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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, my husband is a whole fool. I
Speaker 1: have been with him for thirteen years total, and we've
Speaker 1: been married for eight years.
Speaker 2: He has been.
Speaker 1: Cheating on me the entire time, and I recently found
Speaker 1: out about his infidelity and I met his side chick
Speaker 1: that he's been having sex with since we got married.
Speaker 1: She called me the other day and said I needed
Speaker 1: to know about her. My response was, I know you, lion.
Speaker 1: She said that my husband has given her money for
Speaker 1: years and they have a great arrangement. I know you, lion,
Speaker 1: because my husband has never had extra money or free time.
Speaker 1: I told the chick to come over to the house
Speaker 1: so we could surprise my husband and I could get
Speaker 1: some answers. Well, the surprise was on me because she
Speaker 1: already knew exactly where we live. When my husband came
Speaker 1: in from work, he kissed me on the lips and
Speaker 1: then leaned over to kiss the woman on the forehead.
Speaker 1: I stopped him and said, I know you, lion. He
Speaker 1: pulled yeah. He pulled away from me and said he
Speaker 1: really cares about the woman, but he's committed to me.
Speaker 1: Then he gave me an ultimatum to go along with
Speaker 1: how things will be from now on, or we should
Speaker 1: go our separate ways. He said that he married me
Speaker 1: because we had a lot of history and he figured
Speaker 1: I'd be a good mother for his children, but my
Speaker 1: cunning and conniving ways drove him to cheat on me.
Speaker 1: If I was crazy, it's because he stopped showing me
Speaker 1: any affection. He admitted to having several women on the
Speaker 1: side over the years, but then pointed to the woman
Speaker 1: in our kitchen and said, she is special. I know you, lion.
Speaker 1: This is way too much for me to process. I
Speaker 1: feel so defeated. Why did he have to tell me
Speaker 1: all of that in front of her? Well, what difference
Speaker 1: does that make Because he told you, and he said it,
Speaker 1: she is special to him. He tried to kiss her
Speaker 1: right in front of you. Don't you get it. Don't
Speaker 1: miss what he's really saying, and that is he has
Speaker 1: no plans on letting his side piece go, especially this one,
Speaker 1: because she's special and he's relieved that it's finally out
Speaker 1: in the open. Now, you do know there's a series
Speaker 1: on Netflix called The Polygamist and in the show, that
Speaker 1: wife agreed to her husband having another woman. Well, you
Speaker 1: haven't agreed to that with your husband, but he sure
Speaker 1: is pushing it. He wants the side piece and he
Speaker 1: wants you to be okay with it, and he's blaming
Speaker 1: you for his cheating, not just with her, but with
Speaker 1: everyone and all. This is a lot to process, and
Speaker 1: you don't have to. He wants to separate if you
Speaker 1: don't agree with his terms. So what you need to
Speaker 1: do is to decide whether you're going to stay married
Speaker 1: to this man who's disrespectful, who stopped giving you attention,
Speaker 1: who's unapologetically cheating, giving this woman money, and a man
Speaker 1: who wants a sister wife situation with the two of you.
Speaker 1: Now that everything is out you don't want that, do you?
Speaker 1: So you got to tell him no, absolutely not, Steve.
Speaker 2: This letter is crazy. Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 3: It's when I get to the park that's the craziest.
Speaker 3: I'll let you know.
Speaker 2: But you know.
Speaker 3: The subject of the letter is I know you line,
Speaker 3: and neither have to say this in the tone of
Speaker 3: I know you line. You gotta go let it like that,
Speaker 3: I know you lying. Well, lady, this really ain't fun
Speaker 3: of me.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: You say your husband is a whole fool, but I
Speaker 3: really think it's you that's the whole. You've been married
Speaker 3: for thirteen years, but you known him for thirteen years,
Speaker 3: married for eight and he's been cheating on you the
Speaker 3: entire time. But you say you recently found out about
Speaker 3: his infidelity because you made his side chick that he's
Speaker 3: been having sex with since we got married.
Speaker 2: That's eight years.
Speaker 3: She called you the other day and said that you
Speaker 3: need to know about her. She said, I need you
Speaker 3: to know about her. My response was, I know you lying.
Speaker 3: She said, my husband is giving up money for years
Speaker 3: and they have a great arrangement. I know you lying
Speaker 3: because my husband never has extra money, all free time.
Speaker 2: But you don't see why if your husband. I never
Speaker 2: got no extra money because he gave it to her.
Speaker 2: So she spot on with what she said.
Speaker 3: And he ain't got no free time because when he
Speaker 3: ain't working on her, he at home with you. So
Speaker 3: he go to work, he go to work on her,
Speaker 3: and then he come home to you. You thinking the
Speaker 3: whole time he'll work. I told the chick to come
Speaker 3: over to the house so we could surprise my husband
Speaker 3: and I could get some answers. This is where it
Speaker 3: gets stupid. The surprise was on me because she already
Speaker 3: knew exactly where we live. When my husband came in
Speaker 3: from work, he kissed me on the lips and then
Speaker 3: leaned over to kiss the woman on the forehead. I
Speaker 3: stopped him and said, I know you lying.
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, this wasn't let it just take a
Speaker 2: hard left turn for me.
Speaker 3: I walk in my house, my wife's sitting there, and
Speaker 3: the side piece is sitting there.
Speaker 2: I lean over and.
Speaker 3: Kiss my wife on the lip, and then lean over
Speaker 3: to kiss the woman on the forehead. That'll never happen.
Speaker 3: That'll never happen. When I pull up and I see
Speaker 3: that extra car, is no way I'm going that. I'm
Speaker 3: not going in that. It ain't gonna be No.
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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1: The subject is I know you lyon.
Speaker 3: Listen to recap is very simple. Let me just expedite this.
Speaker 3: This woman has been married to this man for eight years.
Speaker 3: They've been together thirteen married eight. She said he's he's
Speaker 3: been cheating on her the entire time, and the way
Speaker 3: she found out was his side check that he's been
Speaker 3: having sex with since they got married. Called her the
Speaker 3: other day and said that I need you to know
Speaker 3: about me. My response was, I know you lying because
Speaker 3: she said her husband was giving up money and they
Speaker 3: had a great arrangement. And the reason I know, she lined,
Speaker 3: because my husband never has extra money or free time.
Speaker 2: But she just told you why he ain't got none
Speaker 2: of you.
Speaker 3: She just told you that because he given it to her,
Speaker 3: and he ain't got no free time because after he
Speaker 3: go to work, he got to go work on her.
Speaker 3: Then you got the rest of that time. So you've
Speaker 3: been hoodwink this whole time. I told the chick to
Speaker 3: come over now this is right here, this way. Keeee lady,
Speaker 3: she gotta be careful with stuff like this. I told
Speaker 3: the chick to come over to the house so we
Speaker 3: could surprise my husband and I could get some answer. Well,
Speaker 3: the surprise was on me because she already knew exactly
Speaker 3: where we lived. And when my husband came in from work,
Speaker 3: he kissed me on the lips and then leaned over
Speaker 3: to kiss the woman on the forehead.
Speaker 2: I stopped him and said, I know you lying.
Speaker 3: He pulled away from me, and he said, he really
Speaker 3: cares about the woman, but he's committed to me. God,
Speaker 3: let me go back to the park where he came
Speaker 3: in the house. All right, let me I have a theory.
Speaker 2: I know exactly what happened.
Speaker 3: See, because first of all, if his initial reaction would
Speaker 3: be you pull up at your house, you see your
Speaker 3: side chicks car in the driveway, your first thing is
Speaker 3: to not to go in that house, because you got
Speaker 3: to go and get yourself together. You got to get
Speaker 3: some thought of planning. You got to figure out how
Speaker 3: long she been over there, what she over there for.
Speaker 3: You got to go make a phone call. You got
Speaker 3: to call her, hey, where are you at? You got
Speaker 3: to make sure. But see, ain't no man gonna see
Speaker 3: his side chicks car in the driveway and just go
Speaker 3: in the house.
Speaker 2: But you know why he did that, because.
Speaker 3: The side chick called him and said, I spoke to
Speaker 3: your wife and she wanted to surprise you.
Speaker 2: She got me going over to the house.
Speaker 3: That's why he said, let me go on up here.
Speaker 3: Reverse psychology. Kissed my wife in the mouth, and I'm
Speaker 3: gonna kiss her on the forehead.
Speaker 2: Because it's too big of a shock. Ladies, listen to me.
Speaker 3: It's oh wait, you can walk in your house and
Speaker 3: see your wife and your side chick and not it
Speaker 3: don't work like this life, because if that's one of
Speaker 3: the biggest, what the hell moments you can have yet?
Speaker 2: So I already know that. The side chick.
Speaker 3: Called him and told him she was gonna be over,
Speaker 3: and so then he kissed the wife and then tried
Speaker 3: to kiss the lady on the forehead.
Speaker 2: She stopped him and said, I know you lying.
Speaker 3: Then he pulled away and said he really cares about
Speaker 3: the woman, but he's committed to me, and they work
Speaker 3: this out because the side piece chicken, no, he's committed
Speaker 3: to her and they likes their arrangement. Then he gave
Speaker 3: me an ultimatum to go along with how things will
Speaker 3: be from now on.
Speaker 2: We should go our separate ways.
Speaker 3: He said he married me because they had a lot
Speaker 3: of history, and he figured you'd be a good mother
Speaker 3: for children. But my cunning ain't conniving waves drove him
Speaker 3: to cheat on me.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, yeah, oh this is your fault.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, so you've been mentally abused now, because now
Speaker 3: it's your fault cunning and conniving ways. I don't know
Speaker 3: what he's talking about. She's leaving out some information, something
Speaker 3: to have. But anyway, if I was crazy, If I
Speaker 3: was crazy, it's because he stopped showing me any attention.
Speaker 3: He admitted to having several women on the side over
Speaker 3: the years, but then pointed to the woman in our
Speaker 3: kitchen and said she's special.
Speaker 2: I don't understand.
Speaker 3: After he kissed you in the mouth and tried to
Speaker 3: kiss her on the head and you pushed him away
Speaker 3: and said, no, you lying.
Speaker 2: She went in there to make a saydwich.
Speaker 3: She just got up and he said that the woman
Speaker 3: in our kitchen and said she's special. What the hell
Speaker 3: she doing in the kitchen? How you letting the woman
Speaker 3: walk around your house? See how this letter It don't
Speaker 3: make no sense. But you invited over there like she company.
Speaker 3: Now she all in the kitchen making tea and everything.
Speaker 3: Roman you want anything, baby, No.
Speaker 2: I'm good sweetie, God Roman, this is way too much
Speaker 2: for me to process.
Speaker 3: I feel so defeated. Why did he have to tell
Speaker 3: me all of this in front of her? Because you
Speaker 3: invited her over and now she told her him she
Speaker 3: was gonna be over there. That's why he wasn't stunned
Speaker 3: and passing out to kissing, because he said, well, look,
Speaker 3: this'd be a good time for me to just break
Speaker 3: this office. And then he gave you an ultimatum either
Speaker 3: go along with it or let's go our separate ways.
Speaker 3: So you don't have an option that's beneficial to you.
Speaker 2: How will you, lady? Why would you allow somebody.
Speaker 3: To mistreat you and disrespect you in your own house?
Speaker 3: Gonna kiss you an and try to kiss the other
Speaker 3: woman in your house? The ultimate disrespect. I ain't no
Speaker 3: sister sitting here letting this go down like this. I
Speaker 3: don't know how you doing it. You cannot allow this
Speaker 3: continued disrespect in your life. You've been disrespecting. It's been
Speaker 3: going on. I had several women. So what what you
Speaker 3: gonna do about it?
Speaker 2: Boy? Bye?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: All right?
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