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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of Ieheart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects.

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Speaker 2: Just like that, we're back with yet enough excuse me, no,

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Speaker 2: what in.

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Speaker 1: The fuck a piece of steak flew the funk to

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Speaker 1: the back of my throat? Hold up, excuse me all

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Speaker 1: damn before you laught, did you make sure I was

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Speaker 1: all right?

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Speaker 2: She ain't trying to pack a pet of bitch back

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Speaker 2: or nothing. You want some water? Excuse me? Ship All right? Hey,

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Speaker 2: y'all were back.

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Speaker 1: Shut mm hmm okay, So welcome back to yet another

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Speaker 1: Can'tflee Reckless episode with your girl, Jess. I'm in here

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Speaker 1: with Taylor. Y'all say Hey, that's Taylor, and Taylor's say

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Speaker 1: hi Mac.

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Speaker 2: All right, cool.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna be reading today and Taylor's just going

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Speaker 1: to be assisting me with fixing y'all mess.

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Speaker 2: All right, So we're going to dive writ in. Hi, Jess,

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Speaker 2: let's dive in.

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Speaker 1: So I've been played by my girlfriend so bad, and

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you how.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend and I have.

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Speaker 1: Been dating for about three months, but we knew each

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Speaker 1: other for over a year and things have been good

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Speaker 1: so far. We have a very good communication and very

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Speaker 1: open with each other. Well, at least I thought so, Jess.

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Speaker 1: She has this cousin which she claimed she was oh

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Speaker 1: so close to, and I get it because I have

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Speaker 1: a close cousin as well, so I didn't really think

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Speaker 1: nothing of it. They will always be on the phone

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Speaker 1: just chopping it up, and the conversation didn't seem off

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Speaker 1: at all. We even all went out to a party

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Speaker 1: one time. Nothing out of the ordinary, right, okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: So the cousin calls her one day and she's crying

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Speaker 1: her eyes out, saying she has nowhere to go and nobody.

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Speaker 1: So of course my girlfriend offers her a place to stay.

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Speaker 1: In parentheses, I would do the same for my cousin.

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Speaker 2: I bet you would.

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Speaker 1: She finally pulls up to the house and we all

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Speaker 1: was in the living room talking, you know, just to

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Speaker 1: get more insight on what's going on. She claimed her

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Speaker 1: cousin and her roommate got into it over some dumb shit.

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Speaker 2: Girl.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even understand it, nor didn't make sense, but whatever,

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Speaker 1: it was getting late, so we gave her a blanket

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Speaker 1: and a.

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Speaker 2: Pillow so she can sleep on the couch.

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Speaker 1: It's like three am, and I got up to use

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Speaker 1: the bathroom, but something told me before I lay back down,

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Speaker 1: just go check on her. Mind you. My girlfriend usually

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Speaker 1: leaves for work around two forty five. Dad, What the

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Speaker 1: fuck she did two forty five in the morning. All right,

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Speaker 1: that's your all business. So I'm thinking it's just me

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Speaker 1: and her in there because I thought my girlfriend was gone.

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Speaker 1: I peek around the corner and this bitch getting her

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Speaker 1: pussy ate.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, excuse me, Wait, the cousin or your fucking girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. All right, let's continue the story. So

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Speaker 2: I go out there, like, hold the fuck up.

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Speaker 1: In surprise, surprise, surprise, it's my girlfriend down there eating

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Speaker 1: that shit. Oh shit sore for wasn't even getting her

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Speaker 1: for the eight she was eating her ill.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so that must not be her fucking cousin.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know that was very much gibbs inside,

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Speaker 1: but that ain't the fucking cousin. That's one of them

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Speaker 1: bitches that she called her cousin. Okay, that's how she

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Speaker 1: got on the couch.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I charged that both of those bitches and started throwing fists.

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Speaker 1: I know that's right, because I would have the same thing.

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Speaker 1: I saw this little pole by the couch, and I

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Speaker 1: picked it up and started beating them with that too.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, dang, because I was with you and you

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Speaker 1: said you grabbed the pole and started beating both of

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Speaker 1: them bitches. They didn't really have much to say while

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Speaker 1: I was whooping their ass. What the fuck could somebody say?

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Speaker 2: Why didn't he? Okay? Well, and that's the thing. I

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Speaker 2: don't even know if it's a he, maybe it's a she.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Let's see, let's finish, and then hopefully

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Speaker 1: we can say, Okay, they didn't say anything, but they

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Speaker 2: Mind you, it's her house.

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Speaker 1: But right after their dumbasses left, I got all my

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Speaker 1: shit and fucked up a lot of her shit and left.

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Speaker 2: Jess.

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Speaker 1: I really don't don't have no questions or anything, but

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Speaker 1: I feel so goofy, Like, what do you think? I

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Speaker 1: think you did the right thing by leaving and by

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna just say that you're a woman for crying purposes?

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Speaker 1: You know, I mean to judges, listen to this podcast,

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Speaker 1: bitchig all right, the nigga, we're gonna take him to jail.

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Speaker 2: What do you think, Taylor? It has to be a girl.

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Speaker 2: I feel like a nigga would be like okay, like

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Speaker 2: what's up.

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Speaker 1: It depends on the type of guy, because some niggas

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Speaker 1: don't like that ship at all.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: Every nigga don't like that girl on girl ship. That's

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Speaker 1: still technically cheating it is.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like my nigga would get over very

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Speaker 2: Yo, going for that ship.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't talk about it later, but he in the midst, like.

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Speaker 1: Like like my boyfriend Chris, he wouldn't go for that ship.

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Speaker 1: He wouldn't put his hands on us. That that was

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Speaker 1: me getting my pussy by my cousin or me. Oh no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: the girlfriend was eating the pussy. First of all, I'm

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Speaker 1: not eating a puzzy, but that's just say hypothetically I was.

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Speaker 2: And Chris come around the corner. He thinks I'm at work,

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Speaker 2: but you can send me on the couch.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, my fake cousin and shit eating her pussy.

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Speaker 1: He's going to get all his ship and dip right there.

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Speaker 1: He's not like he ain't with none of that ship.

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Speaker 1: Some niggas just ain't with it. I don't give an

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Speaker 1: eat the fuck. Neo will probably like that type of

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Speaker 2: But the thing is, uh, what I hear it? The food?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Girl, all right, I'm hungry, say a loud she said, no,

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Speaker 1: show me here, signalingt for me to.

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Speaker 2: Stop eating, y'all, Okay, I'm hungry.

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Speaker 1: Wait to all right, give me a second?

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Speaker 2: Shut happy now, Jana? All right, it's probably a girl though. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Now, she says, you don't have no questions, but she

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Speaker 1: feels so goofy, what do I think?

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Speaker 2: What I think is.

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Speaker 1: You did the right thing by leaving you never wanted

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Speaker 1: because how do I trust you again at that? And

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Speaker 1: then you line about your family like if now mind you,

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Speaker 1: they only been dating for three months, so maybe that's

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Speaker 1: something that.

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Speaker 2: They were living together.

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Speaker 1: They were already living together, y'all, felling love real fast.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing, you see, how fast it was you

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Speaker 1: You moved in with the bitch, but you didn't even know.

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Speaker 2: All her cousins.

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Speaker 1: See, like you didn't really get to know this person,

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Speaker 1: you know, because you would know ain't your fucking cousin?

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Speaker 1: You know, because you would have met the family by now,

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Speaker 1: and you'd have met all the real cousins and shit,

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Speaker 1: But they've been dealing with each other, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, for whatever reason?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, why was she even if that's the case, right,

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Speaker 3: they just be together?

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Speaker 2: That's weird.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good,

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Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen.

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Speaker 1: For whatever reason, it probably don't work with them trying

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Speaker 2: Or maybe yeah he yo, ill, that would make it

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Speaker 2: so discussed.

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Speaker 1: I'm really trying not to think that they're real cousin

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Speaker 1: because that's dirty as ship. I can't I can't think

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Speaker 1: of no ship like that. I just that's nasty.

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Speaker 2: But I think, damn.

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Speaker 1: I keep feeling like I want to give the advice

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Speaker 1: want to tell her to just be with the fucking girl, Like,

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Speaker 1: just be with the girl, be with your.

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Speaker 3: Cousin, or the advice you could give her just you know,

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Speaker 3: don't move in too fast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, don't move in so fast for one that was

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Speaker 1: already a red flags.

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Speaker 2: Moved in really real quick. That that's a red flag

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Speaker 1: Like, like if I I wanted to date you, that

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Speaker 1: would be a real flag, Like you move real quick.

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Speaker 1: You know, these days, you gotta get to know a person,

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Speaker 1: like you cannot just be out here moving in and

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Speaker 1: shit then you can really you really don't know a person,

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Speaker 1: and two you move in with them. And so she

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Speaker 1: showed you exactly who she was type shit. You feel

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Speaker 1: me because I noticed that that. That's one thing, even

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Speaker 1: You gotta wake up to them, and so you gotta

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Speaker 1: see them before you go to bed, like shit like that,

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Speaker 1: like you yeah, Like I've been in relationships where I

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Speaker 1: with this, nigga, this is done before it even got

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Speaker 1: to that, I'm like, oh no, fuck no, I can.

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Speaker 1: I can just tell by the way it is when

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Speaker 1: I get in his car. We would never ever be

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Speaker 1: able to coexist in the same house together, Like yup,

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Speaker 1: how certain conversations would go like you gotta be smart.

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Speaker 1: You didn't tell me how old you was, because this

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Speaker 1: is a dumb young move. I honestly feel like you

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Speaker 1: are like a little millennial of some sort. She seem

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Speaker 1: young as shit too, because she got balls on her Like,

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna I ain't gonna lie unless she a

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Speaker 1: a O. G. Coppet mancha honey, like who don't give

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Speaker 1: a fuck unless she is like a polyamorous person. She's

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Speaker 1: into polygamy. Yeah she she Yeah, she young, she's absolutely young.

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Speaker 2: All right. I don't got no advice for that though,

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Speaker 2: other than that, you like, move the fuck.

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Speaker 1: Ond Yeah, moving on to the next story. Hey, jas,

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Speaker 1: I seen some advice. Me and my boyfriend had been together.

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Speaker 1: Now I've seen some advice.

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Speaker 2: That's why. That's why you need to fucking start reading again.

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Speaker 2: All right. Now I'm gonna read this.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm gonna read it because you're given tie it

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Speaker 1: in here, all right, Hey, jos, I need some advice.

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Speaker 1: Me and my boyfriend have been together for four years,

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Speaker 1: and between the third and fourth year we took a break.

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Speaker 1: We just got back together, and now we have a baby.

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Speaker 1: Oh congratulation. I love him, But we really don't see

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Speaker 1: out of eye on anything anymore.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if it's postpartum for me or we

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Speaker 1: really just grew apart. We don't really talk anymore, and

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Speaker 1: we're just cordial. I kind of feel like I lost

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Speaker 1: my friend. We agreed to stay together in the same

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Speaker 1: house until our baby is one year old, and then

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Speaker 1: he'll move out.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: But I'm really bored and unhappy and I don't have

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Speaker 1: You know? But don't do it because he's doing it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. She said, she live in town full

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Speaker 2: You know. I don't want to say I feel sorry

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Speaker 1: Like did y'all jump back in after that break without

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Speaker 2: Because that doesn't help.

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Speaker 1: had to deal with before, like how you explained it

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Speaker 1: to me, And it's okay to be insecure that that's

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Speaker 1: what happens, that's what happens is very normal in a

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Speaker 1: relationship for you to feel that way, if you've had

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Speaker 1: something to lead you there, if you've had if something

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Speaker 1: has happened that impacted you in that way, you know,

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Speaker 1: and that put a dent in your trust, you know,

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Speaker 1: But update me. I would love to know just how

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Speaker 1: everything turned out, and take care of that baby, boo,

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Speaker 1: take care of that baby, and just like that. We

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Speaker 1: do you have anything to say to Taylor? Because you

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Speaker 1: is scrolling through the phone.

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Speaker 2: Cause I'm thinking it makes.

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Speaker 3: Me help think that somehow, I mean, I agree everything

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Speaker 3: you said. I think that something has to do with

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Speaker 3: why did they break up in the first place?

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Speaker 2: And if prob would you have unfinished?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: I should say, yeah, got ready to get right.

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Speaker 1: First of all, bitch, they bought me this burnt ass soul.

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Speaker 1: I really can't take a bite out of this on

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Speaker 1: the air. They're gonna hit this ship. It's like a

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Speaker 1: fucking crack hu listen, uh uh, I'm done. It's the

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Speaker 1: fucking samous famous cookie. All right, sir, I highlight y'all

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Speaker 1: next week.

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Speaker 2: Peez, that's some bullshit.

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