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Speaker 2: Week with Morgan number two. All right, it is time

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Speaker 2: for listener Q and A. We're gonna do a little

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Speaker 2: rapid fire here here we go.

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Speaker 3: Think we can do a rapid fire, I'm gonna try.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so we're gonna just gonna start off

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Speaker 1: super easy before we dive into some of the more

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Speaker 1: serious questions. Okay, fair favorite place to eat and thing

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Speaker 1: to do in college station where you went to college?

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Speaker 3: Oh, I love free Birds that I feel. Freebirds is

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Speaker 1: Now I think it's a chain, not like a huge chance.

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Speaker 3: But I started in college station. Okay, so I think

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Speaker 3: the very first Freebirds is there. So like, if I

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Speaker 3: had to go back, I would go get a free

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Speaker 3: Birds burrito. Oh, they have their barbecue sauce is so good. Okay,

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Speaker 3: this is rapid fire and favorite thing to do. Gosh,

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Speaker 3: I don't know if it's even the same, but god,

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Speaker 3: what was the name of this We would go to

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Speaker 3: this dance hall and now I can't even remember the

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Speaker 3: name of it, but it was so fun.

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Speaker 1: Hair I'll look up some and see if it's Stiller.

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Speaker 3: I mean the Dixie Chicken. Is a classic called Dixie Chicken. No, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm saying it's a classic place to go.

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Speaker 1: I know. Is it called Dixie Chicken? Oh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Okay, the Dixie Chicken? Uh? Is Westgate still a thing?

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Speaker 3: We would go karaokeing all the time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, some that popped up Shiner Park. Hurricane Harry.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 3: That's it, Hurricane Harry.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's still there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's that's a fun recommendation.

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Speaker 1: Hurricane Harry is while you're eating your free Birds burrito. Sure,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, what are we dressing up for us on Halloween?

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Speaker 2: Are you going to try and do something with a kid?

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Speaker 3: I am gonna Okay, I go trick or treating and stuff.

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Speaker 1: Love a onesie though they're so comfy. It's comfy and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we ordered Stevenson's costume this week and he's like

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Speaker 3: She's sixteen now, Okay, so she's really I could, but

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Speaker 3: she doesn't. She doesn't want to.

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Speaker 2: That's fair. You get to that point too.

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Speaker 1: Does she have like school Halloween party or like her

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Speaker 1: Okay, I wouldn't say she because she loves scary.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that Scuba made me go through and I had

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Speaker 1: but I feel like Sashia will love she scary stuff. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: and if you do, go go find Yuck Yuck.

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Speaker 2: His name's Yuck Yuck the Clown.

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Speaker 3: No, And also it's not gonna affect me either way.

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Speaker 1: I just genuinely think they're just casually dating and they're

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Speaker 1: Five year goals for us it's a hard one because

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Speaker 3: Well, he's from my dad's first marriage and my mom

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Speaker 3: We would all be there for each other in the

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Speaker 3: We do have a family group text. It's titled Dad

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Speaker 1: Takes you have to get into it then experience.

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Speaker 3: our checklist of what the transition will look like. So

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Speaker 3: I would say, and both of us are. I mentioned

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Speaker 3: it earlier, there's emotions that come with when we get

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Speaker 3: the kids and when we don't have them and we're

444
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Speaker 3: high and we're not our highest selves. So I think

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Speaker 3: those are the hardest days for us. Like if we've

446
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Speaker 3: had a hiccup and kind of really had moments it

447
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Speaker 3: has been on transition day, okay, but not in front

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Speaker 3: of the kids.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like it's kind of getting to a

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Speaker 1: point too where it feels like a little transactional which

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Speaker 1: is hard, Like it's no, oh, talk enough, We're no,

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Speaker 1: I've been just like.

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Speaker 2: The acts of you guys trading off the kids kind

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Speaker 2: of thing.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think we're getting better at more efficient

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Speaker 3: in a way, but we try to be respectful of

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Speaker 3: the process and knowing what it's like and being sensitive

458
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Speaker 3: to that. But then the hiccups still come. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: nothing feels I could I think I would feel that

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Speaker 3: way if we didn't have a good relationship. It would

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Speaker 3: feel very this is business matter. If transaction just happened,

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Speaker 3: thank you, But it's it's more of like we we

463
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Speaker 3: know what it feels like. We have real feelings around this,

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Speaker 3: and we're sensitive to that. And that is when we're

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Speaker 3: in a healthy place. I will say, when we're heightened,

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Speaker 3: if something happens, if a hiccup happens, we may react

467
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Speaker 3: to it instead of respond, but we both are trying

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Speaker 3: to get better of like pausing and let's take time

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Speaker 3: to respond to this. Scheduling. Scheduling is hard because you

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Speaker 3: can have a calendar all you want, things come up

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Speaker 3: or travel or this or that, and you know, Thanksgiving

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Speaker 3: we're going to go on vacation and spend it with

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Speaker 3: my sister. But wouldn't you know the week of Thanksgiving

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Speaker 3: the way it all adds up, because Thanksgiving is a

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Speaker 3: weird time. It's like, shoot, that wasn't really my week,

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Speaker 3: but now I'm going to take them for a week,

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Speaker 3: so somehow we have to figure that out, and then

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Speaker 3: that throws crystal. So there are transition days and scheduling. Okay, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to be rapid fire. No.

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Speaker 1: It's also good though at the same time, so I

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Speaker 1: know people are experiencing the same thing.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I know a lot of people are, and they

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Speaker 3: hit me up and I just think that, gosh, you

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Speaker 3: communication having a plan and then being having grace for

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Speaker 3: the other person knowing that their emotions might be one way,

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Speaker 3: And that's if you're trying to have a healthy co

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Speaker 3: parenting relationship. I really feel for people that are not

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Speaker 3: in a similar situation because I can't imagine it, like

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Speaker 3: if I was acting a certain way or BIM was

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Speaker 3: acting a certain way consistently, and it wasn't just like

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Speaker 3: a bad day sort of thing. It's just what I

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Speaker 3: was dealing with it. And I have friends that actually

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Speaker 3: are dealing with that, and it is I can't even imagine,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't even I don't even know what I

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Speaker 3: would do. They handle it with they handle it, handle

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Speaker 3: it well, And that would be my suggestion. You just

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Speaker 3: have to take care of you. Don't go to their

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Speaker 3: level and do your best and then hope that maybe

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Speaker 3: they'll turn around.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I think that's really good. You shared it,

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Speaker 1: so thank you for talking about it. We will do

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Speaker 1: our very last question here because you also there was

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Speaker 1: another question here that was how do you get through

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Speaker 1: awkward moments with your ex husband? But I feel like

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Speaker 1: you just answered that along with that, like, yeahs communicate

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Speaker 1: and you're very efficient and.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and neither one of us is. Like we

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Speaker 3: had a moment on a call the other day actually

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Speaker 3: about the calendar and it was sort of like, hey,

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Speaker 3: we'd actually been talking about it for five minutes, and

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Speaker 3: then we realized it probably wasn't the best time to

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Speaker 3: be talking about it, because I don't think he had

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Speaker 3: his calendar out or he wasn't even able to look

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Speaker 3: at it, and I was and you really have to

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Speaker 3: have eyes on because you're trying to figure out something,

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Speaker 3: and I just said, oh, this is probably not a

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Speaker 3: good time to talk about it. He's like, yeah, no,

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Speaker 3: it's really not. And I was like, okay, i'll talk

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Speaker 3: to you later bye, and we hang up. It's like, okay, cool,

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Speaker 3: we're going to talk about that later. And it's just

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Speaker 3: picking up on the the hints or paying attention to like, hmmm,

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Speaker 3: is this really the best time? And then if it's not,

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Speaker 3: then press pause, move on, find a better time, because

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Speaker 3: then you're wasting yeah time for sure.

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Speaker 1: Well we'll put on our kind of last little little

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Speaker 1: question here again. We're back to our little bow. We

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Speaker 1: got put bows on thing.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we'll put a bow.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 3: Do you have a type?

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Speaker 2: Do you feel like as you as you start to.

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Speaker 1: Exploriating, uh, months from now, do you feel.

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Speaker 2: Like kick off?

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Speaker 1: Kevin?

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Speaker 3: Do I have type? I? Do I have a type?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's too hard to. I feel like it's too hard to.

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Speaker 2: You don't know.

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Speaker 3: Because I haven't dated, so we don't know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, do you feel like I have a type? We'll

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Speaker 2: turn it on me.

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Speaker 3: No, because your last two boyfriends, I feel like we're

543
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Speaker 3: very different looking wise. At least maybe they're personalities a

544
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Speaker 3: little bit the same, let's not avoid that, but their

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Speaker 3: looks were very different. So I don't I So, hmm,

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Speaker 3: I have a type. Yes, I've just figured it out.

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Speaker 3: You have a healthy in life, trying to at least

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Speaker 3: trying to be. I wouldn't say I'm I'm not at

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Speaker 3: the healthiest I'll ever be when it comes to my yeah,

550
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Speaker 3: my my ability to be a good partner to I

551
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Speaker 3: think I saw it once, like Tim Ferriss had an

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Speaker 3: interview with Brenee Brown and he was talking about his

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Speaker 3: relationship with his girlfriend, I think, and this is from

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Speaker 3: a few years ago, so no idea if that's still

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Speaker 3: their situation. But he was telling Brenee like he's like,

556
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Speaker 3: this relationship is awesome. He's like, my girlfriend, she fights clean,

557
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Speaker 3: and that stuck with me, and so I would like

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Speaker 3: to fight clean. I think we're all going to get

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Speaker 3: in fights and disagreements, and life is not perfect. Relationships

560
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Speaker 3: are not all butterflies and roses. But I want to

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Speaker 3: fight clean, and I would like to be with someone

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Speaker 3: that is putting in the work to also fight clean.

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Speaker 2: I like it.

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Speaker 3: So that is my type.

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Speaker 2: I had heard that before, but I like it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, that's fair, deep, fair goes deep, fair.

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Speaker 2: Fair thing to say deep the whole time.

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Speaker 3: That's my type.

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Speaker 2: I like it.

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Speaker 3: I do also clean.

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Speaker 2: I do think.

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Speaker 1: One of one of the things that's on my thing

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Speaker 1: is right, what did you say?

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Speaker 2: Did you say something dirty?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: I heard Kevin say his go wow, wait, that is

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Speaker 3: not to be clean, like to be have good hygiene.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, that's not dirty. I think Kevin took

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Speaker 1: a different way. I think Kevin took it a different way.

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Speaker 1: I think one of my pressure is like athletic in

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Speaker 1: shape fit, that's the thing for me. I think that

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Speaker 1: might be the consistency across the board if I look

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Speaker 1: at all of them, like I'm literally picturing all my exes,

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Speaker 1: which they also have consistently similar issues as far as

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Speaker 1: personality goes, but as far as looks, that might be

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Speaker 1: the one consistent thing. Yeah. And speaking of consistent, that

587
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Speaker 1: is something I look for in people, is consistency and

588
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Speaker 1: open mindedness. Those are two of my highest qualities that

589
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Speaker 1: I look for, which are very hard to find, believe

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Speaker 1: it or not.

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Speaker 3: I like that, Yeah, open minded part, because then you're

592
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Speaker 3: open to like, yeah, a lot of the stations, Yeah, techniques,

593
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Speaker 3: new ways to be different. You're evolving, you know, to

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Speaker 3: be stuiced. Doesn't have to be so black and white.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And people really like to see the world black

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Speaker 1: and white, and I like to see it in a

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Speaker 1: lot of colors.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So oh, I like to see the gray.

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Speaker 2: You like living in the gray area.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, I mean that's just how I see it.

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Speaker 3: But I could see the color thing. I just want

602
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Speaker 3: to I want to be more in the gray so that, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I have more room for things.

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Speaker 1: I think you were talking about the same thing, just

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Speaker 1: different colors. Yeah, yeah, I like that for us. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, we are done. Amy Share one more time

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Speaker 1: where they can find you.

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Speaker 3: I hope everyone's having the day they need to have.

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Speaker 1: That is that's a new one. That's kind of like

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Speaker 1: when I say, like I love that for you, where

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Speaker 1: it's like you're responding, but yeah, have the day you.

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Speaker 2: Need to have.

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Speaker 3: Like maybe it's like maybe if I say have a

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Speaker 3: great day and someone's not really having a great day.

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Speaker 3: They're like, well, that's not really my day right now.

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Speaker 3: Let's go, hey, have the day you need to have.

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Speaker 3: Process that be a Bison, Bye a Bison, goodbye everyone.

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