Speaker 1: Hello, guys, welcome back to the second part, Part two
Speaker 1: of my conversation with a Medio Sanchez, who happens to
Speaker 1: be my husband. Hi, babe, Hi, welcome back, Thank you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So this part we're going to talk about how life
Speaker 1: has been as a married couple. A lot of people
Speaker 1: always ask me, do you feel different? Does it feel different?
Speaker 1: Is he different? Are you different? So we're going to
Speaker 1: answer all those questions here. You want to talk about
Speaker 1: all of it, all of it? Are you open to
Speaker 1: be one hundred percent honest?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 1: All right, because he's more of a reserved person, which
Speaker 1: I like, and I'm an open book. As you guys know.
Speaker 1: These are questions that my producers put together from questions
Speaker 1: that you guys have asked. So we're going to start
Speaker 1: off with, all right, Yeah, we got married in July
Speaker 1: July fifth, So how many months is that?
Speaker 2: Four?
Speaker 1: Four? Okay? I don't even know. And then we were
Speaker 1: talking about last night how long I would have been,
Speaker 1: like how pregnant I would have been right now?
Speaker 2: I think like six months, six months?
Speaker 1: Yeah, So AnyWho, how do you feel about that situation? Actually,
Speaker 1: now about the midscourage, Yeah, we haven't really talked about.
Speaker 2: It, Yeah, we haven't. To me, I really see it
Speaker 2: more as like a learning experience. Obviously, in the moment,
Speaker 2: it felt super tragic, but I think that we handled it,
Speaker 2: handled it very well together. Yeah, so like it. I
Speaker 2: don't feel that it's like something that's like draining or
Speaker 2: like weighing me down in any sort of way, because
Speaker 2: it kind of gave me a little bit more hope
Speaker 2: for a future rather than it being like a negative thing.
Speaker 2: Obviously it was sad, but I think we worked through
Speaker 2: it pretty well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think now I just and you know,
Speaker 1: I feel like my body was saying that we can
Speaker 1: and you know, it just it really gave us a
Speaker 1: glimpse of how it will be, you know. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think everything happened and the way it was supposed
Speaker 1: to happen, although again it was tragic and very painful,
Speaker 1: as you guys know because I shared it, But yeah,
Speaker 1: I wanted to check in with you because I haven't
Speaker 1: really talked to you about it.
Speaker 2: But honestly, when I think of it, I think of
Speaker 2: like how happy you were when when we were, and
Speaker 2: like how happy we were. I don't know, it felt
Speaker 2: it felt very exciting, like driving to the doctor going
Speaker 2: and just spending time together and like think planning things,
Speaker 2: buying things, like it just felt it felt fun.
Speaker 1: I was a different person for you.
Speaker 2: Sure you were you to me, you seemed like a
Speaker 2: little girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, for sure, I was calm. I
Speaker 1: didn't if I'm upset me. I didn't want anything to like.
Speaker 1: It was just I was a really good, pregnant prier.
Speaker 1: It was great whatever. Okay, So anyways, okay, so yeah,
Speaker 1: it does marriage feel different for you?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Wow? Okay, well I'm curious.
Speaker 2: Wow, it's weird because like before you're marriage, you're just like, oh,
Speaker 2: it's a legal thing and a piece of paper, and
Speaker 2: it's like and it's it's not like that. I don't
Speaker 2: even think of that part of it. Obviously, the ceremony
Speaker 2: and the actual you know, our wedding day was very magical.
Speaker 2: We had you know, our famili's there. Yeah, even though
Speaker 2: I kind of like blacked them out and just focused
Speaker 2: on you. It like it was so fun. It was
Speaker 2: so fun that like looking into your eyes, like seeing
Speaker 2: that part like that was the most amazing day ever.
Speaker 2: And so I think of that and that was the
Speaker 2: beginning of it. You know, we we started off our
Speaker 2: marriage with a wonderful day and and then these like
Speaker 2: feelings come that are just different, Like I when I'm like,
Speaker 2: you're my wife, like that just sinks into my body
Speaker 2: a lot different now than when we were just engaged.
Speaker 2: I definitely feel more secure with our relationship, with feeling
Speaker 2: like I have a big responsibility now where I'm like,
Speaker 2: this is our this is our marriage. I need to
Speaker 2: take care of it. It's the it's the number one
Speaker 2: priority in my life. And I feel like you're my wife.
Speaker 2: I have to protect you, I have to take care
Speaker 2: of you. And it's just that that feeling just grew
Speaker 2: to another level.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when people ask me like is it different.
Speaker 1: I was explained to my friend Brianna. She's like, is
Speaker 1: it different? How do you feel? I'm like, it doesn't
Speaker 1: feel different, like in a negative way. If anything, I've
Speaker 1: noticed that you feel more like you've been more vocal
Speaker 1: about protecting me, like on tour or with things like
Speaker 1: and I like that, like it's amplified where it's like
Speaker 1: I need to take care of her, this is the
Speaker 1: person I need to protect and you have been like
Speaker 1: I've also seen that now that you're my husband in
Speaker 1: the respect is different outside like people on the team
Speaker 1: or you know what I mean, like, and I like that,
Speaker 1: but also with you, I feel like you're more like
Speaker 1: I'm a husband. No, like this is not going to happen.
Speaker 1: And I do need someone like that in my life
Speaker 1: because sometimes I'll protect myself, but I'm so busy and
Speaker 1: focus and like like honed in that I don't protect
Speaker 1: myself in certain situations and you do.
Speaker 2: Yes, I think there's a lot of things that are
Speaker 2: there's a lot of moving parts in your life that
Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes it's different. It would be difficult
Speaker 2: for anybody, but for you to like kind of keep
Speaker 2: tabs on everything without things getting you know, passing by
Speaker 2: without without you catching them, and so like I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm like your second pair of eyes sometimes for
Speaker 2: surecause yeah, it is my responsibility to take care of
Speaker 2: you and to like catch things. And I expect the
Speaker 2: same thing on your end, you know, like if if
Speaker 2: I'm doing something like I would, I would, I would
Speaker 2: expect for you to be like, hey, like did you
Speaker 2: notice this or how do you feel about this? You know,
Speaker 2: and it's the yeah. And with everyone else too, I
Speaker 2: feel like they're not like nothing's changed attitude wise from
Speaker 2: other people in a bad way, and not even in
Speaker 2: a drastic way. There's kind of subtle, but like you
Speaker 2: do feel the sense of like people giving you our
Speaker 2: places as a married couple, for sure, I can feel.
Speaker 1: That absolutely because I think it's you know, they're still
Speaker 1: there dating or they're they're engaged, but then like marriage
Speaker 1: like solidifies things, yeah, you know in every way. And
Speaker 1: I was very scared. I was afraid of you changing.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, is he going to feel more
Speaker 1: confident and that in the good way? Like is it
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? It's you know, I would
Speaker 1: like that that you feel more confident in that way
Speaker 1: that we just talked about. But like sometimes people or
Speaker 1: past experiences, people were like, oh, you're my wife, you
Speaker 1: need to do this, like this is your obligation, this
Speaker 1: is your duty as my wife, and it's like way
Speaker 1: to second. And that's one thing that we talked about
Speaker 1: early on that I'm like, I don't want to feel
Speaker 1: that way. I wanted to come out of I want
Speaker 1: to do things because I'm your wife and because I'm monastic,
Speaker 1: because I want to do it out of my heart,
Speaker 1: not because oh, that's your obligation. And I don't feel
Speaker 1: that way towards you either.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll be you know I've told you this
Speaker 2: in private before, but like I'm pretty honest, like in
Speaker 2: your lifetime, you know you've you've lost your mother, you've
Speaker 2: done this before marriage, and you know in your life
Speaker 2: you've lost both of those things. And so for me,
Speaker 2: I think of that as like, if she's lost these
Speaker 2: two big things in her life, why am I so permanent?
Speaker 2: Or why why would I Why can't I get away
Speaker 2: with anything? And I don't believe that I'm not going
Speaker 2: to change after we get married, because I know that
Speaker 2: if i'm if I become someone that doesn't deserve you,
Speaker 2: you have no problem with letting that piece go in
Speaker 2: your life. And so for me, you know, not that
Speaker 2: I needed that, but it holds me accountable. It'll be
Speaker 2: like I just I need to be the best man
Speaker 2: to you, married or not. So it's it's what I'm
Speaker 2: going to do and I'm not. You're fully capable of
Speaker 2: walking away from anything in your life that you need
Speaker 2: to walk away from, and I'm no exception. So it's
Speaker 2: it's something that I just I need to be a
Speaker 2: man of my word. And you've helped me do that
Speaker 2: in my life a lot.
Speaker 1: So I love you and that's why I said, like
Speaker 1: the song Casia passando, for it to continue to happen,
Speaker 1: because you know, because I have been married before, I
Speaker 1: learned a lot from that situation. I learned what I want,
Speaker 1: what I don't want, and what I have to change
Speaker 1: and how I have to be different to make this
Speaker 1: marriage work, because I don't want to do this over
Speaker 1: and over, like you know what I mean, Like I
Speaker 1: don't even like to say the D word. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean, And I don't mean you know, dick,
Speaker 1: I mean like you know the other word. We don't
Speaker 1: even like to say that. We've told ourselves that we're
Speaker 1: not going to bring it up even if we have
Speaker 1: the worst argument. We both decided if that were to
Speaker 1: ever happen, God forbid, it would be a certain situation
Speaker 1: that we talked about that I don't even want to
Speaker 1: bring that into the space. But I think on the
Speaker 1: other side of that token, like what you said that
Speaker 1: because I have been through this, like you feel like
Speaker 1: you know, I have been through a lot of things,
Speaker 1: and I do feel that God will give me the
Speaker 1: strength if I need to walk away from anything or anyone,
Speaker 1: and on my end as a wife, it makes me
Speaker 1: feel like I have to. I want to take care
Speaker 1: of him because he's a great guy, and I want
Speaker 1: to be a good wife and make sure that I
Speaker 1: please him and that I don't disappoint him because I
Speaker 1: also don't want anyone else to have him. Ever. I
Speaker 1: want to be your first and only wife forever.
Speaker 2: That's it, that's the plan.
Speaker 1: So what do I have to do as a woman
Speaker 1: because I don't want anyone to have you? So he's
Speaker 1: completely aliment's girls, don't even try me. You are good
Speaker 1: to me, and I am good to you. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm a great wife, am.
Speaker 2: I Yeah, that was going to be the next thing
Speaker 2: I was going.
Speaker 1: To tell you, tell me what I'm so.
Speaker 2: Oh honestly, Like I think about it every day, Like
Speaker 2: you are such an amazing wife. Like yes, you're a
Speaker 2: great partner, you're a great you're a great girlfriend, great fiance,
Speaker 2: but like you've stepped into this role and like like
Speaker 2: it's just another feeling when you do something for me. Now,
Speaker 2: if you make me breakfast or you do this or anything,
Speaker 2: it just feels way different now that you're my wife.
Speaker 2: I don't know how to explain it sometimes, but you're
Speaker 2: just I think the intentions behind it is what I
Speaker 2: feel because you do things to truly like make my
Speaker 2: baby my day better, or make me feel good, or
Speaker 2: just because you want to show me love, and it's
Speaker 2: the intentions are I feel are or when you do
Speaker 2: something it's because you absolutely want to do it.
Speaker 1: I have to feel it in my heart for sure.
Speaker 2: And that love transfers over to me and it feels amazing. Honestly,
Speaker 2: I think it.
Speaker 1: I always say this, and again it might sound cliche
Speaker 1: bla blah blah blah, but I really, really really feel
Speaker 1: that everything happens for a reason. And I think that
Speaker 1: I had to go through that situation to learn to grow,
Speaker 1: to prepare me for this for us, because we have arguments.
Speaker 1: Of course, like every relationship, we have arguments, we have disagreements,
Speaker 1: we're not always on the same page. I've learned that
Speaker 1: it's okay. He has his own mind, his own feelings.
Speaker 1: I can't expect him to be like me. I have
Speaker 1: to respect how he is and he respects how I am.
Speaker 1: It's like I don't own this person, and I used
Speaker 1: to think that I owned the person that this is
Speaker 1: and that's not okay in any circumstance, in any situation.
Speaker 1: So it's like he's his own individual. I am too,
Speaker 1: and we've come together to love each other and to
Speaker 1: respect each other and every day try our best. And
Speaker 1: all I can do is pray that it continues to
Speaker 1: get better and that we both continue vice versa, not
Speaker 1: just one side. I can't expect him to court me
Speaker 1: and to make me fall in love and romance me.
Speaker 1: I also have to romance him, you know, Like I
Speaker 1: planned our last date night. I was like, I said, hey,
Speaker 1: let's go on date night, and I want to go here,
Speaker 1: and we'll go there, and he paid, But but I
Speaker 1: planned it. But it was really fun. Yes it was,
Speaker 1: and we really needed it. And I think that's important
Speaker 1: to keep doing that stuff, like leaving each other little
Speaker 1: notes randomly, like you know, just doing the things that
Speaker 1: made us fall in love. And it's yes, it's young, guys,
Speaker 1: it's a young relationship. It's we're newlyweds, I mean a
Speaker 1: young marriage. We're newly weeds. But it's keeping that in mind, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I also feel that a lot of the
Speaker 2: things that we do have been a part of our
Speaker 2: relationship since day one. And so I think just everything
Speaker 2: that we already built, the foundation that we built, is
Speaker 2: just being enhanced now by marriage. Yeah, and so it's
Speaker 2: not like it's anything new. It's not like we haven't
Speaker 2: done these things for each other before. Now they just
Speaker 2: we just have to continue to do it. You know,
Speaker 2: the date night was beautiful the other day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 2: We really needed that. You cried the entire time tears
Speaker 2: of joy. But you cried tears of joy.
Speaker 1: I was just I was I was so like last
Speaker 1: week was I don't know, I was going through a lot,
Speaker 1: but yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean it's just confirmation that you know, we're
Speaker 2: each other's best friends and we're I mean, you're my
Speaker 2: favorite person to be with every day and yeah, and
Speaker 2: like sitting at that date night, I'm just like, it's
Speaker 2: just us talking. We're wor with each other every day.
Speaker 2: Like how deep of a conversation can we really have
Speaker 2: all the time? But it just happens. It happens naturally.
Speaker 1: It was tight. It was tight. Yeah. Do you like
Speaker 1: calling me your wife like saying I love my wife? Yeah? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: me too.
Speaker 2: I remember doing it like the first week and I
Speaker 2: and people are like, oh, I'm like, yeah, yeah, that's why.
Speaker 1: I remember you used to say that, like I cannot
Speaker 1: wait to call you my wife. Yeah, and now I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's my husband. You supposal like this and it feels
Speaker 1: it feels good. It feels it doesn't feel forced, it
Speaker 1: doesn't feel it just it just feels good. Yeah. Just
Speaker 1: And I really really pray that all of you get
Speaker 1: to experience real love and someone that values you and
Speaker 1: you know equally though, because there's nothing like being in
Speaker 1: a relationship where the two people really value and appreciate
Speaker 1: each other and do nice things for each other. And yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think that's another thing. Like I we were
Speaker 1: hanging out with your mom yesterday, your mom and your grandma.
Speaker 1: It's like a like a thing that's like our thing.
Speaker 1: Our favorite thing to do is that at least once
Speaker 1: a week every two weeks, like really go out and
Speaker 1: take them to lunch and hang out. And it's like
Speaker 1: nice to be able to have that to have Like cause, dude,
Speaker 1: watching this show, we're like like, it's really we need
Speaker 1: to finish it. By the way, but is I love
Speaker 1: what is it called I Love a Mama's Boy? Yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: I was like, thank god, I don't have a mother
Speaker 1: in law like that. Dude, this show if you guys
Speaker 1: have not watched it, it's on Netflix, crazy y'all. Like,
Speaker 1: and I love his mom, and I was thinking about
Speaker 1: I was like, dude, it's great. I don't have to
Speaker 1: worry about siblings. My siblings are cool though, yes they
Speaker 1: love you, but I don't have to worry about sisters.
Speaker 1: Imagine if like his sisters were like b words and like,
Speaker 1: his mom is great. Her and I get along perfectly.
Speaker 1: I asked her to call off work and she did,
Speaker 1: but she was kind of feeling sick, you know, so
Speaker 1: she called just in case watching from work, but but
Speaker 1: we hung out. It was nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I it feels good that I feel like I
Speaker 2: get to like share my mom with you and like
Speaker 2: she she watches over both of us as as we're
Speaker 2: both her kids obviously, and like the so awesome. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it brings me joy to like to be able you
Speaker 2: get to experience that and have you know that you
Speaker 2: know that you have someone genuine and who really loves you,
Speaker 2: who really cares about you, because.
Speaker 1: That would be super difficult if your mom didn't like me.
Speaker 2: Huh, yeah, no, for sure. Likes are so close. She
Speaker 2: always asked for, you know, our our flight number so
Speaker 2: she could track our flights access even if you fo.
Speaker 1: My location out. Uh huh. She's like, I need your fight,
Speaker 1: your fighting.
Speaker 2: Phone, even if I'm not flying with you, dude.
Speaker 1: And I turn on my phone and right away, oh
Speaker 1: good you landed.
Speaker 2: Thank god.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn. She's like really, So she's like, she's
Speaker 1: it's really cool. It's really cool because now she has
Speaker 1: a daughter. Yeah, you know, it's.
Speaker 2: It's pretty dope, the daughter that she never had.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. So do we fight less or more
Speaker 1: now that we're married. We really I don't feel like
Speaker 1: we've had a lot of arguments.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think.
Speaker 2: A really big thing that I feel that helped us,
Speaker 2: that everyone should do is is pre marital counseling. I
Speaker 2: think we chop down a lot of the really big
Speaker 2: things in marriages that that people need to focus on,
Speaker 2: that they don't think of until they're already in the marriage.
Speaker 2: And you know, we watch a lot of shows. We
Speaker 2: watched a lot of a lot of dating shows and
Speaker 2: things like that, and people just start getting married. I'm like,
Speaker 2: we sit there and we watch this and I'm like, guys,
Speaker 2: go do the ground work, go to counseling, go figure
Speaker 2: that stuff out. And I see so many people do
Speaker 2: this and they don't do it. Of course that doesn't
Speaker 2: cover everything, but I feel a reason why I feel
Speaker 2: like it's kind of been a little more calm than
Speaker 2: than before was because we we did go do that work.
Speaker 2: And of course it's not it's not done and over,
Speaker 2: but there's a lot of there's a lot of big
Speaker 2: pillars in that that you need to that you need
Speaker 2: to cover. I at least know what your partner expects
Speaker 2: and wants in the marriage so that there's no surprises later.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't even remember our last fight to you. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I think a lot of the things that we
Speaker 2: do or sometimes that we fight about are just like
Speaker 2: it comes from I feel like they really come from stress.
Speaker 2: And like if if if you're really stressed out or
Speaker 2: I'm really stressed out, and we're yeah, and we might
Speaker 2: just say something respond in a certain way. I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna hide it. But we're both very sensitive and I
Speaker 2: think we're so in tune. Our fregencies are so in
Speaker 2: tune that I can I can be half asleep and
Speaker 2: just the and not even open my eyes, and the
Speaker 2: way you get up, I can I can tell if
Speaker 2: you're in a good mood or not, and like, and
Speaker 2: that's just the truth. That's just how connected I feel
Speaker 2: to you. So I know when you're in a bad mood.
Speaker 1: How my mom was like how I yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: I know, yeah yeah, And not a bad thing, I know.
Speaker 1: But it's something that I want to work on because
Speaker 1: I'm really good with Like if I'm in a bad
Speaker 1: mood or I'm upset with someone, I don't take it
Speaker 1: on anyone else. But I think because you are the
Speaker 1: closest person to me, I'm stressed out and I'm feeling
Speaker 1: a certain way, I might be a little bit more
Speaker 1: like crabby, you know, and like I'll snap at you
Speaker 1: and I'm like fuck, Like he's like, don't talk to
Speaker 1: me like that. Like I'm like, damn, you're right, But
Speaker 1: I'm not like that with anyone else, really, like I
Speaker 1: just and I don't feel like that's fair and I
Speaker 1: could admit that, and it's something I have to work on.
Speaker 1: And I think it's just because not that I'm taking
Speaker 1: advantage of you, but it's just you're the closest person
Speaker 1: to me, so I share everything with you, yes, of course,
Speaker 1: and it's like I do want to work on that.
Speaker 1: I think I needed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I didn't bring that up and be like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's the reasonably I don't know, I know, but it's true.
Speaker 2: But it's it's I was more explaining of just like
Speaker 2: how connected we are, and I just we can tell
Speaker 2: and I think a lot of a lot of the
Speaker 2: times it's just just like daily annoying things that annoy us,
Speaker 2: that might just tick us off or be like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: well now we're in a bad mood and yeah, sometimes
Speaker 2: just like I don't know if she's a bad mood
Speaker 2: or maybe, and then I get a bad mood and
Speaker 2: then we just kind of go back and forth. But
Speaker 2: that's mostly but that's expected and and that's why I
Speaker 2: don't even like hold that over I don't want to
Speaker 2: hold that over each other's heads. We spend a lot
Speaker 2: of time together. We're obviously married, and we're gonna spend
Speaker 2: the rest of our lives together, so it's just something
Speaker 2: that we have to. Like, I would just like the
Speaker 2: response time to be cut down short of of us
Speaker 2: realizing like okay, we do yeah, yeah, what do you
Speaker 2: want for dinner?
Speaker 1: Yeah. Now it's he's been he went with me to
Speaker 1: La I'm except for those two days that he needed
Speaker 1: to work. But you know, now he's gonna start going
Speaker 1: on tour. He's gonna go on tour with Becky. So
Speaker 1: we've been together a lot. So now it's like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, we'll see, yeah, you know, it's an be fine.
Speaker 2: And you see, like that's like another thing that I
Speaker 2: feel right now. I've done these while I've been with
Speaker 2: you before, and they feel a lot bigger before. Not
Speaker 2: that this doesn't feel big or important, because it is.
Speaker 2: It's it's it's a great opportunity and great work. But
Speaker 2: I feel very secure, Like I feel like I can
Speaker 2: go away for a weekend.
Speaker 1: And that's good everything.
Speaker 2: You know, it's just a feeling of like, Okay, I
Speaker 2: don't have to worry about things. I don't have to.
Speaker 2: Of course I worry about your safety and stuff like that,
Speaker 2: but it's a it's a better feeling of being connected
Speaker 2: to each other for sure.
Speaker 1: It just feels, yeah, I'm more solidified. I don't know
Speaker 1: what other word, you know, but like it's it's also okay,
Speaker 1: like we need I feel like that space is going
Speaker 1: to allow us to miss each other and to make
Speaker 1: us stronger. So it's like finding that balance between our
Speaker 1: careers and our personal life, our marriage. And I think
Speaker 1: as long as you communicate, I think we'll be fine.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just something that you know that going with
Speaker 2: that with traveling apart from each other. And I really
Speaker 2: use you as like my support through all that, like
Speaker 2: when I'm gone and traveling without you, and you know,
Speaker 2: being on the road, like our daily communication is what
Speaker 2: helps me like get through the days, get through the
Speaker 2: long hours, get through the traveling. People don't really understand
Speaker 2: like how draining traveling is. Yeah, and sleeping in a
Speaker 2: different hotel room every night, and so I really depend
Speaker 2: on your energy to like, Okay, we're good, we're communicating,
Speaker 2: we're setting each other love. That gets me through those
Speaker 2: long weekends, through those long flights.
Speaker 1: And yeah, just imagine if I wasn't answering or something
Speaker 1: like that would stress you out. That's not fair. He's
Speaker 1: working and vice versa. You know. But but yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: how's the sex. What how's the sex? You know, we're
Speaker 1: not going to not talk about it, Like I think
Speaker 1: it's gotten better. I mean it's always been good, but
Speaker 1: it's been like you know what it is. I was
Speaker 1: thinking about this last night, no, the night the other
Speaker 1: night that it was great anyways, I was, I was,
Speaker 1: you know, oh my gosh, I don't want to be
Speaker 1: just cleaning up whatever. And I was like, thank you God,
Speaker 1: Like I seriously felt like I was like, it's my husband.
Speaker 1: I'm not fornicating, Like I really really felt like that.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is awesome, do you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Like I was like, I don't have to
Speaker 1: worry about God being upset with me, like it felt.
Speaker 1: It just feels better. It just it feels cool and
Speaker 1: like I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, yeah, no for sure. And also you.
Speaker 1: Noticed that I've been putting on cute like cute things.
Speaker 2: Yeah okay, yeah, sometimes you fall asleep, but it's okay.
Speaker 1: Like last night I put it on. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like I'm tired.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah yeah. I think uh. I think we can
Speaker 2: both agree that we probably had probably the best night,
Speaker 2: craziest like intimate intimacy connection that we ever had on
Speaker 2: one of these nights after after our marriage. Like yes,
Speaker 2: and again, it's not.
Speaker 1: A forty day cleanse, yeah crazy.
Speaker 2: And it's not even like it's not even just like
Speaker 2: a dirty sexual thing. The the level of intimacy and
Speaker 2: connection and energy that we had that one time blew
Speaker 2: my blew my mind. I couldn't believe it, like it.
Speaker 1: Was awesome and we were both like, whoa, it was crazy.
Speaker 2: It was just crazy, and I I don't know that
Speaker 2: was It was after a cleanse of forty day cleanse
Speaker 2: of you know, giving up things that we want, and
Speaker 2: I don't know the energy, it's the energy for me
Speaker 2: for for that time, that just it blew me away
Speaker 2: for sure, Like I thought I was gonna die. For
Speaker 2: like an hour after, I'm like, yeah, what the hell
Speaker 2: just happened? This is crazy.
Speaker 1: In the middle of it, though we hadn't spoken obviously
Speaker 1: because we we're not gonna have a conversation, I was thinking,
Speaker 1: I said, oh my god, I can literally like this
Speaker 1: is feeling so crazy right now and all of my body,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm going to die. And I didn't
Speaker 1: say it, but I was like, oh my it was.
Speaker 1: I felt like it was a reward, like God was
Speaker 1: rewarding us for being married and for doing a forty
Speaker 1: day cleanse together. And then he felt the same way,
Speaker 1: but we didn't know until after. I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna die. I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: me too. It was insane. Yeah, it was mind blowing.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and it's great. So yeah, guys, I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, definitely, the answer is yes, the sex
Speaker 2: is better.
Speaker 1: Now look at him your mom watching. Oh dude. I
Speaker 1: talked to his mom about this all the time, like
Speaker 1: she's like, you know, handle my son. Better, to take
Speaker 1: care of my son, Jeanne. I'm like, I got him,
Speaker 1: don't even worry. I'm ino some RoadHead right now, he
Speaker 1: does kidding. Okay, guys, I think we got to go
Speaker 1: so before we end this episode that I thought, you know,
Speaker 1: I think it's a very good one. People have been
Speaker 1: asking about our marriage. I I want to say what
Speaker 1: I think makes you a good husband? That's okay, sure, okay,
Speaker 1: there are a lot of things. But I think one
Speaker 1: thing that really like stands out for me is when
Speaker 1: we had the conversation about our finances, about hey, babe,
Speaker 1: like can you take care of this? And you didn't
Speaker 1: even think about it, like you're like, yes, I got it.
Speaker 1: Like the water bill, I was like, okay, like let's
Speaker 1: talk about the utilities, like what are we going to
Speaker 1: do here? And I did not feel uncomfortable, like you
Speaker 1: made me feel very comfortable, and you're like, yeah, babe,
Speaker 1: don't even worry, like we'll do this. We'll do that
Speaker 1: with our like we'll start because once you get married,
Speaker 1: you're like, okay, we have a household, like what are
Speaker 1: we gonna do? How are we going to handle this?
Speaker 1: What do you like? And you're always really good at
Speaker 1: like okay, I'll order this this month, like the wipe
Speaker 1: Beast because we love baby wipes. We can't we both can't,
Speaker 1: you know, without baby wipes, so anything without baby wipes.
Speaker 1: So anyways, Like it's just I love that about you,
Speaker 1: and I think that like you want to provide, you
Speaker 1: want to protect. I need that as a wife, as
Speaker 1: a woman, I think all women really want is to
Speaker 1: feel secure, to feel protected, to feel safe, and I
Speaker 1: feel all of those things with you. So thank you
Speaker 1: that that's what makes you a good husband.
Speaker 2: So my turn, I h this is this is something
Speaker 2: that that you've always done that hasn't changed. I think
Speaker 2: again with marriage, I think it just has been enhanced.
Speaker 2: But also before I say it, the way I accept
Speaker 2: it now is a lot different because it just it
Speaker 2: feels so much more real now. But your support and
Speaker 2: the way you believe in me. You know, it's different
Speaker 2: coming from a girlfriend, but now coming from my wife.
Speaker 2: You're you are my big, our number You're my number
Speaker 2: one fan, and you're the person who believes in me
Speaker 2: more than anyone. And I feel that a lot. I
Speaker 2: feel that so much more now where I feel like
Speaker 2: I'm like anything I want to do, I know I
Speaker 2: can do it, and I have your moral support and
Speaker 2: you help me become a better person, a better man.
Speaker 2: And it comes from I can feel that you truly
Speaker 2: believe in me, and it makes me feel like I
Speaker 2: can do anything, and you've shown that in so many
Speaker 2: different ways over the past three and a half years.
Speaker 2: And it's such an amazing feeling. And I think that
Speaker 2: goes hand in hand with like a woman wants to
Speaker 2: feel taken care of and secure, and the way I
Speaker 2: want to provide and take care of you, like I
Speaker 2: know that you have my back with anything. So it's
Speaker 2: like it gives me the confidence to go do anything
Speaker 2: that I need to go do, and that feels great.
Speaker 1: I'm glad, my love, because that's one thing I did
Speaker 1: learn from couple's therapy, you know, was to feed into
Speaker 1: the king and you, you know what I mean. Like
Speaker 1: a lot of women will be like, oh, you're this,
Speaker 1: you're that, you're messy, you're whatever the heck your man
Speaker 1: may be. Instead of building them and like you push
Speaker 1: them down more, you know. And it's like really speaking
Speaker 1: life into them and speaking and speaking to the king
Speaker 1: in your man. And that's something I learned and I
Speaker 1: didn't always know that. So now it's like I'm very
Speaker 1: intentional about doing that and knowing that, yeah, you have
Speaker 1: I have your back, Like, you know, even if he
Speaker 1: has to go to work and he was supposed to
Speaker 1: be with me, He's like, babe, what do you think.
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, baby, do your thing. You have to, like,
Speaker 1: it's a great opportunity for you. I'm gonna miss you.
Speaker 1: Part of me is like, oh, but I'm like, do
Speaker 1: your thing, like you gotta do it. Go. It's fine
Speaker 1: like supporting each other because you support me very much
Speaker 1: in my career, you know, and I'm grateful for that.
Speaker 1: You're always there for me and you always help me,
Speaker 1: and your opinion means a lot to me. So yeah,
Speaker 1: and I do have a very important question though. I
Speaker 1: need to know if and when we have a baby,
Speaker 1: and I gained eighty pounds. Are you still gonna love
Speaker 1: me the same way?
Speaker 2: I've already loved you at that point, So we're okay.
Speaker 1: Love to you when I was seven seventy pounds heavier. Actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right six All right, We're good. I have some room,
Speaker 1: have some room to like, you know. But anyways, whatever,
Speaker 1: you don't ever have to worry, are you sure?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Right? Fine? But babe, thank you so much for being on,
Speaker 1: of course, on these two episodes of Cheeky's and Chill.
Speaker 1: Everyone like loves to hear from us, so I appreciate
Speaker 1: you coming on. I think it was a very good conversation.
Speaker 2: Let's do our little a very great update.
Speaker 1: No, it's our a little handshake anyways, thanks guys, a
Speaker 1: little update, say bye to everyone.
Speaker 2: Thank you guys.
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you guys, and we'll see you on the
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