Speaker 1: Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
Speaker 1: put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
Speaker 1: share with you on our daily podcast do Love. The
Speaker 1: other night, if you were listening, I took a call
Speaker 1: from a listener who called in talking about how important
Speaker 1: it is to take care of ourself, she admitted. When
Speaker 1: she finally realized that and started to take care of
Speaker 1: herself take time for herself, she felt like she could
Speaker 1: release a whole lot of pain from her past and
Speaker 1: a whole lot of anger, and she felt so much
Speaker 1: more positive about the future. Listen up. I know you're busy.
Speaker 1: I know you've got responsibilities and kids and work and
Speaker 1: school and YadA da da da da. I know that.
Speaker 1: I know you don't have time enough hours in the
Speaker 1: day to get to the homework done, get the it's
Speaker 1: a laundry done, keep the dishes done. I get that
Speaker 1: you still need to take care of you. Go for
Speaker 1: a walk, paint your nails, get a massage. Oh that's
Speaker 1: my favorite thing to do. I get one about once
Speaker 1: a year, but oh it's heaven. Take a yoga class,
Speaker 1: take a spinning class, take a zoomba class. If you're
Speaker 1: really into it, sign up for a book study, a
Speaker 1: book club, read a good book, volunteer at the library,
Speaker 1: and surround yourself with wonderful literature. Nurture your soul, nurture
Speaker 1: your body. Nurture your mind, your body, your spirit, and
Speaker 1: trust me, you will be far more effective when you
Speaker 1: reach out to nurture others. You gotta take care of
Speaker 1: yourself first. I know that's hard to do. I know
Speaker 1: that is hard to do, but you.
Speaker 2: Gotta do it.
Speaker 1: Carol, thank you for being with us on the Delilah Show.
Speaker 1: What's going on in your world?
Speaker 3: Well, I wrote in I was listening to your show
Speaker 3: one day and somebody called in said that they were
Speaker 3: looking for the perfect man. And I thought that, after
Speaker 3: all the stories that I hear of that I should
Speaker 3: write in. I had taken group counseling and one of
Speaker 3: the things that we learned in relationships was about looking
Speaker 3: for what a lot of people call the perfect man.
Speaker 3: And I don't really believe in that. I believe that
Speaker 3: you have to love yourself unconditionally first, and then you know,
Speaker 3: in time, God will bring the right man along. And
Speaker 3: one of the things that we had to do was
Speaker 3: make a list of ten things that we wanted in
Speaker 3: a man. And after you did that, then you checked
Speaker 3: off all the things that you wanted in yourself. And
Speaker 3: a lot of the times there's things that we need
Speaker 3: to work on in our own lives or we can
Speaker 3: look for somebody else with those things. And so that's
Speaker 3: when I came to realize there's a lot of stuff
Speaker 3: in myself that I need to work on before I
Speaker 3: can start looking for what, you know, a lot of
Speaker 3: people call the ideal man.
Speaker 1: Yeah, isn't it funny how many people think they will
Speaker 1: be happy. Oh, I'll be happy finally when I find
Speaker 1: the right person exactly. And if you're not happy with
Speaker 1: yourself and your own skin, living your own life without
Speaker 1: the right person exactly, not only will you not be
Speaker 1: happy when you've got a partner, you'll make them miserable exactly.
Speaker 3: And that's why it never works.
Speaker 1: It never works.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm living through for that too. I think you
Speaker 3: have a great show.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you, you have a great night. Thanks, Hi,
Speaker 1: good evening. Welcome to the delight of show. Who's this?
Speaker 4: Get your sand?
Speaker 1: What can I do?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, I actually just wanted to share. I went
Speaker 5: to a meditation cleft night and I had some really
Speaker 5: great releasing of some really passed anger and regression over
Speaker 5: a miscarriage and things that I didn't realize that I
Speaker 5: was carrying through and I actually was able to break
Speaker 5: through through it and kind of just feel that I
Speaker 5: have a lot of clarity and better days ahead of me.
Speaker 5: Sometimes you just need to be able to have that clarity.
Speaker 5: And it was all just because I made time for myself.
Speaker 1: So in your crazy busy schedule, if there's twenty four
Speaker 1: hours in a day, and most people work forty fifty
Speaker 1: hours a week, how much time are you going to
Speaker 1: give to yourself just to take care of you each week?
Speaker 5: I think I can start with baby steps.
Speaker 1: Okay, what's that big? I'm just asking for a verbal
Speaker 1: commitment here. What's that baby step going to be the
Speaker 1: first the first month?
Speaker 6: It's going to be an hour day.
Speaker 1: That's good. That's actually not a babysit. That's a huge commitment.
Speaker 1: Can you imagine how much better our world would be
Speaker 1: if each of us took an hour a day to pray,
Speaker 1: or meditate or take care of ourselves.
Speaker 6: It would be a pretty great place, I would imagine.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you for calling and sharing that. Can I
Speaker 1: play a song to help you? Relax tonight.
Speaker 6: Yes, I think that's at the end of the day.
Speaker 6: All of us need to realize that.
Speaker 4: So it comes down.
Speaker 6: To again that whole self love and what we can
Speaker 6: do for ourselves, whether it be for that pedicure or
Speaker 6: help and going to redentist, the doctor or whatever that
Speaker 6: we do for everybody else.
Speaker 1: All right, well, you have a great night, and let
Speaker 1: me find a song for you, and do keep taking
Speaker 1: care of you.
Speaker 6: Thank you, I will thank you for all you do.
Speaker 1: Chris, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Talking off the air
Speaker 1: before we can on the air, I know you have
Speaker 1: a divorce, missing someone you love desperately, but recognizing that
Speaker 1: you need to be treated with love and cherished.
Speaker 4: Exactly and just need to have somebody to, you know,
Speaker 4: see the worth in me and what I have to
Speaker 4: offer and to receive that in return. And you know,
Speaker 4: I've gone back and forth with this and it's difficult.
Speaker 1: You convince yourself that there's one more thing I could
Speaker 1: do if I were just more patient, if I could
Speaker 1: just if I could just make them understand you know
Speaker 1: that it's not okay to break my heart. If I
Speaker 1: maybe I said it wrong, maybe I didn't say it right.
Speaker 1: That you're not allowed to hurt me, and maybe I
Speaker 1: made them mad. And no, love shouldn't hurt.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: Going to hurt when you're in love, let it be
Speaker 1: because the two of you are working through something together.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: It hurts when you're in love and your beloved is sick,
Speaker 1: or his mother dies, or you go through a loss.
Speaker 1: That kind of hurt is okay when you're in love.
Speaker 1: But when you're hurting because they're hurting you, they're ignoring you,
Speaker 1: they're not respecting you, they're not cherishing you, that kind
Speaker 1: of hurt not okay.
Speaker 4: No, it's not it's not okay. You know, love is
Speaker 4: a two way streets. You know, you've got to have
Speaker 4: a give and take instead of just always giving. And
Speaker 4: that's what I'm seeing more and more, and I think
Speaker 4: that's that's the heaviness in my heart is. I know,
Speaker 4: I know in my mind what I need to do.
Speaker 4: My heart's just not on board yet.
Speaker 1: You know they say the longest distance in the world
Speaker 1: is the distance between your head in your heart.
Speaker 4: I believe that.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I'm going to play a song for you
Speaker 1: for this new journey that you're on, this journey of
Speaker 1: caring for yourself and taking care of yourself and cherishing yourself.
Speaker 1: I'm going to play a song for you.
Speaker 4: Okay, I appreciate it. The lineman to thank you.
Speaker 1: Hi, you've called the Delilah Show. Who's this Hi?
Speaker 2: My name is Amandolin, and I am thrilled that you
Speaker 2: picked up the phone.
Speaker 1: What can I do for you?
Speaker 2: I was calling because I found the most awesome guy
Speaker 2: in the whole world. And I love your show so much.
Speaker 2: I listened to it all the time, and ultimately I
Speaker 2: had like really really bad self esteem. Like two years ago,
Speaker 2: I was like down the dumps on myself. I hated myself,
Speaker 2: I hated my life. I just hated everything. And your
Speaker 2: show was so great. It really helped me a lot
Speaker 2: during that time. But also when I met this guy,
Speaker 2: he really God, he's amazing. He just picked me up
Speaker 2: and now I just I love myself so much more
Speaker 2: and my life is so much better. And he's just
Speaker 2: such a phenomenal guy. I love him so much that
Speaker 2: I just wanted to tell him on your toil how
Speaker 2: much I love him.
Speaker 1: Wow, this is all coming together. You're feeling better. You
Speaker 1: listen to my show. He's a great guy.
Speaker 2: I like this just the best guy in the world.
Speaker 1: When you stop and think about how wonderful and unique
Speaker 1: and special you are, how there's nobody else like you
Speaker 1: in this world. You're the only one. Yeah, then it's
Speaker 1: kind of hard to be down on yourself and beat
Speaker 1: yourself up all the time.
Speaker 2: I just, you know, I wanted him to feel like
Speaker 2: there's nothing that I could do to express to him
Speaker 2: how much I care about him and how much he's
Speaker 2: helped me in my life.
Speaker 1: I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
Speaker 1: much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
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