WEBVTT - Cousin Love 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of Ieheart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:04.120 and the Black Effects. 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:24.479 Just like that, we're back with yet enough excuse me, no, 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:25.759 what in. 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.440 The fuck a piece of steak flew the funk to 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:31.800 the back of my throat? Hold up, excuse me all 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:36.760 damn before you laught, did you make sure I was 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:37.120 all right? 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:39.200 She ain't trying to pack a pet of bitch back 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:49.440 or nothing. You want some water? Excuse me? Ship All right? Hey, 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:50.720 y'all were back. 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:58.000 Shut mm hmm okay, So welcome back to yet another 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:00.800 Can'tflee Reckless episode with your girl, Jess. I'm in here 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.520 with Taylor. Y'all say Hey, that's Taylor, and Taylor's say 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:03.920 hi Mac. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:05.280 All right, cool. 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:07.240 So I'm gonna be reading today and Taylor's just going 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:09.400 to be assisting me with fixing y'all mess. 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:12.280 All right, So we're going to dive writ in. Hi, Jess, 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:13.000 let's dive in. 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:15.840 So I've been played by my girlfriend so bad, and 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:17.200 I'm going to tell you how. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:19.119 My girlfriend and I have. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:21.640 Been dating for about three months, but we knew each 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:23.640 other for over a year and things have been good 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.720 so far. We have a very good communication and very 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:30.559 open with each other. Well, at least I thought so, Jess. 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.240 She has this cousin which she claimed she was oh 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:35.680 so close to, and I get it because I have 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.759 a close cousin as well, so I didn't really think 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.319 nothing of it. They will always be on the phone 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:42.720 just chopping it up, and the conversation didn't seem off 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:45.120 at all. We even all went out to a party 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:48.680 one time. Nothing out of the ordinary, right, okay, cool. 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.000 So the cousin calls her one day and she's crying 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:55.120 her eyes out, saying she has nowhere to go and nobody. 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:58.320 So of course my girlfriend offers her a place to stay. 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.400 In parentheses, I would do the same for my cousin. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:02.320 I bet you would. 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:04.760 She finally pulls up to the house and we all 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:07.120 was in the living room talking, you know, just to 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:09.560 get more insight on what's going on. She claimed her 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:11.799 cousin and her roommate got into it over some dumb shit. 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:12.360 Girl. 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.400 I didn't even understand it, nor didn't make sense, but whatever, 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:17.960 it was getting late, so we gave her a blanket 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:18.280 and a. 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:19.959 Pillow so she can sleep on the couch. 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.520 It's like three am, and I got up to use 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:25.160 the bathroom, but something told me before I lay back down, 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:28.240 just go check on her. Mind you. My girlfriend usually 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:30.800 leaves for work around two forty five. Dad, What the 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:34.640 fuck she did two forty five in the morning. All right, 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:37.600 that's your all business. So I'm thinking it's just me 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:40.200 and her in there because I thought my girlfriend was gone. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:42.720 I peek around the corner and this bitch getting her 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:43.359 pussy ate. 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:49.959 Oh yeah, excuse me, Wait, the cousin or your fucking girlfriend? 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:52.640 Oh my god. All right, let's continue the story. So 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:54.360 I go out there, like, hold the fuck up. 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.320 In surprise, surprise, surprise, it's my girlfriend down there eating 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:01.800 that shit. Oh shit sore for wasn't even getting her 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.600 for the eight she was eating her ill. 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:07.440 Okay, so that must not be her fucking cousin. 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:10.000 I know, I know that was very much gibbs inside, 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.920 but that ain't the fucking cousin. That's one of them 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:14.720 bitches that she called her cousin. Okay, that's how she 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:15.440 got on the couch. 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:16.240 Okay. 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.760 I charged that both of those bitches and started throwing fists. 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.440 I know that's right, because I would have the same thing. 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:24.040 I saw this little pole by the couch, and I 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:26.160 picked it up and started beating them with that too. 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:30.520 Hold up, dang, because I was with you and you 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.160 said you grabbed the pole and started beating both of 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:36.000 them bitches. They didn't really have much to say while 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.560 I was whooping their ass. What the fuck could somebody say? 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:42.480 Why didn't he? Okay? Well, and that's the thing. I 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:45.600 don't even know if it's a he, maybe it's a she. 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:48.960 I don't know. Let's see, let's finish, and then hopefully 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.720 we can say, Okay, they didn't say anything, but they 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:52.240 did leave. 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:53.680 Mind you, it's her house. 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.160 But right after their dumbasses left, I got all my 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.880 shit and fucked up a lot of her shit and left. 0:03:59.240 --> 0:03:59.520 Jess. 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.320 I really don't don't have no questions or anything, but 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.200 I feel so goofy, Like, what do you think? I 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:08.240 think you did the right thing by leaving and by 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:10.440 charging at both of the bitches with your fists. 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:13.240 I'm gonna just say that you're a woman for crying purposes? 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:17.640 You know, I mean to judges, listen to this podcast, 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:20.640 bitchig all right, the nigga, we're gonna take him to jail. 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.599 What do you think, Taylor? It has to be a girl. 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.159 I feel like a nigga would be like okay, like 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:26.680 what's up. 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:32.400 It depends on the type of guy, because some niggas 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:33.440 don't like that ship at all. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:34.680 Mm hmm. 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:37.600 Every nigga don't like that girl on girl ship. That's 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.400 still technically cheating it is. 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:41.920 But I feel like my nigga would get over very 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:43.080 like like. 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.880 Yo, going for that ship. 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:56.440 You wouldn't talk about it later, but he in the midst, like. 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.640 Like like my boyfriend Chris, he wouldn't go for that ship. 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.160 He wouldn't put his hands on us. That that was 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.800 me getting my pussy by my cousin or me. Oh no, no, no, 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:05.400 the girlfriend was eating the pussy. First of all, I'm 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:08.400 not eating a puzzy, but that's just say hypothetically I was. 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:11.000 And Chris come around the corner. He thinks I'm at work, 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:12.440 but you can send me on the couch. 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:16.960 Yeah, well, my fake cousin and shit eating her pussy. 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.400 He's going to get all his ship and dip right there. 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:21.680 He's not like he ain't with none of that ship. 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.440 Some niggas just ain't with it. I don't give an 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:26.120 eat the fuck. Neo will probably like that type of 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:29.040 ship because you know, neo love, you know, love having 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:29.960 more than one bitch around. 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:33.239 But the thing is, uh, what I hear it? The food? 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:40.960 Yeah? Girl, all right, I'm hungry, say a loud she said, no, 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:42.400 show me here, signalingt for me to. 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:46.479 Stop eating, y'all, Okay, I'm hungry. 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:52.720 Wait to all right, give me a second? 0:05:53.400 --> 0:06:04.280 Shut happy now, Jana? All right, it's probably a girl though. Yeah. 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.800 Now, she says, you don't have no questions, but she 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:09.640 feels so goofy, what do I think? 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:11.360 What I think is. 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:15.680 You did the right thing by leaving you never wanted 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:19.159 because how do I trust you again at that? And 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:22.039 then you line about your family like if now mind you, 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:25.400 they only been dating for three months, so maybe that's 0:06:25.440 --> 0:06:25.960 something that. 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:27.159 They were living together. 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:31.000 They were already living together, y'all, felling love real fast. 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:33.760 That's the thing, you see, how fast it was you 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:35.720 You moved in with the bitch, but you didn't even know. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:36.640 All her cousins. 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:40.360 See, like you didn't really get to know this person, 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:43.400 you know, because you would know ain't your fucking cousin? 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.599 You know, because you would have met the family by now, 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:47.680 and you'd have met all the real cousins and shit, 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.919 you feel me, you'd have seen this cousin around, you know. 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:54.200 But they've been dealing with each other, you know what 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.919 I mean, for whatever reason? 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:00.280 Yeah, why was she even if that's the case, right, 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:01.400 they just be together? 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:03.320 That's weird. 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:05.760 Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good, 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.080 But listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:09.279 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:14.520 For whatever reason, it probably don't work with them trying 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.400 to be together or fucking with each other. 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:21.400 Or maybe yeah he yo, ill, that would make it 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:22.080 so discussed. 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.080 I'm really trying not to think that they're real cousin 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:27.600 because that's dirty as ship. I can't I can't think 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.800 of no ship like that. I just that's nasty. 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.320 But I think, damn. 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.440 I keep feeling like I want to give the advice 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.960 to the girl who was eating the pussy, because I 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:43.520 want to tell her to just be with the fucking girl, Like, 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:44.920 just be with the girl, be with your. 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:47.240 Cousin, or the advice you could give her just you know, 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:50.160 don't move in too fast. 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.600 Yeah, don't move in so fast for one that was 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:53.920 already a red flags. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:57.720 Moved in really real quick. That that's a red flag 0:07:57.920 --> 0:07:58.400 for you. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:00.960 Like, like if I I wanted to date you, that 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:03.200 would be a real flag, Like you move real quick. 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:06.400 You know, these days, you gotta get to know a person, 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:10.640 like you cannot just be out here moving in and 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:15.040 shit then you can really you really don't know a person, 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.200 and two you move in with them. And so she 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.760 showed you exactly who she was type shit. You feel 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.440 me because I noticed that that. That's one thing, even 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:24.240 in my own experience, is you never know somebody too. 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.320 You gotta wake up to them, and so you gotta 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.440 see them before you go to bed, like shit like that, 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.200 like you yeah, Like I've been in relationships where I 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:33.800 know I knew, I'm like, oh no, I can't live 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.880 with this, nigga, this is done before it even got 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.360 to that, I'm like, oh no, fuck no, I can. 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:39.400 I can just tell by the way it is when 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:41.440 I get in his car. We would never ever be 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.199 able to coexist in the same house together, Like yup, 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:47.000 how certain conversations would go like you gotta be smart. 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:48.880 You didn't tell me how old you was, because this 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.920 is a dumb young move. I honestly feel like you 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:54.920 are like a little millennial of some sort. She seem 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:57.720 young as shit too, because she got balls on her Like, 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:00.120 I ain't gonna I ain't gonna lie unless she a 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:03.079 a O. G. Coppet mancha honey, like who don't give 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:07.280 a fuck unless she is like a polyamorous person. She's 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:12.200 into polygamy. Yeah she she Yeah, she young, she's absolutely young. 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:14.680 All right. I don't got no advice for that though, 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:17.360 other than that, you like, move the fuck. 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:21.760 Ond Yeah, moving on to the next story. Hey, jas, 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.640 I seen some advice. Me and my boyfriend had been together. 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:27.160 Now I've seen some advice. 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:30.680 That's why. That's why you need to fucking start reading again. 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:32.280 All right. Now I'm gonna read this. 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:34.800 No, I'm gonna read it because you're given tie it 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:38.480 in here, all right, Hey, jos, I need some advice. 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:40.840 Me and my boyfriend have been together for four years, 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:43.640 and between the third and fourth year we took a break. 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.080 We just got back together, and now we have a baby. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:50.400 Oh congratulation. I love him, But we really don't see 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:52.560 out of eye on anything anymore. 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:53.240 Damn. 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:56.880 I don't know if it's postpartum for me or we 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:00.200 really just grew apart. We don't really talk anymore, and 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.520 we're just cordial. I kind of feel like I lost 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:06.000 my friend. We agreed to stay together in the same 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:08.520 house until our baby is one year old, and then 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:09.280 he'll move out. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:09.960 Damn. 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:12.320 But I'm really bored and unhappy and I don't have 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:15.680 many friends and I don't get out much. But it's 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:18.600 hard for me to make friends in my town because 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:21.080 they're just not my type of people. That what if, 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:23.640 are you living whovill like nobody in the town? Bitch 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:28.160 like nobody? Jesus Okay, I live in a somewhat nice town, 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:30.719 but most of our neighbors are older. I want to 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:33.440 start talking to guys just on a friendly level, but 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.760 I still feel like that would be unloyal and messy 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.680 of me. I would feel guilty. But is it wrong 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:40.800 if I started talking to new people shout out? Wait 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:42.920 till he moves out? I don't know, but I'm ready 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:46.640 to enjoy my life. He has female friends and I've 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.600 read the conversations and it's nothing inappropriate, but I still 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.839 don't like it. I think it's disrespectful. He speaks with 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.400 this girl and I've expressed to him, but he doesn't 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.640 care because he feels he's not doing anything crazy and 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:01.480 he just speaks to her on snapchat anyway. I want 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.920 to start having more guy friends too, But is that 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:06.040 me doing it for the wrong reasons? 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.559 Please tell me what you think. Absolutely, that's you. 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:10.680 Doing it for the wrong reasons, because if you have 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.640 a problem with him just having like a strictly platonic 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:18.160 relationship with I mean, or friendship or whatever communication with 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:22.520 a female that you have told me, you just told 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.959 us that he's not. It's not anything crazy, you know, 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:28.400 why would you want to go do the same thing 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.440 if you don't like it? And then I also feel 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:32.360 like you just had a baby self, course you're in 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:34.120 your head about a lot of things. And then also 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.200 postpartum depression is real, So it's the difference postpartum and 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:43.320 then postpartum depression. I don't know if you intentionally left 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:48.800 off the depression part, but that's absolutely normal for moms 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:51.719 to have. And what you said in the beginning of 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:53.560 your passage kind of spoke to that when you said 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:54.680 I'm losing myself. 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:55.880 I feel like I lost myself. 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:57.480 I felt the same way after I had my daughter 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:00.840 at thirty two, like literally five months ago. 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:02.080 I felt the same way. 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:07.160 So I definitely understand how you feel in regards to 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:09.640 postpartum for sure. 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.600 Let's go back to your questions. Let's go back to 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.760 your questions. You said, I want to. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.000 Start talking to people I live in the summer. Night's sounding, 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:20.800 you said, But is it wrong if I start talking 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:24.160 to new people? It wouldn't be wrong if you guys 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:27.080 come to that agreement and you guys like sat down 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:32.000 and really really put everything on the table, because since 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:33.920 y'all are I mean, it's kind of like y'all roommates, 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:37.559 y'all not together, kind of sort of right the baby 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.079 is right, yeah, I mean, if you're if you really 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:41.760 don't want to be with him and you don't want 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.480 to give it a shot, because this could just be 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:45.720 a phase, like a stage that y'all are in right 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:49.439 now before yeah, right, but then y'all came back together 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.640 and had a baby, you know what I mean. So like, 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:54.440 if this is something that you are really willing to 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:57.120 let go and just want to be co parents, you know, 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:00.120 then yes, I think y'all should sit down and and 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.439 y'all always told each other to be honest and be like, look, 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:05.640 we did make disagreement to stay together until the baby. 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:07.800 I mean to live together until the baby is one 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:12.320 year old and then you're moving out within that year. 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:14.280 I mean, we're still not going to be together though, 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:15.920 So you can do you, I can do me. We 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:18.960 just and y'all just establish rules within that agreement, like 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:20.480 you can't bring nobody to the house. 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:21.760 I can't bring nobody to the house. 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:26.120 Because I'm I'm assuming the only reason that y'all that 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:28.960 you know, y'all agree to stay in the same household 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:31.840 until the baby is one is for the baby to 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.040 see mommy and daddy. 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:38.680 Together, which I don't believe the baby will remember at 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:39.800 such a young age. 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.400 I mean, that's the only other reason I could think 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:44.800 about why y'all would do that when y'all know y'all 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:48.920 are not happy together and it's not really working for 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.720 y'all to be in a relationship. But I mean, to 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.480 each zone, that's that's what y'all want to do. That's fine, 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:57.560 but you can't be miserable in your own household. Y'all 0:13:57.600 --> 0:13:59.199 made the agreement to stay, you know, to live in 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.360 the same house together so the baby is one. But y'all, 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:04.160 it don't seem like y'all went past that with rules 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:07.079 for being together and living together and things like that. 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:08.319 If you love me. 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:11.000 You'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.920 Your next question was should I wait till he moves 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:18.040 out to start talking to new people? I don't think so. Again, 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:20.760 y'all just need to have a fucking conversation. You know, 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:22.720 he talking to people. Why you can't talk to people? 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:24.400 You know? But don't do it because he's doing it. 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:26.880 Do it because you want to do it. You feel 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:28.400 like you don't have a life, you feel like you 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.920 don't have friends. It's hard for you to make friends 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.680 in that little town. But you're ready to enjoy your life. Honestly, 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:36.320 if you can afford it, I would up and fucking 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:38.960 move cause and living in a boring ass town like that, 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:40.080 it's crazy. 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:42.440 I don't know. She said, she live in town full 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:45.200 of old people. Yeah, what if I she lived Delaware? 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:47.680 That's crazy. I don't understand. 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:51.680 Hold On, she said, I read the conversations. There's nothing inappropriate, 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:53.240 But I still don't like it. Okay, Yeah, you don't 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:55.240 like it because things are not going well with y'all 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.280 at home, you know what I mean? And I understand 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:01.280 that you start Any little thing about him communicating with 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:04.240 anybody else other than you is going to irritate you 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.600 because y'all can't. Y'all don't even talk anymore, you know 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:08.600 what I mean. Like you said, y'all are just cordial. 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:13.480 Being cordial with your baby daddy is crazy, especially when 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:15.120 y'all live in the same house and the baby is 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:17.320 fresh you just popped her out. 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:21.360 Especially because isn't that like the time, like, oh, y'all. 0:15:22.280 --> 0:15:27.720 Yeah, listen, Me and Chris felt so much more deeply 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:28.840 in love, like. 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:33.320 After we had our baby, after we had Marley, like 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.080 because Marley is a love child, Like she's a love child. 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:38.840 So it's like damn, like that made me want him 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.320 even more, made me want to you know, pop thisisy 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:42.320 expeditiously again. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:43.960 But another one in there. 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:44.320 You know. 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:46.160 You know you're supposed to feel like that. 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:48.360 You know this is supposed to be joyous to you, 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:53.160 you know, But I just feel bad for you because well, 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:53.960 I have empathy. 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:56.800 You know. I don't want to say I feel sorry 0:15:56.840 --> 0:15:58.320 for you. No, I don't like how that sounds. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:02.320 I have empathy because, like I said, I can I 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:07.280 can attest to falling into that depression after having my child, 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:08.960 and I didn't want to believe that it was true. 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:11.280 You never know, you never know. 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:15.720 Sometimes it's unrecognizable, like that you actually have postpartum depression. 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:18.880 I'm not diagnosing you, honey, I'm just telling you my experience, 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:23.480 and it sounds like that that could be what's going on. 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:26.440 Is he there for you though? Have you shared these 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:29.520 feelings with him? You know, how you're feeling. 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.640 After y'all gave I mean, after you gave birth, like 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.880 you know, I just I don't know, I just you 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:38.240 should take your time. You know, your focus should be 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:40.240 on your child, not even on a relationship with her 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:41.880 dad or his dad. I'm sorry, I don't know if 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:45.640 you're a baby boy or baby girl, but like your 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:49.320 focus should be on the child. And honestly, you you 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.200 got to take care of your mindset because you can't 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:54.120 even take care of the baby if you're mentally screwed up. 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:56.440 You know, if you if your priorities are not. 0:16:56.640 --> 0:17:01.720 Aligned with your needs, like you know, you need to 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:03.560 make sure that you want to you have a great 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:05.600 mental space to take care of the baby. You need 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:09.840 to make sure that you're healthy enough to, you know, 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:12.639 take care of yourself as well. And honestly, what he 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:16.280 needed to be doing is giving you all of the 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.359 attention in the world, like trying to take care of 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:20.960 that for you. It ain't even about a relationship. You 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:23.359 just had a baby for him. You know, you had 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:27.359 a baby for y'all. And all a woman needs after that, 0:17:28.280 --> 0:17:32.080 especially if she's if she's experienced and postpartum depression, is 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.600 for somebody to be strong. 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:36.440 She needs support. She needs to know that she is 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:38.879 still beautiful, that she you know, he has to do. 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:42.159 Everything in his power to make sure you're okay, you know, 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:45.200 and that's with or without the relationship. Like I said, 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.080 so just take your time, baby girl. I know it's 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:49.840 like I know, it's kind of fucking hard to It's 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:53.280 easier said than done being in that position because after 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:54.800 I had my baby, I did. 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:57.560 I did have postpartum depression. 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:01.760 However, my partner was there to make sure he could 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:06.399 feel whatever void that I had. You know, I was 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:08.879 downing myself. I felt like I was losing myself. I 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.000 felt like everything I did was wrong for the baby. 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:12.600 I felt like I would never be able to come 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.240 back to work. I was panicking. I was like, I 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:17.199 need to do shows. Are my fans missing me? Are 0:18:17.200 --> 0:18:20.200 my fans gonna forget about me? Why do I feel 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:23.440 like I can't do anything right. It's you know, I 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:26.320 start feeling guilty, like, oh my god, like I had 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:28.240 a baby too late in my thirties, Like you just 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:33.480 start thinking, you start thinking, and then I don't know 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:36.600 if you're breastfeeding, but that started fucking with my milk production, 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:40.359