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Speaker 1: Flyind Down with Janey Kramer and Michael.

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Speaker 2: Coffin and I'm her radio podcast Another Monday.

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Speaker 3: I'm actually in a really good mood.

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Speaker 2: You are in a good mood, and I keep.

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Speaker 3: Asking you, are you okay?

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Speaker 2: You just keep kind of just because I'm not matching

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Speaker 2: your energy.

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Speaker 4: Well, hey, there's something to be said about that, though,

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Speaker 4: because there's times when you know I'm not matching the

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Speaker 4: energy and anything something's wrong with me.

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Speaker 3: So I think it is something.

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Speaker 4: But you know, sometimes I think it was because the

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Speaker 4: other day you were like, I'm just like so blah,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, Okay, is there anything surrounding that, because

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Speaker 4: if there is.

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Speaker 3: I'd love to hear. If not, go be blah dude,

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Speaker 3: I'm grab my glass of wine. I'm gonna go watch

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Speaker 3: Dancing with the Stars. See you later.

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Speaker 2: No, I think it's in any relationship. It's one of

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Speaker 2: those things where it depends on the degree of passiveness

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Speaker 2: that has existed in a relationship. So at times I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm more I question maybe your blindness.

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Speaker 3: Because I'm usually not blah, because usually.

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Speaker 2: You're not blah, and when you are, there's usually a

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Speaker 2: reason behind it, Like there's some passiveness behind it, so.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, and it makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Ninety eight percent of the time, something eventually comes out.

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Speaker 2: I keep chipping away at it, but I will say

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Speaker 2: that I wrote something down to bring up about that

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Speaker 2: was I haven't said, you know, the other day when

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Speaker 2: I was blah or whatever and you kept asking me,

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Speaker 2: I wasn't like.

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Speaker 4: I didn't like, I wasn't harping. I just was like,

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Speaker 4: I was giving you moments of.

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Speaker 3: Hey, bab I as well checking are you sure you're okay?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you gave me opportunities. Yeah, but you weren't pessed

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Speaker 2: about it. And I even affirmed you that night because

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Speaker 2: to me, it felt so good to be able to

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Speaker 2: just be blah for no reason, like melancholy, blah, whatever

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Speaker 2: word you want to use to describe it, and not

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Speaker 2: feel guilty about it, because you you know, my partner

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Speaker 2: isn't like, what's wrong? What's wrong? Tell me what's wrong?

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Speaker 2: I know something's wrong. I'm like, no, I'm just bla.

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Speaker 2: So I appreciated that a lot, and it meant a

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Speaker 2: lot to me. And it's one of those things that

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Speaker 2: I feel like should exist in a relationship where as

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Speaker 2: long as we articulate it right, and you say Hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm just in a blah mude. I'm just kind of cool,

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Speaker 2: chilling by myself right now. Then, I think it's huge

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Speaker 2: for your partner to respect that.

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Speaker 4: It's so hard though, because we're so codependent, I know.

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Speaker 4: So it's when you were sitting you know, I had

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Speaker 4: just gotten home from something, and you went straight got

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Speaker 4: your food and went into the game room. I was

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Speaker 4: just like, and you had just kind of hardy told

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Speaker 4: me that you were a blah But you know, I thought,

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Speaker 4: you know, I just came home from like getting a

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Speaker 4: fresh new cut in color and so, you know, and

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Speaker 4: then I saw you grab you're Jimmy Johnson, go sit

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Speaker 4: in the game room, and I was just like, okay,

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Speaker 4: I know he said he was blah. He said it

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Speaker 4: wasn't for anything, but I'm just going to check in

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Speaker 4: with him again. So but you know, I wanted to

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Speaker 4: sit at the game room. I wanted to sit there

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Speaker 4: with you and be like, Okay, what's wrong? Tell me everything?

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Speaker 4: Why are you black?

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Speaker 2: And you're just like waiting by the barn doors and

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Speaker 2: waving at.

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Speaker 3: Me sha around the corner. So instead I went in

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Speaker 3: and was just like, all right, babe, what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: He's like you're like, I'm just watching football. I'm like, okay, well, if.

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Speaker 4: Anything comes up for you, we just know that I'm

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Speaker 4: here and I love you, and yeah, that's it. And

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Speaker 4: so it was just so hard for me to just

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Speaker 4: leave it at that, but I did, and I've poured

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Speaker 4: my glass of wine and I went in bed, and

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Speaker 4: it was, I think the very first time I was

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Speaker 4: ever like, you know what, I have my mood and

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Speaker 4: I can't control his mood and I'm going to be

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Speaker 4: happy and not let him like I don't want to

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Speaker 4: be blob because he's so it was the first time

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Speaker 4: I actually noticed not being codependent. I was just like, oh,

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Speaker 4: this is nice. I like to not be codependent and

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Speaker 4: match his mood.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 4: It was very because I've never seen it on the outside.

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Speaker 4: I've always been I've always either matched your energy or

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Speaker 4: you'll do the same thing and you'll be like, I'd

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Speaker 4: be like, why are you upsecited? Like, well, you haven't been,

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Speaker 4: you know, very happy this morning, So I'm like.

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Speaker 3: Why do you gotta match my energy?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 3: It's just like but that's just what we do.

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Speaker 2: What we do, and it is I've had those moments too.

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Speaker 2: I'm just maybe you're kind of in a grouchy mood

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Speaker 2: or whatever, and.

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Speaker 3: I'm just like, grouchy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a respectful way to say it's unpleasant. Yes,

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Speaker 2: that too, And so times are being grouchy. And when

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Speaker 2: I have those moments where I'm not being codependent, I'm

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Speaker 2: just like, you know what, you know, my codependency isn't

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Speaker 2: saying what did I do wrong? What is she mad at?

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Speaker 2: I just know I I'm yeah, not grouchy. I didn't

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Speaker 2: do anything to cause this, So, you know what, I'm

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Speaker 2: just gonna let her be that way. And it's such

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Speaker 2: a relieving feeling to do that. But why can't we

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Speaker 2: just be normal people and do that all the time.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, we have the exact opposite problem and

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Speaker 5: our really Yeah, because actually my wife and I got

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Speaker 5: into a tip the other night because I self married

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Speaker 5: too much. Well, like we're hanging out and I'm like, Okay,

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna fold my laundry and then I'm gonna go

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Speaker 5: take the dog on a walk and then I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: finish up some work.

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Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't care.

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Speaker 3: Do what you do serious?

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Speaker 2: She's like, also, I would get along great.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Wait, she says, she said she didn't care.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, She's like, she's like, Eastern drive me crazy by

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Speaker 5: just like announcing everything you're saying you're gonna do, like

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Speaker 5: your Superman or something like I do not care, just

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Speaker 5: go do it. And I'm like, well, I don't know

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Speaker 5: what if you wanted to, like if you had other plans.

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Speaker 6: I just want to make sure.

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Speaker 3: And what did she say?

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Speaker 6: She's like, I'll let you know.

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Speaker 2: That's Jana's that's Jana's dream. She wishes I did that.

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Speaker 4: But how did you guys end the tiff? Was it

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Speaker 4: an actual TIF or was that like your guys' way

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Speaker 4: of fighting?

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Speaker 6: And you mean, well, I mean.

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Speaker 5: We don't fight very much like I thought was the

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Speaker 5: most aggressive. I just said, okay, I'll stop doing it

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Speaker 5: then fine, And that in itself is an announcement of

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Speaker 5: what I'm going to do. It's like I already broke

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Speaker 5: my own rule.

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Speaker 1: But is Wife Swap still on TV? Because I feel

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Speaker 1: like these two couples should maybe mix it match and

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Speaker 1: be very happy.

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Speaker 2: To get you know what.

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Speaker 4: I would love Wife Stop to come back on because

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Speaker 4: I think it's like you you want something else, but

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Speaker 4: at the same time, I think you would miss can.

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Speaker 2: We do celebrity wife swap?

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Speaker 3: I don't think I think it's done. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: If they have those.

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Speaker 2: Bring it back for a short it'd be kind of.

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Speaker 4: Probably dangerous because then we'd be like, oh, I like

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Speaker 4: this better.

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Speaker 3: I feel like, see how he treats her, see how

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Speaker 3: she did treats him. It wouldn't be good for us.

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Speaker 1: It's been twenty thirteen, so sadly not to be Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I do think an issue is that wives with

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Speaker 1: children don't really have the luxury of disappearing for an hour.

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Speaker 1: I think that's part of it.

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Speaker 3: Great point, Mark, what a beautiful point.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean wives with children? What about husbands

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Speaker 2: with children?

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Speaker 4: But you guys don't take like the main priority of

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Speaker 4: here we go like Mike's poops are at least thirty

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Speaker 4: minutes song, And then I go in there and he's

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Speaker 4: playing a game on his phone, and I was like,

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Speaker 4: do you know how much I would love to sit

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Speaker 4: down for a poop and have it last thirty minutes?

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Speaker 2: Look, you have a gall brider, so you just falls out.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying true, But still like I would love

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Speaker 4: to close the door for thirty minutes.

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Speaker 2: We used to joke about my dad taking forever. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: why is he in there so long? And then as

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Speaker 2: soon as I have kids, I'm like, well, I get it.

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Speaker 2: It's when you become a dad.

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Speaker 4: I used to have my showers, like showers are my thing,

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Speaker 4: but now I have to shower with Jolie. So it's

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Speaker 4: like I don't even get my showers anymore.

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Speaker 2: Wow. But I think. But the thing is, it's not

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Speaker 2: like I. For me, I don't just disappear if we

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Speaker 2: have the kids. I'm not just I just don't like

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Speaker 2: leave the room if no, if we're both kids, I

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Speaker 2: never do that.

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Speaker 3: No, you're a great dad.

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Speaker 2: And it's when we're it's just Jan and I or

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Speaker 2: maybe it's just Jollie and it's nighttime, so you know what,

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Speaker 2: we just have a TV on for Jolie for an

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Speaker 2: hour and so we can get a few things done

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Speaker 2: before bedtime. So it's it's never like that. But still,

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Speaker 2: I just I don't know the announcing it.

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Speaker 4: Feels like you're asking for permission. And that's one of

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Speaker 4: your biggest things is you hate having to feel like

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Speaker 4: you're asking for permission.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's just like when you say, uh, like hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm in the office, like, hey, what are you doing?

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Speaker 2: If I just say work, Jana, he drive her nuts.

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Speaker 2: She's like, but no, no, no, like what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Like what kind of works?

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm getting some work done? What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: Mike?

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Speaker 2: And it's like, okay, like you're saying like Jana was

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Speaker 2: kind of saying that women do, or like Easton like

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Speaker 2: you were doing. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna email this person.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna email that person. I gotta ca hold this person.

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Speaker 2: I gotta, you know, write this up. I gotta do this.

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Speaker 2: And I'm just like, well, just why can't we just

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Speaker 2: all fall under the umbrella of work, because we.

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Speaker 4: Want to make sure that you're checking off the proper

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Speaker 4: process to make sure you're calling Matt the long guy

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Speaker 4: because we have like ten trees dead in the backyard

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Speaker 4: and you know, following up with a few other people

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Speaker 4: for our work stuff. You know, just just just that

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Speaker 4: goes back to the good old times.

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Speaker 2: So email us our listeners out there about any situation

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Speaker 2: like this and how you and your partner handle when

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Speaker 2: it comes to uh time apart? Is it? Do you

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Speaker 2: con side yourself disappearing? You have to announce your plan

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Speaker 2: like Easton and just to make sure it's okay or

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Speaker 2: it fits their schedule or whatever it is. I would

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Speaker 2: love to hear some stories around this so we can

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Speaker 2: talk about that.

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Speaker 1: It is wind down at iHeartRadio dot com.

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Speaker 2: I kicked ass yesterday.

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Speaker 3: And it's so good. He did laundry, he folded, I

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Speaker 3: mean put it away.

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Speaker 2: Kids, laundry I put away and it starts to finish

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Speaker 2: hair appointment. I just I crushed it yesterday. Crush as

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Speaker 2: a dad and husband left you in a little card

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Speaker 2: like yeah, I mean just ten out of ten across

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Speaker 2: the board yesterday. Yeah, okay from husband and dad duties.

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Speaker 2: So literally yesterday you couldn't have I can't. It seemed

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Speaker 2: that I couldn't have done anything better. That's the best

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Speaker 2: I got, Honting. That's it. That's me. So now it's

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Speaker 2: all downhill. But yesterday when I did, you know, when

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Speaker 2: I did just want to like watch some football for

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Speaker 2: a few minutes, I was like, I have no guilt

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Speaker 2: in the world right now because I owned today and

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Speaker 2: there's nothing that Janna could say with any validation or

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Speaker 2: Mm hm. At all. Yeah, because I did. But also

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Speaker 2: because I know how Gianna works and she's constantly doing something,

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Speaker 2: I have to have like that kind of day in

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Speaker 2: order to not feel guilty.

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Speaker 3: No, because there's.

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Speaker 4: Been times where you'll say like, hey, I know there's

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Speaker 4: something I'm just like, I'm so tired, Like I'm just

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Speaker 4: sure achnowlogy. But it's the how I then reciprocate with him,

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Speaker 4: because if I'm crappy about it, so I try to

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Speaker 4: make sure to be like absolutely babe, because if.

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Speaker 3: Not, then he gets that.

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Speaker 4: I want him to feel comfortable, to be able to

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Speaker 4: like very mindful of that, which I think I've gotten

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have, and I think it's we have gotten

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Speaker 2: because then it then you're not sitting there thinking, uh,

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Speaker 2: so that that's a good way of compromising.

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Speaker 4: I think, yeah, for sure, without having to feel like

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Speaker 4: you're right, without having to feel guilty and or asking

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Speaker 4: for premissure or being you know, or.

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Speaker 2: You come in and be like did you get this

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Speaker 2: done yet? Why are you watching football? Why are you

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Speaker 3: No, it was it was so funny.

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Speaker 4: I came home from something the other day and he's like,

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Speaker 4: And I come home and it's like.

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Speaker 3: My laundry's folded, kid's laundry, and I go, jas, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna grab you really slowly, and we're gonna walk away.

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Speaker 3: Somebody has broken into our house. I don't know who

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Speaker 2: He's a shifter.

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Speaker 3: It was so funny.

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Speaker 2: Well, uh no, I think that's a good topic for

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Speaker 3: Time time Chime.

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Speaker 1: I am well, Bob Saggett is here.

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Speaker 4: He's such a good friend of us. We actually just

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Speaker 3: So extre shoot. I just I jumped the gun.

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Speaker 4: I was so excited, so happy to have our friend

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Speaker 4: Bob Sagat back in studio.

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Speaker 6: Yay, I owe you a meal that was so good.

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Speaker 3: Last time we had the best dinner ever with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: It was really relaxing and it was like, really nice.

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Speaker 3: It was nice, right.

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Speaker 4: Bob is referring to a dinner that we all went

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Speaker 4: to in Nashville with h with Bob and his wife Kelly,

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Speaker 4: and Kristen and Preston, and we had a little couples night.

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Speaker 3: It was really fun.

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Speaker 6: It was really sweet. Nothing happened weird. It was cool.

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Speaker 6: There was no swinging. We didn't swing.

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Speaker 4: No, you did get us to go out another night.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, you got us to hang out like long

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Speaker 4: that night. And I was just like, we didn't get home.

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Speaker 4: His car had was left at valet.

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, I thought I had to boot or something.

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Speaker 6: I got scared.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I we had to go get it. The

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Speaker 2: next day. I felt like I was in my twenties again,

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Speaker 2: I know. I was just like, wow, this is you

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Speaker 2: also popped Jana's cheerry in a sense of that was

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Speaker 2: the first time she ever heard last call at a bar. Ever,

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Speaker 2: she was like, what is that?

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Speaker 6: They don't say that to me. That's a problem. That's why.

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Speaker 6: That's why I definitely have to I slowed down my

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Speaker 6: drinking because they locked me in.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 4: So I was just texting with Kelly a couple of

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Speaker 6: House is okay to my knowledge? Yeah, I don't know

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Speaker 6: if it's got like a lot of ash all over

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Speaker 6: it and a lot of smoking, you know, damage, but

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Speaker 6: it's evacuated. We can't get there. So it was pretty weird.

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Speaker 6: We had to evacuate the other night, and I always

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Speaker 6: do after a big meal. But I didn't know. I

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Speaker 6: really sad. And about ten people lost their homes in

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Speaker 6: far pretty protected. So the firefighters, they're just amazing. They

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Speaker 6: are truly, it's unbelievable what heroes they are. It is

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Speaker 6: they're my favorite people. They they're you know, I don't know,

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Speaker 6: they're the heroes, they're the superheroes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 2: Are you guys living up in the hills like that?

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Speaker 2: Is it pretty common to have fire insurance?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, I've had fire I have. I would have

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Speaker 6: somebody leaves the gas on and next thing you know,

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Speaker 6: your windows got blown out, and you know, that's the

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Speaker 6: end of that.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure if in a place like Southern California, if

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Speaker 2: that was like an i know, like home insurance cover

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Speaker 2: would probably cover that. But still I feel like that

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Speaker 2: would be a way for insurance companies to get a

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Speaker 2: little bit more from Southern California, right, like earthquake insurance,

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Speaker 2: fire insurance or something.

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Speaker 6: Well, I don't have earthquake insurance because it's so expensive.

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Speaker 6: It's so silly, because the money you're going to spend

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Speaker 6: on the insurance is probably what you're going to spend

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Speaker 6: on your house, and if it comes off the foundation,

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Speaker 6: you got to rebuild the house anyway, and they don't

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Speaker 6: give you enough money to rebuild your house. So it's

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Speaker 6: kind of a sham earthquake insurance for sure. So maybe

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Speaker 6: I'll make up. But maybe I'll make up my own

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Speaker 2: You know, perfect sounds legit.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you're on the whole Dog and Pony Show

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Speaker 4: right now doing the Nashville Square.

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Speaker 6: Yes, in the middle of all this, I stole at

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Speaker 6: three am, I stole two outfits to do pressing. So

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Speaker 6: I was like, Kelly's like, I just need underwork. Let's

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Speaker 6: get out of here. And we took two cars out

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Speaker 6: and went to a hotel. But I'm getting closed for press.

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Speaker 4: I mean, well, wait, so you found a hotel, but

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Speaker 4: Lebron James did not find a hotel.

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Speaker 6: Correct. I left immediately and I just called a hotel

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Speaker 6: ahead of time, which I had a relationship with and

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Speaker 6: not a relationship. I mean, Kelly's my relationship. But the

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Speaker 6: hotel I knew the people, I didn't have a hook

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Speaker 6: up with them. But well, there was one person behind

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Speaker 3: Right we text friend, I don't want to hear.

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Speaker 6: No, Kelly's the best. Kelly's at the hotel right now.

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Speaker 6: Just sending your love to you.

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Speaker 2: Guys. You're about to celebrate or just did celebrate one.

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Speaker 6: Year last night. Yeah, it's our ash anniversary because of

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Speaker 6: the fire.

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Speaker 2: What'd you guys do anything special?

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Speaker 6: We had dinner. We had dinner and just chilled and

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Speaker 6: it was really nice. And then you know, I'm not

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Speaker 6: a gentleman, doesn't talk about romance and stuff. Let's just

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Speaker 6: say it was a very reminiscent beautiful anniversary.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Nashville Squares, we have to do it because we

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Speaker 4: on the show too. You also promote the show as well,

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Speaker 4: but for Bob because I couldn't. I couldn't think of

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Speaker 4: a better host.

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Speaker 3: For that show.

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Speaker 6: It's so silly, right, you wouldn't think it would be

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Speaker 6: me naturally until we became friends, you wouldn't know that, oh,

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Speaker 6: Bobb would be good at that, right.

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Speaker 4: But it made sense though once once, once you were there,

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Speaker 4: and once we were there, I'm like, there's nobody better

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Speaker 4: for this, for this job, like you were. That's so funny,

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Speaker 4: and it was, it was it was just cool.

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Speaker 6: Well, you couldn't count your music. In general, country artists

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Speaker 6: have a certain happiness about them, Monk, except for the

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Speaker 6: ones that are singing about their dog and their wife

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Speaker 6: up and left them and they're drinking. But but you know,

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Speaker 6: my dog died, but I write songs about that. But

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Speaker 6: I've been writing country comedy songs for years, so it

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Speaker 6: was kind of a serendipitous thing that they would ask

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Speaker 6: me to host it, and I knew how to do

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Speaker 6: it because I've hosted so much. But it's just a

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Speaker 6: free for all. It's not like I was offered original

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Speaker 6: Hollywood Squares, but Tom Bergeron did that and and and

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Speaker 6: I didn't want to do it because it was so scripted.

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Speaker 6: But as you know from being there, this thing is

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Speaker 4: And they were telling all the you know, the artists

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Speaker 4: we're allowed to do that, because usually when someone talks,

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Speaker 6: And if you want to drink the bars right there,

439
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Speaker 6: oh yeah, half the people have been through rehabit are

440
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Speaker 6: cleaned up or never went and they're fine. They have

441
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Speaker 6: their sparkling water or diet coke. And then the every

442
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Speaker 6: I disd a commercial and then the other people are

443
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Speaker 6: just you know, Tanya Tucker's laying sideways holding Dennis Quaid's

444
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Speaker 6: dog in the middle square and I think.

445
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Speaker 3: She fell asleep too, didn't she?

446
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Speaker 6: Yeah, she did.

447
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Speaker 2: She did.

448
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,440
Speaker 6: I think the Dallas Cabalt too many. You guys woke

449
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Speaker 6: everybody up. You guys were wonderful on the show.

450
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Speaker 4: It was fun, but it was again it was it

451
00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:48,760
Speaker 4: was to you because you you drove the show and

452
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Speaker 4: you you made it. You made it fun for us

453
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Speaker 4: to sit there and we got to play against ech

454
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Speaker 4: other too and also be up on the in the squares.

455
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Speaker 4: But it was just great having you be the man

456
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Speaker 4: that ran the show. So National Squares is out now

457
00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:01,840
Speaker 4: you can watch it.

458
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,320
Speaker 3: It aired. It just aired on Friday, the first episode,

459
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Speaker 3: the first episode.

460
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Speaker 6: But they ran two episodes on November first. But now

461
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Speaker 6: it's on every Friday at eight o'clock sent No at

462
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Speaker 6: eight o'clock I know my television terminology at eight o'clock Eastern.

463
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Speaker 2: Uh.

464
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Speaker 6: And then of course you got to go seven o'clock

465
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Speaker 6: Central and then six o'clock Mountain. Mountain. People are gonna

466
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Speaker 6: watch this show. I have a feeling. And it runs

467
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Speaker 6: in my house at one am every night all night long. Yeah,

468
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Speaker 6: and it's but it's it's really fun and it's that

469
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Speaker 6: old TGIF spot. I used to have a full house.

470
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Speaker 6: So's it's like.

471
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Speaker 2: A warm blanket. You're just you love it. That's where

472
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Speaker 2: you live.

473
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Speaker 3: That's home.

474
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Speaker 6: That's home. I can't go there. Right, What is.

475
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Speaker 2: It you've done all this hosting stuff. What is it

476
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Speaker 2: when you go into something like that. What's the difference

477
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Speaker 2: between that and obviously acting? You have everything scripted? You

478
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Speaker 2: have kind of a script in your head when you

479
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 2: go out to do hosting or is it just like

480
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Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna take whatever presents itself. Now.

481
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Speaker 6: Hosting something that I don't give a lot of thought too,

482
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 6: because all the prep's been done. Acting is new every

483
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,480
Speaker 6: time you do it. You got to learn your dialogue

484
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Speaker 6: and you got it, but you have to know what

485
00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 6: it's about. Like, I love acting a lot. I host

486
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,679
Speaker 6: because it's another facility that I have. I did this

487
00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 6: show one Versus one hundred and it was on NBC

488
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 6: and it was on before a Deal or No Deal

489
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Speaker 6: and Millionaires on and then they decided to take all

490
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Speaker 6: the game shows off. They said, oh, game shows are done,

491
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Speaker 6: and then look at the past two years. I've already

492
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Speaker 6: done Alec Balbyn's Match Game. I've done to Tell the

493
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Speaker 6: Truth with Anthony Anderson because they text me personally, so

494
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, no, I gotta do it, I'm screwed.

495
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Speaker 3: So but but like if not, they'd say, you changed.

496
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Speaker 6: Right, Bob is so changed. But what's great is with

497
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,399
Speaker 6: Nashville Squares there was no script. I mean, I just

498
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Speaker 6: do stuff like you win this or she just said this.

499
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 6: Now what do you say? You know? But that's the script.

500
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Speaker 2: That's it.

501
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:58,680
Speaker 6: The rest is it's a free for all and it's

502
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,360
Speaker 6: just like hanging with friends and acting crazy and there's

503
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 6: some games involved. You know, put your hand in this

504
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 6: box and touch this, and you hope it's not poop,

505
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 6: you know. But but I mean, it's just it's it's

506
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Speaker 6: a fun, fun gig. But I'm also doing the finishing

507
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:17,959
Speaker 6: of Fuller House, which ends this year. It's the fifth season,

508
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 6: and we have the first nine episodes air before the

509
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Speaker 6: end of the year, and then in the beginning of

510
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Speaker 6: the new year or the last nine episodes, and we

511
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Speaker 6: shoot the next the very last episode in like two weeks.

512
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Speaker 2: I do it. Did you think Fuller House was going

513
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Speaker 2: to be that successful to get five seasons?

514
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Speaker 6: I thought it would get a little more. But Netflix

515
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Speaker 6: is also smart about what they do, and sometimes all

516
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Speaker 6: they need is five seasons, and sometimes ratings slip. I

517
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Speaker 6: mean they pretend sometimes they don't have, but they do.

518
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Speaker 6: And you know, I don't know how long you know,

519
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Speaker 6: The Upside Down will be on? You know, Uh, what's

520
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,439
Speaker 6: that wonderful show called you Guys? Yeah, I don't know.

521
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Speaker 4: I've been watching Dead to Me and The Politician are

522
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 4: my two favorites that are on Netflix.

523
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Speaker 6: I want to see that. Is the Paul Rudd show Netflix?

524
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 6: A new one?

525
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:08,439
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. I haven't started that yet.

526
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:09,160
Speaker 3: He has a new show.

527
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I hear it's fantastic. I hear it's unbelievable.

528
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 6: Kelly said, you got to watch it, and it's only

529
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 6: twenty minutes long, and apparently she thinks that's all I

530
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Speaker 6: can last. But that's not right. But then I've got

531
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Speaker 6: then I got the dirty video show that I did,

532
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 6: which is scripted after dark, right, yeah, after the videos

533
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 6: after Deck will come on. ABC's been saying in the

534
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Speaker 6: Winter Spring, which sounds like sounds like a Game of Thrones,

535
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Speaker 6: the Winter Spring is coming the Wildlings.

536
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Speaker 4: Yeah, because I know we talked about that last time,

537
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Speaker 4: and I didn't want to bring it up last time

538
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Speaker 4: I saw you because I didn't know what happened with it.

539
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 3: So I was just like, oh, yeah.

540
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Speaker 6: That's sweet, thank you. No, they're going to run it

541
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 6: for sure because it's uh, you know, they love it

542
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 6: and it's money, so they so they want to make money.

543
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Speaker 2: Is there anything with all the hosting stuff? Is there

544
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,159
Speaker 2: anything like on your bucket list? It's like, oh, I

545
00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 2: want to be able to host this one day or

546
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 2: is it just whatever opportunity presents itself.

547
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Speaker 6: Well, the Oscars are always something. But I got to

548
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 6: do some movie work and I also have to do

549
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 6: some directing work. And there's a movie I'm directing, a

550
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 6: documentary about Martin mull right now. But that's just something

551
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 6: because I love him and he's a great artist and

552
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 6: he was one of the first person people that I

553
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 6: ever saw. They did comedy music and he did a

554
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 6: lot of country music too. He's very very smart. He

555
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:24,640
Speaker 6: played with Glenn Campbell and he's very talented guy. And

556
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 6: you know him from like Sabrina and stuff. You know,

557
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 6: gen X Millennials, you and But I'm also working on

558
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 6: another feature thing. And as I get older and I'm

559
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,640
Speaker 6: in my seventies and eighties, I want to direct. Then

560
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 6: that's so much fun. And then I want to make

561
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 6: I want to make some really good movies. Is what

562
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 6: I want to do, and that would be I guess

563
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 6: I could be a seventy year old man hosting the Oscars. Absolutely,

564
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 6: I mean otherwise, I don't really care about hosting too much.

565
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:01,240
Speaker 6: It's just something I do, just another thing I do.

566
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:03,119
Speaker 4: Well, you're putting it out there, and that's that's the

567
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 4: best thing you can do is put it out there

568
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 4: and keep working towards.

569
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Speaker 6: It and entertain people. And entertain people whether you get

570
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 6: them involved in their lives like you guys do You

571
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 6: get people involved in their lives by you getting involved

572
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 6: in your lives and sharing yourselves with people, and then

573
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 6: you're entertaining because you know, sometimes when you bicker, it's

574
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 6: like the funniest thing in the world.

575
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Speaker 3: It's good batter People are like, it's so cringe, so cringey.

576
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,679
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, it's one of the other one or

577
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Speaker 3: the other.

578
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Speaker 6: Well, no, it's but it's honest, and it's not like

579
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 6: you're on the Bachelor or anything, you know. I mean,

580
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,959
Speaker 6: those people, it could be worse, You're right, No, it

581
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:39,439
Speaker 6: could try to make you feel better. No, I'm just

582
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 6: saying those people they come on there and they unveil

583
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 6: things that that's it for the rest of their life.

584
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 6: That moment will be remembered.

585
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 2: And their stories are produced, so they can't even control that.

586
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 6: No, it's not even them, it's not even what they think, right,

587
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 6: except for when this this this cold guy, this really

588
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 6: nice guy, he went and screw the pooch. He told

589
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 6: it ahead of time. He blew the couch. I don't

590
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,479
Speaker 6: know what he did. No, you don't want to do that.

591
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 6: That guy that was the last Batchelor. Yeah, Wellton, Colton sorry,

592
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 6: and Colton Underwood. He said ahead of time that I've

593
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 6: been seeing her and I love her and I've already

594
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,119
Speaker 6: been with her, and that caused a whole ruckus and

595
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 6: then they had to put on the Batsorette all of

596
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 6: a sudden. At the end of that episode, it was

597
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Speaker 6: it was quite troubling.

598
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 3: You know, watch since you know all this information.

599
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Speaker 6: I watched it because they did a stink preview of

600
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 6: videos after dark afterwards, so it.

601
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 3: Wasn't like required viewing caps. Bob Sagan, the real.

602
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 6: Truth, the man that can't go home.

603
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Speaker 4: You know, you have a million other places you've got

604
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Speaker 4: to go. So thanks for stopping in to say hey

605
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Speaker 4: to us, and well.

606
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,719
Speaker 6: I love you guys, and yeah, I'm going to come

607
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 6: back to Nashville because the show CMT is really excited

608
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 6: about it and they think we're going to be shooting

609
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Speaker 6: in Nashville.

610
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Speaker 3: So that be amazing.

611
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Speaker 6: That would be amazing, and you'll be on it all

612
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,360
Speaker 6: the time, and then we can go to dinner and we'll.

613
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 3: Do dinner all the time and it'll be great.

614
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Speaker 6: And we'll leave cars at ballet.

615
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Speaker 2: It'll be great.

616
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Speaker 3: That we love you, Bob, thanks for.

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Speaker 6: Having me, love you back, love you, love you, miss

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659
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Speaker 2: He's the best.

660
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661
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 2: You know What's It's actually a perfect segue into what

662
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 2: I want to talk about because with Bob, it's just

663
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 2: his name. Just when it's said or spoken, it just

664
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 2: registers so much nostalgia right for everybody. I feel like,

665
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 2: from from fifty to ten. You know, he covers that

666
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 2: like such a wide gap of generations, which is pretty

667
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 2: impressive when you like think about it that so many

668
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 2: people of so many ages know his name and what

669
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 2: he's done. But you know, I was thinking of nostalgia recently,

670
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 2: and do you ever have those things? It could be

671
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 2: a song, it could be a movie. This may sound

672
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 2: really stupid, nothing stupid to a lot of people, but

673
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 2: I felt it when I was playing my little handheld

674
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: video game thing the other night. Just do you ever

675
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 2: have something that's so much so nostalgic, it's it's almost,

676
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's almost uncomfortable, or like you hear

677
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: a song or watch a movie and you're just like,

678
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 2: this reminds me almost takes me back too much to

679
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 2: that moment where I just don't even want to like

680
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 2: listen to it or.

681
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 3: Or what was what was your thing?

682
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 2: Well, no, no, it was this legend of Zelda linked

683
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: to the past from Super Nintendo when it seems.

684
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 3: Like nodding as sad.

685
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, when I was a kid, and it just

686
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 2: every time, like this opening sequence came on and all

687
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: this stuff, it just brought me back to being a

688
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 2: kid so much that it was I just felt like

689
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 2: the the my brain waves just kind of like the

690
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 2: sparks flying, and that just super nostalgic feeling. It was

691
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 2: a good feeling, but it was almost I could just

692
00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 2: feel it so much. I was like, God, this is

693
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 2: kind of uncomfortable because it just I feel like I'm

694
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 2: ten again. But then on the other hand, there's things

695
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 2: like there's this song you'd heard it if you played it. No,

696
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 2: it's what it's like by Everlast Classic song. So that

697
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 2: song I haven't listened to since. This friend of mine

698
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 2: that I grew up with from the time we were

699
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 2: in third grade through high school. He died in a

700
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 2: car accident our senior year of high school, a month

701
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 2: before his eighteenth birthday. And that was like our jam

702
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 2: when we were in elementary school, Like, we just listened

703
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 2: to the hell out of that song. So it's one

704
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 2: of those things that Adam foot and you know, we

705
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 2: grew up together and even in high school we didn't

706
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 2: run with the same crowd, but we're always good buddies.

707
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 2: It was one of those you know what I mean,

708
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 2: Like we always had our childhood and it's just one

709
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: of those things where it's so painful, the nostalgia. I

710
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: just can't have any part of it. I can't sit

711
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: through it. Do you have anything like that?

712
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 3: I mean, well, thank you for sharing yell that was.

713
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 3: That must be hard.

714
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 4: I can't imagine losing a friend that young, like just

715
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 4: thinking back, like how because it death scares me, not

716
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 4: to get like deep into death talk, but that death

717
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 4: scares me in general just thinking about it, especially now

718
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,479
Speaker 4: that we have kids too. But I can't imagine, like

719
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 4: I remember obviously when we lost my grandpa, but to

720
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 4: lose a friend, I don't know. I just like, at

721
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 4: that such a young age, how was that to deal with?

722
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 2: You know? It was uh, And I've been very fortunate

723
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 2: where I haven't had a deal with much loss My

724
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 2: grandma when I was young, but I was too young

725
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 2: to really process. I was like fourth grade.

726
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, when I feel like in grandparents like it's sad

727
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 4: as it was my grandpa Dad, Like you know they're older,

728
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 4: right right right.

729
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 2: I haven't had many sudden deaths, only really my friend

730
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 2: and my aunt a few years back. But uh, it

731
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 2: was it was really difficult. It was hard to comprehend.

732
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 2: It's hard to understand. It's one of the things.

733
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 6: You know.

734
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 2: It's interesting at his at his funeral, there's this other

735
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 2: friend of ours, Eric, that it was like the three

736
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 2: of us in elementary school, Like we just rode our

737
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 2: bikes together, like we did everything together, and same kind

738
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 2: of deal. Eric was like in a different crowd. Still

739
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 2: hung with Adham a lot more in high school. But

740
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 2: it's like when Eric and I saw each other at

741
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 2: the funeral, like we had this hug and this embrace

742
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 2: of that was just like unmatched because of just like

743
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:35,479
Speaker 2: everything behind it and growing up together, and I don't know,

744
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 2: it was hard, man, It's just one of those things,

745
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 2: you know. And he was an only child, so I

746
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 2: have so much empathy for his parents and and everything.

747
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 2: But you know, I know there's a lot of people

748
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,719
Speaker 2: out there that have had to suffer way more loss.

749
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: You can't measure someone's pain, No, you can't.

750
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 2: You can't. It's all about what you're exposed to and everything.

751
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 2: But no, yeah, it sucked well.

752
00:33:58,400 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 1: And that song came on and you had to turn it.

753
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, anytime I hear that song, have to turn it

754
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 2: off ever since, ever since then, ever since I was

755
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 2: eighteen years old. You know. It's funny. My mom had

756
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 2: a similar thing where the house I grew up in.

757
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 2: I lived in the same house from the time I

758
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 2: was four until I was sixteen seventeen, and so it's

759
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,720
Speaker 2: the house I grew up in, and it's near it's

760
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 2: in a different neighborhood, but near the one that my

761
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 2: parents live in now. And my mom same thing. She

762
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: was kind of like driving by, She's outside looking at it,

763
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 2: and I think the people that lived there had just

764
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 2: gotten home, and she was like, I'm so sorry. I

765
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:36,959
Speaker 2: don't mean to be creepy. I just, you know, raised

766
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 2: my kids in this house and we're just you know,

767
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 2: I was just you guys did a lot of changes.

768
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:41,879
Speaker 2: So I was just looking at it, and they're like, oh,

769
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 2: you want to come on in, And they let my

770
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 2: mom in and they let her take pictures and she

771
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 2: was saying the dream. Yeah. She sent it pictures to

772
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,880
Speaker 2: me and my dad and my brother and my sister.

773
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 2: My brother doesn't remember it, but my sister and I

774
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 2: were like, that's so crazy, it's so weird, that's nuts.

775
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 4: I my aunt Susan and uncle Roy live across the

776
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 4: street from the house that I grew up in from

777
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 4: three to whenever my parents got divorced after that since seventeen,

778
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 4: and I want to go in so bad, but no

779
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 4: one lives there anymore.

780
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 2: No one at all.

781
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 4: Well, apparently it ended up being like I think they

782
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 4: were doing like meth or something in the house. But

783
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 4: my brother and I talked about because it went on

784
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 4: the market, and so I wanted to buy it because

785
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:36,840
Speaker 4: it's you know, or deal. Yeah, you know, but I

786
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:38,879
Speaker 4: think someone bought it and then they just run it out.

787
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 4: But gosh, I I.

788
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 3: Would love to.

789
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 4: I don't know it's just I would love to go

790
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 4: in the house because we had this little gremlin room

791
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 4: that it was called the Gremlin Room and it was

792
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 4: but in the gremlin room as we had you know

793
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 4: into the wood where you see how tall you were,

794
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 4: So we did that in my closet. So I just

795
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 4: would love to see if that was that's still there. Yeah,

796
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 4: and like bring Joel there.

797
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 3: I was like crazy, crazy, interesting.

798
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,439
Speaker 1: And we try to be like objective about these things,

799
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: like it's just a house, it's just four walls. It's just.

800
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 4: That Miranda Lambert song, the house that built me. There's

801
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 4: something about going back to that house that it's that

802
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,879
Speaker 4: built you. And the memory is from you know, maybe

803
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 4: your parents fighting. I mean for me, I mean some

804
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,879
Speaker 4: of the my nostalgias, unfortunately, are all pretty negative. And

805
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 4: that's what kind of bums me out when I think

806
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 4: about certain things and it's you know, for my house,

807
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 4: it's like my parents fighting or arguing or there's I

808
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 4: hate I hate that, but it's there's still something that

809
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:38,360
Speaker 4: that house built you.

810
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the bad it's I can't remember what I

811
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 2: did two days ago, but I can remember twenty years ago.

812
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,720
Speaker 2: And you know what I mean when I was playing

813
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 2: catch with my dad in the front yard on our street.

814
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 2: And our street we're like flat, but then it gradually

815
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 2: goes downhill. I overthrew my dad and he had to

816
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 2: go running down after ball. He's kind of pissed, but

817
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 2: then he chucked the ball from I don't know, felt

818
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 2: like a football field away, like a pop fire. I

819
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 2: go up to catch it. It's off the tip of

820
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 2: my glove and hits me right in the right eye,

821
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 2: and I had this huge shiner and I go in.

822
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 2: I mean it was old fashioned, like I put a

823
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:21,280
Speaker 2: steak on it, like straight up, had a sand lot

824
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 2: like it was. It was unreal.

825
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a smell that I don't I cannot and

826
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 4: have not been able to place. But it was the

827
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 4: same smell that I smelled in the Romanian hospital when

828
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 4: I was sick I had surgery. So every time I

829
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 4: smell that now it brings me. I get like a

830
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 4: pit in my stomach thinking about that experience. Terrifying, I know,

831
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 4: but I'm like, I can't figure it's some kind of

832
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 4: cleaning solution. If I walk into any other bathroom or

833
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 4: I can smell it and I'm like Romania.

834
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: They say the smells are the most effective at bringing

835
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 1: it back to a memory.

836
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that makes total sense.

837
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 2: Yeah for sure, because it's.

838
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 4: Just wolf crazy. Well, way to walk down memory lane, guys.

839
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 2: Also, with the emails, I want to hear some of

840
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 2: those two take emails.

841
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 1: We have some really nice ones this week. Do it.

842
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: This is from Sarah, she said. First of all, let

843
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,280
Speaker 1: me just give you Danielle's she saw on your Instagram story,

844
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 1: the Jolie and Jace cupps that you reposted from someone else.

845
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 3: Oh, yes, you can get them at Dollar General.

846
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 2: There you go. Where do you get them?

847
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: I'd love to purchase them. And I love your show

848
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:29,360
Speaker 1: and I hope you get the People's Choice Award. You

849
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: guys deserve it. Sorry, Beca and Tanya, I love you

850
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 1: guys too, Love you too.

851
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 3: Back on Antonia. That's very sweet, Thank you.

852
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 1: Sarah says. My husband Brian and I are both thirty one.

853
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: We've been married for five years and we've had her

854
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: ups and downs. Until last May, I was really happy

855
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: in my marriage till my husband expressed to me in

856
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,919
Speaker 1: a counseling session that he was unfaithful five times within

857
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:52,760
Speaker 1: the first year of our marriage. While I was pregnant

858
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 1: with our first child. He also admitted he was he

859
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: had attempted to act out while we were pregnant with

860
00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 1: our second baby in the periods in between, compensated with

861
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:04,760
Speaker 1: pornography and almost ninety thousand dollars in online shopping. This summar,

862
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: he filed for bankruptcy and we filed for separation. He

863
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: then left for an inpatient treatment center for sex addiction.

864
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 1: He comes home November ninth, after completing seventy five days.

865
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Speaker 1: By all accounts, he's doing well, he's progressing, he's giving

866
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 1: it as all. But I am so scared to come

867
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 1: home and to find out what that new normal will

868
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: look like, and I'm so scared of being hurt again.

869
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Speaker 1: I just wanted to say I appreciate your courage. It

870
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Speaker 1: is a daily kind of courage to share openly all

871
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: the things we didn't choose for everyone to find out either.

872
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,839
Speaker 1: My husband was our church worship leader. If you're ever

873
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: near Asheville, North Carolina, let's grab dinner. Otherwise, keep doing y'all,

874
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 1: praying for your family, your marriage, and continued to recovery.

875
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 4: I mean would love to sit down with you guys. Yeah, love,

876
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 4: Thank you for your email that's beyond sweet Sarah, thank you,

877
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 4: But I will say it's pretty amazing he did tell you.

878
00:39:56,200 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 2: That's very Yeah, that's something to when you're having a

879
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 2: hard time hanging on to hope and having those fears.

880
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 2: The fact that he got to the point where he

881
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 2: had just couldn't live with that double life anymore and

882
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 2: he told you without you discovering, I mean, that's that

883
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 2: goes a long way.

884
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 1: Is that a sign that he doesn't want to be

885
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: that guy anymore?

886
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 2: For sure? For sure, that's it's a sign of it's

887
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 2: taking contrary action, which is why you know all the

888
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:30,359
Speaker 2: stuff that Jane and I were dealing with, you know,

889
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 2: with me deleting and not telling. It's all about taking

890
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 2: contrary action, doing something that you wouldn't have done in

891
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 2: the past. So that's something that's we know. It's tough,

892
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,320
Speaker 2: and it is, as Sarah said, is a daily battle.

893
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 2: You have your ups and downs, but hang your head

894
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 2: on that at least, and all you can do is,

895
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 2: like Jana says, she trusts me today until I give

896
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 2: her a.

897
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 4: Reason not to well, and he needs to be like

898
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 4: showing up and stuff too. Because the hardest, the hardest

899
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 4: recovery we've had was when he was gone in treatment.

900
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,240
Speaker 4: It was the two years he got home from treatment.

901
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 4: That's been the hardest adjustment and it just takes time.

902
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 4: And it's but again, if two people are willing to work,

903
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 4: I know I say that all the time, but if

904
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 4: you know, you just got to keep fighting it out.

905
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 4: But we will also be praying for y'all's marriage. And

906
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 4: thank you for sharing your story.

907
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you.

908
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 1: And well, so she's she's it's okay, she's scared, but

909
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: it's okay to be optimistic.

910
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 4: To absolutely, but it's both are totally fine and normal. Yeah,

911
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 4: I'm still scared. You know, he's still scared. You know,

912
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 4: you're right. Yeah, it's just those Yeah.

913
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: But it's been great listening to you on this podcast

914
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 1: honestly today specifically, like you guys just see seem you're

915
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: in good moods, you're happy, you're interacting in a sweet way,

916
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 1: and you see it just seems like a very solid

917
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 1: relationship today. The way you're talking to each other about

918
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 1: each other's feelings and respecting each other's thoughts. I think

919
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: this is I'm very encouraged by today's podcast.

920
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 3: Thanks Mark, thank you. I think we're good, right, now

921
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 3: we agree?

922
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 6: Right now?

923
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 2: Hi, ive been yes especially coming off a perfect day yesterday,

924
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 2: a no hitter, a perfect game, whatever you're gonna call it.

925
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 2: I had one of those yesterday.

926
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 3: A little goes a long way. That's right, right?

927
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 2: We have any more emails?

928
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sabrina. I was involved in a four year relationship

929
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: that ended when I discovered my now ex boyfriend was

930
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: cheating on me by soliciting sex from other women on Craigslist.

931
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,759
Speaker 1: It's been five years since then. I've moved on. My

932
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 1: ex is now married to someone else. I'm with a

933
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: guy who's honest, caring, and sweet. He's given me no

934
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 1: reason to worry about him being on faithful. I think

935
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 1: you can see where this is going. I've been with

936
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Speaker 1: him for a little over a year, but it's extremely

937
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 1: hard for me to shake those feelings that I'm not

938
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 1: good enough and that history will repeat itself With my

939
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,959
Speaker 1: new boyfriend. It has started so many unnecessary arguments because

940
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: he does not understand how easily triggered I am. How

941
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: do you shake those thoughts in the back of your mind?

942
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 1: How do you explain to someone who has never been

943
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 1: through huge earth shattering infidelity that what you need is

944
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 1: time and reassurance.

945
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 4: That's hard because the other person probably is like, I

946
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 4: didn't do that, though, so stop putting me in that

947
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 4: person's position, right, But at the same time, I think

948
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 4: that person needs to be gentle and have empathy for

949
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 4: the person that you know is having trouble with it.

950
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 4: But at the same time, it's how Sabrina you're delivering

951
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 4: it to him because you have to come from a

952
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 4: vulnerable place to be like, Hey, I'm so sorry, I'm

953
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 4: getting triggered. I know it has nothing to do with you,

954
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 4: it's just my past. Because if you're communicating from a

955
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,399
Speaker 4: vulnerable place, he's going to be able to be more.

956
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 4: He's going to lean into empathy and not be on

957
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 4: the attack or the defense of Well that's not me though,

958
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 4: because if you're leaning in vulnerable, he'll lean in with empathy,

959
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 4: is my opinion.

960
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's very well said, Honey. I think

961
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 2: that was really well said.

962
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 3: Thanks Mark.

963
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't really know what to say after that,

964
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 2: because it was pretty spot on.

965
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: Give it to us again.

966
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 4: Lean in with vulnerability and well, no, you know, be

967
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 4: vulnerable and then hopefully then your partner will lean in

968
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 4: with empathy. So you guys both need to lean into

969
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,240
Speaker 4: each other, but just one with vulnerability and one with empathy.

970
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all about validating that this has nothing to

971
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 2: do with him, that you do not accuse him of anything.

972
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:19,359
Speaker 2: Because if you start if Sabrina started saying, well where

973
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,319
Speaker 2: were you? Or let me see your phone? If I

974
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 2: was in new relationship, I'd yeah.

975
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Speaker 4: But I could also see how like in her situation,

976
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 4: the same we didn't work out, I would be like, man,

977
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,439
Speaker 4: this is I don't trust anybody for sure.

978
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 2: I was just I was going to say that when

979
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:35,800
Speaker 2: Marcus Rena, I was like, could you imagine if you it'd.

980
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 4: Be really tough, right and I would need I would,

981
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 4: but I would be very I was thinking, I'm like, okay,

982
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:41,879
Speaker 4: what would I say to a new guy. I would say, look,

983
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 4: I've this is what I've been through, and I'm going

984
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 4: to I of course I know you, that's not you,

985
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 4: but I'm scared.

986
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: So you know, just if you be vulnerable, Yeah.

987
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 2: Like Jana said, be vulnerable. Guys want to be your

988
00:44:56,920 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 2: night and shining armor. So if you lead with that vulnerability,

989
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:03,800
Speaker 2: like especially with her saying how caring and honest and

990
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 2: sweet he's been. I optimistic that he'll lean into that

991
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 2: challenge and be that you know night and shining armor

992
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: and be like I got you, like there's nothing to

993
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,439
Speaker 2: worry about, and reassure you in any way that you need.

994
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 4: And at the end of the day too, he might

995
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 4: who knows anybody has the capability of doing it, And

996
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 4: that just means that, Okay, it wasn't the right one

997
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 4: and if that's not what you want, and then move on.

998
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,719
Speaker 4: Just because people get their heartbroken. I think that's what

999
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 4: bothers me that I want to get my heart broken again.

1000
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 4: Well then you're gonna be lonely forever. Then because you're

1001
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 4: gonna get your heartbroken, you're gonna get your heart broken

1002
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 4: ten more times probably, but.

1003
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 2: Also maybe not.

1004
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:39,280
Speaker 3: Maybe not.

1005
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: Great emails, that great show.

1006
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 4: Yeah then okay, next up is people's choice towards. So

1007
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 4: I'm just excited to go. It'll be a good time.

1008
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 2: This a great time.

1009
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm pumped to have a date night with you. Yeah,

1010
00:45:58,080 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 3: all right, good.

1011
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 1: Luck you guys. When the I heard a word last.

1012
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 3: Year, no chance, but it's fine.

1013
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: Come on now, you don't know, it's fine.

1014
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:09,800
Speaker 2: So I just you know, do something to go viral.

1015
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 2: And no matter who they announced, I just go up

1016
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 2: to accept the award.

1017
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, see, you guys are doing well, like going

1018
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: viral the past month or so, so good job on.

1019
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 2: That you've been going.

1020
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 3: It's off for the votes, right, I told yeah, all

1021
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 3: it with.

1022
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 2: This Kanye thing. I told Jane, I was like, you

1023
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 2: got it like a devil's triangle between me, Kanye and

1024
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 2: Olivia Copo. They're probably both like, who is this guy.

1025
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 3: Saying his name is Michael.

1026
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: I'm on their radar. You are now public enemy number one.

1027
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 3: All right, guys, daily challenge lean in.

1028
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Speaker 2: You're so inspiring