WEBVTT - SELF CARE: So Important!

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have

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<v Speaker 1>put together some of my favorite radio moments here to

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<v Speaker 1>share with you on our daily podcast do Love. The

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<v Speaker 1>other night, if you were listening, I took a call

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<v Speaker 1>from a listener who called in talking about how important

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<v Speaker 1>it is to take care of ourself, she admitted. When

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<v Speaker 1>she finally realized that and started to take care of

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<v Speaker 1>herself take time for herself, she felt like she could

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<v Speaker 1>release a whole lot of pain from her past and

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<v Speaker 1>a whole lot of anger, and she felt so much

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<v Speaker 1>more positive about the future. Listen up. I know you're busy.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you've got responsibilities and kids and work and

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<v Speaker 1>school and YadA da da da da. I know that.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you don't have time enough hours in the

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<v Speaker 1>day to get to the homework done, get the it's

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<v Speaker 1>a laundry done, keep the dishes done. I get that

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<v Speaker 1>you still need to take care of you. Go for

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<v Speaker 1>a walk, paint your nails, get a massage. Oh that's

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite thing to do. I get one about once

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<v Speaker 1>a year, but oh it's heaven. Take a yoga class,

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<v Speaker 1>take a spinning class, take a zoomba class. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>really into it, sign up for a book study, a

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<v Speaker 1>book club, read a good book, volunteer at the library,

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<v Speaker 1>and surround yourself with wonderful literature. Nurture your soul, nurture

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<v Speaker 1>your body. Nurture your mind, your body, your spirit, and

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<v Speaker 1>trust me, you will be far more effective when you

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<v Speaker 1>reach out to nurture others. You gotta take care of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself first. I know that's hard to do. I know

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<v Speaker 1>that is hard to do, but you.

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<v Speaker 2>Gotta do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Carol, thank you for being with us on the Delilah Show.

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on in your world?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I wrote in I was listening to your show

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<v Speaker 3>one day and somebody called in said that they were

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<v Speaker 3>looking for the perfect man. And I thought that, after

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<v Speaker 3>all the stories that I hear of that I should

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<v Speaker 3>write in. I had taken group counseling and one of

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<v Speaker 3>the things that we learned in relationships was about looking

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<v Speaker 3>for what a lot of people call the perfect man.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't really believe in that. I believe that

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<v Speaker 3>you have to love yourself unconditionally first, and then you know,

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<v Speaker 3>in time, God will bring the right man along. And

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<v Speaker 3>one of the things that we had to do was

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<v Speaker 3>make a list of ten things that we wanted in

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<v Speaker 3>a man. And after you did that, then you checked

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<v Speaker 3>off all the things that you wanted in yourself. And

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of the times there's things that we need

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<v Speaker 3>to work on in our own lives or we can

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<v Speaker 3>look for somebody else with those things. And so that's

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<v Speaker 3>when I came to realize there's a lot of stuff

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<v Speaker 3>in myself that I need to work on before I

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<v Speaker 3>can start looking for what, you know, a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>people call the ideal man.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, isn't it funny how many people think they will

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<v Speaker 1>be happy. Oh, I'll be happy finally when I find

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<v Speaker 1>the right person exactly. And if you're not happy with

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and your own skin, living your own life without

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<v Speaker 1>the right person exactly, not only will you not be

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<v Speaker 1>happy when you've got a partner, you'll make them miserable exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's why it never works.

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<v Speaker 1>It never works.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm living through for that too. I think you

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<v Speaker 3>have a great show.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, thank you, you have a great night. Thanks, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>good evening. Welcome to the delight of show. Who's this?

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<v Speaker 4>Get your sand?

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<v Speaker 1>What can I do?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh? Yeah, I actually just wanted to share. I went

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<v Speaker 5>to a meditation cleft night and I had some really

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<v Speaker 5>great releasing of some really passed anger and regression over

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<v Speaker 5>a miscarriage and things that I didn't realize that I

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<v Speaker 5>was carrying through and I actually was able to break

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<v Speaker 5>through through it and kind of just feel that I

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<v Speaker 5>have a lot of clarity and better days ahead of me.

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<v Speaker 5>Sometimes you just need to be able to have that clarity.

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<v Speaker 5>And it was all just because I made time for myself.

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<v Speaker 1>So in your crazy busy schedule, if there's twenty four

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<v Speaker 1>hours in a day, and most people work forty fifty

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<v Speaker 1>hours a week, how much time are you going to

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<v Speaker 1>give to yourself just to take care of you each week?

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<v Speaker 5>I think I can start with baby steps.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what's that big? I'm just asking for a verbal

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<v Speaker 1>commitment here. What's that baby step going to be the

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<v Speaker 1>first the first month?

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<v Speaker 6>It's going to be an hour day.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good. That's actually not a babysit. That's a huge commitment.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you imagine how much better our world would be

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<v Speaker 1>if each of us took an hour a day to pray,

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<v Speaker 1>or meditate or take care of ourselves.

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<v Speaker 6>It would be a pretty great place, I would imagine.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, thank you for calling and sharing that. Can I

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<v Speaker 1>play a song to help you? Relax tonight.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, I think that's at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 6>All of us need to realize that.

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<v Speaker 4>So it comes down.

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<v Speaker 6>To again that whole self love and what we can

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<v Speaker 6>do for ourselves, whether it be for that pedicure or

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<v Speaker 6>help and going to redentist, the doctor or whatever that

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<v Speaker 6>we do for everybody else.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, well, you have a great night, and let

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<v Speaker 1>me find a song for you, and do keep taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of you.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you, I will thank you for all you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Talking off the air

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<v Speaker 1>before we can on the air, I know you have

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<v Speaker 1>a divorce, missing someone you love desperately, but recognizing that

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<v Speaker 1>you need to be treated with love and cherished.

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<v Speaker 4>Exactly and just need to have somebody to, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>see the worth in me and what I have to

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<v Speaker 4>offer and to receive that in return. And you know,

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<v Speaker 4>I've gone back and forth with this and it's difficult.

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<v Speaker 1>You convince yourself that there's one more thing I could

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<v Speaker 1>do if I were just more patient, if I could

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<v Speaker 1>just if I could just make them understand you know

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<v Speaker 1>that it's not okay to break my heart. If I

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I said it wrong, maybe I didn't say it right.

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<v Speaker 1>That you're not allowed to hurt me, and maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>made them mad. And no, love shouldn't hurt.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to hurt when you're in love, let it be

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<v Speaker 1>because the two of you are working through something together.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>It hurts when you're in love and your beloved is sick,

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<v Speaker 1>or his mother dies, or you go through a loss.

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<v Speaker 1>That kind of hurt is okay when you're in love.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you're hurting because they're hurting you, they're ignoring you,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not respecting you, they're not cherishing you, that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of hurt not okay.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it's not it's not okay. You know, love is

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<v Speaker 4>a two way streets. You know, you've got to have

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<v Speaker 4>a give and take instead of just always giving. And

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<v Speaker 4>that's what I'm seeing more and more, and I think

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<v Speaker 4>that's that's the heaviness in my heart is. I know,

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<v Speaker 4>I know in my mind what I need to do.

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<v Speaker 4>My heart's just not on board yet.

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<v Speaker 1>You know they say the longest distance in the world

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<v Speaker 1>is the distance between your head in your heart.

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<v Speaker 4>I believe that.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm. I'm going to play a song for you

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<v Speaker 1>for this new journey that you're on, this journey of

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<v Speaker 1>caring for yourself and taking care of yourself and cherishing yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to play a song for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I appreciate it. The lineman to thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, you've called the Delilah Show. Who's this Hi?

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Amandolin, and I am thrilled that you

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<v Speaker 2>picked up the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>What can I do for you?

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<v Speaker 2>I was calling because I found the most awesome guy

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<v Speaker 2>in the whole world. And I love your show so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I listened to it all the time, and ultimately I

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<v Speaker 2>had like really really bad self esteem. Like two years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like down the dumps on myself. I hated myself,

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<v Speaker 2>I hated my life. I just hated everything. And your

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<v Speaker 2>show was so great. It really helped me a lot

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<v Speaker 2>during that time. But also when I met this guy,

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<v Speaker 2>he really God, he's amazing. He just picked me up

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<v Speaker 2>and now I just I love myself so much more

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<v Speaker 2>and my life is so much better. And he's just

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<v Speaker 2>such a phenomenal guy. I love him so much that

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to tell him on your toil how

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<v Speaker 2>much I love him.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, this is all coming together. You're feeling better. You

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<v Speaker 1>listen to my show. He's a great guy.

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<v Speaker 2>I like this just the best guy in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>When you stop and think about how wonderful and unique

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<v Speaker 1>and special you are, how there's nobody else like you

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<v Speaker 1>in this world. You're the only one. Yeah, then it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of hard to be down on yourself and beat

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<v Speaker 1>yourself up all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I just, you know, I wanted him to feel like

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<v Speaker 2>there's nothing that I could do to express to him

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<v Speaker 2>how much I care about him and how much he's

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<v Speaker 2>helped me in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as

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<v Speaker 1>much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share

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<v Speaker 1>more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you b