaker 3: mirror and it's the law of attraction.

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Speaker 2: All me and are dogs.

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Speaker 3: Well guess what now you're fin to meet all of them.

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Speaker 3: Then when you meet a good one, you automatically want

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Speaker 3: to put him in the dog category because your pickers off.

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Speaker 3: Now four men in my life has showed me me

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Speaker 3: and her dogs. Once you make that statement, that's what

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Speaker 3: you're going to attract to yourself. Stop putting that in

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Speaker 3: your energy in your universe. Okay, stop, Ask God to

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Speaker 3: help all of your steps and introduce you to the

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Speaker 3: right kind of guy.

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Speaker 2: But be still from you need to quit picking. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you've got it wrong. Full time

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Speaker 4: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show