Speaker 1: Who baby a baby? I need you, Oh hell, I
Speaker 1: need you. What to Expect is a production of I
Speaker 1: Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Murkop, and I'm a
Speaker 1: mom on a mission, a mission to help you know
Speaker 1: what to expect every step of the way. Have I
Speaker 1: noticed that there's just something about a baby bump that
Speaker 1: brings out the busybody in everybody, that breaks down social
Speaker 1: barriers and norms that usually keep strangers minding their own business,
Speaker 1: that has everyone and your mother playing the pregnancy police
Speaker 1: or the pregnancy expert, predicting your baby sex, or speculating
Speaker 1: on your due date, or even making cracks about your
Speaker 1: family planning fail. Of course you have. And let's face it,
Speaker 1: we are all looking for advice when we're expecting. Chances
Speaker 1: are you already turned to people who've been there before
Speaker 1: for a little insight and intel. It's probably why you're
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast. And today we are turning the
Speaker 1: tables and turning to you are What to Expect Community
Speaker 1: to share the best and worst pregnancy advice and comments
Speaker 1: you've ever received, the things that have shocked or offended you,
Speaker 1: and the things that have helped motivate and inspire you.
Speaker 1: Because as you know, we are all in this together,
Speaker 1: and I am together with Emma. Hey, Emma, when you
Speaker 1: were pregnant both times, Okay, we can safely assume that
Speaker 1: of the unwanted advice you got from me, and then
Speaker 1: you didn't follow like that aircraft to get other comments
Speaker 1: that bugged you or rubbed you the wrong way. No,
Speaker 1: I think the only thing is wow, you look so small.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's like a double edged sword.
Speaker 1: Need to say that to a pregnant keep it to
Speaker 1: yourself exactly. I'm actually really grateful that I didn't have
Speaker 1: any comments like that towards me, because I literally would
Speaker 1: have had a meltdown. Yeah, I'm very insecure to be
Speaker 1: in my youth, So I just don't you that fuel
Speaker 1: added to that insecurity fire. Yeah, I mean me, it's
Speaker 1: really hard for me to remember that far back. I mean,
Speaker 1: I wasn't that young. I was twenty three. I was
Speaker 1: a grown up, But I remember people looking at me
Speaker 1: a little bit funny because I gave off this kind
Speaker 1: of teen mom vibe and Eric dad, he was a
Speaker 1: grown up, you know, it was clear that he had
Speaker 1: gotten me knocked up, so that it seemed like awkward
Speaker 1: for everyone yeah, yeah, I like it. There was a
Speaker 1: girlfriend of Eric's friend who asked to see my bump,
Speaker 1: like we're all sitting around and she said, oh, let
Speaker 1: me see your belly because we didn't call it bumps
Speaker 1: back then, it was belly. And I was so excited
Speaker 1: and I lifted up my shirt and I was so
Speaker 1: proud of my ump and she goes, wow, that's really furry.
Speaker 1: You got so much further. I was mortified. That's normal, Okay, relaxed,
Speaker 1: turbo sit down. Yeah, no, we're all furry when we're pregnant.
Speaker 1: I know it goes away. Babies are usually born furry too,
Speaker 1: so you can exactly keep those comments to yourself. I mean,
Speaker 1: I have to admit that I've made some comments that
Speaker 1: I later regretted. I think we all have. But like recently,
Speaker 1: at a USO baby shower, a mom was there. She
Speaker 1: didn't have a baby with her, and usually either the
Speaker 1: mom is pregnant or she has her baby with her. Well,
Speaker 1: this mom, I didn't have a baby with her, so
Speaker 1: I assumed she was pregnized. That what's your due date?
Speaker 1: And she said, oh, I already had the baby. The
Speaker 1: baby's home with my husband. And I was like oh no, sorry, So, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit more careful now, but yeah, never
Speaker 1: assume a woman is pregnant or speculate about her to day.
Speaker 1: Now she wants to tell you, she'll tell you. So
Speaker 1: we asked our moms on social media and the what
Speaker 1: to Expect message boards to find out what comments. You
Speaker 1: are all just sick and tired of hearing You're already
Speaker 1: sick and tired when you're pregnant, but now you're sick
Speaker 1: and tired of hearing these things. And first, um, what
Speaker 1: we heard so much was that pregnant moms seemed to
Speaker 1: be sick of the dire warnings, like the worst case
Speaker 1: scenarios that everybody is always giving you. So if you're
Speaker 1: listening out there, the bottom line is nobody wants to
Speaker 1: hear your horror stories. Every pregnancy is different, and because
Speaker 1: you're probably exaggerating the story that that's what tends to
Speaker 1: happen naturally. You know a mom who's been through the
Speaker 1: ring or you know, during labor and delivery, she embellishes
Speaker 1: the story every time she tells it, and it truly
Speaker 1: does become a horror story, and nobody wants to hear
Speaker 1: that when they're about to go into labor. So some
Speaker 1: of the common responses were labor is so painful. You
Speaker 1: know people telling you that, Like, duh, we can assume
Speaker 1: that paper is painful. It's going to hurt. But I
Speaker 1: don't see why you have to tell a mom that
Speaker 1: one she's pregnant. I also remember, you're not going to
Speaker 1: remember that pain. If you remember that pain, no one
Speaker 1: would have more than one kid. It's true, although I
Speaker 1: kind of think I do remember the pain. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you also had a natural birth. I had an epidural,
Speaker 1: so well that's true. Then of course you're not going
Speaker 1: to remember. That's what epidurals were made for. So anyway,
Speaker 1: something else they're sick of hearing is you're never going
Speaker 1: to sleep again, or you think you're tired. Now you
Speaker 1: just wait. I'm guilty of saying that to so many people,
Speaker 1: so you might want to rethink that strategy. Yeah, this
Speaker 1: whole episode has made me rethink my whole life, so
Speaker 1: I'm glad me too. I feel like I've said so
Speaker 1: many things that could have been offensive, so probably best
Speaker 1: to just yeah or edit yourself when in doubt, just
Speaker 1: be quiet. Yeah, you got some from your Instagram that
Speaker 1: we're pretty yeah. The best one was enjoy every second,
Speaker 1: and then she put the nausea emoji because like a
Speaker 1: lot of people are puking for nine months and they're like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to enjoy every second, praying to the porcelain gods,
Speaker 1: thank you. I love that. Another one is life is
Speaker 1: about to end. I won't be anything I want ever again.
Speaker 1: And then the mom's like, okay, well, life actually began
Speaker 1: when I had my son, and I thought that was awesome.
Speaker 1: She took a negative and turned it into a positive.
Speaker 1: The truth is your life begins. It really does. So
Speaker 1: I really like that way of thinking. It's a different life,
Speaker 1: better in some ways, even better in other ways. And
Speaker 1: then there's the rest. We don't need to, you know,
Speaker 1: go there with her when she's still pregnant. Let her
Speaker 1: find out and decide for herself. Of the moms were
Speaker 1: bothered by the endless barrage of questions. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you got any of these, emma, but you know,
Speaker 1: are you breastfeeding or bottle feeding? You know, what are
Speaker 1: your plans to feed the baby? Insert judgment? How long
Speaker 1: were you trying? Like? Seriously, okay, my sex, like my
Speaker 1: sex life unless it's mad, then I'll tell you all
Speaker 1: about my sex life. But for most people, they don't
Speaker 1: like to talk about that, especially you know what, like
Speaker 1: that's not a fair question because someone had infertility problems
Speaker 1: or they couldn't get pregnant for a while. There's so
Speaker 1: many varitables about becoming pregnant, so let's just not go there.
Speaker 1: If she wants to volunteer it, then let her be
Speaker 1: the one to share. This one surprised me a lot
Speaker 1: because a lot of people said they don't like being
Speaker 1: asked how are you feeling now? I asked this of
Speaker 1: pregnant women all the time, but it's because I care
Speaker 1: and like, I want them to share if they have,
Speaker 1: you know, symptoms that are bothering them, or if they
Speaker 1: just want to say they feel great. But a lot
Speaker 1: of you reported being tired of repeating you know how
Speaker 1: I'm feeling. I'm tired, and I'm Cassie and I'm uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: my bad hurts my crot shirts, or on the other hand,
Speaker 1: you know, tired of just lying and saying, oh, I
Speaker 1: feel fine because it leads to an easier conversation. What
Speaker 1: do you think about the question? Yeah, I was surprised
Speaker 1: by that, although I do get it, I sometimes feel like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I just don't want to talk to anybody right now,
Speaker 1: so I just don't talk to me. So I kind
Speaker 1: of understand that, but I mean people care after. I mean,
Speaker 1: if it's a family member or like your best friend, like,
Speaker 1: you can't really fault them for caring exactly, but it's
Speaker 1: still sometimes it gets annoying, I guess. So some of
Speaker 1: the most common questions are rhetorical and just plain rude.
Speaker 1: You're still pregnant, like when is that baby going to
Speaker 1: be born already? Um? And then there's the perennial favorite
Speaker 1: are you sure you're not having twins? People on my
Speaker 1: Instagram they're like, they're like, are you sure there's only one?
Speaker 1: M nice? And then there's a question when you have twins,
Speaker 1: or you tell someone you're expecting twins and they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: did you have fertility treatment? Okay, zipp at peanut Gallery
Speaker 1: and there are moms like you, you had IVF with
Speaker 1: lenox I put two babies in there, yeah, and you
Speaker 1: would probably be happy to discuss you know, your fertility treins,
Speaker 1: But like, exactly, I'm not everybody. I will be happy
Speaker 1: to talk about anything, anything, all day, any day. But
Speaker 1: most people, especially you know, pregnant women, are not like me,
Speaker 1: especially people who are going through those kinds of struggles.
Speaker 1: They don't want to talk about it. Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: mean some moms are happy to talk about it, especially
Speaker 1: if they can help another mom out who might be
Speaker 1: facing those fertility struggles themselves. I mean, that might be
Speaker 1: why they're asking, not just because they're nosy, although they
Speaker 1: might just be nosy. I've had moms say when they're
Speaker 1: asked about their twins, they say, well, they were made
Speaker 1: with love, so which is true, Like they were made
Speaker 1: with love, even if they were made in you know,
Speaker 1: a laboratory or if they were made in bed. Another
Speaker 1: comeback that some moms give is well, we had sex
Speaker 1: twice in the same night. Well, like who hasn't at
Speaker 1: some point in her eyes, sometimes five times. Um Unsolicited
Speaker 1: advice was a big theme. Not surprisingly, some moms said
Speaker 1: they've been told over and over you can drink in
Speaker 1: the third trimester. Well, that is a discussion between a
Speaker 1: woman and her doctor, not a woman and you stranger person.
Speaker 1: The person in like the grocery store exactly, and the
Speaker 1: you should comments like you should eat this, you should
Speaker 1: sleep now you should buy this and you should shut up.
Speaker 1: You should shut up, Yes, definitely, And I mean you
Speaker 1: had some odd ones that I had never heard before. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I had some bizarre ones. I had someone say someone
Speaker 1: told her not to eat mustard, and someone said, don't
Speaker 1: eat spicy food. So, first of all, if anyone told
Speaker 1: you not to eat mustard, you probably would have flipped mustard. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you love mustard um and hot food. I mean I've
Speaker 1: heard people say that, oh, it's gonna make the baby's
Speaker 1: eyes burn or something. No. Yeah, it's just like the
Speaker 1: whole thing, like when a man's like, I'm scared to
Speaker 1: have sex. I don't want my penis to hit the
Speaker 1: baby in the head. Well it's not bulls. Don't don't
Speaker 1: have sex and eat spicy food at the same time.
Speaker 1: And then, of course the pregnancy police are everywhere, everywhere, everywhere,
Speaker 1: so many Karen's up in here. Yeah, like the woman
Speaker 1: at Starbucks who says, are you sure you should be
Speaker 1: having that giant coffee drink? So many people have said
Speaker 1: that people in Starbucks has actually come up to them
Speaker 1: and said, are you sure you've been drinking that when
Speaker 1: you're pregnant? And then like say you were in a
Speaker 1: restaurant and you're drinking something out of a cocktail glass.
Speaker 1: You should not be drinking. I don't make those assumptions.
Speaker 1: And again, it's a conversation between a doctor and a mom,
Speaker 1: not between you busybody person, or you shouldn't be carrying
Speaker 1: that heavy bag or that toddler. There was a mom
Speaker 1: online who said that her mother in law forbade her
Speaker 1: to hold the toddler right, yeah, while she was at
Speaker 1: her house. Yeah, that's another conversation with the doctor. Now
Speaker 1: with you mother in law. Yeah, I love you. But
Speaker 1: everybody has an opinion. Opinions are like you know what,
Speaker 1: because everybody has one. Oh yeah, um, And then there
Speaker 1: that don't gain too much weight and don't eat too
Speaker 1: much sugar. Again, check with the doctor with the person
Speaker 1: checking you out of the store. Oh and speaking of that,
Speaker 1: there's the family planning police too, apparently, because one mom
Speaker 1: was at a store, she was pregnant and she had
Speaker 1: her very young toddler with her, and then checker said,
Speaker 1: I kid you not, I hope you're ready to be
Speaker 1: a single mother of two under two. And she was
Speaker 1: actually married, not that it mattered, right, Like this was
Speaker 1: none of this woman's business. She was married, but her
Speaker 1: ring didn't fit anymore because of pregnancy. Plus so she
Speaker 1: wasn't wearing a ring. But who did she think she
Speaker 1: is making that? Who are these people? Like? Where in
Speaker 1: your head? Is that okay to say? But but also
Speaker 1: it is okay to be a single mother of course,
Speaker 1: Like I want to know who this woman is so
Speaker 1: I can go into that store and just have a
Speaker 1: word with her. You and me both, honey, you and
Speaker 1: me both. A few moms who have closely space babies
Speaker 1: are also tired of hearing, wow, you all are fast,
Speaker 1: or isn't it time to start using birth control once again?
Speaker 1: A conversation? You just jealous that I'm sleeping with my husband,
Speaker 1: not with you, not with you. I feel like people
Speaker 1: who say that are just jealous that those you know,
Speaker 1: parents are having so much sex enough to get pregnant
Speaker 1: two months after they have a baby. And of course,
Speaker 1: there were lots of comments on pregnant woman's bodies, which
Speaker 1: seemed to be like community property somehow, Right when you're pregnant,
Speaker 1: everybody thinks they know something about your body that you
Speaker 1: should know. You're not pregnant. We're all pregnant. And this
Speaker 1: was one of the most common things you responded about.
Speaker 1: Not surprisingly, we have some personal stories too. So yeah,
Speaker 1: my father in law, Norm, I've told this story before,
Speaker 1: but to this day he always says to pregnant women,
Speaker 1: so when you have in the twins, he said that
Speaker 1: to me times right, And he also did say to me, Um,
Speaker 1: you're starting to look pregnant from behind, ye remember with me,
Speaker 1: and your face is starting to look pregnant. Thanks Norm.
Speaker 1: I do love Norm, but still I love him. Um,
Speaker 1: he should be careful to tread lately. Our producer's father
Speaker 1: in law, he said, when she announced her pregnancy, the
Speaker 1: first words were, actually, pregnancy is not an excuse, by
Speaker 1: the way, to eat lots of ice cream and gain
Speaker 1: a of weight, not congratulations. Were so excited for you?
Speaker 1: So the ice cream not cool. A lot of moms
Speaker 1: told me they were sick of hearing wow, you're about
Speaker 1: to pop ps. They were like, twenty six weeks. That
Speaker 1: was not something they wanted to hear. People are a
Speaker 1: real dream team. Oh, don't make assumptions about a woman's
Speaker 1: doo days. Essentially, because healthy babies come in all kinds
Speaker 1: of packages. I can tell you're having a girl because
Speaker 1: you're caring so wide, or you're having a girl because
Speaker 1: girls take your beauty. Well, yeah, you can do the
Speaker 1: math on that one. That's really such a compliment. Or
Speaker 1: you're caring so small, and what that does is make
Speaker 1: you worry that something's wrong with the baby. It sounds
Speaker 1: like a compliment, but then it's the way a pregnant
Speaker 1: woman's brain works is she's already going to stress out,
Speaker 1: and then you're caring so low, and then you stress
Speaker 1: out that you're gonna have the baby pre term. It's
Speaker 1: not like any one means harm with these comments. You know,
Speaker 1: they're just trying to enjoy your pregnancy with you to
Speaker 1: participate in it. But I think there's a lesson to
Speaker 1: all of us. This was a common thing that mom
Speaker 1: said on your social media, So what were some of
Speaker 1: the things that you heard? To your face? Is so full?
Speaker 1: Pregnant too, you're so big. There's no way you're making
Speaker 1: it to your due day. I mean like that kind
Speaker 1: of thing, And honestly, like I know myself and that's
Speaker 1: your trigger. I feel like you're very different. You know,
Speaker 1: how would you react. I'm a bit of a tongue biter,
Speaker 1: so it would take a lot for me to actually
Speaker 1: say what I was really thinking and maybe I'll tell
Speaker 1: someone later. But you know, then again, it's totally fine
Speaker 1: to explode if that's what you're feeling and you need
Speaker 1: to vent. It depends on the day. For me, Like
Speaker 1: I've been known to get into altercations with other people
Speaker 1: when it comes to like other people, like I saw
Speaker 1: this guy at Starbucks being mean to this older lady.
Speaker 1: I'll totally fight kind of situation when it comes to myself,
Speaker 1: Like if I'm pregnant, I feel like I'm a little
Speaker 1: bit more measured submissive. So I'm gonna obsess about it
Speaker 1: for like eight months internally. Internally, I'm gonna obsess about it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cry, it's gonna be at the forefront of
Speaker 1: my mind and I'm not gonna get over. But not
Speaker 1: just my personality. No, and it's completely valid. So let's
Speaker 1: not say this to pregnant women anymore. Just say you
Speaker 1: look beautiful. So we asked our community the best advice
Speaker 1: they ever got when they were pregnant and when they
Speaker 1: were new parents, and some of it was motivational, like
Speaker 1: you look beautiful, you look like you're flourishing. Enjoy your
Speaker 1: body and your waking, enjoy the newborn days. They go
Speaker 1: too fast. One that sounded inspirational slash motivational wasn't to
Speaker 1: the mom who received it. The person said, you're going
Speaker 1: to love being pregnant. Yes, she did not love being pregnant.
Speaker 1: Spoiler alert yes, so that that didn't go over so well.
Speaker 1: Every mom is different, every reaction is different. Some moms
Speaker 1: loved hearing you're not gonna love being pregnant, and some
Speaker 1: loved hearing it's okay not to love being pregnant, which
Speaker 1: I would say plenty of moms do not love being pregnant.
Speaker 1: It's really a crapshoot, so to speak as a patient, So, um,
Speaker 1: I love this one. Actually, this is great, and this
Speaker 1: is something everyone should say to every pregnant woman that
Speaker 1: they care about. Let me know if you need anything
Speaker 1: or you need to talk. I mean, that's such a simple,
Speaker 1: great thing to say to her pregnant woman or a
Speaker 1: new mom, and it leaves the door open. It's not
Speaker 1: assuming or presuming. Is leaving the door open that if
Speaker 1: she needs something, she knows that she can come to.
Speaker 1: And that could be if she's depressed or anxious or
Speaker 1: you know, having a really rough time. She knows someone
Speaker 1: is there for her, and that's that's a great gift. Exactly. Emma,
Speaker 1: you've got some great practical advice for moms on your Instagram.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, somebody, these are so good. Okay, so a
Speaker 1: lot of people recommend journaling. Yeah, I did like two
Speaker 1: pages of a journal and I quit. But that's just
Speaker 1: my personality. It's such a great thing. It's really great
Speaker 1: for like releasing and just like memories. This is the
Speaker 1: best one. Okay, she said, create an email address now,
Speaker 1: send pictures and notes, and give the log in to
Speaker 1: your child when they turn eighteen. That's awesome. Well it's
Speaker 1: still work. Yeah, technology change or something. I mean, I've
Speaker 1: had a all for like twenty years, that's true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean that's kind of like a variation of what
Speaker 1: moms used to do, like write a letter to your baby,
Speaker 1: which you can still do, or you can make a
Speaker 1: little time capsule. Yeah, so this is like the millennial version.
Speaker 1: I love it. Yeah, me too. Drink lots of water,
Speaker 1: don't be ashamed to ask for help, and ask for
Speaker 1: help when you need it. My friend actually said, your mom,
Speaker 1: how do you telling me how to push out a baby?
Speaker 1: And the baby was out in six minutes, which is
Speaker 1: ironic because I don't listen to anything you say. And
Speaker 1: I pushed forever and I couldn't figure out how to push.
Speaker 1: So maybe I should have taken some advice I was.
Speaker 1: I was right by your side telling you how to push.
Speaker 1: When I didn't. I was just too concerned I was
Speaker 1: going to poop in front of my husband. I did
Speaker 1: not want to. So as everybody should know, you push
Speaker 1: like you're going to have the biggest poop of your life.
Speaker 1: So I tell this some mom's all the time when
Speaker 1: they're worried about the pushing part, I tell them, yeah,
Speaker 1: just look down, look down past your belly, and don't
Speaker 1: push with your face, because that's what I did, and
Speaker 1: I ended up with bruce is all over the place.
Speaker 1: I just couldn't at how to push. It's just not
Speaker 1: my talent um. Other things mom said they loved hearing
Speaker 1: about where pregnancy pillows and prenatal yoga. Many people love it.
Speaker 1: The best advice. A mom told me. She told me
Speaker 1: she got the best advice and she didn't follow it,
Speaker 1: and then as soon as she didn't follow it, she
Speaker 1: immediately regretted it. And that was to read up and
Speaker 1: learn about breastfeeding. I mean that could sound like something judgmental,
Speaker 1: but in fact, the person telling her this was just
Speaker 1: giving your heads up that breastfeeding is the natural process.
Speaker 1: It doesn't always come naturally, and she found that out
Speaker 1: as soon as she had her baby and wish that
Speaker 1: she had, you know, given herself that grace, but also
Speaker 1: realized that it's a process that you need to learn
Speaker 1: and that you have to be patient while you're learning. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not like the movies where they just latch on
Speaker 1: and it's magical and the angels things. Usually sometimes it
Speaker 1: is something else was stay off Google and so funny
Speaker 1: because Emma Roberts posted on Instagram that she had been
Speaker 1: Googling a lot, I guess and it's stressed her out.
Speaker 1: So then she got a copy of what to expect
Speaker 1: when you're expecting and then she felt calm and happy.
Speaker 1: Emma thing, that was really nice. But I totally agree,
Speaker 1: do not google. Step away from the Google. I'm so
Speaker 1: guilty of googling. Step away from the Google. If you
Speaker 1: have any questions, and you know, you can always ask
Speaker 1: me on Facebook or Instagram, but also call your doctor
Speaker 1: or your midwife. Yeah, don't page doctor. Google don't go
Speaker 1: down that rabbit hole. Lots and moms also said get
Speaker 1: an epidural. Now, Emma, that's probably your advice that you
Speaker 1: give everyone I I do and now. Um. My top
Speaker 1: pregnancy advice, and you've all heard this one before is
Speaker 1: remember every pregnancy, every pregnant body, every labor and delivery,
Speaker 1: every baby is different. But the funny thing about this
Speaker 1: is that some moms on social media said that this
Speaker 1: advice makes them sick too, and they roll their eyes out.
Speaker 1: But it's true, it's true. But everything makes you roll
Speaker 1: your eyes at some point because you hear it over
Speaker 1: and over and over again, especially from me. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I apologize in advance. Apology accepted. Other people's experiences are
Speaker 1: fun to hear sometimes, but they don't reflect your experience. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's a variation on the theme. And other people's
Speaker 1: choices are their own and they shouldn't influence your choices,
Speaker 1: so don't let them get you down or make you
Speaker 1: doubt yourself. Emma, what's the best advice you could give
Speaker 1: pregnant and new moms besides getting epidural getting upidural? Although
Speaker 1: of my friends are like anti epidural and didn't have
Speaker 1: them exactly their choice. Yeah, their joys. And that's that's
Speaker 1: my best advice. Follow your own heart and your gut,
Speaker 1: because the thing is, during pregnancy is really the time
Speaker 1: when you start developing those like maternal gut instincts and
Speaker 1: you know, totally stay with you throughout your whole journey
Speaker 1: and motherhood, and you've got to trust them. You gotta
Speaker 1: learn to trust them during pregnancy because they usually don't
Speaker 1: steer you wrong. That's a fact. So, yeah, if you're
Speaker 1: pregnant and you're on the receiving end of all that
Speaker 1: unsolicited advice, all the advice you didn't ask for, all
Speaker 1: the advice that's pissing you off, just keep thinking about
Speaker 1: that baby you're going to hold in your arms and
Speaker 1: all the ship that people told you you can just
Speaker 1: forget who baby love a baby love. I need you,
Speaker 1: Oh how I need you. Thanks for listening. Remember I'm
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