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Speaker 1: Hey, this is any and Samantha. I'm welcome to Steph.

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Speaker 1: I've never told you a prediction of iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: And we are back with aday a Monday, A Nonday.

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Speaker 2: I put another and Monday together, So I just created

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Speaker 2: a new word. Maybe that's our new series word.

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Speaker 3: Wow, Samantha. Oh, I have learned new Star Wars knowledge.

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Speaker 3: The Star Wars days of the week. One of them

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Speaker 3: is Banundai Banundae. So you're close to I'm close.

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Speaker 2: So I'm calling this a Nonday, which is my Monday

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Speaker 2: mini because it's another Monday Mini.

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Speaker 4: A Monday MANI I like that, and we're coming.

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Speaker 2: Back to me making all of my Monday Mine's like

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Speaker 2: Samantha's social media corner, which I did. I feel like

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Speaker 2: that's my new thing now in which I just find

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Speaker 2: random posts and I'm like, yeah, we're gonna talk about

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Speaker 2: this because I find them fascinating. And also I have

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Speaker 2: a lot of questions and thoughts that I don't put

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Speaker 2: on social media myself because I am not articulate enough

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Speaker 2: to type it out on my phone.

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Speaker 4: I can't stand it.

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Speaker 2: I start to say, anyway, that's a whole different episode.

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Speaker 2: But I do need to put trigger warning content warning,

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Speaker 2: we are talking about sexual abuse, sexual harassment, we're talking

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Speaker 2: about all the violence against women type of things here.

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Speaker 2: We're not going into detail. I'm talking a little bit

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Speaker 2: of specifics and even like violence with animals. So put

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Speaker 2: that at the top. I know, intriguing, right.

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Speaker 4: Because honestly, my TikTok has.

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Speaker 2: Been flooded with several things because the world is bad.

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Speaker 2: I think we had this conversation just with Bridget about

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Speaker 2: how all of social media does make me really really

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Speaker 2: really really really sad sometimes. Also, I did find a

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Speaker 2: new dog content where all they do I'm not really

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Speaker 2: sure the jeniter of the dog, but it's get types

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Speaker 2: of containers, brings it to its owner and then tries

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Speaker 2: to lay in it no matter how big or small,

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Speaker 2: and then falls out of it on purpose. It is

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Speaker 2: really proud of themselves. I really love that content anyway,

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Speaker 2: So that's the beginning. Enjoy is content that I have found.

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Speaker 2: But unfortunately the other side of that is there's a

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Speaker 2: viral video going around. I think it's I want to

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Speaker 2: say it's a YouTube video, I don't actually think it

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Speaker 2: originated with TikTok, and I was trying to find the

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Speaker 4: But of course my short search. I'm sure it would

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Speaker 2: It's essentially that whole situation where a person with a

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Speaker 2: mic goes randomly on the streets asking random questions to people.

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Speaker 2: So what billy on the streets has been doing? But

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Speaker 2: now it's everywhere and everyone does it, And sometimes you

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Speaker 2: have some really iconic answers, and sometimes you have really

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Speaker 2: problematic answers, and you start like, yeah, this is this

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Speaker 2: is society. But this one was asking people, specifically women,

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Speaker 2: would they rather be alone in the forest with a

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Speaker 2: you're on social media at all, you know exactly what

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about, because it's huge. But if you're any

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Speaker 2: and you're not on social media, you have no clue

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Speaker 2: what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: Nope, this was the topic of discussion.

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Speaker 4: When I said this to her, I just assumed she

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Speaker 2: She's like what what? Because I said bear man things,

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Speaker 2: she was like what. So I don't even know what

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Speaker 2: was going through your mind. I will say, in my searches,

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Speaker 4: Those are the two results like.

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Speaker 2: It, but specifically about women being alone in the forest

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Speaker 2: and unsurprisingly, I think most women said bears and men

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Speaker 2: That's so ridiculous, literally trying to say all these scientific

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Speaker 2: the commenters said brain rods and one of them said

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Speaker 2: they were like, yeah, and if they were put in

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Speaker 2: And even in the interview you have the women saying, well,

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Speaker 2: I mean, you may be broken, you may go through

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Speaker 2: the level of public humiliation, as well as a fact

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Speaker 2: Or you're also more likely going to be believed if

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Speaker 2: you don't have to be publicly humiliated to tell your

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Speaker 2: but no, this is what happens to you. They don't

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Speaker 2: Bears hump trees, they'll hump you. And I'm like, can

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Speaker 2: you name a case, Like, I'm sure maybe weird, weird

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Speaker 2: And then yeah, one of the reasons that women said

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Speaker 4: To go down that road.

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Speaker 2: Of course, this came back to me thinking about the

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Speaker 4: But of course we know that the statistics are going higher.

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Speaker 2: Apparently to the ed app dot com they talked about

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Speaker 2: in twenty twenty three, there's a sexual assault occurs every

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Speaker 2: I will say Annie, I verbally like I outright cursed

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Speaker 2: So that's the good news in this. But the level

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Speaker 2: the bears. I would rather be with bears. That's the

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Speaker 2: new response to this. And that's kind of that same level.

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Speaker 2: There has an alarmingly high uptick of family annihilation cases recently,

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Speaker 2: and I'm actually going to come back. We're actually going

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Speaker 2: I've very deeply disturbed by what is happening with this.

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Speaker 2: And maybe it's because social media is highlighting a lot more,

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Speaker 2: either domestic violence, reasons, rejection reasons, whatever, like so many reasons,

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Speaker 4: Be in no answers.

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Speaker 2: It may be the same conversation we had when we

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Speaker 2: talked about true crime because we didn't build a few statistics

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Speaker 2: an uptick of women killing their children as well in themselves.

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Speaker 2: So it's it's I'm very interested in what's going on.

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Speaker 2: I do want to just have this conversation, but things

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Speaker 2: like this is what it's like, the bear versus man.

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Speaker 2: There's statistics of transgender and queer assaults have always been

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Speaker 2: We know that at least forty seven percent of transgender

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Speaker 2: percent of bisexual women have dealt with a sexual assault.

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Speaker 2: the fact that the lifetime cost of each survivor of

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Speaker 2: rape is around over about one hundred and twenty two

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Speaker 2: Lister, and she had some thoughts about it, and I

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Speaker 2: Now for the men, male violence against women is incredibly

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true, because I feel like it's completely accurate

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Speaker 3: I'd rather be with the bear. It makes complete sense

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Speaker 2: Really feels like an office episode, yes about the black bear,

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Speaker 2: and then ask them for help for what.

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Speaker 3: It's a very It's like a very dismissive thing too,

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Speaker 1: Be stronger than I thought.

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Speaker 5: Ladies, here's a statistic, and I I just needed to know.

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Speaker 4: I needed to know.

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Speaker 2: More men have been killed by ibears and women and

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Speaker 2: I just because like, so here's one, and I don't

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Speaker 4: Oh, this is twenty sixteen.

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Speaker 2: So this is a Vox article in twenty sixteen about

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Speaker 2: And it happened in deep backcountries with hobbies dominated by men.

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Speaker 2: that's a whole different conversation. But I did wonder, like,

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Speaker 2: they're like, that is illegal.

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Speaker 1: That's dangerous, that is dangerous.

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Speaker 2: I think people were in so upset and I'm like, yeah, right, Li,

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Speaker 2: so lee the bears alone, dude, let them be. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: when they come into our Twitter territory and go go off.

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Speaker 2: They have had some cocaine apparently that could be a thing.

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Speaker 1: That's also pretty rare, but can be.

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Speaker 2: Sound that disheartening, Uh, that this is that deep of

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Speaker 4: Some girls and you're like, oh, that's not true. I wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't pick a bear because then they like result too,

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Speaker 2: Like I would definitely pick.

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Speaker 4: Ryan Gosling over a bear. Who wouldn't Just kidding.

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Speaker 3: Well, again, that's when you ask the questions. But when

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Speaker 2: It's a strange person I have never met, and it's

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Speaker 2: and I see it like, if I see a bear

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Speaker 1: To back out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm saying from both of you, but if you're

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Speaker 4: I've seen those horror movies.

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Speaker 1: Me too, you know I have. Yeah. Once I I

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Speaker 4: Not don't panic, don't look at it.

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Speaker 3: Just just go. And then after I couldn't see it,

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know what he was doing, but he

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Speaker 2: Right, No, that's absolutely like, and when you hear a

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Speaker 3: Well, I think that's the thing though, was like, I am,

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Speaker 3: But I also I think that's kind of the point

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Speaker 2: Right, And again a lot of them are like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that scenario.

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Speaker 2: That's that conversation, like what's going to happen, I mean,

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Speaker 1: Deep sea is scary, so scary.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that was an important conversation and

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Speaker 2: I'm I hate that this is a constant turnaround conversation

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, because I do feel that so many times

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Speaker 6: We are.

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Speaker 1: We're here living in different worlds. We've got a long

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Speaker 2: And then the amount of men who are getting boosted

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