WEBVTT - Unsending A Text Message!

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they talk better than they type.

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<v Speaker 2>These are the radio blogs on The Fred Show. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like we're writing in our diaries, except we say

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<v Speaker 2>them aloud. We call them blogs. You got one, Caitlin? Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, go.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, dear blog. So I need to check on

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<v Speaker 3>what you guys think about the etiquette of unsending a message.

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<v Speaker 1>Shady. Sorry. I kind of agree. It's kind of shady.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you say? Would you like to know what

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<v Speaker 1>I said? I'm not shady. I'm not shady.

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<v Speaker 3>So I spoke about this, I think last week, that

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<v Speaker 3>I went on a date and that was the whole thing, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was.

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<v Speaker 3>Using Paulina's method of talk to text because I was

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<v Speaker 3>doing something else. And I told my little Siri, my

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<v Speaker 3>little man, I told him to text a friend of

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<v Speaker 3>mine And I was talking about the day like in detail.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I look at my phone and I see that I, he,

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<v Speaker 3>my little Siri man decided to send this to a

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<v Speaker 3>former coworker of ours.

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<v Speaker 1>Instead of one of my best friends.

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<v Speaker 3>And their names are like sound similar, but they're spelled differently.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's why I'm like, okay, you did me so

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<v Speaker 3>dirty never.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing this again.

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<v Speaker 3>But anyways, I noticed right away because it'll say like,

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<v Speaker 3>do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Want to send it? I just glanced at it. It's sent.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I quickly unsent it because that is not

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<v Speaker 3>for her ears. or eyes to see however I do

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<v Speaker 3>know it notifies the person and then I look in

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<v Speaker 3>my text chain whatever and it literally says like Kaylin

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<v Speaker 3>unsent a message well I took the route of like

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<v Speaker 3>never complain never explain like the royal family says so

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<v Speaker 3>I said nothing but like she must be over there

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<v Speaker 3>being like well what the hell was it and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>over here like hoping she just didn't notice but I

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<v Speaker 3>know she did are you supposed to be like my

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<v Speaker 3>bad that wasn't for you like I say anything and

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<v Speaker 3>now we're just like have this unsent message in our

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<v Speaker 3>heads That's.

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<v Speaker 4>What I mean about shady. When I look down at

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<v Speaker 4>my phone and I see that it notifies me that

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<v Speaker 4>there was an unsent message, I instantly like, what did

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<v Speaker 4>you accidentally send me?

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<v Speaker 1>It must have been something shady.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think you should get you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that. Why do you have to unsend? Typically,

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<v Speaker 2>in general, generally, why do you have to unsend something?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it was either not intended for me or you

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<v Speaker 2>regret it or you take it back.

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<v Speaker 1>That's typically why.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone unsents something so like it is kind of shady

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<v Speaker 2>because if i see unsent it it almost just enunciates

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<v Speaker 2>like oh wow yeah which so and so did something

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<v Speaker 2>that they now regret what is it and then i

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<v Speaker 2>sit around i.

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<v Speaker 3>Just told you i wasn't being shady would you leave

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<v Speaker 3>your date details to a stranger why not How many

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<v Speaker 3>times are.

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<v Speaker 1>You doing this, though? Because you did this to me

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<v Speaker 1>too recently. What did I do? You unsent a message

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<v Speaker 1>at four in the morning yesterday. Oh. Because I think

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<v Speaker 1>I meant to text the coffee group chat. You unsent something.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll never know now.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I can make up a more salacious reason

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<v Speaker 3>if you want.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>If that's exciting for you. It gets me going, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Please do. But I was like, huh. What is she unsending?

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<v Speaker 1>It was my nudes. Well, why'd you unsend that? That

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<v Speaker 1>was rude. At 4 a.m., I'm sending news. That's so rude, Kaylin.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm so shady. Apple needs to fix this. They do.

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<v Speaker 1>They're doing a little press conference today.

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<v Speaker 4>Can you work on not announcing when I leave the

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<v Speaker 4>group chat?

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<v Speaker 1>Stop announcing when I unsend a message. Yeah, why are

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<v Speaker 1>you the odd? It's not necessary. If I unsend something, why...

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<v Speaker 1>Don't give me the feature and then tell on me.

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<v Speaker 2>I get edited. I get why they want it to

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<v Speaker 2>say edited because like I could type, I guess, theoretically,

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<v Speaker 2>not that it's a legal document. It could be maybe depending.

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<v Speaker 2>But like if I write something and I change it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you might respond. I might say, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you give me a thousand dollars or whatever? And

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<v Speaker 2>then you say yes. And then I guess I could

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<v Speaker 2>go in there real quick and change it. but can

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<v Speaker 2>you give me five, give me $ 5, 000. And then you said, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>but I changed it. I know that's like a stupid example,

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<v Speaker 2>but I understand why it would mark edited because like

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<v Speaker 2>the context of the conversation will change if, if based

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<v Speaker 2>on like, if you wrote stuff and didn't change it

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<v Speaker 2>and then I go back and change it. But like,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to call me out for leaving a

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<v Speaker 2>group chat. That's my right.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you don't have to call me out for

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<v Speaker 2>unsending something because we all know I, if I'm unsending it,

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<v Speaker 2>then I, I'm not intending for it to have been

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<v Speaker 2>sent to you.

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<v Speaker 1>This is, You know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>So like, you don't have to call me out because like,

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<v Speaker 2>give me a, give me some grace.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you got everybody thinking I'm shady.

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<v Speaker 2>Or maybe give me like 10 minutes. If within 10 minutes,

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<v Speaker 2>I unsend it. Like if I unsend something. And like

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<v Speaker 2>days later, maybe you call me out for that because

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<v Speaker 2>it's been sitting there for a while. But like if

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<v Speaker 2>I screw up, which is why there are different tricks

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<v Speaker 2>that people use in email to like prevent the wrong

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<v Speaker 2>email from going to the wrong person. I've seen TikTok

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<v Speaker 2>videos about this. It's like stuff you can do in

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<v Speaker 2>Google where you can like delay. You can set how

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<v Speaker 2>long you want to delay a Gmail message from being

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<v Speaker 2>sent out. Like I recently sent an email. That was

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<v Speaker 2>intended for my tax guy. Oh, boy. To a random

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<v Speaker 2>salesperson in a different city that had a tremendous amount

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<v Speaker 2>of personal information in it. Luckily, I've realized what I did.

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<v Speaker 2>But the guy's names are almost identical. And I had

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<v Speaker 2>to write the guy and be like, hey.

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<v Speaker 1>See, that's shady. Would you... Well, no.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure he read every letter of it. But would

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<v Speaker 2>you mind deleting that? Because it wasn't intended for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And when I say the names are close, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>first name's the same, middle initial is the same, and

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<v Speaker 2>all but about three consonants in the last name are

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<v Speaker 2>the same. And I was just going fast. But it

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<v Speaker 2>was tax information, and it was basically a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>things that people don't need to know. And the guy's like,

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<v Speaker 2>no problem. I've done this before. I'll delete it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, do I think he did? I think he did.

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<v Speaker 2>Do I think maybe you read it first? Probably. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>he didn't. Maybe he's an honest person. I'm reading. but

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<v Speaker 2>like that's an example where I wish I could have unsent.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I Google, but there's a thing in Gmail

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<v Speaker 2>where you can set a timer and it's defaulted at zero,

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<v Speaker 2>I think, or five seconds. Maybe you can unsend something,

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<v Speaker 2>but you can set it to like five or 10

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<v Speaker 2>minutes to where if you hit send, it just sits

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<v Speaker 2>in the outbox for a while. Because if you do

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<v Speaker 2>what I did and you go, wait a minute, did

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<v Speaker 2>I just, Oh, I did. Then I can go in

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<v Speaker 2>and make it so it doesn't send. You've never done that.

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<v Speaker 2>You've never sent a sensitive email to the wrong person.

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<v Speaker 4>Knock on wood no emails but like I just I

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<v Speaker 4>would lord I would have to just burn my whole

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<v Speaker 4>personality down and come with a new name new social

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<v Speaker 4>security number everything like that would drive me insane somebody

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<v Speaker 4>having all of that information Or we can go find him.

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<v Speaker 1>Put him in a van. Trust me. If they read it,

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<v Speaker 1>they're probably like, man, this is sad.

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<v Speaker 2>If they read it, I would have expected more from

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<v Speaker 2>that guy. I think they probably did, but I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>He read it.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I think I would delete it. If I saw

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<v Speaker 2>something that was not intended for me and I saw

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<v Speaker 2>numbers and things in there that were not intended for me,

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<v Speaker 2>I think I would delete it because there's really nothing helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, now tell the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>I would delete it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I would delete it because of karma.

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<v Speaker 2>I would too. And it was my mistake, but I

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<v Speaker 2>think I'd be like, you know what, this doesn't apply

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<v Speaker 2>to me. I'd just delete it. There's a guy, there's

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<v Speaker 2>a very famous story in the industry about a record

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<v Speaker 2>person who was very upset with a program director. And

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<v Speaker 2>he wrote a really bad email on his Blackberry at

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<v Speaker 2>the time about the guy, but didn't like forgot to

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<v Speaker 2>take him off the reply to all. So it was

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<v Speaker 2>a chain and it was about something. And then the

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<v Speaker 2>guy was kind of rude, honestly. And this guy's a

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<v Speaker 2>friend of mine. Both people are friends of mine. The

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<v Speaker 2>guy was kind of rude, but the email was scathing.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was like, he called him a very bad

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<v Speaker 2>name and he hit send. And the second that he

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<v Speaker 2>hit send, he realized what he had done. And he says,

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<v Speaker 2>I took the battery out of my Blackberry, threw it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I thought somehow breaking it against the wall would

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<v Speaker 2>like prevent. And the problem, the real problem was the

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<v Speaker 2>email landed and the guy was like, was this intended

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<v Speaker 2>for me? And he tried to lie and he tried

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<v Speaker 2>to say, no, I, what I meant was no. got

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<v Speaker 2>him there's no cover up for that and I think

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<v Speaker 2>the only thing you can do in that situation is

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<v Speaker 2>go yeah it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean talking smack over email is kind of wild

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<v Speaker 3>it is but you gotta.

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<v Speaker 2>Own it right like there is no it definitely was

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<v Speaker 2>about him and the only thing you can say is

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<v Speaker 2>yeah I'm really mad at you right now like I

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<v Speaker 2>said it and I think that the guy he could

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<v Speaker 2>have rebounded from that I don't know that they ever

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<v Speaker 2>rebounded after that because I think it was the combination

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<v Speaker 2>of what was said and then the cover up But yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I wish I had unsend from my mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't. More Fred show next time.