WEBVTT - Our First Three Months of Marriage 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:13.400 Hello, guys, welcome back to the second part, Part two 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:16.680 of my conversation with a Medio Sanchez, who happens to 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:20.760 be my husband. Hi, babe, Hi, welcome back, Thank you. Okay, 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:24.119 So this part we're going to talk about how life 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:26.560 has been as a married couple. A lot of people 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:29.560 always ask me, do you feel different? Does it feel different? 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:32.320 Is he different? Are you different? So we're going to 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:34.960 answer all those questions here. You want to talk about 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:36.199 all of it, all of it? Are you open to 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:37.280 be one hundred percent honest? 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:37.839 Sure? 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:40.240 All right, because he's more of a reserved person, which 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:42.519 I like, and I'm an open book. As you guys know. 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:45.760 These are questions that my producers put together from questions 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:48.840 that you guys have asked. So we're going to start 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.160 off with, all right, Yeah, we got married in July 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:54.120 July fifth, So how many months is that? 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:55.920 Four? 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:58.120 Four? Okay? I don't even know. And then we were 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:00.480 talking about last night how long I would have been, 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.279 like how pregnant I would have been right now? 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:04.160 I think like six months, six months? 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:08.440 Yeah, So AnyWho, how do you feel about that situation? Actually, 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:12.800 now about the midscourage, Yeah, we haven't really talked about. 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:17.800 It, Yeah, we haven't. To me, I really see it 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.600 more as like a learning experience. Obviously, in the moment, 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.800 it felt super tragic, but I think that we handled it, 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:29.399 handled it very well together. Yeah, so like it. I 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:31.720 don't feel that it's like something that's like draining or 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:34.400 like weighing me down in any sort of way, because 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:36.280 it kind of gave me a little bit more hope 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:41.000 for a future rather than it being like a negative thing. 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.720 Obviously it was sad, but I think we worked through 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:44.800 it pretty well. 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:48.400 Yeah, and I think now I just and you know, 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:51.960 I feel like my body was saying that we can 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.640 and you know, it just it really gave us a 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:58.760 glimpse of how it will be, you know. I don't know. 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.760 I think everything happened and the way it was supposed 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:04.440 to happen, although again it was tragic and very painful, 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.560 as you guys know because I shared it, But yeah, 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:09.080 I wanted to check in with you because I haven't 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:10.440 really talked to you about it. 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:13.320 But honestly, when I think of it, I think of 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:16.639 like how happy you were when when we were, and 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:18.920 like how happy we were. I don't know, it felt 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:22.480 it felt very exciting, like driving to the doctor going 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:25.640 and just spending time together and like think planning things, 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:29.120 buying things, like it just felt it felt fun. 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:30.239 I was a different person for you. 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.519 Sure you were you to me, you seemed like a 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:33.000 little girl. 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:37.680 Yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, for sure, I was calm. I 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.760 didn't if I'm upset me. I didn't want anything to like. 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:41.680 It was just I was a really good, pregnant prier. 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:49.079 It was great whatever. Okay, So anyways, okay, so yeah, 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:51.119 it does marriage feel different for you? 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:52.720 Oh? 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.400 Wow? Okay, well I'm curious. 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:59.720 Wow, it's weird because like before you're marriage, you're just like, oh, 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:02.560 it's a legal thing and a piece of paper, and 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:05.760 it's like and it's it's not like that. I don't 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:09.920 even think of that part of it. Obviously, the ceremony 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:15.320 and the actual you know, our wedding day was very magical. 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:19.320 We had you know, our famili's there. Yeah, even though 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:22.440 I kind of like blacked them out and just focused 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:25.400 on you. It like it was so fun. It was 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.000 so fun that like looking into your eyes, like seeing 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.680 that part like that was the most amazing day ever. 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:34.680 And so I think of that and that was the 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:36.960 beginning of it. You know, we we started off our 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:40.720 marriage with a wonderful day and and then these like 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:46.000 feelings come that are just different, Like I when I'm like, 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:50.440 you're my wife, like that just sinks into my body 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:54.360 a lot different now than when we were just engaged. 0:03:55.840 --> 0:04:04.160 I definitely feel more secure with our relationship, with feeling 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:09.120 like I have a big responsibility now where I'm like, 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:10.640 this is our this is our marriage. I need to 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.440 take care of it. It's the it's the number one 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:17.560 priority in my life. And I feel like you're my wife. 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:19.120 I have to protect you, I have to take care 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:23.919 of you. And it's just that that feeling just grew 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:26.080 to another level. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:29.239 Yeah, that's when people ask me like is it different. 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:33.280 I was explained to my friend Brianna. She's like, is 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.559 it different? How do you feel? I'm like, it doesn't 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:38.960 feel different, like in a negative way. If anything, I've 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:46.840 noticed that you feel more like you've been more vocal 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.160 about protecting me, like on tour or with things like 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.520 and I like that, like it's amplified where it's like 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:54.279 I need to take care of her, this is the 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.479 person I need to protect and you have been like 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.159 I've also seen that now that you're my husband in 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:04.320 the respect is different outside like people on the team 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.760 or you know what I mean, like, and I like that, 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.680 but also with you, I feel like you're more like 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:12.120 I'm a husband. No, like this is not going to happen. 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:14.400 And I do need someone like that in my life 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:18.080 because sometimes I'll protect myself, but I'm so busy and 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:22.479 focus and like like honed in that I don't protect 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.640 myself in certain situations and you do. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.360 Yes, I think there's a lot of things that are 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:30.760 there's a lot of moving parts in your life that 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.880 I feel like sometimes it's different. It would be difficult 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:36.680 for anybody, but for you to like kind of keep 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:41.120 tabs on everything without things getting you know, passing by 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.719 without without you catching them, and so like I feel 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.080 like I'm like your second pair of eyes sometimes for 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:50.240 surecause yeah, it is my responsibility to take care of 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:53.240 you and to like catch things. And I expect the 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:55.680 same thing on your end, you know, like if if 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.720 I'm doing something like I would, I would, I would 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.039 expect for you to be like, hey, like did you 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.640 notice this or how do you feel about this? You know, 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:07.360 and it's the yeah. And with everyone else too, I 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.920 feel like they're not like nothing's changed attitude wise from 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.760 other people in a bad way, and not even in 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:16.080 a drastic way. There's kind of subtle, but like you 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:20.040 do feel the sense of like people giving you our 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.400 places as a married couple, for sure, I can feel. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:26.440 That absolutely because I think it's you know, they're still 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.520 there dating or they're they're engaged, but then like marriage 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:33.200 like solidifies things, yeah, you know in every way. And 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:36.520 I was very scared. I was afraid of you changing. 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:39.200 I was like, oh, is he going to feel more 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:42.640 confident and that in the good way? Like is it 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:44.920 you know what I mean? It's you know, I would 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:48.040 like that that you feel more confident in that way 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:51.560 that we just talked about. But like sometimes people or 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:55.560 past experiences, people were like, oh, you're my wife, you 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:57.960 need to do this, like this is your obligation, this 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:59.800 is your duty as my wife, and it's like way 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.479 to second. And that's one thing that we talked about 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:05.039 early on that I'm like, I don't want to feel 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:07.880 that way. I wanted to come out of I want 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:10.840 to do things because I'm your wife and because I'm monastic, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:12.520 because I want to do it out of my heart, 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:14.960 not because oh, that's your obligation. And I don't feel 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:15.840 that way towards you either. 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:20.560 Yeah, and I'll be you know I've told you this 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:25.200 in private before, but like I'm pretty honest, like in 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:29.920 your lifetime, you know you've you've lost your mother, you've 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:36.680 done this before marriage, and you know in your life 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.160 you've lost both of those things. And so for me, 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:45.040 I think of that as like, if she's lost these 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:48.880 two big things in her life, why am I so permanent? 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:51.160 Or why why would I Why can't I get away 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.720 with anything? And I don't believe that I'm not going 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:59.760 to change after we get married, because I know that 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:05.000 if i'm if I become someone that doesn't deserve you, 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.920 you have no problem with letting that piece go in 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:11.680 your life. And so for me, you know, not that 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.040 I needed that, but it holds me accountable. It'll be 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:16.880 like I just I need to be the best man 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:20.840 to you, married or not. So it's it's what I'm 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:23.960 going to do and I'm not. You're fully capable of 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:26.400 walking away from anything in your life that you need 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:30.040 to walk away from, and I'm no exception. So it's 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.240 it's something that I just I need to be a 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.040 man of my word. And you've helped me do that 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:37.560 in my life a lot. 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:39.960 So I love you and that's why I said, like 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:43.800 the song Casia passando, for it to continue to happen, 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:48.760 because you know, because I have been married before, I 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.320 learned a lot from that situation. I learned what I want, 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.520 what I don't want, and what I have to change 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:55.040 and how I have to be different to make this 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:56.880 marriage work, because I don't want to do this over 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:59.560 and over, like you know what I mean, Like I 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:01.199 don't even like to say the D word. You know 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.480 what I mean, And I don't mean you know, dick, 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:05.200 I mean like you know the other word. We don't 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.000 even like to say that. We've told ourselves that we're 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:09.520 not going to bring it up even if we have 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:12.280 the worst argument. We both decided if that were to 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.840 ever happen, God forbid, it would be a certain situation 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:17.520 that we talked about that I don't even want to 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:22.400 bring that into the space. But I think on the 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:24.520 other side of that token, like what you said that 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.360 because I have been through this, like you feel like 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:28.280 you know, I have been through a lot of things, 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:31.640 and I do feel that God will give me the 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:35.520 strength if I need to walk away from anything or anyone, 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:38.400 and on my end as a wife, it makes me 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:40.400 feel like I have to. I want to take care 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.360 of him because he's a great guy, and I want 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:44.520 to be a good wife and make sure that I 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:47.559 please him and that I don't disappoint him because I 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:50.840 also don't want anyone else to have him. Ever. I 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.720 want to be your first and only wife forever. 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:55.400 That's it, that's the plan. 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:57.120 So what do I have to do as a woman 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:59.560 because I don't want anyone to have you? So he's 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:08.280 completely aliment's girls, don't even try me. You are good 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:09.840 to me, and I am good to you. I feel 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:11.480 like I'm a great wife, am. 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.160 I Yeah, that was going to be the next thing 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:13.480 I was going. 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:18.200 To tell you, tell me what I'm so. 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.160 Oh honestly, Like I think about it every day, Like 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:25.600 you are such an amazing wife. Like yes, you're a 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:28.640 great partner, you're a great you're a great girlfriend, great fiance, 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:32.720 but like you've stepped into this role and like like 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:35.240 it's just another feeling when you do something for me. Now, 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:37.720 if you make me breakfast or you do this or anything, 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:40.880 it just feels way different now that you're my wife. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.160 I don't know how to explain it sometimes, but you're 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:48.720 just I think the intentions behind it is what I 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:52.280 feel because you do things to truly like make my 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:55.199 baby my day better, or make me feel good, or 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:58.079 just because you want to show me love, and it's 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:01.360 the intentions are I feel are or when you do 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.439 something it's because you absolutely want to do it. 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:05.679 I have to feel it in my heart for sure. 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:09.320 And that love transfers over to me and it feels amazing. Honestly, 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:10.760 I think it. 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.240 I always say this, and again it might sound cliche 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.640 bla blah blah blah, but I really, really really feel 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:18.600 that everything happens for a reason. And I think that 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:22.959 I had to go through that situation to learn to grow, 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:27.839 to prepare me for this for us, because we have arguments. 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:32.319 Of course, like every relationship, we have arguments, we have disagreements, 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:35.600 we're not always on the same page. I've learned that 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:39.679 it's okay. He has his own mind, his own feelings. 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:42.280 I can't expect him to be like me. I have 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:46.600 to respect how he is and he respects how I am. 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.319 It's like I don't own this person, and I used 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:51.320 to think that I owned the person that this is 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.920 and that's not okay in any circumstance, in any situation. 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:58.240 So it's like he's his own individual. I am too, 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:00.320 and we've come together to love each other and to 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.400 respect each other and every day try our best. And 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.720 all I can do is pray that it continues to 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:10.000 get better and that we both continue vice versa, not 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:13.800 just one side. I can't expect him to court me 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:17.480 and to make me fall in love and romance me. 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.000 I also have to romance him, you know, Like I 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.560 planned our last date night. I was like, I said, hey, 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.960 let's go on date night, and I want to go here, 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.320 and we'll go there, and he paid, But but I 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.960 planned it. But it was really fun. Yes it was, 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:34.440 and we really needed it. And I think that's important 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.640 to keep doing that stuff, like leaving each other little 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:40.319 notes randomly, like you know, just doing the things that 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.319 made us fall in love. And it's yes, it's young, guys, 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:46.600 it's a young relationship. It's we're newlyweds, I mean a 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:50.520 young marriage. We're newly weeds. But it's keeping that in mind, right. 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:52.800 Yeah, But I also feel that a lot of the 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.600 things that we do have been a part of our 0:12:55.640 --> 0:13:00.560 relationship since day one. And so I think just everything 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.760 that we already built, the foundation that we built, is 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.439 just being enhanced now by marriage. Yeah, and so it's 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:08.600 not like it's anything new. It's not like we haven't 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.800 done these things for each other before. Now they just 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:14.440 we just have to continue to do it. You know, 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:16.920 the date night was beautiful the other day. 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:17.960 Yeah, it was nice. 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:22.120 We really needed that. You cried the entire time tears 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:23.560 of joy. But you cried tears of joy. 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.720 I was just I was I was so like last 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:28.440 week was I don't know, I was going through a lot, 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.160 but yeah, it was nice. 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:37.000 Yeah. I mean it's just confirmation that you know, we're 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.080 each other's best friends and we're I mean, you're my 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:45.840 favorite person to be with every day and yeah, and 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:47.559 like sitting at that date night, I'm just like, it's 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:49.480 just us talking. We're wor with each other every day. 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.320 Like how deep of a conversation can we really have 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:54.439 all the time? But it just happens. It happens naturally. 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:57.200 It was tight. It was tight. Yeah. Do you like 0:13:57.240 --> 0:14:00.000 calling me your wife like saying I love my wife? Yeah? Absolutely, 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:00.560 me too. 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.800 I remember doing it like the first week and I 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:06.439 and people are like, oh, I'm like, yeah, yeah, that's why. 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:10.680 I remember you used to say that, like I cannot 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.000 wait to call you my wife. Yeah, and now I'm like, oh, 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:15.439 it's my husband. You supposal like this and it feels 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:18.320 it feels good. It feels it doesn't feel forced, it 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:20.640 doesn't feel it just it just feels good. Yeah. Just 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.680 And I really really pray that all of you get 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:27.200 to experience real love and someone that values you and 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:33.320 you know equally though, because there's nothing like being in 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:36.840 a relationship where the two people really value and appreciate 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:41.240 each other and do nice things for each other. And yeah, 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:43.480 and I think that's another thing. Like I we were 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:46.160 hanging out with your mom yesterday, your mom and your grandma. 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:48.600 It's like a like a thing that's like our thing. 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:50.280 Our favorite thing to do is that at least once 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:53.200 a week every two weeks, like really go out and 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:56.320 take them to lunch and hang out. And it's like 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:59.800 nice to be able to have that to have Like cause, dude, 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:03.280 watching this show, we're like like, it's really we need 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:05.600 to finish it. By the way, but is I love 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:08.320 what is it called I Love a Mama's Boy? Yeah, dude, 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:11.800 I was like, thank god, I don't have a mother 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:13.440 in law like that. Dude, this show if you guys 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:18.000 have not watched it, it's on Netflix, crazy y'all. Like, 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.120 and I love his mom, and I was thinking about 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.720 I was like, dude, it's great. I don't have to 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:27.200 worry about siblings. My siblings are cool though, yes they 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:29.080 love you, but I don't have to worry about sisters. 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.960 Imagine if like his sisters were like b words and like, 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.800 his mom is great. Her and I get along perfectly. 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:37.280 I asked her to call off work and she did, 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:39.120 but she was kind of feeling sick, you know, so 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:43.320 she called just in case watching from work, but but 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:44.440 we hung out. It was nice. 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.480 Yeah, I it feels good that I feel like I 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:50.720 get to like share my mom with you and like 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:56.600 she she watches over both of us as as we're 0:15:56.680 --> 0:16:01.040 both her kids obviously, and like the so awesome. Yeah, 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:03.200 it brings me joy to like to be able you 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.560 get to experience that and have you know that you 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.440 know that you have someone genuine and who really loves you, 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:10.760 who really cares about you, because. 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:12.360 That would be super difficult if your mom didn't like me. 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:16.120 Huh, yeah, no, for sure. Likes are so close. She 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.680 always asked for, you know, our our flight number so 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.320 she could track our flights access even if you fo. 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.200 My location out. Uh huh. She's like, I need your fight, 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:26.000 your fighting. 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:27.280 Phone, even if I'm not flying with you, dude. 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.600 And I turn on my phone and right away, oh 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:30.440 good you landed. 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:30.960 Thank god. 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:34.160 I'm like, damn. She's like really, So she's like, she's 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:36.280 it's really cool. It's really cool because now she has 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:37.800 a daughter. Yeah, you know, it's. 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:39.880 It's pretty dope, the daughter that she never had. 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:45.040 Yeah, yeah, exactly. So do we fight less or more 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:50.160 now that we're married. We really I don't feel like 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:51.359 we've had a lot of arguments. 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:52.120 Yeah. 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:52.840 I think. 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:57.240 A really big thing that I feel that helped us, 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:02.520 that everyone should do is is pre marital counseling. I 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.680 think we chop down a lot of the really big 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:08.760 things in marriages that that people need to focus on, 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:14.240 that they don't think of until they're already in the marriage. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:15.960 And you know, we watch a lot of shows. We 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:17.639 watched a lot of a lot of dating shows and 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.119 things like that, and people just start getting married. I'm like, 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:22.800 we sit there and we watch this and I'm like, guys, 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.720 go do the ground work, go to counseling, go figure 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:27.320 that stuff out. And I see so many people do 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:31.679 this and they don't do it. Of course that doesn't 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.520 cover everything, but I feel a reason why I feel 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:37.640 like it's kind of been a little more calm than 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:41.640 than before was because we we did go do that work. 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:44.160 And of course it's not it's not done and over, 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:48.120 but there's a lot of there's a lot of big 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.679 pillars in that that you need to that you need 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:53.640 to cover. I at least know what your partner expects 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:58.040 and wants in the marriage so that there's no surprises later. 0:17:58.600 --> 0:17:58.760 You know. 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:07.240 Yeah, I don't even remember our last fight to you. Yeah. 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.239 Honestly, I think a lot of the things that we 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:11.639 do or sometimes that we fight about are just like 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:17.280 it comes from I feel like they really come from stress. 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:19.920 And like if if if you're really stressed out or 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:22.680 I'm really stressed out, and we're yeah, and we might 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:26.080 just say something respond in a certain way. I'm not 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:30.320 gonna hide it. But we're both very sensitive and I 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:32.879 think we're so in tune. Our fregencies are so in 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:37.119 tune that I can I can be half asleep and 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:39.240 just the and not even open my eyes, and the 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.480 way you get up, I can I can tell if 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:44.800 you're in a good mood or not, and like, and 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:46.640 that's just the truth. That's just how connected I feel 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:48.120 to you. So I know when you're in a bad mood. 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:50.840 How my mom was like how I yeah, I know, 0:18:52.240 --> 0:18:54.879 I know, yeah yeah, And not a bad thing, I know. 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:58.000 But it's something that I want to work on because 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:00.960 I'm really good with Like if I'm in a bad 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:02.600 mood or I'm upset with someone, I don't take it 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:05.359 on anyone else. But I think because you are the 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:09.240 closest person to me, I'm stressed out and I'm feeling 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:11.200 a certain way, I might be a little bit more 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:14.680 like crabby, you know, and like I'll snap at you 0:19:15.080 --> 0:19:17.080 and I'm like fuck, Like he's like, don't talk to 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:19.239 me like that. Like I'm like, damn, you're right, But 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:22.639 I'm not like that with anyone else, really, like I 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:24.399 just and I don't feel like that's fair and I 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:26.439 could admit that, and it's something I have to work on. 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:28.120 And I think it's just because not that I'm taking 0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:30.879 advantage of you, but it's just you're the closest person 0:19:30.920 --> 0:19:33.679 to me, so I share everything with you, yes, of course, 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:35.919 and it's like I do want to work on that. 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:36.640 I think I needed. 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:38.880 Yeah, And I didn't bring that up and be like, oh, 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:40.840 that's the reasonably I don't know, I know, but it's true. 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:43.919 But it's it's I was more explaining of just like 0:19:43.960 --> 0:19:46.960 how connected we are, and I just we can tell 0:19:46.960 --> 0:19:48.280 and I think a lot of a lot of the 0:19:48.280 --> 0:19:53.040 times it's just just like daily annoying things that annoy us, 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:57.000 that might just tick us off or be like, oh, well, 0:19:57.040 --> 0:19:59.440 well now we're in a bad mood and yeah, sometimes 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:02.240 just like I don't know if she's a bad mood 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:03.920 or maybe, and then I get a bad mood and 0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:05.320 then we just kind of go back and forth. But 0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:10.560