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Speaker 1: good reason. Setting up boundaries with their loved ones is

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Speaker 2: Setting boundaries is selfish and rule with all your relationships. Really,

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Speaker 2: maybe what we're gonna find out today, we're gonna.

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Speaker 3: Prove that setting boundaries will ruin all of your relationships

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Speaker 1: My brother and his wife, Laura, who's seven months pregnant,

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Speaker 1: from Best Revended Updates. My kids love having their aunt

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Speaker 1: Laura went out and came back with some groceries. I

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Speaker 1: having them. She said that she wanted to and that

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Speaker 1: most of the items were cravings that she's been having.

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Speaker 1: I started helping her unload her bags and noticed a

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Speaker 2: Of cake fusion were there.

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Speaker 1: It made me uneasy because she knows my oldest son,

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Speaker 1: an eight male, is extremely allergic to peanuts.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's so disrespectful. Come on, man, you're there for

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Speaker 3: like a week. I understand that pregnancy cravings can be,

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Speaker 3: you know, pretty strong, but go outside and eat it

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Speaker 1: I think you should still totally Yeah, get to get

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just eat them outside.

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Speaker 3: Why, like literally, you can eat them anywhere else, just

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Speaker 4: You just stop peeing on people's nuts.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna keep going. So I don't keep.

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Speaker 1: Anything of that kind in our home because we've had

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Speaker 2: This is like life or death here.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be rude, but I told her

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Speaker 1: She told me that she would be careful, that she

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Speaker 1: cravings and needed them, and this ain't your housegirl. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: I've had four kids and kind of get where she's

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Speaker 2: Something, but every woman is different.

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Speaker 1: I made sure my son knew not to touch any

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Speaker 3: That was that, No, this is this is stupid.

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Speaker 1: She like, yeah, yeah, I get this out of the house. Like, no,

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Speaker 3: No, this is stupid. Like once again she can say, oh,

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Speaker 3: I need it, but you don't need to have it

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Speaker 2: Don't need to have it in the house.

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Speaker 1: Today, I woke up early to make breakfast and open

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Speaker 3: Chill when people are air born, like have airborne allergies

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the peanut butter jar wasn't sealed properly next to them,

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Speaker 4: You're a freak.

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Speaker 2: Man, dude. I was pissed.

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Speaker 1: I've read enough about airborne contamination to note that you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, come on, come on, like obviously, like cravings is

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Speaker 2: Not at the expense of her other child continuing to live.

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Speaker 3: The baby just needs food. It doesn't need your peanut

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Speaker 1: I told her blatantly, that'll get him a single left.

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Speaker 3: If you, if you really need this, then leave, like

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Speaker 1: Yes, to protect my child. Nicole Age says, she can

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Speaker 1: go stay in hotel, hotel. How about a fact, if

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Speaker 2: Why risk it?

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Speaker 1: You're about to be a parent, Yes, think shouldn't you

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Speaker 2: My brother was at.

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Speaker 2: It's not your house. Your house, the kid is.

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Speaker 2: Less severe than it was.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you should even then at least respect,

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Speaker 3: But and I have a friend who's pretty severely allergic

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Speaker 2: But I have the craving. I have cravings my baby,

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Speaker 1: So I can't go outside because that's too Also like

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Speaker 1: I mean, I get, I get like it's like ice

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Speaker 3: But I mean I don't think straw some peanut butters

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Speaker 3: I will kill someone for this.

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Speaker 4: Literally, I love peanut butter.

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Speaker 2: Dude is great. I'm not I'm not hating on peanut butter,

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Speaker 1: the breeze says, not the a whole nothing happened and

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Speaker 1: The only thing I could possibly think that you might

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Speaker 3: I mean, it seems like she can't do it.

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Speaker 1: Kind of seems like that, but that really isn't necessary

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Speaker 1: Not everyone, but like just tell them and then yeah,

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Speaker 3: Literally. Also, I feel like whenever people you know scoop

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Speaker 4: You don't even understand the level I love peanut butter

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Speaker 4: that I would not waste a single gram to the sink.

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Speaker 3: Restaurants afterwards where like, Okay, there is a chance that

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry, but OPI said, hey, my son has

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Speaker 3: Blah blah blah. It doesn't matter. You're being rude to

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Speaker 1: So the commentary says, there's a difference between a pregnant

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Speaker 3: Correct, what I didn't know that? Yeah, kind of bad

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Speaker 1: But we have some relevant comments to close this out.

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Speaker 1: So butter not squash, not the ahole. If your sibling

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't have feodalities, but sister law.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't get to eat her peanut butter at Opie's house

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Speaker 3: Exactly, give many fine? That sounds real. Young Two parts

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Speaker 4: Feed that to the kid.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, a great new resume for him to try out.

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Speaker 1: So I refuse to meet my girlfriend's mom because I

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Speaker 3: That sounds like a good reason.

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Speaker 1: So I mail thirty. Lost my younger brother when I

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Speaker 1: He fought very hard, and ever since I've been donating

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Speaker 3: Day, breakup out of there.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry what you can do your stupid tradition any

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Speaker 3: you suck. That's so cruel.

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Speaker 4: That is so cruel, thirty one female, not like a teenager.

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Speaker 2: What is wrong with you? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with you, ma'am? I explained to her

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Speaker 2: That takes a turn for the worst.

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Speaker 4: Why why does she say meet like he's already met her.

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Speaker 2: If anything okay.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, oh, you made you made me look

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Speaker 2: He does it's blood.

442
00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:30,000
Speaker 1: I feel like he would look ten times better.

443
00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:33,240
Speaker 3: Absolutely. I think the only way that he's looking bad

444
00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:35,280
Speaker 3: in front of the mom if she goes, oh, well,

445
00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:37,520
Speaker 3: he's not coming because he said he like he doesn't

446
00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:39,640
Speaker 3: want to be there to have lunch with us. If

447
00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:42,160
Speaker 3: she's swinging like if she's spinning it that way.

448
00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:45,080
Speaker 5: And I feel like that's exactly probably what's probably venting.

449
00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:49,600
Speaker 4: Do you think it's the mom making the daughter upset

450
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,760
Speaker 4: or do you think it's the daughter making herself upset?

451
00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:53,399
Speaker 2: Like?

452
00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 4: Is it a weird family dynamic?

453
00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,120
Speaker 1: I think it might be an apple doesn't fall too

454
00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,400
Speaker 1: far from the tree. I could see it where she's

455
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:02,240
Speaker 1: doing what you said, and she's just like, oh, he

456
00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,080
Speaker 1: won't call. He's just like blowing me off and not

457
00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:06,560
Speaker 1: doing it, and then the mom is like, yeah, piling

458
00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,160
Speaker 1: on on top of that.

459
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:09,840
Speaker 2: That's what I'm guessing. That's what I'm guessing.

460
00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 4: But let's see it's Brittany Beach says conspiracy theory. She

461
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:14,800
Speaker 4: did it on that day on.

462
00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 2: Purpose, trying to get out of the relationship.

463
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 3: Now they just call us or something.

464
00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm on that side.

465
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,080
Speaker 1: The commenter says, question, did Anna know about the tradition

466
00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:27,800
Speaker 1: before her mother came to visit. I'm thinking the answer

467
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 1: is yes, because you said explained again, but I wanted

468
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,920
Speaker 1: to verify this. Obie says, yes, I've mentioned it many

469
00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 1: times before. I think she forgot about the date, so

470
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 1: I re explained that I can't join them that day

471
00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,760
Speaker 1: for that reason. Another commenter says, not the a hole.

472
00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 1: She doesn't respect your tradition, which is.

473
00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:44,320
Speaker 2: One day a year.

474
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 1: Her mom will probably come to town more than one

475
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,480
Speaker 1: time in the year. Your girlfriend is being selfish and entiled.

476
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 1: Obie says, yes, she is retired and livests three hours away.

477
00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 1: She comes often. Another commenter says, your tradition outweighs getting

478
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,920
Speaker 1: dinner with and visiting a relative slash in law. I'm

479
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:03,639
Speaker 1: sorry for your loss, and I hope you had a

480
00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 1: good day remembering remembering him if I could. What's his

481
00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 1: favorite movie that is so huge? Opie says there are two, actually,

482
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 1: loll The very first was a Despicable Me movie and

483
00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:16,200
Speaker 1: Star Wars episode three Revenge of This.

484
00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 4: Okay, I love this.

485
00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:19,000
Speaker 2: That is adorable. That is so adorable.

486
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,640
Speaker 1: Commenter says, have you watched the new one. I see

487
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,480
Speaker 1: all the movies, and my dad would have loved to

488
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:26,360
Speaker 1: see that franchise because he loved it too. Opie says,

489
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:28,440
Speaker 1: not yet. I'm planning to watch it with my dad.

490
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 1: My mom passed away when they were kids, and my

491
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:34,320
Speaker 1: dad raised us alone. On my brother's birthday, the plan

492
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 1: B is to have him over for movie night on

493
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 1: my brother's birthday if the movie will no longer be

494
00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 1: in movie theaters in December.

495
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 4: Dude, the Despicable Me franchise has over five billion dollars. Yeah,

496
00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:49,199
Speaker 4: four point five billion is parts of Caribbean huge moviec

497
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Speaker 4: me like, not.

498
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,440
Speaker 3: Only is it like the movies, but it's also all

499
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:53,840
Speaker 3: of the things that they sold.

500
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably the big I would guess the biggest movie

501
00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:00,000
Speaker 1: franchise of like the past decade.

502
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, kids, kids, kids moving here ye yes.

503
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, and the minions like the Facebook shared minions.

504
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 1: Dude, out of here, completely out of off the shots,

505
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: off the shots. Another commenter says, I think you would

506
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,920
Speaker 1: need to think very carefully about this girlfriend. Losing someone

507
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 1: you love is very hard, and she's extremely careless with

508
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,119
Speaker 1: your feelings. I'm sorry for your lost I lost my

509
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 1: brother when he was twelve and I was fifteen and

510
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 1: I still miss him, Opie says, my condolences. I miss

511
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: him a lot. There are certain video games I can't

512
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:29,959
Speaker 1: even look out or play anymore because it was our

513
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,879
Speaker 1: special thing. A commenter downvoted.

514
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:37,400
Speaker 2: You know what time it is? Yeah, let's get into it,

515
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 2: says I see plenty of.

516
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:41,680
Speaker 1: Room for doing lunch with your girlfriend and her mom

517
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:43,880
Speaker 1: and still commemorating your brother's death.

518
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 2: In the same day.

519
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 1: It would have been easy to fit lunch between visiting

520
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 1: a grave, drawing blood and seeing a movie. You also

521
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: missed a chance to invite your girlfriend to partake in

522
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 1: your ritual, and instead you seem to have just used

523
00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: it as an excuse to not go with them. You're

524
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 1: going to lose a lot more people in life before

525
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 1: it's through. I understand it. It's hard, but it's nearly

526
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 1: a decade. Sometimes clinging to those ancient memories only holds

527
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 1: you back.

528
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 4: You know exactly who made that comment. Everyone knows exactly

529
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 4: who made this. There were only two people that could

530
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 4: have ever made this comment. Talk to me, the mom

531
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 4: and the girlfriend. Only two people in the world that could.

532
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 3: Ever get over it. Go out to lunch with.

533
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:25,560
Speaker 5: Them, me them, Opie's girlfriend is hot, says yeah, no,

534
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:29,479
Speaker 5: that's one hundred percent, and completely disregards the fact that, like,

535
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:34,159
Speaker 5: maybe Opie's emotional state is in a horrible place to

536
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 5: be able to entertain and be their best self around

537
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 5: his girlfriend and his mom, and rather it's like, let

538
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 5: me take a day.

539
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 2: Like, just give him a day.

540
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,679
Speaker 3: Also, I think it's like it's not necessarily even about

541
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 3: like it might not be his emotional state is horrible

542
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 3: and he's really really sad. It might just be like

543
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 3: I want a day to remember the good times that

544
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 3: I had with my brother.

545
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 2: That's that's how that's how he processes best.

546
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 1: Like, Yeah, he gets to kind of like it's almost

547
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,119
Speaker 1: it's almost like he's like one on one with his

548
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 1: brother in exactly, And that's how he likes to do

549
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: it and feels good for him, and that's what he

550
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,160
Speaker 1: wants to do well. OPI responds she had never met him.

551
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 1: He passed away long before my current relationship. She never

552
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: showed any interest to join, and I wasn't expecting her

553
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 1: to join. Yeah, exactly, Like he probably enjoys it and

554
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 1: wants it to be just him. I mean, if she

555
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 1: wanted to join, what she would have been more than

556
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 1: a welcome to I didn't exclude her. My brother is

557
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:33,239
Speaker 1: not some ancient memory. We were very close and we

558
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: only had each other growing up as my dad was

559
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: working a lot. His memory isn't holding me back in

560
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:43,719
Speaker 1: any way. So f that freaking comment, yeah, Opie comments.

561
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 1: One hour after posting h I texted Anna that we

562
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,720
Speaker 1: needed to talk after reading the comments.

563
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:49,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna end it.

564
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 3: Nice, thank goodness, good.

565
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 2: Good good, good good good. I don't have her mom's number, unfortunately.

566
00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 3: Are we gonna end with your mom?

567
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 1: Or yeah, hey, girlfriend's mom. Look, we're gonna have to

568
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 1: kind of cut this thing off. Okay, I'm sorry.

569
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 3: It can't be my girlfriend's mom anymore.

570
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 2: You can't do it.

571
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,439
Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta go go find another girlfriend to

572
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: be a mom of Yeah, it's not working. It's quite frankly,

573
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 1: and then OPI's Three hours later, when asked for an update,

574
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: uh sure so far no reply and responding to another

575
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 1: downloaded comment, I'm not apologizing.

576
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 2: I sent her a text to meet so I can

577
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 2: end it.

578
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 1: Expecting you have one day out of the year is

579
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,439
Speaker 1: not too much to ask for final update.

580
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:36,400
Speaker 2: Two days later, I texted her that we needed to talk.

581
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 2: She never replied.

582
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 1: She just blocked me from everywhere, all social media platforms.

583
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 2: What's app et cetera, et cetera.

584
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 1: Her best friend who's following me on Instagram blocked me too.

585
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 2: I'm not sad. I wanted to end it anyways. Thank

586
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 2: you for your support everyone. I really appreciate.

587
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 1: Your kind comments. Some users suggested that my brother remembrance

588
00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: tradition saved me from getting serious with her and a

589
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: lifetime of misery, and that.

590
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 2: Made me smile. Thank you. Woo It's sweet. I love it.

591
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 3: What a lovely ending.

592
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 1: I think that ended as well as it possibly could have.

593
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 1: I think so Op was able to again a classic

594
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:19,439
Speaker 1: case of something random happening that showed the true colors

595
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: in the relationship, and you're.

596
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,360
Speaker 3: Able to get rid of this person, get them out

597
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:23,119
Speaker 3: of your life.

598
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 2: Before it gets.

599
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: The longer and deeper you go in, the worse and

600
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 1: worse it's gonna get.

601
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 3: The harder it is, the longer you let a leech bite. Yes,

602
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 3: the harder it is to pull them off.

603
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: And it was nine months, only nine months.

604
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 3: I purposely didn't wish my friends a happy wedding day

605
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 3: because they excluded me from the wedding.

606
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 2: Kind of fair.

607
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 3: So this may be a bit long, but I really

608
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 3: need to know if I'm the a hole in this situation.

609
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 3: My friends, let's call them Tom twenty six and Sarah's

610
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 3: thirty just got married, and despite me wanting to wish

611
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 3: them a happy wedding day, I chose not to.

612
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 2: Sorry.

613
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 3: Two years ago, my thirty female partner thirty six male John,

614
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 3: and I decided to move States after COVID shot our

615
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: city and our whole lives down. We have a very

616
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 3: tight knit group of friends and two of them, Tom

617
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 3: and Sarah, desperately needed a new house and their lease

618
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,159
Speaker 3: was ending, and since we were already thinking of moving,

619
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 3: we decided to bite the bullet and move States so

620
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 3: they could move into our place, which was honestly the

621
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 3: nicest house I've ever lived in, and my partner and

622
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 3: I were sad to leave it, but we're happy knowing

623
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 3: it was going to some of our closest friends. By

624
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Bubbles Bubbles Pop on the

625
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 3: Dusty thunder subvert it. So my partner John worked in

626
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 3: high end places and constantly got our friends into places

627
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: for free since we moved. However, he has since changed

628
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 3: industries and no longer gets people into places for free. John,

629
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 3: I know where is your point. Once we moved, our

630
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 3: friends didn't really speak to him at all, and this

631
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 3: has led him to a pretty deep depression. We came

632
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 3: back to our home city a year later for an

633
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 3: event that group goes to annually and had a great

634
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 3: time with everyone again. I spoke to Tom and Sarah

635
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 3: and explained how much we missed them and just wanted

636
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 3: to talk a bit more regularly, even if it was

637
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 3: just a chat about our day while cooking dinner. They

638
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 3: both agreed and apologized for being so distant since we moved.

639
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 3: Once we got back, I stayed true to what I

640
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 3: asked and called both Tom and Sarah once a week

641
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 3: separately to catch up. But in six months of trying

642
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 3: to call them once a week, Tom answered probably twice

643
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 3: and both times said he was too busy to talk.

644
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 3: Sarah answered a few times in the beginning, but around

645
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: two months in she would only answer to tell me

646
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 3: she was busy and would call me later, but never

647
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 3: called me back. So after months of two minute calls,

648
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 3: I started waiting for them to call one of us

649
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 3: when they were free, Yet this never happened. We still

650
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 3: all spoke to each other in the group chat. It

651
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: just seemed like we could never catch each other at

652
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 3: a good time over the phone. Honestly, if they're not

653
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 3: going to try, you know, to keep this friendship going,

654
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 3: there's not really much you can do.

655
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 2: What are we doing?

656
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 3: What are we doing?

657
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 4: The balls are in their court.

658
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 3: The balls are in their court.

659
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 2: Right.

660
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 1: This feels like a out of body experience. What because

661
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: of John's experience?

662
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 3: Oh, you're really living it, right.

663
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just like watching myself live this

664
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: completely alternative like timeline. Yeah, this is the way that

665
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: your life could have gone in the JCU, the John

666
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: Cinematic universe.

667
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 2: This is my alternative timeline. Kind of crazy, This is

668
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: kind of wild.

669
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, I could see this.

670
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 2: It could be, it could happen.

671
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 3: Now to the wedding part. Tom and Sarah were engaged

672
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 3: before we left and had told us about the venue

673
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: and planning and how excited they were to have everyone

674
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 3: from the friend group there. We were all very happy

675
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 3: for them and looking forward to celebrating with them. They're

676
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: honestly not the best at working on a timeline, and

677
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 3: no one had received any invitations even once. It was

678
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 3: only a month or so away. That's not good. My sister,

679
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 3: Aaron twenty five, female, is also part of our friend

680
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 3: group and talk to them all the time and said

681
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 3: my invitation and everyone else's would be coming soon. It

682
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 3: got to two weeks away from their wedding and John

683
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 3: and I had not heard anything from them, and it

684
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 3: was clear we had been excluded. I was deeply hurt

685
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,480
Speaker 3: by this crazy that her sister was kind of in

686
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 3: the know and didn't, you know, defend her at all,

687
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 3: say like, hey, you should invite her? Is she being invited?

688
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 4: Conspiracy theory? Yeah, these friends are leeches because the second the.

689
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 3: Second John didn't couldn't get them into all the parties anymore.

690
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: They dropped them.

691
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 2: We're not friends, guys, Come on, give me a break.

692
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 2: I got you guys in there, and now you're just

693
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 2: tossing me as I like trash.

694
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 4: Remember the memories, Stop trying to recreate them.

695
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 3: Remember the freaking memories.

696
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 2: Do you remember the times? Now?

697
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 3: It just so happens that I was coming back to

698
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 3: my home state for a small holiday at the same

699
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: time as their wedding. The only reason I knew everyone

700
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 3: else had been invited was because my sister was there

701
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 3: and she sent me photos from throughout the night. What

702
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 3: a freaking kick to the stomach for your sister to

703
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 3: be like, yeah, you're definitely getting your invitation soon and

704
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: then being like, hey, at the wedding you weren't invited to.

705
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 3: I wanted to wish Tom and Sarah a happy wedding

706
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: day in the group chat, but figured since I wasn't invited,

707
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 3: neither of them would really want to hear from me,

708
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 3: and I didn't want to start drama on their special day,

709
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 3: so I left it and just had a little cry

710
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 3: to myself Whoah said. Two days later, there was an

711
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 3: event going on for the company I used to work

712
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,959
Speaker 3: for that Tim and Sarah also work. I figured they

713
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 3: would be away on their honeymoon and I'd be able

714
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 3: to see other people that I love and missed. Unfortunately,

715
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 3: this was not the case. Tom and Sarah were there,

716
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 3: and it was bad. I was out the back having

717
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 3: a smoke break and Tom walks up and stands right

718
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 3: in front of me. I expected that he would look

719
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 3: up and be excited to see me. Tom and I

720
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 3: have been friends for almost ten years, but all I

721
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 3: got once he noticed I was standing in front of

722
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 3: him was oh, hey with a quick hug. He then

723
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 3: just stared at his front phone and proceeded to ignore

724
00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 3: me for the rest of the night. This deeply, deeply

725
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 3: hurt me, but I decided to just try and have

726
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 3: a good night with my other friends that were excited

727
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 3: to see me. Well. About an hour later, I was

728
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 3: backstage with my other friends when Sarah came back to

729
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 3: ask the boss for some clarification. She instantly saw me

730
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 3: and just gave me a dirt side eye. A dirty

731
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 3: side eye, No, a dirt, dirt side Once they were

732
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 3: finished talking, I asked how the wedding was, trying to

733
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 3: be nice and keep the peace. She said it was

734
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 3: great and asked how I was in a very flat

735
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 3: and annoyed tone. I explained I'm doing as well as

736
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 3: I usually am, and joked about the new cyst in

737
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: my brain and how fun it was going to be

738
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: if it was cancer.

739
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 4: It's a funny sense of humor, so funny.

740
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 3: Oh, He's like, yeah, I really, you know, I really

741
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 3: saved the conversation by talking about my possible cancer. Let's go,

742
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: I'm chronically ill and always have something wrong with my health.

743
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 3: She then looks at me with a very pissed off

744
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 3: look and says, you didn't wish me a happy wedding day.

745
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 4: Ooh right, that's what I was saying.

746
00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 3: What I was thinking justin Sarah is audacious and I

747
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 3: don't like it. Ah was my newscast.

748
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 4: I love that. I love that. I'm at the story.

749
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 4: But no, that was beautiful, Sophia.

750
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 2: What is this new accent? I don't like it?

751
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 3: So I was just trying it out. It's fine, I

752
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 3: loved it. Please, I replied with Sarah, you didn't invite me,

753
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 3: what did you expect? She then proceeded to tell me

754
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 3: that it wasn't really me that was invited, but more

755
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 3: my partner John.

756
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 1: Listen, listen, we got a problem. You come talk to

757
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 1: me direct. I don't care what alternative timeline it is.

758
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 1: You come to me, let's talk about it.

759
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 3: That's ridiculous. I told her she didn't even bother to

760
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 3: call me or message me to explain anything. She caught

761
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 3: me off and said I had isolated myself with John.

762
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 3: I asked how she figured that was the case, considering

763
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 3: all I did was move and I constantly tried keeping

764
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,479
Speaker 3: in touch with them, and they never answered my calls

765
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 3: or bothered to call me back, and the only reason

766
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 3: John was bitter was because they all cut him off

767
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 3: once he wasn't useful to them anymore. She then just

768
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 3: said I'm not doing this and left. For the rest

769
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 3: of the night, they proceeded to actively ignore me and

770
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 3: give me dirty looks. So I have to know. Am

771
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:14,840
Speaker 3: I the a hole for not wishing them a happy

772
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 3: wedding day? And edit to those asking about John and

773
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 3: his behavior prior my partner, John did tell Tom and

774
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 3: Sarah how pissed he was that they cut him off

775
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 3: once he wasn't useful to them anymore.

776
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,280
Speaker 4: Uh, yeah, you should have just sent a little message.

777
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 4: That's on you, girl.

778
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 2: I tell it like it is. Listen. I told them.

779
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 1: I sat them down, and I told them I don't

780
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: appreciate it.

781
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 3: Come on, John, I don't appreciate it.

782
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 4: Just for sure, John, I let him know.

783
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 3: Use you.

784
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,840
Speaker 1: You know, I would love to say that I did it,

785
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 1: but I what can I say. I had faith in humanity.

786
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 1: I had faith in humanity.

787
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,720
Speaker 3: If they could do better, and they didn't. They didn't,

788
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 3: And that's not okay.

789
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 4: Get some j for J's in the chat, just for Jay's.

790
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 3: Jafe with Jay's talk. Yeah, these aren't your friends. I

791
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 3: think just getting them out of your life kind of

792
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,839
Speaker 3: sucks that your sister didn't really you vacuum up.

793
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 2: She was the worst.

794
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 3: She was the worst, the worst video of like a

795
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 3: video of her dancing at the party.

796
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 2: That's crazy, that's wild. The audacity is banana. Literally literally,

797
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 2: do you go no contact here.

798
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 3: With the friends? I don't think with a sister. I

799
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: think i'd be like, hey, dude, that was pretty mean, insane,

800
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 3: but I wouldn't. I wouldn't go no contact with the sister,

801
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 3: but I think I would go no contact with these friends.

802
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I go no contact with the friends, but I

803
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 1: don't know, being uninvited and then like sending the video,

804
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,320
Speaker 1: and then the way that she reacted when she was

805
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: like she's not like, oh my god, are you doing okay?

806
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 2: It's like, why don't you wakee me to have your

807
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 2: wedding day?

808
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah? Ikey icky, ikey, stern up drama.

809
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 2: I don't know, stirring it up. I don't know. I

810
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 2: don't like it.

811
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:49,439
Speaker 3: Stirring it up faster than a chef making us soup.

812
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 4: Well, no, no, no, Sophia making a soup, then me making

813
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 4: us soup. You make them pretty fast.

814
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 3: That's fast will make them pretty fast.

815
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something