1 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's. 13 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 3: My name is Tiana, and I really need your advice 14 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 3: on something that I'm struggling with. So my cousin is 15 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 3: getting married in two months. My cousin is more like 16 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 3: my sister. We've literally grown up for the past thirty 17 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 3: years together. We just came back from her bacheorette trip, 18 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 3: and for her bachelorette trip, I helped plan and set 19 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 3: up and pay for most of the expenses as far 20 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 3: as decor wise. During the trip, we had a little 21 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 3: argument and my cousin went behind my back and told 22 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: all of her friends that I just had met on 23 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 3: that trip, that I've been talking really badly about them 24 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 3: for months leading up until this, because no one has contributed. 25 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 3: And this isn't true, because my cousin has vented to 26 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 3: me for all of these months and her frustrations and 27 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 3: seeing that other people haven't stepped up in the way 28 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 3: that I have, so now moving forward for the wedding, 29 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 3: this puts me in such an awkward position. I feel 30 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 3: like my cousin betrayed me. Why would you throw me 31 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 3: under the bus and say that I was the only 32 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 3: one talking about your friends when in fact, you were 33 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 3: venting to me about these people for months. I feel 34 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 3: like I can't trust my cousin. I feel like I'm 35 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 3: in such a weird position to be getting ready and 36 00:01:56,400 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 3: smiling with everyone when you've created this ugly an image 37 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 3: of me that isn't true, that I have to pretend 38 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 3: and play just because you're getting married. And now I'm 39 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 3: not even considering going to the wedding because she did 40 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 3: this to me. So what should I do? 41 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: Ooh, Tiana, this is a tough one because it's your 42 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: cousin's big day, and if you don't go she's going 43 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: to hold that against you forever and then you probably 44 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 1: will regret it later. And if you do go, then 45 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: that's putting yourself in an uncomfortable position. So if I 46 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: were you, I would be the better person and the 47 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: bigger person, and I would just go to the wedding. Now, 48 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 1: if you don't want to be uncomfortable, my suggestion is 49 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: that you maybe call some type of meeting. I know 50 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: it sounds a little like intense, but just for the 51 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: sake of your cousin's big day and so that you're 52 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: not blamed for the rest of your guys's life, because 53 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: that is something so important in a woman's life that 54 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: if if you do that, you're going to be more wrong. 55 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Like, even if right 56 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: now it's your cousin was projecting it seems like and 57 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: trying to just blame you for everything, when in reality 58 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:11,919 Speaker 1: it's like she's projecting. 59 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 2: She does. 60 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,079 Speaker 1: She wants to cover up what she said and put 61 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,519 Speaker 1: it all on you, And right now it's kind of like, Okay, 62 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:19,679 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna ruin your day or this moment in 63 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: your life, but I think it's a conversation that you 64 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: need to have with her after her wedding. But I 65 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: think now the important thing is so that you're not 66 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: uncomfortable somewhere, that you have some type of communication with 67 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: them and just say, hey, guys, I know you heard this, 68 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: but this is what I said, and I would appreciate, yes, 69 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: if you guys can come up with something and help 70 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: us out for my cousin, you know, but I do 71 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: apologize if things were misunderstood. I just don't want to 72 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: be uncomfortable at the wedding. I don't want you guys 73 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable, and I definitely don't want to make 74 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: my cousin uncomfortable. I think you should still go personally 75 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: and just kind of suck it up and just say, Okay, 76 00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go. I'm gonna be there for the ceremony. 77 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: Maybe I won't go to the recept if you decide 78 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: not to talk to them. Hopefully you can't talk to 79 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: them and it gets resolved. But in my heart of hearts, 80 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: I feel that you should be there regardless because you 81 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 1: don't want to regret it later. And sometimes we have 82 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: to in moments like this, set our feelings to the 83 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 1: side and be selfless for someone else's happiness. If that 84 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 1: makes sense, So hopefully that helps a little bit, but 85 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: I hope it gets resolved. Communication is everything, so I 86 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: really think that you should let it be known and 87 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 1: how you're feeling, and again, just be wise with the 88 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: words that you choose, you know, but I think you 89 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 1: should express it for sure. So next question comes from Jen. 90 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 2: Hi Cheekyes, I just would like to know how you 91 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 2: deal with stuff mentally my young mom OF's dream and 92 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 2: I just don't feel okay. I feel like I haven't 93 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 2: for a very long time. I'm twenty four with three 94 00:04:55,800 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 2: kids sytans. I just feel like it's too much. I 95 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:05,719 Speaker 2: just don't know how to deal with my emotions. I 96 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 2: don't talk to either of my parents. I don't have friends, 97 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 2: I don't go out, I don't work. I was supposed 98 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 2: to start college in two weeks and the no computer 99 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:20,720 Speaker 2: that I had gotten my kids dropped soda on it. 100 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 2: And I know it's something so small, but I just 101 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 2: feel like little things. I just don't know how to 102 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 2: control my emotions and I just feel like a terrible. 103 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Jen, it hurts my heart so much 104 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:38,720 Speaker 1: to hear you this way, but I'm so glad that 105 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: you're reaching out and that you're asking for help that 106 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: is so good. I'm going to give you the absolute 107 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: best advice that I possibly can, and I hear that 108 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 1: where the issue is here is that you have forgotten 109 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: about Jen. And it's good that you're a great mother 110 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 1: because you focus so much on your three children, but 111 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 1: also you can't forget about you and about what makes 112 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 1: you happy. And I know it's tough not talking to 113 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: your parents. I know how tough that is, but I 114 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: think if you just focus on your children for now 115 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: and hopefully just pray for the relationship with your parents, 116 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 1: hopefully that will get better. I think finding the balance 117 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:23,479 Speaker 1: between being a mom and also doing what makes Gen 118 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 1: happy is going to help you so much, even as 119 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: little as saying, you know what, I'm going to leave 120 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: the kids with their dad and or with whoever can 121 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: help you, and I'm going to go out and give 122 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: myself a pedicure, an hour of your day to go 123 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 1: get yourself a pedicure, to just focus on Gen. What's 124 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: gonna make Gen happy? And if you can go back 125 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:45,159 Speaker 1: to school, because that's going to help you so much. 126 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: I really hope that you can make that happen for yourself, 127 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: Like don't forget about yourself. I see so many young 128 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: moms that forget about themselves after they have children. And again, 129 00:06:56,839 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: I'm not a mom, so I can't even speak too 130 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: much about it, but I've seen it with my sisters, 131 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: and I feel like it's so important not to lose 132 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 1: your individuality in a relationship, even in being a mother, 133 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: in friendships or whatever. Like, it's so important to still 134 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,960 Speaker 1: do things that make you happy and that fulfill you, 135 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: even if that means waking up a little earlier and 136 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: having time for yourself and drinking a coffee or a 137 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: tea outside and just realizing, okay, I setting the tone 138 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: to your day. Little things like that go a long way. 139 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 1: Journaling like, hey, this is how I feel today. I 140 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: want to feel like this tomorrow. And just know you're 141 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: not a bad mom. You're not alone in this. And 142 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: I wish that more mothers spoke about this, and maybe 143 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: we can have an episode on Cheeky's and Chill about 144 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: It where we have moms come on and really talk 145 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: about how they feel and how difficult it is to 146 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: be a mom, because it is difficult, and you're a 147 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: young mom and you have three kids, so don't feel 148 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: guilty for feeling the way that you feel at all. 149 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 1: That does not make you a bad person. You are 150 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: a human, a human going through a human experience. Don't 151 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: forget that and be compassionate with yourself. And I'm sending 152 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: you such a big, warm hug full of love and 153 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 1: peace and everything that I want for you, because I 154 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: can feel it that you are going through a lot. 155 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: But it's okay. There is hope and this too, shell 156 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: pass and don't give up. You got this. It's okay. 157 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: My mama was a mother of five, single mom, and 158 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: I'm sure she had these moments, but she did it 159 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: and I know you can too. You can do this. 160 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: You can do this. We can do this. Okay. I'm 161 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 1: gonna be praying all right. So next question comes from 162 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,439 Speaker 1: Sasha Tai Cheeky. 163 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 4: I'm such a huge fan. I love you, congratulations on 164 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 4: your engagement. I just was wondering how do you handle 165 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 4: a bad body image day? You are so beautiful and 166 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 4: I'm so grateful that you've been open about your weight 167 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 4: loss journey, your fitness journey, yourself everything journey. And while 168 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 4: I know that self love is a journey, there are 169 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 4: days that are harder than others. Is there anything that 170 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 4: you do specifically when you're feeling down or bummed out 171 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 4: or feeling like you're doing too much comparing. Thank you 172 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 4: so much and congrats again. 173 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 2: Love you. 174 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: I love you too, Sasha, thank you so much. Thank 175 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: you for those beautiful words and for your question and 176 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: for listening to dear cheekys and cheek and chill. Okay, 177 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: So I think we all have those days, even men. 178 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: I just think that men aren't as vocal as we 179 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: are or as emotional quote unquote. But when I have 180 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:37,079 Speaker 1: those days, because I have them still, even now that 181 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: I've lost weight, there are times and I'm just like, oh, 182 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: I'm wearing some shorts and I'm like, oh, I see 183 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: a lot of cellulite today, you know, And a catch 184 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 1: myself talking bad and I'm like, wait a second, be happy, 185 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 1: you've just lost so much weight. Stop being you know, 186 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: so ungrateful. You know, That's what I tell myself. Or 187 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: when I'm feeling that way, when I'm feeling a little 188 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: bit like not so cute, I'll point out things literally 189 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: in the mirror where I'm like, you know what I 190 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: like you? I like your eyes, or I like your 191 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 1: smile or you know what I mean, Like, really focus 192 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: on what you really love about yourself. And I know 193 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: it sounds kind of silly, but it really does help. Like, 194 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: you know what, you're kind of cute. I like how 195 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 1: your hair looks today. 196 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 4: You know what I mean. 197 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: You can find something that you love about yourself on 198 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: those days where you're not feeling your best. So that 199 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: is my suggestion and it's helped me out a lot. 200 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: And you're not the only one, and you're not alone 201 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: because I have those days. I just had one not 202 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,960 Speaker 1: so long ago actually where I was like, oh my gosh, 203 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 1: So I get it and I understand. So be compassionate 204 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: with yourself. B E, be compassionate. Sending you a big, 205 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: big hug, Sasha. Okay, so our last question comes from Yesenya. 206 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 5: Hi Shi Keys. I am a big fan. You're so inspiring. 207 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:56,280 Speaker 5: I love you so much. I can't wait to go 208 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 5: to your next concert. I want to know what the 209 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:02,199 Speaker 5: process was like before your very first concert. What was 210 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 5: going through your mind? How did you build that confidence 211 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,240 Speaker 5: just to go up there? And I said, lore like 212 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 5: that just seems like the scariest thing I inspire to 213 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:14,560 Speaker 5: one day seeing on stage, not big platform or anything, 214 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 5: but man, that stage fright. That first step. How do 215 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 5: you do it? 216 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:20,840 Speaker 2: Much love? Can wait to see you again. 217 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: Bye. Hi, Yes, Sanya, you made me smile. I don't 218 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: know where you saw me, but yes, I can't wait 219 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: for you to see me again, and hopefully I see you. Okay, 220 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: So stage fright is real. Oh my goodness. I will 221 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 1: never forget that first time. It was in Anaheim. My 222 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: very first show was about what I want to say, 223 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: fifteen hundred people. It was sold out and I was 224 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: so freaking nervous. I want to tell you, like the 225 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: first couple years of my performing career because obviously going 226 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: into the studio and recording is one thing, but going 227 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,320 Speaker 1: on stage and performing is so different. I think for 228 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 1: the first two years I was like Adam my body. 229 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: Now I pray to be present and to you know, 230 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: experience every single part of it, the good and the bad. 231 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 1: But before I just felt like I was like a 232 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: little robot, just kind of like, Okay, this is what 233 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: I got to do, Like you know what I mean. 234 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 1: And I want to say it was just my guardian 235 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:19,680 Speaker 1: angels that helped me through it, to be honest. But 236 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:22,720 Speaker 1: I think now more than anything, is like understanding that 237 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: nerves are a part of it, and being nervous is 238 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 1: a good thing. It helps you feel it makes you 239 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: feel alive. It's like you're excited, you're a passionate person, 240 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 1: you want to do a good job. I feel like 241 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 1: nerves are good. So now I see it that way, 242 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, cool. And then once you're up there, 243 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: like you kind of forget. So it's kind of like 244 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: initially it's like the first few minutes of being on stage, 245 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:48,200 Speaker 1: it's kind of like, oh shit, like you feel all 246 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:49,719 Speaker 1: these things, and then after you're like, all right, cool, 247 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: I belong here. And once I started telling myself like 248 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: I belong here, this is what I meant to do, 249 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 1: this is part of my calling, everything changed. I was 250 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 1: kind of like, well, this is what God wants from me, 251 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:02,720 Speaker 1: this is what I'm doing, and I'm here for a reason, 252 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna enjoy it. And once you tell yourself, 253 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go up there and have fun. Game changer, girl, 254 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: game changer, which is like I'm gonna have fun. And 255 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,160 Speaker 1: if I make a mistake, f it. I make a mistake, 256 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:13,839 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna let it be known and I'm not 257 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: gonna try and to pretend that I'm perfect, and people 258 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: on my team have told me, like, oh, don't tell 259 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:20,719 Speaker 1: people that you messed up and start the song over. 260 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, why not, That's part of my show, Like, hey, guys, sorry, 261 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: I messed up. Start the song over. I've done that 262 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: so many times and people tell me not to, but 263 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't care. That's who I am and 264 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 1: I'm not perfect and it's okay to make mistakes. So 265 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:35,319 Speaker 1: just have fun, bibe kick ass on stage one day. 266 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: You will you will, Okay, Jen, Tiana, Sasha, and Yesenya. 267 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,079 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed hearing from you guys today, so thank 268 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: you so much for trusting me with your questions and 269 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:49,079 Speaker 1: you you listeners here. Feel free to leave your questions 270 00:13:49,120 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 1: at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast Don't 271 00:13:52,720 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: Forget Okay, looking forward to hearing from you besoos. 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