Speaker 1: Flyind Down with Janey Kramer and Michael.
Speaker 2: Coffin and I'm her radio podcast Another Monday.
Speaker 3: I'm actually in a really good mood.
Speaker 2: You are in a good mood, and I keep.
Speaker 3: Asking you, are you okay?
Speaker 2: You just keep kind of just because I'm not matching
Speaker 2: your energy.
Speaker 4: Well, hey, there's something to be said about that, though,
Speaker 4: because there's times when you know I'm not matching the
Speaker 4: energy and anything something's wrong with me.
Speaker 3: So I think it is something.
Speaker 4: But you know, sometimes I think it was because the
Speaker 4: other day you were like, I'm just like so blah,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, Okay, is there anything surrounding that, because
Speaker 4: if there is.
Speaker 3: I'd love to hear. If not, go be blah dude,
Speaker 3: I'm grab my glass of wine. I'm gonna go watch
Speaker 3: Dancing with the Stars. See you later.
Speaker 2: No, I think it's in any relationship. It's one of
Speaker 2: those things where it depends on the degree of passiveness
Speaker 2: that has existed in a relationship. So at times I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm more I question maybe your blindness.
Speaker 3: Because I'm usually not blah, because usually.
Speaker 2: You're not blah, and when you are, there's usually a
Speaker 2: reason behind it, Like there's some passiveness behind it, so.
Speaker 3: I'm like, and it makes sense.
Speaker 2: Ninety eight percent of the time, something eventually comes out.
Speaker 2: I keep chipping away at it, but I will say
Speaker 2: that I wrote something down to bring up about that
Speaker 2: was I haven't said, you know, the other day when
Speaker 2: I was blah or whatever and you kept asking me,
Speaker 2: I wasn't like.
Speaker 4: I didn't like, I wasn't harping. I just was like,
Speaker 4: I was giving you moments of.
Speaker 3: Hey, bab I as well checking are you sure you're okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you gave me opportunities. Yeah, but you weren't pessed
Speaker 2: about it. And I even affirmed you that night because
Speaker 2: to me, it felt so good to be able to
Speaker 2: just be blah for no reason, like melancholy, blah, whatever
Speaker 2: word you want to use to describe it, and not
Speaker 2: feel guilty about it, because you you know, my partner
Speaker 2: isn't like, what's wrong? What's wrong? Tell me what's wrong?
Speaker 2: I know something's wrong. I'm like, no, I'm just bla.
Speaker 2: So I appreciated that a lot, and it meant a
Speaker 2: lot to me. And it's one of those things that
Speaker 2: I feel like should exist in a relationship where as
Speaker 2: long as we articulate it right, and you say Hey,
Speaker 2: I'm just in a blah mude. I'm just kind of cool,
Speaker 2: chilling by myself right now. Then, I think it's huge
Speaker 2: for your partner to respect that.
Speaker 4: It's so hard though, because we're so codependent, I know.
Speaker 4: So it's when you were sitting you know, I had
Speaker 4: just gotten home from something, and you went straight got
Speaker 4: your food and went into the game room. I was
Speaker 4: just like, and you had just kind of hardy told
Speaker 4: me that you were a blah But you know, I thought,
Speaker 4: you know, I just came home from like getting a
Speaker 4: fresh new cut in color and so, you know, and
Speaker 4: then I saw you grab you're Jimmy Johnson, go sit
Speaker 4: in the game room, and I was just like, okay,
Speaker 4: I know he said he was blah. He said it
Speaker 4: wasn't for anything, but I'm just going to check in
Speaker 4: with him again. So but you know, I wanted to
Speaker 4: sit at the game room. I wanted to sit there
Speaker 4: with you and be like, Okay, what's wrong? Tell me everything?
Speaker 4: Why are you black?
Speaker 2: And you're just like waiting by the barn doors and
Speaker 2: waving at.
Speaker 3: Me sha around the corner. So instead I went in
Speaker 3: and was just like, all right, babe, what are you doing?
Speaker 3: He's like you're like, I'm just watching football. I'm like, okay, well, if.
Speaker 4: Anything comes up for you, we just know that I'm
Speaker 4: here and I love you, and yeah, that's it. And
Speaker 4: so it was just so hard for me to just
Speaker 4: leave it at that, but I did, and I've poured
Speaker 4: my glass of wine and I went in bed, and
Speaker 4: it was, I think the very first time I was
Speaker 4: ever like, you know what, I have my mood and
Speaker 4: I can't control his mood and I'm going to be
Speaker 4: happy and not let him like I don't want to
Speaker 4: be blob because he's so it was the first time
Speaker 4: I actually noticed not being codependent. I was just like, oh,
Speaker 4: this is nice. I like to not be codependent and
Speaker 4: match his mood.
Speaker 3: It was.
Speaker 4: It was very because I've never seen it on the outside.
Speaker 4: I've always been I've always either matched your energy or
Speaker 4: you'll do the same thing and you'll be like, I'd
Speaker 4: be like, why are you upsecited? Like, well, you haven't been,
Speaker 4: you know, very happy this morning, So I'm like.
Speaker 3: Why do you gotta match my energy?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: It's just like but that's just what we do.
Speaker 2: What we do, and it is I've had those moments too.
Speaker 2: I'm just maybe you're kind of in a grouchy mood
Speaker 2: or whatever, and.
Speaker 3: I'm just like, grouchy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a respectful way to say it's unpleasant. Yes,
Speaker 2: that too, And so times are being grouchy. And when
Speaker 2: I have those moments where I'm not being codependent, I'm
Speaker 2: just like, you know what, you know, my codependency isn't
Speaker 2: saying what did I do wrong? What is she mad at?
Speaker 2: I just know I I'm yeah, not grouchy. I didn't
Speaker 2: do anything to cause this, So, you know what, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna let her be that way. And it's such
Speaker 2: a relieving feeling to do that. But why can't we
Speaker 2: just be normal people and do that all the time.
Speaker 5: I don't know, we have the exact opposite problem and
Speaker 5: our really Yeah, because actually my wife and I got
Speaker 5: into a tip the other night because I self married
Speaker 5: too much. Well, like we're hanging out and I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna fold my laundry and then I'm gonna go
Speaker 5: take the dog on a walk and then I'm gonna
Speaker 5: finish up some work.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't care.
Speaker 3: Do what you do serious?
Speaker 2: She's like, also, I would get along great.
Speaker 3: Yes, Wait, she says, she said she didn't care.
Speaker 5: Yeah, She's like, she's like, Eastern drive me crazy by
Speaker 5: just like announcing everything you're saying you're gonna do, like
Speaker 5: your Superman or something like I do not care, just
Speaker 5: go do it. And I'm like, well, I don't know
Speaker 5: what if you wanted to, like if you had other plans.
Speaker 6: I just want to make sure.
Speaker 3: And what did she say?
Speaker 6: She's like, I'll let you know.
Speaker 2: That's Jana's that's Jana's dream. She wishes I did that.
Speaker 4: But how did you guys end the tiff? Was it
Speaker 4: an actual TIF or was that like your guys' way
Speaker 4: of fighting?
Speaker 6: And you mean, well, I mean.
Speaker 5: We don't fight very much like I thought was the
Speaker 5: most aggressive. I just said, okay, I'll stop doing it
Speaker 5: then fine, And that in itself is an announcement of
Speaker 5: what I'm going to do. It's like I already broke
Speaker 5: my own rule.
Speaker 1: But is Wife Swap still on TV? Because I feel
Speaker 1: like these two couples should maybe mix it match and
Speaker 1: be very happy.
Speaker 2: To get you know what.
Speaker 4: I would love Wife Stop to come back on because
Speaker 4: I think it's like you you want something else, but
Speaker 4: at the same time, I think you would miss can.
Speaker 2: We do celebrity wife swap?
Speaker 3: I don't think I think it's done. I don't know.
Speaker 3: If they have those.
Speaker 2: Bring it back for a short it'd be kind of.
Speaker 4: Probably dangerous because then we'd be like, oh, I like
Speaker 4: this better.
Speaker 3: I feel like, see how he treats her, see how
Speaker 3: she did treats him. It wouldn't be good for us.
Speaker 1: It's been twenty thirteen, so sadly not to be Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I do think an issue is that wives with
Speaker 1: children don't really have the luxury of disappearing for an hour.
Speaker 1: I think that's part of it.
Speaker 3: Great point, Mark, what a beautiful point.
Speaker 6: Thank you.
Speaker 2: What do you mean wives with children? What about husbands
Speaker 2: with children?
Speaker 4: But you guys don't take like the main priority of
Speaker 4: here we go like Mike's poops are at least thirty
Speaker 4: minutes song, And then I go in there and he's
Speaker 4: playing a game on his phone, and I was like,
Speaker 4: do you know how much I would love to sit
Speaker 4: down for a poop and have it last thirty minutes?
Speaker 2: Look, you have a gall brider, so you just falls out.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying true, But still like I would love
Speaker 4: to close the door for thirty minutes.
Speaker 2: We used to joke about my dad taking forever. I'm like,
Speaker 2: why is he in there so long? And then as
Speaker 2: soon as I have kids, I'm like, well, I get it.
Speaker 2: It's when you become a dad.
Speaker 4: I used to have my showers, like showers are my thing,
Speaker 4: but now I have to shower with Jolie. So it's
Speaker 4: like I don't even get my showers anymore.
Speaker 2: Wow. But I think. But the thing is, it's not
Speaker 2: like I. For me, I don't just disappear if we
Speaker 2: have the kids. I'm not just I just don't like
Speaker 2: leave the room if no, if we're both kids, I
Speaker 2: never do that.
Speaker 3: No, you're a great dad.
Speaker 2: And it's when we're it's just Jan and I or
Speaker 2: maybe it's just Jollie and it's nighttime, so you know what,
Speaker 2: we just have a TV on for Jolie for an
Speaker 2: hour and so we can get a few things done
Speaker 2: before bedtime. So it's it's never like that. But still,
Speaker 2: I just I don't know the announcing it.
Speaker 4: Feels like you're asking for permission. And that's one of
Speaker 4: your biggest things is you hate having to feel like
Speaker 4: you're asking for permission.
Speaker 2: Well, it's just like when you say, uh, like hey,
Speaker 2: I'm in the office, like, hey, what are you doing?
Speaker 2: If I just say work, Jana, he drive her nuts.
Speaker 2: She's like, but no, no, no, like what are you doing?
Speaker 3: Like what kind of works?
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm getting some work done? What does that mean?
Speaker 3: Mike?
Speaker 2: And it's like, okay, like you're saying like Jana was
Speaker 2: kind of saying that women do, or like Easton like
Speaker 2: you were doing. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna email this person.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna email that person. I gotta ca hold this person.
Speaker 2: I gotta, you know, write this up. I gotta do this.
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, well, just why can't we just
Speaker 2: all fall under the umbrella of work, because we.
Speaker 4: Want to make sure that you're checking off the proper
Speaker 4: process to make sure you're calling Matt the long guy
Speaker 4: because we have like ten trees dead in the backyard
Speaker 4: and you know, following up with a few other people
Speaker 4: for our work stuff. You know, just just just that
Speaker 4: goes back to the good old times.
Speaker 2: So email us our listeners out there about any situation
Speaker 2: like this and how you and your partner handle when
Speaker 2: it comes to uh time apart? Is it? Do you
Speaker 2: con side yourself disappearing? You have to announce your plan
Speaker 2: like Easton and just to make sure it's okay or
Speaker 2: it fits their schedule or whatever it is. I would
Speaker 2: love to hear some stories around this so we can
Speaker 2: talk about that.
Speaker 1: It is wind down at iHeartRadio dot com.
Speaker 2: I kicked ass yesterday.
Speaker 3: And it's so good. He did laundry, he folded, I
Speaker 3: mean put it away.
Speaker 2: Kids, laundry I put away and it starts to finish
Speaker 2: hair appointment. I just I crushed it yesterday. Crush as
Speaker 2: a dad and husband left you in a little card
Speaker 2: like yeah, I mean just ten out of ten across
Speaker 2: the board yesterday. Yeah, okay from husband and dad duties.
Speaker 2: So literally yesterday you couldn't have I can't. It seemed
Speaker 2: that I couldn't have done anything better. That's the best
Speaker 2: I got, Honting. That's it. That's me. So now it's
Speaker 2: all downhill. But yesterday when I did, you know, when
Speaker 2: I did just want to like watch some football for
Speaker 2: a few minutes, I was like, I have no guilt
Speaker 2: in the world right now because I owned today and
Speaker 2: there's nothing that Janna could say with any validation or
Speaker 2: legitimacy behind it that would cause me to feel guilty.
Speaker 2: Mm hm. At all. Yeah, because I did. But also
Speaker 2: because I know how Gianna works and she's constantly doing something,
Speaker 2: I have to have like that kind of day in
Speaker 2: order to not feel guilty.
Speaker 3: No, because there's.
Speaker 4: Been times where you'll say like, hey, I know there's
Speaker 4: something I'm just like, I'm so tired, Like I'm just
Speaker 4: sure achnowlogy. But it's the how I then reciprocate with him,
Speaker 4: because if I'm crappy about it, so I try to
Speaker 4: make sure to be like absolutely babe, because if.
Speaker 3: Not, then he gets that.
Speaker 4: I want him to feel comfortable, to be able to
Speaker 4: just like have a lazy day or and if I'm
Speaker 4: on him, then he won't. So I have to be
Speaker 4: like very mindful of that, which I think I've gotten
Speaker 4: a lot better with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have, and I think it's we have gotten
Speaker 2: a lot better because if I didn't have the perfect
Speaker 2: day like I did yesterday, I need to articulate it
Speaker 2: because then it then you're not sitting there thinking, uh,
Speaker 2: he's just sitting around being lazy, But did he take
Speaker 2: care of the things and get frustrated? So if I
Speaker 2: articulate it to you and acknowledge that, that helps you,
Speaker 2: so that that's a good way of compromising.
Speaker 4: I think, yeah, for sure, without having to feel like
Speaker 4: you're right, without having to feel guilty and or asking
Speaker 4: for premissure or being you know, or.
Speaker 2: You come in and be like did you get this
Speaker 2: done yet? Why are you watching football? Why are you
Speaker 2: doing that?
Speaker 3: No, it was it was so funny.
Speaker 4: I came home from something the other day and he's like,
Speaker 4: the things were folded in my head. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: there's kids laundry in the dryer. I'm like, there's no
Speaker 4: way it's going to be done, so I won't even
Speaker 4: And I come home and it's like.
Speaker 3: My laundry's folded, kid's laundry, and I go, jas, I'm
Speaker 3: gonna grab you really slowly, and we're gonna walk away.
Speaker 3: Somebody has broken into our house. I don't know who
Speaker 3: this man is. It's very scary.
Speaker 2: He's a shifter.
Speaker 3: It was so funny.
Speaker 2: Well, uh no, I think that's a good topic for
Speaker 2: people to chime in on.
Speaker 3: Time time Chime.
Speaker 2: Time chimes wound up.
Speaker 1: I am well, Bob Saggett is here.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, but.
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Speaker 3: So extre shoot. I just I jumped the gun.
Speaker 4: I was so excited, so happy to have our friend
Speaker 4: Bob Sagat back in studio.
Speaker 6: Yay, I owe you a meal that was so good.
Speaker 3: Last time we had the best dinner ever with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: It was really relaxing and it was like, really nice.
Speaker 3: It was nice, right.
Speaker 4: Bob is referring to a dinner that we all went
Speaker 4: to in Nashville with h with Bob and his wife Kelly,
Speaker 4: and Kristen and Preston, and we had a little couples night.
Speaker 3: It was really fun.
Speaker 6: It was really sweet. Nothing happened weird. It was cool.
Speaker 6: There was no swinging. We didn't swing.
Speaker 4: No, you did get us to go out another night.
Speaker 4: Oh no, you got us to hang out like long
Speaker 4: that night. And I was just like, we didn't get home.
Speaker 4: His car had was left at valet.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I thought I had to boot or something.
Speaker 6: I got scared.
Speaker 2: No, No, I we had to go get it. The
Speaker 2: next day. I felt like I was in my twenties again,
Speaker 2: I know. I was just like, wow, this is you
Speaker 2: also popped Jana's cheerry in a sense of that was
Speaker 2: the first time she ever heard last call at a bar. Ever,
Speaker 2: she was like, what is that?
Speaker 6: They don't say that to me. That's a problem. That's why.
Speaker 6: That's why I definitely have to I slowed down my
Speaker 6: drinking because they locked me in.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 4: So I was just texting with Kelly a couple of
Speaker 4: days ago. Is your house okay?
Speaker 6: House is okay to my knowledge? Yeah, I don't know
Speaker 6: if it's got like a lot of ash all over
Speaker 6: it and a lot of smoking, you know, damage, but
Speaker 6: it's evacuated. We can't get there. So it was pretty weird.
Speaker 6: We had to evacuate the other night, and I always
Speaker 6: do after a big meal. But I didn't know. I
Speaker 6: didn't know we were gonna have this problem. And it's
Speaker 6: really sad. And about ten people lost their homes in
Speaker 6: the area, or eleven people, but our street was so
Speaker 6: far pretty protected. So the firefighters, they're just amazing. They
Speaker 6: are truly, it's unbelievable what heroes they are. It is
Speaker 6: they're my favorite people. They they're you know, I don't know,
Speaker 6: they're the heroes, they're the superheroes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2: Are you guys living up in the hills like that?
Speaker 2: Is it pretty common to have fire insurance?
Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, I've had fire I have. I would have
Speaker 6: it anyway, because even if I lived, you know, in
Speaker 6: a condo and a high rise, you never know and
Speaker 6: somebody leaves the gas on and next thing you know,
Speaker 6: your windows got blown out, and you know, that's the
Speaker 6: end of that.
Speaker 2: I'm sure if in a place like Southern California, if
Speaker 2: that was like an i know, like home insurance cover
Speaker 2: would probably cover that. But still I feel like that
Speaker 2: would be a way for insurance companies to get a
Speaker 2: little bit more from Southern California, right, like earthquake insurance,
Speaker 2: fire insurance or something.
Speaker 6: Well, I don't have earthquake insurance because it's so expensive.
Speaker 6: It's so silly, because the money you're going to spend
Speaker 6: on the insurance is probably what you're going to spend
Speaker 6: on your house, and if it comes off the foundation,
Speaker 6: you got to rebuild the house anyway, and they don't
Speaker 6: give you enough money to rebuild your house. So it's
Speaker 6: kind of a sham earthquake insurance for sure. So maybe
Speaker 6: I'll make up. But maybe I'll make up my own
Speaker 6: company and that'll be successful.
Speaker 2: You know, perfect sounds legit.
Speaker 4: Okay, so you're on the whole Dog and Pony Show
Speaker 4: right now doing the Nashville Square.
Speaker 6: Yes, in the middle of all this, I stole at
Speaker 6: three am, I stole two outfits to do pressing. So
Speaker 6: I was like, Kelly's like, I just need underwork. Let's
Speaker 6: get out of here. And we took two cars out
Speaker 6: and went to a hotel. But I'm getting closed for press.
Speaker 4: I mean, well, wait, so you found a hotel, but
Speaker 4: Lebron James did not find a hotel.
Speaker 6: Correct. I left immediately and I just called a hotel
Speaker 6: ahead of time, which I had a relationship with and
Speaker 6: not a relationship. I mean, Kelly's my relationship. But the
Speaker 6: hotel I knew the people, I didn't have a hook
Speaker 6: up with them. But well, there was one person behind
Speaker 6: the front desk.
Speaker 3: Right we text friend, I don't want to hear.
Speaker 6: No, Kelly's the best. Kelly's at the hotel right now.
Speaker 6: Just sending your love to you.
Speaker 2: Guys. You're about to celebrate or just did celebrate one.
Speaker 6: Year last night. Yeah, it's our ash anniversary because of
Speaker 6: the fire.
Speaker 2: What'd you guys do anything special?
Speaker 6: We had dinner. We had dinner and just chilled and
Speaker 6: it was really nice. And then you know, I'm not
Speaker 6: a gentleman, doesn't talk about romance and stuff. Let's just
Speaker 6: say it was a very reminiscent beautiful anniversary.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 4: Okay, Nashville Squares, we have to do it because we
Speaker 4: on the show too. You also promote the show as well,
Speaker 4: but for Bob because I couldn't. I couldn't think of
Speaker 4: a better host.
Speaker 3: For that show.
Speaker 6: It's so silly, right, you wouldn't think it would be
Speaker 6: me naturally until we became friends, you wouldn't know that, oh,
Speaker 6: Bobb would be good at that, right.
Speaker 4: But it made sense though once once, once you were there,
Speaker 4: and once we were there, I'm like, there's nobody better
Speaker 4: for this, for this job, like you were. That's so funny,
Speaker 4: and it was, it was it was just cool.
Speaker 6: Well, you couldn't count your music. In general, country artists
Speaker 6: have a certain happiness about them, Monk, except for the
Speaker 6: ones that are singing about their dog and their wife
Speaker 6: up and left them and they're drinking. But but you know,
Speaker 6: my dog died, but I write songs about that. But
Speaker 6: I've been writing country comedy songs for years, so it
Speaker 6: was kind of a serendipitous thing that they would ask
Speaker 6: me to host it, and I knew how to do
Speaker 6: it because I've hosted so much. But it's just a
Speaker 6: free for all. It's not like I was offered original
Speaker 6: Hollywood Squares, but Tom Bergeron did that and and and
Speaker 6: I didn't want to do it because it was so scripted.
Speaker 6: But as you know from being there, this thing is
Speaker 6: not scripted at all.
Speaker 4: And they were telling all the you know, the artists
Speaker 4: to just talk over each other, and I'm like, what,
Speaker 4: we're allowed to do that, because usually when someone talks,
Speaker 4: are not allowed to talk.
Speaker 6: And if you want to drink the bars right there,
Speaker 6: oh yeah, half the people have been through rehabit are
Speaker 6: cleaned up or never went and they're fine. They have
Speaker 6: their sparkling water or diet coke. And then the every
Speaker 6: I disd a commercial and then the other people are
Speaker 6: just you know, Tanya Tucker's laying sideways holding Dennis Quaid's
Speaker 6: dog in the middle square and I think.
Speaker 3: She fell asleep too, didn't she?
Speaker 6: Yeah, she did.
Speaker 2: She did.
Speaker 6: I think the Dallas Cabalt too many. You guys woke
Speaker 6: everybody up. You guys were wonderful on the show.
Speaker 4: It was fun, but it was again it was it
Speaker 4: was to you because you you drove the show and
Speaker 4: you you made it. You made it fun for us
Speaker 4: to sit there and we got to play against ech
Speaker 4: other too and also be up on the in the squares.
Speaker 4: But it was just great having you be the man
Speaker 4: that ran the show. So National Squares is out now
Speaker 4: you can watch it.
Speaker 3: It aired. It just aired on Friday, the first episode,
Speaker 3: the first episode.
Speaker 6: But they ran two episodes on November first. But now
Speaker 6: it's on every Friday at eight o'clock sent No at
Speaker 6: eight o'clock I know my television terminology at eight o'clock Eastern.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 6: And then of course you got to go seven o'clock
Speaker 6: Central and then six o'clock Mountain. Mountain. People are gonna
Speaker 6: watch this show. I have a feeling. And it runs
Speaker 6: in my house at one am every night all night long. Yeah,
Speaker 6: and it's but it's it's really fun and it's that
Speaker 6: old TGIF spot. I used to have a full house.
Speaker 6: So's it's like.
Speaker 2: A warm blanket. You're just you love it. That's where
Speaker 2: you live.
Speaker 3: That's home.
Speaker 6: That's home. I can't go there. Right, What is.
Speaker 2: It you've done all this hosting stuff. What is it
Speaker 2: when you go into something like that. What's the difference
Speaker 2: between that and obviously acting? You have everything scripted? You
Speaker 2: have kind of a script in your head when you
Speaker 2: go out to do hosting or is it just like
Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna take whatever presents itself. Now.
Speaker 6: Hosting something that I don't give a lot of thought too,
Speaker 6: because all the prep's been done. Acting is new every
Speaker 6: time you do it. You got to learn your dialogue
Speaker 6: and you got it, but you have to know what
Speaker 6: it's about. Like, I love acting a lot. I host
Speaker 6: because it's another facility that I have. I did this
Speaker 6: show one Versus one hundred and it was on NBC
Speaker 6: and it was on before a Deal or No Deal
Speaker 6: and Millionaires on and then they decided to take all
Speaker 6: the game shows off. They said, oh, game shows are done,
Speaker 6: and then look at the past two years. I've already
Speaker 6: done Alec Balbyn's Match Game. I've done to Tell the
Speaker 6: Truth with Anthony Anderson because they text me personally, so
Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, no, I gotta do it, I'm screwed.
Speaker 3: So but but like if not, they'd say, you changed.
Speaker 6: Right, Bob is so changed. But what's great is with
Speaker 6: Nashville Squares there was no script. I mean, I just
Speaker 6: do stuff like you win this or she just said this.
Speaker 6: Now what do you say? You know? But that's the script.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 6: The rest is it's a free for all and it's
Speaker 6: just like hanging with friends and acting crazy and there's
Speaker 6: some games involved. You know, put your hand in this
Speaker 6: box and touch this, and you hope it's not poop,
Speaker 6: you know. But but I mean, it's just it's it's
Speaker 6: a fun, fun gig. But I'm also doing the finishing
Speaker 6: of Fuller House, which ends this year. It's the fifth season,
Speaker 6: and we have the first nine episodes air before the
Speaker 6: end of the year, and then in the beginning of
Speaker 6: the new year or the last nine episodes, and we
Speaker 6: shoot the next the very last episode in like two weeks.
Speaker 2: I do it. Did you think Fuller House was going
Speaker 2: to be that successful to get five seasons?
Speaker 6: I thought it would get a little more. But Netflix
Speaker 6: is also smart about what they do, and sometimes all
Speaker 6: they need is five seasons, and sometimes ratings slip. I
Speaker 6: mean they pretend sometimes they don't have, but they do.
Speaker 6: And you know, I don't know how long you know,
Speaker 6: The Upside Down will be on? You know, Uh, what's
Speaker 6: that wonderful show called you Guys? Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I've been watching Dead to Me and The Politician are
Speaker 4: my two favorites that are on Netflix.
Speaker 6: I want to see that. Is the Paul Rudd show Netflix?
Speaker 6: A new one?
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. I haven't started that yet.
Speaker 3: He has a new show.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I hear it's fantastic. I hear it's unbelievable.
Speaker 6: Kelly said, you got to watch it, and it's only
Speaker 6: twenty minutes long, and apparently she thinks that's all I
Speaker 6: can last. But that's not right. But then I've got
Speaker 6: then I got the dirty video show that I did,
Speaker 6: which is scripted after dark, right, yeah, after the videos
Speaker 6: after Deck will come on. ABC's been saying in the
Speaker 6: Winter Spring, which sounds like sounds like a Game of Thrones,
Speaker 6: the Winter Spring is coming the Wildlings.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I know we talked about that last time,
Speaker 4: and I didn't want to bring it up last time
Speaker 4: I saw you because I didn't know what happened with it.
Speaker 3: So I was just like, oh, yeah.
Speaker 6: That's sweet, thank you. No, they're going to run it
Speaker 6: for sure because it's uh, you know, they love it
Speaker 6: and it's money, so they so they want to make money.
Speaker 2: Is there anything with all the hosting stuff? Is there
Speaker 2: anything like on your bucket list? It's like, oh, I
Speaker 2: want to be able to host this one day or
Speaker 2: is it just whatever opportunity presents itself.
Speaker 6: Well, the Oscars are always something. But I got to
Speaker 6: do some movie work and I also have to do
Speaker 6: some directing work. And there's a movie I'm directing, a
Speaker 6: documentary about Martin mull right now. But that's just something
Speaker 6: because I love him and he's a great artist and
Speaker 6: he was one of the first person people that I
Speaker 6: ever saw. They did comedy music and he did a
Speaker 6: lot of country music too. He's very very smart. He
Speaker 6: played with Glenn Campbell and he's very talented guy. And
Speaker 6: you know him from like Sabrina and stuff. You know,
Speaker 6: gen X Millennials, you and But I'm also working on
Speaker 6: another feature thing. And as I get older and I'm
Speaker 6: in my seventies and eighties, I want to direct. Then
Speaker 6: that's so much fun. And then I want to make
Speaker 6: I want to make some really good movies. Is what
Speaker 6: I want to do, and that would be I guess
Speaker 6: I could be a seventy year old man hosting the Oscars. Absolutely,
Speaker 6: I mean otherwise, I don't really care about hosting too much.
Speaker 6: It's just something I do, just another thing I do.
Speaker 4: Well, you're putting it out there, and that's that's the
Speaker 4: best thing you can do is put it out there
Speaker 4: and keep working towards.
Speaker 6: It and entertain people. And entertain people whether you get
Speaker 6: them involved in their lives like you guys do You
Speaker 6: get people involved in their lives by you getting involved
Speaker 6: in your lives and sharing yourselves with people, and then
Speaker 6: you're entertaining because you know, sometimes when you bicker, it's
Speaker 6: like the funniest thing in the world.
Speaker 3: It's good batter People are like, it's so cringe, so cringey.
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, it's one of the other one or
Speaker 3: the other.
Speaker 6: Well, no, it's but it's honest, and it's not like
Speaker 6: you're on the Bachelor or anything, you know. I mean,
Speaker 6: those people, it could be worse, You're right, No, it
Speaker 6: could try to make you feel better. No, I'm just
Speaker 6: saying those people they come on there and they unveil
Speaker 6: things that that's it for the rest of their life.
Speaker 6: That moment will be remembered.
Speaker 2: And their stories are produced, so they can't even control that.
Speaker 6: No, it's not even them, it's not even what they think, right,
Speaker 6: except for when this this this cold guy, this really
Speaker 6: nice guy, he went and screw the pooch. He told
Speaker 6: it ahead of time. He blew the couch. I don't
Speaker 6: know what he did. No, you don't want to do that.
Speaker 6: That guy that was the last Batchelor. Yeah, Wellton, Colton sorry,
Speaker 6: and Colton Underwood. He said ahead of time that I've
Speaker 6: been seeing her and I love her and I've already
Speaker 6: been with her, and that caused a whole ruckus and
Speaker 6: then they had to put on the Batsorette all of
Speaker 6: a sudden. At the end of that episode, it was
Speaker 6: it was quite troubling.
Speaker 3: You know, watch since you know all this information.
Speaker 6: I watched it because they did a stink preview of
Speaker 6: videos after dark afterwards, so it.
Speaker 3: Wasn't like required viewing caps. Bob Sagan, the real.
Speaker 6: Truth, the man that can't go home.
Speaker 4: You know, you have a million other places you've got
Speaker 4: to go. So thanks for stopping in to say hey
Speaker 4: to us, and well.
Speaker 6: I love you guys, and yeah, I'm going to come
Speaker 6: back to Nashville because the show CMT is really excited
Speaker 6: about it and they think we're going to be shooting
Speaker 6: in Nashville.
Speaker 3: So that be amazing.
Speaker 6: That would be amazing, and you'll be on it all
Speaker 6: the time, and then we can go to dinner and we'll.
Speaker 3: Do dinner all the time and it'll be great.
Speaker 6: And we'll leave cars at ballet.
Speaker 2: It'll be great.
Speaker 3: That we love you, Bob, thanks for.
Speaker 6: Having me, love you back, love you, love you, miss
Speaker 6: your already.
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Speaker 2: You know What's It's actually a perfect segue into what
Speaker 2: I want to talk about because with Bob, it's just
Speaker 2: his name. Just when it's said or spoken, it just
Speaker 2: registers so much nostalgia right for everybody. I feel like,
Speaker 2: from from fifty to ten. You know, he covers that
Speaker 2: like such a wide gap of generations, which is pretty
Speaker 2: impressive when you like think about it that so many
Speaker 2: people of so many ages know his name and what
Speaker 2: he's done. But you know, I was thinking of nostalgia recently,
Speaker 2: and do you ever have those things? It could be
Speaker 2: a song, it could be a movie. This may sound
Speaker 2: really stupid, nothing stupid to a lot of people, but
Speaker 2: I felt it when I was playing my little handheld
Speaker 2: video game thing the other night. Just do you ever
Speaker 2: have something that's so much so nostalgic, it's it's almost,
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's almost uncomfortable, or like you hear
Speaker 2: a song or watch a movie and you're just like,
Speaker 2: this reminds me almost takes me back too much to
Speaker 2: that moment where I just don't even want to like
Speaker 2: listen to it or.
Speaker 3: Or what was what was your thing?
Speaker 2: Well, no, no, it was this legend of Zelda linked
Speaker 2: to the past from Super Nintendo when it seems.
Speaker 3: Like nodding as sad.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, when I was a kid, and it just
Speaker 2: every time, like this opening sequence came on and all
Speaker 2: this stuff, it just brought me back to being a
Speaker 2: kid so much that it was I just felt like
Speaker 2: the the my brain waves just kind of like the
Speaker 2: sparks flying, and that just super nostalgic feeling. It was
Speaker 2: a good feeling, but it was almost I could just
Speaker 2: feel it so much. I was like, God, this is
Speaker 2: kind of uncomfortable because it just I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: ten again. But then on the other hand, there's things
Speaker 2: like there's this song you'd heard it if you played it. No,
Speaker 2: it's what it's like by Everlast Classic song. So that
Speaker 2: song I haven't listened to since. This friend of mine
Speaker 2: that I grew up with from the time we were
Speaker 2: in third grade through high school. He died in a
Speaker 2: car accident our senior year of high school, a month
Speaker 2: before his eighteenth birthday. And that was like our jam
Speaker 2: when we were in elementary school, Like, we just listened
Speaker 2: to the hell out of that song. So it's one
Speaker 2: of those things that Adam foot and you know, we
Speaker 2: grew up together and even in high school we didn't
Speaker 2: run with the same crowd, but we're always good buddies.
Speaker 2: It was one of those you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Like we always had our childhood and it's just one
Speaker 2: of those things where it's so painful, the nostalgia. I
Speaker 2: just can't have any part of it. I can't sit
Speaker 2: through it. Do you have anything like that?
Speaker 3: I mean, well, thank you for sharing yell that was.
Speaker 3: That must be hard.
Speaker 4: I can't imagine losing a friend that young, like just
Speaker 4: thinking back, like how because it death scares me, not
Speaker 4: to get like deep into death talk, but that death
Speaker 4: scares me in general just thinking about it, especially now
Speaker 4: that we have kids too. But I can't imagine, like
Speaker 4: I remember obviously when we lost my grandpa, but to
Speaker 4: lose a friend, I don't know. I just like, at
Speaker 4: that such a young age, how was that to deal with?
Speaker 2: You know? It was uh, And I've been very fortunate
Speaker 2: where I haven't had a deal with much loss My
Speaker 2: grandma when I was young, but I was too young
Speaker 2: to really process. I was like fourth grade.
Speaker 4: Yeah, when I feel like in grandparents like it's sad
Speaker 4: as it was my grandpa Dad, Like you know they're older,
Speaker 4: right right right.
Speaker 2: I haven't had many sudden deaths, only really my friend
Speaker 2: and my aunt a few years back. But uh, it
Speaker 2: was it was really difficult. It was hard to comprehend.
Speaker 2: It's hard to understand. It's one of the things.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 2: It's interesting at his at his funeral, there's this other
Speaker 2: friend of ours, Eric, that it was like the three
Speaker 2: of us in elementary school, Like we just rode our
Speaker 2: bikes together, like we did everything together, and same kind
Speaker 2: of deal. Eric was like in a different crowd. Still
Speaker 2: hung with Adham a lot more in high school. But
Speaker 2: it's like when Eric and I saw each other at
Speaker 2: the funeral, like we had this hug and this embrace
Speaker 2: of that was just like unmatched because of just like
Speaker 2: everything behind it and growing up together, and I don't know,
Speaker 2: it was hard, man, It's just one of those things,
Speaker 2: you know. And he was an only child, so I
Speaker 2: have so much empathy for his parents and and everything.
Speaker 2: But you know, I know there's a lot of people
Speaker 2: out there that have had to suffer way more loss.
Speaker 3: You can't measure someone's pain, No, you can't.
Speaker 2: You can't. It's all about what you're exposed to and everything.
Speaker 2: But no, yeah, it sucked well.
Speaker 1: And that song came on and you had to turn it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, anytime I hear that song, have to turn it
Speaker 2: off ever since, ever since then, ever since I was
Speaker 2: eighteen years old. You know. It's funny. My mom had
Speaker 2: a similar thing where the house I grew up in.
Speaker 2: I lived in the same house from the time I
Speaker 2: was four until I was sixteen seventeen, and so it's
Speaker 2: the house I grew up in, and it's near it's
Speaker 2: in a different neighborhood, but near the one that my
Speaker 2: parents live in now. And my mom same thing. She
Speaker 2: was kind of like driving by, She's outside looking at it,
Speaker 2: and I think the people that lived there had just
Speaker 2: gotten home, and she was like, I'm so sorry. I
Speaker 2: don't mean to be creepy. I just, you know, raised
Speaker 2: my kids in this house and we're just you know,
Speaker 2: I was just you guys did a lot of changes.
Speaker 2: So I was just looking at it, and they're like, oh,
Speaker 2: you want to come on in, And they let my
Speaker 2: mom in and they let her take pictures and she
Speaker 2: was saying the dream. Yeah. She sent it pictures to
Speaker 2: me and my dad and my brother and my sister.
Speaker 2: My brother doesn't remember it, but my sister and I
Speaker 2: were like, that's so crazy, it's so weird, that's nuts.
Speaker 4: I my aunt Susan and uncle Roy live across the
Speaker 4: street from the house that I grew up in from
Speaker 4: three to whenever my parents got divorced after that since seventeen,
Speaker 4: and I want to go in so bad, but no
Speaker 4: one lives there anymore.
Speaker 2: No one at all.
Speaker 4: Well, apparently it ended up being like I think they
Speaker 4: were doing like meth or something in the house. But
Speaker 4: my brother and I talked about because it went on
Speaker 4: the market, and so I wanted to buy it because
Speaker 4: it's you know, or deal. Yeah, you know, but I
Speaker 4: think someone bought it and then they just run it out.
Speaker 4: But gosh, I I.
Speaker 3: Would love to.
Speaker 4: I don't know it's just I would love to go
Speaker 4: in the house because we had this little gremlin room
Speaker 4: that it was called the Gremlin Room and it was
Speaker 4: but in the gremlin room as we had you know
Speaker 4: into the wood where you see how tall you were,
Speaker 4: So we did that in my closet. So I just
Speaker 4: would love to see if that was that's still there. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and like bring Joel there.
Speaker 3: I was like crazy, crazy, interesting.
Speaker 1: And we try to be like objective about these things,
Speaker 1: like it's just a house, it's just four walls. It's just.
Speaker 4: That Miranda Lambert song, the house that built me. There's
Speaker 4: something about going back to that house that it's that
Speaker 4: built you. And the memory is from you know, maybe
Speaker 4: your parents fighting. I mean for me, I mean some
Speaker 4: of the my nostalgias, unfortunately, are all pretty negative. And
Speaker 4: that's what kind of bums me out when I think
Speaker 4: about certain things and it's you know, for my house,
Speaker 4: it's like my parents fighting or arguing or there's I
Speaker 4: hate I hate that, but it's there's still something that
Speaker 4: that house built you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the bad it's I can't remember what I
Speaker 2: did two days ago, but I can remember twenty years ago.
Speaker 2: And you know what I mean when I was playing
Speaker 2: catch with my dad in the front yard on our street.
Speaker 2: And our street we're like flat, but then it gradually
Speaker 2: goes downhill. I overthrew my dad and he had to
Speaker 2: go running down after ball. He's kind of pissed, but
Speaker 2: then he chucked the ball from I don't know, felt
Speaker 2: like a football field away, like a pop fire. I
Speaker 2: go up to catch it. It's off the tip of
Speaker 2: my glove and hits me right in the right eye,
Speaker 2: and I had this huge shiner and I go in.
Speaker 2: I mean it was old fashioned, like I put a
Speaker 2: steak on it, like straight up, had a sand lot
Speaker 2: like it was. It was unreal.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a smell that I don't I cannot and
Speaker 4: have not been able to place. But it was the
Speaker 4: same smell that I smelled in the Romanian hospital when
Speaker 4: I was sick I had surgery. So every time I
Speaker 4: smell that now it brings me. I get like a
Speaker 4: pit in my stomach thinking about that experience. Terrifying, I know,
Speaker 4: but I'm like, I can't figure it's some kind of
Speaker 4: cleaning solution. If I walk into any other bathroom or
Speaker 4: I can smell it and I'm like Romania.
Speaker 1: They say the smells are the most effective at bringing
Speaker 1: it back to a memory.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that makes total sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah for sure, because it's.
Speaker 4: Just wolf crazy. Well, way to walk down memory lane, guys.
Speaker 2: Also, with the emails, I want to hear some of
Speaker 2: those two take emails.
Speaker 1: We have some really nice ones this week. Do it.
Speaker 1: This is from Sarah, she said. First of all, let
Speaker 1: me just give you Danielle's she saw on your Instagram story,
Speaker 1: the Jolie and Jace cupps that you reposted from someone else.
Speaker 3: Oh, yes, you can get them at Dollar General.
Speaker 2: There you go. Where do you get them?
Speaker 1: I'd love to purchase them. And I love your show
Speaker 1: and I hope you get the People's Choice Award. You
Speaker 1: guys deserve it. Sorry, Beca and Tanya, I love you
Speaker 1: guys too, Love you too.
Speaker 3: Back on Antonia. That's very sweet, Thank you.
Speaker 1: Sarah says. My husband Brian and I are both thirty one.
Speaker 1: We've been married for five years and we've had her
Speaker 1: ups and downs. Until last May, I was really happy
Speaker 1: in my marriage till my husband expressed to me in
Speaker 1: a counseling session that he was unfaithful five times within
Speaker 1: the first year of our marriage. While I was pregnant
Speaker 1: with our first child. He also admitted he was he
Speaker 1: had attempted to act out while we were pregnant with
Speaker 1: our second baby in the periods in between, compensated with
Speaker 1: pornography and almost ninety thousand dollars in online shopping. This summar,
Speaker 1: he filed for bankruptcy and we filed for separation. He
Speaker 1: then left for an inpatient treatment center for sex addiction.
Speaker 1: He comes home November ninth, after completing seventy five days.
Speaker 1: By all accounts, he's doing well, he's progressing, he's giving
Speaker 1: it as all. But I am so scared to come
Speaker 1: home and to find out what that new normal will
Speaker 1: look like, and I'm so scared of being hurt again.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to say I appreciate your courage. It
Speaker 1: is a daily kind of courage to share openly all
Speaker 1: the things we didn't choose for everyone to find out either.
Speaker 1: My husband was our church worship leader. If you're ever
Speaker 1: near Asheville, North Carolina, let's grab dinner. Otherwise, keep doing y'all,
Speaker 1: praying for your family, your marriage, and continued to recovery.
Speaker 4: I mean would love to sit down with you guys. Yeah, love,
Speaker 4: Thank you for your email that's beyond sweet Sarah, thank you,
Speaker 4: But I will say it's pretty amazing he did tell you.
Speaker 2: That's very Yeah, that's something to when you're having a
Speaker 2: hard time hanging on to hope and having those fears.
Speaker 2: The fact that he got to the point where he
Speaker 2: had just couldn't live with that double life anymore and
Speaker 2: he told you without you discovering, I mean, that's that
Speaker 2: goes a long way.
Speaker 1: Is that a sign that he doesn't want to be
Speaker 1: that guy anymore?
Speaker 2: For sure? For sure, that's it's a sign of it's
Speaker 2: taking contrary action, which is why you know all the
Speaker 2: stuff that Jane and I were dealing with, you know,
Speaker 2: with me deleting and not telling. It's all about taking
Speaker 2: contrary action, doing something that you wouldn't have done in
Speaker 2: the past. So that's something that's we know. It's tough,
Speaker 2: and it is, as Sarah said, is a daily battle.
Speaker 2: You have your ups and downs, but hang your head
Speaker 2: on that at least, and all you can do is,
Speaker 2: like Jana says, she trusts me today until I give
Speaker 2: her a.
Speaker 4: Reason not to well, and he needs to be like
Speaker 4: showing up and stuff too. Because the hardest, the hardest
Speaker 4: recovery we've had was when he was gone in treatment.
Speaker 4: It was the two years he got home from treatment.
Speaker 4: That's been the hardest adjustment and it just takes time.
Speaker 4: And it's but again, if two people are willing to work,
Speaker 4: I know I say that all the time, but if
Speaker 4: you know, you just got to keep fighting it out.
Speaker 4: But we will also be praying for y'all's marriage. And
Speaker 4: thank you for sharing your story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1: And well, so she's she's it's okay, she's scared, but
Speaker 1: it's okay to be optimistic.
Speaker 4: To absolutely, but it's both are totally fine and normal. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm still scared. You know, he's still scared. You know,
Speaker 4: you're right. Yeah, it's just those Yeah.
Speaker 1: But it's been great listening to you on this podcast
Speaker 1: honestly today specifically, like you guys just see seem you're
Speaker 1: in good moods, you're happy, you're interacting in a sweet way,
Speaker 1: and you see it just seems like a very solid
Speaker 1: relationship today. The way you're talking to each other about
Speaker 1: each other's feelings and respecting each other's thoughts. I think
Speaker 1: this is I'm very encouraged by today's podcast.
Speaker 3: Thanks Mark, thank you. I think we're good, right, now
Speaker 3: we agree?
Speaker 6: Right now?
Speaker 2: Hi, ive been yes especially coming off a perfect day yesterday,
Speaker 2: a no hitter, a perfect game, whatever you're gonna call it.
Speaker 2: I had one of those yesterday.
Speaker 3: A little goes a long way. That's right, right?
Speaker 2: We have any more emails?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sabrina. I was involved in a four year relationship
Speaker 1: that ended when I discovered my now ex boyfriend was
Speaker 1: cheating on me by soliciting sex from other women on Craigslist.
Speaker 1: It's been five years since then. I've moved on. My
Speaker 1: ex is now married to someone else. I'm with a
Speaker 1: guy who's honest, caring, and sweet. He's given me no
Speaker 1: reason to worry about him being on faithful. I think
Speaker 1: you can see where this is going. I've been with
Speaker 1: him for a little over a year, but it's extremely
Speaker 1: hard for me to shake those feelings that I'm not
Speaker 1: good enough and that history will repeat itself With my
Speaker 1: new boyfriend. It has started so many unnecessary arguments because
Speaker 1: he does not understand how easily triggered I am. How
Speaker 1: do you shake those thoughts in the back of your mind?
Speaker 1: How do you explain to someone who has never been
Speaker 1: through huge earth shattering infidelity that what you need is
Speaker 1: time and reassurance.
Speaker 4: That's hard because the other person probably is like, I
Speaker 4: didn't do that, though, so stop putting me in that
Speaker 4: person's position, right, But at the same time, I think
Speaker 4: that person needs to be gentle and have empathy for
Speaker 4: the person that you know is having trouble with it.
Speaker 4: But at the same time, it's how Sabrina you're delivering
Speaker 4: it to him because you have to come from a
Speaker 4: vulnerable place to be like, Hey, I'm so sorry, I'm
Speaker 4: getting triggered. I know it has nothing to do with you,
Speaker 4: it's just my past. Because if you're communicating from a
Speaker 4: vulnerable place, he's going to be able to be more.
Speaker 4: He's going to lean into empathy and not be on
Speaker 4: the attack or the defense of Well that's not me though,
Speaker 4: because if you're leaning in vulnerable, he'll lean in with empathy,
Speaker 4: is my opinion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's very well said, Honey. I think
Speaker 2: that was really well said.
Speaker 3: Thanks Mark.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't really know what to say after that,
Speaker 2: because it was pretty spot on.
Speaker 1: Give it to us again.
Speaker 4: Lean in with vulnerability and well, no, you know, be
Speaker 4: vulnerable and then hopefully then your partner will lean in
Speaker 4: with empathy. So you guys both need to lean into
Speaker 4: each other, but just one with vulnerability and one with empathy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all about validating that this has nothing to
Speaker 2: do with him, that you do not accuse him of anything.
Speaker 2: Because if you start if Sabrina started saying, well where
Speaker 2: were you? Or let me see your phone? If I
Speaker 2: was in new relationship, I'd yeah.
Speaker 4: But I could also see how like in her situation,
Speaker 4: the same we didn't work out, I would be like, man,
Speaker 4: this is I don't trust anybody for sure.
Speaker 2: I was just I was going to say that when
Speaker 2: Marcus Rena, I was like, could you imagine if you it'd.
Speaker 4: Be really tough, right and I would need I would,
Speaker 4: but I would be very I was thinking, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: what would I say to a new guy. I would say, look,
Speaker 4: I've this is what I've been through, and I'm going
Speaker 4: to I of course I know you, that's not you,
Speaker 4: but I'm scared.
Speaker 3: So you know, just if you be vulnerable, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like Jana said, be vulnerable. Guys want to be your
Speaker 2: night and shining armor. So if you lead with that vulnerability,
Speaker 2: like especially with her saying how caring and honest and
Speaker 2: sweet he's been. I optimistic that he'll lean into that
Speaker 2: challenge and be that you know night and shining armor
Speaker 2: and be like I got you, like there's nothing to
Speaker 2: worry about, and reassure you in any way that you need.
Speaker 4: And at the end of the day too, he might
Speaker 4: who knows anybody has the capability of doing it, And
Speaker 4: that just means that, Okay, it wasn't the right one
Speaker 4: and if that's not what you want, and then move on.
Speaker 4: Just because people get their heartbroken. I think that's what
Speaker 4: bothers me that I want to get my heart broken again.
Speaker 4: Well then you're gonna be lonely forever. Then because you're
Speaker 4: gonna get your heartbroken, you're gonna get your heart broken
Speaker 4: ten more times probably, but.
Speaker 2: Also maybe not.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm pumped to have a date night with you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: all right, good.
Speaker 1: Luck you guys. When the I heard a word last.
Speaker 3: Year, no chance, but it's fine.
Speaker 1: Come on now, you don't know, it's fine.
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Speaker 2: That you've been going.
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Speaker 2: This Kanye thing. I told Jane, I was like, you
Speaker 2: got it like a devil's triangle between me, Kanye and
Speaker 2: Olivia Copo. They're probably both like, who is this guy.
Speaker 3: Saying his name is Michael.
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