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Speaker 1: Jebels Second date Update. Today's second date update is a
Speaker 1: little different than usual because normally when somebody emails us,
Speaker 1: they're complaining like, oh, I've been blowing off or this
Speaker 1: person won't talk to me. Well, apparently the dude on
Speaker 1: the phone today named Andy has been trying to get
Speaker 1: together with the girl that he went out on a
Speaker 1: date with, and she's also been trying to get together
Speaker 1: with him, but they can't seem to connect. And now
Speaker 1: I guess he thinks he needs to do a second
Speaker 1: date update about it? Andy, what's up? How are you? Hey? Good?
Speaker 1: How are you doing? Man? Wow? For that description, it
Speaker 1: sounds pretty bored Andy, Like we're going to be your
Speaker 1: personal assistants trying to get the calendar right for you too. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, all right, maybe it's me,
Speaker 1: but we just can't seem to get on the same page. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: why'd you emails for a second date update? Then? If
Speaker 1: you don't think she's blowing you off at first, I
Speaker 1: didn't think she would blowing me off, but now I
Speaker 1: think she might be. Okay, maybe it just got too
Speaker 1: frustrating trying to plan something. Well, before we get into
Speaker 1: all that, tell us a little bit about her. Where
Speaker 1: did you meet her? Starbucks? Actually, oh, that's kind of cute.
Speaker 1: Did you approach her? I did, which I usually don't do,
Speaker 1: but she actually kept looking at me, and I just thought,
Speaker 1: as she did, Andy, that's right. Yeah, he just standing
Speaker 1: at the Starbucks all day long, waiting for ladies. It
Speaker 1: finally paid off. Yeah. I mean I didn't know what
Speaker 1: was going on. I thought maybe she would like I
Speaker 1: had a stain on my shirt or I had like
Speaker 1: can yeah, I got a whole lot of sexy on
Speaker 1: your shirt? That's the problem that day? And I did
Speaker 1: What did you say to her? Did you have a
Speaker 1: line or were you up front? How did you approach her?
Speaker 1: I was very upfront. I just said I just got
Speaker 1: to say you're beautiful? I told her straight up. And
Speaker 1: then she took her headphones out and said what Yeah.
Speaker 1: I had to repeat it again in front of everyone else.
Speaker 1: She really did she really have her headphones? And when
Speaker 1: you walked up there, did Yeah? I didn't notice until afterwards. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: well when you said it again, did she seem like
Speaker 1: she liked it? She did, she said thank you? So yeah,
Speaker 1: and then what happened? I mean, did you like ask
Speaker 1: for her number or what? Yeah? After some small talk,
Speaker 1: we exchanged not numbers at first, but instagrams okay, okay,
Speaker 1: because I noticed she was on her Instagram. And then
Speaker 1: we messaged each other back and forth for a while.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so you haven't been out on an official
Speaker 1: date with her yet at all? Not an official one. No,
Speaker 1: that day. We actually ended up hanging out a little
Speaker 1: bit afterwards after Starbucks. But yeah, nothing official. And how
Speaker 1: was that hanging out? It was fun? Yeah, like we
Speaker 1: went for a little walk. We went up to this
Speaker 1: little hill area that is a nice view, and I
Speaker 1: tried to kiss her. So what right after meeting her
Speaker 1: at Starbucks? Yeah? Yeah, I was feeling the vibe, so
Speaker 1: I just leaned in to kiss her. Whoao, bold, sir,
Speaker 1: very bold? Did you kiss her? Or did she run
Speaker 1: down the hill screaming? She didn't run down a hill screaming,
Speaker 1: but she did pull away. So yeah, the kiss never happened,
Speaker 1: and I felt horrible about it. What did she say?
Speaker 1: She said, I don't kiss on first dates, right or
Speaker 1: like at lunchtime. I'm assuming it was daylight and there
Speaker 1: was no alcohol involved, and you'd only known each other
Speaker 1: for how long at this point, like a half hour? Yeah? So,
Speaker 1: oh yeah? Did she should have you know what? That
Speaker 1: that's very judgmental of her. That's she should have totally
Speaker 1: been looking out with you by then. You know, seriously,
Speaker 1: are you sure you want to even waste your time
Speaker 1: trying to go out with her again? So what happened
Speaker 1: after that? Then? Actually? Yeah, at the end, I tried
Speaker 1: to give her a hug. I said, do you do
Speaker 1: first date hugs? She said, yeah, so I we hugged,
Speaker 1: and then uh, okay we went our separate way after that.
Speaker 1: And you didn't do anything creepy during the hug? Mm Andy,
Speaker 1: be honest, like it wasn't like a little bit too
Speaker 1: long or your hands went south. Oh no, I mean
Speaker 1: I have done creepy stuff what hugs before? But no not,
Speaker 1: because you've probably learned. You've done enough creepy hugs over
Speaker 1: your lifetime that now you know what you should and
Speaker 1: shouldn't do during a hug. That's how I learned. Not
Speaker 1: the lick cheeks. What don't even ask, Andy, don't ask? Yeah, anyway, Andy,
Speaker 1: why do you think she's not calling you back? Then? No,
Speaker 1: actually she did call me. It did. Yeah, that's the
Speaker 1: weird part. She called and left the message the next day.
Speaker 1: What what'd she say on the message? She just said, Hey,
Speaker 1: it was great hanging out with you. We should hang
Speaker 1: out again. She did, okay, And so you got back
Speaker 1: to her, right, Like I tried to get back to her.
Speaker 1: I called her back and I left the message, and
Speaker 1: then the next day she texted me back, and then
Speaker 1: I texted her back and we you just haven't been
Speaker 1: able to like connect. It's really annoying. Well, but you said,
Speaker 1: now you think she's blowing you off? Why it sounds
Speaker 1: like you guys just are having a normal conversation. Well,
Speaker 1: I think she's blowing me off now because it's been
Speaker 1: like three days I haven't heard back from her, and
Speaker 1: so now I'm thinking maybe she didn't think the hug
Speaker 1: was creepy or something. Probably the kiss, No, maybe, yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a couple of options you could choose from. All Right, Well,
Speaker 1: we'll play a song, come back, and then call her
Speaker 1: and see if she is in fact blowing you off
Speaker 1: with your second day update. All right, okay, great, all right,
Speaker 1: hangs looking jubil in the Morning's right in the middle
Speaker 1: of a second date update, and if you're just joining us,
Speaker 1: Andy is on the phone, and today he wants to
Speaker 1: call a girl named Arianna. They didn't even have a
Speaker 1: real date. They met at a Starbucks and then ended
Speaker 1: up going for a walk. Oh and he tried to
Speaker 1: kiss her like thirty minutes after meeting her. That was
Speaker 1: also part of the date. And Andy, I think most
Speaker 1: people would definitely kiss you after meeting you, like more
Speaker 1: than ten minutes. So I don't even know why you
Speaker 1: want to call this weirdo. Are you sure you want
Speaker 1: to call her? She sounds strange to me. No, she's not.
Speaker 1: She's not weird. She's really cool. And hopefully she'll kiss
Speaker 1: me on the second day. Okay, don't push it, Andy,
Speaker 1: all right, you already push it on the first day.
Speaker 1: To Andy, I won't promise. And I would normally think
Speaker 1: it was the kiss or the weird hug, but she
Speaker 1: actually called you and wanted to hang out. And it's
Speaker 1: just you guys haven't been able to connect. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: It's like she was calling me. I was calling her.
Speaker 1: We texted back and forth, and then it's like she
Speaker 1: just disappeared off the face of the planet. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: it's three whole day. Yeah, I feel like we're too
Speaker 1: connected in this world anymore like three days and it
Speaker 1: really does feel like someone just like is dead. Yeah.
Speaker 1: If someone doesn't respond to a text message within an hour,
Speaker 1: that's like a week. Right back in the early nineteen hundreds,
Speaker 1: that would be a week. All right, Andy, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: dial her phone of her right now, you're ready, let's
Speaker 1: do this. Get her on the phone. I want to
Speaker 1: find out what's going on. Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Ariana? Yeah, this is hurt. Hey,
Speaker 1: how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewel
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Who is that? Who are you? Jewil?
Speaker 1: I host a radio show. It's called Brooke and Jewel
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Um. Okay, you've clearly been a fan
Speaker 1: for a long time, and I thank you for that. Arianna. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I've never heard of it. Yeah, yeah, that was my
Speaker 1: my point. I could understand that you hadn't heard it before.
Speaker 1: I'm calling you today because one of our listeners actually
Speaker 1: sent us an email about you. Oh, wait, can you
Speaker 1: get to the point, because I'm love to His name
Speaker 1: is Andy, and you guys met at a coffee shop recently.
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's not happening. That was a quick no, Arianna. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you mean, I'm not interested in guys that
Speaker 1: play games? You're not didn't guys that play games like
Speaker 1: board games. I don't like people to play board games either,
Speaker 1: So I'm on your side there. Yeah. No, Um what
Speaker 1: did uh? I guess? Like? What did his email say?
Speaker 1: All good things? He said that he really liked meeting
Speaker 1: you and that you guys are trying to plan a date,
Speaker 1: but you disappeared and he hasn't heard from you in
Speaker 1: three days. Oh. He also said he tried to kiss you, like,
Speaker 1: which we thought was like bold. Yeah, yeah it was bold. Um,
Speaker 1: but um, he's breadcrumbing me. So yeah, wait, remind me again.
Speaker 1: Bread crumbing What does that mean? Like he's you know,
Speaker 1: he's stringing me along, Like he's sending me texts and calls.
Speaker 1: They're like, you know, they're nice and everything, but like
Speaker 1: he's not trying to make solid plans with me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, of course he is. He contacted us to
Speaker 1: get a hold of you, so that you guys could
Speaker 1: get together. I don't know about that. The messages like that,
Speaker 1: he's been leaving me like he's just returning my calls.
Speaker 1: It's like he's an answering service. Okay, so he told us, well,
Speaker 1: we talked to him a little bit to ask him
Speaker 1: about meeting you. He said that you guys have been
Speaker 1: kind of playing phone tag or whatever. Yeah, but phone
Speaker 1: tag is like when you like care about someone, you
Speaker 1: try to get hold of him. Like, he's obviously breadcrumming me,
Speaker 1: and so I'm just going to ghost him. So he's
Speaker 1: breadcrumbing and now you're ghosting? Yeah what I mean? Maybe
Speaker 1: he's just waiting until you guys can actually talk on
Speaker 1: the phone and make a plan. I mean maybe he was,
Speaker 1: but obviously we're both busy. So if we're texting in
Speaker 1: like texts, that's how people make plans. Okay, So you
Speaker 1: think that he's breadcrumbing you because he hasn't tried to
Speaker 1: make official plans yet. Yeah, he's just being nice, but
Speaker 1: he's not like doing anything about it. And I keep
Speaker 1: I keep saying when do you want to hang out?
Speaker 1: When are you free? And he doesn't answer me. What Okay,
Speaker 1: what does he say? In return, like how's your day?
Speaker 1: You know, it goes he doesn't message me for hours
Speaker 1: and then just kind of ignores it and it's like
Speaker 1: how are you, how's your day? Which is nice, but
Speaker 1: like he didn't answer my question about when he was free. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're like scroll up in the text threat man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like he's in breadcuming me for a while, but now
Speaker 1: he's zombiing me. So I'm just over it. Zombiing you?
Speaker 1: What's that one? Which one? Yeah? I don't know which
Speaker 1: one that is? What does that mean? If someone ghost
Speaker 1: to you and then they like come back from the dead,
Speaker 1: you know, like they're zombing you. Okay, okay, So I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna clear it up real quick. So at first
Speaker 1: you felt like he was breadcrumbing you, and then you
Speaker 1: ghosted him, and then you felt like maybe he ghosted you.
Speaker 1: But now he's zombiing you, and you guys, he's using
Speaker 1: you to zombie me. Yeah, that's so I don't know what. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know what you call this part. You probably
Speaker 1: have a word for it. But he's also on the
Speaker 1: other line listening and wants to talk to you right now.
Speaker 1: I don't know what, Like resurrecting. Maybe that's resurrecting. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know what that would be called. He's not
Speaker 1: really on the phone right now. This is an eighth
Speaker 1: grade Yeah, no, he's on the other line listening and
Speaker 1: wants to talk to you. And yes, our show is
Speaker 1: actually more like sixth grade. But thanks for the Photocoffien.
Speaker 1: Hey I'm here, Arianna. How you doing? Oh my god?
Speaker 1: What is bread crumbing? By the way, I don't even
Speaker 1: know what's me. I was just trying to reach out
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, you weren't like actually making solid plans
Speaker 1: with me or anything, so I just decided to bench you.
Speaker 1: You know what, everyone gets that one. I want to
Speaker 1: hang out with you, Arina. It sounds like you have
Speaker 1: a term for everything. Yeah, benched me. What does that
Speaker 1: even mean? I mean, it's pretty obvious. I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: out do whatever I want, and I'm gonna have you
Speaker 1: sit on the sideline because you need to make a move.
Speaker 1: I'm playing well in the game, so like I gotta
Speaker 1: put you on the bench. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: What I've been playing good. I texted you, I called you.
Speaker 1: I just we haven't been able to make a connection.
Speaker 1: Why are you benching me. He sounds so sad, Arianna.
Speaker 1: He shouldn't sound sad like he zombied me. I mean
Speaker 1: zombing brad Crow. I had to write those rooms down before.
Speaker 1: I never even heard of all. But I mean, can't
Speaker 1: we just like talk in English? I mean, but those
Speaker 1: are all English words. But Arianna, I mean, here's here's
Speaker 1: the thing. When you're using all those terms and you're
Speaker 1: like labeling everything that he does in a different way,
Speaker 1: it almost sounds like you're the one playing the game,
Speaker 1: not him. I am not playing games. He's the one
Speaker 1: who is playing games. I've already explained everything that he's
Speaker 1: done to me, like I'm the victim here, like I'm
Speaker 1: benching him. Yeah, I feel like you know all the
Speaker 1: terms and you've played this game for a long time now, Arianna,
Speaker 1: So you know when somebody's playing a game on you, Andy,
Speaker 1: why would you breadcrum her like that? I was not
Speaker 1: I don't know what that means, but well whatever, Zombie Andy,
Speaker 1: like to your defense, listen, An, he directly told you
Speaker 1: that you're beautiful in a Starbucks. Like that's really direct.
Speaker 1: He tried to kiss you thirty minutes into the day.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, how much more can he say? Like
Speaker 1: I am into you. I don't know what else I
Speaker 1: need to say, Like I've already told you guys everything,
Speaker 1: Like what else am I supposed to say? I don't understand. Well,
Speaker 1: someone just please explained to her that I like her
Speaker 1: and I want to go on another date and I
Speaker 1: want to be or whatever. I'll do that for you Andy, Arianna,
Speaker 1: would you go on a second date with Andy? We
Speaker 1: will pay for it. He does want to go out
Speaker 1: with you again. He's not throwing breadcrumbs in your face.
Speaker 1: He'll name a time and place immediately, yes, and we'll
Speaker 1: pay for it. Actually, I don't have an exact time
Speaker 1: or place right now, but i'll text you later for sure.
Speaker 1: There you go, Arianna, what do you say? One more date?
Speaker 1: We'll pay for it. Do you see what I'm dealing with? Okay? Hi?
Speaker 1: Actually I mean this whole time, I've been against you,
Speaker 1: but I kind of get it now, Arianna, Like, just
Speaker 1: set a date like I we're not getting married, like
Speaker 1: I know, I want it to be special. I have
Speaker 1: to think about it. Yeah, that's frustrating. No, I'm with her.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is all happening. You just shat it
Speaker 1: right now I can't take something off top of my head,
Speaker 1: but I will have fun. Trust me, trust me, you know.
Speaker 1: And Andy, like, you're officially bench right now. If I'm
Speaker 1: interested later, like I'll text you, oh man, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: so you're saying, Arianna, if you zombie him, then you're
Speaker 1: okay going out again? Yeah? Andy, I'm gho seeing you
Speaker 1: right now. And if I decided to talk to you,
Speaker 1: you know, zombie you. Okay, I'm so confused right now,
Speaker 1: what's happening? I mean, sorry you didn't get a second
Speaker 1: date though, Andy, and I think we need to be
Speaker 1: officially done because I need to go to Erman dictionary
Speaker 1: right now and figure out what the hell just happened.
Speaker 1: In the text in at seven eight five nine two
Speaker 1: says I don't really know what happened with that second
Speaker 1: date update, but at least now I know what breadcrumbing, zombiing,
Speaker 1: and resurrecting is in dating terminology. If you missed it,
Speaker 1: Alex wanted to call Arianna. She wasn't calling him back.
Speaker 1: They're playing phone tag. She would go away then come
Speaker 1: back and everything else. We got her on the phone.
Speaker 1: She said that Alex was breadcrumbing her. Yeah, like saying
Speaker 1: he was gonna make plans but never making plans. And
Speaker 1: then she went away and then came back and apparently
Speaker 1: that's zombiing. And there was a whole lot of words
Speaker 1: that she used. She's been reading too many blogs about
Speaker 1: dating online, but they is she was spot on with
Speaker 1: his behavior. I mean because at the very end, he's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd love to take you out. I'm not sure when,
Speaker 1: but yeah, I think it's going to happen. So he
Speaker 1: was still doing it. They agreed to not go out,
Speaker 1: maybe because she said she might zombie him at some point,
Speaker 1: I means bring him back with all these terms, like
Speaker 1: if you tell someone you're dating nowadays, they're like, what
Speaker 1: is dating? Yeah, I don't know what that means. Are
Speaker 1: you zombing? Are you breadcrumbing? Or don't know? We're just dating? What? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are we shale? What is that? That one sounds fun? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why not? Remember? If you want a second date update,
Speaker 1: all you have to do is email the show and
Speaker 1: we will call the person who breadcrumbed you or zombie
Speaker 1: do you or just didn't call you back