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Speaker 1: Am I the asshole for giving my inheritance to my

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Speaker 1: brother because my grandparents.

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Speaker 2: Won't claim him? Damn? What? What? What's what's going on there? Why?

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Speaker 2: Why are the grandparents like not if he didn't give

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Speaker 2: him enough Worthers candy?

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Speaker 1: Do you know that tin that all the grandparents have

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Speaker 1: that they put their like sewing needles in, But it's

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Speaker 1: like it's actually like cookies, right right right? Little Jimmy

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Speaker 1: that is a something that's unforgivable.

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Speaker 2: That would be quite a grudge that a grown adult

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Speaker 2: is like, hey, you stole a tin of cookies as

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Speaker 2: a child, so I will give you no money in

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Speaker 2: your inherited nothing forever. You stole my uh uh uh? Fun?

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Speaker 2: What are those?

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Speaker 1: What are the red little candies that are wrapped up?

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Speaker 1: It's like they're like the strawberry ones are Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: there is a strawberry ones. But I'm thinking about the

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Speaker 1: ones that are like caramels and they're rapped.

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Speaker 2: I think those are the worthers, right, yeah, the worthers?

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Speaker 2: Am I Do you remember any of those? Yeah? I

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Speaker 2: hated those things. All the old ladies at churches would

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Speaker 2: have them hated those things, But can you go? I

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Speaker 2: would suck on old people's candies so hard. That sounds

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Speaker 2: so wrong. That was me. Yeah. Do you want to

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Speaker 2: try these orders that I got right here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, but Grandpa aren't worders usually yellow.

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Speaker 2: These are wrinkly and hairy. Jesus Christ. At least make

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Speaker 2: him not my grandfather, like old person or something some

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Speaker 2: nut good gravy. That was the most disturbing, decent nuts

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Speaker 1: All right, So I twenty mail, got the largest share

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Speaker 1: of inheritance from my grandparents trust, who declared me. There

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Speaker 1: something so weird about being declared an air.

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Speaker 2: Declared an air? You are yah?

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Speaker 1: I declared the air out of the OPI fortune, the

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Speaker 2: How do you plead? How do you plead money please?

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Speaker 2: I plead money please.

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Speaker 1: The rest of my family got some inheritance also, but

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Speaker 1: The money is basically untouchable for me until I become

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Speaker 1: my father's affair. Three years ago, his mother died and

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Speaker 1: little love for real. My parents have offered to sign

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Speaker 2: Br is so fucked bruh. That is so fucked wow.

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Speaker 1: I refused because I figure I will be able to

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Speaker 1: which I guess makes you because you can hire good lawyers.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense, and raising a kid is expensive.

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Speaker 2: You could also save him now by just letting op

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and also, how is he going to raise the

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Speaker 1: CPS is basically a joke here. They also warned him

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Speaker 1: Had to be twenty two also, or I could get married.

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Speaker 1: As some of you pointed out, this was much more

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Speaker 1: immediately achievable. I explained the situation to my girlfriend. Hmmmm,

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Speaker 1: Some of you had also suggested documenting my relatives behavior

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Speaker 2: Unfortunately, they were careful not to.

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Speaker 1: Her career plans involve a lot of international travel where

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to the girlfriend though for for being down

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she really helped out the kids. Yeah, and got

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Speaker 1: he Wow. Damn, I feel like there's so many things.

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Speaker 2: To do all the right things. Op is the MVP

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Speaker 1: I'm still in touch with my baldy girlfriend. Though we

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Speaker 2: Other day, that's true, Riley says, Aw, yeah, she's pretty cool.

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Speaker 2: See on the next one, see mother in law wants

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Speaker 2: to abduct my terminally ill daughter, but I wanted to

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Speaker 1: I mean it depends like are you are you like

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Speaker 1: you don't get to kill my baby.

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Speaker 2: I get to kill my baby. Bro. This mother in

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Speaker 2: law abductions going on like its mother in law is

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Speaker 1: Dudelaw an alien alien, Yeah from outer space, a great uf.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. We need to make a soundboard of our collective noises.

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Speaker 2: We got to make this happen. Remember, I have an

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Speaker 2: almost three year old beautiful girl.

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Speaker 1: She's just a few weeks almost applying to like three

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Speaker 2: I have a daughter who would be gorgeous, but you know,

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Speaker 2: she's just not quite there, so I guess she's kind

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Speaker 2: She my daughter, is just a few weeks shy of

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Speaker 2: I can't, Like that's the only thing you can be

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Speaker 1: Where do you, like, I don't know, like how do

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Speaker 2: as possible. Totally makes sense. My mother in law, My

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Speaker 1: I what how it makes that make sense? Like your

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Speaker 2: Why would they agree to that? Why doesn't make any sense?

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Speaker 2: No sense whatsoever. My daughter isn't even three yet, she

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Speaker 2: But the attaching a third optic nerve bro, the logistical

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Speaker 2: I suggested that my husband and I both go that way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't even make sense, dude, it doesn't even

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Speaker 2: It's one thing if it's like, you know, oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: The country, just like what are you doing? No, I suggested,

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Speaker 2: with various suggestions, all of which which is a great idea,

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Speaker 2: That is a great compromise, That is a fantastic compromise.

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Speaker 2: All of my suggestions turned down. Dude, how how dare

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Speaker 1: How is how is this mother in law like that

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Speaker 1: That's such a good point, too, Yes, it absolutely is.

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Speaker 2: Situation exactly real, exactly. I told my mother in law

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Speaker 2: What is this mother in law doing, dude? Just why? Why? Like? What?

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Speaker 2: What could you possibly why? Why on earth would you

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Speaker 2: What rights? What rights do you have? Got? No rights? Bro?

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to have any kids yry about.

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Speaker 2: This situation now. I am already grieving. My husband said

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Speaker 2: What that's crazy, bro? What even though he also agrees

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Speaker 1: Like OPI does not need any more reasons than I

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Speaker 2: I want to know what's going through the mother in

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Speaker 2: law's mind, like I I will say, like I don't

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Speaker 2: good for her to probably see the baby act. They

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Speaker 2: don't take it away, don't take it away from the parents,

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Speaker 2: especially like if you care about this child, you would

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Speaker 1: Would I seems like this is put this situation is

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Speaker 2: You're canceled, canceled