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Speaker 1: Hello, guys, welcome back to the second part, Part two

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Speaker 1: of my conversation with a Medio Sanchez, who happens to

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Speaker 1: be my husband. Hi, babe, Hi, welcome back, Thank you. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So this part we're going to talk about how life

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Speaker 1: has been as a married couple. A lot of people

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Speaker 1: always ask me, do you feel different? Does it feel different?

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Speaker 1: Is he different? Are you different? So we're going to

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Speaker 1: answer all those questions here. You want to talk about

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Speaker 1: all of it, all of it? Are you open to

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Speaker 1: be one hundred percent honest?

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Speaker 2: Sure?

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Speaker 1: All right, because he's more of a reserved person, which

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Speaker 1: I like, and I'm an open book. As you guys know.

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Speaker 1: These are questions that my producers put together from questions

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Speaker 1: that you guys have asked. So we're going to start

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Speaker 1: off with, all right, Yeah, we got married in July

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Speaker 1: July fifth, So how many months is that?

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Speaker 2: Four?

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Speaker 1: Four? Okay? I don't even know. And then we were

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Speaker 1: talking about last night how long I would have been,

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Speaker 1: like how pregnant I would have been right now?

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Speaker 2: I think like six months, six months?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So AnyWho, how do you feel about that situation? Actually,

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Speaker 1: now about the midscourage, Yeah, we haven't really talked about.

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Speaker 2: It, Yeah, we haven't. To me, I really see it

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Speaker 2: more as like a learning experience. Obviously, in the moment,

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Speaker 2: it felt super tragic, but I think that we handled it,

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Speaker 2: handled it very well together. Yeah, so like it. I

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Speaker 2: don't feel that it's like something that's like draining or

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Speaker 2: it kind of gave me a little bit more hope

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Speaker 2: for a future rather than it being like a negative thing.

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Speaker 2: Obviously it was sad, but I think we worked through

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Speaker 2: it pretty well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think now I just and you know,

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Speaker 1: I feel like my body was saying that we can

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Speaker 1: and you know, it just it really gave us a

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Speaker 1: glimpse of how it will be, you know. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think everything happened and the way it was supposed

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Speaker 1: to happen, although again it was tragic and very painful,

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Speaker 1: as you guys know because I shared it, But yeah,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to check in with you because I haven't

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Speaker 1: really talked to you about it.

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Speaker 2: But honestly, when I think of it, I think of

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Speaker 2: like how happy you were when when we were, and

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Speaker 2: like how happy we were. I don't know, it felt

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Speaker 2: it felt very exciting, like driving to the doctor going

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Speaker 2: and just spending time together and like think planning things,

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Speaker 2: buying things, like it just felt it felt fun.

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Speaker 1: I was a different person for you.

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Speaker 2: Sure you were you to me, you seemed like a

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Speaker 2: little girl.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, for sure, I was calm. I

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Speaker 1: didn't if I'm upset me. I didn't want anything to like.

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Speaker 1: It was just I was a really good, pregnant prier.

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Speaker 1: It was great whatever. Okay, So anyways, okay, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: it does marriage feel different for you?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Wow? Okay, well I'm curious.

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Speaker 2: Wow, it's weird because like before you're marriage, you're just like, oh,

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Speaker 2: it's a legal thing and a piece of paper, and

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Speaker 2: it's like and it's it's not like that. I don't

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Speaker 2: even think of that part of it. Obviously, the ceremony

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Speaker 2: and the actual you know, our wedding day was very magical.

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Speaker 2: We had you know, our famili's there. Yeah, even though

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Speaker 2: I kind of like blacked them out and just focused

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Speaker 2: And so I think of that and that was the

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Speaker 2: beginning of it. You know, we we started off our

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Speaker 2: feelings come that are just different, Like I when I'm like,

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Speaker 2: a lot different now than when we were just engaged.

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Speaker 2: I definitely feel more secure with our relationship, with feeling

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when people ask me like is it different.

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Speaker 1: I was explained to my friend Brianna. She's like, is

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Speaker 1: it different? How do you feel? I'm like, it doesn't

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Speaker 1: person I need to protect and you have been like

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Speaker 1: I've also seen that now that you're my husband in

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Speaker 1: the respect is different outside like people on the team

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Speaker 1: or you know what I mean, like, and I like that,

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Speaker 1: but also with you, I feel like you're more like

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Speaker 1: I'm a husband. No, like this is not going to happen.

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Speaker 1: And I do need someone like that in my life

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Speaker 2: Yes, I think there's a lot of things that are

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of moving parts in your life that

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Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes it's different. It would be difficult

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Speaker 2: for anybody, but for you to like kind of keep

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Speaker 2: surecause yeah, it is my responsibility to take care of

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Speaker 2: expect for you to be like, hey, like did you

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Speaker 2: notice this or how do you feel about this? You know,

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Speaker 2: and it's the yeah. And with everyone else too, I

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Speaker 2: places as a married couple, for sure, I can feel.

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Speaker 1: That absolutely because I think it's you know, they're still

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Speaker 1: there dating or they're they're engaged, but then like marriage

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Speaker 1: like solidifies things, yeah, you know in every way. And

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Speaker 1: I was very scared. I was afraid of you changing.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, is he going to feel more

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Speaker 1: to second. And that's one thing that we talked about

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Speaker 1: early on that I'm like, I don't want to feel

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Speaker 1: because I want to do it out of my heart,

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Speaker 1: not because oh, that's your obligation. And I don't feel

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll be you know I've told you this

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Speaker 2: in private before, but like I'm pretty honest, like in

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Speaker 2: I think of that as like, if she's lost these

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Speaker 2: Or why why would I Why can't I get away

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Speaker 2: like I just I need to be the best man

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Speaker 2: going to do and I'm not. You're fully capable of

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Speaker 2: it's something that I just I need to be a

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Speaker 2: in my life a lot.

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Speaker 1: So I love you and that's why I said, like

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Speaker 1: the song Casia passando, for it to continue to happen,

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Speaker 1: because you know, because I have been married before, I

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Speaker 1: learned a lot from that situation. I learned what I want,

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Speaker 1: what I don't want, and what I have to change

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Speaker 1: and how I have to be different to make this

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Speaker 1: marriage work, because I don't want to do this over

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Speaker 1: and over, like you know what I mean, Like I

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Speaker 1: don't even like to say the D word. You know

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Speaker 1: also don't want anyone else to have him. Ever. I

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Speaker 1: want to be your first and only wife forever.

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Speaker 2: That's it, that's the plan.

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Speaker 1: So what do I have to do as a woman

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Speaker 1: because I don't want anyone to have you? So he's

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Speaker 1: completely aliment's girls, don't even try me. You are good

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Speaker 2: I Yeah, that was going to be the next thing

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Speaker 2: I was going.

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Speaker 1: To tell you, tell me what I'm so.

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Speaker 2: Oh honestly, Like I think about it every day, Like

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Speaker 2: you are such an amazing wife. Like yes, you're a

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Speaker 2: great partner, you're a great you're a great girlfriend, great fiance,

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Speaker 2: but like you've stepped into this role and like like

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Speaker 2: it's just another feeling when you do something for me. Now,

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Speaker 2: if you make me breakfast or you do this or anything,

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Speaker 2: it just feels way different now that you're my wife.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to explain it sometimes, but you're

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Speaker 2: just I think the intentions behind it is what I

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Speaker 2: feel because you do things to truly like make my

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Speaker 2: just because you want to show me love, and it's

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Speaker 2: the intentions are I feel are or when you do

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Speaker 2: something it's because you absolutely want to do it.

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Speaker 1: I have to feel it in my heart for sure.

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Speaker 2: And that love transfers over to me and it feels amazing. Honestly,

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Speaker 2: I think it.

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Speaker 1: That would be super difficult if your mom didn't like me.

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Speaker 2: Of course I worry about your safety and stuff like that,

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Speaker 1: to allow us to miss each other and to make

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Speaker 1: us stronger. So it's like finding that balance between our

434
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Speaker 1: careers and our personal life, our marriage. And I think

435
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: as long as you communicate, I think we'll be fine.

436
00:21:56,119 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just something that you know that going with

437
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:06,400
Speaker 2: that with traveling apart from each other. And I really

438
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 2: use you as like my support through all that, like

439
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 2: when I'm gone and traveling without you, and you know,

440
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 2: being on the road, like our daily communication is what

441
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 2: helps me like get through the days, get through the

442
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 2: long hours, get through the traveling. People don't really understand

443
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:26,679
Speaker 2: like how draining traveling is. Yeah, and sleeping in a

444
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 2: different hotel room every night, and so I really depend

445
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 2: on your energy to like, Okay, we're good, we're communicating,

446
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 2: we're setting each other love. That gets me through those

447
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 2: long weekends, through those long flights.

448
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 1: And yeah, just imagine if I wasn't answering or something

449
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 1: like that would stress you out. That's not fair. He's

450
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:48,640
Speaker 1: working and vice versa. You know. But but yeah, I mean,

451
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,360
Speaker 1: how's the sex. What how's the sex? You know, we're

452
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,880
Speaker 1: not going to not talk about it, Like I think

453
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,119
Speaker 1: it's gotten better. I mean it's always been good, but

454
00:22:58,160 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 1: it's been like you know what it is. I was

455
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,680
Speaker 1: thinking about this last night, no, the night the other

456
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 1: night that it was great anyways, I was, I was,

457
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: you know, oh my gosh, I don't want to be

458
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 1: just cleaning up whatever. And I was like, thank you God,

459
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 1: Like I seriously felt like I was like, it's my husband.

460
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: I'm not fornicating, Like I really really felt like that.

461
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: I was like, this is awesome, do you know what

462
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 1: I mean? Like I was like, I don't have to

463
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:26,240
Speaker 1: worry about God being upset with me, like it felt.

464
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 1: It just feels better. It just it feels cool and

465
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 1: like I don't.

466
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 2: Know, yeah, no for sure. And also you.

467
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,880
Speaker 1: Noticed that I've been putting on cute like cute things.

468
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 2: Yeah okay, yeah, sometimes you fall asleep, but it's okay.

469
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 1: Like last night I put it on. I was like, yeah,

470
00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 1: I was like I'm tired.

471
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah yeah. I think uh. I think we can

472
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 2: both agree that we probably had probably the best night,

473
00:23:55,400 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: craziest like intimate intimacy connection that we ever had on

474
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 2: one of these nights after after our marriage. Like yes,

475
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 2: and again, it's not.

476
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: A forty day cleanse, yeah crazy.

477
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 2: And it's not even like it's not even just like

478
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 2: a dirty sexual thing. The the level of intimacy and

479
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 2: connection and energy that we had that one time blew

480
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 2: my blew my mind. I couldn't believe it, like it.

481
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: Was awesome and we were both like, whoa, it was crazy.

482
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Speaker 2: It was just crazy, and I I don't know that

483
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 2: was It was after a cleanse of forty day cleanse

484
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 2: of you know, giving up things that we want, and

485
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Speaker 2: I don't know the energy, it's the energy for me

486
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 2: for for that time, that just it blew me away

487
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 2: for sure, Like I thought I was gonna die. For

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Speaker 2: like an hour after, I'm like, yeah, what the hell

489
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Speaker 2: just happened? This is crazy.

490
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 1: In the middle of it, though we hadn't spoken obviously

491
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: because we we're not gonna have a conversation, I was thinking,

492
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 1: I said, oh my god, I can literally like this

493
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 1: is feeling so crazy right now and all of my body,

494
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm going to die. And I didn't

495
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,359
Speaker 1: say it, but I was like, oh my it was.

496
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 1: I felt like it was a reward, like God was

497
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 1: rewarding us for being married and for doing a forty

498
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 1: day cleanse together. And then he felt the same way,

499
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: but we didn't know until after. I was like, dude,

500
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna die. I was like, dude,

501
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 1: me too. It was insane. Yeah, it was mind blowing.

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00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and it's great. So yeah, guys, I mean.

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00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, definitely, the answer is yes, the sex

504
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 2: is better.

505
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Speaker 1: Now look at him your mom watching. Oh dude. I

506
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 1: talked to his mom about this all the time, like

507
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: she's like, you know, handle my son. Better, to take

508
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:44,479
Speaker 1: care of my son, Jeanne. I'm like, I got him,

509
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 1: don't even worry. I'm ino some RoadHead right now, he

510
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: does kidding. Okay, guys, I think we got to go

511
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,399
Speaker 1: so before we end this episode that I thought, you know,

512
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Speaker 1: I think it's a very good one. People have been

513
00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 1: asking about our marriage. I I want to say what

514
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 1: I think makes you a good husband? That's okay, sure, okay,

515
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: there are a lot of things. But I think one

516
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:17,640
Speaker 1: thing that really like stands out for me is when

517
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 1: we had the conversation about our finances, about hey, babe,

518
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 1: like can you take care of this? And you didn't

519
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 1: even think about it, like you're like, yes, I got it.

520
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,359
Speaker 1: Like the water bill, I was like, okay, like let's

521
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: talk about the utilities, like what are we going to

522
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 1: do here? And I did not feel uncomfortable, like you

523
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: made me feel very comfortable, and you're like, yeah, babe,

524
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 1: don't even worry, like we'll do this. We'll do that

525
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 1: with our like we'll start because once you get married,

526
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,239
Speaker 1: you're like, okay, we have a household, like what are

527
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: we gonna do? How are we going to handle this?

528
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: What do you like? And you're always really good at

529
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 1: like okay, I'll order this this month, like the wipe

530
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:54,640
Speaker 1: Beast because we love baby wipes. We can't we both can't,

531
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: you know, without baby wipes, so anything without baby wipes.

532
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: So anyways, Like it's just I love that about you,

533
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,679
Speaker 1: and I think that like you want to provide, you

534
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 1: want to protect. I need that as a wife, as

535
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: a woman, I think all women really want is to

536
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:15,439
Speaker 1: feel secure, to feel protected, to feel safe, and I

537
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: feel all of those things with you. So thank you

538
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 1: that that's what makes you a good husband.

539
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 2: So my turn, I h this is this is something

540
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 2: that that you've always done that hasn't changed. I think

541
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 2: again with marriage, I think it just has been enhanced.

542
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 2: But also before I say it, the way I accept

543
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 2: it now is a lot different because it just it

544
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 2: feels so much more real now. But your support and

545
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 2: the way you believe in me. You know, it's different

546
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 2: coming from a girlfriend, but now coming from my wife.

547
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 2: You're you are my big, our number You're my number

548
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,120
Speaker 2: one fan, and you're the person who believes in me

549
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,679
Speaker 2: more than anyone. And I feel that a lot. I

550
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 2: feel that so much more now where I feel like

551
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 2: I'm like anything I want to do, I know I

552
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 2: can do it, and I have your moral support and

553
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: you help me become a better person, a better man.

554
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 2: And it comes from I can feel that you truly

555
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 2: believe in me, and it makes me feel like I

556
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 2: can do anything, and you've shown that in so many

557
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 2: different ways over the past three and a half years.

558
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 2: And it's such an amazing feeling. And I think that

559
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 2: goes hand in hand with like a woman wants to

560
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 2: feel taken care of and secure, and the way I

561
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,479
Speaker 2: want to provide and take care of you, like I

562
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 2: know that you have my back with anything. So it's

563
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 2: like it gives me the confidence to go do anything

564
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 2: that I need to go do, and that feels great.

565
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 1: I'm glad, my love, because that's one thing I did

566
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 1: learn from couple's therapy, you know, was to feed into

567
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: the king and you, you know what I mean. Like

568
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 1: a lot of women will be like, oh, you're this,

569
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: you're that, you're messy, you're whatever the heck your man

570
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: may be. Instead of building them and like you push

571
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: them down more, you know. And it's like really speaking

572
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: life into them and speaking and speaking to the king

573
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: in your man. And that's something I learned and I

574
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: didn't always know that. So now it's like I'm very

575
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: intentional about doing that and knowing that, yeah, you have

576
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: I have your back, Like, you know, even if he

577
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: has to go to work and he was supposed to

578
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: be with me, He's like, babe, what do you think.

579
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, baby, do your thing. You have to, like,

580
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 1: it's a great opportunity for you. I'm gonna miss you.

581
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 1: Part of me is like, oh, but I'm like, do

582
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: your thing, like you gotta do it. Go. It's fine

583
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: like supporting each other because you support me very much

584
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: in my career, you know, and I'm grateful for that.

585
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: You're always there for me and you always help me,

586
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 1: and your opinion means a lot to me. So yeah,

587
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 1: and I do have a very important question though. I

588
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: need to know if and when we have a baby,

589
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 1: and I gained eighty pounds. Are you still gonna love

590
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 1: me the same way?

591
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 2: I've already loved you at that point, So we're okay.

592
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 1: Love to you when I was seven seventy pounds heavier. Actually, yeah,

593
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: you're right six All right, We're good. I have some room,

594
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,720
Speaker 1: have some room to like, you know. But anyways, whatever,

595
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: you don't ever have to worry, are you sure?

596
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 2: Yes?

597
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 1: Right? Fine? But babe, thank you so much for being on,

598
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: of course, on these two episodes of Cheeky's and Chill.

599
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: Everyone like loves to hear from us, so I appreciate

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00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 1: you coming on. I think it was a very good conversation.

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Speaker 2: Let's do our little a very great update.

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Speaker 1: No, it's our a little handshake anyways, thanks guys, a

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Speaker 1: little update, say bye to everyone.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys.

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Speaker 1: Yes, thank you guys, and we'll see you on the

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